I'm afraid of leaving school and actually being alone. School is the only thing I do, without it i'd be dying from boredom. It sounds dumb but i can't imagine homeschooling, having no one to talk to for weeks...
I don't think it's dumb. Sure, I've been homeschooled so I can't say I feel the same, but I can see where you're coming from. Having no one to talk to just because you're homeschooled isn't something that will happen typically, but I can say I've gone prolonged periods of time without interacting with someone outside of my family. And it sucks at times. It's nice though, not having to wake up early to go to school for several hours, and sometimes you just need to get away from people. I don't think even extroverted people can go a long period of time without spending some alone time. Plus for homeschool students, if you want to have people to talk to, try putting yourself out there. Doing community theater for example, got me most of my friends.
learn a new skill trust me that's what i try to do whenever im bored and it gets rids of boredom it's just like school but you're actually learning something useful
You're never alone, the internet is a broad place, if you have access to it I'm sure you will have no trouble finding the people who you resonate with, even if they are miles and miles away, or even a continent away, you'll still have someone. On that note, if meeting people online doesn't tickle your fancy, try expanding to more places of interest, you'll eventually find likeminded individuals who you can hang out with, and actually form a real bond with, that isn't being held together by a computer screen. Find hobbies, things to do, get into trade work and learn the different essentials of life. It'll be a few years of quenching your boredom, and you'll never have to pay for a mechanic or a plumber/electrician again :D In life there are plenty of things to do, you just have to search for them.
Y’know, I think… What really describes this feeling best to me, is having all community taken away. I am homeschooled, I’m fifteen, I have been homeschooled since 7th grade I have an odd schedule which doesn’t leave all that much room to hang out with my friends, I’m the youngest sibling, And I am in no clubs or activities with anyone else. Even for an introvert like me it’s really, REALLY taxing on the mental At some point in anyone’s lives, they will have to know how to be alone, and live on. I did learn that, but now I really wish I was in some sort of activities. It still sucks to be alone. I feel like I’m afraid of never getting any highschool, and I think that’s because highschool has a lot of people, and being around peers gives you a chance to make yourself noticed. And, you’re a little more carefree. That’s why I think it’s fun… I don’t really know, I’ve never been, BUT if that’s what highschool is… Then what you want is something where there are people to make yourself noticed by, who give you an exciting opportunity, whether or not you take it. And you also get to see everyone else around you who DOES get noticed, which is also very cool Maybe then we gotta fine some kind of community or something- bcuz being carefree and having a chance to make a change in an everyday environment, simply isn’t something that is exclusive to highschool I mean I’ve wanted to talk to my parents, and I kinda have, but nothing has changed, and it doesn’t seem like there is any change coming soon. Maybe just go outside, on a certain walk in town, when there are people around. Have an everyday schedule, that puts you in a social place which gives you that chance to stand out. That’s what I wanna do anyway… I guess I can test it out to see if it leads anywhere lol
I really like this type of content. Growing up, I watched techno and used to listen to his skywars commentary/stories about his life experiences like school, career, bonds, and his community. While I laughed and enjoyed those moments when I was younger. Now, being older, these skywars commentaries and your advice do bring comfort because of how much relatable it is to teenagers like me who are quite confused about how life revolves. I hope you realize that you are like a big wise brother to your audience. Keep up the good work, niko!
yooo bro, Im 25, I thought the exact same at that age honestly. Think I am only now beginning to really kickstart my life with what i have always wanted to do. but I am still very far away from what I know I can achieve! Don't worry about anyone else right now other than yourself. Build yourself up, aim for something, you can achieve anything. I know DJ's who started 2 years ago and they are 25/27 and they are getting paid for what they do travelling the world with like minded people! I was at a low point when I started this channel but I knew I could do it and I enjoyed it. I have the regret I didn't start it when I was 17 because at my age now I would probably be living off the youtube money. You have time man enjoy it and appreciate it, best thing you can do is simply start doing things, build it up slow and see what you enjoy. Also man, learn to enjoy your own company! Its hard when you feel alone and have nobody else but its much easier when you are comfortable with being alone. Honestly in the next 8 years even 15 years, think about how much you are going to experience and your in control of what happens. If you end up in bad relationships with friends / partners, you have the power to walk away from it. (I have wrote a lot here but I can completely relate to how your feeling, don't stress bro life's going to be good you just have to make it that way!)
Graduating class of 2022. Get used to it. Unless you have very close friends who live nearby or you keep in constant contact with, it's going to become your new normal really fast. It likely already has. There's no way to be prepared for the real world. Unfortunately. But good luck in your journey.
@@Logman7_ you will be sound bro, don't waste your time stressing go try new things, go live abroad go meet new people, aim for a goal of yours, build a job for yourself with something you enjoy. You will meet like minded people if you follow things you enjoy
I'm 17, turning 18 in august, and yeah, growing up is scary. i dread it, but i also welcome it with open arms, ill be free to do what i please, ill be able to go into my dream career (getting a CDL and becoming a truck driver), start a family with my lovely girlfriend, meet all my long distance friends, etc. while there's horrid things to adulthood like having a chance to starve to death or go homeless or whatever, there's so much light at the end of the tunnel if we can manage to pull through all of the muck. Welcome adulthood, but don't ever let it completely consume your inner child. and you'll be happy
@@125minecraftsmp i dont know whatll happen in my adulthood, for all i know ill go homeless, i could get some disease and not be able to afford treatment, car accidents, random attacks. then theres taxes, taxes are the worst of all
As you get more freedom in life, you have more responsibilities. Make sure you hold on to the things from your childhood that make you happy. However, put those things on the side. Focus on your career/job first. Train yourself a little bit at home in areas of life you’ll need to know when you grow up. Don’t just go into adulthood completely blind. Most importantly, enjoy your childhood now while you still can. I hope this helps. Have anymore advice, feel free to reply.
