I Tried Chinese Confinement After Giving Birth

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I Tried Chinese Confinement After Giving Birth
Join me as I navigate postpartum, the Chinese confinement way with my pui yuet (Confinement Nanny), Carol. These practices are all about taking time to rest and recover a women's body after pregnancy, labour, and childbirth so that the mother has her health and strength to take care of the baby/family in the longterm. In this video we'll explore what "sitting the month" is and how it's modernized, the health benefits, and what life was like living with a Confinement Nanny.
*a little disclaimer.. this is what I chose to do personally, I’m not saying it’s the best way to do things or that you should do it too. Similarly to pregnancy and childbirth, there are many ways to do postpartum possibly connected to science, or culture or tradition with many different services and practices to partake in globally. Do your own research, discuss things with your healthcare provider, and listen to your own gut feeling. Do what feels right for you and your baby.
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@Taylor_R Год назад

I’m seeing a lot of comments about the “no crying” 😆😭 here’s more on that: In the past Mothers we’re told to rest their eyes so no reading, crying (nowadays the strict traditional pui yuets will say no screens). It stems from traditional Chinese medicine and the belief that the liver is linked to the eyes. It’s said that the large loss of blood during childbirth may weaken the eyes because blood is related to the Liver. We didn’t follow this rule, I believe most don’t nowadays, but things like goji berries were a big part of my diet to help with eye health.

@StefyRP Год назад

Loving the all video! I would really feel happy and glad to try that out! Wow looks a great experience to have and learn from 🥰 you will be a great mom 😊

@aureliaavalon Год назад

As someone with bad eyesight... does that mean my liver is at risk too?

@ayeyolizzo9291 Год назад

that’s so interesting!! thank you for sharing this with us 😊

@aliciakidd7940 Год назад

Oh people lol Thank you for your perspective! ❤️

@DreamsInWild Год назад

I cried so much the first few weeks lol It would be hard not to!!

@maybememory1 Год назад

This woman is a wizard! She’s basically a nurse, massage therapist, lactation consultant, spa worker, professional chef…

@mysticmama_3692 Год назад

Not to mention being a therapist to guide you through all those emotions.

@sarahgirard1405 Год назад

What a luxurious experience! So glad she got to have that after her first baby.

@azugirl111 Год назад

This is basically what midwives were back in the olden days before they were ousted from the community by being labeled as “witches” during the witch hunts and men began to practice medical gynecology and eventually replace them

@hambone4984 Год назад

When my sister had her second baby it took 8 people to do what Carol did and even then with everyone combined it didn't go nearly as efficiently as this. Carol is a godsend

@lingy74 Год назад

Yup, confinement lady is a profession. They live with you, they cook specific foods and they order the hubby around.

@adsilamartin5527 Год назад

Girl, if I had had this kind of phenomenal care postpartum, my experience would have been completely different. America treats mothers like dirt. Made me cry watching this.

@WeiyiZhang Год назад

Don’t cry. If you cry I feel like crying too. ALL moms deserve the care that carol gives.😢

@edenelston7668 11 месяцев назад

It's true. The love and care for her body mind and soul. It's beautiful. And absent from the US

@hobocode 11 месяцев назад

You're so right... I was staying in the NICU with my baby and the nurse yelled at me for bleeding on the hallway floor because the only bathroom was a shared public one in the hallway. And I was struggling to walk or stand after experiencing every trauma and complication possible. I was barely alive. And they also didn't allow any food or drink in the room. It was a living nightmare. I should have been still a patient. After a few days of this, I did end up collapsing and being readmitted but then was not allowed to see my baby for those 24 hours. So, I had to be let go again so I could go to the NICU which was just on another floor. But rules... The USA is more fucked up than most people understand. Especially healthcare. It's worse than anyone is willing to admit. Truly nightmarish. And I have excellent insurance and the hospital is rated as one of the best in the country. So... I'm pretty sure everyone else is just dying. We do have some of the highest maternal death. So... Great insurance means torture and barely surviving. Anything else? You just literally die. And, even in the NICU, we were still expected to do all the childcare tasks ourselves. The nurses were only there to respond to emergency type care. We did not sleep at all. And got no help or food or survival.

@benten2462 11 месяцев назад

@Phoxcherry Amen and hallelujah! I’m not religious lol but I felt that really needed to be said. I think you are 100% correct. I feel for every single mother out there who feels alone doing a task that takes a village and lots and lots of love for the mother as well. The west could learn a whole lot from these traditions and it would help in every aspect.

@benten2462 11 месяцев назад

@@hobocode this made my stomach turn and my heart ache. I am so incredibly sorry that you had to go through that, and even more sorry that it sounds like literally every other mother has to as well. That system is well broken.

@anhserc3534 Год назад

As an American it blows my mind that women are actually treated so gently and kindly. Here in America, once you deliver that baby the countdown starts for how quickly they can get you up out the hospital bed and back to work

@magneto3596 Год назад

Right it’s so sad…..

@xueminyang5246 10 месяцев назад

Oh, my god. I thought women all get 3-5 months maternity leave to recover. Here in my country, women get 158 days to recover and bond with their child. And in the first month, all family members will pay special attention to the mom and let her to recover.

@anhserc3534 10 месяцев назад

@@xueminyang5246 that’s amazing-which country are you in?! American maternity leave is 6-9 weeks.

@xueminyang5246 10 месяцев назад

@anhserc3534 I’m in China. The maternity leave is compulsory and the salary during the leave is paid by the government. The company can’t fire a woman who is pregnant or when she is in maternity leave. I think this pretty good for us to have babies, though many still don’t want to as they think it might reduce their career competition.

@kimmies2750 9 месяцев назад

@@anhserc3534 And that's IF you get paternity time

@NikkiandNonna 11 месяцев назад

1. I didn't expect to grieve with you at the end. Totally sobbed. 2. I cannot even imagine how phenomenal this was for your mental health. 3. Congrats on your baby!!!!

@Jenna-Roo 3 месяца назад

Me too 😢❤

@LourSims 27 дней назад

Omg I didn’t expect to feel the same way but, it was beautiful see the help and bond formed between Taylor and Carol.

@hresatyst.6208 Год назад

I actually like it. They pay respect to the mother and baby while in the west they treat birth like it's nothing. A mother should be given time to bond with her baby and relax

@noazucar519 Год назад

Some countries in Europe are starting to care. America as a whole doesn't give a crap though. 😅

@user-K8T Год назад

It's one of those things that reminds me that I'm super lucky to come from a family where your mom will try to come and stay with you for a month or so to help out. Humans aren't supposed to do this on their own. And, like anything new, having someone to have your back while you work through it all is super important.

@richardmangelmann4975 Год назад

@@noazucar519 Europes been caring for a long time tho, like paid maternal leave and such isn't new.

@Fiona2254 Год назад

@@user-K8T yeah my mom came to stay with us every time I had a baby, it was so good to have her with me. Mom never breast fed (“only poor people do that” was the thought about it back then) so she was very uncomfortable with it 😂 but otherwise she was awesome.

@Mojofoe Год назад

@@richardmangelmann4975 paid time off is the LEAST they can do.

@775simplyme Год назад

After my c-section I came right home to dirty laundry and dishes. Literally walked in and didn't sit down because no one cleaned for me. My husband begged to go back to work right away. I was left alone to do everything. This tradition seems so special and amazing. So glad to see women support during the toughest part of our life journey.

@canesugar911 Год назад

Begged the to go back to work?

@jojopototo7249 Год назад

Oh, my heart just broke for you. I have no words, except that no warrior can withstand the pains and dismay of a mother dedicated to her family.

@ninasandoval3781 Год назад

I’m so sorry you had to go through that! You deserve better hun

@Stevie-oy8zj Год назад

@@canesugar911 right wtf? Why would you breed with someone like that in the first place.. or why is he still your husband. 🥴

@canesugar911 Год назад

@@Stevie-oy8zj i doubt she knew how he'd react that way. But yeah.... no more babies after that. And i think she should get herself snatched; save some money and move on when the child is older. But yeah............

@Lotusviolet 11 месяцев назад

I first saw this video reproduced in a Chinese social media, so intrigued and come here to see the comments😊. It’s weird that, in China, we’ve been told for decades that we need confinement because we have weaker bodies and lack of workouts while western women are much stronger and healthier, so they can have ice-creams, icy water and go back to work right after postpartum and don’t feel a thing. Now I get to know that it’s mainly because of the different cultures and traditions. Literally, all women are vulnerable at that moment. All new mothers should be cherished and treated well.

