how I thrive when life is too much - overcoming crippling anxiety one day at a time (a gentle story)

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how I thrive when life is too much - overcoming crippling anxiety one day at a time (a gentle story)
I am still working on managing anxiety that started at a very young age due to series of challenging events, but I have greatly improved since finding myself at a particular low point where I was not able to follow my normal daily routines, and felt like my world was getting smaller and smaller. Sometimes I would not be able to stop shaking for hours, and it was exhausting and scary. I started to despair, and I mean that is the fullest sense of the word. That is not a safe place to be, and I wish I had taken preventative measures and sought support far before I needed to. I now, slowly but steadily, have continued to flourish despite this - and while I could not possibly incorporate all the detailed methods I use in one short video, I hope this can simply be encouragement - not advice - on your own journey.
Here are several resources or practices that I found extremely helpful:
- Firstly, that spending time in the company of your own thoughts can be upsetting at first, especially when we are afraid or avoidant, but over time - this quiet place can transform into a haven. At least, it did for me, and perhaps it is worth trying to spend a little time each day in this way and see if it helps.
- my favorite talk on anxiety • How to stop feeling an...
- accepting that we all have limitations on our time. I myself am often consumed with work and family. What ‘slowing down’ means is different for everyone. It’s all about working within our limitations ❤
- Overcoming Panic Attacks: • Overcoming Panic Attac...
- The Highly Sensitive Person: amzn.to/3Wd5lUA
- Being Peace by Thich Nhat Han (even if you don’t share the writers religion, I think it can still be extremely beneficial to read his mindfulness advice): amzn.to/3w5EzD4
- Journaling each day/art therapy if you are so inclined
- Researching how the brain is able to re-build and re-wire itself, realizing that anxiety can be managed and brought back to appropriate levels through patience and consistency. You can do things to help, and you are not without power.
- Acceptance that any healing journey will take an unknown amount of time, and you cannot rush this process.
- of course, seeking medical support and therapy if you are able!
- Building a spiritual practice, or at least a relaxation routine if you are not a spiritual person.
- Remembering that news outlets and social media work on an algorithm that is designed to respond to audience interaction, this explains why highly controversial and upsetting content often is at the forefront, when more positive and/or less bias news can easily go unnoticed. I find it very important to balance difficult information with hopeful and positive coverage of amazing things happening in our world. It takes a bit of extra research to find this information, but so beneficial to me. Simply look up positive news stories on the environment, community projects, etc.
- lastly, I cannot stress enough how important it is to tackle unhealthy levels of anxiety ASAP. Take it from someone who ignored it for years and made constant excuses to avoid it. It will not go away, and it can greatly damage your health until you begin to treat it. At least, it did for me and this video is my attempt to help others be pro-active and practice self-care before crisis 🙏
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@cattuslavandula Год назад

The best thing I did for myself as a young person was to get rid of the tv. My first time living alone was in the late 1980s so there was no internet. I had a radio for weather reports and daily news updates, and a stereo system for music. Most of the day there was no noise. The ability to enjoy the silence was more healing than I could have imagined.

@ellen823ful Год назад

Love ❤️ that!

@plateitsimple Год назад

I still don’t watch tv . I don’t like that noise .

@thewanderer1139 Год назад

Now Tv is a cesspool

@ltodd6184 Год назад

When my boyfriend went to Nebraska for 13 days- I didn't turn on the TV once untill the 6th day. I didn't even have the stereo or my music on. To be alone and focus on my own goals in silence was a wonderful and needed reprieve!

@JaniceCampbell Год назад

I grew up without a tv and have never had one. I’ve never quite understood how people could bear the artificiality and banality of all that noise. I’ve found that the internet can become just as stressful if not limited, but this channel is lovely, and always moves me back to a more peaceful place.🦋

@TheCottageFairy Год назад

I am still working on managing anxiety that started at a very young age due to series of challenging events, but I have greatly improved since finding myself at a particular low point where I was not able to follow my normal daily routines, and felt like my world was getting smaller and smaller. Sometimes I would not be able to stop shaking for hours, and it was exhausting and scary. I started to despair, and I mean that is the fullest sense of the word. That is not a safe place to be, and I wish I had taken preventative measures and sought support far before I needed to. I now, slowly but steadily, have continued to flourish despite this - and while I could not possibly incorporate all the detailed methods I use in one short video, I hope this can simply be encouragement - not advice - on your own journey. Here are several resources or practices that I found extremely helpful: - Firstly, that spending time in the company of your own thoughts can be upsetting at first, especially when we are afraid or avoidant, but over time - this quiet place can transform into a haven. At least, it did for me, and perhaps it is worth trying to spend a little time each day in this way and see if it helps. - My favorite Ted talk on anxiety: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ZidGozDhOjg.html - accepting that we all have limitations on our time. I myself am often consumed with work and family. What ‘slowing down’ means is different for everyone. It’s all about working within our limitations ❤ - Overcoming Panic Attacks: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dezfhA7Yh6k.html - The Highly Sensitive Person: amzn.to/3Wd5lUA - Being Peace by Thich Nhat Han (even if you don’t share the writers religion, I think it can still be extremely beneficial to read his mindfulness advice): amzn.to/3w5EzD4 - Journaling each day/art therapy if you are so inclined - Researching how the brain is able to re-build and re-wire itself, realizing that anxiety can be managed and brought back to appropriate levels through patience and consistency. You can do things to help, and you are not without power. - Acceptance that any healing journey will take an unknown amount of time, and you cannot rush this process. - of course, seeking medical support and therapy if you are able! - Building a spiritual practice, or at least a relaxation routine if you are not a spiritual person. - Remembering that news outlets and social media work on an algorithm that is designed to respond to audience interaction, this explains why highly controversial and upsetting content often is at the forefront, when more positive and/or less bias news can easily go unnoticed. I find it very important to balance difficult information with hopeful and positive coverage of amazing things happening in our world. It takes a bit of extra research to find this information, but so beneficial to me. Simply look up positive news stories on the environment, community projects, etc. - lastly, I cannot stress enough how important it is to tackle unhealthy levels of anxiety ASAP. Take it from someone who ignored it for years and made constant excuses to avoid it. It will not go away, and it can greatly damage your health until you begin to treat it. At least, it did for me and this video is my attempt to help others be pro-active and practice self-care before crisis 🙏 I do not expect that any of these things will be helpful to everyone, I really don’t know what your journey will entail, so I hope this video can offer some ideas and support as you continue to build your ideal daily experience. Sending much love, I assumed this was a video that wouldn’t be of interest to that many, but I felt it was important to share and offer some support to others who have found themselves despairing at times.

