My man who is married and his wife is my best friend. We been dating for 4 years. Sometimes I feel bad when I’m at the house and I see them together but it turns me on more knowing I have his heart more than her. She struggles having children so we’re in the process of me carrying her baby. He pays for everything but I feel bad cause she’s my best friend.
It's more of an insult to himself, men will try anything in a skirt, regardless of how the woman feels about herself. What your dad said is just another way for the man to blame the woman. I have had at least one or two married men try to cross the line with me in my lifetime and my confidence is through the roof. So sorry, your dad was wrong love......🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
@@tiffanyyisrael7989two things can be right at the same time. The men who do this are bold and stupid, the women who continue with a man after finding out he’s married are also stupid. So no, her father wasn’t wrong at all love.
@@tiffanyyisrael7989you didn’t go for the bait they were throwing, that’s the difference boo. Think about what’s actually being said before taking offense.
A cheating man is NOT thinking of his wife. A woman who gets approached by a married man is NOT LOW fruit. The womans character has nothing to do with a married approaching her. All blame and character lays squarely with the married man
Amen!! I know I’ve been approached by some married men and I definitely don’t consider myself as low fruit. It’s not my problem he has low self esteem.
●Years ago, there was a married man who wanted to sleep with me. I told him that I'm wife material, not side chick material! ●He told me I needed to lower my standards because they were too high. I told him I'd rather keep my standards high and wait on God to send my Boaz than to lower them and sleep with him! He had nothing else to say and stopped flirting with me! Ladies please know your worth!!!
A married man told me once to lower my standards. It's the audacity for me. I didn't know he was married, and didn't find out until after we stopped dating. I'm just thankful we never had sex.
I agree with this, a married man wanting you is not a flex. Sometimes these married men try to make you a side chick without you knowing you’re a side piece. Please ladies be careful when dating.
This happened to me with an old high school coach! I have lupus and he’s supported my journey since my diagnosis as a mentor but recently admitted to have romanticized emotions for me ( he cld literally be my father lol) it was so weird. He wld send gifts and do dinners with me but with his wife so that made it even more cringe !!
I recently had a clients husband shoot a huge shot at me. It was crazy rude and bold. I said no of course. But I had to make a decision between telling her now and losing current income or risk it up coming later and ruining my business brand as a whole. I called her and he ran the whole “average ninja” lines. But since then I’ve gained 4 clients. One booked a couple hours after I called her. I said all that to say. Queens, don’t sell yourself short. Wte he promise he can do for you, God can do better! Just trust the Holy Spirit and enjoy your journey. 🌻
I like listening to you Tony, but these same conversations men have about the side chick being trash and the wife being everything doesn’t have any logic to it. He’s using the side chick and the wife too. He doesn’t respect either of them. He’s with his wife for his own gain and not because that’s where his heart is. He acts like a married man for his own gain. The comforts of life… to have someone by his side for his convenience. To have a home. Cooked food. Clean clothes etc… It’s not genuine love. Not if you’re doing your wife dirty it isn’t. And if you think so then you don’t know love. Please. Neither the side chick or the wife mean anything to him… not really. If the wife meant anything to him then they’d be no side chick to begin with. Sometimes I swear men sing this same song about their wife still being their everything just to make themselves feel good through the cheating… somehow this justifies it because it’s like… “Oh… but I love my wife and the side chick is trash.” And it’s like no… you love only yourself. Point… blank… period!!!!
So true! Selfish men or people are not capable of true love.They just do what suits them. They try to maximize their benefits, while minimizing their losses. 😢😢
I had a married man get upset with me because I didn’t want a relationship with him. He thought I was low hanging fruit, I just didn’t care to bother, then I told on him for bothering me. Filed a sexual harassment lawsuit against him. A lot of men don’t count the cost.
This 11 min video potentially saved me from 11 years of misery. I feel empowered walking away and tapping into my worth. This message has been delivered in divine timing. Thank you and God bless always
When I was a married woman about to divorce and I met a man that I believed to be a potential. You are absolutely right. I refused to get involved with him whatsoever while I was still legally married. If he was still there afterwards so be it. He wasn't and that was fine too because I wasn't divorcing my husband for him. Although my divorce was justified by his adultery, I was still accountable to God.
