Sahih mslm 1436 D - When a man invites his wife to his bed and she does not come, and he (the husband) spends the sight being angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.
Listening to such heart-wrenching emails makes me wonder where we're headed as a state, acute and obnoxius mindsets of the people till date regarding such pertinent matters gave me goosebumps. As a 22 year old, I'm still in awe, how to get mingled with someone in this fiasco we're in. I hope Allah (SWT) strengthen up that lady and lashes his wrath to the culpables. May Allah protects us from all evil eyes out there.
Men need to understand this major biological difference between men and women ASAP: On average, women 1st build an emotional bond and then gradually develop sexual affection, even within the marriage as well. On average, women ONLY FIND MEN sexually attractive when THEY successfully build an emotional bond with her. If men persistently provide emotional understanding and bond, non-sexual affection, emotional support and safety related to the problems, persistent empathy, and validation then men will build a bridge with her that will lead to healthy sex life. If he becomes unsuccessful in building that bridge, there will be no way to reach her heart for a healthy sex life. THAT'S THE ONLY WAY. P.S. It works in men's favor.
This is a bit of a generic blanket statement about women. I live in the West and here, young women are not looking for any emotional connection whatsoever. Thanks to apps like Tinder and Bumble, people are not looking for any relationships. Only one -night stands and the next day, its all a distant memory. Again, not every woman is like that but its a very common thing these days.
My heart goes out to the lady in the second email. Keep your head high, you made mistakes and you repented for them, now keep strong. You are very right about these so called Muslims being anything but Muslim, especially overly religious people almost often turn out to be the biggest sinners. Stay strong, the right person will come your way when it's time, just don't settle for the next guy who gives you attention. Work on yourself, your career, your hobbies and your loved ones. If possible find someone who isn't Pakistani or maybe someone who is a revert so you don't have to deal with the toxicity that is bred into our genes.
Sahih mslm 1436 D - Allah's Messenger (may, peace be upon him) said that : When a man invites his wife to his bed and she does not come, and he (the husband) spends the sight being angry with her, the angels curse the wife until morning.
I can’t believe that men are justifying marital rape by quoting a hadees 😢 humanity is dead and so is the parenting.Mothers need to educate their sons better 🙏 teach them to respect woman . And also i would like to add here that women like sex as much as men so if your women is refusing to be intimate then there’s a problem with you. Mostly women just want to get pregnant immediately after getting married without giving each other enough time .
For the second email: 1. Rape is rarely ever (if ever) about sex It’s a violent brutal act of power over a woman (sometimes child or man too). It’s a way to dehumanize and degrade women. There is no justification or reason for it. PERIODT. Marriage, anger, small clothes…Nothing justifies rape. 2. Rape victims are more likely to be repeat victims. I’m not sure what the psychology is of that or the reasoning but if you are a victim of rape you are twice or thrice more likely to get raped again. 3. If a man is married and you know and choose to be his side piece, you will forever be his side piece. If by some chance you do happen to get married to him, he will end up doing the same thing to you as he did the first wife. The man is characterless and dishonest.
I'm an Indian Muslim and while things are better here ,they are definitely not ideal for Muslims, yaha bhi maar pdti h , but i really think there is something fundamentally wrong with desi culture and more so with Muslim culture as a result of which Pakistan and many other Muslim countries are suffering such as Afghanistan,Syria,Yemen etc. Har muslim society ka yahi haal h, Indian, Pak, Afghani, elder generation,young gen k piche kaichi leke ghumti hai. Kisi ko bhi khush nhi rehn Dena, har waqt ka kalesh krna. They have definitely oppressed women,animals,orphans, transgenders, individuals made by God himself or even normal population as such jo aaj yeh haal h. I have personally seen cases of sihr ruining a girls life,done by family members, male cousins etc and then hum rote h ki govt hmari zamine cheen rhi h ,hum pe zulm kiye jaa rhe h etc. Humlog khud apni community k, apni families k gaddar bante jaa rhe h, we cannot blame west or Jewish or non Muslim for every thing
Problem is Islam. You can abuse me for saying this but this is the truth. Aurat ko maar sakte hai Force kar sakte hai Janwar ke saath bhi sex kar sakte hai Dead body ke saath bhi sex kar A person from any faith can do all of these he will be called a psychopath and be punished by law…. But Islam permits all of these. Islam is a perverted religion. A religion concocted only to fulfil one man’s sexual perverted preferences which was adopted by the world. The world would have been better without Islam.
