I Left My Past as an Escort . . . Now Life Is Complicated 

This! And later on top of that many transracial adoptions that make the complexities even more so challenging.

Hello. I want to encourage you that what you wrote is not always true! My husband and I adopted our 5 month old from Guatemala in 2002. She was happy and always felt confident in our love. We explained to her that her mother could not afford to keep her and with a loving heart she allowed us to adopt her. We gave her a good life and she always knew how precious she was. We told her this daily. I miss my sweet daughter who died of kidney failure 18 months ago at 21, 13 months after my husband’s untimely death. I am now alone but grateful for every day I had my husband and awesome daughter. Let her now you love her constantly and don’t deny her birth heritage. I pray for your family and wish you all the best! 🙏🏻💜

My adopted Guatemalan daughter (Hispanic and Mayan Indian) was my heart. My husband and I adopted her at 5 months old. We are white, but it didn’t matter, she was beautiful. I lost both her at 21 and my husband in the last 2.5 years, of medical conditions. She was such a blessing to us and the best earthly present I ever got. Always tell your child how precious and loved they are! I’m praying for your family! 🙏🏻

@@brigitteevens851 I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my own mother just a couple weeks ago, also due to complications with her kidney post surgery. There hasn’t been a day I haven’t cried. Thank you for the prayers, praying for you, too ❤️

​@@sarahgordino6695You're not wrong.

The world needs more empathy. God bless you!

You are a COMPASSIONATE person.. when you’ve been through your own personal trials and traumas, you tend to have empathy for others in that situation.

Yes, it took her awhile to get to the point

ADHD and border line personality….

Because emotional trauma does this.

@@Luizgr75not bpd it’s trauma reaction

You don’t understand her trauma.

Omg i do this though. I realized earlier this year i HAVE to put my childhood to bed

You're right

I have a similar story and I’ve told it to almost zero people and I try not to think about it because I have moved on with my life. I couldn’t listen to much of this episode.

This woman is very self-absorbed. She has completely idolized her birth mother, whom she has never actually known - and villainizes the people who went looking for her and chose HER. This is someone who enjoys luxuriating in victimhood, and tells herself she has it so bad.

There are some people who just can’t luxuriate in their victim status enough. And that’s this caller. And she wants constant attention and validation for it.

Ding ding ding. Correct.

Disagree, she hasn't gotten proper help yet. And what you see as attention seeking was because the adults in her life failed her one by one. ​@@katiejon17

​She's lost & in pain.

@@katiejon17Don’t judge unless you have walked in her shoes..unless you’re a perfect person that’s had a perfect life.. which, by your comment, I’m sure you are.

She is an adult now. 33 years old. There comes a time in life where everyone around you has had enough of you, your story, & your problems. People do have compassion but there are people out there who love wallowing in their past. Get rid of the drugs & make some better choices if you want to live a better life.

But the purpose of the call was not for her to have a platform to share her entire life story, the purpose of the call was supposed to be about how to proceed through life after having been an escort in the past.

I relate 68and born with out trace It's only after searching for my birth records that the suffering infant at last the story is tolerate the abuse Ìam now a survivor and my identity by telling my story not for sympathy

Thank you. These comment sections are so pretentious and disgusting. I'm so glad none of them have a mic to speak to this woman.

The lack of sympathy in the comments was so shocking!

Andrea needs to stop seeking out national outlets to proclaim her victimhood, and seek intense psychiatric help in private.

CPTSD is still less commonly understood by most therapists and talk therapy doesn't help.

@@booksquid856 I've been working with a trauma informed therapist who specializes in sexual trauma and PTSD, which CPTSD does tend to get lumped in with. They can be hard to find at first, but once you figure out out to find the right therapists you can get find a good one. Even then, it takes a long time to build trust with them, and stick it out through the emotional pain. That's why people need a second person, a non-medical support to get them through that and support them as a person.

Jesus, what a F-ing Train wreck. The Husband has got to be thinking WTF. Her looks will fade. Or have faded already and now she seeks attention by 'telling the World' about her choices. WTF, we all had rough childhoods. I've been hit too many times to count. I didn't do any of the BS she's done. C'mon Deloney. Let's hear it? How proud you are of her lol.

:((( 😢

it is part of healing. Her story is extraordinary is some ways. She deserves grace.

Wow OP super insightful…except she says in the first 20 seconds that she struggles with needing acceptance. So maybe you’re just restating the obvious

I completely agree. I knew a woman like this. No matter what the event, circumstance, or situation she would always bring up her super sad life story and it really was traumatic but you can't tell that EVERYWHERE!! It was extremely depressing and I started to avoid her for it. Everyone would suggest therapy but I think she just let it go in one ear and out the other. She was 100% addicted to her story and pity it got her

people like you make me sick, her story is awful. she was abused and betrayed by the people that were supposed to protect her , she deserves to tell HER story

@@clararob9869 a lot of misogyny here

Hard agree.

