I Sent $150k And Sold My Home For Online Love! 

Can you help me I have been scammed

Have fun with that!!!

You’ve definitely watched a few of these!

Didn’t he call her babe? 😂

Lol

LOL Good one!

@mombeach ...... marvellous comment. What a b*****d ! ❤

Greedy people

He could try saying he had several McDonalds franchises.

Let's all stay away from nurses !

There is always greed involved.

​@@monikabachmann4002 Not another nurse!

I suppose you know exactly who is you nephew 😅

First time someone buys it without being scammed lol😅

Amen. Such a shame these scammers can’t be prevented from getting to the vulnerable. A work friend said they put “widow” in their dating profile to avoid awkward questions, and had to remove it because they were so flooded with obvious scammer replies.

They never talk about the sex they enjoy!If these scammers taped them and their families found out!

Never had any.

I'm sorry but some people deserve to be scammed if they are just that ignorant and gullible.

@@jolenedehart4315 So true!

Exactly

Yes! Not a bad idea to cover this topic in a nursing program…we studied a lot about grief; “avoiding scammers” could be added in there, too. 😅…Or, it could be part of “continuing education”, just like renewing CPR!

Facts! 😂💀😭

Different people were on shifts those days :p

It's not 24 year olds who are getting tricked by Romance Scammers... It's people in their 60s, 70... The Graduate Nurses are usually pretty young. And we all grew up with the internet. We grew up knowing to stay away from the ice cream man and the white van with candy. Older generations were taught to trust more openly. My point is that even if you were serious about adding this to Nursing School Curriculum, you'd be wasting time, energy, and money. Maybe if there were some way to require a course for Retiring Nurses... but fresh Nursing Students don't need to be told to avoid Nigerian Princes who work on oil rigs.

​@@jaimexxoYeah, CEUs maybe! And we could always try to warn widows and widowers when we come across them. In the same way we warn them to get a Mammogram after age 50 or a Prostate Exam after 40... We younger gens could try to spread the word to our more vulnerable pts & their family.

Won't work. These people all think they are 'special', and they are....

​@@Chahlieit might work, because if you learn about the scams *before* you are vulnerable, you'll be much more likely to be wary of attention that seeks to exploit your vulnerability.

When I taught at the high school level, I taught a whole unit on different types of scams.

It needs to be talked about in commercials on television and streaming services

And an aftercare program. I can’t imagine how they feel after learning how long they’ve been in a lie.

Perception is, or can be, reality.

Exactly right. And the conversations are so mundane. How are these women so desperate? I am confounded.

Grief can make people do strange things. I hope this lady gets counseling to help her with her feelings and put things in perspective.

​@@elainebmackThis "lady" was pouring money into a relationship she didn't have with a man she never met - but she believed showering him with cash would do the trick. She's little better than a procuress expecting a stranger to prostitute himself at the right price.

A work colleague mentioned she put “widow” on her dating profile, to avoid awkward questions, and said she had to remove it as she was flooded with so many obvious scam replies.

Yeah, this is actually a mental disorder called limerence. People use a romantic fantasy to regulate their emotions.

Yes, from Norway, and lives in the US, but now is Mexican(how does that work?) yet clearly has a Nigerian accent.

lol!!

Your just jealous Like all her friends who said the same thing

Of course it's a Mexican accent... he sounds JUST like Speedy Gonzales🤣🐭 - GO CATfish go catch that mouse!

@@susanmargaretwills6432😂😂😂

I think they get addicted to the attention. My mom was caught in a different kind of scam but the whole family told her and gave her hard facts. The person scaming her, convinced her that she was the center of the world and of course she still refused to believe us. To this day I have to stay super vigilant because once she believes some weird s..t someone is telling her, she won't believe anything else.

My company has to "fire" customers when they refuse to believe they are being scammed.

I’m so sorry this sweet lady has been scammed so badly she has a heart of gold

@@chrise.321that’s a good tactic

It's the usual pattern of an empath being reeled in by a narcissist. They're easy targets. Until they learn how to spot the red flags, they'll keep falling for them. @@kathyhodges-ik2zk

That's a huge red flag right there. The scammer says he's successful, has tons of money stashed away that he can't get to right now, and yet..he has NO FRIENDS who can help him? I would definitely wonder what was wrong with that person!