@@125minecraftsmp Freedom as in more opportunities and being able to make your own decisions without your parents. Like drinking and stuff. With that comes responsibility, “lil bro.”
Simple question: How do I just enjoy my life in the present and not constantly be stressed and worried about the future? I'm constantly stressed about my future and career and such, and the only time I'm not is when I'm gaming. Of course I know that it's not healthy for the only time I'm not stressed to be when I'm playing videogames. I've searched Google and RU-vid to try to find ways to worry less, and just enjoy, but no matter what I can't seem to do it! I'm hoping maybe you could help me out?
Write out your future in daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. Have a rough outline of your life, that will help you with uncertainty. As for presence, you have to think about the time you won't get back. I recommend reading 'Wherever You Go, There You Are' by Jon Kabat-Zinn
my birthdays coming up soon- i'll be 15. i've realized during a college course (u dont need the lore) that i want to move away to a town that's a few hours away. i have plenty of friends i love here, though. even just someone who runs the local art store. but at that city i'm going to have more opportunities whatnot and i can always visit home- if you end up putting this in the next ask niko what's your advice? i love my hometown but it feels like a childhood home- you're not meant to stay there forever.
I love your videos man! I am going into my sophomore year of high school and in the years past I have been so afraid of growing up that I have literally cried sometimes because I can’t predict what will happen when I grow up and I have tons of fears based off of growing up. These videos seem like they are coming from the heart and are genuine. Never feel like you hav to lie for content because we will still support your channel!
ik this is 3 week old but as a guy in university rn, growing up can be honestly beautiful but yes, it is daunting. It was very daunting for me back in your position (and it still is) but you've gotta realise that the future is going to be tough, but you've gotta know that if they come, then they did come. You've gotta just keep on waking up day after day and try to spend the limited time in you have left as a sophomore and focus on making good on it. Talking about those fears though can be great, and don't think its weird, everyone fears the future, just keep living your days and you'll realise how much more fun the future may end up being.
@@jamjamjunior7138 Thank you so much for this comment man, thinking about the future always gets me to my most vulnerable state and most days I honestly overthink things like “am I wasting my time” or “ what do I want to do after high school” and very often these things consume my every thoughts when I think about them. These thoughts are especially intrusive because sometimes I will be having a great day and then these kinds of thoughts randomly pop into my head and then It could escalate to the point of crying at night when I realize that I really only have a few more years where I can see my friends on a daily basis and not have to worry about taxes or what job I am going to get. In a sense, I feel like I only have a few more years of fun before life gets dull forever. That has made me question every decision I have ever made and has made me worry if I am wasting my life when I am playing video games for example or if I am truly just enjoying my younger years. I just don’t want my youth to slip away and even though I am this young I already feel like those good times are almost over forever. I literally feel like what are supposed to be the best moments of my life are fleeting and that is one of the most terrifying things I have thought about. I really hope all goes well for you in university, you made my day today for sure.
@@jamjamjunior7138 man thank you so much for this reply! I wrote a long reply before but for some reason i don’t think it is here but my main points were that I overthink everything and because i know childhood is so limited it makes me feel almost existential dread. To know these last few years of my childhood, where i get to see my friends often and where I am able to not worry about taxes and getting a job, to think these years are almost over saddens me. I will sometimes be playing video games for example and even if I am having fun I sometimes wonder if I am wasting these years of my life. I also can have my entire day ruined even it was good because these kinds of thoughts pop up in my head and I endlessly fixate on them beyond the point of reason. I just don’t want these times to end and I really don’t know what I want to do in college because so many things have parts that interest me. I really hope you are doing well in university :)
hey niko, first of all thanks for all your content! i just graduated and already got a plan for what comes after school (moving into a bigger city for work i really want to do). although i probably am a step further than many others my age, i recently found myself sometimes being sad and worrying about the future and all what could possibly go wrong (i even cried on my day of graduation because all of this stuff). i often feel alone cause asking out my high school crush didnt turn out that well and i often fall into a pit of sadness thinking about "what would've been if". in addition to that all my friends and i slowly part ways now to get into everyones own life and it feels like i loose them, even my best friends. i just wanna hold onto all the things im familiar with because it obviously just feels safe... i always tell myself that things will get better with time or when i moved out but somehow there's this feeling of fear that it won't. do you got any tips for having a more positive mindset on a situation like this and how to not "enjoy" the times of sadness because they somehow keep you in the place you're in rn?
As a 25 year old, people will come and go as you grow as a person. People I considered best friends for half of my life, I had to stop being around them for the sake of my growth. Change is scary, but living in past regrets is even scarier. Stick to your plans, your goals, your dreams, and be friends with those who push you to be better and vice versa
I just got into college, for me my puberty years where crazy. Hormones all over the place ever since I turned 13, got depressed because of that for like two years, I had a crush on a lot of guys (I'm a girl) and I only confessed to one of them three years ago. Got lucky and I'm still in a wonderful relationship with that same guy although it started very rocky since we where young and dumb. I'm glad to finally get a bit older, as I already notice that life is getting more and more stable. I'm almost 20 now, good luck and you'll be just fine
Bro. I don't think that having relationships in high school is cool idea. Because it's too traumatizing and people are fragile without mental stability at that ages. I say that because i was in that situation. And it's sucks when you understand that person don't like you. Many people died and constantly dying because of rejected love. By commiting some bad activity. I think that it's main reason is rejected love. Cause no pain i ever got worse than that. I wanted to leave that world every single day. And i don't think that i recovered from that yet. Good night and best of luck.
