online dating is just a grody concept for decent women. also not safe. there are NO background checks. full of scammers, rapists, murderers, married men, couples, stalkers.
Online dating is like diving in a garbage bin of misfit toys...where every troll doll imagines himself to be a Ken worthy of a Barbie. Yeaaaah, not doing it ever again!
As a Christian woman, I too have given up on online dating! I even used the Christian apps like Upward, and all the men there are either a.) really unattractive to me or b.) claim to be Christian, but are really just lukewarm. Recently I matched with someone that claimed to be okay with no sex before marriage, but wanted to make-out with me on the first date and then by the third date, would push more physical boundaries and ask me extremely inappropriate questions! And when i confronted him about these things and asked whether or not he felt convicted at all, he responded as if he had no clue what I was talking about. The man claimed to be Christian all his life, yet he knew nothing about the Holy Spirit...meanwhile I've been Christian for just 3 years! Stay safe out there ladies.
Girl i went through the same thing on Upward, and even in the real world - everyone claims to be a Christian until it’s time to be biblical. Thankfully i ended up meeting my husband who was on upward too. Cause Lord knows I was about to delete that app lol.
I met a guy on tinder in 2019 when I was 21. 5 years (next month) later we're still together, "settled down" with two babies ❤. When we met we were not Christian but now we are! Praise The Lord!
Key here being, sis: 2019 Online dating then is very different than how it is now: scammers, men with felonies, cheaters, s*x addicts, couples looking for a third person for s*x, creeps, homosexuals, and somewhere in there is the less than 1% that created an account looking for more. Needle in a haystack if your sanity can last long enough.
@@TheGoodLifeStarterPack I didn’t really share to say that others should also online date, I more just wanted to share my story, which is that true love totally still exists and there’s hope. If I was dating now I’d want to meet them in person as well.
i found my husband on tinder and we started dating in 2021! he's the most amazing man and i am so grateful for his presence. he's my biggest supporter and safe place. he takes such good care of my kid and i
I would say online dating is just hard in general. If you're actively looking for a real relationship on dating sites you SHOULD be overthinking in my opinion.
Girl this is hilarious. I literally just deleted my Hinge like an hour ago. It's insanely hard and as a Catholic I think dating apps just don't work for us lol. But the first prompt you showed, I saw one like that right before I decided to call it quits. Any man who thinks it necessary to add "great s*x" on their profile probably thinks they're getting that from me without a ring and that's just a big fat no💀
Yup. I’m Catholic too. I’m not very strict on religion and I don’t care if my man practices but talking about sex in your dating profile is just horrifying. All of these apps are just hookup sites with a cute mask on and PG marketing.
LOL. I've been going to a biblically sound, low-key church with old people out in Fort Worth, but truth is the young and single men are typically at the massive hip places or they just don't go at all. I do not go to the large places like Watermark so I'm likely gonna marry a man twice my age and tbh I don't mind. I know the signs of a stroke, I'll be fine.
@@senpaistamps I actually prefer dating older for a lot of reasons. But I go to a very traditional church and usually in Catholicism you'll see those types of churches (TLM) attracting more young people. All the guys my age at my church are either not my type or taken though. If only I'd converted a little bit sooner😭
Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself also in the LORD and He shall give you the desires of your heart.” The LORDT knows we want a good man!!!! I’ve found delighting in Him over trying to find a man is helpful. Find a healthy church, serve…enjoy Christian community who will push you in all the good ways. Come to UPPERROOM if you’re in Dallas!!!
I tried upward and I am now married. Met him in June married in November and joined our church. We have an AMAZING church! Small and growing. ❤️💕 I obviously prayed and listened to God before moving forward.
I was on Hinge and matched with a man I knew from childhood (he attended the same church as me but we ran in different circles). Well, we had a shared interest in anime. He said he never met a woman who watches anime, so I joked and said we exist, you just have to talk to more women. I thought we were taking things lightly. Well, he messages "I talk to women, I'm not an incel, n*gro." Obviously, this hit a cord with him. I gently texted that the conversation was enjoyable, but I didn't want any romantic interest to call me that AND he unmatched me. Lol, I mean I wasn't taking him seriously after that huge reaction anyway but the fact that instead of apologizing, he unmatched me is crazyyyy
I love the hair. It makes you look so mature and sophisticated. Your other hair makes you look younger. Black girls can really change it up with just their hair.
