I Want To Leave My Job (How Do I Get Out?) 

More and more jobs are becoming like this. Very toxic. It is not always easy to find a comparable position. Many people feel trapped these days. Management is smoke and mirrors.

Been there before, had a job where every morning I would wake up and the first waking thought would be "I hate my life" as I got ready for work

I feel bad for Eileen I mean no one should ever go to work feeling sad and crying. I hope she finds happiness.

I worked 4 years at Jack in the Box and thought it was the worst job I'd ever work... Then I worked 4 months at Amazon and now look fondly at the job where I could let my employees go to the bathroom.

This is my last year working 9 to 5

My heart goes out to her. She should have been looking for a job after the first incident of her being accused of bullish…

The problem is when you start to see the red flags and if you don’t leave it never gets better. I know it’s not the best situation but I left a job after a month because of the toxic work environment.

I knew as soon she said she worked at Amazon.

For 145K I would normally just say grind it out until youre debt free but amazon is toxic. On top of that 3 investigations? Get out now. The money isnt worth it, this level of toxicity will take time off your life which is priceless. Talk to your husband and come up with a plan for the short term, you'll be okay in a year or so.

Money is never worth your health. Period. This woman needs to quit immediately.

Never go to HR unless you have documented proof in video and/or audio showing a pattern of egregious abuse. If you just have vague “my bosses don’t include me and are passive aggressive and don’t like me, etc.” it’s not going to do anything. HR has to investigate because they have to give the person a chance to defend themselves. They can’t just take your word for it. Which makes sense. Imagine if someone accused you of something and HR just believed them and fired you without investigating. If there’s no proof the other person is just going to lie, and HR can’t figure who is telling the truth so they do nothing but document it in a file. Now, despite anti-retaliation, you have a target on your back. They are going to be careful not to do anything too obvious, but they are going to start a smear campaign and isolate you. Your best bet is to recognize that they are playing 4D chess and you didn’t even know you were in the game. The game of thrones no less. People are toxic and no matter where you go eventually you’re going to encounter one or more people that are snakes. Heck, there are even toxic snakes in church! So, my advice is to go to therapy, toughen up, learn the lessons you need to learn, and save like crazy. Then, in time leave on your own terms. Don’t let someone run you off. You’re not going to di e at work unless you let them send you into an early grave. Be as shrewd as a snake, but as gentle as a dove. When they sense that you know what’s going on, but you’re unaffected and refuse to stoop to their level, they’ll either self destruct, try to cozy up to you, and/or find new people to torment. Again, HR can’t help unless there is documented proof of harassment or discrimination over time. You writing a letter isn’t proof and not to be mean but makes you seem (although I know you’re not) like a high maintenance drama queen. With the right perspective, some therapy, a better understanding that people can be cruel and toxic, and a strong prayer life you can come out of this stronger . I’m rooting for ya!

Been there. Done that. And I quit that toxic place once I decided to put my health and peace of mind first.

Sounds to me like the company just wants to get rid of her. I get that Amazon sucks, but writing a 7 page letter to HR is probably not the best thing to do if you want to keep your job. Remember HR is NOT for the employees, it's for the employer. HR almost always takes the side of the employer. Many think that HR is their to protect the employees, but that is actually the opposite of what they really do. Once you get on HR's bad side, your life will be miserable at that job.

Every job I have had came through connections such as family, friends, former co-workers or bosses. Connections are key and never burn a bridge.

Making good money but very unhappy at a job = Complete and utter hell.

Eileen, congratulations on the marriage. I agree you need to look beyond your current job to a future hope. You are stronger than you feel. Continue to aggressively save and pay down your debt so that when you do leave, it will be with a smile on your face! So sorry that you are going through this but you can endure til the new job comes. God bless you sister!

The problem isn't the job. The problem is that she needs to immediately replace lousy job with a job that pays a minimum of $100K.