@OlgaPogozheva Год назад

Thank you. I'm under huge stress right now (war, kids, their health, uncertainty, whether or not we should flee, work, domestic affairs, all at once). I haven't been under such stress for years. And I wish I had the time to take in things slowly? To slow down? But I can't. At least I'm calm when I watch your videos. Thank you, Paola!

@TheCottageFairy Год назад

@Nupur thank you so much ❤ I’m so glad to hear that. Sending a big hug

@TheCottageFairy Год назад

@@OlgaPogozheva sending much love and wishes for your safety, it sounds so scary - thank you for your kind words ❤

@counteldamar5135 Год назад

Solidarity. I suffer from anxiety and into my second month of work ill. It's horrible. Finding it difficult. Christmas was awful. but I know it will subside like a high tide eventually.

@prairiefaerie Год назад

Thank you so much for this. I relate to your experience in many ways. p.s. I’m looking forward to when you have the prints on Etsy because I absolutely adore that poem so far. Sending love!

@lisasvlogs22 Год назад

I broke down in tears when you read the poem “I am the guardian of the fairy folk”. My mother passed away recently and not a day goes by without me thinking about her. And when you said “be patient oh sweet child and let your light guide you”, I felt my mother is speaking those words to me.

@Sandy-zr5hs Год назад

Bless you 💝 sending a hug to you my friend x

@rrhines3151 Год назад

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔🕊️

@melissaoleary8196 Год назад

❤️💕❤️

@lisasvlogs22 Год назад

@@Sandy-zr5hs Thank you Sandy!

@lisasvlogs22 Год назад

@@rrhines3151 Thank you!

@tiffanysnyder8673 Год назад

Paola....I struggle with severe anxiety and depression. It can be so debilitating and exhausting living in a constant state of fight or flight every single day. I listen to your videos.....and for that moment, I feel a huge sense of peace and safety. Your calming nature, your calming voice is so helpful. I thank you, Paola, for your videos each week. I know that I am not alone.

@WandererOfWorlds Год назад

Absolutely not alone, Tiffany…. With love from Mexico!

@tiffanysnyder8673 Год назад

@Defiantly Ageless ....thank you, but I feel very alone 😔

@moonglow7303 Год назад

I recently came across a video. It helped, by kathyrn krick. She actually has the ability to remove this awful condition I suffered in the eves since 29. I'm 56 now.

@tiffanysnyder8673 Год назад

@@moonglow7303 ....is this video on RU-vid?

@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 Год назад

i think since you are a woman, there is a higher chance of anxiety gripping you. there is a psychological aspect to this: women are aware of being the physically weaker sex and often times this causes significant distress in a world which has been torn apart from a community point of view. something which i have seen help other women around me is to join or be part of a community where there is no expectations but to simply be - often in the past it would be when women would go together to pick flowers or wash in the river. hope that alleviates some of the pain.

@Avelithe Год назад

I used to be surrounded by nature during my childhood. I had the pleasure of spending time with farm animals, and roaming the country side for years. I don’t live in the rural area any more, but my heart constantly aches for it. Watching your videos helps keep me grounded and remember those days fondly. Maybe one day, I’ll return to nature.

@isabeedemski3635 Год назад

Please visit us country folk! We are glad to see you return! Even for a visit!

@micheledau1294 Год назад

This is also my experience. It is deeply missed.

@amaliachifa3495 Год назад

Same here♥️ I yearn for a quiet place in nature. This reminds me of my childhood 💫🙏✨️

@brog6985 Год назад

Yes, I am the same as well. 🌿🍃

@kimperez147 Год назад

I love being out in nature. It helps me mentally. I take it all in the sounds, smells and sights. I learned this in my teens and am happy it was a good lesson to learn. I love the poems you started to write.

@jillychandler Год назад

I have not been out in the world since January 2020. Due to things happening in my life, my world has become smaller and smaller. I live in an isolated place, in rural Devon, but I love that. I sold my car, because I could not go out in it. So I order everything on line. I am so lucky to have my rescue greyhound dog Madge, as she is the only reason I go out, to walk her. There can be many days when I do not speak to another human being, but I do not mind this. It is lovely though to chat to someone, if I meet them walking Madge. I love watching your calm videos, and even though you are so young, and I am 66 years young, I can understand everything you are saying, and you are an angel, with a heart of gold. Such a beautiful young woman too. I live each day as it comes, and do not know how I can start to get out in the world again? Maybe I do not want to, or need to. I am a pottery painter, and love all arts and crafts, but have not felt like doing any of it lately. Maybe I shall feel better, and start slowly doing something arty crafty. Just have to take each day as it comes. I am so thankful for what I have though. Love and Blessings to you from Devon, England. xxx

@margaretohara7250 Год назад

There is a beautiful song called "One. day at a time". I find it to be very uplifting so perhaps you will too. Blessings.

@cynthiagawin2991 Год назад

Get to know Jesus, He is a wonderful companion. Invite Him in your life. He knows everything about you and loves you!

