My thoughts exactly! 💯 I understand why some women may want to know the why. Especially if they didn't receive the clouser they were looking for. But for the most part, if he let's you leave....that's all the confirmation you need.
The prideful guy I was with let me leave, I never looked back even though he tried to reach out twice after 6 months "poorly" might I add but I gave him very short answers and told him to take care. His weak actions after our breakup solidified that he is not my husband and motivated me to keep pushing, my friends knew how much I loved him so they were shocked at how heartless and unbothered I seemed even though in my bed I would cry myself to sleep for three months and we broke up in the pandemic which made it even harder but one thing I know is my worth! Never looked back and living my best single life and working on me...best feeling ever!!!
@@FarahY1991 I hear you, it sure does and we tend to remember only the good things which is a fantasy story. I wrote down everything in my notes as soon as we broke up and if I started to fantasize about the relationship, I would look back and read my notes which brought me back to reality. The UK went into strict lockdown when we broke up so I couldn't see an friends or go anywhere besides the park but I just learned to love my own company again, I went on long walks with music on, watched netflix series and called friends to speak and also went jogging and it helped! Time is a big factor and things do get better. wishing you all the best xx
These days, women who've picked the wrong men are leaving in coffins. We cannot allow ourselves to be too vulnerable too soon with these predators. We need to fortify ourselves first & foremost. 🙏🏽🌹♥
1-his ego. he gotta big egooooooooooo (in my beyoncé voice) ☺️ 2-he knows he could get you back at anytime...sends a message that you have no backbone 3-it's actually over ❤️ thank you sooo so so so much for sharing your wisdom. your advice and knowledge is life changing.
@@ms.angieb.1597 shaking my head. Praying brothers will treat sisters better we shouldn’t have to go through this stuff and I’m not going to. I’m curious to know if others cultures experience the same things black women do.
Sounds like grown boy behavior to me and we as women who want a real relationship should be glad to be rid of these jokers. Ladies don’t ever, ever go backwards to get played. Hold your head up high and learn from your mistakes.
Yes! I left my husband of 29 years. He is that man...lol. He prides himself on his stubbornness. There is no doubt in my mind that he wants me back. I'm actually thankful that he isn't the kind who would try to make his way back. His return time is over....I'd never accept him now. I've realize the love I deserve now.
He probably didn't return cause he's up in Sally bed now.🛌 Mens can replace another woman fast as hell. But we as women's go on 4 yrs being single hoping, and thinking, wat if I'll did it this way, or that way could hve it saved our relationship,or marriage. Nah!🤷 I dnt hve room dating anyone right now anyway! My life is 2 occupied wit family👪 and my short term goals,long term goals..💃🙌🤗
I called him a Narcissist, insulted him for having no character, said I don't trust him, included a 😂 emoji & told him he was blocked...after he came back w/ ego & gaslighting. I'm done & need him to not want to try again. He shouldn't want to after I said all that.
@Courtney P Sis, if he's a true NARC, he WILL BE BACK if "YOU" let him COME BACK. It's up to "YOU" to put an END TO THE RELATIONSHIP once and for all ‼️
MY EX HUSBAND LET ME FILE THE DIVORCE AN GOT THE COURT DATE....THEN THE FOOL STARTED BEGGING....HE SAID HE WAS TRYING TO BE HARDER THAN ME....I LEFT ANYWAY....I HOPE HIS PRIDE WAS WORTH IT....!
@@blueseptember2174 Well....that was 13yrs ago....Im doing wonderful....I ended up gettn the divorce, moving to another state....it was the best decision I ever made.....I didnt have any contact wit him since the divorce.....he went on to still do wrong(I heard)....now he in jail for murder....facing 45yrs....u can't treat ppl bad and think u won't face the karma one day....smh 🙏
Ego and pride can take you to the grave! This video is on point. The more unbothered you act, the crazier a man with a big will act. It can be scary. Stay safe ladies and know your worth 🥰
First of all, I don't recommend women staying with men that's not treating them right and being disrespectful. If I was in relationship like this, I would talk to him and tell him how I feel but, if he keeps doing it then I will leave.
I don't tell them how I feel. If I have to do that as if he's my child. A grown man knows what his doing. There's no talking. I'm leaving he know what he did.
