If the mom acts like that in public on tv, I can only imagine how she speaks to her and treats her behind closed doors. Sad. I hope they can find healing.
Girl please. You obviously have 0 understanding. You can take your whites only pie some where else cause we ain't eating that crap over here. You don't KNOW or can even comprehend what this woman life is like. So quit trying to judge a situation you can't even read the Blueprint to.
This is a prime example of why it is important to be financially and emotionally stable before having children. Your burdens should never be your child’s burdens.
Very true. Money has been tight for me most of my life and I was one of those kids paying bills at home from summer jobs. My single Mom always struggled financially and was emotionally detached due to childhood trauma. Even at age 46 and child free, I couldn't imagine bringing a child into this world today. Everything is too darn expensive. Being financially strapped is very stressful. Really wears you down.
Y’all can’t blame the mom if the child ain’t making it better also go to school n ya mom wouldn’t had to move if y’all had a good home regardless if ya like the state u was in she had a home n lost it going to jail because the daughter didn’t go to school over some hair she could of did a natural style n call it a day no excuses to miss that many days of school for hair knowing it out ya mom n jail n ya lose everything again over ya attitude
Problem is most of the country is living check to check. You can be financially stable one moment and loose everything the next. Honestly, money is so unpredictable. The pandemic was a prime example of this.
This is why abortions should be an option everywhere and free. She didn’t even have the money for $100 sum rent so clearly she couldn’t afford to have an abortion and she had no one to help her so she had no choice. Ppl think that even if a parent isn’t financially or mentally stable they should still have a child which i cant wrap my head around bc how are they supposed to provide and nurture the child
That is a overwhelmed mother. Stretched beyond her means. Poverty and stress and limited options does that. She has a good daughter and with the help he is providing for them. They will be alright.
The way the daughter is looking at her while she’s talking, you see she’s been hurt by the words but now she’s numb. Her daughter is gorgeous. I love this episode!
@@idowueniola17that is the point though? So let's just ignore how the daughter feels and let's pity the parents who have forced their children into this predicament?
@@idowueniola17 a child is not more wrong than this immature grown woman. How do you expect a child to understand what an adult can barely even? The mother is immature emotionally, she putting those emotions on that gurl in ways not meant for a child from a mother. Just bcuz so many blk mothers are like this don't mean it's rite. We have to break the cycle of screaming to our kids the same things our parents screamed to us. We have to stop having kids as kids, and then blaming the kids for our faults. Alota yal parents dead wrong.
You can’t condemn the daughter for her behavior without acknowledging the unstable environment she has been forced to grown up in. Naturally, a child with an absent father, a young & verbally abusive single mom, in and out of shelters, and living in poverty is going to have behavioral issues. It’s unfortunate because no child should have to live in survival mode.
Boo hoo 😶, I know people who were in that situation....and child was not disrespectful. And the mother curses like a sailor...The Bible does say " spare the rod, spoil the child is not good. (Proverbs 13:24) The child did say she knows her mom will not spank her(🤦🏼smh), and admit swinging on her. My children are in their 40's and knew in their teens knew better because I didn't spare the rod and will use that rod at any age cause to me I demand respect. That's what's wrong with some of the children in these times parents spare the rod, and kids abuse their bad situations.
You are 110% correct.!! This generation thought they are wiser than God. By over looking minor behavior from the onset that will lead to major disaster in the future. The daughter is now at the point of swinging her mom. Who dose that? (Proverbs 22:15 KJV ) Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Her true character fully showed up as SOON as her daughter came out. How do parents expect anything more from their children than what they GIVE them smh sad
No fr and I saw like one of two comments agreeing with the mother.. I truly feel bad for the teenager because she basically doing teenager stuff you know I don’t even think the mother should’ve went on the show if she knew that she was in the wrong 👎🏿👎🏿
Mom is speaking from lots of trauma and transferring that onto her beautiful girl. No villains here, just lots of hurt. I hope they both get help and the cycle stops here. Generational trauma is no joke.
He gets it. He really gets it😭😭😭 The school bullying. The verbal abuse. The struggling mom. The sassy, but normal teen behavior verses the extreme. Kuramo deserves so many more viewers.
Exactly!!!! In her mind, she's doing the best she can, but she doesn't understand how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
@awadiaby1673 stop trying so hard to tell someone off!!! Speaking a fact or making an observation is not judging her! No one said anything bad about the mother or daughter! The fact is mom is very damaged! You just want to tell someone off! You're giving miserable vibes with your comment
I see what she meant. The risk of what can go wrong for a girl out in the streets are on a whole other level. She even mentioned that a boy isn't as high risk when he leaves the house at random but a girl is in a constant state of vulnerability because so much could go wrong.
