The problem is the social environment there is no question for example in a tribe is seen as a blessing, this simply defend human captivity, you think human beings should be productive animals? strange others are not, I just think it's ridiculous to think that dreaming is bad the simply a social factor there is no harm in dreaming .
@@davidsantos1630 there is a huge harm in daydreaming this intesntly For me, it’s not solely about productivity. It causes me distress because it’s no longer in my control & it’s addictive, it’s my only source of happiness but i wish to stop. It’s not just about productivity. Because I can’t stop daydreaming I find it difficult to have fulfilling relationships because I choose to spend time alone to daydream (although it’s not really a choice). Things like driving become really hard because I cannot control the dissociation. Even doing simple tasks like showering and eating are hard because I have to pull myself out of a daydreaming session in order to complete these tasks , so a lot of things in life become difficult to deal with. It’s not about productivity it’s about control, I no longer have control over the daydreams and it’s exhausting to fight with your brain to stay in the present moment.
Yes it does. I didn't realise for how many years I had this problem(coupled with OCD). It ruined some of my formative years when i should have been working for my career.
I’m 27 and I’ve been maladaptive daydreaming (MD) since I was 13. Music is a big trigger for me. It started by imagining myself in the music videos of songs I was listening to. I still do this now, and lots of the time when I listen to music I think of ideal imaginary scenarios where I’m really charismatic, beautiful, and well liked. I’m really going to try and build up a habit of meditating daily because it should help me to stay in the present. One of the problems with my MD is that I invent past or future scenarios. I really regret not trying harder in school, and in my daydreams I go back to the past and imagine myself as a high achieving student. I also have issues maintaining friendships, and in my head I go back to my school days and imagine that I know who to avoid in school and who to befriend, because in reality I’ve been done dirty by a lot of friends. I also imagine myself in the future having an ideal life, and I also imagine an ideal life for my future kids. I need to stop doing this because living in fantasies is harmful. When I was 22-24 I had an EXTREME crush on my colleague who was in a relationship. I never acted on my feelings but I was literally in love with him. I cried for a whole year after he left my work place. I think part of what created this strong attraction to him was that I fantasised about him too much. I hope I can break free from this harmful thinking one day
@@dankemo3169 I’ve been backsliding a bit, I need to be more disciplined with controlling my thoughts. And I want to start doing meditations about staying in the present
Hey.. we’re literally the same age, gender and started MDD at the same age. We both spent our early 20s in limerance with a guy who moved on. Lol. I’d be down to meet via zoom if you want an accountability partner for staying present. I need one
The main problem of MD is that it is so pleasant and addictive. When I struggled from other mental disorders, I was so motivated to overcome it because it felt so uncomfortable and difficult. But MD is something difficult to stop doing, because you feel so good when doing it
@@NightingaleFlorine because social media is scandalous. Content is not supposed to be boring. Social media distracts us from real life because life isn't as exciting.
@@NightingaleFlorine Imo , I would say that short form content mainly like reels , tiktok and shorts randomly show u anything without you wanting so which leads to overload of information which isnt good and plays a big role in getting you to daydream and have a short attention span.