I agree. My husband and I have many issues and I don't think we will stay married, but until then I will NEVER cheat on him. I rather just get divorced.
One of my family members was with a man , he was living with her for 16 years. He never divorce his wife cause he said he didn't see no reason to. Anyways when he died in 2021, the wife was left as his beneficiary to his life insurance. My family member didn't get a dime. He didn't want her to. Everything Tony says is the truth.
All you married people out there with your happy little situations with whatever disgusting mess you've got going on with your weird needy lives with whoever you can zombily attach too STOP WATCHING ME
as a woman who found out I was a side chick to a married man….THIS MAN IS SPEAKING PURE FACTS! EVERYTHING HE SAID IS TRUE!…and once u sit and have an honest conversation with yourself EVERYTHING he said is the conclusion you’ll come to!…they have u do the “trashy” stuff the wife won’t and that man hated me and thought I was trash and I allowed it cuz I didn’t love myself…
Married men is where I draw the line. At 40 I see women my age and older going after these married men and it’s sad. We’re old enough to know better. Messy situation and it makes the woman look really desperate.
A piece of paper will not stop some men even if it is divorce judgment as in my case, he was still taking to his previous/ex-wife so at the end of the day it is about the man and his integrity
It’s deeper than a piece of paper 📑, it’s vows he and she made and took a oath, just like in court , legal binding and spiritual binding agreement, and nobody honors or respects them because they assume it’s just a piece of paper, marriage is no joke nor is adultery unfortunately it hits deep depending on if the shoe turns to the other foot, then same as it was paper it’s another’s home broken and destruction, it’s ashamed that it wash recycle and repeat and nobody cares until it happens to them
I met a guy who was separated and that’s the biggest mistake I’ve ever made. We dated for 7 months. Said he was in love with me etc. I even met his 4 year old daughter. Long story short after a very bad disagreement he left me. And I found out via social media that he was back with her. I knew it and asked him but he never told me the truth smh. So hurtful !!! I’ve learned my lesson 😢
He told me he wasn’t attracted to her anymore And so many other things. But now I know it was all lies. I kept asking him was he sure he didn’t want to be with her anymore. She even knew about me. I just knew that was over. But
You ASKED for that one sis. 😩 Like he TOLD you he was still married. He gave you that option up front. But we all live in learn, hope you learned and are healing.
@@bossladi5963Wait… the wife KNEW of u? And the children now u too? And the wife still took him back? Is this man rich? What was the reason for getting back together?
@@bossladi5963I hope you’re not letting this affect u too bad. I have a feeling u might’ve dodged a major bullet. The fact that the wife and children know about u, and she took him back is crazy. That means he’s a dog. I’d bet money u aren’t the first or only woman he’s pulled this with. I hope you’re able to laugh about this one day. Don’t let it get to u too bad. U will have your time eventually. Stay positive.✌🏿
When I was of the world and I had a married man I got my rent paid, vacations, a car, but him and his wife were seperated and I ABSOLUTELY HAD NO DESIRE for him to leave his wife cause I saw first hand how bad he would lie to her. & even when I left him alone I had to literally threaten him like I was gonna get a restraining order. But the whole time I would think like how can u be married and out here acting like you don’t have a wife. Anyway it had got so bad that he started stalking and I had to get my uncles involved for him to leave me alone. Remind you this a big time self defense lawyer in the city and I left him alone because it was just fun for me but serious to him. But don’t degrade a woman when a man is the biggest DOWNFALL to any desire they have. Men are the worst when it comes to doing what they want, but when they get caught up everybody want the woman to take the blame. I despise when Mr. Gaskin get on here and try to down women when we all know a man has always been weak when it comes to his desires and flesh.
@@Emptytopfloorregardless if they listen or not don’t reflect it on women trying to make them feel bad . Cause 85-90% of the time A MAN start and initiates everything with a woman. But don’t get on here calling a woman trash and low hanging fruit because of what a man decided to do with her. I don’t care if a woman is a crackhead I’m still gonna respect her at the end of the day because she’s a woman, she’s still someone’s mother, aunt, cousin, niece and she didn’t become trash or a low hanging fruit alone a man started it.
