This shows how different parenting can change a person. Be too nice to your child, and he’ll turn into a brat. Be strict and rude, he’ll turn into a slave. Balance it just right, and you have a perfect, good child. Not too spoiled, and not a slave.
I know this video is for comedic purpose, but I’m literally crying because I want a mom like that, idc real or not, when she said “son? son? sweetie? I love you.” I started crying so much 💀
My mom is Jamaican, sometimes my brother yells at her, and she is the mom at the end. 😢 (not exactly like she still disciplines us but my brother doesn’t listen when she’s not here)
Yeah I'm a lot like the 'white mom' but if my kid ever said anything like that my response would be "See those shoulders? They're going to be missing a head. I did *not* raise you to speak to anyone like that, least of all me!"
It's strange how the kids often do turn against kind lovely people and wouldn't 'out of fear' to parents that beat them.. biblical scripture; spare the rod and spoil the child!!! 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️😥
I really felt bad for the mama at the end...even though she isn't real, she is just what all Asian kids need sometimes. Kindness and love. We need a whole episode dedicated just for her one day! 🥺♥️
I stared at the end of the video for some seconds... I feel really sad to see this... It's true that it's like that in many families, although spoiling alone doesn't raise such kids.. it's also a lot of anger from the parents towards the children, but without actual borders of discipline and education that Asian parents set, so it makes adult babies..
I get an allowance and I’m pretty spoiled, but never in my life would I talk to my parents like this. I was appalled when I learned people actually call their parents by their first names sometimes.
I know right, my parents never even did grounding even when I did yell as a little kid but once I straightened out I could never. And I respect and fear la chancla. Or an equivalent.
I just had one of the worst days where I was once again accused and slandered for no reason. But that's a usual. But seeing this video was more of an emotional support than i thought it would be when i clicked it. You just became a mother to millions of Asians out there mate.
I'm sorry you had a bad day, but I'm glad you're better now. I'm from europe, but I'm the scapegoat in our really messed up probably narcissistic family. So I get the slandering and stuff. I hope you'll get better and that you can move out soon! Moving out saved my sanity!
I've been there. There's really no pleasing them. Even if you do one thing right, they'll find something else you're not good at and use that against you. Don't worry though. It gets better. You'll be in control of your life soon, and then you can choose to live your life and not be an asshole to your kids should you choose to have some in the future.
This guy is hilarious and we know he is exaggerating cultural attitude differences. My (white) family was not very supportive of higher education and considered college educated people uppity (condescending), but when I graduated in engineering with an ROTC commission, my father took credit for helping me, though he kicked me out of house, changed locks and wouldn't sign for loan or grants. Actually Evil Step Mom influenced him negatively because he was a good Dad until she built the Ginger Bread House.
@@rarart-gamesproductionbyci9353 Life provides all the entertaining challenges you would never expect but I've had a pretty good life. On the downhill side now, but better than many. Most best parts of my family have passed but lots of good friends remain to sustain old men talking about the good days. If all goes well, I'll complete my private flying cert by this time next year. I'm old, slow but I don't quit and should eventually get there.
Last year, there was this guy in my class, who was an Asian whom I learned was adopted by white parents, and he’s literally one of the kindest people I know🤍
Soooo true! The other day I was playing on a Western server and I couldn't execute a simple task. When I finally got it, a total stranger praised me. I am an adult but that was way more praising that I have ever gotten in my childhood lmao
i love how you act out both sides of the coin. too much kindness spoils the kid, just like strictness. edit: damn mom im famous lololol thanks for 12K likes ig!!!
My parents allow and buy me everything and are the nicest but my siblings and I aren't acting like brats. Spoiling isn't a bad thing as long as you raise the kid good.
I feel like the stereotype of strict and harsh Asian parents is often pertpetuated so much that we forget about all the amazing parents out there who don't conform to this trope. I have two (unconventional, to say the least) wonderful Asian parents who would never punish me so harshly, and have always been encouraging towards me. It makes me grateful to be who I am.
I saw this behavior a lot from Asian families in the US. I was a figure skater and it seems like a lot of Asian parents put their girls into figure skating for some reason. The way the moms treated those little girls had me cry and tense up and they weren't even talking to me. I mean I have mommy issues about not being enough. My mom died 19 years ago and I am doing stuff to try and win her approval. How twisted is it that you are seeking the approval of a dead woman.