maladaptive daydreaming is no joke. i’m a burnt out straight a student on a gap year who thought she cured her maladaptive daydreaming but being alone with my thoughts, away from friends, that couldn’t be further from the truth. first, i’m beginning to realise that i’ve been maladaptive dreaming from birth. i didn’t have an ideal childhood growing up, nothing too traumatic, what it’s important is that i was one of those “quiet kids” or kids who were forced to be quiet, shall i say? that left little to no room for self expression and because of that i’m extremely awkward and non affectionate around my family despite our relationship drastically improving over the years. my upbringing ruined my self esteem, i’ve played it safe my entire life. pair that with the lack of freedom i had compared to other children, i was left with no one but my thoughts but to comfort me. however, i thought it was normal - an overactive imagination as my teacher once described. looking back on it now it obviously wasn’t. because at age 10 i preferred daydreaming than talking to most people. i started daydreaming from about age 6. these were really innocent things like all the presents i desired, dream jobs i wanted etc. being forced to go to church every sunday, and having to sit down for 3 hours induced my daydreaming, and made it something to look forward to. thankfully, i had quite an overactive social life during primary school age (5-11). i was smart, had many friends, teachers loved me, and i was my loud outgoing self. however, things changed once i got to secondary school. i already had a low self esteem, due to my upbringing, and i was absolutely terrified of being criticized by anyone. i made many friends during my first of secondary but i was also severely bullied by the popular boys. to be fair, when i say severely bullied, it wasn’t anything serious. there were two separate occasions (both on the first week of school) where the bullying happened and they forgot about me after that lol. anyway, these incidents traumatized me, and shaped me into a disgusting people pleaser. a girl who told everyone what they wanted to hear, who expressed her to opinions because she simply wanted people to like her. this made me gain a lot of friends, surprisingly, everyone spoke of highly of me. to this day, when i tell people i hated secondary school, they can’t believe it because they think i had such a wonderful social life (it just goes to show, never judge a book by its cover). from this moment (i didn’t know it at the time), my daydreaming became maladaptive. i’d go out of my way to avoid walking to school with my friends so i could daydream. i would walk the long way to school so i could get a couple mins extra time daydreaming. when my friends and i would go out, i would imagine scenarios of me being cool and respected, where i’d have multiple friends (ironic considering there were like 10+ people in my friendship group). i didn’t realise it at the time, but i was pushing them away. big time. then covid 19 hit. i didn’t speak to any of my friends and i consumed more media. i became obsessed with anime so much to the point where i was immersed into the world. it became a comfort place in a world where i was alone. people could go 2 weeks without messaging me, i no longer felt replaceable because my mind would give me the comfort i needed. being indoors 24/7 didn’t bother me in the slightest because it gave me the chance to lay in bed for 4 hours simply daydreaming. eventually i got fed up with my way of living. i found it pathetic, that my only friends were the ones that existed inside my head. so i actually cured it (or so i thought). i stopped procrastinating my life away by daydreaming about anime, and i started daydreaming about the life that i want. i was so out of touch with reality now that i think about it. i had no goals for what I wanted to do in the future. anyway, long story short, i realized i found a passion from imaging anime scenarios in my head, into wanting to become a mangaka. and it worked. the dream of being a mangaka didn’t last long as i decided to get more serious about my future. as i progressed onto a-levels and the work became harder; my daydreaming progressed into dreams for the future. i would dream about the family i wanted, the job i wanted and the grades i would get for my a-levels. as the academic pressure became more surreal i plunged myself into what i didn’t was a completely new world. a-levels last two years and throughout that entire time i didn’t imagine
I started daydreaming when i was about 6, i would imagine that i was on a show, or a singer. now i’m 19, it took a bunch of time, it has made my discipline harder to achieve, whenever i’m alone, or stress i daydream, i’m always daydreaming and is my addiction, i’ve tried to stop but i came back. i can be hours and hours daydreaming, i don’t even know what my life goal is, i can’t even go to work because i rather daydreaming that actually living in the real world, or i just get angry at the fact of hours without daydreaming. it sucks, i just want to stop doing that because is not good for me, or for my friends. and is no good, i have to live life and achieve my dreams and have a normal life. geez, i dumped a lot, but i hope i can get better, thank you for this video.
For years I was isolating myself to daydream… it was compulsive and I was not even realizing it that’s crazy. My life in my imagination was so much better. But once I learned about maladaptive daydreaming it hit me hard! Since then I’m able to recognize it when it happens and what I do is that I name out loud all the objects around me so it keeps me back to reality. It works well and I almost don’t do it at all 😊 also I completely stopped listening to music that triggers me…
Start meditating it will help for sure. Do it for an hour regularly. (Don't meditate in your room because your mind has been programmed to daydream in that room.) And just do it regularly for 2-3 months and you will start seeing the results. (This is coming from someone who had MD, who suffered immensely but eventually found a way to cure it and transformed himself in the end)
@@yashsaroha021 do you still daydream today or do you find yourself being able to listen to songs normally and just sitting bored in a room without going to a different life? I really wanna get better so i am thinking of meditation
Very relevant video for me. Almost brings tears to my eyes. Only cried 3 times in the last 12 years. To be honest, this was more helpful than my therapist.