Thanks for sharing but maybe you may need some more healing! I don’t see it as downgrading women. The facts are being stated. We all know married men can’t cheat if the woman does not participate in the cheating. They only could do with what a woman allow. Of course women have influence so it’s up to us if we choose to be the side chick.
@@nakooshaalbert8884 I’m not really gonna respond to you because look like the type that’ll believe anything a man say anyway. & as far as healing I never was the one that needed the healing the man was. Get outta internet world and come on down here to reality town. Now I said what I had to say just as everyone else does and that’s that. I could type more but I’m passenger side riding, heading to Louisiana to get a puppy I want. ✌🏽
He was obsessed because you were easy. You KNEW he was married and still went along with it for the perks like a gold digger. Most women don’t want to happily be a sidechick so of course he was mad when he was losing his jumpoff. The fact you are trying to talk down to Tony instead of admitting you were extremely WRONG shows you haven’t learned from your mistake. Y’all both were 🗑️ in that situation & Tony said what he said 😂🤷🏽♀️
I wish married men would stop putting women in danger by NOT telling them he’s married. To many woman lives have been put in danger because they didn’t know.
Isn’t it funny that he’s focusing on the women and not the cheating men ? Men always do this 😂. Making women hate and call each other names while they also cheat in secret
Yes unfortunately most focus on the woman and it is the man that promised loyalty and faithfulness to someone not the other woman. Most times these men trick women into believing they are single, no ring, no wife posted etc only to later find out they are not.
Exactly when it’s the cheating man that’s low hanging fruit he knows inside he ain’t ish don’t think much of himself and view himself as trash it shows in his behavior no wife has a cheating husband’s heart he has no heart some of these men need to stop giving advice or insight on cheating married men if they can’t relate
Side chicks listen to him! He telling the truth. Even if he’s excited to get with you. Even if he Sees you as a prize. He sees you as something he can put on a shelf and admire or toy with however and whenever he wants…a prize alright! 😏He sees you as disposable a piece of trash. There’s no investment with you and he’ll drop you at the slightest inconvenience. Speaking from a place of experience. Speaking from a perspective of when I was deceived. The man knows what it is so don’t be deceived. It’ll never work with a taken man. It’s evil
True my sister ex husband cheated for years- they divorced he did marry one of the side chicks but now he cheating on her too. The lady had the audacity to call my sister to vent- boy she hollered 😂😂😂😂 they always need 2 stupid.
My ex husband left me for his sidechick. Then he moves her into the townhouse we shared together. Its just so messy I don't understand why they didn't move away from me. Its so sad we live in the same community. 2yrs divorced after 21yrs married. Men don't care anymore.
Most side pieces are trash, god forgive me, it’s been 30yrs & still counting, also! when a married man cheats, talking from experience…he no longer wants to be married! so he went from a 100% to 20% yes he had to go once I found out! and he regrets it every day
Great point. Married men cheating …are lower than the status they view side pieces as. Married (cheating) men: 1- lack self control 2-lack self worth 3-definitely lack trustworthiness
That's why he wants his wife to be the one to leave him. Men have a harder time leaving than women do. So men move on even in her face. They'll even tell her to leave if she wants to. Sometimes the women leave and sometimes they don't. Either or its a process. Sad, but it is what it is.
Poor logic. Married men cheat because marriage means nothing to them. It has nothing to do with whom he cheats with. The victim is the wife that has to continue giving loyalty and love to a deceiving husband. Stay single ladies marriage gives up your rights as a woman. Form independent relationships with trustworthy female associates. ❤
I agree! I've met a married man recently and he doesn't care anymore about his marriage. He's tried of his situation. Waiting for his youngest to graduate from high school next year. I have not and will not get involved with him and he knows it.
Sadly to say but it's the other woman that gets the brunt of every backlash of the cheating whether she realized the man was married or not. Chances are very great that the married man is never really going to leave or be completely done with his wife, even if he ever does his eyes will always be dancing around for another woman.
Never really going to leave: quiet as it’s kept, many of these “woah is me, unhappily married and staying for the kids” are VERY happily married. Just want to sow their royal oats. Remember, there are two sides to a story. Best to not play with fire at all.