@@mushroomexpress3049 absolutely!!! It is just from a small sample I see on a daily bases. There are some white moms that are horrible to their kids but I have yet to see an Asian mom not losing their mind when their kid falls on a new jump in practice.
@@andreaelizabeth5494 lol, I get zero on math twice, and she just half jokingly frustrated. she said its fine as long as I graduate school and have things that guaranteed my survival on real world. when I was kid she was strict and demanding(but never abusive). when I bring up the past she said she was anxious of her dying before I can survive real world. I think its due to generation gap tbh, I honestly understand why back in the days beeing strict to kid is necessary, and why they're anxious of proverty. as time goess I think my mom(and lot of chinese mom) realize how world has changed, she even support my art major choice ps: this is only my experience as chinese, it doesn't apply to all asian.
My Asian parents love me and my sibling with all their hearts, disciplined us with belt as kids and NEVER SPOILED us. But they supported us in every way possible and gave us freedom to decide for our own lives as we became adults. And constantly reassuring us of their love, still giving us kisses and warm hugs. Love my mom and dad so much. 💕
Every child that has been hit lies to themselves when they say they love their parents it's the "love and affection" they are running after and idealize their parents bc otherwise they would have to deeply accept that they have never been really treated with true love and that would be too much to cope with. So don't encourage people to hit their children and be honest with yourself otherwise u will never heal.
Child abuse is never okay. But sometimes kids or teenagers can be too unruly and disrespectful. In times like that we need heavy discipline or else they will turn into a spoiled brat like the one in the end of this video. Ofc I personally don't prefer hitting, so I screamed and guilt tripping them in order to make them do self reflect. It always works.
i've seen both the overly strict side and spoiling side in my family alone and what i can say is...the spoiling side is wayyyyy wayyyyy more destructive with lasting effects. now that my parents are gone, i'm forced to babysit older sibling that refused to grow up no matter what being said or what happens after being spoiled for so much(even though there were some shares of strictness/harshness too). even among my relatives...it's the ones that grew up with harsh treatment that somehow ended up humans....while the spoilt ones continue to be big boss babies while their parents expect their own siblings who are as old as them(rather than their now adult children)or even other siblings' children(who succeeded to grow up without being considered babies for life) to do things for them. honestly, balance is key, but if i have to choose one...after seeing my own family....yeah maybe the harsh treatment work better, for Asians at least...or for my family... lol. i remember even a school friend who grew up being beaten up(and she's a girl...in my house, women/girls never got hit) said she was proud that all the beating made her human and she couldn't stand the new generation that complaints about the littlest things.
The more I watch these Asian parents simulation creations the more I love my Chinese parent more. They are so different from most Asian parents tbh, they never forced me to learn or do anything; they never underestimate my abilities and always be there for every decision I make in my life. My mom still kisses me everyday even I’m 21 now, my dad remembers everything I wanted (food, drinks, etc) and he will buy those when he goes to supermarkets. My name, it’s Chinese and have meanings, basically means freedom, music, rhythm, and my mom’s wish for me to be happy, healthy, and live a self-loved life. They don’t care about my grade, in middle school I once got D and F and even got drop off from my intermediate math class. They saw the grade letter and they talked to me, telling me that they understand it’s been hard for me because we just immigrants to US for a year. English is still a huge problem for me so they understand my struggle and only asked me to work hard, don’t regret. I think this is exactly why I start to force myself into higher education and eventually got me 5 UC offers last Fall! I’m a history major, there’s no way for me to be doctor or lawyer since I don’t like it, and my parents never forced me to do anything I don’t like. I can feel love everyday from my parents, even tho they also don’t say “I love you” like Western parents, their love was visible and surrounding me all the time. Because their love and understanding, I can make this far in my life and become a better person in the future. I hope everyone, no matter you are Asian or not, remember the unique of you as an individual. Remember to love yourself before loving others. Remember that no matter what problem you faced through, there’s a way out, and keep believing in yourself❤
As an Indian I think the kind of relationship you had with your parents many Indian girls have something similar to that if they are brought up in upper middle class families because of gender role tho girls are educated they are not expected to do as well as guys and talking about guys...........they have a tuff time becuz they are expected to be providers.