people in the comments will ppost the hadees about how angel will curse women and this comment will only post by a man, there is another hadees which says the best man is the one who is kind towards his wife and care her and met her with manners, Pakistani mans think women as their property and she should bow down to them every partner has rights for each other. These jahil man think Allah has gave us upper hand so we have every right to do anything else and marriage is more than a sex , sex can only be done when both have understanding and off course even after man full fill wife rights and she still denies him to come to her angel will definitely curse. But in most cases women are victims especially in rural areas men wanted to do sex but end up having children and he can afford them so he leave his children to her mother alone and mother has to suffer. Sex education should be given to most Pakistanis men and women so they know about their rights
@@saad.memon1 glad you understand my point my English is bad if i would be focusing on grammar it would take much time and I just came here to represent my opinion about our society
So basically you are saying is there are contradiction in islam? One can pick anything and turn the table whenever he wish.....this is like eating poop is halal but second hadith made it haram.....so you have both the side of the coin toss it anyhow😂😂😂😂
Character Less: Shared Intimated picture with strange man. Tried to seduce married man. Have had 2 boyfriend before marriage. Haven't dated male for 10 years Aprat from above neech and Ghatya statements your are right becz you emailed.
to the ppl quoting the hadith regarding intercourse should also acknowledge how our Prophetﷺ treated the women around him, be it his wives or his daughters. He (Pbuh) was kind and compassionate to them. These so called religiously aware men should also keep this in mind. Besides, what the guy did was completely haram and unjustifiable, in which case the woman should clearly refuse. Physically abusing your partner is also not in any way acceptable as it shatters one’s self confidence immensely, sad to see the sick mentality of so many men and then we complain about there being so many abuse cases in Pakistan.
Yeah?!!! Really? Prophet had married with his daughter in law....married with aysha.....attacked and killed bannu kabila and performed haramsex with hafza...give me one aayat about good behaviour with woman of prophet
junaid bhai apne jo second email ka reply dia me nhi samjhta k is se acha reply kuch or ho skta ha apne behtreen reply dia un mohtarma ko baki dua ha k ap ese hi behtreen kaam jari rakhe or un lady k lie b dua ha k unko behtreen life partner or khoshi dono mile thank you jaunaid bhai for this episode
Saw so many comments mentioning that a wife will be cursed if she say no to husband when he asks for sex But where are the comments to tell that a man in Islam is a provider that means he has no right on your money and instead must provide for you. I don’t understand why this guy in third email is controlling her finances that also the ones she is earning. Looking forward to see some hadith on this topic as well from my fellow brothers.
Didn't saw any comment by woman on mentioning that a wife will be cursed if she say no to her husband. Looking forward to see this from fellow sisters 🙂
@@hadiii256 kunky yh baten mention krny ki zroorat nhn hy nabi pak to aik churia ko bhi nhn marny dety thy. Instead aik bemmar thaki preshan(any reason) aurat KY sath zbrdsti janwar pan krna. Insaniyat hi honi Kafi hy bus phir ijazat mangny aur mana krny py ruk jany Kylie but you men and your ego wowww.
being a 22 years old boy, listening to all these mails scares me how a single mistaken person or a single wrong decision can alter my course of life through such large extent. Is it really hard to find the perfect person in like 1st try? i mean staying out of all haram relationships, can someone advise me how to get things going...
Same I'm also 21 years old boy !! Most of the time I'm also scare to heard these stories . In our society we can't really talk to any girls before it is considered unethical and haram as well ...so I thought how would I know that if that person is good for me or not ... super confusing bro.. I hope I find a solution and may Allah bless me with a great spouse and you also
@@tauseeqhaider3858 bro who said talking to the girl you are merrying is haram you can met with girl but in halal boundries and you can know each other by talking if you both satisfied then you can get merried otherwise reject merriage is always a risk even if you do everything before merriage it has more chances that it will lead you to the divorce just believe in Allah and if you are good person then you will also met a good person always wish for the best dont go what society says just go and study islam yourself then you will know many things that society says its haram but actually its not haram and also this not wife right to take care of her mother in law or father in law its her husband responsibility not his wife responsibility to take of his parents so study islam yourself and fullfil your responsibilities then you will have a happy life use your rights dont follow the society follow the islam i hope you will understand
Its isnt haram to talk to girls. It isnt haram to be friends with them. But it gets haram when u enter physical relationship with them before marriage. Coz it can damage ur and her future prospects in life unless u plan to stay together.