@user-wm9sj8ce1c 11 месяцев назад

同在国内看见，坐月子也是古人总结的经验啊。像分娩前一个月要多躺着，因为躺着能减少对腰椎的压力，躺着的时候最好腰下垫上垫子以保护腰椎的弧形。补充蛋白质催乳这些感觉都应该懂不必要讲。然后不能洗澡洗头，这个是因为古时候没有保暖的条件，怀孕期间比较虚弱容易着凉，这点现在有了供暖和吹风机就不怕了所以可以忽略。然后生姜水洗澡那个，因为姜生热祛寒，小时候不是很严重的感冒，我们就是把姜放酒精里加热，然后擦拭背心腹部额头脚心，擦了浑身热乎乎很舒服。我还给我室友弄过，结果他还上瘾了，因为太舒服了。最后棉布缠腰是因为，产后，腰椎还很脆弱，就跟绑腿一个道理，裹腰支撑了腰椎减轻了负担并有一定保护作用。我曾亲眼看到过一个坐完月子不久的女的摔倒然后腰椎断裂。应该就这些了。

@oOIIIMIIIOo 10 месяцев назад

I guess birth is the same all over the world.

@Raggedyredwood 10 месяцев назад

Yes I wish that western woman weren't held to those expectations. I loved watching femininity really being celebrated and taken care of in this video.

@kinderleichtlerneneasypeas6885 9 месяцев назад

@@user-wm9sj8ce1c Thank you

@lucynjogu9039 9 месяцев назад

I😊ó9p

@ianknightley938 Год назад

I'm Chinese Canadian but I use Chinese social media, and the sitting the month is pretty much a test to their marriage. I saw a lady sharing that because her husband was caring and helped with all the chores through the month when she's the most vulnerable physically and mentally, every time she gets angry and argue with him she'll remember how he took things in charge during the sitting and she'll forgive him because she knows he's trustworthy. I also saw people who got really screwed over during the sitting by negligent mother in law/husband, and they can really hold a grudge for life

@ilivace 6 месяцев назад

If my husband did that after I birthed a baby I would forgive pretty much anything he does after that too! Great husband

@thesolagratialife 3 месяца назад

I'm in the US. My husband works very hard so that I could quit my job to just relax and have as comfortable, stress free pregnancy as possible. He also helps to clean, cook, and run errands for me when my symptoms are too intense (fatigue, morning sickness etc). Owning his own business, he also arranged his projects where he would be able to go with me to all my OB appointments and take off a month from work to take care of me postpartum. On days where he is irritable, says stupid things, or whatever less than perfect trait comes out I have so much more compassion for him in those moments because of the sacrificial way he loves me and our soon to be born baby at a time where we need his support most. Bonus that he looks like a 6'7 slightly older Chris Hemsworth lol. Men like this exist. Don't settle, ladies 🥰

@nataliamontelongo2781 Год назад

Sometimes people don't realize that postpartum care is as important as prenatal care. I mean you just pushed out a human being, that's very metal. Great that your body was taking care of, Carol seems like a great person to have by your side, and the food seems delicious.

@NebulaBlossom Год назад

THIS. Wish my country would realize this. The powers here just want women to make more tax payers, but provide little resources or respect to mothers, born babies, and motherhood. Glad to know there are other counties who do though! Gives me hope for the future.

@TashitaxLinda Год назад

Here in the US, I'm so grateful for my doula. She was there for both birth and postpartum and seriously kept us functional as a family. Taught my husband and i to be parents, truly. Don't know how we could have done it without her.

@user-ow1qs7jo7f Год назад

Not everyone can afford a to hire a personal chef....

@Y3llow_Submarin3 Год назад

YES, imagine the amount of blood you have lost.

@spacebar9733 Год назад

@@user-ow1qs7jo7f no one was talking about that, we're saying it needs to be normalized and spoken about. Also typically your family would do this for you, not a chef. So no need to fret.

@Auroralavender13 Год назад

Oh god, am I the only one that needs a month with Carol even without having a baby? I just need this woman to teach me how to take care of my body in such a sweet way 🥺

@rocker76m88 Год назад

Most definitely!

@alexandraernst3015 Год назад

You're not the only one. I would love a month with this amazing woman and her teachings!

@phoenixrising7440 Год назад

Yes, This is much needed!

@ruthie6406 Год назад

OMG me too, what I wouldn't give for a month of Carol to help me! :`)

@julie223783 Год назад

I need carol I think 😃🥰🧸💖

@BubblesMcGhee Год назад

Imagine? Being supported by a trained professional and ACTUALLY recovering from birth. The west has so much to learn! Thank you for this eye opening vlog!

@lexier3014 11 месяцев назад

This is such a beautiful thing to do for mothers. Carol was so loving and knowledgeable. She really seemed like what every post-pardum woman needs

@valtoton2982 7 месяцев назад

Too bad more people can't afford this! How refreshing, it was such an incredible supportive experience.

@user-zz2lh7cx6j 6 месяцев назад

We Chinese believe that women's immune system and function will decrease after giving birth, and the recovery period is one month. Therefore, the wife needs special care within one month of giving birth to a child. The task of taking care of is completed by the husband's mother. My wife is a newspaper columnist, and after giving birth, she didn't listen to my mother and secretly wrote newspaper columns on her computer. A month later, due to typing on the keyboard with her hands and looking at the computer with her eyes, her hands became very painful on rainy days and her eyes became dry and uncomfortable at night. My mother said that if she doesn't write within a month after giving birth to her second child, her illness will improve. My wife followed my mother's instructions when giving birth to her second child, and something magical happened. After a month, my wife's eyes and wrists no longer hurt.

@lezzleee Год назад

The biggest takeaway from this is emphasizing how focused on recovery the tradition is. Something we lost in the West especially in countries like the U.S. where there is no guaranteed maternity leave.

@Breezely22 Год назад

Yes. In some western countries you are expected to always work and never take time off unless you physically can't stand. It's insane.

@silveryfeather208 Год назад

I an Chinese. China kind of lost it too. So does a lot of countries. look at Japan where people literally work themselves to death. Not trying to hate my own culture but also it shouldn't be glamourized. We Chinese too are sometimes worked to death. The abuse children face because parents want them to be the best is insane. One thing I love about the west for all its flaws is we recognize that people are different. Call it trying to be woke, but I like the care that the west (at least in Canada) give for neurodivergent people for example

@harrietsoderberg9759 Год назад

Urmm. The US is the only Western country that doesn't have maternity leave. We get a year in the UK.

@KNYD Год назад

US is the exception, not the example. In Finland parents are given a baby box (shown in the beginning of the video). The supplies and clothes are really good quality and most are domestic brands. Parental leave is nine months with full pay, the parents can decide how much each will take. They can also choose to continue their parental leave after the nine months, but they will only receive partial pay. If the pregnancy ends, but has lasted longer than 22 weeks, the woman is entitled to full paid maternity leave to recover, she is also entitled to the same maternity allowance the government bestows to all new mothers. The government will give a family allowance for each child every month until the child turns 17. For the first child it's about 95€/month, second 105€/month, third 135€, fourth 165€. So a family with four children would receive a monthly payment of 500€ from the government. Then remember that school is free, healthcare is free, children get a warm cooked proper meal at school (no fast food, the cooks actually cook) and daycare is heavily subsidised.

@TabbyQ.9563 Год назад

I had six weeks off (unpaid). I would have gone back to work sooner but I could not find a daycare that would take her until 6 weeks. I had to work two jobs so I could catch up on rent and medical bills while paying daycare. Such a depressing time of my life. I really don't know how I did not kill myself. Got very close. No family, just me and my boyfriend.

@DelaneySanderson444.77 Год назад

I teared up while watching this. I had really bad postpartum depression and would’ve loved this treatment and emotional support, sleep, massages, comfort, help with household chores ect. from other women. I don’t think I would’ve suffered from postpartum depression so much if where I lived prioritized us mothers. Thankfully other cultures prioritize mothers’ mental and physical health in the postpartum period. ❤️

@annaohare8263 Год назад

With my first I was the same so I'm tearing up

@DelaneySanderson444.77 Год назад

@@annaohare8263 It’s helps me to know I wasn’t the only one. Hope you’re doing well now mama❤️

@Jbetz427 Год назад

This comment made me tear up! I hope you’re doing well now 🫶🏽🫶🏽

@Fiona2254 Год назад

It’s no wonder out young ladies don’t want to have babies any more. It’s very sad. I keep telling my daughters that I would come and help for a few weeks, it’s what my mom did for me.