Same I’m white and I used to hear it all the time but after 3rd grade I started to never hear it anymore and I started to think I’m never good enough for my mom I have to be perfect for her to like my older sister even my twin felt unloved so she Changed her personality to be like my older I would always try to be perfect to just hear I’m proud of you or congratulations I started to develop OCD and social anxiety because of it I thought something was wrong so I started to bottle up my emotions and when I started to break from the pressure my mom told me to stop crying even though my mom died i still feel like I never be good enough for anyone in this world and I have to be perfect
@@Gucocdyrs What !?! Omg i hope everything is gonna be ok, and the most important thing is, even if u end up having no one else left in your life, then try to be good enough for yourself then, that matters more then what others want for you, because they have their own world and may not understand. And I know what social anxiety feels like, i have like almost no friends anymore T_T and im rlly quiet, anyways i hope it gets better!
@@riptide8198 okay uh no. I don't know what kinda fucked up place you're from, but it is normal to tell your child you love them. It won't "boost their ego". What it will do is give you a better relatioship with your child. Only thing it'll boost is your kid's mental health.
@@kazazalea7747 parents do say it lmfao you probably grew up getting what you always wanted but parents say it only when its deserved not all the god damn time cba with people thinking oh lordy mental health issues shits 80% of the time in america
I love how it went from being so wholesome with the kid being free and not being forced and beat into a traumatizing situations and the parent reassuring them that everything is fine and that there a good kid, but the end the kid is spoiled and the video reveals the hard truth of not spoiling you're children. P.S, I don't love it, I actually really hate it cause I was gonna cry cause of how sweet it was, to late now 😁👀
@@elvenleaf5589 Asian parents beat their children but love them a lot….. they don’t spoil their kids with allowance and gifts but rather they let their children stay with them forever, pay for their college, pay for their expensive marriage, and make their future easy
I'm European, and my experience is kind of middle way between the Asian and the American one... No allowance, no declared unconditional love, top marks at school and the University, but I did what I wanted with my life. (No, I'm not a doctor. I travelled the world, I work as an event manager and now also in the movie industry.)
@@jpye8989 I did it for a few years, working for the international cooperation in different continents, then I stayed in my city (Florence) for a few years working in the events sector (international fairs and congresses = still surrounded by foreigners all the time), and I ended up travelling again as an assistant director and assistant editor. I just came back from a 3-week trip to LA. Let's hope COVID won't prevent me from travelling again...
@@Myria83 I have been to Italy and I have heard about Florence but unfortunately I didn't end up traveling in your city. One day! I would like to have a career change, hopefully I can do a job that involves international traveling. I don't want to be traveling all the time, but a job that has opportunities to travel around the world. That's my dream. I wish I have skills that you may have, but we never know, in life anything is possible. I will let you know when that day comes 🙂
I love the Asian custom of taking off shoes in the house, I think it's a good thing. My Taiwanese friends would give me these special slippers to wear whenever I visited them.
this is commonplace in Canada. Also, many Europeans have this practice. Hell, my mom posted a plaque on the front door that said "please remove shoes before entering" when we lived in the states.
This video is pretty spot on. Not for me, but for my little brother. Not once has he been disciplined or discussed about his actions, and now he acts so distant to the family. He doesn’t even eat dinner with us anymore, he just brings food to his room. It’s pretty sad.
I am not even Asian but god damn it would be nice to hear some of these words at the beginning. I had to call child protective services and the police a few times because of how my parents treated (both physical and mental abuse (never sexual though) and even to this day never been told that I can do what I want to do or that they support my endeavors. Credit to my father for reaching out earlier this year and giving me his best possible apology even if it was truly abhorrent in the sense that it was not a true apology. He said "Son I F*cked up." referring to how he raised me. "Please get the help you need before you have children so it doesn't happen to them too!" I honestly thought I or he would die before even getting to this stage of things with my him."
