I left my marriage after 23 years! I got tired of being hurt by a man who I had loved for years 

I quit my first marriage after 7yrs with three precious babies Stayed single for 5 yes Met my current husband We have now been married 19 yrs n ours have been a very great marriage. I thank God so much for His grace

This is the story of my life mungu Tuonee huruma we women I became single while married

Oh dear this story is true for every home I Mt Kenya region. People growing up glorified those who drunk daily and spent all there time drinking. My uncles walked that path then ended up hopeless despite holding respectable job. Let's reflect and change

Very informative session. Sometimes,we Men fail our wives.....Bigtime. In the eyes of God,this woman really tried.

I stayed in an abusive marriage for 22 years for the sake of my 3 precious children. I realized staying was actually very unhealthy for them.i left in 2021 and I'm now able to breathe again taking one day at a time

To everyone reading this.. If you your parents ever warn you of a person....sit down think twice....ask questions....n sit down again and think harder.... our parents see things we don't see....and they almost if not always have our best interest in their hearts... Secondly never be too spiteful to go back home to admit and apologize to them.."they saw right and you was right"...as much as youd think you too grown up for it.kiburi yako itakuumiza bure.. remember a parent's love is to see you outlive them and have a better life than them...(rem the prodigal son) 3. Never ignore red flags... they'll come haunt you oneday.... staying with a toxic partner while giving yourself false hope of 'he will change' that's foolish.... people change when n for who they want.... 4.Never give your children as an excuse of staying in a toxic marriage...it does more damage to them than good... remember children mould their characters and personalities around the environment they are first introduced to when they come to life... If you show the shitty marriage is the way of life... they'll never see themselves of deserving any better 5.Never be afraid of 'what society will say' being a people pleaser Will rob you life...and destiny... many times society don't even care...it's your foolish ego holding you back 6.Stop calling come we stay cohabitation..especially pia marriage hata that doesn't have blessings from parents...no church involved. God ordained...God doesn't ordained unities based on selfish interest...lust and toxicity Am disappointed in this woman blaming his father for her useless marriage...note even crediting him (her father) for securing her a job that turned out to be her saving straw... atlast

Good wives are hard to come by but men overlook that and assume that when wives are good and faithful and homemakes they are foolish and that they were meant to be that way. To me I think there's a crisis in generations both our parents and ours their children. This is why : You know I find it hard to understand how men who got married along time ago have been mistreating their wives . (This is evident because this is not the first story you are bringing like this one metha ya Kagoni . ) When us their children are finding a challenging time to get women who have the character and wifely values like being homemakers and supportive wives.

She is a wise and hardworking woman 😊...i have learned a lot as a 21yr old lady

❣️♥️🌹since there is no expert in marriage I will learn from others. And avoid what I should avoid

Humble request,Monica give us an episode to show that Marriage really works...It will go a long way in inspiring those who have decided to take this path of marriage

I left after 38years and I am done.i had planned to love,care cook wash sleep with him but ........

Very strong woman. Kudos Njoki for sticking it out for so long and always doing the right thing. you made all the right choices except rushing into marriage. It is well.

Njoki ur life story has moved me cos it is a photo copy of my life.leaving this marriage is a nightmare cos he can't stand on his two feet.

A lot of wisdom detected in this lady, i just love her, i wish i can tell my story too.

Mine does not drink ,but I also left all projects I had at home because of unexplainable things, marriage is toughest job you can be assigned next to parenting

I am married clocking nine years now but I understand this lady fully😮... Atleast she had a job thanks to her Dad.

Mi naona gen z watahave kuwa dayscholars kwa marriage.this kids have seen a lot enough for them to decide marriage is a scam 😢

After this story, I hope people will go slow on judging ladies who decide to give up on the marriage institution. Njoki is really a patient woman. Indeed God was with her in her whole journey..

Very educative.. I can relate to that my mum ameishi kuvumilia juu yetu now 34yrs in single but married

Story worth listening,,congrats brave woman you are a conqueror and u will go far.

I personally know this lady,,,,,we schooled together and were brought up together,,,,she was really hard working,,,,it pains to see how drinking can waste and there r still people drinking carelessly as if there was no tomorrow,may we learn from you,,God bless you Njoki and ur family,may you never lack,,,,,

I am in a similar situation, 16 yrs in marriage with an alcoholic man, it is very challenging especially being a housewife but u put up with it for the sake of the kids. i hope one day i will be able to restart my life too.

Woooiiii Ngai Wa atumia no ariuka.

