If you or someone you know is struggling with body dysmorphia or an eating d*sorder, please seek help from a qualified health professional or specialist. Remember, you don't have to go through this alone-support is available.
This is my favorite video you've done. My gf use to deal with anorexia, and I showed her this video because it's so rare to see a guy openly admit (beginning of the vid) to dealing with an eating disorder. She broke down in tears (happy tears) You need to eat.
Shoutout to that 17 year old being open and honest, anorexia is a beast and that was the BEST description of it. I wish him so much health and happiness.
I have so much respect for Jessie’s vulnerability here as well everyone else that was in the video discussing this really heart warming as well as encouraging
Dysmorphia comes from seeing fitness as a journey to perfection.. Once I started seeing it as a journey of consistency and improvement, I started loving the guy in the mirror. Pro Tip: I wore a shirt to the gym for 2 years. Now I don't wear stringers or show off. I have a sleeper build, and I like that I no longer compare
From age 14 to 28 I struggled with bulimia & anorexia.... It literally took over half my life. That entire period was hospitals, impatient programs, residential centers, psych wards, etc.
1:26 17 yo is being an amazing advocate. I work in a hospital as a dietitian and work with kids who have eating disorders that require treatment inpatient. It’s such an underestimated thing and it hurts my heart that kids kind of fall into it by accident because they thought they were going to get a certain result.
Thank you for using your platform to raise and discuss such a prevalent issue in the world of fitness 🙏 At just 21 years old I entered a bikini comp. I was so depleted and for the first time ever experienced anxiety as a result of the extremely low calories and hormonal disruptions it caused. I received no post-show care or reverse diet regime. I never saw or heard from my coach again after show day. So I ate, and ate, and ATE, compensating for the emotional damage and ultimately the starvation I'd experienced.. 2 weeks post show I was 21 lbs heavier and broke out in hives all over my body from the excessive amounts of sugar and UPF's I'd consumed. In hindsight I was absolutely experiencing disordered eating, including before and during the prep. I was lucky to have the awareness that I couldn't continue damaging my body like this, and then worked on my relationship to food and learned how to nourish my body properly, without caring about 'how I looked' and what my body fat % was. It's a rocky road that not everybody can bounce back from. PLEASE do your research before considering competing and REMEMBER that the MIND and SOUL work of resistance training is equal to, if not MORE important than the aesthetics of the sport.
Body dismorphia for me is losing 41lbs of fat then wanting to lose another 10 after still seeing myself as fat and then wanting to lose another 10 until I'm single digit bf%. The thinner I get the fatter I feel.
dude, watch out for your health, that’s the number one priority. this sounds like it could very easily turn into very bad body dismorphia…if you feel really unhappy with your weight even if you’ve already lost a bunch go talk to someone about it! i wish you the best bro✌️
this is sort of how I started out before it turned into anorexia for me… not saying that’s you necessarily but be careful that’s exactly what I was thinking at that time
but you dont have body dysmorphia because you are aware that you are losing weight. If you had it, you wouldnt say you are losing weight because you would not believe you are, you would just see yourself fat and you wouldnt be aware of the reality.
yo jesse i really support the focus on mental health. ive been going to the gym for a pretty long time, and it was hard jesse, but i finally stopped caring, i kept pushing. once i stopped caring about how i looked i felt like i worked harder in a way. im finally on my way to becoming the beast im meant to be but really, keep up the grind jesse, your lookin huge dude!💪🏆
well... it's all marketing to support their channels. They have taken the "build your body" dynamic as far as it can go. there is nothing left to say that hasn;t already been said... now everything is about the psychology of self image and "you don't have to look this way or that".... they are just keeping us watching them... and it works.
I remember cutting so hard last year that it was killing me, I was sticking with my diet, doing cardio everyday and working my full time physical labor job. I was stuck at 170 for about a month and never got down, and was depressed not seeing that number go down despite my lean physique. It got to a point where I was walking home and I had heavy brain fog and nearly passed out, and that was my wake up call to snap out of it. Please appreciate your progress and look how far you've come compared to where you started, and always compare yourself with yourself and improve.
I cut down from over 180 in the winter and realized I might be below 170 right now. I'm 34. I started upping my carbs again, and I can't believe how much more energy I have, how much stronger I feel, how much better my workouts are. Definitely not gonna do that heavy of a cut ever again.
@nullgeodesic9423 nah that was a year ago and I'm very much shredded and can even see my abs still when I bulk up lol. I'm just about to reach the end of this cut and have fun with the holiday bulk.
Love the idea of hitting friendship, relationship, and life PRs. That's what lifting is really all about for me. And also love dr. mike's "time in the sun" analogy. Positive self talk is key and so is using what you do in the gym to be better in life.