@@ryancooper1144 bro its haram to be friend with girl i said if you are merrying the women you dont know anything about her you can both talk to to eachother in halal boundries and get to know each other if you both thinks its good to merry eachother then get merry otherwise reject it this dosent means you can be friend with girls or anything
@@traderhubpk I'm saying that talking to girl is haram ... I was talking about before married relationships ... Yes brother believe in Allah also and hoping for the better and for the responsibility part I like if husband parents are giving rights and required rights to the son's wife I think it isn't bad to pay them bad the same way and I don't take what society say but society has a influence on life and decisions to some exact (I believe) Moreover I am studying Islam alhamdolillah remember me your prayers dear
Email 2, never put up with haram acts, always leave never allow someone to treat you this bad to leave. May Allah guide you and give you something better ameen.
Junaid Akram has no issues with people committing adultery/fornication. Only thing he says is that be cautious when in such relationships and do not share intimate pics etc. He is a promoter or fawahish. Rather than telling people to stay away from zina altogether and don't even go close to it he addresses other matters and then brings up Islam as per his own flawed understanding.
@@miansaad3979 No 👎👎👎👎 Concent is only related to man . If he is ok everything is fine If you have problem stay single. No one is forcing you to marry. It's better for man to divorce woman like you
ohh heck... I thought the video title says "Martial", and thought the video is going to discuss the military rule in the country and its devastating effects on Pak.
exactly, asked a question about pursuing education in a foreign country and my deadline is coming closer and closer . after that, i would not have the choice to go abroad.
Sometimes Junaid lacks reasonability in his argument. The remarks: "its OK to send nudes to BF/GF in heat of situation but avoid sending them to spouse" is strange and nonsense.
Umm don't believe thats what he meant. He prefaced his statement saying that one should NOT send them period. He also said those who are going to do it are going to send them regardless, all he said was he doesn't understand why 2 people spending their lives in the same house exchange nudes
I am surprised why no one has pointed this out and shame on everyone who is just supporting her and not pointing this out, but the women in the second story mentioned that she didn't like anal because it's haram in islam and couldn't pray due to bruises e.t.c... using islam again and again but she bluntly said that she had two boyfriends, was looking to date, and most probably commited zina with a married man, all these things are haram too but she had no problem with it and wrote it without any hesitation like it's very good in islam, the fact that she just used islam for things she likes is most probably the reason why she faced all those things she should take lesson from it she got what she deserved next time remember that most of the things you do are haram as written by you so atleast don't use islam for your own benefit or for things you like or dislike it's because of women like you that in today's world muslims have forgotten islam!!!
This case study is the reason why women should follow Islam and keep distance from Na Mehram Mard otherwise you will face same consequences like this lady. Unfortunately we have these fake religious opportunist guys around in our society to take advantage of women. Wo aurat galat hai lakin uskay sath haram karnay walay mard zaida galat hain.
Shame on your brought ups,she has professed that she was raped even in so called halal relationship called marriage u don't have anything to say about that?Does she deserve this rape during her first marriage?You will have a daughter and wife too Lord has mercy upon them
These are seriously disheartening stories of people around the world!! We should be vocal about it and educate all the boys about such things at there adult age.
My opinion is that you should not leave your parents always try to solve the issues. But when it comes to your family who is only your responsibility then you should not compromise. But never loose your parents always keep try to make the relation good. Beshak unke ehsaan ka badla adaa nhi Kiya ja skta hai, lekin agr wo galat hain to unko deny bhi karna hai lekin tameez ke dayere mein rah kar. Karo Jo haq hai, aur bolo zamane ki aisi ki taisi. Maine mahsoos Kiya hai parents jaise kisi beemari mein mubtela hain, khud ki banayi hui chains mein jisko mazhab ka bhi naam Diya hai, ajeeb , mazhab in sab cheezon se rokta hai. Agar aap mazhab ki batein quote karne lagoge to aapko bolne nhi Diya jayega aur aapke hi upar ulta sawaal shuru ho jayega ki dekho kaun mazhab ki baat karrha hai. Mujhe unko iss halat pe Taras bhi aata hai ki unko pata hi nhi hai aur wo ek khud ki banayi hui zanjeer mein jakde hue hain. You should try to free them from those chains by your ethics and doings, atleast you should get questioned in the hereafter because atleast you tried to fix all.