While I also think that long-term high school relationships aren't the best idea, I don't think it's because of how traumatizing they can be. People have varrying experiences on the topic and the fact that some can be really bad is not a reason that people shouldn't have them. The "fragile mental stability" issue is not true about every teenager, most of them are perfectly fine. Besides, the same could be argued about adult relationships between adults with mental instabilities. In any case, if people are going to date in high school, may as well try to do it right
I have a question. How do you feel so confident giving advice to people. I think i'm a bit like you, i like to help and give advice to people, but im always asking myself if i'm not mistaking. Or if this is really helpful. I do have confidence in myself but i also make mistakes, it's happening time to time and i hate it. It almost making me want to stop. I know this is kinda extrem, but i don't want to make things worse for people. I could also just say "i can't really help you" and encourage the guy but this doesn't help either. It's still better than nothing i guess. Im really interested in the way you're doing to help people. And i really love your content and your way of doing things. It's probably the best recommandations RU-vid ever made to me
Ask Niko: I met the love of my life but i cant be with them. Im not usually the one to ask for life advice as im pretty confident in my ability to take hold and charge of situations but ive never felt love like this before. this girl is from another country far from my own and i cant help but weep over the fact. when we met i was just hoping to take her out get to know her but fast forward a year and we are head over heels for each other. its a love neither of us expected to happen but are overjoyed that it happened. Neither of us wanted long distance but we care so deeply that its starting to look like that. i could go on and on with details about this one in a million but ill cut to the chase. As ill probably never see her again, do i pursue this love in hopes of finding the right time and place where one of us needs to decide to leave the their homes, or do i smile at what we had and let her go? Move on? Live our lives? Im scared of the answer because i fear that i know what it is already.
Hey Niko! I am a homeschooled teenager (online school that is) and am currently struggling with self-discipline. I am not an inherently lazy person. I love working hard, and I actually like learning, but recently I've found myself getting more and more distracted/bored. I'll break out my phone during a class, I stay up later than I should and sleep in (and I'm a morning person so I need that time to work), things like that. It sounds so stupid, because the answer is clearly: "Well you just gotta do it!" But it's like an addiction, those habits are so hard to break. What advice do you have for breaking the cycle of self-sabotoge and procrastination?
I'll be 14 in July, I ain't gonna ask a deep question (if noticed lol), I just wanna ask what kind of things you regret not doing in the past when you were a teenager. I live in Southeast Asia and i want to change my life by moving a better country for work in the future
Niko, I’m going through a rough time. My girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago. She was such a great girl to me, and it was the first time either of us was in a happy relationship where neither of us got used. But we just ended up growing apart. I have no clue why but I just stopped showing as much effort. But now I realize I still have so much love for her left. It really stings me right now and she isn’t doing much better to my knowledge. I feel I’m mainly sad because I don’t believe I’ll find a better girl than her. She treated me 1000x better than any girl I’ve been with before. And it hurts going through all of our memories. I’ve been really down for the most part, but I’ve been trudging through it. I’ve had some suicidal thoughts a few times. But I know that’s the last thing she would want. And in the end I just want to be supportive and proud of her, she really made me actually happy for a while
For the first one, i just wanna say this. It doesn’t matter how old you get, you can still enjoy the things you liked when you were a kid or a teenager. Heck, I’m 24, and I still love watching cartoons and animated movies, playing cartoony video games, reading comics, playing with legos, etc. Keep your inner childhood spirit alive, because without…you’ll forget how to have fun…and be happy. (Now, onto my question) Hay Niko, love your content, my question is…where can I go to make friends? I’m 24 (female) I don’t go out much, and I don’t have very many IRL friends. The few I do have moved away, and all the friends I talk to on a regular basis are exclusively online. My parents won’t let me go just anywhere (yes, I’m 24, and I still live with my parents and am working on being independent, etc, whatever) church is one of the only 3rd places I go to on the regular, and while it’s great there, it’s limited. I just wanna find my people, find friends who have similar interests to me, and share the same morals and values, got any ideas? Thanks ^^
Hey niko looking for some advice I’m 15 and gay, currently have a boyfriend and am generally happy, except for one thing, my grandparents, who are very homophobic are the only family members I haven’t come out to and while I know I shouldn’t because I don’t want to ruin my relationship with them I feel extremely guilty having to lie to them about who I am and how I feel.
So, I have this girl that I kind a like. I met her through dance classes. We are not that close yet and we've been hanging out together a few times. We are friends. I feel happy everytime when I'm with her. Unfortunately, I found out that she already has a boyfriend. And every time I see them together, it makes me feel weird. I don't know if this is jealousy but everytime I see them together my heart beat goes up. What should I do?