@@cela9852 Okay but she’s acting like boys can’t be endangered when going out alone either, theres high chances for things to go wrong and a boy goes out alone especially at night aswell and she’s saying as if she wouldn’t worry when she should worry no matter what gender.
She is acting out because her life is hard right now. This baby just needs stability and a home. Being homeless and in a shelter as a teenager 😢. I pray God graces her with peace and opportunities 🙏🏾.
@@ZionDoesMakeup raised 7 and 6 graduated HS 1 graduated with his associate degree! Because I said no child of mine would buck up to me, because I demand my respect as their parent? Wow! That’s why kids act the way they do! Y’all trying to be their friends and not their parent!
The mom just has so much anger inside her because of the situations she and her daughter are going through and I get that, but as a parent, you NEVER should take your anger out on your OWN kid, because THAT is exactly how your child becomes TRAUMATIZED for life
I don't support how the mother handles things, that goes without saying but I also understand that the "should have" language comes from people who don't know what it truly feels like to drown everyday...every single day. Not a hard period in your life, a decades long battle starting from birth. Not an excuse for the mother just an acknowledgement that telling her what she should be doing while she is quite literally fighting for their lives is unproductive. She needs support FIRST and then conversations about how she can be a more empathetic and emotionally regulated mother. Survive and then thrive.
she really needs to work on herself and do better. the way she goes about life in general is damaging. her communication skills aren’t built to mindfully raise a child with wisdom and patience. i can guarantee you ppl when you raise a child mindfully every step of the way they will have respect and dignity and peace.
Ya its not easy for both of them and they need to give each other a break..The kid don't look like a bad kid, mom also looks tired and emotional drained bad combination hope mom gets help so that she can help her daughter be the kid 😉 she wants to be.
And the fact when the mother was asked “do you love your daughter” she didn’t even hesitate to say yes . She’s struggling and tired but the fact she can’t communicate properly is hurting her daughter tremendously
Respect goes both ways. The way the mom talked to her daughter is teaching her how to communicate with others. It's a generational curse that needs to be broken. Your children will be a reflection of what they see.
Respect was given by the mother from infancy period. This girl wasn't in system. In and out of foster homes and shit. Yall will make a million excuses.
exactly and ima say this, there’s a difference between respect and doing that bare minimum. a lot of parents give the BARE MINIMUM. the bare minimum is never enough for nothing, you would never want the bare minimum for anything especially caring for your children, you’re supposed to care for them, make sure they have a roof over their head and make sure the stay out of the system…ok. but what else? give them respect, hear their emotions and make sure that they are actually heard, that’s above the bare minimum, something a lot people fail to realize or do so then that kid will begin to…LASH OUT, hurt people hurt people.
@@panafricanismstrikesbacki so agree. my mom was disrespectful as hell. i decided that that i wouldn’t be like that with my children. i wasn’t and they are very respectful
When the mom admitted to calling her daughter a bitch my jaw dropped, that is HORRIBLE. That explains why the daughter talks the way she does, shes hurt from a young age and shes a child, she doesnt know how to communicate properly yet. The mom doesnt even let her speak her perspective which is awful, she doesnt have a chance to vent and explain her pain. Poor little girl man, this breaks my heart sooo much.
@langa.888 actually not. I could never fathom calling my daughter a "b" constantly and consistently. The one person in life that you're supposed to be able to depend on to build you up is the very same person that's tearing you down over and over again. I do not condone disrespect by a child to any adults but this so-called mother is an embarrassment and a shame to motherhood. My question is where is her father especially if he sees her being treated like this he needs to man up and come get his daughter my heart breaks for this child. She can't win with this lady. Damned if she do damned if she don't. So I don't see this as a white response. I pray mother gets some help too.
I have three daughters 26, 21 and 15. I vowed to myself that no matter how much they pissed me off that I would never call either of them out of their names...and I never have.
I told my mom I can vividly remember the first time she called me a bitch and she said I must be making it up. For them it’s just another day but for us children it’s a core foundational memory.
"i just don't understand why my child is acting exactly like me." "my child is struggling because of me, why isn't she perfect?" as parents we need to expect as much from ourselves as we expect from our children, actually we need to expect more from ourselves to show the children how to act
The mom calling her daughter a b*tch is so wrong. The mother is the problem in my eyes. Why would the daughter act respectful when she has no stable home and the mother talking to her crazy. Their both frustrated I'm sure.
are you serious? Calling your daughters bitches is a black thing? Well I’ve never . My mom have 8 girls and never ever had I heard her called any of my siblings bitches . Never , if you think this behavior is ok please go and seek help .clearly you have child trauma that you’re passing on to your children. For peace sakes, if you love your children go get help and be a better parent
I completely empathize with BOTH SIDES. I can tell that mother is trying. I can tell that mother is exhausted, she has no help, but needs to understand she can't let that affect the way she treats her daughter.
