I Said I’d Adopt Her Son . . . But Now I’m Not Sure

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@jillcooper6371 10 дней назад

When you're raised in hell.... Peace gets mistaken for boredom.

@klickingkayasmr7585 9 дней назад

Oof. 🔥🎯

@TLG2211 9 дней назад

Yup, chaos is normal and stability boredom.

@nicklowe_ 9 дней назад

Wow that’s a good one

@CrissyMyers828 8 дней назад

Wow. This.

@influencerpodcasts 7 дней назад

For me that was not the case. I was happy to get out. And never again. Boring is great.

@IMOO1896 10 дней назад

If there’s any hesitation at all to adopt, he should NOT do it. Something in his psyche is telling him no.

@williamjohn8633 10 дней назад

He signs the adoption papers, then he's paying for 3 kids in his inevitable divorce. Life destroying consequences. He evaluated his decisions after discovering the red pill information

@dakotasikes6690 10 дней назад

Kinda a little late to run when he got two kids with her

@rachel4339 9 дней назад

@@dakotasikes6690paying for 2 isn’t as bad as paying for 5 though

@dakotasikes6690 9 дней назад

@rachel4339 not sure how the law works out there he may still have to pay for 5

@dabd8175 9 дней назад

Yes because it goes against male nature

@Tintintanabulation 10 дней назад

Being honorable DOESN'T mean onw must stay in an abusive relationship.

@richardv9648 8 дней назад

Its sad, No not because of his situation. Its sad brother didnt learn from our red pill wisdom.

@jadenkutz 10 дней назад

You can legally get out of marriage but not that adoption.

@peterszabo7572 9 дней назад

But adoption (mostly) has a due date

@user-ye9yt2mv2n 9 дней назад

@@peterszabo7572if they get divorced he now has to pay child support for children that’s not his. It’s a no win situation, being married and being a father figure should be more than enough.

@alwaysyouramanda 9 дней назад

Every comment: FDK

@smileygirl622 7 дней назад

He can't legally get out of the two children he already has with her....

@lauren4078 9 дней назад

Three different baby daddies. She has a pattern. RUN, DUDE!

@mi2lq933 9 дней назад

There’s no running he’s married and has two children with her.

@AC-ly6tg 8 дней назад

I wouldn’t have a kid with a man that had previous kids

@thelifeofmaryd.2494 7 дней назад

I missed that, when did he say she had 3 baby dads?

@dbag57 9 дней назад

Dunno..getting legally attached to a highly unstable woman who watches the Kardashians and always says she is gonna leave you doesnt sound like the best of advice to me..

@smileygirl622 7 дней назад

You did hear the part where they are married and already have 2 children together right?

@Boogetsbizzy 9 дней назад

This man made a big mistake marrying and having kids with her. The red flags were riddled all over her. Now he’s stuck in a losing battle no matter what.

@avocadoaficiando День назад

Actually between her red flags and his red pill ideology, I'd say they're made for each other

@randyadams1312 9 дней назад

Do not adopt. You will pay child support when she leaves

@DeeDiamond2981 9 дней назад

Wats the problem with that

@randyadams1312 9 дней назад

@@DeeDiamond2981 that he will be paying child support on kids that aren’t his

@10memphisten10 9 дней назад

@@DeeDiamond2981 let the kid’s real father pay that child support

@alwaysyouramanda 9 дней назад

@@10memphisten10😂 my dad didn’t. Now BOTH my parents wonder why I don’t want anything to do with them

@hadenanderson563 4 дня назад

And go to jail when he doesn't.

@no_regerts5176 10 дней назад

Look at the data points she has given. She has two kids from previous relationship(s), meaning you are baby daddy #3 with the birth if your daughter. She has left 2 previous relationships with fathers of her kids. Why absolve a man of his responsibility by adopting when she has shown a pattern of leaving? Think!

@BirdDogey1 10 дней назад

She telegraphs her punches. Adopt my son or I will leave you! Chad is'n't paying so I need you to pay.

@terriesmith2616 10 дней назад

Bingo 🎯🎯🎯 Red flags everywhere yet this guy dipped his wick in her raw.

@verykimberly 9 дней назад

Have you stopped to think of why this woman left those relationships? Is it possible to give people the benefit of the doubt? Also is it possible to not pass judgment on someone? You don’t know her struggles and demons. Yes we can choose “good” partners yet were humans and sometimes we don’t make great choices. Patterns and “data points” are useful but it’s not helpful to leave comments online when you don’t even have the full picture and rather only assumptions and judgments. Enjoy your red pill.

@yingyang7448 9 дней назад

Well said, Kimberly.