I love Njoki 's spirit and focus. Nevertheless i don't like the way she is blaming her late father simply because he did not tell her why he and by devote they ( both parents) diidnt tell her why they were not supporting their marriage. Firstly did she ask them why they were not ? Secondly since she knew from onset that he was a drunker Why did she take time to learn his behaviours ? Why rush in the institution of marriage. In her story the parents are coming out strongly as a very loving , Supportive and responsible. No wonder the father went all the way to look for her at Nyeri to take her empowerment letter. Including making sure she signed the letter .of empowerment he helped her acquire. despite the fact that she was married. How many would wish to have such kind of parents . He even went a head to giving her a plot. He sibbling are also good. I have a feeling if Nloki was a little bit patient the parent could have taken her college. I would have loved if Kagoni asked her whether her sibbling were taken to college or were supported to settle. That not withstanding I love the way she (Njoki) was able to pick herself up easily and moved on with her life. The story is resourceful.

Ni dakenio ni rugano rwa mutumia uyu very encouraging..

Am 26 yrs and going through the same ,i would really want to talk to this mum, Monica please get me intouch with her

I got married in 2019 left 2022 I came to realise u cannot change a man

If it's not working it is not working no matter the years

This s real.A woman can b patient 4 long bt akiamua, ameamua. M I left after 25yrs & I don't regret.

My story here. 24 yrs, married but single, madharao, cold war, God give me direction.

Me too married for twenty three years but now am feedup. Kukaa na mlevi ni kazi. Hiyo kiatu mwenye huwa ameivaa ndiye huwa anahisi hiyo uchungu.

Am not yet married but i always love listening to this stories hadi mtu anaogopa

She is wise and full of wisdom,Monica you need to interview the likes of our mum's, who have been in marriage for the last 40yrs and enjoying marriage institution. To motivate our generation

This is exactly my life story with my ex husband,I was going through that 😭,he can't pay school fees,he can't buy food or paying bills 😢,pesa yake ilikuwa ya pombe na bangi ,na nikimuitisha pesa ni vita😢,weeeuh I was single but married at that time,but. I thank God niliondokea hiyo uchungu,saa hii nangangana my life yangu na watoi wangu

I left after 26 years nasikia ameoa kasichana kadogo kaa daughter yangu, but who cares? Mimi nilihamia uk 🇬🇧 nilimuacha kawangware.

This is a very great woman,wise clever,reasoning is high.i wish she went to college

This is me now am in marriage only for my kids wasikuje Kuni blame ati niliwatoa kwa baba Yao....I think I can't change a man unless he decide s to change

The things women go through for their kids. Another truly remarkable story. ❤

Very very educative, you are straight forward lady ❤

Aki Wamama wanajua kujipanga, that's awesome

I got married in 2018 but sai mahali imefika i better quit for my peace of mind

Nice lady, very bright. Was a very good wife

KANGIREGA NYINA GATIHONAGA.UNGIORIRIE ACIARI MARAREGA NIKI.

Tiga kublame aciari tabathari, mekire ouria monire best to their knowledge.

she is right. single motherhood is not good but sometimes the circumstances are such that.............. you have no choice!

Kuria kungi Martha ni uiru wa arume kuria atumia aouninite micii.muthuru ndendaga mutumia ungika undu ukuoneka no ugurire irio irio ithire.actually no body knows what to do

you are strong woman keep it up. Ningukuria kiuria. Wee niwaracaiirio ni muthuri ucio? okorwo anja ni aca ubatii kuhoya kirathimo kuri aciari aku nigetha ukendia kana uguranire ciana ciaku, umenyerere muno ndukendie na ndwatwariirwo wahota kwirianiria

Thank you Monica for the shout out ❤

Strong woman beautiful ❤mama

This is a very patient woman and a very smart one

Really wazazi hupata shinda. After only one year after school you blame the parents for failures.

Wee Better mi after 11yrs nilienda nkiendanga aki

This story is exactly what I went through.

Mama Weru you are a strong woman. Yaani i grew up with your kids at Gathoge and they are still great friends but I never knew this is what they were going through. May God repay back the years lost.

Waah... What a story... You are going far my siz

Woii Njoki wa muraguri...plot ya Gathoge yanyua mae...it is well!

You came out victorious ma weru

Women women. Lo! Endurance, perseverance, resilience. Must women wait for such a long time. Is it really worth it.

Madam, congrats but you took soo long to live. You are not alone. The part that you did everything is the best part. You will never look back n regret anything congrats.. so many have done the same. God knows it all.