@mokosh572 Год назад

@jillychandler I am living the same life as you. I have my two little rescue dogs and walk them and meet other dog owners, chat a little but that is enough. I am 69 and still contemplating if I need more people in my life.

@jillychandler Год назад

@@mokosh572 Bless you for replying. Sasha, it is the feeling that no other human cares about me that I find the worst - but I do believe in the spirits guiding me. I would rather be on my own, than with someone I was not happy with though! Life is such a balancing act, is it not? Lovely to have your two little rescue dogs, at least they get us out into nature. Blessings to you. xxx

@mokosh572 Год назад

@@jillychandler Thank you for replying. A balancing act indeed! I wish to believe that the wondrous nature spirits are guiding me. Until now they did, they care for me. Have a wondrous day, Jilly.

@aseekersjournal Год назад

I really hope everyone in the comments is able to see how similar all of our struggles are - none of us is alone in this and it's so beautiful to see that this place is where we come together to find and share a bit of consolation and strength. Sending some really good vibes into the comment section!

@starryvonne1188 Год назад

Right, but also good to observe they are all in their head so much...try to get out of self...volunteer, help others, work at a food shelf, help children who are starving, talk to lonely, be a friend to a person in a home for abused women, or search volunteer jobs in newspaper. Way too many on here think of self only which can be debilitating. Opening doors to help others helps ONESELF.

@aseekersjournal Год назад

@@starryvonne1188 That's true, to some extent. I can only speak for myself but being out in the world and doing things that are considered meaningful doesn't always do the trick. Some of us are still alienated by the world, no matter how much they are involved, and a retreat, if only for a while, is the only way to deal with it. But yes, we should always try to stay in touch with the world in the most meaningful way possible.

@starryvonne1188 Год назад

@@aseekersjournal So true. We are humans born to connect with others. A retreat is great...maybe working at a retreat could help...I worked at Shangri La in Bonita Springs, Florida and the experience was wonderful.

@KrystelWarriorThroughJesus Год назад

Yes indeed. ❤️❤️❤️

@KrystelWarriorThroughJesus Год назад

@@starryvonne1188 ❤️❤️❤️you are right. I feel same.

@kellyokeefe7290 Год назад

I cried watching this. One, because I have debilitating anxiety . I had a very toxic job that I finally quit in September and I’ve felt lost and scared ever since. I just want a job that isn’t too stressful that can support me. I’m terrified of change and I judge myself a lot. My bedroom is where I feel the most safe. And two, you seem so full of peace, it’s hard to believe that you struggle with anxiety too. I’ve realized that I can’t spend much time on social media but these are the times that I am grateful for it. When I stumble across videos like this. Thank you so much for sharing your feelings with us. It makes me feel a little less alone💜

@Meow-nz7lz Год назад

I hope you will find the best job and it makes you happy ❤ Amen

@kellyokeefe7290 Год назад

@@Meow-nz7lz Thank you so much🥹 That means a lot💜

@ginamarieofficial Год назад

Your comment made ME emotion, lovely 🥺 I was exactly where you were job wise.. still anxiety wise but please do know? That it gets better. As cliche as it sounds, you will look back very soon smiling at the new job you’re in , and how it supports you in ways you have prayed for. Keep envisioning what you want and let your heart guide you forward. Slow and steady, if you must. There’s no pressure! I wish you all the best beautiful soul ❤

@kellyokeefe7290 Год назад

@@ginamarieofficial 🥹🥹🥹 thank you so so much for the lovely comment, friend💜

@malenar1587 Год назад

Sending you love❤

@THEMAX00000 Год назад

My mother died just over three months ago. She is the only person in my entire life who Loved me unconditionally. I find myself crippled with my grief and anxiety. Thank you for sharing this with us.

@carolyn683 Год назад

I lost my Mother in November. Even though I still have a husband and children, I realized that my Mom loved me the most. It's hard to lose that unconditional love..

@LB-ku6ry Год назад

I’m sorry for your loss. May God bless you with everything you need. I pray you feel better soon.

@yuj-towardsunion7606 Год назад

Sending hugs dear..🤗🤗🤗

@Ashley-hp2vn Год назад

@Laila Livsdatter yes because the love never dies.

@katamick8541 Год назад

Hugs to you.

@Amyjwashere Год назад

As someone with anxiety, it is chilling to hear someone else's experience, because yes, I do have all these feelings too. I pray for both of us, that we may find peace in day to day living.

@Sharon_K Год назад

My dogs love your calm demeanor. They actually both turned their heads at the same time when they heard your voice, and watched with me. 😊

@sarahd1706 Год назад

🥰

@biancas2639 Год назад

Same with my rabbit.

@leannsmreker3201 Год назад

I have had horrible anxiety since my divorce due to domestic violence and stalking. I always try to be home before dark. I recently rescued another German Shepherd and they are very protective. For years I neglected my home and my person. I just worked and came home. I truly enjoy your channel and the sense of normalcy that it brings.

@littlefairyland763 Год назад

Hope everything okay for you now. And can make your house as a safe comfy home

@sucedeu Год назад

It's amazing how so many people all over are relatable to you on a very personal level. I went through that as well. I don't know how to overcome my fears and self doubt. I am terrified of the world around me.

@lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment Год назад

Absolutely exquisite. For me this video was a Meditation. The music. The imagery. The candles. The art. The Poetry. It has been said that poetry is the truest artform. Even the creaky chair added its soft voice to the magic of this video. Thank you, Paola. Beautiful work of art in twelve minutes and forty six seconds.

@Elizabeth-arb22 Год назад

Beautifully expressed, lifeisagift! I completely agree. Thank you from me too, Paola.

@lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment Год назад

@@Elizabeth-arb22 Thank you. Wishing you a beautiful day. 🌹

@larsturner310 Год назад

Love the creaky chair.

@lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment Год назад

"Don't die, before death". Very wise words. I have seen many who have done just that. Life is beautiful. Life is precious. Life is a gift. Cherish every moment. Namasté. 🌹

@kerenvalentin7082 Год назад

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse for many years, it was very difficult finding my peace, and being release from anxiety to see hope. Even now I am learning how to move forward. Your videos make me wonder what I could have been. Young people, continue to learn and grow, keep working on you and find peace. With time, like Paula you will blossom and become stronger. Never give up!!

@kerenvalentin7082 Год назад

@Laila Livsdatter Thank you Laila, I will do my best as I start to take steps towards my dreams.

@jukes243 Год назад

I end my day with talking to my Creator. The One Who knows me best. Only He can calm my fears and anxiety. Your poems are lovely, Paola. Thank you for sharing them with us.

@cherylwebb8340 Год назад

Amen. Psalm 23 🐑

@yawenj3185 Год назад

Amen!

@Mary-sd6bo Год назад

Yes, prayer is what helps me and my faith in God has strengthened me. It's hard to put in words, the experience of slowly coming out of the fog. I started with anxiety when my husband almost died from a heart attack. My whole world rocked and it felt like the bottom dropped out. That was 11 years ago. I couldn't save myself from this, only God can bring us through ...Psalm 23.

@maya-uz4wc Год назад

She*

@healingwithines Год назад

Like you, I have chronic anxiety. I experienced a lot of childhood trauma and I have complex PTSD (I've done a lot of healing, but I don't think it ever completely goes away). Like you, I find that allowing ourselves to be bored is VERY healing. Our anxiety wants us to be doing things all the time so that we are not confronted with our feelings, but the truth is, that only creats more anxiety. It's like sweeping the dirt under the rag-you may pretend it's not there but it is! Allowing yourself to be bored, by simply BEING and not doing anything for a few minutes, is so healing. And I find that, in the end, this contemplative practice is the opposite of boring. It brings so much joy. Journaling, Nature and spirituality help a lot, too. 💚 By the way, you're living my dream life. One day I will also live in a cottage in the countryside. 🥰🍀

@conorhale1269 Год назад

This video felt like a gentle hand on the shoulder. We’re not wrong for how we feel; the anxious may find a way to live that is artful, beautiful, and thriving. All of us have to be as we truly are. If we love and aspire to something, we may reach it, in our own way. Little acts of bravery are no less brave than great ones.

@deewise552 Год назад

I first encountered anxiety in the 5th grade when we moved to a small town where, being an Army brat, I was an outsider. How I dreaded waking up on a school morning, facing another day of taunts & rejection. Only the Mexican girls accepted me because they faced the same disrespect & understood. Throughout my school years I was confident academically but socially immature. I found solace in nature & my pets & a few friends who lived on the fringe like I did. I fully understand your need to retreat into the woods and fields. No need to ask for forgiveness or acceptance from a world where diversity lives in harmony.

@shigella63 Год назад

The world needs people like Paola to balance out the linear, logical people. I know which kind I would rather spend hours with.

@Sun.Shine- Год назад

I am currently in burn out fatigue phase with extreme depression (so i took up the hobby of cross stitching, it's satisying and put my mind at ease). But i watch you videos and imagine myself in the serenity and peace of your surroundings, picture it as my heaven, like an indie movie reel. Stay strong Paola & lots of love, from India ❤️

@baileyjones7570 Год назад

I have recently started keeping a journal and have been surprised at my ability to keep up with it. I have tried keeping a journal before but I think the problem was that I unconsciously told myself that I had to write out my deepest most meaningful thoughts, that just writing about my day wasn't "important" enough to write down. But now I'm finding that writing down something as simple as "Took a walk---beautiful weather" can lead to a natural, instead of forced, reflection on myself and my life. I want to write more after that because I don't feel like I have to. That way I can take it day by day instead of analyzing my entire life decisions up to that point! Don't know if anyone has the same struggle, but there's my two cents because it really does help to write things down. ❤

@sarahk802 Год назад

I was able to recover from panic disorder and agoraphobia by practicing visualization and meditation practices. I think anxiety is a consequence of being a highly sensitive empath in a chaotic world that is full of anger, tension, busyness, and fear. Glad you are able to cope by taking breaks from the world for reflection, peace, and introspection. You might like the poems of naturalists like Emily Dickinson, Robert Frost, or Mary Oliver. Your art is beautiful!

@lindakovacs7904 Год назад

Your depictions of the creatures you paint are simply beautiful and your poetry does match them equally and your inner wisdom and beauty are a mixture of all.

@Kate42 Год назад

I have anxiety as well and when your channel comes up and you begin to speak and share your life with us I instantly start to feel that calming effect that you have within you. You have such a lovely persona and way about you that is truly healing. When you shared your poems with us it made me think of what wonderful children's books or even a book of poetry you could write someday I think that you have the gift of doing this and I hope someday that you do. You are a very gifted and talented young woman.

@Elizabetha2514 Год назад

She has a gift for transferring peace to others.

@susanhunter1164 Год назад

I too once suffered anxiety and thru medicine and self recognition have over come it. There is a light at the end of a tunnel. I absolutely love your art works and poetry!!!!!

@connie6545 Год назад

Thank you for your words of encouragement this morning! This is the hardest season of all for me. After all of the stress, sugars and salt are put away until next year (along with the unrealistic expectations), I find myself pretty low and emotionally exhausted. Then, I will pile on OWN "woulda, shoulda, coulda" items, too! The long days of winter are especially hard (and cold) for me in the inland northwest. My creativity is a double-edged sword. It helps to sharpen my creativity, and curiosity. And yet, it can take me down a deep "rabbit hole" that seems suffocating at times. By fighting back, I exhaust myself and just keep perpetuating THAT cycle. So, I have designated the month of January the "take care of ME" month. I burn candles, read a book, use lotions and creams to help soothe dry, winter hands and eat citrus that I call "little balls of golden sunshine". I just LOVE the little terrarium you made. It helps to add not only some whimsy, but also creates its own little habitat.