@gurlfiend76 Год назад

My daughter is going through this right now. Her son is a little over two months old, she had induced C-section because she had very high blood pressure and she had a horrible flu so she was given birth on exactly the 37th week. Then they put so much pressure on her to make the baby gain weight. He was already a "preemie" born under stressful circumstances. Instead of allowing a more natural expansion of his tummy and his eating and appetite, they were forcing/stressing her to give him at least one liquid ounce per hour around the clock. Basically each feeding had to be so many ounces, if not she had to wake him up two hours later to complete what he didn't finish and start the new feeding, etc. She says it was so stressful she was in tears, he was in tears, the cat was in tears, the husband was in tears, I was in tears. It was no joke. Now the baby is nearly 3 months old and he is chunky and gorgeous. And she told me he naturally just started eating more. I can understand if there was an emergency situation, dehydration, other physical side effects of not getting enough food/fluids/nutrition, but that was NOT happening Her OB/GYN gave her a medication for postpartum but then they said that she had to find a regular psychiatrist and therapist because they were only equipped to do so much :( Part of me wishes I had the skills to do with this lovely lady did, I would have loved to have taken care of my daughter in that aspect, but understandably she was not feeling visitors for quite a while after her first experience. It made people sad, some of them got a little irritated, but I understood and respected it and she knew I was here for her at the drop of a dime. Needless to say it's been quite quite stressful and it often made me wonder if in America new mothers and babies should be handled differently

@muchadoaboutkovu Год назад

This is… unbelievably amazing. How they actually acknowledge that giving birth is actually intense and a type of trauma to your body, therefore you need a month to get better from it all. What wonderful traditions and recipes for healing. Focusing on rest an bonding.. no wonder so many moms in USA have post partum depression because you are expected to get up and go afterwards-you got a new being to take care of but no biggie just keep going! And you are so exhausted from the baby not sleeping and you are so drained.. this is amazing to have someone feed you, help you TAKE NAPS.

@user-zz2lh7cx6j 6 месяцев назад

@rikim1693 4 месяца назад

I agree..I had a doula. With all 3 natural birth yiu feel like you came from from WAR. Yes it's like trauma to the body.

@rikim1693 4 месяца назад

I agree with what you said

@harrietgrib 6 месяцев назад

Carol seems like an angel. I’m not pregnant or a mother but I want her to come and ginger bathe me and give me soup 😭

@randihigginbotham5070 Год назад

I need and want Carol. No baby, but … this just feels like love. Lol!! This confinement makes so much sense. The mom is so supported. Gets plenty of rest. No disturbance. Safe environment. Loving environment. Nurturing. This is brilliant. All new moms need this. I bet this saves lives and marriages.

@beandal8493 Год назад

Agreed. Every mother is amazing and deserves this kind of treatment.

@luxlifee6843 Год назад

Seriously, I need her too! Not pregnant yet, but I need to get on her waiting list lol . Hopefully she can travel to the US.

@randihigginbotham5070 Год назад

@@luxlifee6843 Girl. Have your baby abroad. It’s not my place to say any of that(No bio kids), but from my friends and associates experiences having left America/Returned home to work, live, give birth.. it’s better. *Whatever media* on certain channels are screaming right now about “Southern countries” not being able to aid birthing moms is fundamentally incorrect. But that’s another debate.

@1rage17 Год назад

I think it would lower the risk of postpartum depression and psychosis for sure!

@Erika-gm2tf Год назад

Yes! Carol please🙏 sans baby. But I'm sure I'd get sooo much accomplished and end up perfectly healthy and balanced. And then, i too would cry when she left.

@jolenezhong2506 Год назад

The best I like about the confinement culture is there’s 0 expectation for the mother to do any house chores, or provide childcare for the older siblings (if there are any), it’s just to rest and learn about bonding and nursing (if you choose to) the new born. They are also there to standup for the mother and remind other people of the household that the mother takes priorities at this stage. There are some downsides such as the high cost and the quality of individual service provider varies.

@hannahjankowski227 Год назад

I went to work (took my baby with me) at 8 weeks. I was supposed to go back at 6 weeks but the family I worked for as a nanny got the flu. With my second I was fortunate to be able to stay at home but was caring for my almost 2-year old pretty quickly after I got home.

@carrieeade7173 Год назад

@HELLUR Here in Toronto Ontario Canada after a woman gives birth she can take a year off and the government will help with money.💕 Maternity leave is one year and your job will be waiting!

@carrieeade7173 Год назад

@HELLUR that's crazy! Canada wants you to have time to bond with your baby 🐥🍼

@gloomyscribbles Год назад

@mikoy huio you realize that 8-12 weeks is 56-84 days- and at 1:36 you can see that most (not all) of those cultures have a 40 day period. According to the amount of days, in general mothers in the us get more time off from work to bond with the baby compared to the asian mothers.

@bookwyrmneducator Год назад

@@gloomyscribbles Most women in the US can't take the 8-12 weeks you mention especially if it's unpaid, and many are home alone with little to no support. I'd take 40 days with a lot of support over the 3 months of little to no support I had.

@angelaengle12 11 месяцев назад

I definitely like the body wrapping, I would probably practice that if nothing else. I think this is an amazing idea and I wish America would adopt this into our health insurances/maternity care. Pregnancy is a HUGE toll on the female body, we absolutely need time to rest and recover.

@sumi3000 9 месяцев назад

It is so awful how you are expected to become a mother in the US. Everythinf depends on how much money you got. If you have little, you and baby just have to suffer so much

@beatrizromero7146 4 месяца назад

I got a tip from family to ask for a C-section wrap in the hospital even though I had a natural birth. I do that with each of my kids and wear it every day as my "body wrap".

@linasofit1801 Год назад

Interesting to see similarities in Chinese and Mexican cultures. My Mexican mother-in-law made me fish stew to help with breast milk production after giving birth to my first baby.

@user-du8bf2ym7q 11 месяцев назад

There is a book in China called 《山海经》"Classic of Mountains and Rivers", which displays a map not of China, but of the world. More than two thousand years ago, ancient Chinese people had already arrived on the American continent.

@georgy-1635 Год назад

This honestly looks like such a civilised experience. In the UK things are pretty barbaric. You’re shuffled out a hospital and into the ‘real world’ with minimal follow up the minute you can stand on your feet. What a beautiful custom, to truly care for a new mother, and something we should learn from!

@zatrat5696 Год назад

Us in the uk can’t wait to go home because of how awful hospitals are tbh 😭💀💀 but the home experience taylor is having is so luxurious

@findingbeautyinthepain8965 Год назад

The woman in the video paid for this service, because her and her husband are wealthy enough to afford it. It wasn’t given to her because she lives in an Asian country. In the USA we can hire a baby nurses to help us. It’s just that it’s to expensive for most of us to afford. But the same goes for Asian countries. This isn’t the norm there. The women who are lucky enough to do confinement in Asia, usually have their own mothers do everything the lady in the video did. Only a small percentage of Asian women can hire someone to help them with confinement, just like only a small percentage of American women can hire someone to help them after giving birth.

@georgy-1635 Год назад

@@findingbeautyinthepain8965 yes, I’m not naive enough to think all Asian mothers can afford to hire in the help of a specialist. I am aware that it is common practice to confine (even for Asian mothers in the UK), usually with the help of a mother or mother in law. And it has its own controversies. My comment was more about the ritual itself and it’s focus on caring for the mother, not just baby, during the postpartum period which we lack as a norm.

@babyt556 Год назад

@@findingbeautyinthepain8965the birthing and postpartum practices are still better in Asia and Africa than the west. For so called developed countries the maternal mortality rate is ridiculous and studies have shown the birthing positions in the west out a lot of pressure on the mother instead of working with gravity. These are practices from times when the poor didn’t have updated medicine or technology hence the food and wrapping technique. So yea they may pay for it but the origin definitely came from traditions of the common civilian

@babyt556 Год назад

And the US is the same way unless you have good insurance or can afford to pay, most women don’t get this type of assistance unless they have mothers or support around them. But the food is more of my concern. She fed her vitamin rich foods and drinks which we don’t normally get postpartum not even in the hospitals.

@Apainiituapa Год назад

As a foreigner living in Chinese country during covid, I too relied a lot on my confinement nanny and i’m so lucky to found a very kind one. I’ve also experience that sense of loss and grief when the confinement period is over. I remembered crying a lot 2-3 days before and after the confinement nanny finish her job. We do still keep in touch now, she would visit some day and meet up just to chat and have meal together. I’d say I gain a new friend through this experience.