@Couldhavebeensomeone when you catch yourself at an angle that looks really similar to one of your before pics, you get scared because you in your mind you look just like yourself when you were small in that before pic...
“Unnoticeable to others” True….true. No one actually cares. We are each on our own journeys and struggles. We have such a tendency to look externally rather than internally at our own real value/purpose/and meaning. In short: (as goofy as it sounds) we are all beautiful as we are each unique. There is only one you in the entire universe. Never before and never again. That alone speaks of a profound beauty. Live well dudes.
Jesse Thankyou so much for this vid on this subject. Talking As a dad My daughter had this 8 years ago , it developed into anorexia . She spent 7 months in a secured hospital unit being watched and we were told she could have a heart attack at any time as her heart beat went down to 40 beats per minute. It was the worse time of our lives as a family. After being released she found the gym and never looked back. Now she looks amazing is engaged and has a 9 month old baby boy. I m so proud of her but that feeling is still there and there’s a fine line between feeling that way and going down the route of where my daughter went. This is why it’s so important that the media like yourself across the board promote healthy bodies come in many shapes and sizes not just the perfect aesthetic look because there’s a lot of young girls and boys that need to be assured they are not worthless or ugly because they dont have a six pack !! This is a huge topic. Again Thankyou for raising this issue. I nearly lost my daughter so you can imagine how watching this touched me and brought back memories. Your a top man Jesse, Dean
Body Dysmorphia is a real thing nowadays unfortunately and I think a major part of this is bc of social media. Stop comparing yourself to others, compare yourself only to yourself, everyone is unique! Keep grinding and stay safe people :)
Find a therapist that also gets it- I think it is hard to find someone that understands the nuances of the fitness community and extreme nature of it (but they're out there). Glad you're addressing this!
This is why you don’t do steroids. Take it from someone who has abused gear for decades. The first time I ever ran a cycle I said I’d just do low dose test for 12 weeks and that would be it. I cared to mouth about my health. The truth is, it never works that way. You’re never happy with your physique. You want more and more. Just say no.
As a guy whose had it since i was 14 i know it can cause extreme mental health issues i nearly killed myself over it once but hey im still here iv learnt it can help you become who you are meant to be remember that if your struggling with it
This video came at the best time possible. I have it bad again 😔 I had anorexia as a teen but now I’m into lifting. It’s hard bc there’s one voice saying I’ll never be big enough and then there’s another saying I should just go back to being smaller. I don’t wanna relapse but this stuff is no joke
Thank you for this! I have body dysmorphia and so does my husband. My husband more so because he was in body building and did competitions so I never understood how bad it was for him. It’s gotten better over the years as we help each other. But this defiantly helped me understand more so of how he might feel. This opened up a new layer of communication for us so thank you so much❤️
Damn, this video hit hard! Over the last four years, my weight has fluctuated. I initially lost 6/7 stone in the first two years (during covid), dropping from a 38" waist to a 30/31" waist, and felt really confident - the best I’ve ever felt, both physically and mentally. However, the past two years have been a massive mental struggle with body dysmorphia. Even though I now wear small/medium sizes, I still feel like I’m wearing XXL, which is crazy. Annoyingly, this has consumed 100% of my time, and I haven’t been happy with my appearance, although people would disagree! As a result, I’ve developed a really bad eating disorder. Even though I know this is all in my head and I’m working on it, I’m struggling to snap out of it! Thanks for bringing awareness!
That’s the reason I train for mental and focused on my performance instead of over obsessing about my physique and just be grateful for being fit and healthy.
I've seen a bunch of your videos, Jesse, and I'm a beginner on this journey at 29 years old. I got a couple years extra of 'living life to the fullest' and I fully intend to take this sustainable. My goal was aesthetics and longevity, and a lot of your earlier videos did speak to me as well. But this one, this is the one where I subscribed to your channel. (apologies for the delay) I was exactly afraid of getting too deep into it. And this video certainly helped. Thank you for sending your community in a positive direction. Much love.
This is a great video. Alot of people suffer from this, but i love how you show the people there is help out there and you show the problems, especially with the fitness industry. I love your videos and keep up the great content ❤
It breaks my heart seeing so many young teens suffering from body dysmorphia. I was starting to get it pretty bad myself but I deleted all my main social medias like instagram, twitter and facebook a few years ago and it’s done wonders for my self esteem and I don’t really experience body dysmorphia much anymore . I’ve learned to love my body despite not even looking anything near my prime . I’m healthy though and that’s what really matters to me these days after numerous injuries and hospitalizations. Remember , your health is your wealth and that includes mental health .