End of the Day, Parents are parents., marriage is not between 2 persons. it's connect 2 families. always do marriage if both families agreed. And if you are sending money upon your parents so may by Allah is giving you to spend on them. i saw, after 10 to 15 years of married life, bonds become weeks between husband and wife.. always respect your parents and might be they will understand after few years.
Guys, there are certain people down in the comments section who're actually Indians from you guess where. The comments and replies, especially, where there are certain diabolical quotes which they claim are from the sunnah. Understand plz
Thank you Junaid Akram for talking about stuff nobody else does! proud of you. (someone please don't let youth club k burger taliban watch this video) won't be able to see a progressive guy talking about marital r@p3 lol
Burger taliban 😂 good one. Being active listener of both G swag and as you mentioned Burger Taliban. All I can say is, it’s all about prospective. There is always your truth, my truth and THE truth. Unfortunately there is no gauge to measure and find out about the truth, it will be revealed to us in hear-after. But I strongly suggest, support your prospective, believe if you must. But please avoid unnecessary criticism on other prospective. Like by your comment, a low intellectual fan of Taiha Ibn Jaleel ( by the way I am one of them) would have used harsh / abusive / bitter language in reply to your comment. And we would have a fight here for nothing. Support your perspective man and ignore the other
An*l sex is absolutely haram in Islam, I think if a person do it than their nikkah is also not valid anymore (not pretty sure on that), and secondly you cannot have intimate when your wife is on her menstrual cycle, that is also haram in Islam. While on the topic of martial rape in Islam is that if the husband wants to have sex than the wife cannot deny it. Because their is a hadith which can be summarize as that "if a husband asks for intimacy and the wife denys it and he goes to sleep frustrated the angles curse the wife all night". I don't remember the no. of above mentioned hadith you can search on RU-vid, you can find it easily.
@@ShadesFN He's right. Yeh Hadith hai. Sahih Muslim 1436 d Abu Huraira (Allah he pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may, peace be upon him) as saying: When a man invites his wife to his bed and she does not come, and he (the husband) spends the sight being angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.
Still marital rape is prohibited and you can't expect a person to be aroused without you putting an effort , it is your failure in the first place and so again men should work on themselves rather than raping.
In 3rd email you are blaming arrange marriages and in 2nd email , they just did love marriage’ and see what happened .. Ganji you need to grow up, always play blame games .
Lady in the second email, you're good at >30 years and single. Also, you made mistakes and you repented and continue to do so - now it's between you and Allah. As for the man, don't worry about his blackmail. You will manage that too, I am sure. Relax.
Sahih mslm 1436 D - Allah's Messenger (may, peace be upon him) said that : When a man invites his wife to his bed and she does not come, and he (the husband) spends the sight being angry with her, the angels curse the wife until morning.
Focus on "he spends the night being angry with her" not "so he can force himself on her". You have the right to get angry and dump her and get someone else who will have sex with you. You don't have the right to force yourself on her.
You guys have never heard the stories of Western world. These muslim/desi girls would wash the feet of desi men once they know the real attitude, behavior and psychology of majority of western men.
For 2nd email: It is not necessary to marry a Pakistani/Asian. You are a brave lady and can have a beautiful relationship. Try to find a Non-Asian bcz Asian men suck and Junaid bhai is right Paida kar k chore hove mard hain
Junaid Bhai you are doing a great job i also face same circumstances i married with my phupos grand daughter and you know the tussle between nand and bhabhi so i face some experiences which i want to share with you if u agree do reply and i will tell all of it
Most Pakistani marriages that are arranged don’t talk about their future and plan ahead. Bs shaadi kardo and expect husband and wife to get to know each other after marriage like wtf!
The 2nd story of a Lady is sad, whatever she’d been through is very traumatising but unfortunately she actually never knew her worth as a woman in the society like sub continent, she was completely into haram & halal debate, she bring haram card to discussion when her ex husband was forcing her into anal sex which i condemn but she was ok in keeping boyfriends & sending them her nudes like it was never a haram act, & if you’re in relationship with someone then why can’t you keep the relationship decent, she took the relationship with that a$$h0le to un-holy extent by sharing nudes but now regrets. Ladies just know your worth please yahan 10 saal ke relationship ka koi bharosa nahi 11 months me hi love marriage ki asliyat bahir agayii & of course rangbaazo se ishaq ladogi toh yahi hoga aghh what to say now.
