This reminded me of seven pieces of advice from Rumi: 1. Be like a river in generosity and helping. 2. Be like the sun in compassion and mercy. 3. Be like the night in covering the flaws of others. 4. Be like the dead in anger and irritability. 5. Be like the earth in humility and humbleness. 6. Be like the sea in tolerance. 7. Either seem as you are or be as you seem. Lots of love!
Your videos are always so therapeutic, and your mindset is amazing. I can listen to you talking for hours, so much wisdom & clarity!! A big inspiration.
how do I know if I am hiding something or if I’m just keeping it to myself because “no one needs to know”? 🤨 what’s the difference really? is it just intuitive? if I *feel* something has to come out of me because I don’t want to keep it in anymore and it’s hurting, should I just be honest and let it come out? or do I have to wonder and ponder if anyone needs to hear it and perhaps keep it in? this is really confusing to me :(
@@ronjakatariina Yes, if we practice, and through observing the results we get, we learn to hone intuition. For me, I started to get it right in my mid to late 50s. Before that, I was oversharing, sharing with the wrong people, and wanting validation for things I could validate myself, if I knew how. If you are still young, keep practicing. Also, I am a big fan of sharing in writing, in a journal. Because then you can be totally honest, you won't be judged, and you can have a conversation with your brain. Other than that, know who you can share with. Sometimes a kind stranger will be safer than family or close friends. I'm not saying to live a double life. I'm talking about self protection here. I hope this helps.
This is so deep and profound. The way the message is delivered is just something that I haven't seen before. In this loud and fast world, this is a welcome change.
Before you become popular and my comments get lost in the sea of infinite comments, I want you to know I really appreciate your videos. They really help me think and reflect upon my actions and behaviour, and they are also very relaxing; it is a good watch before sleep, haha. Thank you brother, keep growing.
It was just yesterday that I was thinking about the idea "the truth always leads to the best outcome possible" and about telling the truth in general. You even addressed the scenario I was trying to reconcile with in regards to this subject. The timing of this is impeccable and even synchronistic.
Often times refusing to answer the question will reveal the answer itself. Sometimes I think the ends can justify the means when it comes to lying. Would I lie to save someone? Yes.
Hello, I've been watching your videos for a while and ever since I find myself more focused on what really matters. With that my life has become simpler, less anxious and more joyful. Not because it suddenly became easier but because I see things in a way that makes a lot of things lighter on my mind. I think that my life has always been about the same level of difficulty. The most difficult parts are about how much more difficult I make it for myself. Also I see much more beauty in the simplest things and I really like to take those moments for myself, not for my friends, family or general acquiantances. Those simple moments I feel most content, where I'm just being in there watching what is always there. I hope that I can be in those moments longer and more frequent and that I can be kind, understanding, patient and honest with myself and those around me. You helped me a lot with that and I want to say thank you. I wish you well.
at a certain point withholding relevent information becomes lying whenever I see people relish in the idea that "I'm not lying if I just say nothing" it rings as if a narcissist just found a new way to get by in life whilst feeling better about themselves
I ruined my life because I thought I could reshape my reality with lies. There's not a day where I don't feel guilty and disgusting from doing it. Accept reality as it is. Love who you love. Try your best to be sincere. That's the best way to show love to those who are important to you.
You are absolutely correct ,in most cases, honesty is the best policy. I really dislike dishonesty. When someone asks me my opinion on how they look, for example, regarding a new hairstyle/Extension, I tell them this: How do YOU like it? Or they may even dislike it ,and I say something like: "it will grow back soon " A guy actually shared this with me. I work around a lot of men and I find many of them are as insecure sometimes , as Women . Anyhow, I disagree with your example because although it would most certainly be the virtuous thing to say, it would cast suspicion on you, failing to protect your guest from harm. Surely, you could have imagined the consequences ,at the time that you decided to allow him to live there. Sorry, but I believe you can come up with a better example. You would feel worse because your actions came off as cold and uncaring to that refugee and would have real ramifications. A better thing to do: Allow someone else(willing to lie) to take that person in. Don't get me wrong. I hope you decide to discuss the topic of being honest (mostly to OURSELVES). But, we don't live in a bubble and only in our heads. We have a responsibility to others too. However, you always provide me with a lot to think about and even ponder.. Thank you and I hope you get well soon (you sound like you have a cold). Your channel is a gem. I just believe your philosophy(although uplifting), is not always applicable- like when it comes to the social realm.