This is singularly your best video on your channel. My teenager and I have been watching a lot of your videos for the entertainment value and regular emotional vulnerability, but watching this video was something he REALLY needed to see right now... thanks for being a voice for it. o7
I suffered with an ED for years. Was basically into extreme exercise and bullimia I have now been free from it for like 3 years. Thanks for bringing this up. It’s even worse now because of social media everywhere. I didn’t have much social media when i was growing up but it was still out there. Its definitely way more prevalent now and it affects all genders! I would go to the gym for 4-5 hours a day and wouldnt leave until I would burn every single calorie I ate that day. It took a toll on me. Then I ended up later on being diagnosed with pcos and went the complete opposite way after my dad passed away and gained soo much weight from Stress eating. It’s really hard That we are soo stuck in what is considered “Aesthetically pleasing” according to “societal norms”
I've always been a skinny guy and 4 years ago I decided to change all that. Yet no matter how much I've changed or how often people tell me I've changed, I look at that mirror and its still the same guy. Im working through it and just not taking this whole thing so seriously. Make it a part of life, but don't make it life itself. Awesome vid Jesse!
You mean after four years you still don't see any muscular development in your traps, delts, pecs, or legs? If there's been no progress, or very slow progress, perhaps it's time to think about alternative supplements.
I'm just beginning to get back into shape after taking many years off due to stresses in life, and I really needed this video before continuing to get into shape. (I'm still gonna go hard but ill try and remember to have fun too)
I think it's important to define what body dysmorphia is. It's way more nuanced than this video would lead you to believe! Having body parts that you think can be better but being overall happy with the progress that one has made would be different than having body dysmorphia. it would be a shame to think a video like this would give people the wrong impression about what a serious issue body dysmorphia is
I came here to say something very similar. I think what Jesse describes for the most part is an issue of what perfection is. To me Jesse whips his shirt off far too many times in his videos to have true body dysmorphia. Whereas I struggle with even getting changed at the gym even though alot of guys would say I’m in great shape.
This, like most things, is a matter of degree. Thinking that there are things about your body you'd change is one thing, being pathologically obsessed with every perceived flaw is another.
@@divdo1You don’t get to define what dysmorphia is for someone else. Mans just spilled his heart out in this video and you think, he’s too pretty to have real problems?
Alot of people forget where they started and they are comparing themselves against people who make lifting/fitness their job. I've gone back and looked at old pictures of myself and realized how much more fit I've become. On the flipside that as you get older it is going to be hard to maintain. And if you are out here at 70, 80, 90+ still walking, still trying, still going you gotta change your goals being able to walk up a hill at 90+ is insane.
I am 270lb, 25% body fat, 6'3. I used to feel like crap all the time, not muscular... some time this last year I managed to shed that mentality and start being happy with myself, my arms are enormous, I look great. I don't know what changed.
All of them are human. We are our own worst enemy. We all struggle...our struggles just look different. I thank all of them for their vulnerability and how much they inspire everyone. Best wishes to everyone mentioned in this video. Nothing but love.
watching anime like dragon ball, jojo or one piece cause me a severe body dysmorfia and i feeled this for 1 year. i don't understand why everyone says to me that im jacked (girls too). but i feel so skinny. so is stopped comparing my self to people and i feel more confident about my self.
I’ve been waiting for your video for almost 2weeks and now that it’s here….IT DID NOT DISAPPOINT!!! Thank you so much for tackling this issues and being vulnerable! Now, I have to wait again for many days for the next video 😭😭😭😭
the way I get back on top of my body dysmorphia is I just go to a public swimming pool and see how far ahead my body is of everyone elses ( I understand that that is kinda toxic but it is a way that I get out of it and it works for me so yeah)
There is nothing toxic about it, flaunt it, even be arrogant about it if you want Be happy that you have at least a B Tier physique that you could call your own
This really hits home for me. My mental health is horrible and some of it stems from body dysmorphia. I hope I can see that I am enough, and I hope everyone else can find peace with their appearance.
I ditched social media 10 years ago and have never once missed it. The research is clear, that shit is poison for your mental health, especially when you are young. Don’t waste your life comparing yourself to others. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, and make incremental changes over time. You’d be amazed at what you are capable of.
Amazing video Jesse. You changed my thoughts on this. I’m 50 pounds overweight but I’m soaking in the sun in a way where since I know I’m doing something about it constantly I’ll be fine as long as I keep going
In most cases your body is an exact reflection of where your values, morals and standards of living are. In most cases, your body reflects your lifestyle. Period.
I just ended a month away from the gym because i was extremely fit, but no matter how fit i got i had to push myself harder, get stronger, beat my PR’s…
@@Pikawarps yeah once you start feeling overwhelmed like it's never enough and you can't reach the insane goals you set for yourself, and you no longer have fun, you're just overdoing it. Gym is GREAT but there's more to life than just working out of course
definitely hit me because I've had super bad body dysmorphia from being 297 lbs then dropping down to 158 in a year and a half starting my fitness journey. Never being ok with how I looked or happy with muscle i put on. Fastforward to about two years ago my mom passed away at 55 and I turned towards comfort eating only making my body dysmorphia worse while putting on 70 lbs to be 240 from 170lbs. Now that Ive been looking towards cutting back down again, Im hoping to enjoy the process, not overdo it and just get to a happy lean state for myself and definitely take note of dr. Mike and soak in the sun!
