I'm about to turn 30 and I feel like a failure (but it's not my fault) | diary of an autistic ADHDer

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Hi friends! ☕
This is a video I've been meaning to make for a while but have been nervous to share vulnerably! But now is the time because I know so many people face these similar struggles. If this video resonates with you I'd love to hear!
Big love,
Max x
🔍 Key Topics:
- A bit about me
- Feeling the pressure of societal expectations
- How being an autistic ADHDer has affected my life situation
- How societal structures aren't actually there to serve you
- Internalised ableism
- A reminder that struggling with these things is not your fault
#AutismAwareness #LifeStruggles #Adulting #AdultingIsHard #SelfCare #AutisticSelfCare
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Hi! I'm Max and I'm an autistic ADHDer. I make videos about books and reading, my autistic experience, & building a life of joy and balance, one step at a time ⚖️🌈☀️
feel free to subscribe or come chat to me in these places:
🦋 my wholesome substack where I post musings about being an autistic adhder- itsmaxday.substack.com/
🦋 goodreads- / max-day
🦋 instagram- / its.maxday

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21 янв 2024

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@sonja9549 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing. I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. Without even knowing you - I think you're doing great. The most courageous thing we can be is ourselves ☺️🌈

@its.maxday 5 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for this comment! I'm so glad you can relate. You're doing great too!! 🧡

@jamesnock5572 5 дней назад

People will always judge no matter what you do! When i did have a job and struggling badly with depression and sensory issues, using alcohol to try and cope etc , people would make comments ! Why dont you do this, why dont you do that, so and so's done it so why cant you? etc, making me feel presurised and like i'm not achieving enough in life. But every job iv'e had has been extremely difficult and i'm not academic either. If you go for a haircut or something the first thing people ask is what you do for a living and when you are unemployed its just horrible that you feel you have to justify to them why you cant work.! I dont think a lot of people understand so called high functioning autism, and the daily challengers it brings, they probably just think he looks and sounds alright so he should be working!!! but because i'm masking a lot of the time they dont know the real me at all. Very good video. Thank you🙋‍♂️

@BooksToAshes 5 месяцев назад

Wow, I relate to you so much. I'm turning 30 in March and struggle with a lot of things. I haven't worked in years, the one job I LOVED and was almost perfect for me I can't do anymore because I moved hours away so my boyfriend can keep his better paid job, then a medical condition popped up that makes it impossible for me to do what I went to college for, something I was passionate about, suddenly gone. All I have left is customer service jobs in my little city and I don't think I could do it, my prior jobs had minimal to no human interaction, so dealing with people everyday is terrifying (I might have to though, money is super tight). I'm not diagnosed, but I really, really relate to you and know how difficult it can be, it feels debilitating, lonely, and draining all in one. I wish you the best with everything, I wish the world was kinder to us all and that it wasn't so difficult to just live

@its.maxday 5 месяцев назад

I'm sooo glad this video resonated for you. I'm sorry to hear that you've been dealing with illness, I know how hard it can be to WANT to do the things you're passionate about but to not be able to. I also wish it wasn't so difficult for us to move through the world and do the things we need to do to live, but I'm glad we have this space and I hope you find some solace in my channel

@BooksToAshes 4 месяца назад

@@its.maxdaythank you so much. Wishing you well going forward, I’m hoping the best for us all ♥️

@stepstoserenity 2 месяца назад

Hi, just want to say that I see you and hear you. There are indeed a ton of societal expectations that we shouldn't absorb, but it's difficult not to. I remain hopeful for a more inclusive, accessible, and understanding society in future.

@its.maxday 14 дней назад

Thanks so much for this response! It's so wonderful to be creating this little RU-vid space where folks are resonating with some of the things I experience and we can all connect in that way. I also try to stay positive in my belief that this type of stuff will get better and the future society will be more compassionate and open to the beauty of how diverse humanity is!

@kemam8798 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing your story. I heard Marianne Williamson ( she is running for president) say yesterday that in the 70's a family could own a car and a home, feed 4 people and only 1 person had a job. I also read yesterday Henry Ford ( Ford cars) popularized the 40 hour working week in 1926 just under 100 years ago. The system is certainly not serving the people. You are not alone. Dont let the system grind you down you are far too special for that. ❤

@its.maxday 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for this comment! ❤ Very interesting to hear about those facts, I feel like we so often forget how different society is from only 50 years ago