Your videos always come at the right time and the way you express is quite lucid . If possible please make a video on how to make decisions particularly when you are stuck in life and have to choose between two .
I actually used to be this person who would not say what bothered him and let people step on his boundaries and keep it all in so I don’t hurt others but then explode and hurt myself and others . So I started practicing being more outspoken of my boundaries and not afraid if i hurt people feelings and im always honest like at least whenever i have the chance to . I used to avoid communication and run away from confrontation but now im the one who asks people to communicate what bothers them if i did something wrong and i will communicate if someone stepped on my boundaries I won’t be nice about it because truthfully all i ever wanted was people who are honest so if i wasn’t myself that. How come I expect others to be . I had lost relationships here and there but i was blessed with new ones where i feel seen . It’s truly worth it
I feel like I have seen this video before, thank you for keeping uploading and for your amazing delivery of thought and devoting yourself to virtuous teaching and life 🙏🏼
I took a retreat to the woods with my dog and lost my phone… Got a new phone and redownloaded only what I wanted, including RU-vid. I found you the day I reconnected and have watched one video a day and shared with family. I even pulled out my Marcus Aurelius meditations book I forgot about. Thank you to the Universe, and to you for the renewed inspiration.
Leyla is beautiful! She is everything you would love in a person - brave, strong and gentle. I can understand how difficult things are for you and your family. You shared something very special in this video. Thank you for your kindness. I wish you and your loved ones well. Good wishes and happy cheers, Leyla! Feel better soon. 🌿
I find your videos very inspiring. Would love a video about how you apply philosophy into your own life, but it seems like you don’t want this channel to be about you. I totally respect that and admire it, but you’re so mysterious haha.
I agree generally but finding friendly and non provocative non answers in a dangerous situation on the spot is not as easy as abc and instincts take over. Sometimes you have to answer as authority will see your refusal as suspicious or an admission of guilt. Saying I won’t answer or I reject your authority is not an option in a totalitarian state. Either you lie or you tell the truth. Politicians are very good at giving non answers on the spot but most people are not well equipped and especially not during imminent danger. I would love to learn more about it.
You are one of the people who inspired me to take more action in life and not to postpone myself any further. I struggle with procrastination often but from time to time i beat it. I want to grow a youtube channel authentically speaking my truth and not being deceitful about it or being too manipulative for my own gain. I just want to be honest and speak the truth. Living a life full of lies burdens your soul leading you to lead a dampen version of your existence
I love your wisdom! This has me pondering how as children, we learn to lie. Either to protect ourselves or to get what we want. Then, it can become ingrained in adulthood as well. It's definitely something to be aware of
Yes. Good answer, about the "coming to the door" question: You don't owe them an answer, period. And second answer, if everyone were just honest, like literally everyone, I think that those kinds of governments would lose all their power, period.
I don't even know how it happened, I just know that it wasn't a coincidence as I've found you exactly when I needed someone to really talk to me, guide me and explain why Sometimes we struggle with our inner selves . To perceive the intensity of life can sometimes make you feel lonely if you don't have anyone to share this beauty with.. I don't even know your name but your voice and your thoughts are now so familiar , I've been listening to you almost everyday since that day I've found you.. Thank you that's all I feel Tu say right now
Thank you for sharing this important sentiment of truth amidst a world of liars and cheats. It seems that most people don't care to honor truth - in favor of an easy way out, or to get what they want. Growing up, I reached the same conclusions as your video but became disheartened seeing that others do not value truth the same way. It's refreshing to hear that someone actually values this. Thank you for giving a shit, good sir.
