I Must Stop Screaming at People

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@vanneistat 3 года назад

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@patrickhooper1757 3 года назад

What kind of motorcycle is that?

@daverizz 3 года назад

I thoroughly enjoyed the motorcycle gift and riding part, however, I am a bit confused by the screaming knife part... I'm left wondering what happened... but I guess the yelling soured the mood of the coming birthday joy? Or The Spirited Man literally yelled the details of the surprise in some way?

@caveman6099 3 года назад

expectations ruined it I think...but love will make it all better...love both spirited man and spirited woman

@sup1e 3 года назад

@@patrickhooper1757 Husqvarna 401 I think.

@CDankies 3 года назад

Please make a video on how to make the swivel tool holder. Please.

@pdxnate3314 3 года назад

Isabel is right, that's not where the knife goes, Van.

@SychJess 3 года назад

@@NickCasciani large utensil overflow is on the top left.

@Cryptex410 3 года назад

Wash your knifes by hand dammit

@Cryptex410 3 года назад

@@NickCasciani spend $500 on a knife washer if you want to wash your knife in it Or 50 cents on a sponge

@Cryptex410 3 года назад

@@NickCasciani lmao you have no clue what you are talking about

@itsjustrebecca3014 3 года назад

@@NickCasciani it's the chemicals in the detergent that are the main problem, and all the moving about it does in there etc etc

@user-hd8ej8yx9p 3 года назад

This makes me realize that the nicest gesture can be washed away with one episode of anger.

@azteacher26 Год назад

Only when you live with an unreasonable partner. When a women is upset or checked out her memory for nice gestures gets fuzzy and her perception of grievances gets as sharp as a kitchen knife. Maybe Isabel can make a RU-vid series called the unreasonable partner.

@instantchildbirth2746 Год назад

@@azteacher26 who is to say that she has forgotten about this nice gesture? She's allowed to be upset in response of his anger, is she not? Maybe Van should show her respect when she opens her heart to tell him her pet peeves. "No knives in the dishwasher" can he not just respect her request?

@rhomboyant8392 Год назад

@@azteacher26that’s funny - same thing happens to men

@sussvarman 3 года назад

its really rare that someone on the internet shares their relationship in such an uncomfortable way, this is really really refreshing to see the high points through the lower ones, as opposed to just one side of the coin. didn't even know the coin had a hole in it tbh.

@FrankDBoyce 3 года назад

@@elevatorphish I think the point was that the small things matter as much or more than the big ones. And more pointedly, that despite creating a wonderful moment we can erase that in a second of anger or unkindness.

@Sherlockthegr3at 3 года назад

This kind of hit home because I've been doing this whole custom built countertop, plumbing in a dishwasher were there wasn't one before, and even split off the pex while doing all that to get water to the icemaker. Comes out, wife just wanted some snuggles. Fml.

@sussvarman 3 года назад

@@elevatorphish maybe ive been on youtube too long, but i will gladly take that over “TOP FIVE THINGS THAT ANNOY US CHALLENGE!!! 😂😳🔥🤪”

@sussvarman 3 года назад

@@elevatorphish it is a real dumb reason to yell though that i can agree on like bro def had other stuff going on no way a knife makes you yell

@MrClarkisgod 3 года назад

@@elevatorphish Nah, she knows he gets overwhelmed and lashes out at people sometimes. I'm sure this is nothing new. Likely a general anxiety disorder issue. I get like this sometimes too. I get pissed off when I have something in my head I want to get done, and then I am informed "but we have XYZ this weekend" or I get told " but you can just do that later"..... NO, I have other things to do, and I need to do this thing now to get it off my list and out of the way. I have lots of reasons. I got into a fight about being anti-social when my mother in law came over to see my son. I talked to her for 20 minutes while he was napping. But she didn't come to see me and that's okay. I'm not going to sit around for 4-5 hours when have 10 other things that need done and 3 cars that need work done. I GOT SHIT TO DO.