People need to learn to go to work, get their money and go home. It's 145k! You can't walk away from that without a plan B. She can Gazelle save for 6 months and then quit, it takes at least 6 months for a previously employed person to find another job.

Some great questions Ken! Thank you.

Eileen I am praying for you good things are in your way. This is Gods way of taking you to a greater and better places. Just believe it. 🙏

Wow this is unreal & sad. Great advice Ken. Very sorry Eileen is going through this simply sad.

my heart goes out to you Eileen, i can honestly relate! i went through a similar drama and it was affected my mental health and one day i just had to leave. I was in a bad state, but 7 months later i am not having those panic attacks or anxiety tremors. You will be successful in your job hunt

Have not heard one good thing about working for Amazon!!

Am so unhappy and anxious everyday . My boss is so rude and verbally abusive. I just can afford to leave it because I have a lot of responsibility.

Thank you for posting

I love this guy!

I just hope,,, she is expressing all this to her new hubby,,,,,on what she is going through

There's so much more to this story.

Nawl...if your job has you crying, you need to do something different. No job is worth your health

Eileen just make sure you don’t mention you problems with your company at any future interviews, sound positive in yourfuture with their company, good luck

Most people gut out every day for about 35 years; and it doesn't pay 145k per year.

Finally some one told the truth

I feel the same way everyday I go into amazon too😞 at my breaking point

I don’t know why people think HR is going to look out for the employee?

She wrote a 7 page letter to HR? Lol

lol that intro. I am living the dream, what are you doing? She says being miserable lol

God bless you Eileen! The part where she says her savings went to her wedding....thats the reason I just eloped with my wife. As someone who has MC'd at weddings, I can tell you 90% of the people there dont give af and are just there for the party.

Is there a different way to go about this besides quitting? First of all I wished I could hug her! But is there a way to get a change of either job site or in a just different area away from that woman? I'm so sorry she's going through this! There is no reason that she should have endure any kind of bullying at work!! It sounds to me that she is friends with the people in HR!

I want to die every single day. The toxic atmosphere is disgusting . Favoritism you name it. I make too much money to leave and my brain is fried from stress and menopause and isolation . I have no reason to live . Still have student loans at a terrible interest rate and trying to catch up on retirement. Single income . I was driven into even more isolation so I have no personal life. I am 60 . No family no nothing . I WANT TO DIE SO BADLY

I like to stay and cause problems.

For that salary, you're going to go through some things. More than the individual contributor.

145k?? Poor thing. I’m depressed making 35 a year at a freekn tv news station money isn’t everything. Happiness is better

I feel so bad for Eileen. I hope she finds another job. Seattle is a high cost of living area.

If you're making 145k a year and call up crying, you know that job is crap. Pray to God and find something asap. The money ain't worth it. Your health is wealth, not worth the stress.

Is Amazon generally a bad place to work? I’ve read that a lot of people quit retail, food service etc. and work there so they don’t have to deal with customers.

I don't know if I heard that right but I think I did she wrote a seven-page letter to HR of course now she's got an arrow on her back nobody likes a complainer and a whiner because everybody hates her job no one's having a fun time there but when you constantly complain and stuff like that you're just going to piss everybody else off even more than they already are so I'm not surprised that she's got a total Target on her back they're trying to make it so miserable for her that she's just going to quit because otherwise if they fired her she could probably collect unemployment my opinion they just want to make it so bad for her that she just voluntarily quit

Does Amazon have a union?

✝️🙏

I worked for amazon too, its soo toxic, i was crying every day for 2 weeks straight, it was horrible

How about instead of “needing” a $100k a year job, she and her new husband cut back on their expenses for a bit while she drives Uber eats and tries to find a job. I would wager she doesn’t “need” to make that much to stay afloat in the short term.

Y she use her savings for a wedding? Ppl r crazy… I hated driving the bus so I quit!

People just don't wanna work anymore. Thanks brandon.