I’m 15 and I think I might have maladaptive daydreaming since I was about 12. It started when I had for some time anime phase and I watched it a lot. I’m more of introvert and when I was younger I used to read a lot of fantasy books. I liked to imagine different things but then it was a normal daydream. It became more less maladaptive when I was about 13 yo. I didn’t affect my studying or anything but it was triggered by long walks, going by bus or learning to music. I actually liked it, because it helped me to escape reality from time to time and I really enjoyed it. A problem started when last year it became my routine and every time I walk somewhere, doesn’t matter whether with my class or not, I daydream. I feel that I make stupid faces and it happened a few times that I caught myself giggling to myself. It became exhausting at some point. It’s hard to stop it since it feels natural. I became separated from other people, because on one hand I love daydreaming and being by my self, but also sometimes I feel lonely and mad at myself and lack of social integrations. Also the problem is for me became that it is harder to keep an eye contact, which is kind an annoying. I hope I’ll be able to stop it one day
I lowkey gasped when I read your comment cuz u described my exact experience with MD...im 15 as well and it started at 12/13 while being fresh in the anime phase. Im kind of relieved in a way to find out that im not the only teenager with a similar problem. Good luck with overcoming it tho :)
One thing that helped me quit quite fast is when i would listen to song i would focus on the lyrics and whenever i would start daydreaming i would snap out of it and because the songs are timed you can tell how much time you spent and if you started daydreaming in this specific song and slowly i would not daydream for 2 then 3 and then 5 then 7 songs and eventually it will stop. Yes this is hard because songs are a big trigger for most mds but i highly recommend this. Edit : ( if you have a playlist you can also test how many songs went by that you daydreamed and you realize sooner when you started and when it ended )
When I saw video it was same thing which I have been facing for almost 25 years . Still I am facing that addiction. This kind of video help me to realize that I should stop daydreaming.
I had to stop the video to say thank you for talking about this on youtube. I am having a period where my MD is getting really bad and looking for "i cant stop daydreaming about a celebrity crush" on reddit was that i found about this disorder. Your videos are very clear to understand, and i think you tips will help me a lot. Thank you!
I had some childhood trauma and decades of stress but now my life is peaceful and happy but I'm still lost in a daydream world even around other people. The daydreaming itself is my only real source of stress.
Thanks for taking the time to cover this topic. I hadn't realised that it was called maladaptive daydreaming, but it's something I've struggled with since childhood, along with derealization. It's good to know I'm on the right track by trying to spend less time in my head, and shift my focus. The whole idea of acceptance confused me, because I felt like shifting my focus was "fighting it", which is what people tell you to avoid doing. Since I started focusing on my surroundings more, my derealization and anxiety have lessened. Your video helped to make me see that Im on my way to solving part of the puzzle. Thank you.
io stessa cosa ultimamente però scoprendo di sta cosa ho provato a cercare di non immaginare più e mi è sparito grazie a un attacco di panico il problema della derealizzazione
Amazing! I can relate to what you're saying here, with fighting it. Right before reading your comment, I was reminded of something called outwards consciousness meditation, which is what you describe you did to lessen the anxiety. I happy I saw this video today, and that I read your comment. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
i did my own reseach i did find out i have Maladaptive Daydreaming, its sure feel good when you excape, but in reality it waste your time and your life feels its left behind
Please keep making videos. You're a life saver. Your videos have taught me so much, you make it so easy to figure out even with my limited attention span. Thank you Rumzi, thank you from the deepest of my heart for putting in so much work into this video. Really looking forward to the mindfulness video you're working on!
Thank so much for making this video I know I’m a year late but this has really helped me because I know that I have so much potential in my life but male adaptive daydreaming was always holding me back, but now that I know what’s causing it I know how to not let it control me so thank you so much and god bless you
Thank you so much for this. I am trying to learn more about maladaptive daydreaming since I noticed that it's getting worse for me lately. Your video literally feels like a friend who's talking or teaching me.
Sometimes, a dream of lies feels way more welcoming than a reality made of thorns. MD is an elaborate subconscious coping strategy. Meditation is key really.