Hey Niko, i need advice about a friend that has gotten a gf and because of this fact has basically stopped hanging out/ texting/ keeping up with me and our other friends. This actually happened when he was with his first gf as well. His gf is gone for this entire week and he’s already started asking us to hang out like she’s his only priority and when she is gone he’ll just ask us instead. We talked to him about it before but he doesn’t seem to get it. What should I do? (A little side note: I and 2 other friends from the group also have gf’s and we never had this problem, it’s like our friend can’t prioritize things properly)
Hey Niko, I'm a 14.5-year-old male in the middle of summer break. I don't really have anything to do and all I've really been doing is playing with my dog and playing video games. I know its summer, but I just feel like I could be doing so much more with my days. Thoughts?
Ok I have stuff to say But I don’t feel like it’s anything… particularly easy to answer So I kinda just want to talk and get some stuff off my chest My brother is very smart He just taught me this thing he learned, Jordan Peterson basically was talking about… lies. And telling the truth. If you lie, it will make you more comfortable. Short term at the very least. Because you lie so that you can… get something in return, right? But if you want to live that protagonist life, being comfortable, isn’t gonna cut it. It will kill you eventually. So, when you tell YOUR truth, and be true about yourself BEYOND just words… Then, well it’s extremely uncomfortable, because you don’t know what will happen to you. Let’s say you have a group of “friends” which you’ve started lying about your true personality in order to be around. You are now lying to them about yourself, because you’re afraid of what will happen when they see the real you. You don’t want to lose their “friendship”, or how they make you feel. Honestly I didn’t quite believe that I was “lying” about something and THAT was why I felt like I wasn’t any kind of “protagonist” … At first I didn’t… Turns out, I’m a liar. And I’ve been lonely and neglecting everything bcuz I was afraid of what my family would think cuz I am ashamed and everything sucks and omg That was kinda a huge realization *in order to move on in my life, I have to be truthful.* Unfortunately this feels completely impossible for me. I say “feels” because I have a suspicion that what we think is impossible, is possible. Which is what I want to believe. But yeah… There was something else I wanted to say but I forgor
The only part that sucks about growing up is that you have less time to waste on wacky stuff and you get judged for it quite a bit more. The second problem can be solved by not giving a fuck but the first one will always be there. That and also the fact that you can get away with a lot of illegal shit as a kid and just get a slap on the wrist vs dozens of years in prison.
Hey Niko I’m 18 years old, I’m a male and I guess life just sucks right now, my home life is really stressful with my sibling and my mom constantly fighting, my school life is really bad since I didn’t get all my credits so now I’m struggling to get them, I have no social life, and I don’t have a girlfriend. My goals and aspirations are to just be happy in life, i don’t need to be the richest man and I don’t care much for monetary things, I want to be happy but with the way things are right now it’s kind of hard to see the greener grass on the other side. I’m contemplating just giving up and taking the easy way out since everything is just actively crushing me lower and lower. Do you have any advice on what I could do to achieve a happier state?
This video taught me a lot about my future. also niko you do know you dont have to scroll for your items use keybinds thare are comfortable to quickly get to lol. Jokes aside, this video taught me a lot. I'm grateful. I do have a question though about my life. I'm entering high school an I know that the work is going to be tough. I'm participating in this sort of advanced program I guess you could say, which honestly I don't mind that much, despite them giving a lot more homework that usual. The only problem with going to highschool, is my extracurriculars/after-school events. I like the extra-curriculars that I'm doing, it's just that I'm pretty sure I can't keep up with them, and the pressure is really getting on to me. Lately I haven't been spending that much time with people I like, such as my family, and I've been staying in my room a lot just trying to cram whatever I can do. Whenever I think about quitting this, I still realize that there's a lot of good friends that I've made from going to these after-school events. But for one of my final problems, I also realize that if I do these after school things, I won't be able to play video games, or hang out with friends. School isn't really the problem, and I really like my extra-curricular events, I don't really want to drop them. I honestly don't really know what to do, and I'd really appreciate it if you could answer this question.
This is such a great thing to talk about I’m 16. Don’t drive because of anxiety about to be a Junior and really scared to move on by myself on my own without my parents to guide me.