@rushingwindmountain Год назад

It is and can be very depressing in winter in the PNW. I find my love of nature and the outdoor helps to keep me sane.

@connie6545 Год назад

@@rushingwindmountain Absolutely! After the holidays, the dark and dreary weather CAN roll over anyone. I am a nature photographer, and it helps me see the world a little better.

@sapphicwillterdusque6541 Год назад

I really relate to the phrase "life is too much." having been diagnosed with DID two years ago, and having lived with it most of my life - I constantly feel overwhelmed by my own mind. I feel lost and without tools to make my life what it should be. I never have enough income, being severely mentally and physically disabled. I finally accepted that I need help, and I am going to be hospitalized for my mental illness in a week or so. After that I will begin the process of applying for low income housing, and getting a lawyer so I can get disability payment. I've tried being "independent." but my life is more valuable than a vague capitalistic sense of productivity. Sometimes you can't help yourself. Sometimes you need to take the assistance you can get from numerous programs and nonprofits in existence which are designed to help you.

@cathyberry9793 Год назад

What lovely poems you have written. Thank you for sharing with us - and the stars!

@Verbsdescribeus Год назад

Art is a pure therapy. Congratulations with your creative passions!

@malissahyatt2425 Год назад

I use writing. Turning current events into my own narratives helps.

@chulangaaverilhettiarachch3267 Год назад

To the person reading this: Even though I don’t know you, I wish you the best of what life has to offer ❤

@krystians. Год назад

❤❤

@morganniciomhair8284 Год назад

❤THANK YOU I WISH YOU WELL THAT IS A KIND THOUGHT ON A ROUGH DAY❤

@kellyhawes9293 Год назад

"Be patient sweet child, and let your light guide you" How beautiful, like a warm breath on a cold cheek. It should be your mantra. Let the beauty of the outdoors, the green warmth of your plants bring you peace sweet one❤

@yarlettegebarowski5995 Год назад

Your poems and art are beautiful. I always feel so calm and relaxed after watching any of your video’s. You are a very special young woman. Thank you for sharing this with everyone.

@juliaalsirt9951 Год назад

Yesterday I found a fabulous terrarium container at an antique store and brought it home. All morning I've been trying to imagine how I will fill it! And then...there you were crafting one of your own! Thanks for the absolutely perfect inspiration that I needed on a cold and rainy day! Can't wait to get started!

@katem3961 Год назад

Thank you Paola, your videos are just so breathtakingly beautiful. Your home is such a peaceful, beautiful reflection of you. I live in the city now but my house has a huge park adjoining my backyard with an open Gothic looking retaining wall and wrought-iron fence, it's beautiful. Everyday and evening a multitude of different birds come to my garden to feed on wild bird seed. Ducks of various breeds; doves; bronzewing pigeons; ibis; corellas; galahs; willy wagtails and crows. It is my absolute favourite thing each day. My little chihauhau has grown used to them all and them of her, so cute to watch her wander through them and most totally ignore her 😍 She is such a good girl and very quiet like myself. Your words, poetry and artwork are so calming. Thank you, you are truly a gift to this world. Much 💗 from Australia 😌

@bunnyemartins7756 Год назад

This came at a perfect time. Lately, my anxiety has been paralyzing. Thank you.

@SFlaidlaw101 Год назад

Just watching your videos calms my anxiety ❤❤❤ The added tips on how to calm anxiety are even more helpful.

@dee-deetaylor219 Год назад

I’d love to see these current animal paintings and their respective poems made into a book. 💚💚💚

@Elizabetha2514 Год назад

I want to straight up buy them now!!!

@dee-deetaylor219 Год назад

@@Elizabetha2514 🧡

@JeffJensen55 Год назад

Wonderful idea!! ❤️❤️❤️

@elizabethlinehan2576 Год назад

I'd buy it

@carobeci Год назад

As someone who also has full-body anxiety, to the point that I often wake up at night feeling like ants are crawling along my body, this was a much needed video. Thank you for always sharing words of wisdom. (And thank you for adding the Spanish subtitles again! My mom loves your videos, but isn't fluent in English, so she's always thrilled when she can follow along with subtitles.)

@theramblingrose_ Год назад

I'm reminded of the Italian phrase 'Dolce Far Niente' - the sweetness of doing nothing. I try to practice this often too. And I love your poems, both are enchanting.

@deliaeva Год назад

Your videos always calm me down. I feel so tired the last days and longing to be just in nature, without distractions. Not having so much input, but creating something by listening to my thoughts and feelings. 🌙♥️

@joanl3115 Год назад

Your painting and poems are quite inspiring. Thank you for sharing your work, your heart, and your way of finding peacefulness.

@zibobpompon5768 Год назад

C'est étonnant de voir qu'une fille aussi anxieuse réalise des choses qui inspire la tranquilité le calme et la sérénité ,c'est vraiment une oasis de paix que de regarder et écouter ses petites vidéos pleines d'inspirations .

@missannettep6796 Год назад

Oui, je suis d'accord. Pour moi, beaacoups de livres, la paix des livres, la nature, les jolies poupees. Pas d'accents ici. J'aore la video ice.

@SandKeats Год назад

Tout à fait, et le montage est pas mal réalisé en plus...