I don't have anyone who would help me as I'm estranged from my family. Also some people have no one. Having said that if I'm in a financial bind I figure it out. I would be homeless before I asked a stranger for a dime! Good people don't put others (especially ones they claim to love) in a financial bind to save themselves! Also it's no one else's job to pay another adults bills! These victims should ask themselves "Would I ask an online "lover" for thousands of dollars over and over again?" If the answer is yes then that makes you a user and you deserve to get scammed! If the answer is no then tell online lover you're dying of some horrible disease and lost everything you own and are now living in a nursing home and can you please borrow 100 bucks. They'll leave skid marks disappearing!

Because they feel special being needed lol

Right, or insurance or support from a consulate/ ambasies etc?

Great point…

Unmistakable to us because we hear them on nearly every episode.

My mom was also a nurse and got romance scammed (a year after my dad died).

I am ashamed. You would think they would spot scamming from a mile, but I have seen a lady banker being scammed, too.

They are good hearted that's the problem i think 😅

And churchgoers.

@x.justsayin3771 I don't think so. Why did she not give her children the money? I give my children money now while I am still alive to see them benefiting from it.

exactly, she’s surrounded by unconditional love

Amen

The minute I see these photos,it is so obvious that these men are gay.

You can't beat living with four dogs there love is as pure as it gets

It's cheaper to have a pet.

It’s never their own money. It’s their spouses.

Homes that are largely paid for now worth a lot more these days !!! And 401k accounts & pension funds etc etc - it's older folks who mainly have those kinds of accounts ! You have to wonder just how many of these frauds there are going on right now! It's been Nigeria for many years that was the source of such schemes - so if nobody trusts Nigerians these days - there is the reason ! I'm glad to see that they are now trying to find the perpetrators - that is a good thing.

Insurance

I’m 74 and I wouldn’t send one brown penny to anyone online😡

Not their $$$$

💯

😂😂😂

I'm always surprised they can't tell it's a black dude. But I'm black, so maybe I have an ear for that 🤔🤷🏿‍♀️

I listen to hip hop and rnb, so I too have an ear for that. 😂

🤣🤣🤣🤣

😂😂😂😂 how stupid

Can you lend me just one bar? And by the way--have you eaten today?

I am stuck on an oil rig in Switzerland and have just had my wallet and phone stolen by zombies, please help!

@@elliotoliver8679so silly

It's an addiction rather. Like being in a casino (or online casino).

More like vanity/arrogance. Loneliness hits young people hard and they don't (mostly) do this

My kids and grandkids are not entitled to my money. I worked hard for it and it’s mine to do with as I please. However, if I wish to give money to them that’s different, but until then they can butt out.

​@terryKessler42719 OK but how sad to waste money on a dude when one of your kids or grandkids could use that money to start a business or fund a film or music project. You don't owe anybody anything but why wouldn't you want to pass your fortune (and wisdom) down to the future?

Hi hun do you want to play song pop

It's the essence of a red flag, haha!

She knows better than the bank…🙄

What do bank managers know? And adult children? (Someone I know is going through this with a parent)

There is a reason scammers often target the elderly, besides that they typically have savings. Dementia is pretty common, and in the decade before it is apparent, a persons judgement starts to fail, and people can become too trusting. Then add in grief, loneliness, the need for love, wanting to believe, etc. and it can happen to the vulnerable. That is also why “scam education” often fails. Many on the channel say they are aware of scams, but say THEIR bf/gf isn’t a scam because (reasons).

Stupidity

he was messaging with a power of LOVE of course 😂

The dude could have said Aliens abducted him and brought him back without his wallet and phone and she would still buy it.

That’s what I thought. Do you think these stories are genuine

The man said "Turkish Taliban"...

And that's the way you do it! LOL! Great response.

Classic 🤣🤣, love this for you..

😂

😂🤣😂🤣😂

Yep I did that also and got banned from the dating website!!😂 So sad how people can be so gullible 😢!

And then there's that pesky Turkish Taliban...🥴😬

@@lindsayfraser7633😂

How about Germany, and Greece! 😅

@@lindsayfraser7633 I am Turkish and literally burst into laughter when the guy claimed that he was attacked by the "Turkish taliban" LMFAO! His lie was so ridiculous and so far-fetched. There is NO SUCH THING as "Turkish taliban," people, because the Republic of Turkiye was founded on secularism.