@terriesmith2616 9 дней назад

@@verykimberly Have this woman stopped and think before she has kids with 3 different baby daddy? Has she stopped and thought maybe she should be alone for a while and fix herself before jumping from man to man? She's full of red flags and the only ones who are paying for all her terrible decisions are her kids. I bet you money that her household is chaotic. Bad environment to raise kids in. And this caller guy also has red flags. The fact that he got with her in the first place, knowing she already has 2 kids from two different men. Then he went and got her pregnant, that's another bad decision on his part. 3 different fathers for all the kids. No sane man will even put themselves in that situation in the first place. He clearly has problems and has low self esteem to settle for a woman with so many red flags. These two adults are broken people, bringing innocent children into their broken trauma filled lives. In the end, it's always the innocent children that suffers.

@herecomesdatman6295 10 дней назад

This guy is just hurting and trying to do better than his old man.

@BirdDogey1 10 дней назад

He is about to hurt worse when he adopts her son. He will be writing another check until that boy hits 18.

@terriesmith2616 10 дней назад

He's gonna hurt worse when he has to pay for someone else's seed once she leaves him for another man. She already has a pattern of jumping from men to men.

@peter2633 9 дней назад

This is about his lack of self esteem. Men who believe that they have options never take this deal.

@alwaysyouramanda 9 дней назад

He needs to figure out where he’s planting his feet.. he’s sounding just like the last two dudes. (He won’t be paying child support anyway.) He could go find a nice older woman who doesn’t have and maybe can’t have anymore kids.. or he can keep plowing that young man’s mom with no regard for them kids. 😑

@lisalister8002 9 дней назад

I have seen many men adopt their new wife's children - only to divorce later. Remember, if you adopt then divorce, you still will be paying child support.

@easyenglishwithrachael1931 9 дней назад

As you should because if you adopt a child, they are your child. You should adopt a child because you want to be their parent

@melstarr1864 8 дней назад

@@easyenglishwithrachael1931Absolutely. Don’t adopt a child as a favor to the mother. Adopt the child with the same mindset as when you adopt a child from an agency. Whether you eventually break up with the mom or not, this is your child.

@truthreigns3465 8 дней назад

Spoken like a true witch

@richb6441 9 дней назад

Her oldest child is 5, she has another younger child, then 2 with him? If I’m hearing this correctly three different baby daddies in 5 years producing 4 kids. That’s what should be freaking him out.

@chrissmarie455 7 дней назад

Exactly my thoughts, so confusing for those children. Where are the dads?

@DivSundar 4 дня назад

My thoughts too

@HaleyStark. 3 дня назад

He is on his 2nd marriage. Neither are ideal.

@Drifter-tw4kt 9 дней назад

His biggest mistake might be calling the show.... don't adopt

@clipsofmma 9 дней назад

For real

@randolph7214 8 дней назад

Wow you nailed it 👌🏻

@RShaun 10 дней назад

She’s constantly telling him she will leave and you tell him to reassure her that HE won’t leave?? Are you crazy?? You would tell a woman to run.Telling this broken man to just endure emotional terrorism is why RedPill exists.

@tiellove9482 10 дней назад

Thats literally why I commented what i did but someone came at me as if i was targeting dr john😂 Literally just wanna know the correlation from this situation and a previous one that i saw from dr john, and someone projected their world views on me😂 and i literally can only ask that question by watching as many episodes as i did to be able to present the question 💀💀*i do not support the red, blue, green or white pill. I dont even like taking medicine💀)

@lfc4life73 10 дней назад

I like this guy's advice sometimes, but sometimes he gives the worst advice. The caller probably didn't get to explain the situation fully. He said the woman threatening to leave is a test hahaha. But if a man were to do that to a woman I guarantee they would say that's abusive or he's a narcissist their favourite word.

@alluringbliss4165 10 дней назад

I dont this helps the children at all.

@Jessica-rf7lv 10 дней назад

So, you need someone's approval to leave a relationship???? Does Dr. John have that much influence? I'd say the same thing to a women, "toughen up, and leave the relationship". Women have been dealing with this forever.

@tiellove9482 10 дней назад

@@Jessica-rf7lv i dont think its more so of approval but more of a push. Half these callers that call in know what they need they just need someone outside of their piers to tell them. Literally my girlfriend sister said that her family can tell her one thing but when a stranger says it she listens 😂 i dont get it either

@bigracksuchiha 9 дней назад

Don’t do it. I was gonna adopt my ex-girlfriend son, 3 years later I only see my own son on weekends. If I woulda adopted her son I’d be financially responsible for him as well for absolutely no reason.

@RubberWilbur 10 дней назад

Dude, run! Run away as hard and fast as you can. She now has 3 kids from 3 different fathers and watches the Kardashians. Adopt her kid and in a couple of years you will be paying her child support for that kid too for over a decade like you will be with your kid with her. Cut your loses while you still can. This is nothing but trouble.