3:32 I know exactly what this guy is talking about. I'm the exact same way, though in a slightly better place. It's miserably hot here and flat, but at least there's lots of forest around. I would try to research the places you want to visit, and work up a bunch of money while you're waiting so that when you're old enough, you can just go out and do it. I understand that's easier said than done though
Hi Niko, I don't know if this is a question that you have an answer to, but how can I get more disciplined regarding food? I know it sounds strange, but I feel that it is one of my biggest problems in life right now. I left my parent's home to study abroad almost 3 years ago, and I have never been able to eat consistently 3 meals per day at fixed times. It is not because of a lack of skills (I'm not a chef but I can cook a few decent things), but just discipline. For example when I finally cook something, I get too lazy to immediately clean the dishes, so the day after I end up buying food outside (pizza, wraps,...). This is not healthy and not good for my wallet. I also struggle with diversity when cooking (cooking something different every time). I literally get back home sometimes just to eat what my parents cook. I notice that I lack energy and lose weight due to my unconsistent eating. I know my problem sounds so pathetic, like just kick yourself in the ass and improve your eating habits, but it's just so hard to me. Everybody around me seems to find it easy
#askniko , I am very confident at socializing and I don't fear of what will people see me as but the thing is that everyone is bad at socializing, when I try to talk with people they respond with no more than ONE WORD and they don't use common socializing tricks such as: "how about you?" and "what is the best and worst parts about it?". like I try to get them to talk about something that could get them talking more like hobbies, fav movie and fav things but they either say "Idk" or "xyz but I don't want to go into details" even when I ask for details. how can I fix this problem because I feel that nobody's my friend because they don't try to talk back with me? btw love your vids, hope you reach 100k subs just by yapping
Hey Niko, here's a question: I'm a 22 year old man and I've never kissed or loved anyone romantically. There have been times (like 2 in the past and one right now) where I knew someone else liked me, but my head can not comprehend love. Even if I like them, in a way the worst thing they could say is yes. because then I would have the responsibility to love them and I don't know how to do that, so I decide to stop my feelings. I have a big fear of disappointing someone I like by not being able to like him (sounds weird but it makes sense to me) and then losing a friend (something I have very little of). I've only recently started making friends and I've learned a lot from them (like what it feels like to be loved for who I am and stuff) And what I've gathered is: even if I've convinced myself I don't like a person, I should JUST DO IT and live a little, face the horrors of life. If I really don't like them, I just leave. If I disappoint them by not knowing how to love enaught, I ask them to teach me or continue with my life. What do you think and do you agree with my conclusion? If so, do you have any tips to make the process easier? right now it feels very hard sorry if bad english, i'm from mexico
So I have a crush on this one girl for about 3 years now and we are (at least I would say) good friends. Other than that I didn't really do anything, but I tried slowly talking more and trying to slowly get closer to her, but I was always scared of asking her out or doing something too out of pocket to ruin the friendship. The thing is though, I'm pretty sure she has a boyfirend now. Right now I feel conflicted, should I move on and try to find someone else, but still keep a good friendship with her or should I just tell her about my crush on her and get a lot of weight off my shoulders?
i dropped out at 14yo im 17 now, i have a long distance gf (not that far just dont see her that much (7 hours away)) and i have 1 friend that has SOOOO much homework that i never hangout with him. im lonely, i have no friends, nothing to do (quit gaming), idk what to do
Hey Nicko. Question for you: I'm 17, turning 18 in 2 months, I'm living with my family in a very small town and we're flat broke. Growing up in foster care and even homeless for a year whti was 16, money is not a problem. The problem comes in because I recieved a an athletic scholarship for American Football in the University of Alberta in Canada, and am even projected to be drafted by the CFL or possibly even NFL. But I'm scared. What if I become just like how I was my entire childhood, a failure? For the first time in my life im on the edge of hitting success despite everything in my life, and yet I'm terrified. What should I do?
I got the same feeling when i was watching recently that one episode of gumball (even through I used to hate this cartoon) when they voice has changed and they realised they aren't kids anymore(that one with song: "Do it while we can")
Hey Niko, been watching you content for a while now. I'm 16 turning 17 this year and feel like I don't have any friends and I'm wasting my 'prime' teenage years. I've been thinking of this for the last couple of months and it's really dawned on me that post high school I'll probably have no one. 7 months ago was my last hangout with these friends outside of school. Every week I'll hear about all the things they did over the weekend or after school which makes me feel like an outsider in a way. I'd just like to hear your thoughts on this and give me some guidance on what I can do, thanks.
Hey Niko I have a question I don’t think you’ll have heard before. I’m getting the itch to make content again. However my parents are divorced and I can only record at one house. Leading to me having motivation spikes and not being able to act on them. Leading to anxiety and almost a FOMO type feeling cause of how inconsistent my motivation is. Do you have a way to put motivation to the side for later or just any tips and tricks to stay motivated? Love your vids dude keep grinding
wsg niko, i have more internet freinds than irl freinds and most of my internet freinds are older than me contrast to me being 15 now. i wanna know your take on this like should i do something about it or do i keep it the way im used to?
Hey coach, I'm 16 going into my Junior year, I'm facing a lot of change this summer, due to me getting my first job, getting my license, and I just had my sister graudate high school. I'm very confused and nervous about the future and what it holds for me. Do you have any advice for me to help lower my anxiety over the amount of change going on in my life. Thank you and have a good day hero.
Hey, I'm also 16, going into my junior year. If you're experiencing anxiety then I advise you to try meditation. If you give me your email I can send you a one-year free pass for a meditation app that I use; it's called Balance. I want you to remember that the brain isn't capable of processing anxiety and gratitude at the same time. So, whenever you feel anxious, try to think about what you're grateful for. Best of luck, friend. 👍
19 year old here: I felt very similar a couple of years ago. Best advice I can give you is to focus on the present and to try to take some breaks every once in a while. Think about what makes you happy right at this moment rather than what might make you happy in the future. You'll be just fine
Hello, i am 14 years old and i feel like i am wasting my entire life, after covid it all feels so different and i just keep playing videogames and not going out because going out feels boring but i also got bored of videogames, i dont have friends to go out, i also would like to visit forest and mountains and those things but i live in a small island with only beaches and there is not so much to do than going to the beach, i dont know what to do with my life, people say to follow my dreams but i dont have any dreams, every day i have the feeling that i am wasting my childhood
My question is: Hello, I'm a 16yo boy with a hobby that I think I've got experience on, its called 3d modelling and I think I'm doing good since I've started like almost a year ago. I've gotten around 50 bucks since I started working for clients and I think I want to make living out of it But it just feels like I'm not good enough and when I'm around better people I struggle to improve and am lazy many times so I procrastinate. Most of the times I cant find source to what I'm looking for so I just cancel my work, any tips on how to continue and keep my Hussle? Also I love your videos :D
hey niko, i am thirteen and i was dating a girl for over a year and a half. we broke up about 3ish weeks ago. i like being single and i like the freedom and perks of being single, but there is this girl that i was already friends with that i am now finding very pretty and nice and sweet (i did not feel this way during my previous relationship to make it clear). i really am starting to gain feelings for this girl and i feel as if she is the same. i dont want a relationship but i also dont want to loose touch with her, what should i do?