The biggest lesson I took from this is to keep moving forward because a man’s ego has an unknown depth. I cried for the first time in 3 weeks not to him, but while I watched your videos. Ive prayed about it and I feel better now. Mahalo
The last 2mins of this video gave me the closure I needed for understanding what happened with my last relationship. He completely pushed me away, switched up and treated me the opposite of how he did before and I ended up making the decision to communicate that I was removing myself. Really left me with no choice, but it was what he wanted. He just didnt want to be the one to do it.
yes, that's the thing - they want to make you be the one who walks out and cuts it all while they can sit back and wash their hands in assumed innocence because it's you who put an end to it! Ego all over!
😂😂😂😂 C-O-M-M-U-N-ICATE….I CANNOT EVEN!!! Ahhhh good lesson! I sometimes wish I would have found TG at a younger age. Would have saved myself so much heartache…Glory be to God for allowing me to feed myself my soul this knowledge now. It’s changing my life!!
My hat goes off to the lady who inspired this video because I had the same question. I thought it was ego as well. This was confirmation. Tony broke it down from a man’s perspective.
Moral of the story: don’t let anything slide with a man. We know, we are just too afraid to be abandoned. Just go get counseling and get closer to God.
Love this. Strong women with standards are great for everyone period. Especially their spouses. Love the wisdom of God pouring out on this channel! Glory!
This is just what I needed to hear. Thank you :) I think he’s a narcissist and I have cut ties fully- he is blocked and no going back- not putting up with his crappy breadcrumbs and silent treatments anymore. Fully done! My husband is waiting to find me and now I’m ready to find him✨
So why does he ask you to marry him, if he's going to LET you leave!!??? So why come back in your life, if he's going to LET you leave? Everything is going well and he's undecisive. Then has the nerve to show up with someone new a month later. Boy bye....Single life is peaceful. Thanks Tony.
I went through the exact same story in order!! When I found peace is was the best thing I'd ever received!! 2 years later he tried again but I was stronger to resist!
This is the best video by far Tony, my male friends said these 3 examples are spot on!!! AND THEEEE TRUTH!!! If he let's you leave never ever return!!!! Forgive yourself and keep it pushing, pray and love on you❤
I hacked my guys phone of 10 years because the holy spirit alerted me to his cheating. It turned out to be true. I screen shot everything. So I confronted him. He played dumb even though I had screen shots of all of his cheating. I told him I'm not playing your games and ended it.
You sure know how to help someone not to go back and make a fool of themselves after hearing such painful truth 🙌🏾 thank you for the candid talk, I got it🤦🏾♀️
Your wife only calls twice because she's secure with herself, and she's secure in y'all's marriage. She knows she's out, if she gets any kind of inkling that you moving funny! Also.. She speaks my silent language.. I also will ignore the mess outta of, not just my man but anyone.. I don't be caring nothing about nobody's fake attitude. Bc I know.. You may be quiet for a little while.. But you'll be talking again! Ima gone head and let you have yo Lil moment.. That's it and that's all! 😂😂
you’re notorious for making me laugh and keeping a smile on my face while catching the lesson! it hurts to hear at times the reality I was in but I always feel better hearing the truth from you. tryna heal 1 day at a time ❤️ thank you! 🙏🏾
Occupy ur day go walking🚶watch sum horror movies only during the day,😅 video a dish u cooking, om go zoom hve girl talk wit all ur BBF friends, watch a lot of males videos like Tony dealing a emotional break up! Girl, I do it all, jus got out of that situationship.😂
You will be upset and frustrated all the time being with a broken man who’s prideful(ego) means more to him than doing what he needs to do to make his wrongs right to save his relationship. Is why I choose to be single and because too many men are too prideful, self centered, mentally unhealthy and emotionally immature. If someone is gonna make my life miserable it’ll be me not someone else. Never be with a man who’s too prideful to help make your relationship work. Been there done that, it’s a waste of your precious short time here on earth PERIOD.
Currently going through everything you mentioned. Hes been sleeping on the couch for 2wks now because he don't wanna apologize lmao.. Male ego is serious !!!
C 👀this the main thing Tony be teaching y'all women's and young girls about those corrupt soul of mens. "What y'all allow a man 2 do, that's how he's gonna treat u." Put ur rules dwn girl," Let him knw, either slp in the bed 🛌like a mature grown adult, or remove ur entire body frm my home." And say it wit a straight face..😉
Sleeping on that couch and texting his side lady or ladies enjoying it too! He ain’t worried about apologizing to you sis! I know this was a year ago but knowing these bullshitting ass men y’all probably done broke up by now.