@erikaerika7788 9 дней назад

DO NOT ADOP THAT KID .. 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮

@rayman2876 8 дней назад

You can raise a child as your own without adopting. Your relationship is on the rocks and if it doesn't work out you don't want to end up paying child support because you adopted.

@kaylacombs6254 9 дней назад

Don't adopt unless you're a relationship is 100% stable

@melstarr1864 8 дней назад

This advice should also apply when you give birth to the child.

@Avogadros_number 3 дня назад

@@melstarr1864huh?

@pipperlue 9 дней назад

Dr. John is probably an amazing husband. I got chills when he said to hold his hand on the back of her neck and say “I’ll NEVER leave you.” That secure, strong presence is something I don’t think I’ve ever seen in real life

@lisalister8002 7 дней назад

"Fairytale Therapy"

@AS-kn6cq 3 дня назад

@@lisalister8002 makes me think you need some healing and don’t know it.

@clipsofmma 9 дней назад

She’s given the highest honor she can give to three men - and left two of them. He’s next

@carolr7823 9 дней назад

Do not adopt her kids. If you break up, then you'll have to pay child support.

@sheryls7782 9 дней назад

His wife had 2 kids by 2 different men, and 2 by him, all less than 5 years old. He is now wondering who did he married? Poor guy. He knows if he adopted these 2 boys, if she decides to move to the next man, he will be financially responsible for life with her errors.

@teenyverse7707 9 дней назад

yup... so many red flags that were there before his kids... 2 kids by 2 other men... yes....

@stevendavis5095 10 дней назад

Man let her go. If she cared that much she wouldn’t threaten to leave you. Stop allowing this terrorist to destroy your life for the sake of you not having to be alone. Choose peace.

@dakotasikes6690 10 дней назад

Hard to let go when he got two kids even if he leaves he stuck

@jakes658 9 дней назад

He's not a good man either...

@stevendavis5095 9 дней назад

@@jakes658 I disagree. Is he perfect no! However he’s good enough to ask him to adopt a child. He was good enough to give him 2 biological kids. Like stop the cap. No one’s perfect however in this situation being perfect isn’t the problem. The problem is this woman doesn’t respect the man that literally cared about her enough to take her and 2 kids on. Stop white knighting the situation. It only hurts. It never helps

@peter2633 9 дней назад

@@stevendavis5095The issue is he became a simp. Men with options never take this deal. Now he’s left with the consequences of his choice.

@jakes658 9 дней назад

@@stevendavis5095 Who's white knighting? He's a red pill moron and this is the best he can do with that mindset. They deserve each other...

@BirdDogey1 10 дней назад

Never adopt someone else's kid. Never!!! She will leave you and have you writing another child support payment. She has told you her plans. Pay attention. He can be in 100% but that doesn't mean she is.

@LaCantressa 9 дней назад

A complete misunderstanding of the red pill movement. This guy is not red pilled at all.

@Drifter-tw4kt 9 дней назад

Exactly....

@DeeDiamond2981 9 дней назад

Red pill is very negative. It causes gender wars.. and it harms women and children

@iati6294 9 дней назад

He’s a simp

@10memphisten10 9 дней назад

He really thinks he said something. 😂 A bunch of shirtless dudes lifting weights and trading dodgecoin 🤦‍♂️

@lagoonlane 8 дней назад

You read my mind.

@phyllisarrington7436 10 дней назад

The day I told my husband he had to go, it was OVER. 11 yrs of him smoking pot and not keeping a job was too much. When I had to take a 2nd job, he said, "I'll watch the kids." 😢 Later, he told mutual friends that everything fell apart once I started working 😮

@truthreigns3465 8 дней назад

I am sure you ain’t no ride in the park he should have kicked your ass out. You are on a complete ego trip and he was probably smoking pot to keep from hurting himself you crazy woman

@firefly9838 6 дней назад

I smoke weed and still work 2 jobs... he is just lazy and he doesn't get to blame it on the drugs.

@DickLongflopp 4 дня назад

@@firefly9838people smoke pot and make six or seven figures a year. It’s not about the weed it’s about the man

@elizabeththornhill2302 10 дней назад

Sir I just want to encourage you. I once was somewhat like your wife. Years of trauma and abuse took their toll. I married an amazing man who did exactly what John is telling you to do and it allowed me the feeedom and security to deal with those things and become better and grow. Don’t grow weary, trust God when it seems like you have no control, if she’s a decent woman I’m sure she’ll have an amazing story to tell about how you helped to heal what other men did to her. I’ll be praying for you all…kudos to you for wanting to do right! Not to mention you’ll restore that little guy too.

