I was in recovery for 7 years - overcoming my disorder and starting to feel again

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I was in recovery for 7 years - overcoming my disorder and starting to feel again
In this video I wanted to share a bit about my recovery journey after my disorder and how the many years it took taught me a lot. I was so impatient to be 'perfect' and get my life back together, not understanding that it needed to take a long time. I could only gain what I needed to learn by being patient. All negative, self-medicating behaviors have so much in common, and I think we can all take a moment to remember our worth and celebrate how far we've come. Being in this world, being human, can be hard. There will always be someone out there that seems to be in a more difficult circumstance than you, but that doesn't mean you don't deserve help. We help our planet, our community, and strangers alike by healing our own wounds so that we can shine brighter. The way I would describe beginning the journey of healing is 'starting to feel again' - I can't think of a better way to say that - accepting the full range of emotions back into your life, coming to terms with them and working with them without desperately looking for a way out. Sometimes we carry a lot in our hearts, and it's easier to ignore it than address it. By allowing yourself to feel your allow yourself to live a life of discomfort, of putting yourself at emotional risk by being vulnerable, and yet also freeing yourself to completely love yourself and others. It's a rather messy journey, often complicated, but uniquely yours.
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@TheCottageFairy Год назад

This week I wanted to reach far into the past, to honor our individual history. Feels strange, in a way, to speak on a topic that is no longer relevant in my life, but I think that is the very reason I wanted to share. The way I would describe beginning the journey of healing is 'starting to feel again' - I can't think of a better way to say that - accepting the full range of emotions back into your life, coming to terms with them and working with them without desperately looking for a way out. Sometimes we carry a lot in our hearts, and it's easier to ignore it than address it. By allowing yourself to feel you live a life of discomfort, of putting yourself at risk by being vulnerable, and yet also freeing yourself to completely love yourself and others. It's a rather messy journey, often complicated, but uniquely yours. I hope this video offers anyone struggling with any sort of health or behavioral issue to know that they are doing a couragous thing, and asking for help is the bravest thing anyone can do. I know a huge element that temps many of us not to ask for help is this idea: ‘there are so many people facing darker days than I, I should just tough it out and not ask for help, as I have so many blessings and don’t deserve to be struggling.’ In response, I wonder; what if none of us asked for help because there was always someone out there facing a harder day? This competition of who deserves help more would end in the vast majority of people not being able to accept healing, and therefore unable to help others. Unable to help those people also in need. We need to see the worth in healing ourselves in order to heal others, as a whole we cannot thrive if only certain people deserve help. We can be the people who shine their light and uplift and support others, but not without first stepping into our courage and saying yes, a new beginning starts here❤️ Sending my love and well wishes for a beautiful October!

@arianahoule7223 Год назад

Hi, Paola. It takes a lot of courage to come forward and speak your truth. My eldest daughter had anorexia when she was 10 years old. She spent 10 months in several hospitals. It was a long journey. However, she is now "49," and highly successful in business. She also has a beautiful heart and is very wise. Sending love to you, Ariana

@Crownliving Год назад

When did you get out of recovery?

@marialaing7130 Год назад

Thank you! 💝💝💝

@ZanoniSnowflake963 Год назад

It does help. We know we are courageous & we feel deep offering that space to others but they aren't ready which is OK. We see ourselves & finally accept all of us in this 1 body Thank You! Xxxd

@mariarosaleon6708 Год назад

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your life and thoughts with us. It sure helps and inspires me to be more positive about myself and reach out more to those around me ♥️

@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts Год назад

I have been in recovery from drugs and alcohol since 1988 I started at an early age at 13. I thought that was the norm, but it was the underlying problem of never fitting and never felt good enough and alcohol gave me that false bravado; once I put that down, my eating disorder went rampant all through my life; it took years to come to grips with it. I feel that was the hardest one to deal with because you have to eat, and food is not illegal. I am now a 72 year old woman, a widow, and I found my greatest comfort in my life Jesus Christ, as my savior as I worship Him and go to church on Sunday do a daily Bible study and journal. I finally have peace in my life. I just want to share this. Have a blessed day everybody and may God’s grace be bountiful today on you and your family..

@suhasadaf Год назад

Great story grandma. Love from India 🇮🇳

@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts Год назад

@@suhasadaf a day at a time🙏

@alouettedelyvette Год назад

The world is definitely a better place with you in it ❤️

@chantalberube1246 Год назад

Paola, you are touching so many souls. We were many to cry listening to those truth you bring in such a soothing voice. Thank you for you being you.