Im currently 14 and joining this somewhat club at school that you can say makes us act like we are in the military, later on once we are all trained, we will be given authority to be like the school's guards or police. We are trained to do these physical exercises, act like soldiers, learn how to hold a rifle, and etc. In all honesty I feel kind of like an imposter in there. Im slowest when we do our weekly jogging, I struggle doing push-ups, If I am tasked to be the platoon leader I get scared and feel like the others are judging me, if I feel like im good at something, someone will always be better than me. To sum it up, I am aware that im probably the least performing one in the group and I get frustrated how everyone is just doing the things I find hard so easy as breathing. Do you have any advice on how I can improve or atleast stop these feelings of inferiority?
Question Niko, I really like make youtube videos and editing, and also acting so I want to make fan films on this channel, like actually hour long videos. But I think because of my age people won't watch my vids, I've been doing youtube for years and I never struggled with it in the beginning, but now I am. I just need to now if younger people can make it on youtube thats like not toy reviews, and how can I find the motivation to start?
Hey niko ive just discovered you earlier and i really love that you give advice to people who dont know what to do... like me basically me and my family are moving out to a new home but im feeling sad about losing my only friends because i dont really go outside cuz i barely know any people there and all most all the people on school is my friends and im scared what to do after we move out since im only 13 turning 14 i cant really change the decision that my parents had since they said its for a good reason. i really hope you read this and im soo sorry for my grammar english is not my first language.
Yo gangler, I'm in a band with a few of me chums, however, our singer invited his crush to join us as a keyboardist. Me and our drummer don't want her to join and our guitarist doesn't care. So, should I turn her down for myself and the drummer, or should I help a chum out as I'm the leader so all new members go through me, also to note, everyone in our school is required to learn the keyboard in music subject anyway. And one last thing that may be important is that I'm meant to be this guy's Wingman, so whaddya think? Sincerely -Some Random British
niko do you have any advice on how to, like, move on from liking a girl when you think its absolutely hopeless. hopeless as in blocked on snapchat and audible dissapointment when paired together in english for speaking, and her having a mans (who i think is absolutely snakey fishy defo weird asf in a not fun way bad vibes type guy) whos like, maybe 18 already when shes not even 16 yet like i physically cannot even fathom of liking another girl but she just seems to not like me and i have no clue why
@@RenatoRevisadas Haha! I hope that works for you because I had an incident with a girl I liked 2 years ago and that still hasn't faded away. I haven't even seen her in over a year and it still really bothers me daily.
Hey Niko I'm 16 and I need your help I'm afraid of continuing my life every time I lay down, I think about how I will die one day, and my life would be meaningless, and the worst part is when I think about how it would feel to not exist how would I experience it and this feeling haunts me it interrupts my day to day life and makes me think more about growing up, aging and then dying next to my loved ones, do you have any advice.
Bro, not trying to sound like a religious nut here, but I had a huge problem with this that I fixed through direct action. I’m 16 too, so I know how absolutely hard it is to feel like life isn’t meaningless with social media nowadays. I found God last year through just studying like 30 minutes a day through all religions. I genuinely haven’t had a truly bad day in the last year, and ive changed completely as a person. I always bottled up my questions about the afterlife, but find sources to answer them for you. Give me a reply if you have any questions for me (I’m a Catholic btw). The person that really pushed me into Christianity is Cliff Knechtle, he answers lots of questions that I have. Trust me, social media painted God in a way that made me want to avoid him, but just search for answers and you’ll feel more confident in your future. :) Good luck bro…
Hey man am looking for a bit of advice. I recently broke up with a long term girlfriend of mine as at the time (and still now) I believed it was for the better. She had a lot of mental health issues and as bad as it sounds it was too much for me to deal with. Recently however, I’ve been feeling quite empty. After the breakup I was obviously upset as I loved this person however I felt it was for the better so i was okay however recently I’ve just been feeling quite alone. I feel as though I made a mistake but am also stuck as I also think I made the right decision (if that makes sense). If you see this I’d like to hear what you think :) Btw you’re videos always make me feel better when I’m feeling down so thank you for doing what you do.
hi niko. ever since the start of the pandemic my social life has been 100% online through discord. the community im in has gotten progressively more toxic over the years and about a month ago i couldnt take it anymore and i had to leave. aaaand now my life just feels like im floating around with zero substance and im feeling very depressed. i kept in contact with one person but i feel guilty texting her so much because she actually has a life unlike me. i tried keeping in contact with someone else who i thought was a good friend but she ghosted me so im just feeling very lost rn. im not sure where to go from here because i dont talk to anybody but the one friend and i have no desire to make irl friends bc i hate school and everybody there and have no life trajectory i really desire. my family is also completely disfunctional so i dont feel comfortable confiding in them. im sorry bc i feel like im just making excuses for why i cant be happy but its just how ive been feeling. any advice would be appreciated and thanks for being you because you're awesome
Hey niko love your videos really puts me at ease. my question is just wondering how to deal with friendships ending or changing throughout life as i know things change but sometimes it feels like i can never really truly get to know someone before times up and it gets disappointing at times thinking about what could've been if both people in the relationship put that time in to make it happen.