@terriesmith2616 10 дней назад

You're the exception, not the rules.

@elizabeththornhill2302 9 дней назад

@@terriesmith2616 I’m a very blessed woman for sure.

@peter2633 9 дней назад

@@elizabeththornhill2302A mother that loves her son will tell him to avoid marriage with a single mom. “Bad deal all around.”

@BigRed2 9 дней назад

She has 3 kids with 3 different Men, you don’t adopt!!! 😂😂

@Sheryl777 10 дней назад

(Just going by the title of the video) but if a person isn't sure they want to adopt, then I don't think they should until they really feel they are ready for that step. Don't do it just because the mom wants you to, that's not a good idea at all. You yourself have to feel that you really want to do that. My father adopted me when I was around 2, but he never actually acted as if he cared about me that much, so not sure him adopting me was a good thing for me. I walked up to him once to ask him a question about something, and he told me I needed my mother if that tells you anything about his relationship with me. I think he resented me being there quite honestly when I was younger.

@karenkramer3760 8 дней назад

Don't adopt. Sounds like she's gonna leave you at some point. You can always treat the kids good. When you have visitation with your daughters they can sometimes come along and you can still be a father figure. Protect yourself.

@joyparker3116 5 дней назад

This man is nuts! Hearing this is crazy! 45 years ago we have never watched anything together ever!

@barbnauman705 10 дней назад

These small kids that didn’t choose these two. Telling him, it’s ok to walk out a while when she’s screaming or throwing things, let’s the adult man escape. Yet, the littles are stuck with her rage as “ he takes a walk.” As an advocate for the innocents, this seems like a bad solution for these children who don’t have choices-and , sadly, another dysfunctional generation is created.

@terriesmith2616 9 дней назад

That's how it always is, the innocent children always pay the price for their parents trauma filled lives. It's always the kids that suffered in the end. Then the cycle repeats itself with the next generation.

@thedavesiknow4598 10 дней назад

I absolutely love how John describes Red pill guys it's pretty funny

@jakes658 9 дней назад

And spot on accurate!

@bffoxjr 7 дней назад

Don't do it, man. You're legally opening yourself up to a world of hurt if you get divorced. I know a guy who adopted his stepson. Now he's getting a divorce. Soon he'll be paying child support for a kid that's not even his and baby daddy will be laughing all the way to the bank.

@Tintintanabulation 10 дней назад

Sounds like she got pregnant "soon after" meeting those other two guys, too.😮

@alwaysyouramanda 9 дней назад

Sounds like these guys are really bad at the pull-out method 😂

@Tintintanabulation 9 дней назад

@@alwaysyouramanda That method is NEVER really effective. I temy grown children to use at least TWO TYPES of contraceptives caus NONE are 💯 and it's EASY to do the deed 100 times 😂

@hillarybillary21 7 дней назад

@@Tintintanabulationbs. You can use multiple barrier methods at the same time. Making pregnancy virtually impossible.

@royalredus 9 дней назад

Oh come on! This chick has 4 kids with 3 different guys? That's the real story! Jer-ry, Jer-ry, Jer-ry...

@hillarybillary21 7 дней назад

Lol

@10memphisten10 9 дней назад

Talk about bad advice! Dr. John what are you doing? The wife is threatening to leave and your advice is to reassure her that he is going nowhere and on top of that he has to man up and adopt her kid? Come on man

@wrathfang 8 дней назад

He always gives the worse advice all that time but I like watching the non sense

@anngeorge5126 8 дней назад

He does give terrible advice. I used to love his show but not anymore. He just loves to talk and talks twice as much as the callers. Thinks he knows everything. Getting boring now

@10memphisten10 8 дней назад

@@wrathfang he rarely gives good advice. He mostly just panders to women. I rarely listen just when I run of things to listen to.

@10memphisten10 8 дней назад

@@anngeorge5126 that’s one of the things I don’t like that he just loves to hear himself talk. And loves being right above anything else.

@melstarr1864 8 дней назад

I don’t think he said the guy has to adopt the kid.

@chrissmarie455 7 дней назад

Oh God her oldest of 5 and he said she had kids from different relationships 🫠 so 3 baby daddies? She immediately got pregnant from him? That’s scary for the kids 🫣 where are the dads?

@natalia_00123 9 дней назад

Don't adopt her child. DON'T.

@neisci 10 дней назад

Not the red pill movement chile😂😂😂. Those clowns.

@MikeyPaper 10 дней назад

Upset that men are waking up? 😂

@neisci 10 дней назад

@@MikeyPaper 😂😂😂😂

@cedricbethea 10 дней назад

That movement is only getting bigger by the day! Deal with it!