@elizabethlangley5643 Год назад

Paula, the world is a better place with you in it. I have never had an eating disorder but I do have anxiety and depression that is hard to cope with. Life gets overwhelming, but you bring such calm and for that I truly thank you xx

@emmesun 11 месяцев назад

I found out this video just now. Thank you for sharing your experience. It is an honor to hear it and a gentle and warm hug for who, like myself, I think, are doing a similar journey. It's difficult to express and talk about mind with kindness and grace like you do. In a time where people talk about recovery like a competition with yourself, it's very nice to know someone is making themself more open and vulnerable to also help others to feel less "wrong" to need more time.

@deliaeva Год назад

I was so happy you said that it isn't about living your ideal life or never make mistakes again. I begin to feel, too, that it is about something different. There's so much pressure to live a perfect life, but we should rather appreciate the things that are here, not the things we think should be here. The things we achieved and the things that are given to us. Also, I kind of related to your story in university. Thanks for sharing! ♥️

@jeremynkelley Год назад

You’re far from alone wonderful person 💜☺️ I lived the house party/club life for many years. Your contribution via these videos in immeasurable.

@alysoncarbary2020 Год назад

Loved this video❤️ I couldn’t help but notice the horses, their eyes and are so deep and soulful. They are incredibly healing creatures and perfect to include with your video message. Thank you!

@clairebattersby6340 Год назад

Thank you Paola! My soul needed this! I have been on a similar healing journey from an eating disorder to feeling all emotions and nurturing my body for the last 5 years. I have recently been struggling (which is nothing compared to how I used be) and have been berating myself for it. You have helped me remember how far I’ve come. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, your videos are self care for me.

@mishuislam7409 9 месяцев назад

I always find your videos so comforting. I'm on a healing journey too and this has been inspiring.

@danyriveros1010 Год назад

Thank you for these words that brought so much Light, Love, and Peace into my weary soul. Love you so much!

@rebeccawoolley4088 Год назад

I am always so grateful for your videos. There is such a peace about them, and I can relate to so much that you discuss, even if I haven’t made it to the end result yet. When I met and married my now husband, no one approved. There was so much heartache those first several years, and for someone already struggling with severe social anxiety and depression, it became overwhelming and debilitating for me. Everything that was going on during that time caused me to feel such deep shame towards myself, and who I started perceiving myself as. There is far too much to explain fully here, but suffice it to say that it has been incredibly hard. While I feel I have healed in so many ways, through faith, persistence, and such loving support and gentle kindness from my husband; there still seems to be such a long way to go. But as you say, looking back, there is so much that I can be grateful for. We really do develop strength and wisdom through out difficult times if we whittle away at them slowly. I’m so grateful for my life. For my experiences. And for my amazing husband. They have shaped me into the person I am today. I’m still here.. and at the end of the day, that really is something to be proud of, and grateful for. Thank you again, for all of your insights. Lots of love from New Zealand ❤

@janebaraldi6949 Год назад

So beautiful. That young man on the porch was a messenger ❤️ Messengers are all around 💕

@lizmcauley7169 Год назад

Being around horses is so healing 🤎🤎

@judyt.5702 Год назад

You sound happy. I am happy for you. And your voice is so soothing. Thank you for your vlogs.❤

@juliafthiele Год назад

Dear Paola, Thank you from my heart for this video - you speak out of my soul :) Many Hugs, Julia from Germany

@freehikerxx527 Год назад

Your message is so timely for me. I appreciate the peacefulness of your videos. New subscriber.

@rashmiama3119 Год назад

Yes everything is changing.....change is the only constant. If we beleive that the change is gonna be better.... we still have hope through the darkest days....

@aleksandrapasimisina3799 Год назад

This is one of my favourite videos of yours now! Thank you for your work here. And wow, straightened hair shocked me :D ♡♡♡ lots of love

@tthomas6013 Год назад

Beautifully said....gladly interpreted.💜Blessings💜

@caryinfante8013 Год назад

One of my favorite videos! Every single person can relate to this. Wonderfully stated! Love and blessings to you, your husband, pets, and family. 🙇‍♀️🥰

@wolfman3295 Год назад

Thank you for sharing your story. For me been there done that and more. I have done some coaching mostly for women because men are very impressed with my stories but refuse to open up. I prefer to not use the term disorder but do use the term issue or issues. That just sounds not as, well, clinical. And for you to have been in recovery for 7 years is actually a very short time considering many people can take much longer once the start to get help. Then there are so many others who choose to live in quiet desperation their whole life. So congratulations to you and I hope your sharing will help so many others. You also have the gifts of being so creative and charming and sensitive and warm and lovely.

@jackiecampbell6611 Год назад

Thank you, Paola ❤ I really needed this today.

@seidenschnabelfederflugel5441 Год назад

"You survived your worst days." I'm 10 years into my bpd and ptbs. Sometimes i dont know when its going to end. Or when i will be free of this. I also hope to be the light for others one day. 🕯️💟

@jasminejones6992 Год назад

These videos have helped me so much.