@@neee.olduuuas bayrakları

You really don't need to be capable of significant critical thinking in order to become a nurse.

I noticed that too; it’s weird.

@@kingdele01 Really? Where did you go to nursing school?

@@pattibennett8774 I have many relatives in the medical field and that is their assessment of nurses. Also, I've interacted with many people in nursing school in the past and many of them struggle with basic math classes (such as algebra). Which show that they are less capable of abstract thinking.

My theory is it’s just that vintage of lady, older boomers- back in the 60s/70s and even 80s there weren’t that many careers readily accepting and open to women, so that’s why you’ll find most ladies this age are usually nurses and teachers- I’m not at all saying that women couldn’t have other careers, of course they could, it’s just society mostly pushed women Into ‘womens jobs’ back then (it still does now! Just not as bad! Haha)

Ya

Even if the love of your life had died five months earlier, and you were devastated with grief and loneliness?

@@JehanineMelmothEspecially if that’s the case. People who fall for these scams have a predilection for it that scammers pick up on and exploit. Doesn’t matter if they’re married, single or widowed.

I can only hope I am in that position when I retire.

UEA! you could go on vacation and find love in real life, not on facebook!

@@JehanineMelmothof course!! My boyfriend passed away in my arms, I grieved him for a very long time and it never crossed my mind to pay someone for being loved. That’s desperation, not real love.

All my social media is privated with a publicly seen note that unless I actually know you in the flesh, don't bother friend requesting. Still doesn't stop the occasional attempt. I still laugh at the one who went on about how beautiful I look in my avatar picture when it's not even a photo of me but an art piece of a superhero character I like.

Unfortunately that's not good enough. You are telling others they are smarter than that, but YOU shouldn't accept friend requests from random strangers, even if they created a profile showing your town. THAT'S how they'll still get to you .. If you don't know who they are, decline. And even better to make your profile private.

@@PSmith-ie9jx Actually, I deleted my FB account in 2020, so I haven't been friending anyone for 4 years. No Twitter either. But if you can't physically meet someone that's no bueno.

Loneliness kills

@@PSmith-ie9jx Yes, that is a good point. I see if we have friends in common I look further, but even that is not fool proof! I have seen scammers clone profiles of my friends and some of my FB friends become friends of scammers. I check out the profiles thoroughly and if they are a single good looking man with all the red flags I ban then immediately. Gotta be a fake! LOL

Look at her.😮

She has nothing else to give or to lose.

What’s her family doing…shouldn’t they be giving her guidance…she certainly lost all her common sense.

Is her name Britney?

Guardianships can be hard to get, and being a scam victim may not be enough. If it were, everyone “selling” essential oils, vitamins, etc as part of an online MLM company could be under supervision, as most end up losing money.

Or give some money to a single mother or somebody homeless. 😖

Make your husband watch these episodes & have someone be in control of the money like a lawyer- so he can’t access the funds so easily.

@@Theorganizationmavenoh my gosh, thank you, but I was really just being funny! 😂 My husband is WAY too smart and WAY too good with our money to ever do something like this. It would never happen. Plus, neither one of us would look for love if the other one passed. We’ve been together since we were practically kids, and we’d never sully the memory of our true love this way. We figure we’ll go within days of each other someday, and we have our finances in order and organized so it’s as easy as possible for our kids.❤ These stories are wild. I can’t fathom why anyone would send a dime to someone they don’t even know!

😂@@Theorganizationmaven

​@@MisplacedTexanOr think that they share "love" or a "romance" wait, they have never met!

😂😂😂😂

Yes, her bank tried to help her.

She knows better of course

Already a red flag !

I keep all my Gold Bars at Jack storage and pool hall in Flushing Queens 😂

You would think that would be a big warning sign , but she put her fingers in her ears and ignored it .

Because it's about entitlement not loneliness

Why they don't ask theirs buissnes partners or banks? 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤯

That's exactly what I said to someone I'd been chatting to, for some time. Why wouldn't you ask dozens of people you are allegedly close to, instead of asking someone you've never met? He said, if I loved him, I'd offer to send him the money he needed. How can you love someone you've never met? This was a few years before the Catfish thing really took off. Thank God my common sense saved me.