@neisci 10 дней назад

@@cedricbethea 😂😂😂😂

@cedricbethea 10 дней назад

@@neisci at least you have a sense of humor 😆

@texasrodeogirl3814 9 дней назад

You know, I listen to all these callers who just seem so stupid when picking a life partner. What is it that men or women are so desperate to get married that they lose all common sense even when a million red flags are waving right in front of them. Is anyone capable of standing back and seeing the potential problems people bring to the marriage that are deal breakers???

@texasgoddess323 3 дня назад

We choose who we are, not what we want! It’s a match!

@marietgagliardi 9 дней назад

I'd hold off on the adoption. Stay and try and make your marriage work.

@DocCokie 7 дней назад

This was a really productive call. Good job to the caller for calling in and having enough willingness and awareness to seek help.

@gessrinky9129 10 дней назад

Guys make $40k a year and think women are their money 😅

@dabd8175 9 дней назад

Try 42k

@alwaysyouramanda 9 дней назад

Man, I got so lucky. (And so did my bf imo) 🤭

@jillcooper6371 10 дней назад

I have been single for 7 years now. However my ex said the same. He didn't for which I was exceedingly grateful for when I caught him cheating. When it doubt... Don't do it.

@MrsTorches 10 дней назад

Sorry you went through that 😢 Glad you protected your baby through all of that tho 🎉 What a great mom!

@Snoops510 8 дней назад

Red-Pilled in dating is going to keep "love' out of the equation. You love each other or you don't. Status has nothing to do with it.

@hillarybillary21 7 дней назад

Exactly 💯

@CaliAAA72 10 дней назад

1. He should have never gotten involved with his current wife. 2. He married a single mom with 2 kids and two different fathers. 3. He got married without a prenup. 4. He got this poor decision making woman pregnant. 5. He told this woman he would adopt her two children who have two different dads. He’s a simp. Found the red pill movement and now he knows everything he did wrong which is what I listed. Men this poor guy will get wreck when this woman decides to divorce him. It’s not if it’s a matter of when this will happen. He will be on the hook for child support for three children especially if he decides to adopt. This man should have gotten counseling immediately following his divorce. He should have gotten his mind and body straight before entering a relationship. His decision making process is just as bad as hers. A person’s first instinct is usually right. He needs to divorce her now and bite the bullet on the child support for the one child. This guy is too broken to be in a relationship with a 304.

@kimberlysmith7625 10 дней назад

Agree. He made choices and now wants to default to psychobabble to explain away his choices.

@terriesmith2616 10 дней назад

Bingo🎯🎯 You hit the nail on the head. She's full of red flags but he also is broken and made poor decisions in being with her and getting her pregnant. The Red pill woke him up a bit but he's still a simp and he's gonna pay once she leaves him. Major hurting is in his future.

@merrymerkin 9 дней назад

first caller needs to stop having kids

@terriesmith2616 10 дней назад

Don't do it, bro. Bad idea.

@figgityfly День назад

I know someone who married a woman who was previously married and has 2 kids from 2 different men . These kids’ fathers are active in their lives and the woman/wife had a hysterectomy before meeting him and can’t have kids anymore. Her husband is a few years younger and says he wasn’t interested In having biological children. After 2 years of marriage she pushed him to adopt her children. He is the bread winner and pays for everything (former military). His whole family told Him not to adopt her kids since they had active fathers and were suspicious she was doing it to secure financial hold on him. He ended up adopting her kids who were around 9 and 12 years at the time). About 5 years into the marriage, they are divorcing and now he is responsible for child support for 2 kids that aren’t his.

@williamjohn8633 7 дней назад

Marital vows... until he adopts these kids legally and she files for divorce. Now his life has been destroyed from child support. I hope this caller sees these comments and gets out

@davidcharnes3623 9 дней назад

If he lives with her for years and takes care of her kids it probably won’t matter if he adopts her son or not. He can be forced to pay child support even if he never adopted.

@stevendavis5095 10 дней назад

Wait so because a man is tired of his wife he therefore doesn’t care about his kids? But if a woman is tired of her husband she cares about the kids so much that she’s looking for another father??? Where is the accountability man wtf lmao

@jillcooper6371 10 дней назад

Accountability is only something mature adults can do. If she was raised like me... She doesn't even understand accountability. It takes so much. It took me so long to understand that blame and accountability were different. The road to recovery from the toxic childhood is long, hard and scary. Maybe you shouldn't pick someone climbing that mountain if you're not down for mountain climbing.

@10memphisten10 9 дней назад

That’s that feminist propaganda. Dr. John is constantly pushing it and he never holds women accountable.