@mercx007 Год назад

J'ai tombé sur cette chaîne en cherchant un méthode pour me mettre à l'aise. Je suis pas content dans ma vie mais cette femme (je dirais plutôt cette ange) me met à l'aise avec ses mots

@Elizabetha2514 Год назад

Pour moi, aussi

@missannettep6796 Год назад

@@mercx007 Cette 'ange,' oui, elle s'appelle Paola @ la jeune femme ici, The Cottage Fairy. La video es tres bon. J'adore. D'accord, MM.

@LindsayMach Год назад

I never struggled with anxiety until this past August. I developed tinnitus and all my normal coping strategies were lost- seeking quiet, rest, nature… I now experienced all these no longer as silence and peace, but environments that made the noise in my ears all the more noticeable. It was an intense 3 months of crippling anxiety. I’ve since gotten more used to the noise being there, and other background noises I’ve started playing and getting used to. The anxiety is better, but I still so desperately miss the silence in my own head. Gardening was a big help!

@maureentillie5671 Год назад

I also suffer from tinnitus and take lipo flavanols, really helps.

@cindyurban150 Год назад

I've had tinnitus for several years now,it in the beginning I thought , how can I live like this ? But we are not alone,many people have it. You will adjust to it. My best to you.

@hhl2296 Год назад

As someone who is also prone to anxiety, I want to say how much I appreciate your channel. I love the videography, your paintings, your poems. I am also grateful for this YT community. Reading other viewers' comments reassure me that I am not alone. Thank you so, so much for all you do! (I am now curious about creating a terrarium!)

@MNP208 Год назад

Negative news and social media stories are the greatest causes of anxiety today. We are allowing them to create a worldwide epidemic.

@nicolemurphy2629 Год назад

Don’t watch! If no one watches they’ll be forced to replace it with the good news that people actually want.

@Thepotagerscottage Год назад

Kia Ora Paola from New Zealand! Thank you for sharing your story with us. I too suffer from anxiety and I also suffer from fibromyalgia. I think taking time to slow down and focusing on a project is very healing and calming. My slowing down spending time in my garden and listening to the cicadas, the birds, the water fountain in my pond and the frogs that have arrived in my pond this summer. Your poems are coming along beautifully ❤️💕💜🌸🧚🧚‍♂️🦄.

@inaku2703 Год назад

nutrition and detoxification according to anthony williams and meditation according to dr. joe dispenca, love from austria😇

@-blackcherry3918 Год назад

@@inaku2703 exactly check out medical medium

@zahreenasimone7303 7 месяцев назад

You are such a gem-sweet and sincere. I'm learning a lot from you even though I am way older. Thank you. We all appreciate your honest candor. 💜

@ciarascraftingtable Год назад

Yes, the panic and anxiety shakes are the worst feeling :( I’m so sorry this happened to you as well!

@nancylang4294 Год назад

I have extreme anxiety. You help so much.

@dancingledge1 Год назад

I'm a poet too Paola. And your poems are beautiful! Don't change any of the language...evocative and enchanting gems!

@asmabenaoum427 Год назад

how can I get in touch with you? I'm a writer too

@dmblin13 Год назад

Thank you for being so transparent to your audience about your struggles as well as your strength. I never experienced anxiety until a few years ago, in my early forties! Thanks to a wonderful therapist and supportive husband and children, I am learning what tools work for me to manage my anxiety. Part of my anxiety has been from a rapid decline in my hearing. So when I’m not watching videos, or music with headphones, I live in total silence. Like you I have a hard time being in that silence with my own thoughts. I want everyone to know anxiety and mental health changes can happen at any age. Thank you for speaking up, it is helping so many like myself.

@Everyday.homemaking Год назад

I am 35 and currently struggling with debilitating anxiety. Beautiful video ❤

@senanpol6980 Год назад

Hi Paola, I have just had to end things with my partner / best friend and I just wanted to say thank you for your relaxing words in these difficult and sad times for me

@dod2304 Год назад

Sending hugs and a gentle reminder...remember these emotions are only temporary. Hurrah for you; ending a relationship that was wrong, maybe even toxic for you. Of course there is sadness. But, you are making space for the beautiful relationship of equals to come. Many Blessings to you.❣

@dod2304 Год назад

Thank you once again dear Paola. Every time I sit down to watch one of your video offerings, within the first minute or two I find myself taking a deep breath and my whole body relaxes. Each one is an oasis in a day full of "shoulds" and "have to's. I thank you with my whole heart. ❣Darcy

@susanwilliams1575 Год назад

Thank you for being such a calming soul. You probably can’t imagine how many people you are helping. You are an inspiration and promise.

@flowergirl7260 Год назад

I'm glad you spoke of mindful walking, instead of vigorously working-out, which is exhausting for me. I find this, along with poetry-writing and journaling to be soothing. Thanks Paola, for the validation for sensitive people.

@nursejill1474 Год назад

Seems many people, including myself, who have anxiety, depression, panic, are artistic, creative, musical. Our brains must just work differently. I watched the RU-vid video you recommended. How I suffer. Thank you for talking openly about these issues that most try to hide.

@eg348 Год назад

You are such a beautiful, authentic, loving and gentle soul. Your contributions to the world through your various forms of art and self expression are gifts and truly valuable. I hope you create a children's book, as it would without doubt contain the very essence of magic that childhoods are meant to be filled with. Love and gratitude to you, for being here, for doing what you do and for being a real blessing in this world 🙏💛💛💛🌼🌺🌼🌺🌼🌺🌱🌱🌱🌱🌿🌿🌿🌿🌳🌳🌳🌳

@gilltaber2187 Год назад

Having had a poor month, this video was very close to my heart . I am working on myself and after 30+ years of looking after everyone else I am finding it very hard to focus on me. Your videos give me moments of calm and the inspiration to keep going no matter how many bad days there are. Even on those days there are shafts of light. I loved your paintings and verses, like you, gentle and wise.