Put aside all the money you can, if worse comes to worse, take a job at 60k that allows you to breathe and use that money put aside to fill in the gap in pay until you can come up with a better solution. Once you DO get in a better situation, put ALL the money you can into a close-to-liquid investment like a good ETF so that if you get in this position again, you'll be able to live off the interest indefinitely (you can typically pull out money from an ETF in about 1 business week so as long as you plan ahead you're fine).

Employees don't just turns on someone for no reason. Were missing parts of the story for sure

Hate to say it, but this is the type of situation where I would really like to hear the other side of things. Clearly she made a big mistake writing a 7 page letter to HR when a two paragraph email would suffice. It sounds like she’s upset about how she is perceived in the workplace but never once considered how she makes other people feel around her

Just leave!

This lady is about to get fired. They re excluding her, they re investigating her, they can't wait to get rid of her. She s got clear blind spots she s not very self aware. Also that's so much money man

They probably gossiping against her and turning other employees against her!!

She just got married and could probably accept a lowering paying position if it's really that's bad.

My goodness I feel so bad for this lady. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 It is so scarey. I know what is like be "excluded" from meetings and other jobs.

I don't know. Something tells me, she's not so innocent as she claims.

She needs 100k minimum a year? Come on.. I earn about 30k, have to pay child support, and can still make a living out of it. Doesn't her husband earn anything?

Dude sounds just like tom leykis

I feel Eileen's pain. I had a job in which I was in tears everyday driving to work, and I wasn't making anywhere close to $145k. Amazon keeps coming up as an absolute horror of a place to work. I don't buy from there anymore. I shop there, find what I want and then go to the manufacturer's website to buy it. There's too many fake knock-off products in Amazon and I don't want to support the toxic work environment. I've heard too many stories like Eileen's.

Amazon are you listening to this?! Your at fault

3 investigations? She might have some communication issues she is not aware of.

Find a new job! It's not difficult at all. Geezus... Has she updated her resume? Has she looked at her skill set to assess transferable skills? Has she looked at what jobs are being posted? Has she gone to LinkedIn and reached out to Talent Acquisition managers of companies that interest her? There are MANY options available. Take control of the situation.

I work for Amazon , it’s a great place to work! If you know your role , and your work approach is one based on true compassion you’ll do just fine.

Every job you go to you have stress. You just a new employee coming in and you write 7 page complaints to HR. Trust me, I am an employer, with Covid and all the free things government is giving to people, people don’t want to work, they do whatever they want to do at work, employees know there is a shortage. Amazon main concern is to get people orders to them the next day. You can’t expect to make 145k as a leader and don’t get stressed. Some people are married to the government, they only have to work a few hours to get their welfare and they don’t so they bring all that to the job. You believer start praying . I personally pray for my bosses, my employees , my colleagues and have made up my mind that I am not leaving my job until I retire. You upgraded your lifestyle to 145k a year , now you are in a trap. Dave Ramsey always say live on less than you make, if she was living on a budget or $90,000 a year, she will not be working in abuse and a toxic environment. If I were her, I will pray , go to work, adjust my life to $90,000 a year , become debt free and leave. Learn the culture and go with the flow of you want that kind of money.

Her being a Christian could be the problem. What a shame.

Feelings 😅 145 k got Married so now receiving double income come on now. She says she's lonely lol she Married hey husband Red Flags 🚩bro. She not emotionally stable. She will do this in every job she gets

gotta be a call center, *edit she makes 145k a yr, better suck it up sweetie. These calls drive me crazy, thats a dayum good salary.

Her man needs to work more.

Her voice goes from crying to strong to crying to strong really quickly. It sounds manipulative.

Why doesn’t she “quite quit” lol 😂

I’ll take your job for 145k!

Professional victim table for one, geeze

Sounds like chick on chick harassment. This is why I am so thankful that I have set myself up with financial freedom so that if I am in a work situation where I have too many chicks above, below or same level as me I simply quit amd find a workplace with more men!

Lol, people want to make 145k with no stress or drawbacks. Quit and go work at walmart as a greeter