@southpeak6079 Год назад

May I ask how much it cost you for the nanny ?

@reinaslalatanata2034 Год назад

@@southpeak6079 around HKD 10k_12k

@KinLee919 25 дней назад

@@southpeak6079 in mainland china i think it's at the same level or a little bit cheaper as in HK, around 10k Rmb, so 1400USD

@DecorByDaviana Год назад

“CORN is my treat?!” w/ the strong tasting tea made me laugh so hard 😂 Carol is such a sweet soul! I loved this video, was so interesting and I learned a lot!! A big thank you to ALL mothers and their sacrifices ❤

@crisspena2211 9 месяцев назад

My family is Mexican and we do very similar things like the Chinese confinement but we call it cuarentena it’s 40 days. I’m currently pregnant w my first baby & it’s very true everything they say. This will help you physically & mentally also in the long run so you won’t get sick quickly or have other health problems. My mom has 3 kids all c-section & my grandma took care of her and us for 40 days & thank god she is very strong with no health issues 💜✨. It works ladies do this for u & ur babies. Try to gather as much information if your new to this topic it will help you in the long run. Try to find someone to help u even though u have to pay them. It’s for ur health and sanity. We got this 🥳 💪🏼.

@ASMRKay_ Год назад

Every parent should be send home with a Carol for the first month. Even if you don’t believe in the medicinal aspect the support and information she gave was invaluable!

@twincherry4958 Год назад

@niduoe stre feminism

@clivebby4877 Год назад

@@twincherry4958 that's not feminism, in fact it could be argued to be the opposite

@twincherry4958 Год назад

@@clivebby4877 You with me🙃

@savannahvick5266 Год назад

@niduoe stre You could absolutely do this in the US. There are many options for postpartum care. All companies are required to give you 6 weeks off for maternity leave. A month is 4 weeks. You can hire a postpartum nurse to do all of these things. This is expensive to do in Japan and in the US. You have to spend your own money to have these nurses. They aren’t free or given by the government.

@blueivy5727 Год назад

Except in Japan, you get 2/3 of your salary for 8 weeks postpartum. Then you can take childcare leave for 67% or 50% of your salary for up to 1 year to 1.5 years. All of that is tax exempt. In the US, in all but 10 states, you get up to 12 weeks of UNPAID leave. So if you don’t have enough saved up, you have to go back to work quickly. I live in NY, so I had 6 weeks of disability pay which was up to 50% of your pay OR $167 a week…so I received $167 a week for 6 weeks because 50% of my pay exceeded the max amount of $167 (disability is now $170 a week). After that, paid family leave kicked in. At that time, it was 50% of my pay for 8 weeks (now it’s 67% of your salary for 12 weeks). After 18 weeks of disability combined with paid family leave, that’s it. You have no time left and have to return to work. All of this money received (disability and paid family leave) is also taxable. So, it seems like it would be a bit easier to hire someone in Japan vs the US because Japan gives A LOT more financial support to new parent’s than the US.

@Alleged_Entertainment Год назад

To the women that will come home to a dirty house, with no one to cook for you, no one to help you, no one to even ask if you need anything, you are seen. You are valued. It will be ok, you will get through it without all this stuff.

@senorra941 Год назад

It's true, I valued that comment, thank you.

@a.w.s.9227 Год назад

Thank you!!! 😊 🥰

@snowwhite5842 Год назад

Yes, I’m sure the women sitting on their butts for two months getting massaged and special shampoos “saw me” from their high horse. So sick of social media influencers.

@SariennMusic73 Год назад

@@snowwhite5842 try to not sit in negativity or jealousy or anger, nor resentment. Life can be hard, but these mindsets just serve to make it difficult. Mentally more than anything else. Find a positive and cherish it. ❤️

@snowwhite5842 Год назад

@@SariennMusic73 I am in no way jealous. I wouldn't trade places with a person who leads this kind of life. I don't need a lecture about life being hard, I am very tough and I've been through some hard things in life. I accept everything in life as a valuable life lesson. I don't need your flippant advice.

@irenejoram6178 6 месяцев назад

In our culture(Tanzania) almost every woman goes through confinement, and you have mostly a family member who is available taking care of you in the first month. We also do a lot of soups and porridge and lighter foods to support lactation but pretty basic ones, not as complicated as the chinese ones. They also do some form of wrap but the one is the video is way professional, and hot water massages like everyday until your back heals. Super grateful to understand why it helps and I've learnt a lot from the video, thank you.

@jijijijibaby 10 месяцев назад

why did i watch this whole thing when i’m not pregnant nor have i ever been pregnant? 😂 it shows how interesting and fun this video was. and carol seems like just the most amazing, warm light in your life. i’m happy that you had an experience like this!

@victoriarobertson266 Год назад

I'm absolutely floored. I had an awful, devastating time with my postpartum experience, but I am crying tears of joy knowing that so many women in this world are so well-cared for in their postpartum journey. What I would've given for this... I couldn't even imagine what my life would be like today nearly 11 years after what I have gone through as a result of untreated postpartum depression and anxiety. Thank you for sharing this. ❤

@Flowerhag Год назад

What a loving heart you have to be thankful for others, you put that gratuity into words perfectly. I’m so sorry you had to suffer through that in such a important time 💓

@naomil.888 Год назад

Same... I am crying of joy for the others being able to be taking care off so well but also for myself as I still haven't healed mentally and physicly 4 years later....It could have changed my life do much... being without any family support in another country actually destroyed me.

@memem8530 Год назад

@@naomil.888 Oh my God, your words broke my heart into a million pieces as I’m going through the same thing six years after giving birth to my son, sometimes I even wonder what’s wrong with me and why can’t I just be like any normal woman who’s given birth?! Living abroad with no family or support system is especially hard at times like these…

@nbabombshell Год назад

Ohh noo >.< I had my husband cheating on me pp. that led to depression and anxiety two years in and I feel like I lost a lot of my babies growing up because of him

@naomil.888 Год назад

@@memem8530 I would have never thought about how hard it is without any support or family around. I couldn't imagine it. I am sorry for us and truly hope we will get through one day. It still hard for me to feel like a real mom and not a fraud. I am scared to have another child too. My son is feeling lonely and ask for a baby but I can't help him. I just can't do it.

@FranY16 Год назад

In Mexican culture we have something called "la cuarentena" which translates to "the 40 days." It's basically the same concept that includes staying inside, having women in your family or community help out, avoiding cold showers, drinking hot soups, abstaining from sex, and binding the abdomen with a postpartum "faja." Fascinating how both customs are so similar!

@saraangel6696 Год назад

Same here in colombia! It’s the most important thing tbh, and it’s usually the mother (now grandmother) that is in charge of the cuarentena. It makes the most sense, too

@sonnasolod.9406 Год назад

Same in Puerto Rico.❤️

@fitness12329 Год назад

We have same in Nigeria but for 90 days, it's called "Omugwo".

@fatimaabdulla5570 Год назад

Its the same for arabs!! We do it in the UAE

@magalybravo7632 Год назад

Ohhhh, I heard about that, but I thought it was only for the baby. I thought the mother could leave, but the baby cannot step outside because their immune system is too weak. That makes a lot more sense though!

@valng8 Год назад

Thank you so much for making this video. I'm a Canadian born Chinese and my mom would always try to explain this process to me but it was hard to understand why they do what they do. It's funny how it takes a Canadian living in HK to re-explain the process to me....and now it's clear! I really appreciate the effort put into making this video! 👏

@user-zz2lh7cx6j 6 месяцев назад

@PlatonicPurplePanda 7 месяцев назад

I understand the no cold foods, even for general body things. My mom is Chinese and actually from Hong Kong. She always told me when I was in my teens to not eat cold foods while I’m on my PMS. And I do believe that. It feels like period is heavier or has more frequent flows if I do. It’s kinda silly but warm foods just helps with body circulation etc. And it eases your stomach pains, especially when it hurts. I always drink hot tea or warm water when my stomach aches. Helps.

@lissaharre Год назад

I live in the US and for my 3rd baby, my midwife made me do 15 days of confinement. 5 days in bed, 5 days around the bed and 5 days around the house. As an American, I have anxiety when I’m not accomplishing things. It’s very difficult for me to sit and rest. So I didn’t follow this rule completely but my post pardum was much better and I recovered much quicker.