I hear what you're saying. But If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up? *It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit. When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in. There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support. There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
I like this comment cuz everyone bashing the mom but don’t realize it’s hard being a mom and I think the mom is trying! But the daughter don’t get it cuz she’s a teenager just growing her emotions are everywhere
Perfectly said. I had a mom like this, but it took me becoming adult to understand why she was like that. I think that’s why I’m 36 with no kids right now. I’m afraid of being my mom in some ways.
We need to talk more about how poverty is trauma. So much dysfunction, abuse, and mental/emotional instability stems from poverty. People, especially children, deserve so much more than survival mode.
the conversation hurts to have cause it effects so many who feel like they can’t do nothing about it. unfortunately avoid and denying comes so easy from that, which is what we have been doing as a whole but definitely in our community. sad cycle but you’re so right, the topic needs to be had more!
She has a good kid. She is a teenager. Give her a break. All that cursing/yelling, moving,shelter, jail,cps, poverty, bullying is a lot for a kid & is traumatizing. She could be doing worse than staying in her room & phone. But at least the mom didn’t abandon her kid & is trying to get it together financially. He hit it right on the head. Agreed. She loves her kid, gotta be more gentle & communicate better. Pray for them
Some parenting classes might be helpful as well.Sometimes ppl have to be literally forced to get the help,and education needed in order to see the error in their ways.I’m not sure why CPS didn’t require mom to complete some services because mom made it no secret she was verbally abusive to her daughter.
EXACTLY U HIT IT ON THE HEAD bc momma has her own trauma to heal from an SHES TRYING TO DO EVERYTHING RIGHT BY HER BABY (now I DO NOT AGREE WITH HER CALLING HER BABY NO BI**H AT ALL BC NO MOTHER SHOULD EVER CALL THEY BABIES OUT OF THEIR NAMES LIKE THT IDC HOW ANGREY U GET) but LIFE IS BEATING HER AHH an she’s been doing the best she can for a while now it may not look like much to some of yall but to the rest she’s doing the damn thing an her kid is being a teen but there’s a certain boundary that she crosses with her momma an she knows she’s been crossing it but when she gets older she’s gonna KNOW her momma loves her yea it wasn’t perfect at ALL but her momma tried HARD
I really wish he touched on how she talks to her daughter. I feel as though I resonated with this girl on such a deeper level. I was her. Same demeanor, same speech, same pain. As someone who’s been in the other side of an emotionally immature mother and is finally getting the relationship I’ve always wanted with my mom I can tell you now that stuff leaves lasting scars on a child.. respect goes both ways. You can’t expect your child to respect you if you don’t do the same. It’s not “what I say goes” because your child has a spirit and opinions just like you
She's underage who else gon look out for her dumb@ss? If she already wasn't in a good situation how acting by herself would make it better? Y'all complaining cause she doing her mom role but what she supposed to do?
My father used to call me a bitch and it was and is still so hurtful today. To hear such hateful, sexist words from your own parent is a different type of pain. Not everyone should be parents. If you can’t respond to your child with love and kindness and respect, don’t become a parent.
The little girl is so sweet, so soft spoken I don't think she really means to be disrespectful to the mother, the mother is the one who pulls it out of her because she is having it hard and the girl is the closest person to her. I truly hope they can both rebuild their relationship and heal. I wish them nothing but the best. I know you don't know me, but I hope you see this, you are a beautiful girl Kailey, please rise up and break the cycle of poverty go to school and become great. LOVE.t
I have been a hot head teenager before so I know all the tricks .....it's definitely more layers to her🤣🤣 but that doesn't negate the fact that the mother still should talk to her better and she does need to break the cycle....
@@misspr33tyf33t you could be right cause I also thought the same thing, but then again she had the same composure even when she was back stage, hence my conclusion.
There’s a word for that. It’s called “Reactive Abuse”. I learned about it in psychology when I was trying to understand narcissistic abuse from the hands of my mother
Yea she was completely valid. Like Karamo said they both are. I’m glad they came on cuz it really is just a communication issue mixed with and unstable environment.
This "mother" is the problem! When she said if she was a boy things would be better because he could just run the streets... I can't even unpack that right now...geesh!
My heart hurts for the daughter 💔 i can see the hurt in her eyes from the things her mother says to her & about her & by the way she acts. I hope they can both overcome this & become closer & have a loving relationship.
Mom is the problem. The daughter is mirroring the treatment she received by her mother. The mom probably had the same upbringing and mirrored that same parenting style she endured. The young girl needs stability and security. Her parents failed this young girl. The father not helping his daughter is wrong, but the mother's lack of stability, aggressive behavior, and overall chaotic nature is responsible for the behavior. They both need therapy. No parent should speak to their child like that in private nor in public. The daughter is reacting to her chaotic environment.