Hi niko, i really like your content, although im a new follower, and im 21, and i feel like no matter what i do i will always be a failure. I have no self esteem even though i've been working on it, yet i feel like im making no progress in general. Also, Dealing with my problems feels like im missing some moments others have and i don't. Im kinda loosing hope, cause i have no idea how to get and be better.
@@jayscka4938 trust the process of getting better, u said ur working on it but don't feel any progress, well that was me last year. Im very passionate abt football and want to pursue it as a career but was very bad at it, my teammates used to bully me and i was very depressed. I worked tf out after but saw no progress and got demotivated but still kept going. Im the captain of the senior team of my academy now. This is fr no joke. Just trust the process things WILL get better eventually.
Hi niko, I have no idea what choices to make at this point in my life, I'm 19 male, and I have a great job with infinite freedom (i can just say I don't want to work today and i don't have to, I make okay for my age, but not really great, however that changes the longer I stay and the more I learn, I've been there for 2 years now and I like the job and my colleagues, but it doesn't fit in with my aspirations, and it's really an unhealthy job, I've always dreamt of moving to the US and joining the military there, I have a decent chance as I'm from a rich country with ample opportunity, it just doesn't feel right to me, and it never has. Anyway, I'm beginning college after the summer, here, you go to college before going to university ro get your degree, which means that college of itself is kind of useless unless you go to university and get a degree, but you need that college first, so it's kinda like a high school but college level, the people going to college here are between 15-19 usually, so I'll be one of the oldest there. As said the military has been what I wanted since I was a kid, it's up there with my dream of America, but I got denied because of I had a mental diagnosis as a kid and there's no waiver process of exemptions here, that made me lost as I've always been told that I could join anyway, that's why I've been working instead of going to school. I've also contemplated just applying for jobs immediately in america, knowing I would get crap minimum wage jobs, and I've even thought about going the French foreign legion as that's the only place I know I can join, (I could maybe get a waiver in america, but I have no idea how to get over there legally and get a green card and not just a work visa) My question is, should I stay at my job for the time being which I like and try to find jobs in america immediately, or do I go to school for 3 years and then maybe go to university for 4 in something I'm not interested in, to increase my chances of getting a visa and maybe joining the military, maybe not? The smart choice will be to go to school since it's 'free' here, I know that, I just don't want to waste my time, especially when I feel so stressed about getting to america quickly, by getting a, in this case, useless college degree which only serves the purpose of allowing me to go to university, but I don't know if that will help my plans or hurt them and I don't look forward to doing homework and being poor again. Everyone tells me to go to school and they praise me for having applied to one, but I'm just not sure, Anyhow, sorry for the long rant, don't know if you respond or not, just needed to get it out there, love your videos and your advice
hey niko, I'm very young, I'm starting middle school soon, I'm very worried but I do a lot of programming, I feel very burnt out, I can't access places outside that much, and I have coding classes/club meets every week on Monday, what should I do to get out of the burnout?
Hey niko im 14 and randomly met this girl and she fell for me while I saw her as a friend then after a while I realised that I liked her as more then just a friend but by then it was too late she did not get a boyfriend or anything but I can just tell in the way we talk the way I invite her to hangout but she does not have time this really hurts me and I Dont know how to cope with it and I hate myself for not falling in love quicker
Hey niko, so Im 17 years old and Im in my last year of highschool, the biggest problem that im facing rn is that I "like" a girl, but Im really confused because sometimes it feels like I just have a crush on her to have any crush at all yk, I've never dated anyone so maybe this need for having a crush is because of my love loneliness (I have friends so its not like I dont have anyone to talk to). Sometimes I'm completely in love with her, thinking about her all day, but I always end up sad because I know im scared to tell her about my feelings, Im also very insecure about my looks, so whenever I start thinking about asking her out I give up in the middle, not only because she can say no, but even more because she can say yes lol. Im not a close friend of her but she has been to my house a couple of times in small parties that I do sometimes with my friends, even tho I barely talked to her when she came (mostly because I was scared). I think that this feelings that I have for her are making me feel bad because its something that I cant get over, like Im too scared to ask her out, but also cant just stop liking her and also its something that takes a lot of my time that I could use to do productive things. I dont think she feels the same about me even tho sometimes I feel like she gives me a chance. I only asked a girl out once a she refused, but not only that she also told her friends that were my classmates and the next day at school they started laughing at me in class, I acted like it was nothing and that it didnt make me feel bad, but it really did affect me, maybe thats also why Im scared to confess to her. Also I feel like this feeling that I have of thinking that I just like her because of the need of liking someone is my mind trying to make me give up on her, but maybe not lol, I'm very confused to what Im actually feeling. Recently I had a huge chance, I was alone with a girl in a bedroom in the bed with the lights turned off (I was doing a party at my house and we separated from everyone), and didnt even notice that it was a chance until I told my friends the next day where I was when I dissapeared and they started laughing at me saying that it was an easy score lol. I guess that I didnt realize it was a chance because Im so insecure that I thought it was impossible for a girl to be interested in me. I know its a lot but what do you think?
Heya, I’m 15 going into sophomore year, I’m dual enrolled into high school and college, I feel as if I’m falling behind everyone else despite having good grade, and I don’t know what to do. Any advice?