The worst reason to have MD is because of a *BIG* goal you want to reach. And I mean *BIG.* It’s so far but and when you keep thinking of your ideas of what you want to do, you unintentionally suck yourself into these addicting universes of you and others that you’ve met, or have seen in some form of fantasy. Or at least for me, that’s how I got here. But I’m working on it ✌️
Hi everyone I just wanted to share my story I am 16(M) started to daydream last year around april and its been more than 1 year currently i have gained control over it the first time I tried to stop my brain from maladaptive dayrdream was in june i actually gained control for a 2 weeks but again feel in the trap because currently I am in class 11 and preparing for jee exam so i live alone so i had pictures of myself in future showing me that what if I started to daydream again my life would become hell I wont get into IIT my parents have so much faith in me and I wont be able to do anything i used to think of failing in class 12 so i was overthinking then after controlling it for 2 weeks I again feel into the trap of md but now i have control over it I can stop it immediately its been 1 week beacause started to daydream as it gives me dopamine which feels good now what i did was to stop listening to music this was the biggest trigger for me and I have also figured it out that you do it beaucse it feels good now if want to get rid of it do something which gives you dopamine. Now my backstory that why I started daydream beaucse of my school trauma chronic stress inferiority complex I want attention of everyone so basically it was beacause of my school and life was not the same when i never use to daydream so if you want to make it stop do something which makes you feel good like started to have fun with my friends in my hostel which makes me regulate my dopamine and i have started following a ytube channel called Bhuddhism english i practice mindfulness reading books meditation so find the root cuase that why you started to daydream and dont forget that there are people who are drug addicts but they also overcome their addiction and one more thing maladaptive daydreaming is cheap dopamine so have a friend circle and learn about teachings of gautam bhuddha and follow that youtube channel called bhuddhism i dont remember the full name and it can be controlled 100% ya its difficult but have faith in bhuddhism beacuse most of the monks meditate they have peace in life develop hobbies do things like playing video games in the starting so atleast your mind can focus and then meditate have friends never be lonely when you are suffering from md and i am again saying learn about bhuddhism its really helpful as it help to control your mind and dont loose hope just start to introspect the root cause like depression in my case so find yours beacause its not an illness like cancer or anything you were never born with it if your mind has the power to create it it also has the power to destroy it you just need to control over it learn it meditation will help start with breating in slowly and exhaling out it brings your mind to present always have the habit whenever you start to daydream focus on your breathing this is what I learned by foloowing bhuddhism and its very helpful in fact I advice that if you case is very worst then go to some monastry for 6 months live with monks practice meditation they will not treat md but they will train you how to control your mind which will help you to get rid of md thats it from my side my story right now is overthinking so I have to deal with it beacuse it makes me sad depressed then I daydream so I have started having a social circle having fun activies reading about teachings of bhuddha so ya i have figured out the how to get rid of it just do things which makes me feel happy because i am still in depression since 2 years so when I feel good I dont need to daydream and one more thing if you have md then you definitely have anxiety stresss and depression so treat it also because in my case i daydream because life is boring and my negative thoughts makes me depressed to my brain triggers and I get what i need that is dopamine which i get from dreaming so thats it from my side just you things which make you happy stay happy live happy you will definitely get rid of md so thats from my side thank you
I hv studied neuroscience as my dd made me suffer alot, I felt horrible for not being able to control my brain & now as per my knowledge I think Maladaptive daydreaming and fpp both are caused by dysfunction in post central gyrus and Parietal lobe and the super function of occipital lobe.
When you said think about the pyramids, I was sent to a rabbit hole where I was visiting egypt and I discovered mummies Didn't wake up til the end.......I'm cooked
If one uses people from real life as charachters in the daydreams, is it possible that then the things one immagined about the real-life people are attributed to those people in real life? Like, for example, my friend fantasizes a lot about people she barely know and I think she ends up suspecting things of them which are totally fruit of her immagination. She attributes intentions and thoughts to people's behaviour though she barely knows them.
The first one I ever used was by a RU-vid channel called The Honest Guys, it was a 10 minute mindfulness meditation, I can recommend that one. Or look for one that is for "body scanning" meditation.