@@sandramartez6472 girl yes she is the problem stop being in denial the mom need to listen to her daughter instead of keep talking over her, she has trauma she need to heal instead keep being mad at the daughter for messing up in life when she is just a fuckin kid
I feel so sorry for that little girl. You can tell she’s not really a bad child. The mother is horrible. She’s taking her failures and frustration out on that child.
Mother is unstable. Evictions, jail, shelter, calling her daughter names etc... She is the one who decided to have a child with no stability what so ever. She's asking a lot from her daughter.
Mom knows at any time they could be without anything. Daughter has not had enough experience and responsibilities to understand the extent of what could happen. She could have made them lose their spot at the shelter and her mom had to go to jail behind her. And probably still expects hair done and new clothes. Mom is afraid of losing everything including her kid and in the process was about to lose her mind.
The mother is obviously stressed which is okay, but not only she can’t get a hold of herself, she’s taking it out on her daughter in a very abusive way. Yelling and cursing won’t pay the bills or set that child straight. Child who is sadly so calm because she’s emotionally checked out from her mother freaking out about responsibilities she obviously struggles with
Nowhere in my reply to your comment did I say that she calling her daughter the best word was ok. If I did please point it out to me. What I said is that your comment is nonsensical because you are making a contrast between the two and their demeanor, where one is the sole provider (the mother) of the household and knows she is drowning, while the other one is taken care of (the child) and has no worries in the world meaning she doesn't have to wonder or figure out how to put meals on the table, pay the rent, pay gas, pay light, buy supplies etc. Ofcourse the one who is of the knowledge of all this will be on edge. Why would the damn child be on edge?
The mom speaks so aggressively. I couldn’t imagine what this little girl is going through. Seeing the end where Karamo says he’ll help the mom really mad me cry. Bless you Karamo for everything you’re doing for the community. I hope that their relationship gets better now that some weight is lifted off the mom’s shoulders.
They’re going through a rough time. Stability is so important for kids. Especially at that age. I hope they push through this rough patch and grow together.
@@gemz2894She’s a problem bcuz of the environment that she’s living in. And her mother is the one who created that environment. So, therefor the mother is the source of the problems.
Never have I switched up empathising for anyone as fast as I did with the mom. I don’t wonder where she gets it from at all. She didn’t even let her finish a sentence.
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up? *It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit. When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in. There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support. There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 We found the child abuser her. You really think you own kid who you put in the world, who never asked to be born, has to deal with YOUR shit? Then you traumatize the child who starts to act badly due to it and what you do? Beat the child, scream at her with swearings, etc. Wow great mom! People like you say "aw don't judge the mom" but go with all force to judge the child who has to pay for the parents mistakes. Loving has nothing to do with abuse ffs
@@SiNCERELYTAYY1seriously… it’s almost like she expected it/felt entitled to it. I’d be surprised if she gets a home and keeps it. She’s a trash mom who resents her daughter because she’s becoming a young lady. These are the worst type of “mothers”.
@@MsBenitaButrell I could see on her face she was really shocked .. I think she loves her daughter and I do feel she will use the money for good use ....but she still should have said thank you and she should apologize to her daughter as well ...because what's going to happen is if she keeps verbally abusing her daughter when her daughter gets older she's going to resent her even more.
This momma is tired and her own disappointment has caused her to shut down and take it out on her daughter. God bless Karamo for not judging but offering a platform of support to encourage healing
That moms is literally at her breaking point. She is going through it and she feels like her daughter is against her too. That’s why she is acting that way. Unless you are a single mom with ZERO support and have went through it you will never understands it ABSOLUTELY doesn’t condone how she is treating her daughter, but attacking her is NOT gonna fix this
Imagine raising 5 or more kids though, I feel like she should never burden her daughter and I also feel the daughter most definitely should reap her Mom always. The Mom calling her day a bitch is so low. But I do hope they’re move past this and get back in the relationship that they were in.
This is a case of a mom who is mad because she can’t take care of her daughter. She feels so much shame that she can’t provide but has to much to pride. I wish she could realize that if it’s hard for her as an adult in the situation then it’s gotta be hard for her daughter going through it as well.
I don’t think she has too much pride at all, I mean, she’s literally breaking down on the air, explaining that she needs help, and that she doesn’t have it, and she’s financially strapped, she is wrong for the way she goes about her actions, but all I see is a young mother, who is financially strapped and trying to get her daughter to understand the situation she’s in. She’s going about it the wrong way.
