Where have i been? Viral wedding, separation, depression? 

My friend married a very toxic human yesterday. I mentioned pre- marital counseling & even offered to pay for them for 3 sessions but she did not take me up on the offer. They did not even do the counseling at her church. Why are ppl so averse to therapy? Engaged couples do not even sit with each other to communicate what their expectations & standards for a wife or husband is. Then they are surprised when they are disappointed that the person they married are nowhere near their expectations. I wish more churches will not marry you until you have counseling. Maybe then we will have less divorces & more christ centre marriages.

Good to have you back Cassie! 🌻 Thank you for sharing with us. So, In Nigeria where I'm from and currently reside, whenever anyone travells by road to a new state, there is usually a welcome signboard saying "Welcome to Abuja" but of all 36 states, Lagos is the only state that has a welcome sign that says "This is Lagos" and that is because if you can make it here, go through the stress and all, you can make it in anywhere in the world. and I think your story is similar to Lagos. I would like to suggest a new name for your chanel - "This Is Cassie" because it embodies everything you currently overcame and willing to share Cheers!

Not sure why you ended up in my algorithm but appreciate your transparency. Marriage certainly isn’t easy and complicated but with mental health struggles and traumas. Blessings to you.

Glad to have you back Cassie! I love your honesty and transparency. So few people share the ‘real deal’ of what happens in life so that when you go through it, you feel alone. Thank you for sharing. I can identify on so many levels: separation, grief, depression, reinventing oneself, changing as an adult. Anyway I look forward to journeying with you!

So excited you’re back. I’ve always loved how real and transparent you are. Looking forward to going on this journey with you, and learning and growing myself along the way ❤❤

Thank you so much for being honest, vulnerable and transparent you did not need to share all of this with us. As someone who has ADHD and dyspraxia and got my official ADHD diagnosis in the last year at 30 years old I totally relate to everything you are saying. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) as part of ADHD is often not talked about enough, we as people with ADHD are often more sensitive to criticism or feelings of rejections cause through our lives with our ADHD we are more likely to experienced criticism I think I read something like 12 times as much then people without ADHD. We tend to be people pleaser more and because of that fear of rejection and our sensitivities it can become a self fulfilling prophecy. I can imagine then being with someone who is neurodivergent but who had many different characteristics and I am sure also trying to learn about himself it must of been hard balancing different personalities and emotions. Think it’s so important in any relationship to continue to learn about ourselves like you were saying I know I am constantly growing and evolving. I am so grateful for my recent ADHD a diagnosis cause it’s helped me learnt so much about my brain and myself. I would recommend in any relationship/marriage not only doing counselling together but also separately taking the time to learn yourself and why you do the things you do and where they come from. Look forward to more of your videos.

I just subscribed. So sorry to hear about all that you went through, God's got you, continue to trust Him and he will be your guide and guard. I found your channel this morning and just before I found you, I was pondering on whether to get therapy for childhood trauma as I was orphaned really young, early marriage, maltreatment, separation etc. Now I know what to do. Thank you for sharing.

This was so honest and raw and vulnerable. Thank you so much for sharing and providing honesty regarding your marriage. May God bless you x

I like to remember that healing isn't linear, and I appreciate the honesty and bravery you put into making this video. sending all the blessings your way 🙏🏽

I don’t know how I found your video, it showed up on my feed and checked it out. I’m sorry for what you went through. But your so strong for overcoming so much. I wish you all the best ❤️

What about 'Cass unlocked'

Lovely to see you again. Thank you for sharing and being humble, open and transparent. 👑❤️

When `I grow up I wanna be like Cass, Strong, Brave and Resilient. You are so amazing, thank you for sharing your story. Listening to you gives me hope and courage to keep pushing and fighting through my toughest fight thus far ❣

Thank you for having the strength and courage to speak. I pray you gain strength to minister again because your singing videos always kept me going. You are so strong & pray things continue to work out despite all the hurdles you have endured.

You were so so missed!! Thanks for the transparency!

sooo encouraged by your come back! we have been supporting you from the very start and we will continue to do so. So many people have gone through and are still going through similar battles and your content can really really help support many people!

OMG!!! My fellow Cass! You’ve been missed!😊 Thank you for returning to share your journey with us so far. Thank you for also committing to still have us with you throughout your growth journey! You’re a force to be reckoned with and God is on your side! 🙌🏾🙏🏾 So far, I like “Cass’ Castle” and “Cass’ Capsule” P.S. You look stunning! 😍 and I cut my hair like yours 4 years ago 😂🙈 Guess it’s a Cass thing 💇🏾‍♀️💁🏾‍♀️

Cassandra it is sooo8 good to see you, May God continue to Strengthen you and hope you have a healthy, healing from the situation, I watched you both all the time back in the day and loved your wedding video,and your daily vlog, good luck on this new adventure. 💜❤🖤👍🙏 peace and blessings

😮 so sorry to hear this and you’re right when trauma is not dealt with the right way.. I was following your channel wish you both total healing as yous move forward.

Saw this on Insta and had to run here! Love you Cass. Such an inspiration. 😘🥰😍

omg cass!! i love you so much and im so so proud of ya!!!