@@beefaye6861Once you’ve seen even cheating videos, the storylines start to sound the same. Many of these cheating husbands are in happy marriages. Just have no regard for their wives. ☹️
Thank you, Tony! Lots of ears have to hear this! Some men have no shame in how they lasso a woman in WHILE they're married. He's playing BOTH WOMEN. Also, no side dishes should EVER want to have a man divorce his wife. She should not even deal with him to begin with. The moment she finds out he is married, she should RUN!
Ah! Here’s one for you… my ex-husband from 35 years ago always stayed in touch; lives in another state now. Well he started talking to me said he wanted to see me. I’m thinking oh really. Ummm. Older more mature, church going, professional, upstanding citizen, etc. Well he tells me he has friends with benefits. Then he tells me one has been his FWB for over 10 years!!!!! Well, 10+years!!! That’s like a marriage to me!! REALLY!! You can’t make this stuff up!! 35 years and he hasn’t changed a thing.!!! I’m out. Point blank PERI ODD!!
Was approached by a man while out jogging, well to do by world’s standards based off his profession, which he quickly mentioned. After a few questions asked he disclosed he was married but separated. I checked him really fast, cause I knew what he was looking for. I ain’t nobody’s “low hanging fruit!” Get da steppin’ my brotha!
This is so spot on! This has been my mantra "I don't get involved with married men, or men who are separated!" I don't get in between what God has joined! Plus I have a healthy respect for not only myself but KARMA!
Just reaffirmed my decision to block this old married man. Worked with him , he never said anything directly but I could tell he liked me. Fast forward, somehow he found me on social media and liked a couple pictures. Two words….. BLOCKT & DELETE
Sadly just because a man is married doesn't mean hes loyal. I know this about my own husband. He does what he wants, leaves when he wants, etc. Obviously I don't have his heart, he doesnt care what i have to gain from separation.
Please leave. This is alienation of marriage and abusive. We have one life to live and don’t know when our last day will be. If you trust God and love yourself, you will be guided to the answer.
if you ask the married women out there , all of them say the same thing ….men cheat and lie …they only care about sex , money and fame . They profess loyalty , ask about it , but they never reciprocate. THIS IS THE WISDOM THAT ALL WOMEN NEED .
Yep I'm the one that's going to tell the wife...and she straight up told me "that's whats wrong with yall side chick's, don't know how to stay in a side chick's place!" I was flabbergasted because first of all your husband lied..I never knew I was a side chick! Smh 😫
My good, man-of-character, community advocate, Doctor of Education, church/God-seeking separated and very married HUSBAND is on dating apps looking for another relationship. 🤷🏿♀️ Yet, he's dragging out of divorce and disagreeing with me on everything. It's laughable at this point
Yeah there is zero record of me on my husband’s social media. He says women are always coming on to him. I wonder why 😒. The lack of posting me atleast once pisses me off! He claims he keeps his business and personal life separate.
Some don’t care, they find joy in what they do, that’s why you don’t go back and forth with the other woman they eventually get the same man, he’s usually worse after
I don’t know what triggered you to make this video, but THANK YOU!!!! 🙏🏽 & from a woman’s POV a good & decent woman have more class than to deal with someone who is still married even through separation. I would say, “If you truly are getting divorced, look me up when it’s final” but that’s also because of my relationship with God. Women who do this are operating out of “Desperation” & have no real relationship with God & that’s a FACT! I’ll stand on that!
you wrong on this 1 Tony......Some men out here LIE AND COMPLETLY HAVE NO RESPECT FOR HIM SELF OR HIS 'WIFE" If hes cheating HE IS THE LOW HANGING FRUIT!! This message is for women who KNOWS the man is married and still continue to see him..NOT FOR WOMEN WHO MEN LIE TO ABOUT THIER RELATIONSHIP STATUS..😊Have a BLESSED DAY EVERYONE❣
I’ve been divorced for 14 years after my ex cheated for 11 of our 14 year marriage. He ended up marrying the woman he cheated with. Since my divorce the majority of the men who have approached me to date are married. I met a man on an online dating site. After months of communicating he finally tells me he’s married…and living with his wife, but working on getting a divorce. I immediately cut him off and told him how upset I am that he lied. Now he’s stalking me talking about I’m supposed to be his wife. What??? I’m so sick of these men. 😠The most relationship-minded men are married…🙄
Single, married they all cheat if the opportunity presence itself. When he cheats he doesn’t love the wife , mistress, side chick, ( whatever title) He only loves himself. Question is if you are the wife what are you going to do when you find out? Leave or stay?