I love the way she is hardworking, no wonder wishes to become single, ni mambo inatupatanga

Better late than never my sister.

This also a story of my life so we r many but now am at peace

I have learnt a lot from this lady.... May God bless and keep her. May I be wise in everything I do, 23 years is not little. From this story, if it's not working, please speak out, be loud about it, if nothing changes, pack while you are still young.

That my dad no acoholic we never know what he earn he is employed by government you will never here any rumors that he has a sidechic he never provide for his family bt he is working how can you now describe such shually my mum is a sinhle mother of 4 she have to provide for as in everything and even he come to eat what he has not provide and never question about his money i have learn alot from marriages especially with my family bt for me i said is a no go zone first am working to better my life b4 marriage 8f i find such a man i just run away without looking back.

You're going very far njoki keep it up

can't wait

Such an inspirational testimony 🎉❤

My story exactly 😢😢😢Encouraged sana

Sorry cuzo for you went through

Alcohol in families comes from somewhere, prayers changes things. It seems Alcohol is in this family , pray for your children not to continue the legacy

Plz huyu niambiwe ni wa kuzaliwa mwaka gani....naskia wanaume wa 1976 wako na hii shida.......yale mambo wa mama huwa wanavumilia

Hi Kagoni. Number ya bountiful Safaris haionekani please. Send it here

We would like to hear the other Side of the Story Honestly, From My Experience these women come here to Whitewash themselves forgetting to Speak the Truth. Persevered for 23 years and Left when the Money RAN OUT Just call it as it is People . We live with you daily Kikuyu Women and We know what your Spirit is like. Sad Our Young men don't Take time to Study these women Carefully

Never as woman lady le be slavery for any man or human in this world 🌍 👈🏽 life is to short love your self and always love your self &care your self first of all

Mimi pia nilivumilia just so that i could give my kids a complete family but deep down i wasnt happy.the guy is a kdf yet i find myself doing everything from school fees to rent to food,there are times id call him akiwa job asking for help juu hatuna food,something that the teachers had noticed my younger one would throw tantrums asubuhi juu ya njaa all he would say is kuna kitu nagojea,nikipata ill send you something,even when my son would get sick it would be the same thing last month i had enough decided to cut ties juu after 5yrs now hakuna change.i am jobless but somehow we get get,ill struggle alone.when i was capable i paid a loan for this man yet he cant help us when we need him 😏

They will not change because of you ,only God can change men

This is my story for my life true

Kagoni nimesikiza hou mama story yake n kama yangu tu nilitoka kwa doa miaka 20 yrs ....na my husband alikuwa anafanya job hio kabuni tu ...but life was not easy to make the matter wase my husband was disabled.....so angalia hi ulevi na unafumiilia sababu ya watoto na kuuliza watu wataniona ane 😢😢😢

This is a common practice today, women take advantage of men , once a woman becomes rich, or rather able, most run and leave the husband wailing in pathetic conditions Generally women don't have mercy at all , once you get broke , kwisha

Just like me,almost ten years single but married 😢

Tuko wengi akky😢

she's like my mother, nimempenda sana

Wueeh,kweli pombe ni hasara tupu.

Sipatagi hapo kagoni unasema (join)

I left mine at 13yrs... mwanaume alikuwa gambler..anakopa maloans even 100 k, yote inaisha kwa gambling....no vision no nothing....I had to call it Quits!!!🥺🥺🥺🥺

You are blaming your parents tooooo much yet from your story they stood with you most of the time. Come on.

Marriage works sure though sometime we take it as an accident...i believe wanaume need to change, women need to be taken care of

My mum stuck for 30yrs, doing everything for us and her longtime bf cum husband, tried to defend the ancestral land and was threatened with death, she opted out and continued with the defence from outside and was eventually murdered. Haki mimi na marriage...may God help me to stay peacefully single.

Waooo that was amazing

Such a strong lady

I blame you for all this..ulijuwa vizuri your husband was alcoholic and you trusted him that much..

I only saw my youthfulness in my children

Njoki is wrong to apportion blame to her parents. Surely her parents said no to that relationship from the word go! They did their best to stop it. So let her take accountability for accepting that marriage!

Story of my life , went back after sixteen yrs thinking he has changed only for him to eat all the school fee I had saved for my kids

Here is the deal, making money is one thing and investing it is another thing all together. The gentleman did not have wisdom of investing his money rather he just made merry. We walk towards beer, beer does not have control over us.

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Agikuyu ona aingi aria matanyuaga nio oru makiria...

I left after 27yrs

Sorry.....