@rachelcharris Год назад

Thank you for this today. 12 years of illness and endless sleepless nights & feeling low so this spoke to me a great deal ❤️

@dianasgarten Год назад

I just want to share with you, I love your videos and it is your channel, why I discovered RU-vid for me. Before I was just watching "How to..." Videos. You are such a lovely person and it is always interest, what you share with us....and...and I usually feel better and relaxed, when I saw one of your videos. A little hello from Germany :-)

@hollytaylor3643 Год назад

I’m sure it wasn’t easy to share your journey but I’m glad you did…it’s all part of the healing process and I’m sure you helped a lot of people with this video. I just want to tell you that I am 64, and look forward to your videos each week. It is a bit of a meditation for me, and I wait until my alone time to watch each one. I live in a small mountain town in Colorado, which I love, and it looks similar to your environment. I am originally from a suburb in the southeast, and your lifestyle helps me embrace the isolated parts of living in a rural area. Thank you for doing what you do. I’m looking forward to your book release.

@maureenmccullough365 Год назад

Beautiful words of wisdom and inspiration, thank you.

@Rjhs001 Год назад

Hi Paola. I'm so sorry you've had such a tough time and so pleased you have found a way through. I think your videos are truly beautiful works of creativity and I think you are a truly beautiful person. I'm interested, during the bad times was the video making a refuge, a balm or was it actively helpful in your recovery? Thanks for all your wonderful content.

@chhavijaswal6342 Год назад

Your words are soo powerful 😇

@sheilak4493 Год назад

Such words of wisdom… God has given you such a gift of encouragement!

@evangeline3152 Год назад

I’m reading the comments and crying over the beautiful people here.

@johncook5391 Год назад

You are so brave in your honesty, the subject of which, we can all relate to, in one way or another. We all must find ways of lessoning mindless exploitation of others. Bravo!

@isabelledetaillefer2726 Год назад

Dr Jordan Peterson always say that life is darn hard, period. But we can accept the challenge to make sense of it and find a way to live a life of meaning. I think you're well on your way in that journey. God bless!

@Amir.7137 Год назад

Feeling very lucky to found your channel 😍😍

@nikolinam.4193 Год назад

You should start a baking/cooking channel or blog! Everything you make always looks super delicious and stylish, I'm sure most of us would like to know the recipe. ♥

@grandmapam Год назад

Your video is movie quality. Wishing you and your husband well, all the joy of life.

@robinmp8300 Год назад

God sent you an angel to encourage you, thats sweet

@disabilityadvoc8 Год назад

"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% -- so that's pretty good." - anonymous ❤️

@jeanette9205 Год назад

Thank you dear one 💜

@anamaria2053 Год назад

Thank you ❤

@phabulouss1 Год назад

It’s not too surprising (for me) to recognize the blessed beauty in the numeric number of seven; and of God’s healing power of mind, soul and body. Exodus 20:11 For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the Seventh day. Therefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.

@ManageYourOwn Год назад

It an on going process ❤

@leannehendrickson376 Год назад

You are A BEAUTIFULL SOUL 💝

@wilmatolentino3068 Год назад

You're story inspires us :)so uplifting

@angiemiller1335 Год назад

Like your acquaintance at University, you speak so wisely for someone so young. The fact that you have gathered 1.11 million subscribers with your channel should validate that the world is definitely a better place with you in it. Your words touch so many people. They touch me. Thank you!

@texasgirl6450 Год назад

Well said. And, I think some things are worth saying.

@anneosullivan4107 Год назад

Well said. 100% agree.

@hilltopvt Год назад

That's what I wanted to say but couldn't.

@sol.azulalado Год назад

She's growing fast! 🧓🏼 🙃

@pinparasol Год назад

I completely agree. Thank you so much, Paola ! Muchas gracias, Paola ! Un grand merci, Paola ! By the way, what a gracious and beautiful name ! In my tiny European country, we had a queen named Paola. Your video's are an absolute delight. You are not only an artist, you are a true teacher.

@JoanLamrack Год назад

It's poetic that 7 years reminds me of a saying that your body actually replaces its cell completely every 7 years. That also symbolize that change and growth is gradual. This video made me look back my life as well. It was not pretty, there's still thing in the past that haunts me, but a lot of them I have come to terms with and I'm in a better place. Sending love as well to you Paula, and here's to another upcoming 7 years! :)

@sallyrice3902 Год назад

This isn’t true but that’s okay 😂❤

@JoanLamrack Год назад

@@sallyrice3902 figured as much :D

@sallyrice3902 Год назад

@@lailalivsdatter549 some cells you are born with and are never replenished.