@eg348 Год назад

Please dedicate time every day, JUST FOR YOU. You deserve it!!! To nurture yourSelf🙏 Place your hands on your heart, feel and see your Love, and Your Light. Connect to and take care of You. I just felt as I read your message, this sense of incredible transformation that is available to you, like you literally Light up 😊 Please know that you are so worthy to dedicate time to nurturing and loving yourself everyday, find ways that make you feel good, which will allow your beautiful Light to grow. Blessings to you 😊🙏💛💛💛🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

@eg348 Год назад

I just have this feeling that you are an amazing person with beautiful gifts, so I just wanted to encourage you in abundance, to please believe in yourself, and nurture your Beautiful Light 🙏🌸🌼🌸🌼🌸🌼🌸

@eg348 Год назад

Get your bare feet on the Earth. Great healing and connection 😊🙏🌱🌿🌿🌳🌳🌳

@TheAnimalsMagicShop Год назад

Your poems are beautiful and go perfectly with your paintings! This time of year can be challenging because we have so little sun, but I find walking my dog helps to recharge my spirit too. I'm very grateful for healing plants and as long as there is valerian root, my anxiety is kept calm. The plants are our friends for sure.

@_ananda_ Год назад

Todo lo que tocas o en lo que trabajas ya es pura poesía En cuanto a tus poemas, me recuerdan a los poemas Zen, describen una emoción momentánea y pasajera y eso es la vida misma 🌱🎋💚

@Lizziemusique Год назад

Hi Paola. I really needed your video this morning. So thank you. Lapis Lazuli is what your beads might be and Lapis is tremendous for protection. I am humble in the face of your solitude. To work with being alone in quiet contemplation is a true blessing. Slowing down to write such tender poems and to read them out loud is a joy to behold. I felt the stag was talking to your heart. God bless. Lizzie

@gertanckaert3023 Год назад

not boredom...stepping into the neverending NOW...being fully present to YOU.....stepping into the MYSTRYRY. ...listening, feeling,seeing what is right there, right now....as you know...more easily done in nature.👍💗

@andeechristian9436 Год назад

"I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once." -Ashleigh Brilliant

@RR-lx7ll Год назад

And here in Qatar, there are no support groups or even a great community life. It's basically work and home. When we are alone, anxiety haunts us more.

@emilypatterson3314 Год назад

This video brought me to tears, especially the poem you wrote to pair with your stag painting. As someone who is going through an awful bought of anxiety and depression, this video brought me a lot of peace in knowing that this too shall pass and “spring shall come again” (that’s what a mighty cotton wood tree told me on a mindful walk at the start of winter). Thank you for sharing such beautiful wisdom and for inspiring me to not be so fearful of sitting in silence with my thoughts ❤️

@mi2ube Год назад

Your poetry is beautiful. Not all poems need to rhyme. I look forward to new painting in your Etsy shop. I purchased your others and display them in my office. I’m still reading your book. I love it! I’ve found a passage that stuck with me, page 64. “My life is exactly as long as it will be, and if I live it well, the number of days I have will not matter so much.” This is so true. I’m dealing with my third cancer journey, and those words are encouraging to me. Bless you for the work you do and your thoughtful words. I also find poetry a good outlet. I’ve been writing for years.

@Ray.M.12345 9 месяцев назад

I also suffer from terrible anxiety some days are worse than others, thank you for making me feel less alone. ❤

@23Bentley45 Год назад

Thank you so much for sharing this. I suffer from situational anxiety which I discovered when our new neighbors moved into their home. They are so incredibly noisy and I started feeling that I had been robed of my beautiful peaceful yard.

@christelbremer657 Год назад

Dear Paola, you are a guardian and a guide yourself. Thank you for all your insight. I found you a few weeks ago and I have quite literally been streaming your past videos constantly (while washing dishes, cooking, folding washing, etc). Now I feel like I know you already. I really struggle with anxiety - now more than ever due to big changes and traumas in my life, but your videos are a healing balm. I am also an HSP and I feel like I relate with you. Your videos have sort of been a voice of authority for me to step into slower living. I realise now this is who I am and what I need. I am also, now, transitioning from a full time job to trying to find a way to build an income part time and passively through my creative passions. To see your journey has encouraged me so so so much! Paola, you are the stag in your poem. At least to me. Thank you, for all the beauty. (PS: Could you perhaps in a future video share a bit more of how you make your paintings into prints?) Love, Christel from South Africa.

@pinkroses135 Год назад

Climbing out of these feelings is what draws me to your channel. You are gifted and these videos are therapeutic. 💙

@debschieve3468 Год назад

I also struggle with anxiety and I give you so much credit for figuring out how to handle it without medication. I haven't made that discovery yet. I also want to tell you that I also do watercolor painting, and wish I could paint as well as you do. Your little animals are just exquisite. Warm winter wishes to you Paola.

@Cranstal Год назад

As a shy girl, you have certainly transformed your life. It must seem strange that you have so many subscribers, maybe there are so many people out there who need your support and inspiration.

@lisapardini3594 Год назад

I write poetry as well to help express how I'm feeling. I sometimes can't verbally let my feelings out, but use poetry as a means of letting what's within me escape out into the world by writing it down on paper. It's cathartic, and allows me to let go of whatever may be stuck inside. I'm sure none of the poetry you write is horrendous. Everything you create reflects your warmth, serenity, and depth of feeling. I so appreciate your channel and art.

@asmabenaoum427 Год назад

Do you have a fb account dear?

@ildiko1vt Год назад

Always so soothing and peaceful Paola! Thank you for your lovely poems and magical paintings.

@Joyfillied Год назад

This is a go-to video for when I'm feeling mentally unwell...thank you so much for your content, it's so....soothing and healing.

@charlesmiddleton3247 Год назад

My childhood was mostly spent exploring the fields, creek and forest near where we lived. The neighborhood bullies and unkind kids, I kept away from when possible. I spent hours exploring whatever I came across regarding nature. Even today, I still seek the solitude of nature where I am grounded and where I am free to be myself...