@sweetcatastr0fe Год назад

I like this idea, but not sure how it would work when having your second kid.

@lissaharre Год назад

@@sweetcatastr0fe It was super tough since I had a 1 and 3 year old. But the very cut and dry standard helped my family and friends volunteer to help. My in-laws came to meet the baby as soon as he was born and then took my toddlers for a couple of days, then my parents took them for a night and they basically had sleep overs for a week. My husband set up our room to be a all in one kitchen/bedroom so I could just grab food from the nightstand while he was at work. It was super weird to just lay in bed for 5 days. The second 5 days was easier bc I could fold/put away laundry, straighten up my bathroom, organize my nightstands, ect. And then I ended up spending most of day 11-15 in my room anyways bc it was so organized and clean. 😁

@beanieculley7271 Год назад

@@sweetcatastr0fe That is why in many Asian countries your mother or MIL or a confinement nurse would move in with you

@kiy2347 Год назад

In Asian countries lots of people stay with their moms before and after giving birth and their moms take care of their daughters in traditional ways.

@MillennialMountainMama Год назад

Of 5th child, like me. 😅

@naijagirl.aussieliving Год назад

In Nigeria the Igbo tribe have a tradition called Omugwu. Very similar to this. Your mum (or any older woman of your choosing) moves in with you and takes care of you and the baby. They bath you and the baby, cook for you and make sure that the first 3 months are as easy as possible to help you smoothly transition into motherhood.

@LiMaking Год назад

wow 3 months! I'm in sweden and I'm searching for that kind of help now. I'm not pregnant, but it would be good to know if there is that kind of help when I do choose to have a child. In our culture, the dad gets paid leave for 1 week (maybe 10 days) to help the mother at home, but I feel that's not enough time, and I'd rather have an older woman help me. Someone who knows what to do.

@KantaT Год назад

Exactly the same with Zambians.

@DS-lp1te Год назад

Oh that's awesome. We have something similar in Ethiopia called "metares" and usually you move to your mom's house so she can take care of you from "40-80" days. It's awesome. Your family and friends visit you during that time. Neighbour's bring you all kinds of food. And they eat this type of fufu made with lots of wheat like barely called "genfo".

@boitumelodipholo7994 Год назад

In South Africa each tribe has something similar as well, whereby your mom or aunt helps you out for about 4-6 months. She has to teach all there is to learn about caring for your baby as well as some traditional practices which need to take place to strengthen the baby's protection. Your abdomen is also tightly wrapped in a towel to make sure that it returns to its initial look and shape. The baby cannot be seen for about 3 or 6 months by those who aren't family.

@lovelyb2416 Год назад

I’m Nigerian too but Yoruba. My mom is super ready to that for me. Im not ready to have children yet though.

@disorderj1248 Год назад

I'm living in China at the moment and 8 months preg. My Chinese husband really educated me about this and I agreed to do this except for the no washing part lol.

@user-wm9sj8ce1c 11 месяцев назад

这个是有南北差异的，北方风大寒冷易受凉所以不洗南方温暖湿润不洗反而容易感染。

@msch7620 11 месяцев назад

I remember when I gave birth to my son, a Chinese woman had told me about this and that it was so hard for her when she gave birth alone to her kids in Canada. I thought it would have hard to not get out for a month. I see what she meant now. I wish I knew about the body wrapping. My tummy looks so bad now.

@elainatan9739 Год назад

I’m so glad that you had this experience. I’m sad more people don’t get to experience this postpartum. My postpartum seasons in America (4) have been really traumatic and painful, and my body still feels so broken and worn out. I have always appreciated the way so many Asian cultures really honor and care for mothers.

@Mink_Tracks Год назад

Men and women cant even get along and respect one another in america. Elites fuel the feuds against one another. In korea and china, men and women respect eachother for their differences and roles in society. I dont think the usa will ever truely change until society changes first.

@darienjohns808 Год назад

🙏💕

@maraphernalia Год назад

A lot of the countries that do this have unreal rates of domestic abuse. If they honored mothers, they wouldn't beat them. They need your ability to reproduce for them. They don't respect you, they need you.

@63051 Год назад

Which is why to sin and be called having sinned against your mother is the biggest insult in every Asian culture.

@silverbat5873 Год назад

Same

@juliegreen9000 Год назад

I literally cried watching this. I can’t imagine how differently my post partum experience and bonding with my baby would have been if we had something like that in the states. Post partum depression would decrease, maternal and child health outcomes would improve, there would be higher breastfeeding rates. I wish I could afford someone to do this for me. Carol was so sweet, initially I thought she was your actual mother in law but she’s definitely an honorary one now 💗💗

@CF. Год назад

I feel the exact same way. There is almost zero support for mothers in the states. I was an absolute mess with a colicky baby. Our families live a long ways away too so that was challenging. It’s so nice to know that women in other parts of the world are better supported.

@sallysampson628 Год назад

I completely agree!!!

@kristimartinez7528 Год назад

@@CF. I know. It's so sad and awful. I prayed about not waking up every single day. I was in so much pain, depression, and beyond exhausted. No family support and very little help. You're treated as if you just went in for a dental checkup. C-sections and tough deliveries are no joke. I still have PTSD

@jessi1157 Год назад

this. I had terrible PPD but maybe it would have been better had I done something like this.

@iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii2458 Год назад

I was a shift supervisor, and my boss didn't let me approve extended paternity/maternity leave for employees even when we had enough people to cover all the shifts. Her response was, "Can't come back to work? Don't have a baby."

@Shannon-nl1dz Месяц назад

She’s basically a mother of mothers. This tradition nearly made me tear up. It’s so lovely that there’s someone to care for you ❤

@cloudsandrainyday 3 месяца назад

This is the most beautiful amazing thing I have ever seen. I have two children and can not even begin to imagine this type of tender care. So gentle, lovely and seems to me the way it should be. New mothers deserve love and time to heal.

@maryjanekeneipp6623 Год назад

I'm actually a bit jealous. This needs to be a service every woman recieves after child birth, it would make such a huge difference. In America we do have post partum doula's that offer some support but it is not quite as knowledgeable as this Chinese tradition and also more expensive than most people can afford.

@jasminejasmine7346 Год назад

Its the same with Japanese people.

@Ms.K305 Год назад

Imagine if we treated all physical recoveries like this, our overall health would be so much better. So happy you got to have this experience and share it with us.

@no120992 Год назад

i love how authentic this is, and the uniqueness of seeing this specific side and specific details of the chinese culture. thank you so much for sharing, taylor.

@alliecr1057 8 месяцев назад

I loved that you were so open minded about taking on the practises and had such a positive attitude about everything. Traditional Chinese medicine has been around for thousands of years and to me that’s a huge indication that they must be onto something! It was is interesting learning about the merge between traditional and modern practises and how they are used today. As a Canadian that gave birth and raised 2 boys in the late 2000s at times I felt so alone (the internet was just picking up on mom blogs etc) and I wish I could have had a nanny/postpartum care nurse in the first month. The relationship you had with Carol was awesome! So many clips of you ladies laughing and smiling. I think you made the best choice for you and your family and that’s all that matters❤

@itsblitzzz Год назад

This video was so educational! I want a confinement nanny now! 😭😭😭

@alenasteflova3564 Год назад

Hi Julia! I was going to obsessively recommend this to you on your channel because thought it would be great info. 😅 hope your day is going great 😊

@melodramatic7904 Год назад

I wish i has a confinement nanny.

@downtownbristantrown6456 Год назад

I cried watching this! I had my baby 10 months ago and the thought of having someone there to take care of me sounds so lovely 😭😭😭

@Samara077 Год назад

Same ! This made me emotional 😭

@crystala7x182 Год назад

Me too! 😭

@s.s.3082 Год назад

I had no idea this type of service existed. Us women have to take is upon ourselves to make sure our needs are met. Having a baby is a life changing event; this would have been wonderful for me when I had my two kids.

@HerbFaery333 Год назад

This is honestly so beautiful and to me makes so much sense. We have so much to learn from all cultures. There’s all truth in all of them as we’re all one. I agree that a new mother should rest and adjust back to her new normal, her body changing and so much more. This is amazing! Love

@HobbesTheTigerr Год назад

I like that they don't let confinement traditions get "stuck in its ways." When they learn something new they change. When modern conveniences came about they adapted.

@amandanordman5383 Год назад

When carol left I cried lol. She seems like such a good soul! Women who take care of moms and babies are something else! Thanks carol!!!