It's not about her. It's about you. When you listen to this story and John, what can you learn from it? What valuable tools, strategies or ideas can you take from it and improve your life with?

People NEED to feel their emotions very, very much matter. That only happens when a Patient Person shows them genuine Empathy, (not a "Get To The Point" attitude.) Personally I don't strive to get this from human beings TOO much, anymore, because there are So Few genuinely unselfish human beings to find. Instead, I strive to GIVE that feeling of Safety to as many people as I can, by GIVING Empathy to others, (even in PASSING, talking about the hot or cold weather they're getting through.) I also strive daily to lean hard on my Father in heaven and my Jesus my Savior Who love me FIERCELY, powerfully, MAGNIFICENTLY and Perfectly, Who watch over me closely and tenderly every minute of every day, and Who NEVER cut me off when listening to me, but give me COURAGE to thrive and enCourage~ment, with never failing and ENDLESS Love. And I learn everything I CAN about Them and how to become a more knowledgeable, loving person, like They are. I work hard at everything I choose to do. Hard Work in ANY way is heroic! Obeying Him and enforcing boundaries with human beings who don't obey Him are heroic achievements too. That's ME. You do YOU, I'll do me. I hope someday you'll join us but THIS is how I do MY Life and try hard to bless and enCourage "rambling on, too needy" people, whom I-I-I encounter. God be with you and Keep you. I think you need that type of love also, but am not sure if you can admit it. It's okay. You're just as lovable as I am or anyone ELSE. HONEST : I have that from a very reliable Source of all knowledge and love ...wink (;

And that's good.

Yeah empathy and listening is a part of being a good therapist

Lol, sadly I can relate! I'm like GET TO THE POINT and THEN we can backtrack.

I would imagine it takes long to get to the point because it's hard to let the words out. They may be ill-equipped in that area. Perhaps big plans are made initially to tell it like it is and then when the day comes, people fall flat through no fault of their own. The words just don't come easily. I believe there are many factors why people take so long to get to the point. Intense patience during these times is needed.

As someone who got clean from heroin, I do not agree at all. Dwelling on trauma and past mistakes only keeps you stuck there. You have to get excited about something else, become somebody else, and put your shoulder to the wheel. This caller will never get there, though, because she enjoys her victim hood and living in the past. Wounds heal by leaving them alone, not by picking them open again and again. I have been clean for 15 years, by the way. I now work as an engineer and have a beautiful family.

@@montymython754 why would you think taking the time out to heal is dwelling? Most of the diseases we have today from high blood pressure to cancer are from people who have ignored the emotional symptoms until it became physical ones. I mean you are right. She should probably get excited about something and go to school but she should find a good counselor too. Especially if she's going to be a counselor

​@@montymython754 well done for your achievement. Sending ❤

I doubt she could assist as a 12 step sponsor. Too much baggage.

That's a valid point, but with the right training, mentorship, and consistent talk therapy she could be an empathetic counselor. One main thing she would need to focus on is not using time with clients to loop & monologe her own story.

The mom may not have had a choice in having a child. She may have been in a better situation to raise a child, but death, illness, or any number of uncontrollable sufferings took it away from her. Deloney wasn't given much information about the bio mom, and she wasn't the focus of the discussion. Given level of trauma the caller was dealing with, it may be better for her to know that she was loved and wanted.

That's why they call it the God shaped hole in our hearts

I don't get the comparison. One person's trauma doesn't matter just because there are so many others? I feel mortified by the harshness in the comment section overall. Therapy is still behind on learning how to deal with CPTSD, and so many people like this fail to find appropriate treatments. So far I have heard that some EMDR, some shrooms, and the "Daily Practice" ( crappy childhood fairy) help.

@@booksquid856 Life is harsh. And its judgments of people's outcomes are even harsher.

Forgive yourself and forgive those people neglects you and abused you, so that you can start healing. FORGIVENESS = HEALING Ask and pray to God for guidance and directions in your life.

That's not completely why boys join gangs and sell drugs in certain environments. They need protection and also money to take care of themselves and their siblings because their parents don't make enough or may have drug problems etc and they're too young to get good jobs

To be honest a lot of victims of childhood trauma actually understate what happened too them.

Haha, good one

What a sick comment !

Why are you listening to her story, do you feel better judging her. Maybe use your time to do something useful.

@@michelledehaen8997 It's based in reality. It that FEELS "sick" to you - it's because this woman is sick.