I met my now husband and father of my two children on tinder, and he is Christian. I was on tinder for about 2 months before I found him, and turns out he only lived 20 minutes away and we had mutual friends! All that to say, girl anything can happen. Keep being picky and have those standards. People suggesting you be more open minded really just want you to not stand for anything so that way you'll fall for everything. Stay strong in your beliefs!! As GK Chesterton put it, "Tolerance is the virtue of the man without convictions."
This was my confirmation to go ahead and delete… I’m always like one more day and I’m like man men really don’t approach me.. hence I’m super covered up and vocal about my Christian values.. every man “wants a Godly woman “ until they are presented with one.. i pray God gives those who are looking for their spouse the desires of their heart immediately.. blessings to you all
I always look for people who have been through some serious s**t, have come out the other side, and choose to remain optimistic despite the darkness they have been through. In my experience, these people are gems but hard to find ~ like diamonds in the rough. All the best to you in your search.
7:46 the picture is a thirst trap and honestly tells you a lot about the guys intentions and what he wants. Like you said just because someone says they're Christian doesn't mean they practice their faith.
girlll please don’t give up! I was super against using dating apps until I met my current boyfriend of two years, literally two weeks after dumping my ex. For reference, I’m a Christian and never expected to find a solid Christian guy on Hinge but God seriously took the reigns and checked every box on my list- even the weird specific stuff I had (like “must not be associated to anyone I know”) loll
Sameeee it took years of deleting profiles on these apps and starting over after saying I never would! I finally found my man who is truly my person. So definitely don’t give up. I especially was probably never going to find my person IRL. So I definitely always found myself back on it and we are now going almost 3 years strong.
I think most people will cut you with information you give them and that's sad. It takes a very secure and mature person to never use someone else's secrets or insecurities against them.
The long I lasted on a dating app was around 30 mins. It was bumble, and it was just because I kept switching between the dating, biz and friends section trying to find someone who I could remotely be interested in getting to know better. I feel like I waste less time when I am waiting for my laundry machine to be done
As a Christian woman I do think God expects men and women to dress modestly even though alot of ppl tend to put emphasis on the women cuz they're used to excusing men based on their culture. Alot of churches need to separate cultural ideals from God's ideal.
Miss Stamps is like an online friend of mine like... her mindset , her povs, her sense of humor... is so like.. like someone I like to hangout with.. or not hangout but like talk and share stuffs... people like her... people like us.. we rare species mahn... true dat!!!! ;) Love you Kells.
1. The HAIRRR 😍 2. I want to remake this video 😂 3. Have you considered going to charity/philanthropic events? They tend to have men with careers, money to give away, and we can assume they care about things beyond themselves. Or maybe other activities outside of church where you can find others with Christian values.
In your search for the man you wish to be with sister Kelly, it is extremely important that you pray about EXACTLY what it is that you want as you draw nigh unto the Lord. As you read your bible and fixate on the Lord the chips will fall where they are elected to.
Not a Christian women, but man. But honestly as a man who struggled with his identity and sexuality growing up your pure love and honesty has really been such a pure light to the Christian community! (And me) you’ve inspired me to start my own channel and just be me! Keep going! ❤
11:07 I’m almost 30 and divorced when I was getting to know my now and ideally forever partner. I wanted to know about his exes. I needed to see what he was/is attracted to, if he has a preference based on the women he’s dated, why it didn’t work out, what he didn’t like about her, what he liked about her (I liked that it was like pulling teeth trying to get him to tell me what he did like about her heheh because when he told me , he didn’t like anything, I told him you dated her for ** many years there’s gotta be something, what drew you to her?) I looked at all the objectively and I truly feel like it helps you see some of how compatible you guys are. My last relationship was 7 years, it changed me, I want to see how past relationships have changed the person I’m seeing. What they learned from that relationship, what they learned about themselves, what they need in a relationship and so on.
Not going to lie… and this is just MY opinion… but I think it’s very strange to DRILL your partner about their exes. I kind of understand your reasonings … but I still find it very odd the way you went about it. It’s gives insecurity..
@@MariamaBahOffiicial He brought her up initially and I asked about how that relationship was since he dated her for a similar amount of time I did my ex husband. I didn’t learn everything about her that day. With his other ex’s who he didn’t date for a significant amount of time I didn’t inquire as intensely. Still odd to you?