@Mikeliberty 3 года назад

I love the vulnerability of sharing the moments that we are not proud of but strive to continue to grow and build to become better people. Love this Van!

@baobab_indy 3 года назад

I agree 100%. Amidst all the youtube’s recreational, all smoke and mirrors and self-help content, it is refreshing to find a space aiming simply to share and reflect. Something that feels real, worldy and relatable, yet exotic, both for its context and for the artistic and crafting hallmark approach. I also truly appreciate, especially in this video, although many crumbs and nuggets can be found every now and then, that topics such as manhood and vulnerability are often addressed. I really thank and admire ye, Mr. Van Neistat, for openly doing so. There is also something about the way these stories are told. I’ve liked and enjoyed most of Mr. Casey Neistat’s work, although the vlog personally didn’t click so much with me, but boy, what a titanic effort and amazing energy he displayed all that time. Here, the peace of the story-telling just does it. Thank you very much for these wonderful gems and spirited gifts.

@perrytferrell 3 года назад

the spirited woman will keep the spirited man in check. just as it should be.

@tannerharcus8833 3 года назад

yup

@erintozier8700 3 года назад

favorite

@romoalex 3 года назад

But it shouldn’t have to be her job

@acopernic 3 года назад

@@romoalex it should not.. But sometimes you need reflection.

@romoalex 3 года назад

@@acopernic I have open door policy

@stephenaldridgecreative 3 года назад

Isabel, thank you for being a part of this. The fact that you reenacted the moment says volumes about your willingness to love and support Van. Nice bike, btw. Stay safe.

@PeterStuartJr 3 года назад

She's right, you don't wash knives in the dishwasher.

@lihtan 3 года назад

I tend to keep my knives razor sharp. The minute I'm done with them, they get individually hand washed, wiped dry, and they're back on the knife rack. They're just too dangerous to leave lying around on the counter, sink or dishwasher.

@ryanauburn 3 года назад

You never put a knife I a dishwasher. A knife should be washed, and wiped dry after each use. That way it doesn't rust.

@officialWWM 3 года назад

Why not?

@officialWWM 3 года назад

@@ryanauburn stainless steel doesn’t rust.

@JordanTomsLP 3 года назад

My knife my dishwasher, I'll put a knife where ever :)

@SPihlaja 3 года назад

This is such a good video. I bet like 7 out of 10 guys who are married watched this and immediately thought of at least 7 things they've ruined by screaming.

@evancasper 3 года назад

This is the realist shit I have seen on RU-vid in a long time. This is the "human condition" in it's purest form, unfiltered and raw. We cannot experience true happiness without also enduring the pain. You got this Van. And happy birthday Isabelle.

@scottprewitt4712 3 года назад

This Spirited Man has a similar struggle. He has to remind himself that moments of anger do not define him entirely. He can be more. He has to deliberately practice patience, humility, and gratitude to keep it at bay. He has to extend grace to himself when he fails. Thanks again for sharing, Van...You're making me want a motorcycle.

@MrBannanaFingers 3 года назад

All I ever think about after watching these videos is buying the next motorcycle I see for sale !

@socialstew 3 года назад

I had to look it up... Basically, you're not supposed to use the dishwasher to clean chefs knives... because it can dull them. Hey, you learn something new every day! Today I learned that the unbiased internet can help settle arguments! 👍

@sarahdell4042 3 года назад

Not only that, I’ve had one fall down and stab me years back.

@MichaelMa 3 года назад

Some cheap knives will keep a relatively sharp edge with proper use and can be washed in the dishwasher. It depends on the metal. The expensive knives with relatively soft metals that can be sharpened a bit sharper will lose that fine edge really quickly with one slip up. Looking at the handle, they have a knife like a 1994 Toyota Carolla, but she wants to treat it like new BMW. I can understand his frustration.