@WalrusesAreTheOne 4 дня назад

I knew he was a Red Pill Guy pretty much from the beginning. He uses very detached, selfish language ('the woman I'm with now', MY wonderful son, MY marriage) so when the Red Pill thing came in, I was like Yuppp...... Red Pill ideology is a cancer and is enabling men to be abusive. She needs to run now.

@easyenglishwithrachael1931 9 дней назад

The amount of people who see adopting a child as a financial decision is gross. You adopt a child because you want to be the child’s parent, regardless of anything else. If you aren’t willing to do that, to love the kid as your own cuz it is now, then spare the kid

@random-nz7dy 7 дней назад

I like a lot of what John said but when your wife is actively threatening to leave you I'm not sure that's the time to proceed with adoption of the children lol

@DoggyDoula 7 дней назад

As a child my step father made me change my last name to his...but refused to file for adoption. In my experience a man who isn't willing to be a father is a weak scared man.

@Themoomabides 8 дней назад

John trashing the red pill with “a bunch of dudes walking around with other dudes with their shirts off making kick boxing videos” is how I’m describing it from now on 😅

@WalrusesAreTheOne 4 дня назад

Red Pill is trash

@franciskeys9810 10 дней назад

I just realized listening to this call that John thinks all women are like his wife. He has no idea what it's like to deal with the average modern woman today. John's world is populated by good women like his wife, Sharon Ramsey, Denise Ramsey, Rachel Cruze, and Jade Warshaw. He's used to intelligent, hardworking, honest, loyal women who communicate well and make good decisions. It seems highly unlikely that this woman with children by three different men shares those traits. BUT MAH TRAUMAS!!!

@jessiejoseph1093 9 дней назад

So you think the average modern woman is no good.

@Chet_24 9 дней назад

@jessiejoseph1093 i agree with that. That's why finding a good woman is hard to do.

@jessiejoseph1093 9 дней назад

@@Chet_24 if you have so little regard for women in general you might as well leave them alone.

@franciskeys9810 9 дней назад

@@jessiejoseph1093 I think the average modern woman thinks she is way above average and expects a man way above average. The standard now is six foot, six pack abs, six figure income.

@Jessica-rf7lv 9 дней назад

@@franciskeys9810 that is exactly what friend's son says!!! What is wrong with these women??? This isnt what we fought for - we wanted to be equal, not "better".That stuff is so superficial. I don't agree with the red pill stuff, but I can understand why men are frustrated.

@87alock 4 дня назад

Always makes me shake my head when a grown man says, "we're pregnant."

@David-wo9un 10 дней назад

What would be said if he was the one testing/threatening to leave?

@flashthecorgi2053 10 дней назад

Same as he has told women in the past that threatening to leave or threatening divorce is childish and to stop doing it. Your partner is worth more than that. If you are genuinely having questions of leaving talk to a friend, counselor, or your spouse and be honest but “let’s stop the threatening games” . That’s EXACTLY what’s he’s told a woman that kept threatening divorce to her husband.

@yeetnama9094 10 дней назад

@@flashthecorgi2053a woman who has 4 kids by three different men within the timespan of 5 years is not a woman of quality. She'd be lucky to attract the local garbage man with her low value high risk profile

@melomodiba4919 10 дней назад

His wife has made bad choices in the past but I think Dr John's direction of thinking here is that they have 2 little girls together so advising him to abandon the relationship like most of the comments section suggests will just create another single dad with 2 kids, putting him in the same position she was when they first started, breaking up another family. It's just creating a vicious circle. Also, committing to marriage somewhat commits him to her boys too, so he might as well tough it out and grow with her e.g. make his own demands such as "no watching the Kardashians with my kids, only educational programs etc". I don't believe they're irreparable.

@peter2633 9 дней назад

He has no self esteem which is why he took this deal in the first place. All men know this. A man with options never marries the single mom.

@melomodiba4919 9 дней назад

@@peter2633 I fully agree with you, but now that he's made his bed, shouldn't he lie in it? The alternative means leaving a mother of 4 to fend for herself.

@peter2633 9 дней назад

@@melomodiba4919 I agree with your assessment because he chose this situation. My comment was more to men to avoid this situation all together.

@oscarreyes4807 9 дней назад

I dont think redpill is the thing Dr. John thinks it is

@d05wtt 9 дней назад

I think they both don’t know what “redpilling”is and when it became a movement. And while we’re on it, John usually is right. Not this time.

@DrewsThoughts 3 дня назад

The red pill movement has told men that they are important. And they are allowed to have preferences, standards and boundaries. Everything for the last century has been about protecting women and their feelings and allowing them to have any preference they want. Men are now realizing that hey we can have these things too. It's not a bad thing. ALOT of women just don't like the accountability side of it.

