To the first girl, no you haven't fallen for him. You are a naive 17-18 year old teenager who is getting consistently harassed by your teacher. Speak up and report him to the relevant authorities as well as explain everything to your parents honestly. Your teacher is trying to sexually harass and groom you into liking him somehow with all these actions, please please please report him and stay safe!
Teacher Student power dynamic wherein a teacher constantly abuses and exploits his position of authority and naive girls like her are manipulated into falling for her.
Crush on teacher Dear girl, firstly open yourself in front of your mother. Definitely, she will help you in a possible way. Secondly, identify co-ordinator in the school who is more polite and more active in students' issues. Talk to her/him with the support of your mother and friends and ask your co-ordinator not to disclose your friends' names. I hope it helps you. I was working in a reputed and well-known school as a co-ordinator. Trust me, there ll be a solution to your problem. Be brave, tell your mother everything.
WTF. The first question has literally made my blood boil. I was a university lecturer four almost 3 years. And as I went straight into it after completing my masters from the UK I was the youngest male faculty member. I do remember I was very boyish and it's natural that you like some of your beautiful students. I had two students over those three years who wrote me love letters etc. Each time I would call them into my office and explain to them that they are very good looking etc and it's not their fault that they feel this way. I explained to them concepts like Stockholm syndrome etc and told them how we used tp fall in love with teachers growing up. And how they will grow out of it. One of them is still a very good friend of mine as she is happily married and has her own children but contacts me often for advice. These were masters students. Fully grown adults and I wasn't married and I was 24 to 26 years of age. Parents trust teachers to take care of children. And that is the worst thing any teacher can do
I am a high school physics & calculus teacher in an international school. I teach grade 12 boys and girls. To teach girls, I have to go to the girls campus that means our school is not a mix school. As of being a real young teacher, there are a lot of female students hit on me but a teacher should always be a role modeled for their students and never get/give hints in these kind of activities. Specially, us male teachers have to set good examples for our future generation. Kids are kids and they act stupid, we are mature enough to understand this stupidity and we should handle these kind of students very well. But if the teacher is doing these kind of things then what image you are setting up for the students? If this teacher is frustrate over something then these kind of teachers should must be punished and get fired immediately.
May Allah give you strength to face these hurdles . Peer pressure is real its very common to have attraction towards opposite genders when u interact with them even as a young teacher but one should hold on to nafs , avoid giving unnecessary attention & keep asking for haddayah to Allah
i'm a pakistani american woman who religiously watches your videos to keep up with the life of my people in my homeland. i always agree with every point of yours and am proud to see someone at your level and privilege speaking for what is right. you are underrated and doing great work Junaid bhai, you always have my support
Question no. 1 - Crush Teacher The girl is basically very naive. It is because, we are being showed movies in which these creepy stuff is showed as romanticized and lovey-dovey thing. But in reality, it is a pathetic thing to do.
exactly, there are so many examples, films like ddlj, main hoon na, tere naam and stuff has put such a huge impact that this stuff has not only been generalized but people think that love operates that way. this is also the reason girls are harrassed on streets. they think that it is the only way to approach anyone
Man i swear to God, i’d pay some real bucks to actually listen to an uncensored version in which you can actually speak your heart out without having to be politically correct. It’s a shame that we can’t just for the sake of this society.
I am fine by exposing but you never know if the matter gets serious the girl would need to be involved which she would not want as why should she reveal her identity for something she did not do.
Advice to first girl no matter if you're attracted to him or not anymore just never be alone in a Class or in a office with him always have a friend with you things could go wrong and you might regret in future
I think this can be a solution. Both boys and girls ask their parents to meet any family they see for a relationship. But first, have a meeting. The boy should go to the girl's house or wherever they want to have the meetup. The girl's parents will also be there. Both can also interview each other.