@TheNykademos 3 года назад

The issue is not the knife at all though. It's communication, he's mad at himself for communicating in a hostile fashion when his recent gift was meant to communicate a different feeling, a $7000 dollar message undermined by a single moment of impatience and lack of self control. But, we all know that even the best of us have shit-head moments and I'm sure she understands this too. Given that he acknowledges the issue and shows remorse, what would she have to gain by pushing the issue further? He is obviously aware he was wrong and isn't happy about it. There's nothing left to argue about unless you're just really petty about the knife. Knives are cheaper than divorce.

@aspiceronni4462 3 года назад

That knife had a plastic handle. So its not a chef's knife. My father has a 2000 dollar set of custom shop kitchen blades and they don't have plastic handles.

@Edited6 3 года назад

@@aspiceronni4462 Considering the weight of the word Chef in other contexts the confusion makes sense, but in this context "chef's knife" just describes an all-purpose kitchen knife.

@blacksquirrel4008 3 года назад

That was very thoughtful, but she was dead right about the knife. Screaming makes nothing but problems.

@devinp203 3 года назад

Van, I’ve been in a very rough place in my life and within my relationship the past year. Thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable moment. I burst out in tears watching it. It reminds me that it’s normal to have silly arguments over the knife in the top rack, and not to let that stuff taint the love and moments in between… I get so caught up focusing on the problems that I misremember the beauty.

@codey1391 3 года назад

@kevnieves 3 года назад

Every upload is poetry, even about the most mundane of things.

@BadWaterMotors 3 года назад

I've cried in multiple of these videos but none felt like this. As a recovering rage-aholic one day back from a motorcycle trip, this one broke me.

@shanesmith5892 3 года назад

I love how authentic this video is. The surprise was not ruined! Nice job. 👍

@TRXST.ISSUES 3 года назад

Dude you’re totally an aspie / hsp - kudos for being real about the mental anguish.

@sidvish159 3 года назад

It's not about the knife(even though they don't belong in the dishwasher). It's about latent anger, the knife is just the convenient prop. I used to do the same thing except to random people in cars and my ex-wife and anyone else that I got triggered by. I soon learned that the anger was anger at myself, my trauma, how I grew up. Until I got help in understanding my childhood wounds and working on myself, only then did I start to replace anger with understanding and kindness(for myself). It's not about the knife, it's not about Isabellle, it's about you. Love your storytelling.

@Rachelandchrisholoha 3 года назад

I resonate with this. My wife is patient and wonderful.

@FinikeraVlogs 3 года назад

Can not get over how real these videos are I can feel it and that’s what keeps me watching

@GJBarreda 3 года назад

Seeing her so happy made me happy. So cool!

@peterupdikeswildtreasures4055 3 года назад

The art of telling a story.

@adrianaavila5230 3 года назад

Such a unique way of telling a bittersweet story. It makes it more real to me when you show the sad ending at the start...

@theironemald8779 2 года назад

you cure my depression. thank you.

@kidntrope 3 года назад

This self reflection is beautiful and unique. Thanks Van.

@ahouidaccord 3 года назад

Sometimes, i yell at my husband too. I have issues with my anger, my father yelled and kicked a lot. It's a work of my every day life to try not to be like him. Hopefully, I 'm in constant progress.

@matthewsoto8114 Год назад

What I love about this is the there is a little bit of Van in all of us. And there is a little of all of us in each other.

@TheMrBrendo Год назад

The convenience of washing a knife in the dishwasher is often off set but the cleanup conversation that ensues. In this situation i represent both the yeller and the knife placer because i yelled when the the knife was placed in the dishwasher and also was lazy the next day and put a knife in a dishwasher and was politely reminded about it without any yelling by my wife. Great one Van, thanks for the reminder

@ericvega1 3 года назад

Habits are difficult to break. We must adapt and become better

@8Steady Год назад

I've watched most of your videos, Van. I watch a lot of videos on this platform, but you're the only youtubER that I follow primarily because of who you are, and because the videos themselves are artful. The fact that I love your creations and tutorials is kind of secondary to those other things. Videos like this as well as the one called "indecision" are, to me, what make your channel so unique and worthwhile.