Hey, I love your videos, but I can’t say it was convincingly argued with the example of hiding a refugee. If I was living in WWII Germany and was hiding Anne Frank in my attic and Nazis came knocking at my door searching for her, it’s hard to imagine my response of “I’m not answering that question” would not prompt them to search my house, find her, and send us both away to be punished. I don’t see how being a martyr in this regard would be virtuous, especially since it would mean certain execution for possibly us both. Is one obligated to be honest with a corrupt regime, especially when the outcome is an unfortunate lose-lose situation? Of course, that’s an extreme example that hopefully none of us are going to be involved in, and that third option should considered as much as it makes sense to. I actually agree that for the purposes of our mundane daily conduct , we have a lot to gain by not being someone who tells white lies. But not only do I think that very, very few of us would exercise the third option when hiding a refugee, I don’t think it’s particularly virtuous either.
Understanding the importance of honesty and integrity in our actions is key to living a simpler and more virtuous life. 💫 By embracing honesty and being mindful of our means, we can navigate life with clarity and authenticity, ultimately leading to greater fulfillment and peace of mind.
wow , I have been in such situations where I had to choose between lying and being honest and I've chosen , most of the life, honesty in such situations and it never turned out well. Deep down, I always had this question that how can I avoid this question and why do i end up in such situations . Now this video is the answer to that question. Thanks a lot . Keep up with such videos and maybe you recommend some books that a novice can start with to understand philosophy. Again , thanks a lot for the video .
I’ve been watching the Jinx II and it illustrates your point about having to track all your lies. Robert Durst (allegedly) seemed to live the majority of his life tracking his lies. It was even argued that he married his wife for the mere purpose of having an alibi for one of his murders. Thanks for continuing to post and looking forward to your next video!
I personally find it impossible to give an answer like that in a refugee situation. With the STASI/nazi/fascist "authority" in front of me I would certainly not give up neither my life nor that of a refugee. No way can the virtue of honesty be "saved" here. Just imagine the Stasi answering "ok m'aam as you wish. All the right to not accept our authority". Now come on. This is too much of a stretch. This would be martyrdom.
It's so true! I think people tell a lie sometimes because they want attention or social Recognition or may be they are scared of losing their position in the eyes of society.. or people .. he/she wants to brag or simply it becomes a habit of making things up in mind & live in that imaginary lies. Human psychology is fascinating.. The more I discover the more I wonder..... A few years ago i wanted to change my stream from Finance to International relations & foreign policy but I was so scared to tell my dad... in my country It's a big issue you know.. parents react on small things & they interfare in personal decisions.... so I told my dad yeah everything z fine and I am giving exams... but It was only complicating my things... I was scared that he wouldn't understand me... but one-day I told him what I wanted to do... with all my honesty... and surprisingly he showed his support... I felt so happy ..and slept with an honest heart... it was a relief... What you said is absolutely wonderful.. we can always choose to make it a bit easier.. we just need a lil courage & ignorance. Sometimes we care a lot so we lie.. or overthink that doesn't even matter... thank you for the video 😊
Unfortunately we come here to learn everything the hard way 💔 sometimes you are pigeon and sometimes you are the statue 😭 I’ve met every liar in the universe in this life lol.
My summery: If can't tell the truth, doesn't necessarily mean you have to lie. You don't have only 2 options, but three. If you can't tell the truth, then don't. Refuse. Or, use your brain and find a solution that doesn't make you a wrongdoer. If we can use our intelligence to come up with lies/white lies, then we can also come up with a third option.
I have thought very much about this idea since watching this video and I am curious about it's application to a specific scenario. Let's say you get a gift that you don't like or don't need, it would be dishonest to express gratitude and appreciation for it would it not? And so if that is a lie then what is the right thing to do?
3:40 Saying that you don't need to answer a question in such situations as sheltering refugees shows a lot of privilege. Realistically, saying that you won't answer that question shows what the answer is.
Saying you won't answer would likely get both you and the refugees killed. I would also argue that focusing too much on the means will cause us to lose sight of the importance of also keeping in mind the ends.