@@melissabrower7722 she has to much pride when it comes to her daughter because she can’t breakdown or be vulnerable to her daughter and apologize to her for the situation and that it may be tuff/hard for to go through it. Instead she expects her daughter to suck it all up and just recognize and appreciate that she is doing the best she can…she needs to admit to her daughter that they are in a bad situation that is not fair to her and be more understanding on how it affects her daughter and then in return her daughter will also show empathy for how the situation is taking a toll on her mom and they can learn to get through it together. By making her daughter feel like she doesn’t have a reason to be upset is just pushing her away. She can admit to the whole world that everything is wrong but that means nothing if you cant admit it to your own daughter and apologize to her for it. She wants sympathy from everyone else but won’t give none to her daughter.
@@chattingwithkeyyyzzz2971Yeah, it’s hard but it’s not impossible. Also, it’s not her daughter’s fault that her father isn’t in her life. So, her daughter shouldn’t be subjected to even more trauma fork her mother. Especially, since her mother is all she has. That’s the kind of selfless attitude that a mother is SUPPOSED to have.
Stop being a hypocrite. If you were in that situation you probably would've lost your ish a long time ago. Kudos to the mom for holding it down, however imperfect it may look.
I loved how she said, “I want it to be back how it was” tells me she knows her mom has been there and trying hard for them. Sometime children feels like it’s there fault when parents are in a struggle and that can cause them to lash out.
I agree. They both are struggling and don’t see each others point of view. But karamo sees the love, and I’m so happy he helped them. The mother needs healing and deserves sympathy bc she likely did not know better putting herself in this situation, and the man is who is at fault for leaving them as well. It’s a very unfortunate situation and I hope this money lightened their burdens
That mother needs therapy. I’m a single mom of two and I’m barely managing but I can’t deflect my own pain and endurance on my children. That’s cowardly, weak and manipulative.
Karamo is a real one for helping that lady out !!! That was so sweet. I can see the stress lifting up off of her. I hope her and her daughter develop a better relationship !
What’s going on that’s making her act out???? She’s a CHILD, HER CHILD!! She’d rather put her in jail instead of getting to the root of the problem?! She needs to learn how to PARENT & BE A PARENT!! The way some mfs treat their children like b*tches off the street is CRAZY. She’s literally a reflection of her mother.
Exactly she mad cause she can’t take of her mainly financially but it’s not the child’s fault at all and it seems like she taking the anger out in the child.
I feel for the daughter. I understand the struggle of the mother, but as an adult I would've cut ties. I don't care what you went through, you treated me like a worthless ugly evil person. BYE.
I had a face full of tears because it is hard and I couldn’t imagine busting my butt like I do and my son making it harder I also don’t like the mom yelling at her all the time out of frustration or calling her out her name… they both need to get it together but it starts with the mom… she gotta do better
Just because its HARD OUT HERE Doesn't mean that these Black tired ass Single Mothers got to take it out on their own kids, this is the problem with BLACK SOCIETY today with Having Black Kids UNPREPARED, NO STABLE, NO FATHER In the Household. No Wonder Black Kids are the ONLY Ones that are Suffering in the Streets.
@@knightclassic1 lol I’m not talking about being a single mother being hard… I’m talking about how it’s financially difficult out here & everything is expensive
As someone with CPS experience I actually believe the child!! The mom has shown the world that she lacks accountability, emotionally mentally, and financially! She is abusive to her child, who is no where near what I’ve experienced in what is considered a problematic child! This child has been exposed to a very poor quality of life, meaning food, water, and shelter to include the lack of sustainable parenting! She has a right to be angry! She doesn’t need a dentition center, she needs stable parents with the emotional intelligence to help her thrive in life! Parents have to realize that provision does not equate to parenting!! It is your responsibility as a parent to provide an emotionally and physically safe space for your children. It is not their burden to carry or to consider what it cost YOU, and how hard it is for YOU as their parent! While it’s nice to have children who are considerate, parents must understand that it is still their responsibility! Stop placing the burdens of life on the shoulders of your children expecting them to carry what you can’t even carry yourself! Your child is not your partner or your helpmate! Out of the heart the mouth speaks… that mother does not love her child she sees her as a burden not a blessing. People’s view of you is based on where they have place you in their heart! We must teach our youth the importance of guarding their hearts as well!
I think it's just hard sometimes when your struggling to be gentle with your children not saying it's right but that's how my mom was and tho I hated I understand where it comes from. You gotta be tough when you're a single mom. Sometimes you end up being a little too tough. And it gets turned on you kids
@@KingofUnpopularOpinion I grew up with a single mom as well, and in my own healing journey I had to address what she failed to! What parents fail to address today their children will deal with tomorrow. People/parents need to be intentional with their healing so that they won’t continue to wound the next generation, and perpetuate at the cycle of abuse and brokenness!
The daughter didn't ask to be born. Kids needs stability moving here and there is tough on children too. Poverty is the main issue, but the mom has to not take it out on her daughter.