@sssaturn 3 года назад

i learned the spirited man shares the vulnerable moments that lead to the most beautiful ones

@LordManhattan 3 года назад

WOW! Talk about a genuine reaction! 😄😍

@MoonBaillie 3 года назад

Going through things with my partner, started crying when she kissed you, cause you made her happy, texted her I love her, thank you, yours is the best RU-vid channel, thank you

@socalisurfing 3 года назад

Anger is hard to manage, and it comes at the most inappropriate times. Keep striving and sharing Van.

@TommiSRP 3 года назад

A beautiful film. Thank you for this one Van! I appreciate the honesty!

@squirtle88 3 года назад

Knives should never go in the dishwasher. Dishwasher detergent is very abrasive, and along with the banging around that happens during a wash cycle, will take the sharp edge right off your knife. Always wash knives by hand in the sink with dish soap and water.

@ryang183 3 года назад

congrats on 400k van!

@sonbrotherfriend 3 года назад

van has now officially convinced me that I want a motorcycle

@davidrains4997 3 года назад

I put the big knives there all the time because they don't fit in the silverware basket! Life cannot screw up the gratitude she displayed.

@ramanshekhar9514 3 года назад

You're a brilliant story teller Van. Keep it up ♥️

@yannickpeterhans2377 3 года назад

Videos that make you really feel something. Incredible.

@islandmanmikep 3 года назад

I have learned that the spirited man is imperfect as all are. I am a spirited man that thought I lost my spirit. You have taught me it is still in me. Thank you.

@aamsergie 3 года назад

The spirited man now knows that the extreme heat from the dishwasher can warp - bend - and dull the blade of a knife.

@drewmanning168 3 года назад

This man is working to become a spirited one himself. The spirited man he watches inspires this man to continue this mans journey with every video!

@rvsam4u 3 года назад

That Svartpilen is an excellent choice in motorcycles! She is so lucky, they are hard to find. Great video!

@JanneWolterbeek 3 года назад

Such masterful synergy of audio and moving image. I will not miss an episode for this reason, regardless of choice of topic.

@MaiElizabeth 3 года назад

I too have been trying to control my temper and when I finally fail to do so, I really hate myself, more than the things I hate about.

@kenjikingofficial 3 года назад

The Neistat brothers are the best gift we ever received from RU-vid.

@goprobeto_1527 3 года назад

The authenticity of your relationship is truly heartwarming. Thanks for sharing Van!

@sixfootseven 3 года назад

Chef knives never go in the dishwasher. Takes only a couple seconds to wash them and dry them by hand

@arielgalura4288 3 года назад

This girl is so awesome. She is so humble and so thankful.

@pianomandove 3 года назад

I am so grateful for your storytelling. You make me feel. Thank you so much man.

@caryconover 3 года назад

The Grey Gersten in this particular vid is especially excellent

@jeffreythemeditator 2 года назад

you bring me to tears, bro

@PaulaHeartland 3 года назад

I hope this beautiful sad truth telling helps both of you. Nice gifts don't mend wounded hearts.

@ptownplayer69 Год назад

This is something i must also continue to work on. Love your content, thanks for sharing and keep up the great work! ❤😀👍🏻

@Dennis-de1ji 3 года назад

No words for this video,pure humanity and uncorrupted joy!

@scottlandon2266 2 месяца назад

The cost of guilt is high.

@glabrian01 3 года назад

This Spirited man....has many faults however this same spirited man learns, adapt, and grow. This same spirited man also gets guidance by ⬆️ that spirited man. Keep the videos going. Stay that kindred spirit. Peace ☮

@Senefra 3 года назад

The entire video is amazing, but the moment in the video that gets me the most is at 5:15. Isabel just looks so happy with you there.

@MatTBguitar 3 года назад

AWESOME AS ALWAYS. Last night you appeared on a dream, it was cool to meet you

@anthonydauer 3 года назад

I scream sometimes too. And usually for all the wrong reasons.

@butlerdawgs78 3 года назад

I love how happy and excited she was for the motorcycle! I also appreciate the honesty about the dishwasher incident.