@Venusbabe66 Год назад

I thought the same thing when I heard Paola say 7 years. There is some truth to it. However, it's not the whole body. Also, the number 7 is regarded as a spiritual number, metaphysically speaking, so there's that too.

@violetstarla Год назад

Please do audio books, children storytelling or a podcast. Your voice is so therapeutic. I literally fall asleep within minutes of listening to you which is miraculous because I have a sleeping disorder. Your subdued tone really cloaks the ambiance in a room like a warm wool blanket in the winter. Thank you for all that you do.

@kaylinworthington Год назад

I so agree!

@biancas2639 Год назад

Yes, my rabbit also always calms down whenever I put this channel on.

@Cassandra1767 Год назад

Have you heard of asmr? I also have a sleeping disorder and it helps so much. You can find videos on here just look up asmr.

@newenglandcoast7121 Год назад

There are 12 hour videos of rain/wind/thunder etc. Imagine a 12 loop of her voice speaking....Anything!😇😇❤❤

@littlefairyland763 Год назад

I am so agree... Love her voice... Calming

@TheMacabreTavern Год назад

I've watched this video a few times, and in a few weeks, I will be 8 years sober. The journey may never end, but congrats! You win battles every day just by waking up.

@coachingforchrist4090 Год назад

congratulations on your sobriety! Peace , strength and love !

@katbarron Год назад

I'm not sure exactly what it is that made me start crying when you started speaking to the camera, but I had this feeling of wanting to hug my younger self, who didn't realize she was an HSP in an overwhelming world of university and socializing, and telling her "It's okay. You didn't know yourself back then, but you do now." There is a feeling of sadness of wondering what my life would have been like if I could have honored the quiet introvert rather than trying to fit into a society that didn't nourish me. I didn't really start understanding myself until my early 30s and I live my life now with so much more awareness & intention and I'm grateful for it. Thank you for this video ❤

@Ann-bq2nc Год назад

Thanks for your sharing. I see myself in it. Im an introvert, i hated that because it was hard for me to join with other pp the way an extrovert did. But now, i changed. I accept myself for what it is. And try to nurish my soul instead. We are unique. So i dont try to be others anymore.

@lynndenault4212 Год назад

HSPs. Learning that I was one changed my life. Wish I had known sooner.

@gracelymartinez Год назад

I feel you. Happened the same to me. Now that I’m in my 40’s I’m more aware of my feelings and understood that I don’t have to be someone else. Your words brought tears to my eyes… I want to hug my younger self♥️

@christydecuir2703 Год назад

My daughter was diagnosed with among other things, social anxiety and panic attacks. For the last 8 years she has been working on this and with much time and many moments of utter frustration and feelings of hopelessness, she has blossomed. She shows such strength and grace. I am so proud of her and how far she has come. She has grown in confidence and I just look in awe sometimes at all the things she has faced and overcome. I may not know what to say to help all the time but I know she is happy just to have someone to listen to her.

@gearoidmacruari2292 Год назад

And you should be proud of yourself too Christy! You are a strong and kind dad! Well done!

@christydecuir2703 Год назад

@@gearoidmacruari2292 I am a Mom😊

@KENTUCKYUSA1 Год назад

Being a witness is a vital role.

@suepumphrey1559 Год назад

My daughter has too. Another of my daughters has had to break contact in order to heal. I find thecottagefairy helped me to see that I too need to heal.

@tanyacurran3588 Год назад

My year anniversary is coming up; attempting suicide. Everyday is a journey indeed. When I saw your horses it brought a smile to me. I ride horses and they truly are my saving grace. Their mere presence brings me peace and joy. I’m so glad I found your RU-vid channel. Thank you for sharing your experiences and past struggles with us.

@kelliehays3482 Год назад

I'm genuinely happy you are here, Tanya. I do not know you, but I am happy you are here.

@darlineroze Год назад

God bless you with so much love within and without ❤️

@allisonburd6935 Год назад

Tanya, I am so glad you have horses in your life. My old mare saves my life ever day! We are blessed. I don't know you, but I am proud of your strength and courage.

@NicholeRojas-r8i Год назад

You're amazing!

@tedpreston4155 Год назад

Tanya, on one of my hardest days, two of our horses stood side by side with me and told me, without language, but in terms that were crystal clear: I was loved. They loved me. They told me so by making me feel it as I wept, while they stood guard over me and gave me encouragement. Animals are far more communicative and thoughtful than we give them credit for.