She admitted that she did and I wish girls out there learn a lesson. Girls are emotional and most of their decisions are based on emotions ( not wrong ) but as a result life is completely destroyed sometimes. I wish her peace and may she find someone compatible. But we need to teach our daughters that don’t just let go of your heart, modesty and dignity for a male who is making you feel special. Have high standards in terms of ethics to judge. I feel most of Pakistani girls lack self confidence because of our upbringing and this results us falling in love with anyone who doesn’t even deserve us.
How did she messed up in the 1st place?she went through anal intercourse and without consent...its haraam act...by the islamic laws...if u go through he unusual route ur nikaah contract is null and void ..she wasnt bound to stay with him after..and yet he did it twice... The 2nd one was a bad call by the girl...again everyone make bad calls...so what....
Subhanallah email 1 makes me so sad.. let your children live and be happy Subhanallah. So crule how family see u as "something" when u become someone!. Man should move with family, your just going to make your married life worse, as there is already resentments and hurt, alhamduilah Allah will protect you and take care of your affairs. One important message, Allah provides.
To Lady, " I agree with Junaid on blackmailing, don't let your dream go away. Be strong and move forward with strength and potentials and Junid Bahi hy take care of that Asshole. " Just follow your dreams. Pakistan is full of video of politians. Also give you example of Rabi peer zada, her videos leeks but pass that phase. And she is doing great. My best wishes in your life. Baqi boly tu Bhai dekha ly ga. Move forward with strength as you live once and full fill your dreams.
The first two stories were so sad and traumatic. I feel so sorry that their own blood and families did that. Our society is such a hypocrite society. So called islamist. Basic rights and ethics tu hotay nai, not even humanity man. My prayers for you people. Please trust in Allah the almighty!
To those passing out the comments like he did discuss the people's marital matters Infront of the public for views, please go get a life man, these stories are definitely shared with him knowingly these gonna be read and discussed with the audience. Peace
i agree with the woman: " men need young woman to control and birth their children", lets not bring religious perspective here, moreover the sad part is the man's mother also favors their sons and cover their flaws no matter what is happening with the daughter in law. although i am not a fan of feminism but after being married recently and getting to know things at a personal level, i have realized where did men go wrong and why have woman become so guarded, brutal and egoistic. a man's selfishness decreases their attractiveness, beauty and charisma in my opinion.
We have to build a society where young boys as young as 13 years old have to deal with hardships of life like making money , doing business , etc . This current smooth life of men has destroyed their way of thinking by not enduring early life pain .
Email 3. Omg big red flags no babies that's your right this gives u grounds to leave him. Your money is your money!! He needs to grow up very dry personality something mentally not right
Junaid bhai, yes women are weak and vulnerable but this only side of the story. Men do have cases when they met some gold diggers or are being used for benefits or they are fed up due to the behavior of their wives but the thing is that Men just do not share. They are meant to maintain balance between wife and parents but believe me sitting there and giving advises is easy but facing the beat in real is way harder.
So they should punish their wives by doing anal? Something which is haram under all circumstances. Our deen says if you’re not happy with your wife then let her go with respect don’t try to change her ( if you straighten the curved rib it will break) and they dated for 3 years did he not realize what kind of person she was. Her husband indeed is the one who is at fault.
@@Aliillustrations I am not justifying the act done in this particular case. Near to me punishing a wife (physically or mentally)is the most degraded and sinful act done by men. I am just trying to say there are many cases where Man suffers those cases should also be considered.
questions related to relationships shouldn’t be answered without listening to the other partner’s story. If the girl from the second question is being divorced and her man is getting angry on her there must be something coming from her too.
Second question: Amazed to see how a woman playing innocent who was in a relationship with a married man and send him nudes knowing that he is married and a father.
For alll... As per engineer mohd ali mirza, the hadith everyone is quoting about angels cursing the women who allows her husband to sleep without sex....is not valid and not supported by authentic hadith noters...so chill out.
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning." shaih Al bukhari 3237