Great answer 🎉😊​@@pixi2209

That involves logical thinking

They're vulnerable and in need of connection. Many are also tech illiterate.

I just don’t feel sorry for them anymore

@@spooningbards9138 yeah, I feel like there'd have to be some sort of small course on scams you'd have to finish before it would allow you to join any social platform

​@@tamicox990seriously, I really don't either because this is absolutely insane. Who believes this sh*t?

I'm to the point that I'm sad so many people have such low self esteem

No they wouldn't--they'd give that real life man plenty of cash, a place to live (their place), a paid-off vehicle, new clothes, vacations, etc. etc

I agree 😂 it’s a crazy comparison

No, ugly, masculine or not confident women always splurge on men.

The storyline is so good---rich man who is trapped in a foreign country and needs help. Will pay everything back, my love.

@@jodylarson4697unfortunately most of these people haven’t travelled overseas. Getting ‘stuck’ in a foreign country just doesn’t happen. Someone organised enough to lead a construction team doesn’t have banking problems. People don’t get put in jail for having an expired passport, they get deported on the next flight home.

He had better NEVER ask me for money...PERIOD!

That hurt my heart too

That was terrible...

😂😂

Bless her, its just so awful 😢

Poor lady, she breaks my heart

Hahaha she should do the Elaine dance 💃🏻

Art Vandelay!!😂😂

🤣🤣🤣

He works at the “jerk store”

And of course there aren’t any pipe layers that live in Turkey!?! I actually feel sorry for this sweet lady. I hope she can recover and move on.

Basically, these older widows spent their life with a good man who took care of them and they would do a lot for him, too. It's as if they imagine a similar man on the other side of those messages, and are willing to do everything for him. Messaging is exceptionally conducive to filling the blanks with their own imagination; she knows very little of this man, but she fills in the blanks with wishful thinking or with what her husband was like. Combine that with living under a rock i.e. unaware of scams, of technology etc. It is indeed unfortunate.

The bank told her she was being scammed but she shouldn’t feel stupid? Are you nuts

Duh!😅

Yes..and they're all stupid!

Yes! This would be perfect for an episode!! They could also ask if certain generations are more trusting than others. I feel my generation is going to be wary old folks, yet my parents and grandparents' generation were a bit more trusting.

@@embr4065nah, this is more entertaining

Fabulous idea!

Yes need a psychologist or professional counselor to explain personality type who is targeted.

A lot of it is limerence.

😂😂😂😂 I have a new swear

Lawdhammercy - Love It!! I'm going to use it too. Thanks

😂🤷🏽‍♀️

$130,000 dollars down the drain!

🤮😡

Hahahaha!😂

Yup! After your bank kicked you out for fraudulent activity!

What the heck? Is she nuts?

Well it starts slow then when you finally get to that point you are done so much that it doesn’t seem like much

You have probably never experienced a deep, abiding love relationship as this woman did with her second husband and she had not gone through the "valley of the shadow" grieving for her "lost love". This cheap trickster will hopefully get his just reward in the after life because I have read many articles on the romance scammers and 95% of them to SCOT FREE. They're too hard to identify and arrest and Nigeria is an extremely poor country so they feel they are "entitled" to steal from "lovelorn" older women. Most of them are young men--well educated in Nigerian or UK universities. I speak from first-hand experience as I have been scammed (only to the tune of $2,000) by an "older type" guy (Spanish origin) and I called him a scammer too many times in the past 20 months but kept "reuniting" with him. This video cemented my resolve - NO MORE ONLINE "ROMANCE" for this chickie of some years!

I dont like victim blaming. But yeah, the accent is clearly nigerian and he claims he is norwegian, moved to the US and now having a mexican accent. Its a lot of bollocks.

Yep. How could you be smart enough to be a nurse but be this ignorant?

@@kelliedoxiern4308same way as many rich/highly educated people get scammed.. love confuses logic

⁠@@kelliedoxiern4308 I have my PhD in physics and was one of the women I never thought I would be by staying so long with my abusive partner.. love made completely delusional

That’s terrible. You sound very vulnerable and I hope you get therapy asap. This scam isn’t worth the end of your world

Best of wishes Barbara, stay strong, you got this!