@marialaing7130 Год назад

Thank you! I see myself in what you describe. I think my tendency towards depression is my form of “disorder”. Through therapy at different times I learned that my life was worth living. It took me a long time. I’m 76 now, have raised two fine sons, one of whom passed at age 40. He, my beloved son, Michael, showed me to live life fully was pure joy! I’ve worked diligently through all the diverse feelings that come with being human. I took myself out of an abusive marriage to raise my two sons as a single mother. It was difficult, scary but rewarding. I wish I could have said and felt what you shared here when I was your age, but alas, it’s taken a lifetime for me to arrive where I am today. I’m deeply sensitive and color and nature fill me with joy. I’ve pre-ordered your book and I know I will be delighted when it arrives. You are beautiful and authentic, and gracious in sharing your journey with us. 💝🤗🥰🙏🏼😍

@priyankagupta258 Год назад

Thanku so much for being here.I read so many Comments nd people here r really so amazing. But I don't know why I'm feeling so connected with you @ Maria Laing . I'm here at age of 26 ,fighting daily from my ownself ,from my depression, behavior, my looks ,failures. I actually don't like myself in these days. But after knowing that there r people like you Maria in the another country of this world who had face so bad but still here standing like mountain nd indirectly messaging me that I can come out from all these worst days. I wish I can connect with you daily....

@priyankagupta258 Год назад

You r a winner...

@tajat866 Год назад

Amazing, Maria, to go through all that and became a kind person you are 💜

@hilltopvt Год назад

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. You sound like a remarkable woman. 💖

@Englishroserebecca Год назад

It’s so hard just being able to be yourself in todays society and culture without the fear of judgement and criticism. That’s what holds us back and stops us from blossoming and being free. It’s only in older age we stop worrying about what others think of us and what we look like.

@kaitlinmeadows6273 Год назад

You have such a beautiful soul forged from all your broken and bruised places, from the pain and anxiety of your journey you have become a compassionate light for others struggling with the dark nights of their spirits. Thank you for stretching out your heart, being brave enough to share your story, always being candid enough to show us that behind the beautiful woman we see here is someone who has struggled and suffered and worked and dedicated themselves to self-healing.

@gearoidmacruari2292 Год назад

Your comment captures perfectly what she is all about, very well written.

@nairbvel Год назад

When it comes to answering how long it will take to heal from trauma, to grieve loss, or to learn how to take care of ourselves, there is only one correct answer: "As long as it takes." I'm 63 years old and there is literally not a single day (some days, a single hour) when I am not absolutely convinced that I absolutely suck at adulting. The weight of everyday life is always a shock to me somehow... but knowing that so many others feel the same way is a source of strength. Thank you for being brave enough to share this with us. "You are not the darkness that you endured. You are the light that refused to surrender." (John Mark Green)

@dingledogful Год назад

I am a few decades younger than you and it's comforting knowing there are others who feel the same things regardless of age or other life experiences. We are all just humans trying to get through life the best way we know how. And maybe it's not about getting rid of the feelings of inadequacy, but instead learning that meaning and beautiful things can exist alongside them. I appreciate you sharing your perspective and the beautiful quote at the end.

@evangeline3152 Год назад

I love that quote and I will hold on to it.

@Rebecca-creates Год назад

A beautiful quote. I need to keep this close. Thank you

@DivineDianne Год назад

wow. This really impacted me in a positive and touching way. Thank you.

@larakaramazova777 Год назад

I still feel the same way and I am older than you. Disciplining our inner voice is very hard, exhausting work. But we are still working at it.

@elainekan1917 Год назад

I cried out after watching this video, it’s so touching. No matter what happened to us, good or bad, it passed. I love you, especially who is now reading this comment. Wishing you all the best.

@justtee1259 Месяц назад

❤

@mariamelazhary233 Год назад

I'm following you from Egypt 🇪🇬 and I'm telling you that I am very proud of you and your words touched me deeply as I am facing a very hard time in my life facing alot of fears and disappointments .. I hope when I watch this video next time to be better and stronger than before ❤️ I love you so much 🥰❤️❤️

@micheledau1294 Год назад

I do not know you and will most likely never meet you. But, it is a joy to know you are alive in the world:)

@vivdoolan6846 Год назад

I cried watching this, resonates so much. Paola it's amazing the number of people you help with your wise words. This isnt a you tube channel, it's a beautiful haven where we also learn more about how we can face life. For someone that finds life terrifying finding you has made everything a little bit easier.

@luisv7117 Год назад

Including myself I learned from her to slow down and live

@angiejennings489 Год назад

Me too! That was your angel!

@lethalcobra3848 Год назад

Much importance is attached to life, don't need to do.

@Jen.R. Год назад

At 39, I am now 3 years into full recovery from anorexia. I have not been fully recovered since I was 10 years old. I had told myself for years after my initial recovery, that I was healthy, but I still used so many disordered habits. My ED has always been about control, and 4 years ago when my life veered paths, I had a full blown relapse. Only through sitting in the discomfort of things not being in my control, have I been able to really work through my issues.