@@misspr33tyf33tI’m sorry but she is a child. Her actions and behavior are a product of how her mom raised her. Clearly mom is in over her head and taking it out on her young daughter. The cycle continues..
I started to watching yesterday and I liked the the way he is helping the people. He is great person. Thank you for you helping mother and the daughter.
I like that both of them were honest and transparent with Karamo and the audience. The daughter was clueless on what her Mom was dealing with and why she was frustrated "yelling" as she puts it. Effective communication was missing which could help both of them work together cohesively. Now, that they are able to understand each other perspective and receive Karamo assistance, hoping they can move forward and progress along their life journey together. Thankful they came on the show. May God heal all wounds and give them peace, financial resources including debt removal and sound mind.
None of it is excusable, though. She knows she's hurting her child emotionally and mentally. She wants her to behave, but she's not modeling that behavior. This kind of behavior is all the child's been exposed to.
I don't agree that the daughter does not understand what her mother goes through. She has lived the same life as her for years. What I think she does not understand is why her mother speeks to her with such disrespect when she does nothing wild. She does not understand why her mother would treat her like that. And she would be right to not understand because it is not acceptable behavior.
The mother is the issue, the mere fact ghat she could call her own daughter a bitch is crazy to me . The daughter is so well spoken she just needs better guidance and the mother needs help. Awful parenting
Okay who’s perfect though? A mom is still a human being. This lady was struggling to make ends meet BY HERSELF for her daughter who did not respect her at times. Put yourself in her shoes. As long as she’s willing and trying don’t judge. There’s some, FATHERS included that aren’t trying at all.
@@riahh340Yeah, yeah, yeah she's the only parent around and she deserves some grace whoopty damn do. Nobody told her to have kids 1, and 2 she does not have the right to abuse this child because raising her is stressful or hard. She's blessed God gave her a more docile child bc me personally, her ass would be on the front of an obituary 🤷🏾♀️.
Not perfect parenting, but I think it's frustration. They both need some help. I can relate to her frustration. BUT I WOULD NEVER INFLICT IT ON MY GIRLS. For all they know WE'RE RICH, AND ALL IS WELL. Even if I cry into my pillow at night. The both of them just need a shove in the right direction and a breather from tough times. Not Judgement and finger pointing!
I've never cried during a karamo episode, but I cried multiple times during this. Im a single mum raising three daughters, one whose 15 and it's hard. I cant imagine the mountains of stress the mum is under, she's blowing up and unfortunately it's her baby whose wearing it, and then her baby turns around and treats her mama the same way because she's hurt. I'm so happy karamo decided to help them out
That young lady is frustrated because life has been difficult and mama is tired. I’ve been on both sides of the aisle and does get better. Mama please don’t give up on your baby girl because it will get better. Y’all are all you guys have.
The cycle of poverty 😣 Mama is going THROUGH IT … but she has the luxury of understanding the situation, the daughter does not. Her daughter is a child. Praying for their well-being, and healing.
This bought me to tears because I know how it is to be a single parent and struggle trying to make sure your kids are safe, healthy and supported! There’s no judgement from me! I pray that their relationship gets stronger and that they are okay! 😢❤
Lordt 😭. As a mom of two teen daughters I completely understand some of what the mom is going through. The problem i see here is poverty and I’m happy Karamo is doing something beneficial for them. Hopefully this will give them the chance to be able to relax a bit and grow closer.
Black moms raise they daughters and love their sons. That’s the difference. Y’all are hard and millitant with the girls but will allow the boys to run the streets free then cry when your son get 🔫 by the police
@@ShawnteAmoureshe has nothing and no support system, it’s her doing everything on her own, all she has is her daughter and that can be frustrating when the only one you have has a strained relationship with you. The comments attacking the mom for calling her a “bitch” which she was wrong for but I see through it. That’s anger and frustration and I wish that wasn’t the main focus and take away from all this.
Me & my mom are in a very similar situation right now. As i'm typing this, we're sharing a bed, renting a room in her own boss's home. She's on the other side of the bed while tears are running down my face. I understand both of their perspectives, and I feel for them.
My heart goes out to you, I pray you heal and let go of all trauma you may be going through right now. Blessings to both you and you mother, I wish you the best in life. 💕
Yikes. I get it. I left at age 14 for similar reasons and never went back. I figured life out and God sent angels along the way. That little girl is a doll. She’s doing her best in a horrible situation.
I cried. As a mother of 5 and father not paying child support I been there. My kids are all grown and still hold some resent me towards me because we were poor. All are doing well but poverty left a deep hurt on them. This family will make it through. They may have scars but they will come through.