I really needed to hear this. Thanks. My ex sabotaged our relationship of 5 years and I just didn't quite understand why. It's been hard being the one that left. Guilt has been the struggle. But this really helped me to contextualize it. Thanks
When ppl call that many times they have anxious attachment and it's also manipulation Tony Gaskins I can tell has extensive experience in mental health based in this and his other content/ videos Blessings to him and his wife and family
His Ego!!!! Very very very True. I are such a mind reader or will I say you're truly called to you what you do. I completely agree with you. You said it all. GOD BLESS YOU TOO MUCH!!!
Thank you! This video was for me!! My last situation was with the very guy described here. The guy that every girl wanted to be with and every guy wanted to be. I left him because I found out about another woman and when I asked him about it, he lied up and down. Not too long after that, I found out about yet another woman! Again, he lied and lied and lied! I had enough and blocked him. Four days later, I saw him out with yet another woman! It's been 5 months since I blocked him and I haven't seen or heard from him since day one. He did not care about me! He had 3 others! So when I left it was no big deal. The whole time we dated he really made me feel like we had something special. I cried myself to sleep for a long time. I still miss him sometimes but then I just tell myself no, you miss his representative
Took me to long to find this man- A friend recommended me his videos after a recent break-up I went through. The wisdom this man has. THANK YOU TONY for enlightening women on how men behave and what to do and not to do. AMAZING WORK. On behalf on women we appreciate you immensely. 🙌🙌❤❤👏👏
Learn to become emotionally intelligent. It doesn't come easy, but consider the outcome. If someone carries on in such a way, their whole life has passed by and all this energy spent on pouring ourselves out into the wrong vessel. In the end it's a choice. Being emotionally intelligent takes strength, but the payoff is your dignity and self respect, also the love you save may be your own.
What about when a man ignores you for hours even a day or 2, over a miscommunication or misunderstanding or doesn’t even want to understand you, whenever I first met him he was the 1# communicator and listened and was so understanding. I don’t understand how this is love or even healthy?!? It makes me question my worth, who I am and it hurts whether the issue was my fault or his it shouldn’t be handled by being ignored. 😞 I’m ready to bounce because this isn’t helping me prosper mentally, spiritually.
This is priceless information. All men better watch out for Tony. He's blocking all the players game. Thank you Tony. You saved me from so much confusion and heartache 😇😇
Tony this video was rich in info! Can you write a book on emotional intelligence and what it looks like coming from a man and a woman? As a woman it would be interesting to learn to be emotionally intelligent, along with more examples of how it looks, and it would also be helpful to know how an emotionally intelligent man acts so that we may know what qualities to look out for also.
I have purchased your books A Woman's Influence as a gift to my daughter in-law who's been married to my son for 21 years. I gave What Daddy Never Told His Little Girl to my 30 year old daughter, I know it will bless their lives. Then I'll read them afterwards. 😊
Thank you brother tony for your great messages and taking your time to help us sisters survive these streets lol it’s tough out here but for real thank you! God bless you and your beautiful wife and kids
Tony I LOVE the way you explain stuff in so much detail and specificity! I also love when you explain how your wife does this and that. It really brings real life examples to your teachings, especially pertaining to her its perfect to hear because like you said.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU !) HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW ! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! OCT 2021
So true! I walked away, and yes i was to blamed, but like you said, it's like he sabatoged it and knew it! Makes 💯sense now. Thank you for the honesty and accountability. I wasn't given. At least I get this as closer and not gaslight anymore.
amen!! I totally get to, going it through that stuff as we speak. Hope that 7 months later you are in a better place mentally and have your smile back! God bless you 💛
I had to 20 back 20 seconds to see that cry again 😂🤣😅 he is absolutely right, we as women have to do right. We can't keep going through this. I am learning so much Tony, thank you 😊
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 it’s so hilarious because I was that deranged women blowing up my kids father phone because he was ignoring me.. LORDTTTTTT HAVE MERCY !! This message right here just showed me who i was but NOWWWWW that KNOWLEDGE has sunk in.. I know how to operate for the next relationship that GOD will send my way and not me looking. Thank you for this message right here!!!!!
Yeah, the sabotage method is so true.. I dated a guy for about 9 mos. He went cold on me after I wouldn’t have his kid.. He couldn’t just say “I think we need to move on “. He just... went cold. So of course the burden was on me to end it..
@@rondas7772 Yeah.. He was a walking red flag the entire relationship. We got along well, no abuse or anything.. but he just acted in ways that made me give him the side-eye on several occasions. There was no way I was giving him a kid..
I'm a little down ABOUT this, cause Tony, is giving us insight to his own game as WELL, and am I strong enough for a man of his caliber? This would be my question to MYSELF. I believe God is shaping me into that caliber of woman...💕💞💯🙏✨🌟😊