I read somewhere that this kind of behaviour where an individual sometimes gives you attention and suddenly he's not the same person the next moment ... this kind of behaviour is the most effective manipulation method and is the most easy way to get someone attention
Junaid bhai...sorry for the long comment ahead but i want to share...I completely agree with u. I also encountered the similar situation in my student life while doing A LEVELS. My tuition teacher when hired just near to exams convinced my mom ( my dad was in US at that time) that he only gives tuition in night time n stays at students home till morning. Upon asking he said he belongs to Bhutto family n have so many enemies out there because of family clashes. My mom used to stay awake in night. On the last night before the exam my mom was in the washroom and I was unaware of that as I was busy solving a physics problem. That so called teacher just tried to make an attempt like grabed my hand n tried to pull me but I managed holding the table. When he saw he failed he suddenly came near to me try to kiss but I managed to rush out of the room and ran towards my mom's room where I found she was in the washroom. I whole incident took 5 minutes hardly but I was so much traumatised by that incident. That shamless creep even laughed n said in little voice that he makes physical relations with All his female students so how I'm going to escape from him. I forgot everything that I learnt n had the exam next morning. I told my mom that I'm so tired tell the teacher to go but he insisted to stay at our place as he only travelled by public transport only. I tell u Junaid bhai I was so traumatised that I couldn't perform in any paper after that n failed badly in all subjects in that session and it took me a long time to forget that horrible incident.
Inform your father about this incident. You can hire female teachers from academy for tution. I am surprised that you and your mother are so naive that your mother allowed a male na meharam teacher to spend the night at home. Report the tution academy management about this incident.
these kids are not taught on how to perceive your teacher. A teacher is like a father or mother who stops you spoiling. For sure no one can have a crush on father/mother
To share flip side experience during my uni times i was teaching to city school kids at home 20 years now, one of girl was in 7 grade she was growing and used to do stuff not acceptable like touching me for no reason, asking me to pinch her or slap her face etc. it was unacceptable so what i did first thing i ask her mother to not close room where i was giving kids education so that their is an element of sneak view. rest assured i had to control to exploit child, not sure what was her family background environment or in school. Agreed its an adult responsibility to ensure compliance and being father i can understand situation.
The first girl is at a very delicate age. That age is just so wierd and I totally get why she thinks she is falling for that horrible older man. Please tell your parents and authorities. Also get a good group of friends who will not leave you when things get tough. Just know that he is a horrible person. The person who is not loyal to his wife and children will never ever be serious about you
The first question should be titled "I am being harassed by my teacher". She doesn't have a crush on him, he's just been partially successful at grooming her with all the love bombing and possessiveness. It's not a crush, she's started to equate her value and desirability with his harassment, if he's not harassing her she feels devalued, classic grooming.
The girls psychology is damaged, it's from childhood, she doesn't know how to read red flags she doesnt have critical thinking developed, if this girl doesn't work on herself, healing her trauma which is causing her to have a crush on her teacher, she can get into similar situations after this one where she will not detect red flags...its dangerous
last question ka simple answer, simple yeh Pakistan mein dance clubs, bars type bana do non-alcoholic hi bana do at least wahan simple sittings hun yahan jo chai wagera k new setup hain wahan bhi segregation hai ajeeb qism ka scene hai, wahan simple games wagera hun, koi fun land type nahi, Ps5 wagera rakhdo simple or clean setup ander bouncers rakho jo control rakhay.
And if the daughter, or even son, is asking you to change school etc without being able to give a valid reason, listen to them and take action without pressing for details and reasons.
@@jehanfaseeh7455 no ofcourse not. We don't want to pamper them. If we continue to go like you then if someone snatched their lunch or bully them then instead of standing up for themselves they will start replacing school everyday.
Let's get this straight, any communication between nonmehrams WITH the supervision of the community is HALAL. THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AS ARRANGED MARRIAGES IN EARLY ISLAM. There was a community and they 'dated' by talking to spouse candidates before marriage but under guardian/chaperones like Junaid Bahi said in his idea.
I could relate with the last issue. And I think the whole matter includes separate schools and specially mentality of the society which is the root problem of almost every problem in Pakistan.
the last question is so fucking relatable fucked up like i'm at a point of life where im trying to convince myself that its okay be be alone becuase its soo imposible to find quality friens and more for men like what tf should be say to the other person like aaaa fuck
For Finding a Partner Yourself person What people could do in arrange marriage is once girl's boy's families met eachother you can be in a separate room with your bride to be but not alone a mehram from girl side should be there a brother whoever, then keep asking eachother questions one can do these visits multiple times & convos untill get fully satisfied
Junaid bhai, A humble request to make a video or start a channel about books and the books that you find helpful. I believe that books can change the future of our generation. Thank you!