I started daydreaming when I was like 11(but I daydreamed when I was younger too but it wasn't an "habit") ...I often daydream about living in a "cartoon world"/ singing / dancing or being famous ...then It became an obsession...I started (and I do it very often now) daydreaming for hours (always listening to music )and procrastinating on things . I'm very grateful that this video popped on my feed since with my maladaptive daydreaming,I don't have a life anymore so,thank you!:)
I caan relate so much mine started at 12 and it's almost the same Just getting what I like and getting rid of what I don't.. now that I'm about to turn 20, it's about everything Hope you're doing better now, u still have a lot of time ahead of you to grow and imrove
I think I might have maladaptive daydreaming since I was about 12. It started when I had for some time anime phase and I watched it a lot. I’m more of introvert and when I was younger I used to read a lot of fantasy books. I liked to imagine different things but then it was a normal daydream. It became more less maladaptive when I was about 13 yo. I didn’t affect my studying or anything but it was triggered by long walks, going by bus or learning to music. I actually liked it, because it helped me to escape reality from time to time and I really enjoyed it. A problem started when last year it became my routine and every time I walk somewhere, doesn’t matter whether with my class or not, I daydream. I feel that I make stupid faces and it happened a few times that I caught myself giggling to myself. It became exhausting at some point. It’s hard to stop it since it feels natural. I became separated from other people, because on one hand I love daydreaming and being by my self, but also sometimes I feel lonely and mad at myself and lack of social integrations. Also the problem is for me became that it is harder to keep an eye contact, which is kind an annoying. I hope I’ll be able to stop it one day
I've read maybe hundreds of comments on MD over the course of months, and almost half of them say it started around the age of 11-12, same goes for me too. Any ideas why this could be the case?
Maybe because at that age you start to feel 'not enough' like most teens or you realize that you don't like your life, and dream about being popular and cool in your ideal world. Kids under 10 usually don't think about that stuff yet.
I want to be able to stop MD completely. I hope that I can. I can spend hours a day doing this, and I can even do it simultaneously whilst doing tasks and studying, but as a result, the things I want to do have poor results and it is very inefficient. It is the ultimate escape. I do not want to live in the reality that I do, and the MD things I think of sometimes are flawed and not even what I consider to be perfect and what I essentially want, but that is a huge point. I cannot even imagine a reality I fully want to live in, so it has to be built from the extremely flawed one and one that has been causing me mental pain and conflicts in my mind. However, I want to be able to stop. I am not even sure what I will be thinking of instead, but I will do it. It has grown into a seemingly untamable monster that came about when I was a young child but was only small but still strong back then, but I believe it can be stopped. It would help to know the neuroscience and mechanics behind my brain specifically. I do understand myself almost thoroughly I believe (because I think about my life and thoughts as much as I MD about fantasy things). I feel like I can be only a prisoner of my own mind, or my reality. But I want neither. I will try to stop.
I can’t really tell when did I start daydreaming, I was too young to remeber I used to believe everyone was like that but doesn’t admit it ,it was so good and doesn’t effect me but starting from the middle school I was accepted into an Elite school and it was pretty stressful, I used to escape and daydream, Now I’m in the 12th grade and iver two years I started searching about self-improvement methods and stuff like these because I thought I was just procrastinating until one day I confessed and told myself I can’t do anything bc of daydreaming, now I know what’s wrong, I didn’t know it could be a symptom of a mental illness I thought I was just lazy and avoiding work . It’s uncontrolable now I daydream without realizing and sometimes when I realize I’m doing it again I just cry then I imagine some characters comforting me which is literally insane it feels like there’s no escape from this
This is exactly what im going through. My exams are so soon and im so tierd of feeling like im just so stupid cause i cant focus, you arnt alone at all and i pray we can get through this and insted, turn it into something beautiful like a story (yep now i gotta meditate so i dont daydream about writing stories💀)
BRO LEGIT GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING! I couldnt even go to take my وزاري test cause i woke up late last year 💀 (living the nightmares every students has lol) I ended up just repeating the year cause I wouldnt have gotten good grades and now here i am. Though i do belive that there is always something so much better than we could imagine in our future! Good luck! اتمنالك حظ جميل ✨
@@middsummer god sorry for what happened I hope everything with you will settle down, I already failed two subjects in my midterm and I’m feeling I’m going to fail in my finals too😀 the problem is that my family doesn’t even allow me to take دور ثاني they think I’m a genius like my sister 🙂
Mate the fact that you are able to even get into an elite school (متميزين؟) just prove that you are smart as hell! Maybe in a very diffrent ways than your sibling, i mean being able to imagine things vividly is so cool✨ im also in a "distingushed" school and lemme tell you i thought i was the dumbest human alive when i first moved here because everyone seemed to have it figure out, but after two years in one grade, lemme tell you no one has it figure out. Like at all. Everyone is so stressed, last year a friend of mine who ended up with 100% in chem didnt finish the last 2 chapter until the day befor the exam, and she still aced it! Insted of looking at it like you might not be as good, Maybe you can be so much better in ways and professional you cant even imagine now! Haha ill make sure to check up on you after the exams! Wish you all the best🕺✨
Thank you for being so candid and sharing your process. I have just understood what it is that I struggle with, even after trauma therapy and years of meditation. You explained it so elegantly and in a way that's easy to accept. You just gave me motivation to go back to my meditation practice, and not the guided kind. Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I think the invention they created is amazing, what kind of people will have future robots and that now dreaming is bad because you waste time ,which is bad and you don't have shared dreams, now having imagination is bad no you weren't formatted to believe that when only you dapatate to captivity before you dream of freedom, what you are doing is a great danger for humanity.you are destroying what makes us human to adapt to an unnatural social system, human being is not meant to be a productive thing but happy trying to change the world for the better not to adapt to it.