@brianclingenpeel5123 9 дней назад

I love how any viewpoint that doesn't exactly fit Dr Johns is always just brushed to the side as "nonsense". That's a super tolerant and welcoming way to look at the world, because remember. Everybody is welcome at the Deloney table

@Hunter2847 8 дней назад

🤣🤣

@millymo5420 7 дней назад

I wonder why does EVERYTHING have to be tolerated and welcomed? Could he see something in that Red Pill movement that is not healthy? The Family structure is vital. Breaking a cycle is imperative. The days of keeping a family together for the better sake of all…needs to be great again.

@Hunter2847 7 дней назад

@@millymo5420 not everything is tolerated and welcomed….thats what birthed red pill and why it’s here to stay. I think the op was sarcastically referring to Dr John’s everybody is welcome at my table stance previously.

@brianclingenpeel5123 7 дней назад

@@millymo5420 it's doesn't. And the people that claim that "I'm accepting of everyone..... Everyone is welcome at my table" are simply lying. To themselves and the world so they can feel better about themselves. The obvious truth is there are ideas, ways of life, narratives that are not and should not be accepted. The problem comes when people like Dr John take it upon themselves to decide what is "acceptable" for the rest of us. I don't believe the red pill movement is as harmful as it has been portrayed, but I also disagree with it. You can't look at something as emotional as a relationship in the same clinical way you do a stock market or other financial endeavor.

@brianclingenpeel5123 7 дней назад

@@millymo5420 it doesn't. My point was that the people that tell themselves and everyone else how accepting and tolerant they are, how "everyone is welcome at my table" are simply lying to themselves and the world so they can feel like they are better than others. Of course there are ideas, narratives, ways of living that shouldn't be accepted. The problem comes when people like Dr John start deciding what is "accepted" and what's not for the rest of us. The great part about America is we can believe whatever we like as long as it is not infringing on anyone else's lives. No one must "accept" anyone else's point of view. You can disagree and state your reason why, but just deciding something "is stupid" because it's not what you think is the definition of bigotry. I don't think the red pill movement is nearly as harmful as some have made it out to be, but I also don't agree with it. You can't treat something as emotional as a relationship the same way you would a stock market or some other financial endeavor.

@margaretnoble8870 9 дней назад

Delony is able to read between the lines; he understands this guy loves his wife, kids, and wants to do better than the example his biological dad did. He affirmed exactly what he needed to hear.

@user-un6wf4cd9i 9 дней назад

He needs to leave ,for anyone to have kids by three different fathers/mothers is disgusting. Also it’s comical he’s into red pill but he married a woman with different baby daddy’s.

@linhaton4957 8 дней назад

Dr John is wrong on this one. This guy will be divorced again because he doesn’t know how to pick good women.

@CoreyF.C.Sherry 8 дней назад

A delightful. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life as anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@CoreyF.C.Sherry 8 дней назад

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach one?

@CoreyF.C.Sherry 8 дней назад

Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up online. impressive

@duvessa2003 6 дней назад

What steps have you taken to distract yourself and get emotional distance?

@joshdavis2843 9 дней назад

“When things get hot, stay present” Worst advice. Get the f out dude.

@jjones3566 7 дней назад

Yes, just run when things get hard. Typical cowardice male behavior.

@araceliramirez7315 9 дней назад

I think until they're relationship is better then if he still wants to adopt him, then do it. He said the relationship is rocky so they need to work on that first

@fullmetal_neet2288 3 дня назад

This guy picked the wrong woman to hitch his cart to. FELLAS BEWARE THE SINGLE MOTGER

@Vegas_Mel 9 дней назад

God bless Dr John and everyone who opens their hearts and minds to hear what he has to say. Listen and he will help you. 💯. It’s life changing. Thank you Dr John.

@merrymerkin 9 дней назад

I can’t imagine being married to the third caller

@linhaton4957 8 дней назад

If his wife was showing him love and respect, he wouldn’t be calling John. This woman is probably toxic and he knows this marriage was a big mistake. Bet he lets her walk over him.

@leemp337 9 дней назад

Will be on hook for child support and that kid will be an heir to your assets, even in divorce

@IntensityInMySanctuary 8 дней назад

This dude explained red pill philosophy so terribly lmao

@richardv9648 8 дней назад

He should adopt her son, he should end up paying child support for it. He did not learn anything much from Red pill wisdom.

@peter2633 9 дней назад

This dude became a “simp” and married the single mom. This is his fault.

@truthreigns3465 8 дней назад

Dr John is a simp too he caters to women and gives the most horrible advice.

@hillarybillary21 7 дней назад

Single mom with two different dudes who weren’t her husbands.

@hillarybillary21 7 дней назад

In two years.