Speak the truth 👏. Black people have too many kids and the kids have to suffer in poverty. If you can't support kids on your own don't bring them into the world to struggle. Kids need more than food and shelter. They need a strong family base. Too many have a bunch of kids to stay on welfare. If you have 1 kid and go on welfare then you should lose those benefits if you decide to have more kids. You need Financial stability before you start a family.
This episode brought tears to my eyes! 😭 The mother's really struggling, panicking about how to cope with her situation, which had made her act irrationality. Her daughter is also going through her own changes. The combination is explosive! I pray that they work it out. They seem to genuinely love each other. Their circumstances makes it hard to express 😢
This was beyond amazing. I could see the mothers and daughters pain. And I could see Karamo holding it together the best he could. For him to do this is beyond wow ❤❤❤❤❤❤
watching him makes me want to be a counselor cuz what the actual problem is that parents don’t realize that their children are people with real emotions & deal with real life things & they are also children so they depend on their parents for that emotional support & when they don’t receive it that’s when they act bad & lash out then they are the bad ones .
I worked in healthcare for a loooong time. We really need more black therapist. People feel so much more comfortable with someone who looks like them. If you have the passion and the ability, we need you.
True I'm learning. As a single parent, I emphasize with the mother but I also emphasize with the daughter. Yes it is tough being a single mother but we have to also realize that our kids are real human beings as you said and they do have feelings. I'm learning that kids will lash out and we have to learn to understand them too
Damn I am in tears ! This is just pure exhaustion on both of them , just burnt out from running in place and not having the mental , emotional space or even time to take second to be soft and loving
This episode was so sad and good at the same time. It’s obvious that the mother is feeling stressed on multiple sides. I love Keramo’s solution because it directly targets the underlying source of the friction in their relationship: poverty and the ensuing lack of stability in their lives. 😐
I had that little lump in my throat the whole episode. When Karamo said I'm giving you the money for the down payment....I lost it. That shit took me out. Karamo I know you've become our human garbage disposal but please keep doing this. KEEP FIXING FAMILIES! You the next Oprah! Watch❤
I have a mom similar or worse than this and trust me it isn’t easy. I need a lot of healing, it affects my life so much and I still live with this woman..
I see why this little girl is acting out. Look at how the mother is acting. If somebody spoke to me like that everyday, I would be angry too. She is ranting about her own financial issues. That is not your child’s problem. And to not be able to answer whether she regrets having a daughter was so sad to hear. I feel for her daughter.
I mean... if you are purposefully doing things to make life harder for your mother, KNOWING she has financial issues. I.E: Getting her arrested because YOU decided "I don't want to go to school for 20+ days"... Then it is definitely the child's problem as well.
@@ProphetMisfit09how do you expect a child to act if her only example is a mother like that. Take accountability for being a shitty parent. Children are sponges
@ProphetMisfit09 she doesn't want to be teased and picked on..her mom got friends someone should have been able to help her daughter with her hair ..she created the issues
This generation of parents love the saying “Do as I say and not as I do” but as children we watch and we repeat what we see. I have no idea how parents can act a certain way and expect for their offspring to be the opposite. If mama wants to see some change she needs to start with herself. Other than that, that girl will continue to spiral or completely cut her mom out her life forever. And even if they do make up, there will be resentment there forever.
@@chillwithme9727 I don't deny the fact that her behavior is largely because of the mother, yes. However, when she reached the age that she is at that very moment, she should be at least aware "hey, we're really only holding on by a string right now. I can try to lessen that weight by just going to school." That's really only it, going to school to keep things afloat and avoid them going back to having to live in a shelter. I get it, kids are cruel, no one wants to go to school with undid hair. And this generation has most kids going with wig installs and 200+ dollar braids, so it is embarrassing. But having undone hair that doesn't meet the standards of others is not a reason to skip 20/30+ days of school, like... come on now.
It’s sad that people really think boys don’t require the same security/attention, & are so much more “low maintenance.” Didn’t care for that statement too much amongst other things
As a struggling single mom of a young boy, this touched my soul. I’ve said so many times that I feel like I’m drowning. Some people don’t understand but that’s no excuse. My mom was a single mom as well & we had conflict bc she was always at work. No one raised me. I raised myself. I’m thankful to God for who I am even in the struggle. My son is only 4 and I just started a great job. I’ve gotta wait to start seeing it pay off, but in the meantime, I’m not going to give up on making a better life for both of us. Praying for this mom & daughter and all of the struggling mothers out there. Don’t give up ladies. Yes, it’s hard, but we can do it. We have to 🙏🏾💜
So you followed your Mom's Steps by having children out of wedlock, got pregnant by a Thug that are no Father Materials. Yes Its hard finding a Good Black Men out here, even Good Mentors.