@fantomanimus6401 Год назад

As someone in year 1 of recovery from a 11 year problem I just want to let you know how much i appreciate that you shared the reality of the time it takes to heal.

@luisv7117 Год назад

You will be perfectly fine just keep your hope

@ldyshallott Год назад

I’m on year 5. Every day is a gift, it gets better, I promise. you are not alone ❤.

@bethanythatsme Год назад

Thank you I'm in a difficult yet beautiful part of my self acceptance as an adult with ASD & ADHD. I'd put all of my efforts & energies trying to "right" myself & fit in, that I completely lost myself in the process. I'm in a sort of surfacing from the depths & sometimes I get the bends, but there's light at the surface of the water.

@rachelgreen7729 Год назад

I'm in the same place....xx

@nennepanrikefairytaleart4773 Год назад

Words seem futile sometimes ... When I try to describe how your video makes me feel, I feel limited by words, but I want to say thank you for openly sharing this with us! Sometimes I have gotten to the point where healing has felt impossible, but then you get reminders along the way that it is possible and reachable ... Allowing myself to welcome all feelings has helped me. There is hope!, if we follow the compass of the heart. (It may sound cliché, but I speak from my own experience)

@TheCottageFairy Год назад

Oh! Thank you so much Nenne! I understand, I can’t count the amount of times I wondered “is this my life, I will feel like this forever?” and nearly losing hope. Now I’m amazed that even when I do struggle I think back to all those times and see my strength to keep going, and things worked out ever so slowly. Sending you a huge hug and much love ❤️

@mscatnipper2359 Год назад

When I first embarked on my healing journey decades ago, I compulsively wanted to reach my goal of being an emotionally healthy and competent person ASAP. It was exhausting and, of course, impossible. I instead eventually learned to enjoy walking that winding path instead. Walking or finger following labyrinths was one way that helped me learn to trust the process. Your comment about setting an immediate deadline reminded me of one of my favorite quotes: "Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. It is about learning to dance in the rain."

@destinychild4659 Год назад

What a beautiful quote! I absolutely love it! 😍 I am going to steal it. 😜

@raniaalnafisah4019 Год назад

I watched one of your videos for the very first time back then at one of the most uncertain moments in my life. I shall always be grateful for the wisdom of your heart that has guided me through it all🙏♥️♥️♥️. I am at a better place in my life right now, but your words in this video gave me a moment of reflection to my younger self. A reflective moment to tell her that you survived it all and I am proud of you to walk in the journey of life without regrets and guilt 🙏✨.

@SimplySophieFR Год назад

It's so true. It takes time to recover but then it is lasting. During my childhood and teenage years, it took me years to start to live. Now I am so glad I chose life. I am a mom of 2 wonderful children, I speak 3 languages, I've travelled to many places and I am living many lives in my own. To anyone struggling, try to keep going and start to feel and live...

@ekaterinayakubova2411 Год назад

The comments under your videos are so full of humanity and grace. Thank you for your channel, Paola - you’re really bringing out the best in all of us.

@robertashaffer3950 Год назад

Ohhh Paola...everything you discussed in this video resonates with what I am experiencing right now in my life. The words you have spoken touched me deeply. I have been going through a devastating time in my life; however it is the first time I am facing the emotions and dealing with my situation face on instead of running away or trying to get over my feelings quickly. "What we resist will persist." For anyone reading this, face your fears and difficulties no matter how difficult NOW. The longer you wait, the more baggage you will be carrying. The older you get, the more challenging it is to help yourself. Trust me. I know what I am talking about. It is very doable, because I am doing the work now....but it is extremely intense. I am going to watch your video again Paola. My spirit needs it. I am glad for you that you are feeling better. You are inspiring. 🙏💗🙏

@TexasMike98283 Год назад

You've touched my heart and innermost self. I'm older living in a cottage by the sea...alone. I have struggled mightily with being alone and am finally finding myself and putting this great need of companionship to the side and seeing the joy of a warm fire, beautiful surroundings, baking bread... My need to self medicate is slowly fading to black as I realize they are not needed and I am a better person without. Yes, I found a fellow traveler on this, sometimes weird, sometimes self-destructive adventure we call life. Enjoy your adventure, and thank you. Michael

@13moonslodge Год назад

You have so much wisdom, for such a young age. I am in my 50's and was well in my 40's before I figured out much of what you already have. Know thyself...and that you do! 💕

@Thatlovelylady1 Год назад

This video was such a joy to watch. My personal healing journey has been quite a ride. Healing from childhood trauma, abuse and other things have really made it hard to keep moving but something within me just won’t allow me to give up. I’m happy that you are continuing on in your process and I’m sending you love to keep moving forward. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@andrearobinson7526 Год назад

