I did this once with a man that wasn't very attractive but treated me good...then...because he got me...he started getting arrogant and treating me like I was the ugly one 😂😂😂
I'm here to say "I tried that, Tony, and still got cheated on" 😩😂🤣 I married little ugly and he cheated. He blamed it on me and I divorced him. It was the move of God, because the week before I found out, I asked God to remove anything standing in the way of me aligning with His will and the first to go was him. It devasted me, but I can tell you how faithful God is 🙌🏽
Right 😂 settling doesn’t always work. As a man, HE needs to settle. Women cannot settle for anything less than total attraction bc otherwise we will never be satisfied lol
I've always wondered about guys who pull the unpullable. And whether or not when he gets someone that he never thought he would get it might give him a big head. "Well if I can get her then surely let me try to see if I can get that one too", and then his sowing oats begins and he gets real cocky. 🙄
But he can be ugly and not have good character. That’s still focusing on his looks. Does he have good character, integrity, how does he treat people etc.
Right! Fellas speak, waive, smile, nod, start a conversation, compliment us, SHOW UP to events. At a minimum explain why we never seem to be in the same rooms together?
I remember a family friend of ours telling me when I was a teenager to go for the good guy. It’ll be okay if he cant dress etc. Basically she told me to pay attention to character. This was so good. ❤ 29:20
What I think is ugly, beautiful, pretty, homely or sexy again varies from person to person… Screw Societal Standards. I am going to go after who I want & like who I want. Anyone of us can get or attain most anything in life.
@@gapeach7814 he basically said go get someone no one else wants ...so basically someone unattractive - is that what he did with his wife??? he's talking a whole lot of codswallop - he's running out of things to say.
@@sarabelli 😂 he may be running out of things to say. Lol I was thinking the same thing re: his wife. I'm sure her looks had a lot to do with why he chose her.
Perfect message!! Learned a long time ago, character and morals over looks. Sadly a lot of people don't have good character, best thing to do is work on yourself.
TG, you're on your job. My father, born in the 1950s has been telling my brothers and I this for life. "Don't get one too pretty that you gotta fight over".
Humility is always in order no matter how beautiful or handsome you are. Today, with wigs, weaves, eye lashes. Plastic surgery, liposuction, fillers, etc. anyone can look better. The real value is the heart and mind. Are you a safe person? Ask God.
Nothing but truth. I always focused on brain and brand but not body. So this year I've started a skincare routine, and working on weighloss and a maintenance routine. My hair as always been long but 9/10 it's in a librarian bun😂😂😂😂so getting my hair professionally done is on the task. Really bringing out my natural beauty and I think all people have something that is very beautiful about them. Really I can say I demonstrated laziness when it came to myself I take care of everybody but put my selfcare to the back. It's a mental adjustment to put me on the schedule or spend an hr or 2 in the bathroom doing my facials and body care routine. It's a hard truth
its true, my friend said this guy on campus was good looking. he was interested in me, so i gave him a chance. ended up marrying him. i honestly didnt notice him before that
All facts Tony. You dropped gems on this one. No one has everything. Everyone is making concessions somewhere. Valid points. God help us all to see with our inner eyes.
Alright now Tony!!! You are saying that the who’re woman saw his heart??? How big was this white woman. The black woman most likely wanted him to take care of himself and he refused!!! He made her wait… he wasn’t attracted to her she just needed some to accept her!!! Her white men didn’t want her. She was going to do the most!!!
Gems 💎 I love black men. I now date men of all races due to my experience and my past. I want a man that loves Jesus and my current prospective marriage partner has a beautiful heart and he respects my boundaries, and even though he’s not black he has been consistent. This is an answer to prayer and if one day I meet a black man that desires what I am bringing to the table. Amen
I’ve ALWAYS been into the background guy. The one doing his own thing and not worried about chasing the “baddest” woman and getting all this vapid attention.
And what is wrong with wanting what you want ? I am generally curious of your response/reasons !!?? Just because someone wants me doesn’t mean I find them attractive or want them back & that is OK.
@@Iam1random1 I guess it's just human nature to really want something you can't have. It's like the forbidden fruit and what you can have is just not really desirable to you. I guess it kind of boils down to liking a challenge and the chase. Something that comes easy you really don't appreciate and what comes hard to you that's what you appreciate more. It just human nature.
I had a good laugh, then ooouh, it hit home. Dated the tall guys, short guys, very lean guys, chubby guys and thick guys. I look at your heart, how you treat me & do you respect me.
I LOVE when Tony says laying his eyes on a set of hams 🤣🤣🤣. Keep on preaching on brother. Many people walking around vain as if their stuff don’t stink. Judge not unless you be judged
Thank you Mr. Gaskins🎉 You helped me to break out in a praise! After stating all the altercations that people are doing to their body, reminded me that God is so gracious and merciful!!! I have not done anything (nothing) to mine. Nor have I desired. I worked on me and still have plenty to do! God bless you and your family!!!
That social experiment would be some good entertainment! And you're absolutely right that our society is too vain. That's why most of these relationships don't work out bc they focus on looks instead of inner beauty.