Sending you lots of love and light… you’ve have got this… God’s got you 💓

I needed to hear this. God bless you. Life has its ups and down and you’re living proof that you can come out the other side and look/be/feel amazing! ❤

I watched that interview and was so strengthened. Was going through the same. Just got divorced and grateful yt suggested this vid to me. New subbie here 🙋🏽‍♀️.

I really like her, so down to earth and relatable . I cannot wait to see you flourish in your new chapter babez:)

So glad your back!! ❤

This was so beautiful Cass, i’m so happy to have bumped into you today & very excited for this new RU-vid chapter 🙏🏾🤍👏🏾

Love your hair btw! Thanks for sharing your story . Your so brave , glad to see you Back

Aww welcome back Cas, we’ve always got an ear for you.. life will do what it does but it’s our responsibility to keep fighting another day. Proud of you and I’m here for LifeOfCas!

I can't even tell you how happy I am to see you back on RU-vid. As always thank you for your vulnerability, it's something I have always loved and appreciated about you. I can only begin to imagine what you've been feeling, I too feel like God has had me in a space of having to look at myself, take accountability aswell get to no me. When you experience traumatic times it becomes easy to identify as them, but Sis that is not who God called you to be. None of us are perfect, we will fail and fall several times over, all that matters is you get back up. Always praying for you Cass. Love and blessings 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍

Lovely to see you back on here! Sending you love & light 🙏🏾 God bless you.

Sorry for all you went through. Thank you for sharing. This one really hit home with me so thank you.

So glad you’re back Cas❤ can’t wait for your content

Welcome back, darling! We missed you 🤎 I'm glad you're in a better space now. Love to your fam!

OMG Beautiful 🤎🤎 So happy to see and hear from you !!!

So nice to see you back. I'm sorry you had to experience all of this stress and heartache. Don't watch my picture my son thinks it's funny to keep changing it (he's an aries) I've given up. But back to the point so happy to see you back. Love your hair you look beautiful and I wish you nothing but the best ❤️💕

Thanks for sharing this and showing your truth. God bless and help with full and complete healing. Praying for you.

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾So brave, love the reminder to yourself to remember the positive language re you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Well done!!!

You were good for each other, keep fighting and get back together

This was a beautiful video Cassie, honestly and ADHD is severely under diagnosed in black women/girls. A lot spend years “managing” until it hits a point and it’s overwhelming.

Beautiful lady. GOD'S GOT YOU

Your honestly such a light 🙏🏾

You seem so kind and sincere, wishing you guidance!

Greetings Maame… I’m seeing you first time on my fyp so happy to see you Precious💎 God bless you and family stay strong🥰🙏🏽 Love from London🇬🇧

Cassie you look glowing and beautiful now I'm gonna get my tea and watch.... missed you guuurl!!!

Love to see you back on RU-vid. Please feel free to post anything that you want. One thing I would always rate about this channel was the fact that the videos were always unique and genuine. So Yere post whatever you want. If you could talk about questions to ask during the dating phase that would be great. I think the point about trying to be perfect that you made is something I’m trying to consciously not do but I can’t lie it’s hard not to want everything to be perfect when you are a perfectionist. However, I’m learning to just do what I can, be genuine and just be free Because I know God sees my heart and my intentions even if the result doesn’t pan out how I want

A Queen and more 😍 The hair suits you.May God keep giving you strength Sis🤗🤗

Thank you for sharing your story! very inspiring

Thank you for this sis, May God make this easier for you. New subscriber 🙋‍♀️

Love and appreciate you sis!

Cassie Cassie Cassieeeeee....... what a beautiful soul u r. Thank you so much for ur transperancy and trusting us with ur story. It can only get better from here girl. God's got you. 😘😘😘😘😘

Cass you were on my mind the other day...so glad I see you today...

We missed you Kassandra I was asking myself because I saw your wedding when it went viral then you all went disappeared, it’s good to see you again I pray you and your family are well Sorry about what you have been going through, may the good lord continue to bless and protect you and your family 🙏🙏🙏🙏from your old subscriber 🥰🥰🥰

May God continue to heal you and hold your hand daily 🙏🏾 Thank you for your transparency 💗

Welcome back Cass ❤

I missed you...welcome back. You look so beautiful. Am proud of your growth and will be supporting uon ur new journey. You spoke facts with the mental health...thank u for speaking ur truth. ❤️❤️❤️

I love you 😍 and please just be strong 💪 you got this

Hey!! - Loved this video so much. The updates, the new hair, just everything 🎉 An idea for a name of the segment, something like..”Cass’sCapsule” - where you share parts of your world that you feel comfortable sharing. Motivational Monday could be intertwined somewhere….just suggestions. Thanks again. I defo missed your presence on here but I’m glad you’re back & better. Have a lovely weekend ❤

I missed you, Thank you for sharing your story

Missed you all. Very good talk.

