I Kicked Out My Girlfriend Because of Dave Ramsey 

Homemaker without children is wild

He said "I feel like I'm choosing my finances over her." Well, sometimes that is necessary for survival.

While i appreciate full time mom, i cant appreciate a full time girlfriend. Its a recipe for disaster. If a person does nothing for 6 years, it says a lot about her character.

This guy is extremely lucky!! Lucky he didn’t get her pregnant. Lucky that her parents are willing to take over her car loan. Lucky she cooperated and just left the house without any conflict!! This guy better reflect on this and not move another girl in to his home!!!

Debt has become a massive turn-off for me

He started dating this girl at 19 and probably didn’t know these were important deciding factors in a relationship.

This guy made the right decision. Finally a guy that’s not a sucker

Wrong, he ended his relationship because was the right thing to do, Dave Ramsey just give him the wake up call he needed.

Breaking up with someone over financial issues like this isn't a problem in itself. But this guy is just bristling with red flags.

He shouldn't be living with his girlfriend anyway. She's not his wife. Maybe now she can find a guy who will marry her, not just shack up with her.

A friend of mine was in a situation like this. 2 weeks after they broke up the other half got a job. For some people the best way to help them is to stop enabling them.

I feel like we have to hear her side of the story before we can make a judgment. Imagine she woke up every morning, made the bed, prepared breakfast, went and got groceries, scheduled repairs for the home, made lunch, and dinner, cleaned the entire home, looks good for him. When he got home, was a good companion, probably listen to him, whining all the time for six years. If she was a good homemaker, then, honestly it’s his loss, especially if he has the money to take care of her. It also depends on how much of a spender she wants, if he was only paying her car payments, and she was using that car to buy groceries and do other tasks that ultimately benefited the household. Nothing wrong with him, paying for them, he would’ve had to spend time doing them instead. Having someone to manage your home and provide companionship to you is not worthless. If you tried to pay for those services, it would be very expensive. I actually feel very sorry for the girl who sacrificed a large portion of her youth thinking that he would be someone she could depend on [because that’s how he made it feel for six years] then finding out that she was dumped because of a TikTok post. I hope she is able to get on her feet, build a career for herself, and never put in a similar situation again. I find the way Americans think to be very selfish, and exploitative of woman. It’s like they expect them to work, and provide 50% of the finances to the family, but then come home and cook, clean, get pregnant, give birth, raise the children, teach them for free! How come men don’t pay women for doing those tasks, if a man, were to pay equal market rate for a maid, a cook, a nanny, a driver, a surrogate mother, companionship, and private teacher for the children. It would be a lot more than the 50% that the woman had to contribute to the household.

"Why waste each other's time? What are we doing?"😂 I like that, it's to the point.

Guy made the best decision ever, he dodged a bullet here.

This is on him. He allowed her to live with him and offered to pay for everything. Why wouldn’t she take him up on that? She’s probably young too. Imagine spending 6 years with a guy you think is going to protect and take care of you and then get rug pulled like that. It sounds to me like this guy thinks he’s a big shot now and can do better. I’m sure she did more than clean the house. It’s a lot easier to be successful as a man when you have the support of a good woman.

I agree with 3rd date. Don't wait until you both are so invested in the relationship that you want to make excuses for staying together!

This is why I was grossed out when I heard about the stay at home girlfriend trend. Never put yourself in a position where you are so vulnerable and dependent. This is a lifestyle that might seem nice, but if he decides he doesn’t want you anymore, you have nothing. I hope for both of them that they take this breakup as an opportunity to mature.

Im in the same situation as him. My ex of 10 years was a financial liability to myself for the last 4 years. I love her. But she didnt want to work for 4 years. She has gambling problem. She has debts, depression, and stress. Her life is messed up. She needs help. I have been trying to get out of debt for the last 6 years, but i couldn't! she was a burden for me. I finally broke up with her 6 months ago. It's hard but needs to be done.