Went through this with my ex husband. Men can’t cheat if there aren’t women to cheat with! Once a woman knows the man has someone or is married, it hightens the desire to be wanted by that man and be chosen over who’s been there with him. It’s the chase on both ends and the one who has nothing to do with it gets the messy end of the stick. Its sickening. Thank you for this video!!
These women don't want him it's like Ariana Grande they want the thrill of breaking up a relationship the thrill of being chosen over his wife for their selfish desire it's the ultimate fantasy of these people
Women, Everyday PAY ATTENTION, to the red flags. Not just in romantic relationships....we all deserve Respect and dont let anyones insults or opions about you stop you from your journey. We all deserve true love, you have to pick out the bad apples. Also need to self reflect. MEN ARE LOW BEARING FRUIT as well.
I was asked out by a married guy in a work setting. Know this...I was disgusted and wondering WHAT could have made him THINK I would EVER do that. I shut him down immediately. Chalked it up to him being lower than filth.
I love you tony for this MESSAGE!!!( PRAISE THE LORD )... love this message...im so glad i NEVER got involve with a married man...but i had seem attractive one & i looked but keep walking.....thank u lord that im a strong woman & u keep me under your wing
For me, I absolutely would not care lol. That’s like a homeless person calling someone a bum. Who they really feel are low hanging fruits are themselves.A cheating man’s opinion of me would never matter lol. I’m def NOT getting with a married man tho.
Thank you Tony for telling the absolute truth!!! People that cheat think they’re winning!!! They never count the cost and they find out the price is way too high!!! My husband found out the hard way… and then he died!!!😊🙏🏽❤️👍🏽
You are SO right! I had a man tell me he wanted to cheat on his finance with me, and I said good luck with that and walked. He married her. I’m so glad I have enough self respect to stay clear of that nonsense!
Amen brother. Speak the truth. Ladies, love yourself and wait on God to bless you with your husband. It will be a beautiful journey once you're blessed with your soulmate.
The Holy Spirit is moving because HE gave me this same vehicle analogy. Tony, we don’t live in a perfect world, by perfect world I mean a mature world. Let me start by saying that this is a very sensitive and touchy subject for me. Some dudes aren’t honest about who they really are in the very beginning. When some married men approaches a single woman they act as if they are a single man. They will lead you on for two years and have sex with you and then woman catches feelings, when he knows good and dog-on well he got somebody else. Dude gets the woman pregnant, and then he wants to tell you the truth that he’s married. Now he expects for this woman to get an abortion??? Not, right. No woman deserves to have to go through an abortion because someone lie to her about who he really is and then she messed around I can’t have no more kids in the future because of his lie. This is how women get caught up. I don’t think it’s fair to call women low hanging fruit because they are having sex outside of marriage because there’s a lot of married women who have had sex before they gotten married to their husband. I’m not saying go have sex outside of marriage because boundaries are definitely needed. I’m shining a light to let you in on how it really happens to some women. I enjoy watching your videos and sometimes it can be a hard pill to swallow. Your insight and perspective is greatly appreciated. I just want you to see it from a woman’s perspective. Please don’t block me Tony 😂 I know you are quick with it. Much love
I don't really get the culture where they're so eager to share. What is mine I mine, I don't want someone that belongs to someone else. That's why you save yourself for the man God has for you, so you won't get caught up in the trap that the devil has set for you.
God bless I needed to hear this 🙏🏾 Definitely never want to settle for a half of a man and to be used for what I know I deserve to be with a whole man!
Looove this! Soooo respect you brother for your devotion to the Lord! That's it!!! Character and integrity- the man needs it and all women must possess it out of the box!!! Separated is still MARRIED!!!
A man once told me...a married man is with other women because they do things his wife will not do. I was cheated on and kept being told they won't do it again. Had a conversation with him and asked him why is it so open for you to do this; He said, "It is easier. Had a talk with an older woman about it and she said, "Baby believe him and do what you want with the truth. He made a child within his cheating. I was hurt but feared for my life more. I am divorced. I thank God I'm healthy.