@behindhergreyeyes Год назад

Thank you for this 🥺❤️

@valdkynd Год назад

Your paintings and poems are so beautiful, cute and calming, thank you so much for sharing all this beauty and your precious vulnerability with us. It's so good to know that we quiet ones are not alone out there. Sending lots of love from the UK xx

@thats_nice_canada6283 Год назад

Thank you for sharing your beautiful art and wisdom. I suffer from bad social anxiety and chronic nausea and I’m at a point where I don’t know what to do to help it besides talking about it with a counsellor, being alone and doing things I enjoy even if I suffer anxiety doing them….it’s so sad for me but your video brings me calmness, joy, and comfort in being true to myself and being gentler and kinder to myself. Seeing all of the comments from others who have varying forms of anxiety makes me love this community more and wish we could have a virtual support group spin off from this to help each other. Sending love from your neighbour to the North.

@fianaj9517 Год назад

We all have a spiritual being within ourselves, some people know how to find it and others don't. Quietness, calmness and rhythm . Meditation and breathing. God has given all these tools we need to find peace of mind. Thanks Paola once again for sharing and explaining so delicately. I hope you're message helps as many people.♥️

@Ankesadventures Год назад

Paola I appreciate your thoughtful content so much. Each week you come up with a meaningful message underlined with beautiful creative projects. Please know that it’s highly appreciated and feels so good to watch ❤

@purrsephone2904 Год назад

The art you create is so calming and lovely. Thank you as always for a peaceful and enlivening video.💚

@chocopanda16 Год назад

Aw please make a picture book with your illustrations and poems, it calmed me so very much, I would love to have these in a book format.

@MotherRabbitsKitchen Год назад

I have suffered from severe anxiety for the last 2 years and it came out of nowhere (or at least seemed to). Thank you for sharing this encouragement!

@mariapiecuch417 Год назад

Dear Paola, you are such a healer... ❤

@mandiflame Год назад

Paola, I really love your poems! They're lovely and perfectly fitting for those paintings. Thank you for sharing with us!! 💜

@terrychancellor4593 Год назад

Oh my goodness, you are my younger self!!! Everything you talked about, it was like watching myself at your age again, only I had long forgotten that girl. I had so many dreams and aspirations back then, my heart was full of poetry, wonder, I even dressed much like you! How is it I'm only now connecting those dots after so many videos? I also have dealt with deep anxiety, perhaps it is just a part of being a creative, we feel deeply. Thank you, you have reawaken a part of me that I so need in my life right now. I will need to revisit my poetry again, several had to do with fairies and nature!!! I have been so intent on being the artist others seemed to want me to be that I forgot about the one that came naturally, intuitively, authentically. Wheee!!! I can't wait to see where this awakening takes me!!

@johndej Год назад

So many things touched me in this video. First, your poetry is wonderful! As a writer of poetry for many years, I learned that there really isn't a way to judge what is good or bad in a poem. That judgement is reserved for the poet alone. The reader/listener is going to get something else when they read because they are looking at your words with a completely different life experience. We can hope our message comes across, but that message has a habit of changing on its journey. Like a painting, the words come from different brushes and strokes. I've accepted that whenever I've shared which makes it much easier to let the words go. My daughter (who follows you) is an OT and has been developing programs to help her clients deal with sensory and anxiety issues. Much of what she is doing is tied closely with using nature as a grounding point for healing and growth. As I watched this, there were many things that reminded me that you have similar thought processes. Thank you for that! Have a wonderful week!!

@mollyheily2556 Год назад

Love everything that you do. The beautiful ecology you create through your poetry, art, and homemaking is so inspiring to me. Thank you ❤️

@paigemarcantel3943 Год назад

I just wanted to say I love your videos so, so much. They are very soothing and calming and give a sense of peace for a few minutes in my day. Thankyou. You are my spirit sister. ❤️

@Sue906 Год назад

The forest is magical with all its wonders and animals ~Love all your art work it is so creative ~

@kippdeefamily5875 Год назад

Your artwork and poetry are beautiful, thank you for such a wonderful video Paola!

@DesperateForSanity Год назад

My only experience with intense shaking was during a treatment with a psychic healer. Never experienced anything like it in my life and the info revealed when it happened was quite a powerful healing experience. If it happens in future you might try to document what thoughts or feelings come through for you. Your channel and work are beautiful.

@DesperateForSanity Год назад

@@deborahpellerito6117 If they're demonic they're not healers. Some doctors are incompetent, some lawyers are crooked, some teachers are unintelligent. It's not the line of work that matters, it's the character of the person doing it.

@carolynvenema1019 Год назад

Many of the Psalms in the Bible are helpful. They offer a lament for when life is too much. They also provide comfort. Psalm 23 is a favorite of mine.

@-living4jesus4ever- Год назад

Amen, yes! I also love the scripture read to music on RU-vid. They are comforting with water sounds and such. 🎶 📖🙏

@maya-uz4wc Год назад

The Bible just has too much negative energy in it for me. Powerful book to use for spells though

@DianEnglish56 Год назад

Paola, your poetry is beautiful as are your paintings. Your videos are such a calming part of my day. Thank you for sharing them with us.

@thecountrycottagediary8649 Год назад

oh my goodness! I love the paintings and poems! sending you love

@judywyse7088 Год назад

Thank you again for this video. I like how you live and speak so deliberately. Henry David Thoreau said, "I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately." While being deliberate and slowing things down can help to relieve anxiousness, God Himself says in First Peter 5:7 that we are to cast all of our cares on Him, because He cares for us. True peace can be found as we make a conscious decision of our will to trust the One who has made us and who loves us infinitely. Keep up the good work !!