Theres nothing wrong with wanting a breadwinner/homemaker dynamic but it’s for married people with the same values. Living together and having a bill-paying-bf/ stay-at-home gf dynamic for 6 years is…. not wise and left them both burned. Married ppl have legal protections so if one wakes up and decides to kick the other out they legally cant bc itd be a marital home. Whereas a bf or gf can put all your stuff on the curb at the drop of a hat. If you take out debt for an unmarried partner, it’s just your debt with only your name on it. Big L

This kid learned some valuable life lessons. Many others should listen and learn from his mistakes.

So she was a stay at home girlfriend? Nicholas ain't no simp XD

So a homemaker without children? She was a bum

She knew his family owned "multiple businesses" in Missouri. Of course she wasn't going to work. She thought she found a sugar daddy. Ignore women, acquire currency young man.

6 years.... its not unreasonable to believe she thought they were getting married. She wanted to be a housewife and for years he has shown her that he was okay with that by taking care of her, cosigning on loans, and funding her life. That says in every way possible "I am okay being the working husband who takes care of my stay at home wife." You can’t just up and change someone's lifestyle and be confused why they are resistant. This should have been talked about before moving in, combining finances, cosigning cars. And for those who are gonna comment: sHeS noT a WiFe sheS a GiRLfRieNd... 1. After 6 yrs I guarantee she thought he would propose any day now 2. They were living like a pseudo-married couple for nearly 6 years. A few more yrs and they would've been married by common law in some places 3. He's in control of when she becomes a wife. I'm really not tryna take her side but she showed up in their relationship just as she planned to show up as a wife. She was honest. He went along with something he wasnt comfortable with meaning he wasn't being honest or assertive about the kind of relationship he wanted. There's nothing wrong with the lifestyle that either one of them wanted. She's not a leech for wanting to be a homemaker and he's not less of a man for wanting her to contribute. They are simply just not aligned in their relationship goals.

Nicholas, you did the right thing. From now on be smart, don't tell the girl how much you make. Girl has to be working, aligned with your $$ and faith values at a minimum. Preferably debt free. Sell the house if the ex doesn't leave you alone.

I think this is a good thing. That woman should be given a chance to learn to take care of herself before she decides to be a homemaker.

What an unusual call. It's never good for a relationship when a couple are on two different budgets and have two different sets of goals.

He made the right choice. He'll be so much better off in life thinking with his big head and not the little one.

yeah he sounds like the typa guy who drives a 2012 mini cooper

Guy just was fed up for the long time that she didn't contribute, and finally got the catalyst from the video to actually stand up for himself and do something. Good! Dont fund the lifestyle if stay at home girlfriends, in most cases they are leeches!

It's one thing to have a wife and mother stay home with the kids....it's quite another for a young person, man or woman, to not work. That's weird. For the first 3 years of our marriage, my wife and I both worked full time. Then, I went back to school, worked part time, and my wife kept working full time even after she had our first child. My wife's last day of work was the Friday before I graduated and she has not worked outside of the home since (26 years). I am not "dragging her along"- we are full partners and all income is our income even though the check has my name on it. When Dave said that, I think he was talking about attitude, not income.

I didn’t know collision is an industry before this call.

A "homemaker" without children and coupled with a young man is guaranteed to hardly be doing much. Most young men living on their own easily handle cooking and cleaning and necessary maintenance and errands. A childless couple with one calling themselves a "homemaker" makes absolutely no sense, unless there's some serious issues with the layabout.

This couple absolutely made some seriously bad decisions. Her staying home while they weren’t married is absolutely delusional. Him allowing her to move in with him and not work is also absolutely delusional. They don’t need to be together. I’m glad he is doing it now instead 20 years from now. I get that he wants someone who is accomplished, and has goals. In order to find that, he can’t let women move in with him, and just live off him. He needs to think about what he wants his future to look like, and that woman needs to think about her own financial security.

So he's OK with her staying at home if they were married. So why didn't he put a ring on it?

5:47 You guys combined your life before you were even aligned in life. Whew.... Take a breath. That's a great nugget George!

Why does he need a "homemaker?" He has no kids and is a young single guy.

He woke up before it was too late. Bravo.