Oh gosh I am so sorry! The after affects sound devastating. You will heal. Therepy is a good step forward. Focus on the positived and what you still have or value worth more than money. Your daughter. X

Barbara you are loved by Jesus. He can put the pieces together and bring good out of the situation.

Honey, God loves you, and He wants you to live, And Jesus died for you! ❤

Why, does she strike you as the type of person who listens?

I caught that too!

As a former South Florida resident of a decade long I also thought the same, LOL.

I'm in love with Jennifer Lawrence i never meet her 😂

Agree with all of these but number four. My spouse and I are from opposite sides of the world and met online via each other's blogs back in the day. We had a regular friendship for a few years that eventually developed into something more. We've now been happily married for over fifteen years. But we also had frequent video chats and made sure to meet up in person twice (once in my country for a month, once in his for a few weeks) prior to getting engaged/married. You can definitely fall in love with someone you haven't met in person. You just have to follow certain safety guidelines to ensure that person is legit.

@@nicked_fenyx RU-vid rarely allows for nuanced discussion. Congrats. Sounds like a wonderful relationship. ❤️

@@nicked_fenyx Agree, I have dated several girls I have first met from online and I was deep in love with them before meeting them in person, and they were as wonderful in real. The biggest red flag is when the long distance relationship lasts years before meeting in real. If after a year they can't figure out a way to meet, I would be really suspicious.

@@abeurakadabeura Lol - I generally agree with that, but it made me laugh because my spouse and I were in an online relationship for two years before meeting up in person (and that's after the years we spent as "just friends"). I think in total it was four years from first online contact to first in-person visit. There were a variety of reasons for the delay, but we chose to play it safe with making sure we both had a chance to visit each other's country, meet each other's family, experience a bit of the other person's culture, etc before finally getting engaged/married. Those years were hard and full of many, many late night phone/video calls, but the end result was/is well worth the wait. In general, though, you're right. The initial in-person visit shouldn't take that long. I think the biggest red flag for me in most catfishing scenarios is the refusal to video chat. Nowadays there's really no excuse for that, as very few people truly have no way to video chat (even if briefly). I can't imagine not doing everything possible to make that happen in a long distance relationship. The number of excuses these scammers come up with as to why they cannot video chat always blows my mind. Persistent refusal to video chat = no long distance relationship, imo.

They did, she ignored it

Oh man, I did not catch that. There is none so blind.

Because she didn’t want to hear the truth.

I know .the bank would have definitely have spoken to her before sending large amounts like these. I am beginning to wonder if these stories are true

@@lizbethruffman7915 I wondered the same.

scammers usually purchase ready-made scripts for scams.

If it ain't broke, don't fix it!

Men fall, too. According to scammers, themselves, they get more money from men. Men just don't talk about it.

I'd love to know what % of the economy scamming contributes to

@@FreeRadicals305 Where the source for that? according to BBC women loose twice as mush as men and 63% of victims are women. The scammer I’ve seen interviewed say they prefer women as victim.

Your husband has one leg in the grave... Might as well explore your options.

@@azazello1784 no need. I am sure it is a SCAM and that person looks like crap. 😂😂

Good for you love.😅😅 I'm to mean to give any away if thay ask me for money do you know What idd say.idd be like HOW MUCH DO YOU NEED??? Thay be 200. Idd be AM NO!!!! LOL LET THAM WAIT A MIN THAN NO.THERE A JOKE😂

Fellow RN here. Retired after 45 years experience. I’m tired. I don’t have the energy.😂😂😂

Bad do and OK Stupid also have scam profiles

Lol

Don’t. She willingly gave this guy money. They money goes to the most awful organized crime you can think of.

😂😂😂

🙄🤔😁😂🤣

The multimillion dollar company he allegedly worked for needed tons of cash for repairs/new equipment

He's laying pipe alright haha

I'm pretty sure these scammers often say some obvious off the walls s*** to see if the person will buy it, because at that point they know they have a live one they can squeeze a lot of money out of.

No tf she’s Not sweet 5 months after her husband dies she falls in love with a stranger online constantly sending money??!!! 😂delusional

I don't.

He would have been her 4th husband, she’s far from naive!

Nope

Yes just because she's naive doesn't mean she deserved this. But here comes the victim blamers..

Same mate

🎯

Without ever meeting them in person?