@ireefree2024 9 дней назад

This one is difficult. Both have trauma. Maybe even trauma bonded. I don't know but adopted her son should be only made if he's 100% sure. Even if she left him he should be aware to take care of him aswell. As someone who had trauma aswell. I can say that we only relax if we feel safe. But you have to be ready for the peace and not create new drama. They both need therapy.

@paulafoss9292 10 дней назад

That's exactly what my ex did to my children.

@Love-bo3df 10 дней назад

This guy is not committed to the the son and that makes him a danger to all three children unfortunately. She really needs to consider leaving and saving the children from him. He is continuing a dysfunctional cycle 😢 passed on by his family. This is a very sad situation for all of them. Poor little 5 year boy, imagine how bad he must be feeling. Such a shame if this guy doesn’t fully commit to the whole family entire. Not fair

@peter2633 9 дней назад

News flash! Good men don’t take that deal in the first place. Confident men don’t marry single moms.

@d05wtt 9 дней назад

You must be a woman because no sane man puts the blame on the caller.

@Love-bo3df 9 дней назад

@@peter2633 you are so gross

@danzellsayles2555 2 дня назад

I don’t agree with John here. Him being hesitant to adopt his wife’s son she had from another man is not even close to him going down the same path as his dad. He said his dad was a serial cheater and abandoned his family. Seemed like a pretty dramatic take in my opinion.

@BecauseWhyNot660 3 часа назад

I'm confused. I thought the red pill thing had to do with politics. But, there are people on both sides who act like this. So, I guess I need to do my research. 🤔

@Lobababe21 4 дня назад

Just let your wife watch the kardashians in peace

@NoPickmeishasAllowed День назад

Don’t do it love comes and go. Unless you can commit to that child emotionally and financially in the of divorce

@mellowbirddreamer77 9 дней назад

This guy explained the red pill movement very poorly. Unfortunately that space was infiltrated years ago with a lot of misinformation.

@dakotasikes6690 10 дней назад

I wanna know why her other marriages failed

@linhaton4957 8 дней назад

Geez, big baby makers, in spite of the chaos. Two marriages and four kids, doubt you’ve learned much.

@samyish 9 дней назад

Adopt dogs, not other mens children.

@rarebird_82 9 дней назад

Dont underestimate the red pill doc...

@rockfidelity8229 9 дней назад

Protect yourself bro. Manosphere has some truth to it.

@sharron-6540 9 дней назад

The reality is this couple have 2 daughters together, she has 2 children from other relationships, so they have 4 children, so they have to work together to sort things out. Why does he have to adopt her boys, or one of them firstly?. Sounds like he needs lots of therapy to deal with his past, maybe they could both benefit from couple therapy. People of here assuming his wife just had children in previous relationships and left, maybe she had good reason to do so?. Marriage takes work and commitment, communication everyday it’s a lot of work, but so worth it.

@mimimonster 9 дней назад

I’ve heard of being red pilled but it’s not this - WTH is this nonesense?

@whatintheheck4692 8 дней назад

Right?! I thought I knew as well, but the “red pill” references in this call didn’t make sense to me.

@randolph7214 8 дней назад

This guy is not the right person to be discussing the red pill movement. He's on the right path but still learning. I sense John knows alot more about it then hes letting on also. This lady a huge walking red flag and caller needs to RUN. You wanna know more about RP movement check out Rich Cooper. Iv giving out 7 copies of his book and even my mom will say shes red pilled at this point. Make yourself your own mental point of origin and dont let these people try to guilt trip you. Stay strong bub. But RUUUUN. Shes looking for that dutiful beta provider. Run.

@RealityMilitaryTV 10 дней назад

John isn’t allowed to co-sign with the red pill movement because of his audience. I understand that. It’s not a perfect movement but talking down on it I don’t really understand. Adopting his wife child is unnecessary and can have huge legal consequences.

@BirdDogey1 10 дней назад

John gives horrible advice to men. HORRIBLE!

@williamjohn8633 10 дней назад

John's a harvard grad. He's smart enough to know that red pill information is correct, but also he's smart enough to know his target audience. Therefore, he's a lot more hush hush about it

@terriesmith2616 10 дней назад

John knows where his bread is buttered. 85% of his viewers are women, so he's gonna simp.

@Asooh7. 9 дней назад

@@williamjohn8633 amazing how you know the things he never said

@Chet_24 9 дней назад

This guy should not adopt the other children. He's already made the mistake of marrying a single mother, though. I have no faith in him to make the right decision.

@Raz0rIG 10 дней назад

I don’t agree with alot of the Red pill movement but it has some accurate descriptions of the dating reality. It’s the prescriptions and response to the problems that I disagree with and are unbiblical