Dude, being dual enrolled in anything means you're ahead. If you're afraid of being alone, you should focus more on being too far ahead of your class. Gotta worry about making friends with older kids. Idk, I may be talking outta my ass
Hey I just graduated high school, maybe my perspective can help. I was only a 3.3 unweighted student with no extracurriculars but managed to get a half scholarship for a 3+1 dual degree at a fairly good STEM school. If your focus is to get a good postsecondary education, I wouldn't worry one bit about the spot you're in my dude. It'll definitely take discipline to keep up on that workload, but you'll also avoid needing 20+ hours at a job starting junior/senior year in anticipation of student loans. Assuming you don't want to go into adult life with debt - I probably will and am not thrilled about it... But yeah, don't stress too much about the future & live as much as possible while your only real responsibility is school.
Im 17 and there was this one Girl, we basically texted 4 Hours everyday and talked for 2-3 hours after school for the first month it then decreased a little but we also started to meet 4-5 times and did basically everything at school together, I developed a crush (i didnt ask her out) and then she basically just stopped texting through out the hollydays (2 weeks), she just ghosted and ignorered me, she left me on read, when school started again I was totally overwhemlmed and had Like a total mental breakdown, she asked if everything was ok, because i seemed very off. I then told her everything from my perspektive and she promised that she would Never betray me, she then distanced herself again. Its now been 7 months singe that happened and i still feel sad, i feel Like I cant find the same happiness she gave me again, have trust issues which damage my friendships and am permantly paranoid, plus my grades dropped and my school became a struggle. I have no clue what to do, I just cant get over her and causes so many Problems, at this point I need constant social interactions with friends because otherwise I become paranoid and anxious :(
I think you gotta push yourself to meet new people and through that you’ll realize that the majority of people you’re close with won’t do that to you. Think about your friends that are still with you. It’s understandable to still feel hurt because of what happened but you can’t let it hold you down and ruin your life. You’re better than this man. A new hobby could also help get your mind off it.
Something that is happening to me rn is that i cant get to "move" and do tbe things i want to do So basically im moving countries in a few months and now i fell a sense of urgency about everything i want to do beforemy current life no longer exists, so i would like to do things like ask a girl out, enter on a volleyball team and that type of "accomplishment" so i can leave my current country and be happy that it was good while it happen, not that i felt like i didnt got/were something to the people i love the most but i cant bring myself to it and i know that when i move out people and my surroundings will figuratively die for me and i cant do anything about it Do you have any advice? Also im 15
Hi, huge wall of text incoming I hope you see this comment Niko and I wanted to say that you have helped me a lot Idk if that’s gonna bring much to this comment but if you’re wondering I’m 15 and going into high school in September Basically I recently have been having a lot of problems, it started 2 and a half months ago I would say that’s about where it started Basically I had to quit my gf because of a complicated situation but basically she wants to become transgender, then I had exams and stuff that kinda stressed me, and I have started feeling like I don’t really have a goal, a reason to wake up in the morning or even something I care about that much which I hate because I have honestly what is at least close to a PTSD from lockdown where I went into a depression and felt like that where there was no point to anything I had gotten in personal development back in October and I was constantly striving to become better and I still am but now I feel like that isn’t enough because I kinda feel like I’m stagnating and I don’t see a point to much, like I can find myself trying to do something just to stop wanting to 10 minutes later For example I have a channel and I’m trying to post on it but I’m editing a vid and haven’t gotten much done because of this I just uploaded 2 small videos that took like an hour of recording and 10 minutes of editing in that time and that’s it But yeah I’m just starting to kinda feel like while I still try and do actually improve still I just do it less and feel less motivated I feel like I didn’t have this problem when I still was with my ex because even if I didn’t have any reasons, she was enough of a reason to keep going for me We are still friends and I’m happy that we stayed friends and I know that it can’t work between us because I wouldn’t be able to be like I used to be with her in a relationship My problem is that now I don’t know what reason can I find Sorry for the huge wall of text I just had a lot to say I hope you and the people who saw this have a good day
Yo. I'm 14 turning 15 in a few months and I've always wanted to be in a loving relationship. Whenever I see people in a relationship or having some kind of romantic feelings for each other I get a little jealous. And yet, I am not at all ready to commit to a relationship since I wanna first help out my family and focus more on my career and my future. But sometimes I just can't help getting jealous over a couple that genuinely care and love each other. Any advice would be highly appreciated. Thank you!
I'm not Niko but I'm older as you and was at the same situation as you were not too long ago, so I have some advice to you. It's okay to get a little jealous when you see a couple doing cute couple things, specially at our age. Aaand, as you yourself said, you, and honestly almost every teenager at our age, are not ready to a relationship, which is completely fine too. Since you want to first focus on your future, go ahead, don't worry, you're doing great. Your sweetheart will show up soon. Don't forget to work on yourself while you try to help your family too, that's part of taking care of your future. But don't isolate yourself from people. You may have new experiences that could be important to you, even find your love. In short, just live life, and take care. Hope I helped
hey niko seeing as you talk about very personal topics what is your opinion on if people develop a parasocial relationship and how do you deal with that?
am getting scared of going back to school and making friends again and my parents dont let me go out alot so ive been confined and have resorted to chatting online and playing games to get my social life and i want to be more social but im scared am 13 and im afraid of being rejected alot any advice on this?
Hi, my name is Jackson. I’m 12 and I need help. I’m overweight I have autism and yeah I Also have anger issues and sometimes hurt people that I love. I just want to ask if there’s any advice you could give me.