What a great video. Thank you for sharing this. I was worried about you when seeing your videos about competing. You did not look happy. ❤ I survived anorexia nervousa and am so very glad I did. It got so bad that I actually lost the ability to feel any joy and also fell into psychosis for two long years. I am so happy to have recovered. Sending love and peace to all those who are suffering. ❤
Most posts on social media are just people fishing for compliments to make them feel better about themselves. I'm not sure there's anything wrong with that but it can get obsessive for some people...Where they feel the need to post and post constantly to get that love they desire.
Getting ripped to under 10% bodyfat was the best and worst thing I ever done. Now that I’m 195 and have fat on me I am definitely not as confident in myself. Where as most other people don’t even realize
Funny thing is if I go to a beach bar and everyone is shirtless. The heavier people who never lifted have more fun then people who lift because they are so self conscious
That is a reason why I shifted from bodybuilding to longevity. So I am still lifting weights but I am no obsessed by my body, the weights I am lifting or how lean I am. Now I am more focused on health in general and long term effects. Being shredded and have lot of muscles != being health that's my philosophy right now. In this state I am basically happy with my physique.
Real story the first gym that I went to long tike ago there's a quote on the wall that says.. The day you starts goin to the gym is the day you won't be satisfied with what you see..its caution for everyone who gets in the door
Jesse is so awesome doing these. As a guy and someone who fitness omce gave me the way out of depression and the way I felt terrible about myself? Going from a puny 5'6" 16yr old at 108# to 176# and 5' 10" benching 300 at 17 years old 53 weeks after I lifted my first weight! It would be great if you would do more videos on men's issue's. How we are the most murdered&assualted gender? We commit the most successful suicides of any age group. We get hurt,maimed and killed otj at the rate of over 90% of ALL work place injuries globally! We are over 80% of the world's homeless population and here in the U.S. man? Over half of our homeless males are also veterans! Testicular cancer kills almost as many males now as breast cancer kills women? But medical research for men gets less than 1/6th the tax dollars as for women&breast cancer. Despite the fact men do 80% of ALL US jobs and so we pay the most into all social programs&taxes! I could keep going here man. But talking about any of those things and helping us guys get attention on issues that effect us would be truly amazing. 👍🏻
If you care about bodybuilding all your training is solely focused on physique and your job is to actively look for flaws to improve. Bodybuilders care about physique for aesthetic purposes I do calisthenics and my focus is more about how strong I am learning new skills The cool thing is, this style of training gets you jacked and shredded, the physique is a byproduct of the training When I notice a new bit of muscle on my body I'm happy for my hard work, not looking to see where I need to build next to balance it out
I’ve struggled lately because I can see all the progress I’m making in the mirror and I love it. I’ve never had muscle or been strong and always a tad pudgy. Then I’ll get asked like “do you go to the gym?” Or I’ll be thinking my arms look great and I’m like “guys look at my shoulders and how much they’ve grown and I get a “eh it’s alright”. Kills the confidence I spent so much time building.
I think some people overexaggerate saying they have an actual mental condition. Most of these people don't have body dysmorphia, they are just unhappy with what they look like. Calling that a disorder is like saying you are depressed when you are just having a bad day.
Yeah. Wanting to look the best you can and practicing a healthy activity like training is not a disorder. Being ok with being fat, overweight and obese like over 70% of the US and Mexico...that´s a disorder.
It's not for you to gatekeep what a mental disorder means, DSM-V makes it very clear that it's a subjective matter. Almost every disorder in it begins with "if it causes distress for the individual..." Also too many people tend to believe mental disorders are something extremely noticable and severe, which is why they won't seek the help they can get for their problems.
@@IlIlIlIlIlIlIllIlIII It's not for you to tell me what's for me. What the fuck is this attitude? I am not gatekeeping anything, just stating my opinion. I've had to go through things like this myself, but I pushed through, and I can tell you from my experience that some people believe they know what they are talking about, but they don't. A friend of mine would say she's extremely depressed over something that happened at work, 10 minutes later she seemingly forgot how depressed she is having a nice cold drink on the beach with her besties. Yeah, must be nice to be that type of depressed. Perhaps she should be prescribed some extremely addictive medicine for her extremely serious condition? "if it causes distress" doesn't mean it should be considered an actual mental condition. It's up to the individual if they want to seek help or not.
@@TheDimsh Didn't read all of that garbage, but "just stating my opinion" isn't an option when speaking about mental conditions. Stopped reading after that.