@Terophy 11 месяцев назад

this is so beautiful. you were well taken care of and seem genuinely happy with all those pampering, and patiently explain the benefit of each treatment, being so logical about it ... I love your attitude

@Claralopod Год назад

I can't even explain how much I love watching this video, I think I've seen it about 8 times now, so thank you so much for making it!

@jammity3917 Год назад

This makes so much sense. Pregnancy and birth are both massively traumatic processes for your body to go through so you need absolute rest both physically and emotionally. I imagine it really helps you connect with your baby too when you're not having to deal with daily life stresses. Having another woman to help you while you recover sounds so healing and comforting 💖

@spacebar9733 Год назад

exactly.

@rosezimmerman3821 Год назад

When I retire, I want to help mothers with babies and children. Taking a night shift, watching the child while Mom takes a nap or shower, cook and clean for them, etc...

@eleanortaylor4768 Год назад

What a wonderful gift to give to people Rose, you must be such a kind person. ❤️

@MagycArwen Год назад

You'd be a perfect post partum doula!

@asatish1888 Год назад

You would make a great postpartum doula!!!

@annalauryn966 Год назад

I think it's a postpartum doula service or something, u help with basic chores like laundry and dishes a few meals a week so mom can focus in the baby and recovery. I'm sure the hospital know where u can offer services to new moms who need a postpartum/ newborn nanny / night nurse

@christykelly1 Год назад

You know what, that doesn’t sound too bad

@e.c.8127 5 месяцев назад

I was study Chinese Medicine. It was amazing see how this month really look like in the real life, not only read about this. It is pitty in West cultures women are not treating like this and don't have time to rest and heal after pregnancy and birth.

@prettyfate 10 месяцев назад

So glad you were able to have this experience and share it with us. Carol seemed like an absolute angel of a person. I hope all the moms she’s worked with stay in touch with her.

@s_for_sum Год назад

Carol is just like a family member, a teacher, nearly everything. Crazy. It’s hard not to cry while Carol leave.

@BrookBeck Год назад

I really wish we did something like this in the US. We are expected to just push through the pain and return to work asap and put baby in daycare. If you do choose to be at home longer, society judges you for being “lazy”.

@nataliamontelongo2781 Год назад

capitalism made it seem like being pregnant and recovering from it was being lazy and unproductive. Take care of yourself and your body

@nueiart1077 Год назад

Many European countries pay moms and dads to stay anything from 6 months to 1 year with their baby. It's just how it's supposed to be. Before modern society women worked exclusively at home for a reason, it was just how they balanced it. It wasn't super correct but considering a woman wouldn't have birth control at all, i mean, what could they do? But hey. If you do wish a service like this, why not create one? I know it sounds super crazy but I think that if well publicized on social media, people would easily contact these services!

@SilviaLandikath Год назад

@@nueiart1077 in the US they probably don't expect the mother to give breast milk? But in general they have the same problem with holidays and 'sick days'. That entire work system is a bit broken

@yarixzamendoza6314 Год назад

I just gave birth in May and I only got 3 months off. 2 months to actually spend time with my baby. That is not enough time at all. By the end of July I have to go back to work already. Something is really messed up with the birth system in the U.S

@SilviaLandikath Год назад

@@yarixzamendoza6314 I'm very sorry you cannot have more time to bond with the baby. I truly wonder what happens when the baby is born with problems? Could you get more time off? (sorry I'm curious to understand)

@elizabethjackline2055 Год назад

This was wonderful!!! All moms and families would benefit from this practice immensely! Thank you for this post and your introducing us to this ancient, loving, and beautiful ritual!!

@jay-ly9hr 11 месяцев назад

We also have this in Surinam culture. Especially with the wrapping of the belly and food. I have a lot of respect that u showed this on this platform, shows how strong a woman body and mind is it’s crazy. Thank you Taylor I hope u heal well ❤. U did amazing.

@madisonmelvin8817 Год назад

I feel so neglected as a woman in the United States. We get treated so poorly after childbirth and are expected to do so much. My boss was texting me 2 weeks PP with my second baby, asking when I'd be back. I wish we had more traditions like this. I also like the Korean PP care facilities. Wish those existed here. (if they do I just dont know of them/probably couldnt afford it)

@vanessav.4996 Год назад

Same. Heck a lot of friends were in active labor still texting their coworkers trying to get work done.

@noodlepipkin Год назад

Oof. I’m pretty sure here in the UK, you’re not allowed to ask when someone is coming back in that way if they are on maternity (or sick leave). Once maternity leave starts, the employer should assume you will have a year off, can’t ask your return date, and you continue to get your job “perks” (company car etc), and entitlements - such as annual holiday time (usually 4 weeks excluding public holidays). I don’t know what the answer is for you American ladies, I’m sad about your situation and don’t know how it has all got so bad. ☮️

@wellhello1603 Год назад

@@KitchenWitchery very sad that people have to fight for being treated like human beings and have to do it all by themselves (in this case mothers). Instead of helping each other live a joyful and happy lives we have to sacrifice ourselves for few bastards with power.

@stephystar8783 Год назад

@@noodlepipkin im due back work next week (here in uk) after having 9 months off maternity. I was entitled to a year off but only 9 months was maternity pay which isn't great pay. I also had to give them a date I'd be back before I left. I still get all my holidays aswell

@bloomwinx1619 Год назад

Imagine men were the ones giving birth the whole system would be so different. But also still the same as in it would still revolve around them haha. Probly support them more than the babies too lol.

@marikotrue3488 Год назад

Chinese confinement seems such a logical and healthy way to navigate the beginning steps of the journey of the new mom and baby. Initially I had disagreed with the no air conditioning and no hair washing (although I too have long hair and enjoy the idea of a hair vacation), but am pleased that confinement rules have been updated. Carol has a great sense of humor and positivity. What a gift that must be to all of her clients. THANK YOU so much for sharing such a personal experience. I wish Western healthcare was as nurturing for all.

@sueu6263 Год назад

In the real world very few people can afford to hire somebody like Taylor did. I would have loved to have been pampered and have had someone cooking for me and doing everything else. This all sounds wonderful but how much did it cost?

@piarateking8094 Год назад

@@sueu6263 im sure it costs a lot to hire someone for this but a lot of people have family members help out during the confinement period mother, mother inlaw, aunts etc

@saffronsolo9668 Год назад

A mother-in-law would have been a very different experience I think.

@TheCelmap Год назад

Girls I know it's costy, however, we are the ones that deserve good treatment during post partum period. Let's plan and orgazine our buget to allow us to properly heal even for at least 15 days. I decided to go frugal on my spendings, I'm now able to save so much and have it in investiments. I'm preparing to get pregg by the end of next year and hire some one to take care of me (like Carol lol) for like a month to 2 months and have a full year out of the workforce after my delivery. But I'm only able to do this cause I have removed extra consumerism of my life and own no so much stuff and so happy for it. I hope you can have the chance to do this if you don't have familiy member available to give you the necessary support. Always remember, no one going to rescue us but ourselves.

@vivrrs Год назад

@@TheCelmap agreeee 100% 🖤

@sarahtorres8421 Год назад

This is so cool. Carol puts so much love and commitment into her job.

@JennyD915 Год назад

What a beautiful tradition! I can totally see why this is done and see how incredibly beneficial it would be to set the mama up for success! Carol seemed like the sweetest woman too 💜 I would love to see how this impacted you in the long run. Congratulations!

@Nijinskylover Год назад

I love how open minded you were without "exoticising" or "othering" it. This was beautiful.

@alinepereira7014 Год назад

True.

@gladitsnotme Год назад

I mean she's lived there for like a decade so it's not exotic to her

@haley8924 Год назад

I dont think any new mother is ever prepared for how difficult breastfeeding is. I was 15 years old when I had my daughter. My nurses were blown away at the fact I was determined to breastfeed. Being so young, not many adults gave me much credit for the fact that i was young but parenting very well. I cried and cried when i had trouble feeding her and i felt like such a failure when i had to supplement until my milk came in. When it finally came in though, dear god i couldn't go anywhere because i was constantly wet down my front. i was a milk cow. I was able to freeze and donate some of my milk because it filled our freezer in no time. Be kind to new moms who are breastfeeding, its one of the hardest jobs a mother will ever have.

@TheColourfulSidetwitch Год назад

I know there must be so many who judge you, but I’m so proud of you

@sjjdhwhjw1257 Год назад

I thought breastfeeding is the norm everywhere?

