Can we just talk about how unprofessional that nurse was? I agree 100% that middle school kids shouldn't be having sex but you were in LABOR. You needed support more than anything, and her snarky comments were not going to make your situation any better. Like the sarcastic comment about your pain! AHH! I can't even imagine why someone so unsympathetic would be a nurse.
Jess1900 Here's a hard reality in life: lots of nurses, police workers, educators, military personnel, prison guards and other people in the ranks of institutions like medicine, education, law enforcement and military are very power hungry people. Many people got into these sorts of institutionalized careers BECAUSE they are eager to be able to be in control of others and be in a position of power. So, these "types" the power hungry ones, actually get off on lording their perceived "authority" over those they see as subordinates. Everything is a power Trip to them. The absolute BEST way to deal with these types is not to tuck tail and ignore them, you must confront these bullies It is BETTER with these types to be direct and stand up to them quickly. OFTEN they will try to lord their power over you in a moment of weakness, like when you're in labor. They purposefully pick on ones who they feel won't be able to stand up to their abuse. I have noticed that if you are forcefully strong with them they will back down immediately. They only respect POWERFUL people so you have to show them that they're definitely dealing with a person of POWER. You made a really revealing statement when you said that this snarky little bitch nurse didn't dare talk to you like that with your mom or Andrew's mom in the room. That's because she realized she couldn't get away with that crap with two strong, grown up women in the room, so she went after her prey when she had you alone because she was a bully and ultimately all bullies are pansy ass little wusses. I hope you have learned in the future if someone is speaking with you and you're feeling disrespected you have the right to refuse their treatment in a hospital setting. Just tell them you are refusing their care and demanding a new provider One who can treat you with dignity and respect. Be calm, but be unyielding and firm. You have rights and unfortunately for these bitch nursing staff, you actually KNOW what those rights are and will exercise your rights at any given time. Boy, I wish I had been there, I would have put her in her place quick, fast, and in a hurry.
Emerald Rain me neither. I know everyone says this, but i was literally playing with barbies at like 11 and at 12 I was just playing, maybe with barbies, maybe with dolls, but never with a penis.
Reminds me of my nurse. I had great nurses until I was about to start pushing. My husband was sleeping and I asked her to wake him up for me. She said "no, this is your time". Like what... she left the room and I was trying to hit him with pillows and finally I got my mom to wake him up for me. Then he was standing by me when she came back in the room and she was trying so hard to get him to leave..... like telling him to go get a drink or something. It was so crazy. And she was annoying telling me to push when I wanted then being like "uhh you just had a contraction, you should've pushed". Like GIRL. How are you a labor and delivery nurse
Thank God for Andrew's mom! It's a shame how so many young mothers don't know their rights and get pushed around when it's THEIR baby, THEIR body and THEIR birth. God bless you and your family!
The nurse basically shaming you WHILE YOUR IN LABOR is definitely not okay you were already under a lot of pain and stress and she was just making it worse by being a snob 😒 sure you were young but while you are guving birth is not the time to have that conversation plus it is none of her business what yall did. 💗
Becoming a mother at 15/16 was so stressful. I can't even imagine how you did it girl. 👏 not promoting teen pregnancy because it was and probably will always be the hardest thing I've ever done but so much respect for you!
Wow! I must say you’re incredibly inspiring, to have only been 13 and did labor without an epidural especially and had an episiotomy and stood up for getting a natural birth despite them pushing for a csection!! That’s amazing! You’re amazing and incredibly inspiring! ♥️
I do believe that teen pregnancy is bad. But, on the other hand, you did it. You brought a new life into this world and I have much respect for that. I'm sure you're a great mom ❤
I love this video as it sounds so much like my first baby, i had him 20 days before my 14th birthday (so yes i ewas 13) he was going up for adoption but i changed my mind & kept him & it was one of the best decions of my life, i have 7 children now, youngest is 14 1/2 eldest is 28 , You have an amazing experience to tell & educate people on, well done for doing this video x
You are amazing, I can’t imagine how hard it was for you having a baby at 13, but you pushed on through and you seem so strong. I had my first at 19 and I can’t imagine doing that any younger. I’m now having my fourth at 27. You should be so proud of yourself.
Where you able to breastfeed? If you don’t mind me asking :) I got pregnant at 18, lost my baby at 19 and I felt like a child dealing with an adults situation. You were so strong and mature!! What a great mother you are 👏🏻👏🏻
Vacuum suction....im glad you had someone say no to a c section for you. Women have lost their right to birth how they want. Doctors want you in and out on their watch not yours it sucks but I'm glad someone said no for you :)
That's not actually true, it's dangerous for the infant to be in the birth canal for long periods of time because of oxygen loss, plus if they say you need an emergency c section... you don't really get a choice.
Courtney, the thing was he wasn’t dealing with low oxygen or a lowered heart rate or even fetal stress. I had no serious need for a c section, they just were trying to get it over with. If I needed an emergency c section my word of not wanting one wouldn’t have mattered, they would have done it. I understand by all means, if it needs to happen, it needs to happen. But I had a clear birth plan and last resort was a c section only if needed.
💙Keep posting- I’m sure a lot of us would love for u to make: a day in the life/ how it was adjusting the first 3months to a newborn (being 13yrs old) / & adjusting to 2 children (being 16/17 yrs old) / what happened when u finally moved to ur own place / showing pics throughout- etc 💙love ur vids U r an amazing example of a young momma stepping up & putting her children first🌹
It's an episiotomy, the cut they make. Anyways I just want to say that although you were too young to have sex and have a baby, you seem like an amazing young mother. It's very rare to see young girls have babies and actually take care of their responsibility and not pawn their baby off on their parents. You are still getting your education, working AND have your own place. I totally respect that! I can't wait to see more videos and you should do a video introducing your boys, they look very adorable in pictures 😊
A nurse tried to pressure me into not getting an epidural. Claiming I was only going to drug my child and that it was unsafe. When she left the room I told the second nurse to request she work with a different patient and she was gone like that.