@@MariamaBahOffiicial I agree.. it seems a bit overwhelming to be so focused on the past people he dated and why they didn’t work out. I wouldnt want someone to dig into my past with those kinds of questions because most people don’t know how to handle that information and end up using it against you, which sounds like what she will do if he says something she doesn’t like. You can’t win with those types of questions because people and relationships are complicated. There are so many reasons why past relationships dont work, but they shouldn’t have too much bearing on what kind of relationship I have today. PLUS, it doesn’t guarantee that you will get the true version of what happened anyway. Just deal with the person as they are now, because hopefully they have learned something from each relationship. Focus on who he is today, not the why. The insecure part is about wanting to know who his ‘type’ is, etc.. it’s just too much and it would be a red flag if someone machine gunned me with all those intrusive kinds of questions when I’m just getting to know them.
Your questions are appropriate and smart. Men are visual creatures. They tend to have a physical preference especially when it comes to the face. We should learn about a potential partner’s ex and past relationships. It’s not crazy or insecure. It’s inquisitive and part of the vetting process. These relationships affect us deeply and it is so ignorant/naive to think otherwise.
@@Travelintherapist I didn’t use anything I knew about I learned about her against him. Maybe if were emotionally immature? I suppose if I saw a concerning pattern in his dating history I would “use that against him” by deciding not to continue the relationship. I don’t like the notion that I should have to look past red flags because you think it displays insecurity what a weird opinion for a traveling therapist to have… Regardless, you do what works for you, and I’ll do what works for me as I’m happy in my relationship.
Ugh, I remember my days dealing with talking to men online. I started to hate hearing guys say stuff like 'open minded' because it almost always seemed to end up having a sexual meaning. Although things have changed so much maybe that's changed. But since the guy in this instance mentioned 'great sex', I take it to be the same as the old-ish days.
Open-minded definitely means sex. It’s so weird, they’d be better off saying that they’re just looking for a hookup to weed out anyone who isn’t, I’m sure there’s a lot of women who are looking for hookups too.
Write down the type of man you want face body type skin personality character how you would want him to treat you and potentially your kids write down every quality you would want in a man… or women, whatever you prefer, respectfully write down exactly what you want then become the type of women that would attract that person and God will guide that person to you and write down something that would make that person obvious to you so you will know that, that is the person you’re looking for and it will manifest that is how I met my soul mate, I hope this helps, thank you.
I'm surprised you didn't try that Christian dating app Upward. When I was single I tried it but it was so new there wasn't enough men on it in my area. I did however meet my husband on match. I'm very much like you in my faith and views. It was difficult being on dating apps. I wish I would have documented my journey because it was only a few years ago.
A "Christian" man that I matched with Bumble a while ago told me that he struggled with corn, but the next day, changed one of his interests to "Segg Positivity" 💀💀💀
Tbh, Hinge is the best out of the apps I tried. However, I think most people that put their religion on there just add it to indicate they were raised a certain way or adhere to some sort of Christian “culture” or principles. It doesn’t necessarily mean they are saved/baptised and have a personal relationship with God.
I'm so glad you made this video, I've watched a couple videos about other Christian women on dating apps. I've never tried hinge my friend kept telling me about it but I've tried others Christian Mingle, Upward, Salt, Christian Dating For Free (CDFF), and a few others. I wanted to be versatile. I've met on CDFF and Upward. The guys I met on CDFF in 2020 were okay nothing too crazy! One I actually dated for about a year long story short boundaries were crossed and he lacked the ability to compromise. There were other characteristics or decisions that were like if you're doing this now or lacking something now and not willing to work on it I can only imagine if we took our relationship further so it ended. I was hurt because I really like him. After that it's just been meh. Guys playing games or not actually Godly men just saying their Christian but not truly living the lifestyle of one. I too a break I won't say I'll never try again just not now.
I wanna start dating in general as a Christian girlie to find my husband, but I don’t know WHERE TO LOOOOK! My church is nice but 80% is elderly people, 10% are children, and 5% are my age range but they come on Easter and Christmas. Are there any dating apps that can work for me? Thank you and Merry Christmas y’all, the Birth of Jesus! ❤❤❤
@@krii998 Funny enough, weeks after this comment my friend (she’s a mother in her 50s I call her my church friend 😭) kept telling me about her son who attends the next college over mine. He’s cute too but I don’t knowww I told her I’ll think about it
@@afrofaeries that’s good, doesn’t hurt to get to know people. Same thing happened to me, some middle aged lady tried to set me up with some christian guy who works with her lol. Still haven’t met him yet but who knows. I’m open to any situation.