I'm so proud of you for divorcing him! I was cheated on in my marriage as well. He had a mistress, and two kids by her. I've been divorced 22yrs now. I forgave him so I could live my life in peace. I know God will send my Boaz to me someday. If you desire marriage again, God will bless you my sister in Christ. Stay strong.
Thank you for this video. I never found it appealing when married men would try to talk to me. I respect marriage too much to ever mess with a married man. I hate that side chicks are glorified and women brag about being with a married man. There is nothing cute about that.
I always think it’s funny when men say men get bored of the same thing as if women don’t. I think that just proves most women have better character then men. Bc to say men cheat for something new, not only shows the man lacks discipline, purpose, and all the stuff Tony will say. But it’s really his character. A lot of men lack character. And it’s sad bc they are conditioned to think the world revolves around them due to patriarchy. So they believe you (we as women & society) just have to accept them as they are. No sir, go heal, get some self respect, grow up, and be a man. A real man doesn’t make excuses, he finds solutions. Getting bored in your marriage is an excuse. Sir did you ever think or consider you might not do it for her anymore or how about check & see where she is with the relationship and how she’s feeling towards it. But see men will get into a relationship & think it’s all about them. Especially marriage, suddenly it’s all about his purpose and his wife helping him to fulfill it, the women (wife)has one as well. In fact, as her husband you are suppose to help cultivate it. But most men don’t. They are very selfish minded. Overlooking & neglecting the needs and wants of the women for the sake of their own. Always talking about wanting respect. When respect is earned. Basic respect is given. But the type of respect most men talk of that they desire; that’s earned. And if you are a peasant, I am not going to be treating you like a King. You have to give respect in order to get it. If you ain’t respecting your marriage, why would you expect your wife to respect you. Same thing for promiscuous men. It’s clear you dont respect yourself, but complain your not finding a wholesome women, but want women to respect them. Please. 😒
I had a brief conversation with a 79 year old man at work. I was praising him because he told me he and his wife (second wife) had been married for 6 years. His first wife died. Then the conversation took a wide left turn. He told me there were some dealbreakers he and his wife discussed before they tied the knot. For her it was honesty and for him it was loyalty. He added that he told her not to ask questions she didn’t want the answer to. Three years into their marriage he took off on his motorcycle headed to Tennessee to celebrate his ex girlfriend’s birthday at her house(just the two of them). He said she made a steak dinner had wine and the jacuzzi was going. He went back home to his wife, and of course she asked if he sex with the woman and he told her he had. The next day he went to the doctor to get blood work done to make sure he didn’t have anything. I was floored! What I thought was a love story ended up being a man basically telling me to settle for a cheater. 😢 coming from a 79 year old white man
I was fresh out of high school, I had not decided on college yet, so I was working first. I was very much attracted to a coworker who was married, but he was not an option for me. However, he had the nerve to tell me that he and his wife are having trouble. I said, “Either, the two of you get help to figure it out or get a divorce, but you will not bring me in the middle of your mess and with a baby boy!” Fast forward 25 years, he’s still with his wife, I coincidentally found out through someone else. I certainly wanted to know and expect that he Was Not faithful to his wife all these years… 🤦🏽♀️
I know a married man who left his wife for his mistress... Had a baby and still didn't go back to the wife. That marriage was severely damaged and he used that to make his escape.
When a married man approaches a single woman, he’s telling her she doesn’t deserve to have an available man. Avoid married men at all costs. They’re out there and looking.
that woman desires the attention from that man. I read Song of Solomon (The Beloved part) to build me up, esteem me, remind me how beautiful, valid, strong, lovely I am. The word of God is my fortitude. The vain words of a married man might sound like what I need to hear for just a moment but the morning after will shred that lil oz of confidence up and then I’m back at ground floor again
When i was 15, i went with my girlfriend to buy a car. The salesman at the dealership (for some reason) went into a conversation above cheating on your spouse. He said that a married person that cheats on their spouse will turn around and cheat on you. That was 45 years ago, and it has always stuck with me.