Hey David. Although I suffer from MD, I think I understand what you are getting at. Stopping a natural human creative behavior only for the sake of producing is indeed a terrible idea, but the case we have here its different. Nobody wants to become a drone. the problem with MD is the daydreaming gets so intense and addictive that it impairs other areas of our lives. It is extremely difficult to focus on command, in my opinion having our own mind prevent us from focusing on something we set out to do is a huge detriment. It is fact, that excessive daydreaming is not normal. Those who have it, have it for a reason, its a sign that things are not going well for our mental health. For example: Most days when I come home from work I would listen to music, pace around my room and kick a ball, I would look at the clock and notice an hour has gone by and I have yet to work on my hobby or talk to my friends. The problem is, it's hard to stop and I would do it for another hour. It's gotten better, but as you can see those are sings of someone who isn't right in the head at the moment. The guy on the video is providing instruction on how to deal with this problem, he is not helping some new world order that is out there to enslave our thoughts or slay any human faculties.
@@andr3s306 things are not going well. It's not with the individual but with the environment society, just look at the dreamer, he simply knows what reality is.
this addiction for me has gotten really bad but I'm working on it tiktok is definitely a big trigger for me thankfully I'm slowly cutting it out since I only use it once or twice or day but every time I hop on there I start daydreaming but what I really hate is I fantasize my ideal life instead of working towards it there's a lot of things I want to do but I just end up daydreaming about it instead, like working out or drawing I will have my sketchbook right infront of me but still daydream about drawing like how
In this video the presenter states he realized he did not daydream when around other people. I found out many years ago that I do go into MaDD often in the presence of people. A lot. I have been busted for it a few times - when someone looks at me and realizes I am not present. I am out in a fantasy and have not been listening or paying attention. Even sometimes at work, doing a job that doesn't require all of my attention; even making love, even exercising...... I am afraid I am a lot farther down into this addiction than he was. A lot of work to do
how long did it took you to resolve your issue. i am 18 years old and doing maladaptive daydreaming since i was 15. i hate this and want to save myself please. help me
I also have this since i was 12 now i'am 17,, it stucks,, but this video is very helpful,, according to my own practice 1. Don't sit alone,, don't spend too much time being alone,, stay with your parents,, freinds (i don't have friends + my mom is too much supportive she is helping me,, + i belong to a brown family where going to a psychiatrist is known as u r mental so i can't go to any psychiatrist,, i'am solving this on my own + with help of my mom) 2_ write down whatever makes u anxious and give you stress 3. Practice mindfulness Believe me it is helping me too much,, i start doing these all above steps 1 month ago now i just daydream before bed when i can't sleep,, and one day it will end,,, REMEMBER IT'S A HABIT,, AND HABITS CAN BE LEFTED,,, ITS AN ADDICTION, OBSESSION AND THESE ALL STUFF CAN BE ENDED,, JUST FOCUS ON YOUR GOALS,, ACCEPT REALITY,, BE CLOSE TO YOUR FAMILY,, SPEND TIME IN PLAYING GAME DON'T TOO MUCH,, JUST FOR AN HOUR,, + SCROLL THROUGH YOUR FAVORITE APP I WILL PRAY FOR YOU BECAUSE I KNOW HOW IT FEELS LIKE 😩 DON'T MIND MY ENGLISH 🤣🤣