You truly take the prize (if there was one) in helping people's mental health and inspiring ways to keep going. I've just discovered RU-vid. It has not been in my life, nor is TV or a lot of conventional things. Your videos are always calming to the soul and lifting to the heart. And as an older HSP who's felt so misunderstood or in a form of loneliness for much of life, I feel relatable, validated and grateful for your courageous and generous art. Your authentic Being brings warmth on the coldest of days. Sincerest of Gratitude

@cats2ish Год назад

I think you are beautiful! I can certainly relate to an introverted personality. It has been with me for my entire life. I did not make friends easily and have only 2 great best friends. It is hard for me to open up to someone, much like yourself. I am 65 and married 48 years, but I have always struggled with being able to care for me. The first thing I do is think of what someone else wants. I still struggle with being good enough. I enjoy your videos very much because you have such educating wisdom. Thank you for them .

@italianlifestyle7911 Год назад

Wow .. splendid hair and splendid place with flavorsome food!💚🌄💚

@kgoodrick Год назад

When I was young at university, introverted, asthmatic, with acne vulgaris , I chose to become a psychotherapist. After 15 years i was successful in becoming a happy man with a 45- year marriage, 2 sons, 3 grandchildren. I think your videos would be helpful to many patients. Keep up the good work.

@madelynmc2233 Год назад

You are a breath of fresh air. An Authentic beautiful soul who speaks words to uplift our days. I really love your videos. Thank You!! ❤

@mscatnipper2359 Год назад

What serendipitous timing to hear you say that your healing quickened when you allowed yourself to feel things deeply. It was only a few weeks ago that a RU-vid therapist discussed the importance of allowing and accepting the scary feelings felt during panic attacks, so that you could practice managing those upsetting feelings, rather than running from them. She explained that running away from the stimulus that caused the panic attack merely teaches the nervous system and our fearful brain that the successful coping strategy is to run away. It actually makes things worse, since we end up reinforcing the need to avoid rather than self modulating our negative feelings. I am now going to work more with that method to handle my panic disorder related to claustrophobia.

@victtayl Год назад

Yes! I had therapy for panic attacks and anxiety and as soon as I actually welcomed the sensations of the panic attack and fully accepted it, they dissipated. I haven't had one in 10 years. I used to visualise them washing through me. Coming towards me (while I welcomed it in), though and then past me once it was done. Not trying to stave it off in any way - that only increases the sensations.

@ceresuziel5089 Год назад

Watching this from the bottom of the hole really made me cry, at the same time I am so overwhelmed with a sense of gratitude that you Paola climbed out. On a lighter note, I have been watching your videos for some time and decided to paint my living room walls green... and no it does not look like your marvelous fairy home, it looks greener than Kermit the Frogs b*tthole... I cry a lot. All my good wishes.

@TheCottageFairy Год назад

Ahh!!!! Heheheh 😂😂 Kermit the Frogs butt!!! You got me giggling. I am visualizing an extremely cheerful and uplifting color ❤️ I love green. Thank you for your heartfelt words, I am sending you a big hug. Sending much love on your journey 🙏 keep shining your light

@ceresuziel5089 Год назад

@@TheCottageFairy This made me happy. I knew I could make you laugh. Thank you ❤

@LifewithAlegria Год назад

Your message at 4:32 brought tears to my eyes. Oh dear sweet Paola, what an inspiration you are. Thank you for sharing your personal journey with such authenticity and beauty. You are absolutely right when you say we must embrace all the emotions even the uncomfortable ones. And I love your bartering finds. Thank you for sharing and for choosing life. Much love and light to you. 🌸

@hishandmaiden718 Год назад

Thank you for being patient with yourself, accepting the lengthy recovery process, being open to love after anguish, and for letting us in to witness your healing...

@tajat866 Год назад

I've been dealing with burnout and chronic pain for the last five years. There are better and not so good days, but I try to stay positive, making my little steps forward and enjoying little things in my days. Thanks for this kind and inspirational video 💜

@pamwilliams6630 Год назад

Look at all the people you help now. Amazing!!!

@wanderingpaladin4927 9 месяцев назад

I teared up at this. I’ve been in recovery from PTSD for so, so long and sometimes I feel like giving up on myself. It really helps to know that needing years to get better doesn’t make me weak or hopeless, and that a wonderful person like you went through this too. Thank you for sharing your story, it really means a lot to a fellow sensitive soul like me ❤