Labour and delivery for your youngest son Day in the life 10 questions getting to know you 10 questions about each boy How you came up with their names and do you still love their names
Me and you are around the same age, and I can tell you are a very mature. I also appreciate how well you handled the comments in your last video. Btw love you hair & make up, and I hope all is well for you
Pitocin makes your contractions stronger. The reason they give it to you is to fit into the schedule of the doctor. It's normal to be in labor for 12 hours. Your body is made for it. I'm 23 and having my first in a few months.
Being so close to that age it’s scary to think about that. But after watching the whole video I now have so much respect for you and how you persevered. Hope u and your baby are doing well.
The same exact thing happened to my mom when she was 19 with her nurse. She was so rude but too scared to say anything and the nurse said the same exact thing your nurse said. I’m so sorry you even had to go through that!
A video on your current relationship with Andrew, labor and delivery story time for your 2nd child, also a video of what was in your hospital bag, and if you feel comfortable how did your teachers and fellow students react?
I'm studying to be a certified doula. If I ever work for a very young mother and hear a nurse disrespect them like that I'm going to kick her out of the room. That's completely unacceptable.
New subscriber, your awesome for sharing such a private and possibly embarrassing time (have a sis that was 14 and preg.) That stupid nurse btw, ugh... I wish you all the best for you and your family. Keep the vids coming.
Listen I’m a midwife and you should have been delivered by a mature midwife and I mean emotionally mature you did not deserve a horrid comment but just know she too is young and learning. Forgive and let it go. You will be a great mom I’m very sure that is not encouraging young girls but I have had women in their 40’s be really slack moms and girls of 16 be fantastic so just know you are really special and bless you from Africa xxxxxx actually you need to go to nursing school you are young and can do it and be an amazing midwife one day. You are beautiful xxxx
You should do vlogs with your kiddos! 💗 I’m a young mom too I got pregnant at 18 and gave birth at 19 and I had no choice but to have a c section :(( I stayed two nights at the hospital and I’m so thankful I had the best nurses ever!!! What your nurse said was so inappropriate & I think that as a nurse it’s your job to make your patient feel comfortable and stay positive no matter what your opinion is
Jessica Evans my point goes against abortion isn't illegal for a reason and plenty of kids need it to prevent harming an innocent child because they cannot take care of it so it's better to not have it then to torture the thing.
Your soo strong!! For being so young I'm 13 and cant imagine having a baby, let alone a boyfriend! And why where your neighbors yelling? I hope not at you.
Can you do a video on what it was like with school and being pregnant. If you went to public school while pregnant. And just explain your experience with it all and how other people your age reacted to the pregnancy
Girl 🤦🏾♀️ regardless of how old you were that nurse was OUT OF LINE !!! Ill be 21 when I have my first in April , and Im going into labor with the ‘fuck everyone who’s rude to me it’s about me and my daughter’ mentality. I will definitely request new nurses/doctors if their attitudes are shitty... no one deserves to experience that when they are already going through so much physically and emotionally
When I was 13, 8th grade I started dateing this boy I had a crush on throughout 7th grade. And after two months I had sex with him. And I missed my period. So you know where this is going, I got pregnant 🤰 My mom always said if I got pregnant she’d beat me before it would hurt the baby. And I’m completely against abortion. The thought of having my own baby was also exiting. But I hid it from my mom for a few months. Since I lived with my dad,who didn’t care, it was easy to hide morning sickness. But eventually I told my super strict mom who got mad at a B-. She practilly disowned me but got over it after a few weeks. Then she said no matter what you’re keeping that baby So this was earlier this year. Now I’m 6 months pregnant with a baby daddy who is supporting of our soon to be born baby girl 💕🎀🧬
I pushed for 3.5 hours. I was 26 yrs old. they only said c section after 3.5 hours but I finally got him out with a vacuum, forceps, and me pushing like crazy.
I’m sorry if I’m like suuuuuuuuper late, but how did you go through school at 13 without any of your teachers/classmates noticing? How often did you go to the infirmary?
Micah Bibb is say look on my Instagram but I think all the pictures are gone in all honesty, if anyone can find my twitter it's like shxn_jpg I don't use it like ever but there's some old pictures of us on there. But for what happened and is happening that's for a possibly far in the future video if things are okay then.
Lovely story. Well done to your thirteen year old self! I just wanted to comment to say the muscles you use to push in labour aren’t the same muscles you use to poop. Also you’d think being a doctor, having watched you pushed for two hours (can’t even imagine that) he might consider letting you stand up... American hospital births really get to me.
Im currently 25 weeks and 27 yrs old and im soo scared to go into labor.. i guess this is one of the reasons i waited so long to have a baby. U were so brave!.. u should do a vid on tips like the focus point and such. Xoxo
Girl, you will be fine. All the pain is not as bad as some people make out, breathe through your contractions, listen to calming music and just relax. I’m 27 and 22 weeks pregnant with my fourth child, honestly I am a huge wimp and I actually really enjoy labour. It’s so worth it to hold that beautiful baby at the end. Don’t think of them as pains or contractions, think of each one as a wave that is helping to open up and let your baby be born. All the luck and love in the world to you and your baby ❤️
Sammie Tinkz My last two labours I had 18 hours and then c-section, I hated the epidural I had last time, I found it worse than the actual labor. Strongly suggest taking the gas and air though, if I could have a tank at home I’d take it 😂👍🏼 it makes me woozy and a little bit drunk.