@@oc2538 I'm an RN who's "used my time" working with adolescents in crisis - like group homes for girls who are drug addicts, have past SA, and are struggling to stay alive. You know how they survive? By people caring enough, and putting in the actual effort, to help them stop living in their trauma, and move THROUGH it and OUT of it. You know who ends up offing themselves? The ones who continue to live in it - and people like you not only applaud them for living IN it, but encourage them to keep doing so. But these people don't matter to you - what matters is you virtue signaling and publicly announcing what an amazing person you are... while the people you use for this are dying. So you can eff ALL the way off.

The dad who abused her WAS a villian, she didn't misrepresent that at all. And it sounded like she loved her adoptive mom and cherished the close relationship they had, even if it wasn't the healthiest.

The dad didn’t get “carried away” what he did was assault and battery which is a criminal offense! The reason he kept telling her not to tell anyone is because charges could have & should have been pressed! I hope you are not responsible for any children with the mentality you have!!!

@@wsh415 highly doubtful.. every state has legal protections for parents disciplining kids. She said it was one slap. If it was more then one slap then that changes things but this would almost certainly be viewed as disciplining a child and would be treated as such. Not saying it was right, but its not a reason for her whole life to fall apart.

I agree.

It can actually be really difficult being adopted, even when you are adopted into a good family. Smh

You can tell the people that didn’t have parents that gave a crap. I’m 45 and remember my mother hauling off and slapping my mouth when I was rude to her. Meh - WTF was she supposed to do? Let me become an absolute nightmare? I thank her for that, she CARED enough to DO something when her words had no effect. She unexpectedly passed away a decade ago, and I was with her for her last four days on life support, and there holding her hand when she took her last breath. So many people want, so badly, to be seen as “victims” and get attention for it. This woman is her absolute worst enemy. She HAS parents, but she villainizes them and then idolizes her biological mother whom cannot possibly know anything about. She has no concept that her adopted parents were showing her a mindless by assuring her that her birth mother loved her. This woman needs help - in PRIVATE.

Somebody help me understand!😅

Seems like self-pity to me because of the wrong decisions she made in the past.

@@bittehiereinfugen7723exactly. Fucking and sucking for drugs💀

Wow. I read a lot of comments. This is the only one I’ve commented on so far. You are 100% right he does have ocpd. Luckily my father and I are in a great place now. Better than ever. We have a lot of work to do but I’m grateful. One day I decided to forgive him and start a relationship with him. I would still be on heroin if I hadn’t chosen to forgive him. Did he ever say sorry ? Not necessarily. It’s the start of healing.

I’m impressed you caught on to that

Bravo for not being SELFISH...🎉🎉

​​​​​@@Andrea.Lynn114 My insight comes from 16 years of living with - and loving - someone with OCPD. I got chills when I heard that part about the OJ, it reminded me of the time we were moving interstate and I packed up my car and followed him to our new place few days after he did. I pulled up and he greeted me like a car-jacker, screaming at me to get out of the car cos I arrived later than he expected... starts tearing items out of my car... and then he found the OJ and other grocery items. Brand new, unopened, unspoilt... but he went (next level) Off His Brain. More stuff for him to have to find space for in the pantry, I doubt most men I know would react so crazy if they caught their woman cheating! I think I blanked out how just how bad it got on that and multiple other occasions; I really wanted (needed) to believe I was happily married. I was not a bit surprised to hear your mother divorced your father... but happy to hear you made peace with the reality of his predisposition. I have been in therapy a year now and believe it or not my ex and I get along extremely well these days... but I could never, ever live with him again.

I wish that were true. It definitely would have been more entertaining than this ^^^

That’s a great idea! I have written stories to my dad a lot in therapy and then burned them. But this is different

different things effect different people differently, that's why it's called nature AND nurture

Yeah, emotionally distant father that only hit her once when she was a preteen. That’s mild.

​@@angryox3102 yeah...she has really embraced the victimhood. It's a shame.

I feel sorry for anyone who has this type of childhood. Children shouldn't have to endure abuse and immature adults who make poor choices. She needs to heal her inner child and not everyone figures out the correct path until they are older.

@@oc2538 You are way too lenient on her, she has had a similar upbringing to many many people. People who didn't decide to follow her path.

It is possible that she remembers her mom leaving at 8 months... that's super traumatic for a baby. I recall some things from 6 months and they were ordinary.

red pill is a significant part of the audience for this channel

😂

Yeah I’m getting that vibe too.

I tried to make the same point as well, he seems too eager to give his opinion before hearing the caller out fully

​@@LeedawG766what would you have said different?? They called for a solution, what did you expect?

I don't get that at all from him. If he is, he is extraordinary at presenting himself as present. I guess if he is burnt out he has a future in hollywood.

Bingo

And men like you love to blame women

Jesus says He's come TO heal our souls.

Two recovering addicts...it's almost certainly a codependent relationship that will sadly end in divorce

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