Hey Tony and blessed tribe! Tony, your friend sounds amazing. I love men like him with a great heart and attitude. I have always been in relationships with men that society finds unattractive. I’m glad your friend got the love he deserves.😍🙏🏻🙌
So true.... this is why alot of the time fix ups don't work... when others choose your mate they choose what they like..... it's like they don't bother to figure out who you're attracted to
People like what other people like… FR. The blind and lost are leading the blind and lost especially when it comes to relationships, dating and building. Say it again brother 🗣️💯
I remember I declined a date because the person wasn’t my type on picture. They asked again, we Met in person and I was smitten from day one 🥰. Their eyes were melty brown, laugh infectious, smart, inviting, successful… welp months later they dumped me 😂😂 because I didn’t fit the life they wanted 😂😩 moral of the story is. Take a chance, it might go bad 😂. So be able to dish what you put out, 😌
A lot of times when people grew up the under dog they don’t even know how to love because they were never shown love. The people who grew up in love, love the best.
IT'S THE CHILE.....I AIN'T GOT THE TIME FOR ME😂🤣😂🤣😂 TELL...IT TONY! PEOPLE GIVE UP ON YOU BECAUSE THEY DON'T THINK ABOUT THE TIME IT TAKES TO GET THINGS STARTED BUT THEY MOVE ON WITH OTHERS, NOT KNOWING THAT IT'S ALL IN THE WAITING SOMETIMES! MOVE ON... BE HAPPY, JUST LET GO AND STOP HOLDING ON TO SOMETHING YOU NEVER WANTED, FINISH YOUR PLAN! BLESSINGS TONY!
Facts! Sidenote- i would love hair care tips, a hair care line, jamaican remedies, or regimens from your lovely wife one day. I have thick caribbean type hair but when flat ironed or relaxed its similar to her texture.
I had a guy chasing me but he had a biggg belly, I was like nahhh but he kept trying. I was bored one weekend and decided to go out with him. Ended up really liking him. That belly didn’t even matter lol. Found out later he was married 🤦🏽♀️
I understand what you’re saying. I’d date a guy that’s not considered attractive but treats me right. But I can’t date a guy that’s overweight, it’s stressful. Like I’m going to scared that one day he’ll have a heart attack or won’t wake up. Being with an over weight guy is just nerve racking.
I totally get that i have gone to the gym for 3 yrs and could not date an overweight man either its not attractive to me - he don’t have to buff but he can’t be morbidly obese or sitting on the couch with pizza and beer
You’re one in a million, Tony Gaskins! These men in today’s Society want the FLAWLESS Instagram Models ONLY!!…I’m definitely NOT in that category, not ashamed to say.
Tomy Gaskin's you're real and hilarious without trying at times. But that line "No such thing as a ugly billionaire, I'll be dog gone ....Oh yes it issssss .. 😂😂 LOL. Informative great video as always. Thank you 😊😊
Thank you Tony, this helps me take a good look at myself in the mirror and get real. Indeed the truth will set you free! (God specifically made us for the different purposes he intended us for, we’ve each got to know his purpose for us, and it’s all good)❤
@Tony some of us like Long talks. Communication is one of the LIVE LANGUAGES. It's healthy and without that I will not bond however I get what you mean if it's draining...shalom
I am just a little confused because you also talk about the 3 B's. One being BODY. I like what you are saying but it's a little conflicting. I must say I truly love listening to you and I've been married for 35 years and I'm still learning. Thank you!!
there is no way a man will settle for someone he is not attracted to physically unless he has been rejected by EVERYONE he is attracted to and now is DESPERATE - Tony talking rubbish on this one.
A young teen does not need that type of car yet. They need to know what should be earned with work not given to them that early in age. He needs a Honda accord a Toyota
I am looking your way big bro Tony even though I do not believe in god anymore but, you are the big brother i needed in my life and you speak life into my soul . Thank you for all your videos helping people.
People used to say that Denzel Washington has a plain Jane wife but they’re still going strong. Samuel Jackson’s wife isn’t the society standard of beauty and they’re still going strong too. I believe some men have women that gives them peace and security which can outweigh someone who is beautiful with a bunch of issues.
Lol I love Tony! From I saw the picture he used and the subject I knew it be would be funny and informative, as per usual. But the photo was whimsical so I knew he was about to shift our perspective.
Thank you. I thank God for this message. So timely. I'm going to continue to be obedient to the Holy Spirit even though some people get angry at me and insult me for spreading truth that steps on their toes. It is most unpleasant, but I must keep going.🙏🏾
As a kid, i befriended the guy who no one paid attention to and who was bullied as a sport since I was bullied myself. We became best friends and years after he asked me to marry him. I found out he was dating two of us😂
A very good video..touched on a lot..and to add my 2 cents lol..jay z is not ugly. He is notbaomeone you'd look at and be stuck. I think people just say this because its been said so much.
How do you know who is on your level/ compatible? I watched the previous video and you touched on that, and in this one you talked about vanity. But what if when I was in high school and college (i recently graduated) no guys paid attention to me? How then can I discern who is compatible with me?
Think of your most equal relationships. That was probably your looks level. Like he’s stated before, not someone who you believe is ugly but not someone you can’t believe you pulled. If y’all take a picture, ppl will think y’all can be in the same family. Seems crazy when ppl say that spouses look like siblings but it’s because you’re literally at your level lol. Don’t date someone that you think is ugly though, it’s inauthentic.
@@drekathigpen4869 She is saying she has never been in a relationship. We are not allowed to ask men out because men are judgemental and will label us 304s. She is saying no one is checking for her and from what I've seen ugly guys in college flock to the prettiest girl in the group. My friend was really pretty and got approached all the time and most of the time it was ugly dudes. Men do not want women in their lane.
Hey Brother, hope all is well. I know your really serious, when having conversations with us. Nonetheless, you be cracking me up in a good way. Lol! Thanks for being real. As-well-As having a sense of humor.😂