@redriddance1058 Год назад

@@sjjdhwhjw1257 it is set as a norm in society but indoors, women actually have alot of issues with it. Even pregnancy and birth. Every person's experience is different

@yippehanako Год назад

@@sjjdhwhjw1257 it's not abnormal but I would not expect a teen mom to be doing it and I think a lot of people would think the same thing

@CaeruleaTigris Год назад

@@sjjdhwhjw1257 Teen mothers often have trouble with milk production. My grandmother breastfed a teen mother's baby while she was still in hospital after having my father because the girl wasn't producing colostrum.

@SweetB1053 11 месяцев назад

I love how you have absolutely embraced the culture like your own and are very positive. How inspiring ❤

@curiositydidntkillme 5 месяцев назад

This was beautiful and unexpectedly healing. I longed to feel nurtured after my babies… seeing you have this calm and beautiful friend and teacher be there for you for the month was amazing. I cried when she left too

@CommonGroundGardens Год назад

So my heart broke a little when I watched this video because I was completely on my own after my two births. No pampering or support. When I saw the wrapping of your belly I thought wow! That’s exactly what I needed. I have been dealing with 23 years of my abdominal wall healing improperly. What an amazing experience

@denia1594 Год назад

Gosh, I am so sorry. What did the father do?

@spidermoth1170 Год назад

I'm with you common ground garden This caring treatment would have been so appreciated

@SC-ey8bp Год назад

YES!!! The wrapping was something I have never heard of. I have 3 young adult children and still have a split abdominal wall.

@bascoaful Год назад

the first thing my granny did for my mom after she gave birth to me, was wrapping her stomach, I am german so I guess some tricks are universal :D

@pettylilthing Год назад

@@SC-ey8bp I’m surprised you never heard of it, in the hospital they usually give new mothers belly wraps to use for recovery.

@KassandraChandler Год назад

USA take some notes! Our American mommies need this care especially with the push on getting back to work and just hoping you might get family to help you at all

@lettus143 Год назад

I mean it still cost 27000

@Kiki_the_doula Год назад

That's what a postpartum doula does

@claire_donnamarie_17 Год назад

There is no innate value, from an American societal perspective, to motherhood. More like "You made the choice to give birth...now raise the child". Hence, why there is minimal governmental support for working class/or blue-collar pregnant women.

@kytruth1027 Год назад

USA has doulas...I also don't know a single person that would be able to afford 20,000$ for this.

@MillennialMountainMama Год назад

Actually birth and postpartum doulas cost about 1k-2k in America. Don’t know how much a live in doula would cost, or if you can even hire one in America.

@katiemcdonald4113 4 месяца назад

This was so fascinating to learn about, and I really appreciate how you asked and explained the reasoning behind everything. That woman has touched so many lives, and really become like a part of family to so many. What an incredible experience.

@BabehDove Год назад

Carol is a beautiful soul too. When she said daughter in law and that he was her grandson, I couldn’t hold back the tears. God love her heart. An amazing woman! I love learning more about there culture.

@aurilcia Год назад

This is nice to see. Being Eastern Orthodox Christian, I was supposed to stay home for the biblical 40 days postpartum, get rest and do nothing except for bonding with the baby. Seeing how this is a thing in most cultures it is infuriating that here in the US a woman is expected to get up and go back to work 8-12 weeks after labor

@nightlysobbing Год назад

Orthodox gang, hi there! And yeah, this has inspired me to really make the most of those 40 days and really spend them healing and bonding with the baby (I'm expecting my first)

@aurilcia Год назад

@@nightlysobbing Congrarulations! I definitely recommend taking full advantage. Get your mom or grandma or somebody to be there to help you with housework. Postpartum doulas are also an option.

@user-ke9ih6si7d Год назад

Unfortunately many orthodox Christians do not value enough their traditions

@DinocoSparrow Год назад

I've just become Orthodox and already had two kids so I didn't know about this! So interesting, the emphasis on rest and bonding.

@jessshnarcky1089 Год назад

8-12 weeks after labor is 56-84 days which is a lot more than 40 days? Is the biblical 40 day time different?

@SmilingRuby Год назад

I wish all cultures had something like this. Especially in the west, we focus so much on the baby, the mother is very much an after thought. So happy you had this lovely woman to teach you and support you through the toughest time postpartum. ❤

@pippapapillon9327 Год назад

Actually, I believe in The Netherlands we do have something similar. We call them "kraamzorgers" and they basically help you in the first few weeks to make sure the baby feeds, thar you know how to take care of it. (Guard the mother from having to meet every single member of their extended family un rhe first few days after the birth...). I don't know any better than rhat they exist and help but I do not have a baby so I don't know the details as to how long they stay but I think they are included in the insurance.

@jumanahhusain4584 Год назад

Actually a lot of cultures do, specially Asian, Arabs, African. Its really amazing how similar they are in terms of the month period, the mother staying worm and the food.

@danams4166 Год назад

Most traditional cultures do. In Jamaican culture, ours is 40 days.

@sherryillk Год назад

@@jumanahhusain4584 I think I heard Latin American cultures also do something along these lines. There’s something about Western cultures that has changed familial bonds and traditions. I think enforcing boundaries and individualism pays a major part of it and I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing but at the same time, collectivism and that sense of community and family are not all bad even if I think it does play into generational traumas. If we could find some balance between the two would be nice but I have no idea what that would look like or if it even is possible.

@TessaDior 11 месяцев назад

I love this so much! What a wonderful difference this could make in the world if every new mother got this kind of support and thoughtful care after giving birth. Those first weeks are so hard, and having someone there would have been amazing for my mental and emotional health. Those long hours at night, all alone, pumping or breastfeeding or changing a blowout could get so depressing. Having help like this is a dream come true.

@booksandcrochethooks Год назад

Oh, I love this so much!! I'm pregnant with my 4th and as an American SAHM, I have only ever had 1 week of assistance before being left alone all day with a newborn + my other young kiddos. My lonliness and the overwhelming pressure hits HARD. I *need* this. Wish it were a tradition everywhere! 💕

@panpanpan6700 Год назад

Where is your mom and dad, or your husband’s parents. How do you handle this. Can’t imagine that

@Taylor_R Год назад

Sorry that it took me so long to upload! I’m hope you enjoy getting a glimpse into my postpartum life living with a Pui Yuet (Confinement Nanny). This video could have been over an hour long because I had so much footage and things I could go into, but I decided to keep it more condensed. If you have any questions feel free to ask them here (especially on anything I didn’t cover)!

@CharmedMum Год назад

My family and I have loved your journey, and have appreciated you sharing with us all ♥️ Levi is such a precious beautiful angel 👼 We love your whole family ♥️ Please give Rosie a belly rub 😋♥️🌸🌺♥️

@huijessica Год назад

Why did you do confinement lady instead of confinement Centre? :)

@Taylor_R Год назад

@@huijessicaI wanted to be in the comforts of my own home and have my home set up for care (know which items to use, how to cook certain dishes, etc), so the transition would be easier. We don’t have many postpartum centers here in Hong Kong (I could only find one), so hiring Pui Yuets (or mother/mother-in-laws helping) are more common.

@paulafernandaramirezcapach8112 Год назад

Thank you so much for sharing your journey! ( ◜‿◝ )♡ I loved following every step of it. Greetings from Colombia ❤️

@ruhrpott.ninchen Год назад

Hey taytay, it's so nice that you're back, because your literally the only youtuber I regularly watch 😅😁😊 it was really interesting to see something like that because I never heard of that before (only because of your insta). I actually would like to try the ginger water shower 😅 it must be soo nice to have someone besides you after pregnancy. I never heard that you can hire someone for something like that in Germany. Thanks for letting us see ! Levi is so cute btw 😁😊

@kcl6627 Год назад

I never received this, nor did I even know that it existed. I live in the US, and my pregnancies and postpartum were very tough. When my friend had her baby though, I had her live with me for over a month to help with her new baby, and let her heal. I cooked for her and took care of the baby a lot. It actually meant a lot to me to be there for them because my last couple pregnancies were miscarriages. I do have 2 healthy kids, but the miscarriages were hard. Women, you are beautiful and wonderful.

@mlee3954 Год назад

This kind of practice is a vital part of the Asian culture although I do hope the the US can adopt this one day 😊

@findingbeautyinthepain8965 Год назад

You are an amazing friend! I wish every women had a friend to care for them after giving birth. Then that woman could repay their friend by doing the same for them when they have a baby. 🥰

@kcl6627 Год назад

@FindingBeautyInThePain , that is such a sweet comment. Thank you, and I hope you are blessed immensely in your life.