@phyllisanngodfrey6137 Год назад

In my 70+ years of living, I have come to some conclusions and gained some wisdom. I learned that I can’t control and fix everything everywhere. I learned that I must choose a life mission that is reasonable and has a chance of succeeding. I must believe in my mission and be steadfast in my work related to it. I prayed and God revealed it to me. I actively accepted it and continued to pray for the grace to perform it. I started small and pursued my mission as my time and multiple responsibilities allowed. Eventually, I retired and my family grew up and became independent as I had raised them to be. With more time I expanded my volunteer work related to my mission. I find that God provides me with everything I need to be successful in my mission. I derive great joy from doing it and feel that I am doing something important and deliberate to make the world a better place, one small mission task at a time. I am healthy, happy and fulfilled and am at peace with everything and everybody in my life and with my God ❤️. I got here by degrees and forgave myself when I couldn’t DO IT ALL. I just did the best I could and still do it one day at a time. 👍🏻

@jnetbeams Год назад

My previous life was a solidly “Type A” workaholic with some rigid expectations. And then I was diagnosed with a chronic illness. Things had to change. I downshifted and felt lost. Hearing you embrace your “slow life” has renewed my faith. My life is so much richer for it.

@vintagelace7076 Год назад

I'm going through a divorce after 17 years of marriage and I was the one who chose to leave the marriage..he was a drinker who through the years had said some very mean words to me so I emotionally pulled away to survive to point I just existed there..he is still saying mean words to me out of anger for ending us. Choosing to love yourself is one of the hardest choices to make sometimes

@KrissiCreates Год назад

As a 65 year young, soon to be Great Grandma, your video dearest Paola, spoke to my heart. A message I have tried to share with so many, but not as eloquently as you, is that the struggles and trials of this life are make us what we are today. I've suffered with many losses of family members all but 1 in my immediate family. I've endured physical pain daily for over 12 years. But I have grown and learned to find peace and rest from it all. I take one day, one hour, one moment at a time now. No sense in worrying about the could of ,would have, should haves. As my wise son tells me, when I apologize for things he endured while I was fighting my own battles with mental health... "Momma don't you realize that it only made me, us, stronger !" Wise words. Love and blessings to you and yours, dearest Paola!!

@alexandralawson9578 Год назад

@Krissi57 I struggle with so much I’m 34 I have a 5 yr old son and he at 5 says mama don’t cry keep going. Your comment made me emotional 🥹

@KrissiCreates Год назад

@@alexandralawson9578 This Grandma is sending you a big hug !! Sending my love and prayers from Kansas 💞❤🙏🏻

@alexandralawson9578 Год назад

@@KrissiCreates ty so much means the world bless your soul have a good day. You always have a friend in Texas

@Angel_HippieCityHealing Год назад

Thank you Paola. My healing journey has spanned well over a decade and will continue. I appreciate you sharing your story and truly believe that we can get through anything if we give ourselves time and love. We really are hardest on ourselves. My motto is bit by bit. No matter what it is, if it can be done, I can do it. Bit by bit. Sending hugs to you and everyone here💕✨

@nikkil764 Год назад

One of the tragedies of this time is too much information. Young people in particular don’t seem to be able to disconnect from all the static. First, turn off the news. What we call news is merely people you don’t know doing awful things to other people you don’t know in places you don’t live. Having all the details of those misdeeds is totally unnecessary and detrimental to your mental health. If something actually happens to someone you do know, your mother will call. Skip the rest.

@bjsimonsingingstudio4014 Год назад

I randomly channel-surfed into this latest video after it had only been online for 10 minutes. And it already had 1 K (1,000) views! It's continually exciting to see how popular you are and how hungry people are for what you have to say. Keep it up - you are touching so many lives! Thank you.

@ilovetobemom Год назад

I want you to know that I have been extremely lonely, have had fibro and chronic fatigue since I was 15, now 62, a newer widow, and your videos are my company and my friend. I thank the Lord you are alive. People like us need you, your beauty, your art, your decorating, your words

@athlene110 Год назад

Thanks for sharing Paola and being vulnerable. Your words touch my heart! 🤗💕

@thedudeabides1 Год назад

Thank you for this wise and kind message. I lost my mother when I was 9 years old. I miss her so much. And I am just now, rather long into adulthood (more than 20 years later), feeling like I am healing slowly from the fears and deep sorrow it introduced into my life. It takes time. But it gets better.

@jennerae Год назад

I love you so much!! I hope you feel better!!♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

@taylorgray3147 Год назад

Thank you so much for sharing this, Paola. You will inspired thousands of people with this beautifully vulnerable video. This message is incredibly necessary--so I thank you again for delivering it so softly

@earthfriendlyvloger Год назад

As someone who struggled with an ED at 17, I found this very helpful. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom ❤️

@seriouslywhatever1031 Год назад

Oh, honey 😭😭😭 all those years in abusive relationships and behaviours... I'm so glad you're still with us. Please stay as long as you can, as happy as you can be

@poorbaroy4883 Год назад

"Words have the power to heal a soul" and you are the beautiful spirit I know who can do so♥ Thank you paola for nourishing my heart and soul with your kind and calm words several times 🌼🌱