@icekura 3 года назад

thank you spirited man!

@longbra 3 года назад

It's best not to overthink things. Stay safe. Knives are replaceable.

@MattFirdous Год назад

4:24 love how the cameraman stays out of frame.

@danieltsmoke 3 года назад

I haven't screamed once in my adult life...looks nice, I think I'll try it.

@drake8030 3 года назад

Our dishwasher has this neat top rack that is flat that you can put knife's and other kitchen utensils in, like spatulas and stuff. I recommend it

@thecoffeeblog 3 года назад

The surprise took you days and you blew it in one second.

@jamwall1 3 года назад

That's exactly where I put the large knives in the dishwasher. Now putting knives in the sink, underwater..... that's a problem.

@madelinecmitchell 3 года назад

really enjoyed this

@gwizzzy 3 года назад

I want to be as honest as the spirited man I want to be.. a spirited man

@chantalrochon3566 3 года назад

Definitely a Mr. Rogers storytelling for adults ❤️

@rosssss 3 года назад

Congrats on 400k!

@Hippiespeedball 2 года назад

It’s nice to see the people that inspire me are just that. Normal people.

@GripGroupFilms 3 года назад

this is a nice slice of life reflecting different experiences from cutting corners

@georgiasdad 3 года назад

That's where I always put knives and long utensils.

@jerbear7952 Год назад

Me too man. Thanks for sharing.

@kw7878 3 года назад

Well done sir!

@KafkaesqueRider 3 года назад

Loved this video! Great choice on that Husqvarna! Greetings from Mexico!!!

@oofunstuff 2 года назад

What model is it?

@kingofpropain7493 2 года назад

@@oofunstuff Vitpilen 401. If you want an Orange one its a KTM 390.

@shaileshrana7165 3 года назад

This is incredibly personal. Happy Birthday to Isabel

@christopherr.2180 3 года назад

She is so excited! I love it🥰

@invernante1985 3 года назад

Wow 400k subscribers already. Congratulations

@toogzweire1419 3 года назад

Now there exists: a Spirited Woman!

@lonwabobudaza5493 3 года назад

I bought the mech. Love your work. From Cape Town with Love!!!

@ErichWelsch 3 года назад

400k, Outstanding Sir.

@nathan.David.v 3 года назад

This is amazing story telling continue to be rad van

@vinceb8041 Год назад

Even from his other videos I could tell that Van yells at people a LOT... good piece of self reflection

@AbdallahMassoud1 3 года назад

The greatest apology video possibly

@canadude6401 3 года назад

Thank you for showing your vulnerability Van. I am in awe. I've been Jack Torrance many times sadly. Last night in fact. I was hot, hungry and tired. I call it the "toxic trio" Patience and calm is something I still need to work on.

@KevinKnight 3 года назад

This is the only channel I’ve ACTUALLY anticipated content from

@briansavage932 3 года назад

Ups and downs, my man. Ups and downs.. It's good that you recognize screaming is an issue. I have that issue. I'm even-keeled through a lot of things most people would get upset at, but then when I do get frustrated or angry I'm impossible to be around. I just hope my good deeds balance with my sometimes bad attitude.

@MikeAuerNixego 3 года назад

12/10 for the wrap job

@yoyopg123 Год назад

0:52 - She could have left it at "don't put the chef knife in the dishwasher". But seriously, nice job on the bike.

@mihaicasalean 3 года назад

Greetings from Romania!

@smashyrashy 3 года назад

He doesnt reply

@smashyrashy 3 года назад

Probably doesnt even read either

@bryanvarela7725 3 года назад

Badass brother happy for yall

@SC4RArt 3 года назад

This is fantastic!! Really enjoy watching... Thumbs up! 💥👀💥

@Eduardomagalhaess 3 года назад

Masterpiece final shot

@AndRyznar 3 года назад

Van I wish you so much goodness and love in your life and family and marriage and endeavors. Thank you for having the courage to keep making videos and sharing with authenticity. much love man. I appreciate what you are doing.