When people say open minded nowadays of days they tend to mean accept all the shenanigans they co-sign. When people say it in regards to Christians, they usually mean accept certain sins as good because they've been normalized in society.
I’m a guy and met my soon to be wife on Christian Mingle, and yes there is some people out there that is is truly looking for love. It is very very few that are looking for true love but the rest is what really turns me off on dating apps.
Hi father in heaven I know you hear her cries and IAM thanking you for answering her in the joy of her heart ❤️ and revealing her spouse to her clearly and comforting her and encouraging her in Jesus name amen 🙏😊❤️
Muslim girl here… dating apps are so good in theory because you can be direct and decline interaction. In reality, you yourself are the “hot commodity” and the pickins are SLIM when you’re looking for something serious or marriage 🥲 God help us and our brothers in faith 😪
Girl I recently just deleted my Hinge page. There was a girl younger than me that wanted me to try it out and I’m like girl no there’s no good guys on there. But I went ahead and made my page anyway…and it just sucks not only that I feel like I’m searching for a man and I don’t like that feeling.
@@UniquelyHerz I wouldn’t necessarily say that a woman is desperate if she’s on a dating app. There have been successful stories I guess. But if we believe that men are the chasers than just me being on a dating app, it feels like just the opposite.
I found a guy online who said he was a Christian who would not date divorced women. When I met up in person for a first date, he mentioned that he had been into kissing and sex already and suggested that we kiss, which I declined. On our second date, we were sitting in the vestibule of Olive Garden, and he mentioned that a lot of people have sex on the third date, although as Christians, we'd wait longer. There was a couple on the other side of the vestibule, and I felt even more awkward because of it. He also said that he didn't pray much unless he was in trouble and actually interrupted me on the first date when I was praying before my meal. He had active social and fitness plans but had very little by way of spiritual discipline; church never seemed to be part of his plans. He was even ready to marry a Muslim woman at one point in his life. I didn't have the courage to bring up how his conduct did not support his confession, but I did mention other things that were standing in the way when we met up for the third and last time. About tattoos; they're like litter along the path in the forest. They make people uglier and are so distracting.
I gave up dating in general as its very hard to date where I am since most, if not all, do not want to date a woman who is abstinent (use to be celibate but I now want marriage so switched) and dating apps really did a number on me. I am turned off by men who show off their body and I know some people find that weird but I don't want to see that 😂
And if you’re a virgin, a lot of men just sexualize you. They want a “pure” woman, but they are not pure themselves, and their thoughts are not pure. Basically we should all just give up lol
Luther is always a classic...the dating apps seem like a horror story. Glad I grew up when I did before cell phones and apps. Enjoying the new channel very much.
Modesty is not just in the heart. Modesty is dressing in a way that's not revealing, not dressed scantily clad, not bringing sexual attention to yourself. How you're dressed in this video is modest. You don't have to dress in revealing clothes. You're beautiful without that.
modesty started in the heart tho, for me. at one point i felt a sense of like, "nah, i dont need this" and stopped reaching for more revealing clothing. it is a sense of i dont need validation from men, im good, God's got me, im proud of my faith, i feel better this way, etc. modesty feels right and more fulfilling for me now that it is coming from the heart.
If you think finding a good God-fearing man is hard, then imagine my pursuit of trying to find a good God-fearing man who is also masculine and from Spain. There's still hope with God, though!
Hey, I feel you. BUT I met my future husband on Upward which is supposed to be a specifically Christian app. Of course theirs guys who are just fluff on there like every where else but I met my boo boo after about month of using it and now I got a ring waiting to be put on my finger!
i tried dating apps and was traumatised all i find there are trashy man. the good looking ones are always self-absorbed and the unattractive ones are weird. There’s no in between. it’s so annoying. i deleted them and hit the gym. I have seen more chances meeting someone there than on dating apps.
I will say not every man is on the apps looking for that, or posting scandalous images. Just as much as you think it’s hard for Christian women, it’s hard for Christian men also. 😊👌
Lmao! KELLY! The song took me out. The hair is really doing it for you I love this look. I just missed the online dating pool and I’m concerned for y’all! It seems like a hellscape. I mean, marriage is 😂 too but jeez