" we'll give you a weekly allowance of $30 " " whatever makes you happy I'm willing to give you anything you want !! " I'm white, and even I know that's messed up 💀
As a asian teenager, my body feels weird going out with my friends all the time, or needing the "I'm willing to give you anything you want" words, I might feel pissed off and I had to educate that parent of how to take care a child, without spoiling them SMH (Coming from a dysfunctional household, I need orders to be function, I just got used to perfectionism everyday 😅) Oh I isolate too, good luck with the white parents trying to take care of me 😂 I never go out of my room, unless I have to eat, IN MY ROOM 😌
I'm white and am in a very financially stable household. If I asked for money, I got it. Of course, I didn't do this all the time, and especially in hs. My parents were HAPPY when I would go hang out with friends cuz I don't do that a lot.
you can be a cool parent while being strict, my mum is asian but she's chill, understanding and knows hardwork a lesson she told me is that :you dont have to score high, as long as you put in hardwork i will always appreciate you. i always set high expectations for myself so this hit hard in the feels
I feel you. My parents don’t set their expectations too high of me, but my self expectations are incredibly high. Like If I don’t get straight As I start thinking about dropping out and switching schools lol. Love my parents.
@@kindlethekitsune why is this me lol, im a procrastinator but I still try to keep my grades at As and Bs, it makes me feel better about myself. (besides the switching schools part)
Me and my sister graduated in a degree my mother wanted both of us to have. My mom didn’t even praise us. She cared more about her vacation and the after party. Some Asian parents like my mom are a joke. They only care about reputation and their retirement back up children. Deep down I know she never gave enough sh*t about us
I never heard those words ever. Funny thing is, after a whipping for some infraction, she would say that she loved us. (Had 2 siblings.). No wonder my brother likes to rough his wife up during sex.
why can't you be like your classmate xxx? rather give birth to a roast pork than give birth to a junk like you! I pay for your clothes ,I pay for your food, how dare you disobey me !?
As an Asian I can bet no Asian child ever adopted by a white mom and told “I’ll always love you no matter what” will ever treat her like you showed in the video after the leap. We’ll eternally be grateful to the kind woman, she showed more love and support than an Asian parent ever would. Edit : I seem to be giving out a wrong message about Asian parents through my comment and I’m extremely apologetic for it. I didn’t mean to, but my comment unintentionally got biased towards my own experiences and hence I said the last line out of rage. Again it had nothing to do with everyone but just my personal experiences. There are good parents in all cultures and vice Versa. I didn’t mean to hurt sentiments through it.
Let's not make Asian parents out to be demons here. The love is there, it's just expressed differently. I'm sure you'll treat your parents well. But not all kids grow up respecting their parents. Even Asian kids with Asian parents who grow up in Asian countries can become spoiled brats. There are bad parents everywhere, on both ends of the spectrum.
@@kphamcao I completely understand, it was just the treatment I received from my parents that made me resent them, so I might have got a little biased here. However, I admit there are both good and bad parents in all cultures. It depends on an individual to choose to become the parent they want to be.
you make asian parents seem like really bad when its not. my parents act like stereotypical asian parents but with no toxicity, they said things stereotypical of asian parents but not on serious way. I would never trade my asian parents with the white mom
Asian parents are not evil. They can be a little strict. He was clearly exaggerating. Parenting is all about balance. You should know when to be soft and when to discipline
God, you hate your race when you really should just hate your own parents. My Asian parents tell me they love me. How about instead of white-worshipping you strive to change that culture and be loving to your family in the future?
Moral of the story for Asian and non Asian parents. Do not be too strict on your kids, love, respect and support your kids and their skills they are good vs bad at and discipline them for knowing the rights vs wrongs to make sure your kids go to a straight healthy path in life.
Also, there are a few things that Asian parents should learn: 1. Never break promises. When you promise something you have to full fill it. 2. Don't force children to do what you want. Imagine someone treats you like that. 3. Don't compare your child to anyone (especially you). 4. Encourage your child. Don't discourage your child. 5. Don't ground them all the time. They won't be comfortable with you and they won't do much bonding with you. 6. Don't scream at them. They won't feel happy. They will be depressed. 7. Don't stalk them or check through their phones. They won't trust you. I hope you have learned how to deal with a child and have learned a moral from it.