For a toxic monster in law, one I agree with Junaid bhai, she is never going to change. I can guarantee you that I might be much older than you. I left pak becoz of that level of toxicity. I also had the same thoughts as your, but guess what? After 15 yrs n counting, she is still toxic, but I moved on after 4 yrs of mental abuse. Your mental peace is more important than anything else.
I am in a relationship with my college teacher, shes 31 and I am 19 but everything's good except my parents are against it because they believe that I should marry a younger girl.
35:00 this woman is same as the mother of my best freind I don’t know why people are like this .. I know many of you will think that this can not be true but I am witness to this thing
Honestly you will not find genuine friends at that age. Hell I do not believe the time we live in even kids or teens can find genuine friends. The only choice she has to go to decent events where a melting pot of good people will be available. There she can hope for finding some good company.
Q#1 Its totally unbelievable and he should be punished so badly. But the fact his that junaid you are a femenist. When a women had a past relationship with someone else. You response to leave and move on. But when man had affair you said that its totally wrong and you have to decide about your future. How dual person you are? A femenist. So shameful
zaruri nhi hota if any elder or Aunty asks these questions to 25+ girl their intention is bad sometimes they just get concern for you tareeqa maybe galat hota communication ka but zaruri nhi sbki esi intention ho
SOLID SOLUTION! ABOUT LAST QUESTION! UNIVERSITY IS PERFECT PLATFORM FOR FINDING SPOUSE! IT DOESNT MATTER IF GIRL PROPOSES BOY OR VICE VERSA, THINGS SHOULD BE RESPECTFUL AND PRIVATE THAT IS ALL! GUYS DONT WASTE UNIVERSITY YEARS AND FIND SPOUSE! YOU GET ALL TYPES OF PEOPLE THERE! JUST BE BRAVE,CONFIDENT,SMART AND MATURE! BEST SOLUTION ABOUT FINDING PARTNER YOURSELF!
Assalamualaikum I am an O/A level institute admin.The student whom you mentioned in first question there's a way that she can continue her studies as a private student "correct if I am wrong"
Arrange marriage mein aisa bhi nahi hai ke " acha yeh hai " I mean mil lo, bathey karo aur ek dosre ko pasand karo. I live in Australia and I know ke luv marriages ka kia haal hai.
This teacher bobut toxic hai there should be a complain against him and he should not be allowed to teach anywhere but i dont think yahan kuch hona hai
Weed- I will say that Weed is not as harmful as cigarettes when used in low doses but research suggests that heavy use can be very harmful and light use can easily become heavy use so using any chemical help to deal with stress is a slippery slope. I would say, deal with the toxic people affecting their life and go away to study if that is what will make the person happy. There is a lot of drug use in Pakistani children as a form of self-medication. Much better drug education and stress management should be taught to kids in school to support them cope with a highly critical, competitive and toxic culture.
I second you but the reality is the stigma about the weed that’s in our society though other forms are Drugs are more widely used and not much discarded but again excess of anything’s bad. May Allah help everyone who’s going through hardships of life as I have been there and I know what’s that really like.
Commenting on the last question, men can't also find liberal women in Pakistan. Women also start moral policing men about hilal and haram all the time. It took me 3 years to find the right match.
@Amna Adil For once, start thinking about passion, skills, frequency, vibe. Orat hi orat ki tango k darmayan ghuss kar sochti rahy gi to mardo ne kia hi kar lena hai. Ni chahye baaji sex. Aqal naam ki b cheez hoti hai koi
@Abdul Moeed it took me 3 years of continous struggle. Going to events, workshops, seminars, trainings etc. My work requires socializing, i am a filmmaker. Most of the interactions ended up with in the girls moral policing me, kia yeh jo ham kr rhy hain yeh hilal hai? List goes on. Your work requires socializing women. Thats haram. Yeh comments b milay What worked for me, jic ne ek dafa b moral policing ki. Usko dosra chance hi nai dia. Chahe roye, mary, tarlay kary. Mazhabi logo ki aap zehniyat nai bdal skty. They will switch off for sometime then turn back again. So thats how i filtered and 3 years lost in finding someone I can match with. I would recommend, instead of wasting this much time and putting efforts that I did. Move abroad, find someone there. It will be very much easier to talk, interact, go out, have fun and date.
@Abdul Moeed you already have seen a comment above of the lady who rightaway thought dating is for sex. Thats how women think too. Ideology of men and women are same. Its better to be successful and be at a place where you will find people like you.