He made the right decision. Don't do it again. You need to be equally yoked with your other half so that means shared vision and values, no matter who brings in the income or how much.

This girl probably when from mom and dad's to his house. She didn't learn how to grow up, pay bills. And mom and dad are bailing her out again with the car. Sounds like breaking up is for the best.

I'm a single man who cooks, cleans, does all his household duties, and debt free. Having a gf with no kids who doesn't work is crazy to me when I can do everything a homemaker can without the burden of taking care of another human financially

george and ken are so good together

My WIFE doesn't work. Outside of our house. She certainly works though. Idk what this kid is on about expecting his girlfriend to do anything.

Something is off about this story- I feel there is something missing. Something is off...🧐🧐🧐

Their synchronized reaction at 1:46 is hilarious 😂

"I feel like I'm choosing my finances over her." No, you are choosing your worldview over her worldview. And that's okay. It's best to be with somebody who is inline with your worldview. Things like finances, religion, work ethic, etc.

He may have made the right choice but his enabling decisions didn't push her to become independent. It kinda late when he added her to his checking account, signed for her to get a car, and moved her out of her parents home. This is the perfect example of a person who is young and didn't make the best decisions overall thank God they didn't have any children through this relationship.

“Don’t combine your lives before you are ALIGNED in life” that’s good George! 🙌🏾👏🏾

I guess it depends on how she occupies her time as a "homemaker". The question is, would she still be with this guy if he earned half of what he does.

Nicholas realized probably no one else wants him in spite of Being in the Collision Industry and having a 2012 Mini Cooper 😂

Reading betwee the lines: She was waaaayyyy out of his league, he got her as a trophy, and took care of her to inflate his own ego and show off to his friends but then he got buyers remorse.

In the whole conversation I didn't hear a word about LOVE...

Why is it important that we know what your parents own or do?

You made the right choice. She didn’t ever want to work and just live off your success. Find someone with your same financial goals.

Good decision Nicholas! She will never change! You will find someone who is just as motivated as you are.

Ramsey team... Not everyone wants marriage. Deal with it.

Sounds like there's something else that he is leaving out? Why rent out the home. Just to move someplace else and pay rent? Which is more likely then his mortgage. In the 6 years of dating, he never talked to her about getting a job?

Sounds like he let her stay at home, didn’t push that she should work, combined everything, and then 6 years later figured out that was a bad decision. I wouldn’t let a relationship go past moving in with someone who didn’t work 🤷🏻‍♀️ he was either fine with it or wasn’t firm enough about it bothering him.

Context is always key because this was really making me angry! Saying that homemakers need to put in and help with finances but yet it wasn't even about that it was about she was hoping with debt!! But yet this dude thinks He didn't have no part in it but he had all a part in it!! He was the one actually taking out the loans!! But yet you complain that she took it out? Dude stay single!!

This guy says he listened to Dave and then combined finances before even getting married, never talked to her seriously about money and planned on renting instead of selling a property with good equity that he no longer needs. I think he needs to listen to Dave for a little while longer

I worked full time until we had kids and switched to part time. After the kids were driving I went back to full time. When I say part time I was still working 32 hours a week.

All these dudes moving women in and are not married. Kings, do not do this!

Love George’s response

Guy doesn't know the difference between dating & living together!! The eye rolls of the panelist Nicholas was priceless!!

Times are changing but a lot of guys make so much more than their significant other that it's negligible. If he loved her it shouldn't have been a complete deal breaker.

I have been a homemaker without kids for years. We had to adopt at one point after the waiting. I increased our income with my ability to buy stuff at lower prices, even if it was bread. Never in my wildest dreams I thought about going out and buy expensive stuff like I had a sugar daddy!! Being home is not the problem, acting like you won the lottery is

I had this convo with my partner on date number 3. It’s worked out fantastically for us

Wishing everyone a blessed happy mother's day praise God praying for Everyone everyday God bless you all

I want to hear her side of the story. Being a homemaker is a job.

Never date someone who doesn't work. Period. Also never get married

This dude is so weird

The next relationship, don't waist her time for 6 years. Within the first month of dating learn if she has a career. Learn about her moves on debt.