@summersmeadow Год назад

I think you can start your own tradition with your own experiences to start sharing with others and offer your it as services overtime since there is a demand for it. This has been a long practise in South East Asia. We even have confinement centers because it's a must for any of us who can afford it. Though I personaly love the Carol service as it was more common in the past. The personal touches and comfort of your own homes feels best.

@kcl6627 Год назад

@@summersmeadow, thank you for your feedback. 💗

@BexsBoxofConfusion Год назад

the end of this video had me crying, Carol is such a wonderful human! I wish for something like this when I go through postpartum, that companion and comraderie... wow!

@briahaye9340 Год назад

I just love everything about this! So much support and care is taken with this method. What a great experience to have

@heathercommonsense377 Год назад

I want to be "a Carol" for my own daughters in a decade or so when they reach this stage of life. A good way to show them love.

@vivrrs Год назад

Yes! that would be lovely

@sarahkirshner6152 Год назад

That's exactly what I took away from this too...

@chelsey8495 Год назад

The world needs more Carol's

@nicolcacola Год назад

Same!

@101design5 Год назад

Jesus loves you 🙂

@wa5561 Год назад

I started to cry half way in because that's literally my dream job that I didn't know about. Such a beautiful job to guide new parents and the new earthling. I always wanted to combine household, caring, babies, psychology and nutrition but never knew how. Now I'll look up if and how I can do this in my country, thank you for that. Now my additional nutrition degree won't be useless that I anticipated using for something else that isn't comparable to the joy this type of job would offer. Carol is such a sweetheart, very inspiring and she gives away so much positive energy! I'm very happy for you that you have found her!

@wowwhopissedinyourcheerios8089 Год назад

Even if this specific service isn't a thing in your country, I'm sure if you started a housekeeping and home chef service for post partum mothers that alone would be very helpful and appreciated

@wa5561 Год назад

@@wowwhopissedinyourcheerios8089 I also thought about that, I think it's a great idea! Even though I would like to integrate more, I understand that this would be a very difficult thing to do because of all the regulations I yet don't know about.

@ariane1263 Год назад

This is such a great idea and calling. Beautiful.

@cymbamcreynolds8838 Год назад

If there aren't facilities in your country, look up doulas in your area. They tend to work with women during the pregnancy and birth, but maybe you can apprentice under them and maybe make connections with some interested in starting a postpartum facility. After more experience, you can consider becoming an independent postpartum care specialist, make a site, and advertise your services. There's definitely a need for stuff like this.

@april110 Год назад

Yes, go for it girl 💜💜💜💜

@carolhanson8330 Год назад

I learned so, so much and loved every bit ❤️ watching you cry when Carol was leaving and your emotions is understandable. We had a therapist come to our home and when she said she was leaving, I couldn't stop the tears. Thanks for sharing your family with all of us. God bless you ❤️

@tatyanab.6797 11 месяцев назад

It was a very interesting and very well-made video, also so emotional in the end :) thank you for showing what modern Chinese confinement really looks like! I realised I had some misconceptions about it

@kariscains5198 Год назад

Carol seems like a woman in a league of her own. What a delightful person to have with you. Thanks for sharing her with us!

@Qamar978 Год назад

Here in Somalia we have something similar to this. it actually lasts for 40 days after birth. Neither the mom nor the baby are allowed to leave the home. No chores, she has to eat a lot of healthy food . The mom has to rest and relax. Usually the whole family helps her around . The woman has to prioritize her sleep and well being and by the end of that period we have small ceremony called “afartan bax” is such nice gesture for the new mom.

@Lucyia90 Год назад

Thank you for sharing this with us! It was very beautiful watching this journey and for helping to showcase Chinese postpartum care to the world ❤

@hannahbenson1185 Год назад

I love how open minded you are! After giving birth can be a very stressful and hard time, especially since there is so much new. I would have a hard time with someone new I'm my house. I wouldn't be in control and that would be so hard for me. You are killing it! I loved watching this video!

@ASA_XO Год назад

“You are my grandson, okay?” Took me out 🤣🤣 she’s so sweet and you can see how genuinely she cares about you!!!!

@superfancyschmancy Год назад

I totally cried when Carol left, oh my - what a beautiful thing she did for you and she's got so many grandchildren!!

@pemeliie Год назад

I cried too, she seemed like a lovely person!

@aililindberg7449 Год назад

Me too 😭

@Daymickey Год назад

Same! I didn’t expect that!

@dianacouto5385 Год назад

This is amazing! This is how mothers should be treated. All the care and wisdom 🙏

@armstrongcatherine Год назад

I think this was amazing to watch and I am so impressed by how you embraced this different culture at such a personal time. Really great to watch and lovely to see how well you where looked after.

@lorrainethomas8797 Год назад

I have no idea why this showed up in my feed but goodness, this was fascinating. And Carol is an absolute angel. Every new mom needs a Carol.

@baatile Год назад

I didn’t this existed in other cultures… it’s called “Setswetsi” in Setswana. You move back home for a couple of months after having your baby and your mother/aunt works as your “confinement nurse”. Non-family members aren’t allowed to see the baby before they turn 3 months old.

@noxirs7059 Год назад

That's awesome. Most of the time you don't want germs around your newborn.

@pulengseakgwa6744 Год назад

True

@mantistoboggan2676 Год назад

@@noxirs7059 and yet people inject their newborns with all sorts of heavy metal laced vaccines. Its sad.

@yoberna9065 Год назад

Hi, I'm also from Botswana

@baatile Год назад

@@yoberna9065 Hey. I'm from South Africa :)

@kateharris4281 6 месяцев назад

This is such a beautiful way to live through your first month . To be so cared for , helped and nurtured . I wish we had this in the UK . I wish my postpartum was this wonderful . And she was such a special woman xxxx

@nacawe08 5 месяцев назад

Wow. This is amazing. I think every mom should have a similar type of experience. The care and attention must be great for healing and recovery. Just beautiful

@june9370 Год назад

My mother's experience with Chinese confinements when she gave birth to me and my brothers around 30 years ago were a struggle, according to her. She couldn't use the air conditioner, had to wear long sleeves in the Malaysian hot weather, no showers and no washing her hair (she secretly did it once a week but was caught by my maternal grandmother and she was furious). She didn't like ginger too so she didn't enjoy the food that her mother prepared (there was ginger in everything). She also felt restricted because there were a lot of things she couldn't do. I always thought these confinement were miserable due to my mother's stories, but I'm glad to hear things has changed a lot since her days. And having the right 陪月 seems sooo important to ensure a smoother recovery. Thanks for the educational video and I wish your family the best!

@trinichick76 Год назад

I think that having a stranger vs a family member creates far less friction.

@aniss7582 Год назад

That must be stressful for her when stress is not good for her health

@queenkoi Год назад

Sometimes it is horrifically stressful. I think individual circumstances vary a lot.

@ralucateodoraenescu Год назад

I wonder how it would have been like if she would have found herself alone at home with a newborn and trying to do everything by herself with no help at all?

@gwenyn6177 Год назад

Depends on how strict and unfun the person is lol sometimes nice ppl will sneak you forbidden treats!

@KDAlaska Год назад

This looks wonderful, I was discharged after 24 hours and grocery shopping that night. I went into labor a month early so wasn't able to do it before having her. Nobody cooked a meal or even coffee/tea waiting on me. I was "lucky" and got 4 weeks off with my new baby before returning to work. My husband got 1 day off. I made it just like many do but it seems so cruel to treat women that way. You've just had s child but feel guilty for stopping working and house chores for more than a few days.

@fyali1632 Год назад

Yes but having a baby taken physical mental and emotional strain on you and nothing in the world compares to tht therefore housework is trivial and you deserve to rest and heal mentally and physically.

@silverbat5873 Год назад

Yup my hubby was fired for wanting 2 days off with our second baby, absolutely nuts

@elizabethg2062 2 месяца назад

Carol seems so sweet and caring. What a lovely woman!! She wears so many hats with the job she does

@AquaRegina0301 Год назад

I'm so glad this came to my feed! I wish I had this kind of support with my first's postpartum after the traumatic emergency birthing I nearly didn't survive. Being alone from the first day home on and never getting to eat was horrible. We even lived with my in-law and she did nothing to help even when I asked just to take a shower. I hope this time around I can have at least half the help this amazing lady gave you!