Awww I’m so glad to see you back on RU-vid. I’ve always loved you and Karl’s pursuit to be your best self. Thank you for sharing your truth and your vulnerability. You encourage me to look at myself beneath the surface. P.s you just showing your everyday life/struggles and how to navigate that is so invaluable. Well done for being so brave ❤

Just a reminder we love you ! You are so brave and don't ever feel like your judged for any choice you've made or been through ! Even more importantly Jesus loves you and thank you for sharing your life back with us! Certainly missed you ❤

Missed you. Praise God!!!!

This was such a lovely video such a postive vibe and I look forward to watching more of your videos

You are to be very proud of yourself for having the strength to make the decision to end a marriage that was not going to meet your long term needs. You are going to be fine, grow and be successful in whatever you choose to do. You are a positive role model for other young black women to know marriage is good but it must be with the right partner not just for being married sake 🙏🏽

So happy to see you back on here. Must've been so hard to click on the upload button. I salute your courage and honesty. Love you loads sis 😍

❤❤ love you. You are amazing.

Awwwww... we missed you Cass, welcome back. The Lord will be your guide and shield in Jesus name.

You’re in my prayers🤗

I am glad that you are back. Sending a hug and all positive vibes. Wishing you the best.

I relate so much, it gets better!

Your hair looks fiyah 🔥 you look good girllllll

Missed u so much..hop everything is good ❤️❤️

We in the Black Community needs to start accessing and promoting the right interventions such as Therapy in a timely manner. Especially we parents of adult children. Our prayers should be backed with works. Even the Bible says so.

Really sorry to hear

So sorry to hear about your separation. Keep ya head up!

Wow I’m really sad you broke up with Karl I really loved your wedding video it looked like such good vibes and even your relationship looked like good vibes too. I love your honesty and thanks for being real and showing the reality of life which is ups as well as downs. May God, the ancestors and your mum always guide you and give you strength in life ❤

Thank you for sharing such amazing advice God bless you ❤

First time coming across your video, I just want to say you are beautiful. #KeepYourHeadUP!!!

Wow 🤯 this makes me sad. I found you guys though your wedding video. Watched your journey to motherhood. Then i never heard from you again. Until now ☹️. Praying that Peace and healing be will with you as you enter this new chapter Cassandra. If i may ask, how come all the videos ( before you went your separate ways ) are still up? 🤔

This can't have been easy for you cassandra. Can tell you're nervous but you've done amazing. Going through separation is hard but going through it with the whole world looking at you can't have been easy. Either way you look soo amazing and have done amazing. We are all so proud of you. You're also a brilliant mum and all I can say is don't feel the pressures of keeping up face or impressing. Take your time, heal and do what makes you happy. We are so proud of you and you have been gracious through it all. Well done mama x

Aaawww Cass I'm so sorry 😞 I've been thinking of you both, but just couldn't find you guys on RU-vid. I'm happy you are healing and some of what you have said I can relate to. I'm proud of you...everyday is a battle for me too but got to do it for the kids. Hang in there sis God will never leave or forsake his own.

Oh dear 🤔 I just came across your channel. We parents in the diaspora really need to start doing more to support our adult children.

So sorry that this is the outcome

I wish you all the best in this new process. New follower

Loved this video glad your back🙏🏽❤️ name ideas : ‘Cassie’s Thoughts’, ‘Cassie’s castle’, ‘Cassie’s talks’

Thank you so much for sharing ❤….would love more detail on the Cassandra syndrome/being in a relationship with someone on the spectrum please? Feel like a may have just ended with someone on the spectrum, so many things didn’t add up 😢

Can’t Lie You Guys Were My Favourite Couple! But God Knows Best… Blessings To You, Karl And Zion. But Separately Keep Your Head Up💯

Missed you 🌻🇯🇲

Really enjoyed this, podcast will be a great idea I am a mental health nurse and would def love to be part of it x

Def missed you

I followed you because of the other video and this is the first video I'm seeing on your channel. 🤷🏾 We have a similar story except I'm still married (suspected ASD/ADHD). Actually literally about to go to start ADHD screening right now, so I'll be back and watch the rest of this video later. Love & Light 💛✨

My Love ❤

Welcome back 🎉 a vid once a week maybe?

Good seeing you again ❤

LokkedIn LokkedIn LokkedIn ! ! ! I love you because of your shyness and simplicity, I love your innocent smile and the tenderness of your eyes .. I'm not good at English, but I could understand some of what you're saying, because your voice is so beautiful, I like your hairstyle very much, I hope you keep itAlways I wish you health and success, and that you live very happily with the man who deserves, appreciates and protects you. I love you, I love you as a person, a female, a friend and a sister. I apologize for this long comment, and I am honored to subscribe to your channel,

Cas unlocked. Perfect name

Welcome back! God bless you for your vulnerability and transparency. My church, Kingdom Full Tabernacle, is about to start a Marriage & Destiny Fast on Monday and I highly recommend you join. The focus of the fast is not on marriage but on returning to your first love-God-and bringing your life into alignment with His will. The prayer points are truly therapeutic and deliverance from rejection, fear, and many other things occur. Healing and growth take place. I participated in the fast for the first time in 2020, and my life hasn’t been the same. I felt led to share this with you, and I truly pray that you join the fast. God bless you, and may God strengthen you during this new journey.

❤️❤️ let’s go!

Woow,well done girl