If only they would understand but I don't even have the guts to show them this because If I do I know they will just emotionally guilt trip me in thinking I'm not grateful towards them and I should respect them and decisions
@User_Unknown Well, I graduated high-school at 16, got my masters degree at 22, and now work in the R&D department at a BioTech facility. My father is my best friend and If im being honest... I have always seen him as my real life super hero. Even now, despite my being well into my 30s. These days, now that he's in his mid-70's, he and I live together once again. Something that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world... Being able to give him back what he had always made sure to give me. A life of security, support, love, and mutual respect. One that I truly appreciated enough that all i ever did was want to make him proud. Also... I never had blue hair. It was red, thank you very much. Perhaps those pre-conceived notions about "the west" aren't as accurate as you thought.
@@ReapingWillow that's like the life story of almost 75 percent of the people I know and their parents were really strict with them lol. The thing is most parents here grew up in poverty and doesn't really want their kids to grow up to be like them. Most kids understand this by the time they reach adulthood.
I know it's just a funny video but I've had a similiar experience. Time ago I had a best friend, she was nice with me but when I went to her house I was shocked by how she treated her mother... her mother was a lovely lady with a super cute and shy voice. I thought my friend was angry that day so I didn't say anything but after some time I realized that my friend was a spoiled and ungrateful daughter. In my case, my "mother" was a horrible human being and has always treated me terribly (I'm not exaggerating, I had to call the police a few times when I was living with her, she was physically and mentally abusive with me... for a variety of reasons we haven't heard from each other for years and I'm happy for that). I have always considered myself a good person BUT it's definitely not because my mother was "strict" lol. I know my case is very extreme but there are parents who believe that raising children without love and treating them like slaves is right and helps them.
As an Italian we technically wear shoes in the house but we have outdoor shoes and slippers for in the house. I still have no idea who just comes in the house with their dirty outdoor shoes unless their house is filthy.
Thats what i mean. You can wear what you want in the house! I just think its weird to have to shoes you played with outdoors, went to school with its odd to outdoor shoes in the house.
A lot of people do for many reasons. First off, unless your shoes are nasty your bare feet are worse if you have a carpet just from your natural oils, I would think it's worse for you too. IDK if this counts with wood / stone. When people have dirty shoes they take them off outside or right inside the house if you have a place for it. If your shoes are clean it's not a big deal, and people who do this often wipe their shoes before entering the house too so they don't track in any dirt or sand. While I don't wear shoes in my house now as they get too dirty here because of the climate. When I lived in Florida my shoes where always clean, spend a few seconds wiping them down and they where good as new. As long as you clean your house and don't live like a pig it makes no real difference. Health reasons, my grandmother for example needs her shoes as walking around without them pains her. She's got outside shoes too that she is willing to get dirty and never brings inside. Just a culture thing, and always shown on TV is another reason.
@@larissatom6910 So are you saying that everyone in the world except Americans takes off their shoes in the house? I don't think so. I lived for awhile in Brazil and have spent a lot of time in Mexico. No one ever took off shoes in the house.
Imagine if Steven he is his dad and amber heard is his mom man he will commit suicide the same day he was born he will Speedrun his life and commit oof
True indeed! Love & support your child but don't spoil them. Also children need to give respect to their parents as well as others. Appreciate what we get & never forget where we came from 👍
I honestly don't know what's worse. Parents who love you TOO much to the point of it being uncomfortably creepy, and gag-induced nauseating. Or parents who hate you so much that they want to *KEEEELLL* you. Love nowadays is so distorted to the point of accepting, while hate is so extreme to the point of senseless... In this day 'n age, it feels like you can love and hate ANYTHING without morals or boundaries.
As an Asian, when I have kids I will use the white parenting technique with a few modifications(because duh I'm not having my kids be like that to me)so my kids will be those few asian(probably half asian) kids that can't relate to asian parents being terrible
@@heynotizzy7493 me and my chinese friends are more surprised seeing abusive toxic household actually- our parents act like asian parents but in lovely kind of way. abusive family are not majority on current asian household.
No but why did I actually feel bad for the mum when she said “son, son ,son, sweetie, I love you” and he just ave rude comments bad at that shattered face u gave for the character is so sad 😭
1:27 The Adoptive Mother: Oh, don't cry it's ok I'll always always love you okay How I see it: Kid, keep on crying I'll always always hate you got that
0:09 this is the weirdest thing I found about many America. In my country we wear house shoes in the house then outside shoes outside. But many Americans just come in with their outside shoes