I also have this since i was 12 now i'am 17,, it stucks,, but this video is very helpful,, according to my own practice 1. Don't sit alone,, don't spend too much time being alone,, stay with your parents,, freinds (i don't have friends + my mom is too much supportive she is helping me,, + i belong to a brown family where going to a psychiatrist is known as u r mental so i can't go to any psychiatrist,, i'am solving this on my own + with help of my mom) 2_ write down whatever makes u anxious and give you stress 3. Practice mindfulness Believe me it is helping me too much,, i start doing these all above steps 1 month ago now i just daydream before bed when i can't sleep,, and one day it will end,,, REMEMBER IT'S A HABIT,, AND HABITS CAN BE LEFTED,,, ITS AN ADDICTION, OBSESSION AND THESE ALL STUFF CAN BE ENDED,, JUST FOCUS ON YOUR GOALS,, ACCEPT REALITY,, BE CLOSE TO YOUR FAMILY,, SPEND TIME IN PLAYING GAME DON'T TOO MUCH,, JUST FOR AN HOUR,, + SCROLL THROUGH YOUR FAVORITE APP I WILL PRAY FOR YOU BECAUSE I KNOW HOW IT FEELS LIKE 😩 DON'T MIND MY ENGLISH 🤣🤣
@@abdulghaffar1087 brother I don't talk too much with my family it's just I don't know how to, I don't have friends they betrayed me and left me alone, on 1 September I started meditation and was feeling better but since 3-4 days i have stopped because I feel dizzy and weak ( DON'T KNOW WHY) I am taking medicine currently and when I recover I will continue my meditation and for now I am still daydreaming. One I recover I will try my best to solve this problem BTW HOW LONG DID IT TOOK YOU TO OVERCOME THIS ADDICTION?
@@progameryt1564 should i expalin,, i'am a girl, i got obsessed with bts too much, i start day dreaming about them in start it was just a normal thoughts of meeting them,, then i start fictionlaizing my own band that i have a band we are 4 members we also make music,, people love us,, + i am dating with one of bts member and moree,,,, I got too much obsessed l failed in my annual exams this year and realised this is killing me and my future,, i became too much sad,, i was afraid of talking and sharing this with my mom but somehow i did it because i start daydreaming 24/7 about them,, i was all ok then i got anxiety too,,, my mom is helping me nowadays,, and its working,, and i know it will end..
@@AB-dz7lo firstly I chose to be with lots of people kind of socializing a lot this will really help ur mind to come to reality Secondly make ur mind understand tht everyone has their own fanatsy land in their minds but u don't need to let ur fantasy land overtake the real one Third : spend time with nature ,pets ,plants n talk to plants animals ...u will soon see urself changing
Sir i personally feel that this is normal since we all tend to make up or own world inside our mind to relax but it's excesss is what is devastating I am 19 I figured out my prblm n i have almost recovered it it's just how brain needs to be trained I have half overcome it n in my coming days i will win over it
@@jayshreedwivedi4473 yrr dekho everyone has an imaginary world but the thing is we need to control so tht it doesn't affect our reality good people new ambitions do help going out interacting with people for long time n animals n nature help
It's normal to do it some minutes, but when you stop doing things just so you can daydream or you do it all the time It's a problem that get worst with the years. You are still young so you better try to stop now.
you simply defend human captivity you think human beings should be productive animals, strange others are not, I just think it's ridiculous to think that dreaming is bad the problem is a pyramidal society that you think it's normal for a being to be productive, that's simply a narrative of social control, everything you say is simply a social factor there is no harm in dreaming in inventing this concept you are simply destroying the concept of dream it is sad to see human captivity at work.
Maladaptive daydreaming isn't just bad for productivity, I can forget to take care of myself because of it. Daydreaming isn't always bad simply because one acknowledges that some is maladaptive- which means harmful adaptation.
I think you're someone who's never actually have experienced the severity of this. It makes you depressed. To live in a world and set up expectations for yourself, and then not be able to live up to it is terrible. It takes away your focus completely, you can do anything. You neglect your friends, your family, your pets and most importantly yourself. It's not bad to have an imagination, it's never the point of this to stop imagining as a whole, it's to stop the unhealthy habits of using it as an escape.