You dumb

You been a nurse why are you so dunmo

Glad you never my nurse

Same here. I'm curious as to makes what makes one person more susceptible to these scams more than others.

Her bank dropped her for participating in fraud but she would never do that!!! Yet, that is exactly what she has done. Doh.

I would love to see several psychology students get together for a study for finals by studying several of these people to analyze how they think and can anyone get through to them. So many of these people turn around and continue or find someone new and start all over again. A proper study would go world wide.

Google mind control and how cults use it to recruit and fleece its members. WARNING: There's a lot of material to go through so have some food within arm's reach as you search and read.

@@SonjaElizabethTeal IMO, these poor women are so desperate for attention. And being alone, after a loved one, but....... soo sad!

She done it to herself! Anyone who is gullible enough to give a stranger money deserves to be scammed

your comment reads like Pure comedy.... you should read it back to yourself sometime

It's infuriating because that poor man probably tried his best to make sure his family was secure

Her husband will haunt him….

The only people I feel sorry for are this lady's children and grandchildren. All that money could have gone to bettering their lives and funding her Grandchildren's educations but instead she pisses it down the toilet. Extremely selfish.

And with her being in S. Florida, it is almost certainly a Cuban accent, which sounds NOTHING like a "Mexican" accent. ETA... what she thinks she's hearing in S. Florida... not that the scammer sounds like that.

Is not Mexican accent I'm Mexican and we don't have that accent

@@tormentors that’s what I was thinking too I’m from Mexico City and nope we don’t have that accent

Not all of S. Florida is Cuban--majority of landscaping crews/businesses are Mexican@@izzylopez81

Everyone but Hedy knows it Nigerian

Fools who comment before watching.

Thinking the same thing!

If you watched it you would see she’s not a bad mess. This is actually quite sad

Sold her rental mobile for $150k and no doubt capital gains taxes were due on THAT but she sent the scammer the whole thing! That rental income is gone, and then her mortgage was in arrears and all she has now is SS checks

​@HobbyOrganist 😢😢so sad.whether she should of known better or not it's still sad.

SS checks are nothing, this lady is in real trouble.

While I was watching this, two ‘American’ men sent me friend requests on Facebook, with obviously fake profiles. Both their profiles were created 12 days ago and only had two photos, zero friends and no information about themselves. Who falls for this???

I really think the only reason she stopped giving money is that she ran out. Then the penny dropped and she thought, what do I do now that all my money is gone and he hasn't given me one dollar back. That is a very hard way to wake up to a scam. I really don't understand how this happens but it does

Even if you do people will continue to be scammed.

Dating sites would not want to push this. It would limit folks for signing up for there services therefore limiting the business cash flow.😢

​@@rebeccaabel4589exactly!

@@julienawrocki655 Then people should be allowed to sue these sites for not verifying these catfish accounts before allowing them to be posted. The lawsuits would make the dating sites change their ways quickly

That's not the answer. People need to be made more aware of scams, mainly the elderly

Yes, this

I could have told her she needed to grieve.

yes just like Jodie

Yes she will

@@mamacindyrogofsky495 and for free! Not 150k

Every game I’ve ever played, they pop up in chat.🙁

Everything everywhere

@@dashopepperIt gives me chills thinking about being stalked by some scammer online 😖

I used to know a person that worked for a bankruptcy liquidation attorney. Half his job was to infiltrate target's social media accounts and look through their photos for things of value they hadn't claimed in their bankruptcy. He ended up being not so nice of a guy. Best to avoid social media as much as possible.

Even Facebook, and Craigslist. They have one too many scammers!

When he described "laying pipe" I burst out laughing. Double entendre there....

Great message. 👍🏾

Beautiful comment

Great advice.

Lovely sentiment!

loser*

what a great point!

Because they want romance, it's a selfishness in a way.

Or American, or Mexican 😂

I think from Nigeria, a Yahoo boy

It’s a full on Nigerian African accent lol you can instantly hear it’s Nigerian etc

Immediately block and don't look back

Yes. No matter what reason he or she said.

Some people want to help others

@@frofrofrofro900 Then volunteer at a soup kitchen

That's all you need to do. No deniro.

Real men don't date online. 😎

😂😂😂😂

😆😂

She fell for everything else. Might as well sweeten the pot : (

Ah yes---the Taliban or pirates attacking the ship I'm working on