The poor dad thought he was free but now has to take over her loans 😂

It would have been worse if he had married her. You made the right decision friend.

Never knew collision tech was a thing, pretty cool! Also, playing house is not usually good long term.

This young man should've dumped her years ago. The host don't have a problem with "her" wanting to be a homemaker ? She's 23. They're not married. They have no children. Why the heck, does she need to be home ? If a woman called and said, She's been supporting her boyfriend for the last six years, because he won't get a job. They would tell her, He's a BUM. Get rid of him. But, because this is about a lazy azz woman. They're trying to make up a bunch of BS excuses and make him feel bad. They're telling him, "Approaching a relationship asking "What does she bring to the table" is the wrong way to approach a relationship". Then, they (turn around) and tell women. "What does he have to offer you" ? "He needs to have something to give to you 🥴.

If they had kids and she's a stay at home mom, yes, he should provide. But until then, she should work.

At no point did he say he loves or misses her. SHE'S the one who dodged a bullet.

You should NEVER live together before marriage. Your decision to be with her for 6 years living together was wrong. If you had 3 dates with her and wanted a committed relationship, then being exclusive followed by engagement was the next step. This is what my husband and I did, and we were married for 32 years before his passing. Our home and 2 vehicles were paid off along with other debt. If you're thinking that as a homemaker I did nothing, I took care of our house and 2 children as well as managing our income, so our debt could be paid off when the time came.

I’ve been married for 6 years, I’ve never not had a full time job. I have no children, and would love to be a stay at home mom when the time comes (if it does), but until then…

We need to hear from the lady.

You guys have to understand taking care of the home and taking care of you require planning, time, and brainstorming. What I'm starting to find is that men say they want 50/50 BUT it ends up being 25/75. Why? Because these men want the women to continue to cook, clean, schedule repairs, schedule appointments, hold events, be a gymnast in the bedroom while going 50/50. But the men aren't lifting a finger so that they too can go 50/50 on the cooking, cleaning, event planning, etc.

Good for u Nicholas I was stuck i a similar situation until she broke it off i was back to my financial track and found a better GF with same values

Good job

Did he already mention that his family owns many companies in Missouri??? 🙄

I’m torn between “she was looking for a free ride” and “she’s a traditional woman that wants to get married, have kids and take care of the home” I need to hear her side.

I like Ken’s approach 😂

Glad he come to his senses finally. I'm glad they held him accountable too.

two sides to the story. He has strung her along for 6 years without marrying her

If you are listening, you'll know before the third date. We need to do more paying attention and less talking

First day talking, conversation with my husband: there's one thing I want. No debt. Oh, and lot of kids, because I don't believe God would give us more kids than he would help us to afford. 8 kids, no debt, never had a credit card, did a lot of praying and obeying. I never worked, except in our business. I didn't take a paycheck from our business. Our money is OUR money, not his, not mine. We did borrow money, after 20 years, to buy property and business equipment. All is paid off, now, by the hand of God and his direction in our business.

Good job ! Standin on business

Hey big ups to the homie. Ain’t no free rides on his bus. Love that for him

He was supporting her on her behavior for 6 years and now he is blaming only her? Did he ever tried to discuss with her that he want some changes or it is over? Or he just used her for 6 years and when he was ready to move back to his wealthy family he just kicked her to the curb with first excuse he found? He literally said he broke up with her after 6 years after watching video. I am actually sorry about this girl. This is just his side of the story and I am not buying it.

He didn't wake up one day and make this decision. This was 6 years of non-alignment.

This man is on a mission...and a little obsessed with the dave Ramsey way of life... Dave's way or the highway......Yeee to the f******* HAW man!! 🤠

This young man needs more life experience

people commenting didn't even listen to this guy..... he created the situation, had a moment, and then just flipped his life upside down. Financially mature, yes, emotionally - no.

That conversation should be had...Before the date or on date #1!

The problem is majority of Americans think debt is okay.. unless they are following Dave Ramsey plan then good luck finding someone