Jesus Christ loves you ❤, He died on a cross for you and rose again on the 3rd day for your sins❤ God loves you so much and He wants to heal you ❤ and give you strength ❤
karamo helping financially is going to change their lives. you can so easily become a product of your environment and i understand being a single mother especially a struggling one like this is beyond tiring stressful and depressing and they need help! with this step they can then work on their communication skills especially the mother.
I can relate to this story personally. I use to give my mom hell. This brought me to literal tears , because it was at one point my mom didn’t know what to do with me, and you could tell she was losing hope , but what I am thankful for is that she didn’t give up on me. She kept fighting for me to become the best version of myself. Frustrated and feeling defeated. my mom was a single mother of 4 kids. When I say I am so damn thankful that she hadn’t given up on me, because lord knows wheee I’d be. Nd I was a HOT mess. Thank you karamo for this episode. This one hit home
Thank you for sharing the other side of this. So many ppl on this thread are mom-shaming, but sometimes kids are bad, or at least act out. I'm glad yall found yall way. ❤❤
@@deshawnbrown986 yes , absolutely. I acted out of emotion. My mom had another child and at first I was excited for it , but then I became jealous. Of course babies need more attention , and my mom did the best she could do with 4 of us all together ; however I acted out in anger and disobedience rather than just telling her I wanted to spend more time with her. I wanted to put this perspective out there more , because parents are humans too. They feel just like we do. Frustration is 100% going to happen it almost cannot be avoided ; the fact she took accountability and even stated she just wants the best for her child really stood out to me. In my bad behavioral days I didn’t understand why my mom wanted to give me that discipline in respect , and having goals , morals or values but I do today. Now I work for the state. I have my own family , and I am the better version of myself that she wants for me! Praying for this mother and daughter because sometimes all it takes is communication
I went through this exact thing with my mom a while back, every-time i’d leave the room i’d get yelled at and when I stayed I would get yelled at. Her mother is putting out her frustration on her child, and the child is mirroring her behaviour. Its a horrible loop.
I ain't never wanted to scream "Mama shut TF UP" so bad in my LIFE. She constantly interrupted her. The baby was trying to tell her side and mama kept screaming. Mama is failing, but she keeps taking it out on the baby and it's not fair. She gotta get it together. If not for herself, but for her baby. We are ALL struggling, but that abort comment was completely out of line. I hope baby girl can heal, WITHOUT Mama. I wish Mama the best, because we all deserve help and a chance❤ good luck to both of them😔 Im happy Karamo can help!
Prime example of what happens when u have kids and dont know whst your doing, im tired of people having kids, and making excuses and playing victims, STOP ACTING LIKE A CHILD
A typical parent who thinks it’s their child’s responsibility to help them when it’s not. Saddest part about this is that mom does not even realize that she is the problem. I really just wanted Karamo to tell her, because their relationship is not going to get better until she realizes that she is not a good parent. All of your issues are rooted in you being irresponsible, and instead of doing better you expect your child to swoop in and save the day. That’s delusional. She needs therapy and life skills. That’s only thing that will help them.
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up? *It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit. When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in. There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support. There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 if I fell into a pit with my child it would 100% be my responsibility to keep my composure, stay calm and do everything in my power to get us out of the pit. I have more experience and life skills than my child. So yes I would consider it my responsibility as the adult and parent to assess the situation and come up with a solution. I would expect for my child to depend on me and my ability to remain calm under duress and stress. I would expect for my child to depend on my survival skills. My statement wasn’t judgement it’s just true. She lacks some necessary life skills. She needs to seek professional help to learn and develop those skills. Her child cannot help her be a better parent and adult, and that’s what she’s asking her to do. The child doesn’t have the knowledge or the skills. She is literally asking her child to accomplish the impossible, and due to the stress that she is putting on her child the child is doing what she does know how to do and that is not going to save her child. If she wants to save her child she needs to make herself a more dependable parent and create a less stressful environment for her child.
So its the childs responsibility to fix the problems created by the parent? Thats the most assbackwarda explanation ive ever read. If you think this way and you uave children they must hate you. No child should suffer through a parent like this ever. And parents like this should be imprisoned for ruining their childs life and guaranteeing them a life of hardship. If you dont think this girls ideals and morals arent directly connected to her mothers idiocy then your a fool.@janepatton8100
The mom is the issue, screaming for no reason, interrupting her daughter when she’s trying to tell her part of the story, calling her daughter a bitch, telling she’d be better as a boy.. like wtf? In her mind she’s doing the best but she’s mentally unstable, she doesn’t realise how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
This makes me cry, your mom struggling but she still by your side, she don’t get it all right as she her self may not have not have strong support and know how to express the love she wants to but you have a good mom, I pray you guys will be financially stable one day and you young lady be one successful.
The way this mom talks I ask myself if the daughter is really guilty or try to fight the worst leaving situation because she's very calm and melting my heart
