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If you are a SHY person, you need to watch this video! Free Yourself From the Shackles of Shyness!

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In this video I am sharing on the root cause of shyness and how to deal with it once and for all.
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@uchechiezeanowayi2957 2 месяца назад

I am an introvert, people often mistake me for being shy and withdrawn, but when I handle the mic to speak at a function or engage some one in a conversation they are blown away. Though I grew up with a strict Dad, I have learned to be reserved and speak at the right time. It helps me think and plan and also earn respect too. I am also a born leader

@JamesCherish-dq3fp 2 месяца назад

Same over here And I had a really strict dad But I guess it did me alot of good

@janerobi2802 2 месяца назад

Totally relate

@AngelAmaka-rd5qp 2 месяца назад

Same here

@sherrysunshinefreeman3434 2 месяца назад

Yes❤😊

@Thollis1987 2 месяца назад

I can relate to your statement.

@user-yv7rr5ls6p 2 месяца назад

Not all introvert are shy , some are reserved to speak sense

@sherrysunshinefreeman3434 2 месяца назад

True ❤😊

@saymoijoanie4621 2 месяца назад

Well said

@tentenprintworks8157 Месяц назад

Very true!!!!

@user-dl8wv8ez2q Месяц назад

Very true

@ikyo609 Месяц назад

To me the solution to shyness is knowledge, when a person is well informed, shy cannot survive, it becomes very surmountable..

@lydiafrimpong9805 Месяц назад

I totally agree with you

@Omasquare Месяц назад

Very correct, knowledge is the solution to shyness. I overcame my shyness when I became well informed

@ifeanyipaul6762 Месяц назад

Knowledge from where please... Books or what?

@thisorthaat Месяц назад

knowledge from similar experiences with people and books @@ifeanyipaul6762

@shanelmoses3046 Месяц назад

You’re right

@patrickbilai9418 14 дней назад

I was stuttering and hard of hearing and the worst thing shyness controlled my life, we started a soup kitchen on the side of the road feeding the hungry, l remember a lots kids were coming and thats how l started to be open with the kids , reading bible stories, in the midst of that God heals me of my stuttering and my ears started to hear properly, l gained confidence through just feeding the children, and today lm teaching some skills to women who are unemployed in our community l have also started businesses of selling used clothes and furniture , lm still feeding the kids in the local community also , the bondage has been broken through touching other people's people s lives

@Lilcutiesnmomma 2 месяца назад

If you were once a shy person, you would understand what she's saying

@gloryceeyeditingacademy1 Месяц назад

Exactly

@nasiruisaac9633 Месяц назад

True

@faynelson9476 26 дней назад

Exactly so!

@cynthiamubanga7441 4 дня назад

True

@user-ck1uf7zd9x 16 часов назад

Very true.

@Itzzzzafra 2 месяца назад

It’s not easy to come out of it…I broke in tears when i realized i had missed so much in life

@ednaowususekyere1149 2 месяца назад

Hmm

@Mercymagie966 Месяц назад

It start by believing in your self,my mom and my brother made me shy no one listened to me my young age I became silent at age of ten till 25yrs I gave birth to my baby and I refuse her to be shy so I had to stand my ground for me and for her,think I couldn't do I did it for her now am shyness free

@sisandamgqamqho4455 2 месяца назад

I feel imprisoned in my own body, I watch and admire people who are bold and confident. It’s really a painful thing to experience, it doesn’t matter where I am I just cannot exude confidence 😢 I wish God can really help me it’s an everyday struggle 💔💔

@ifeoluwaodewumi3442 2 месяца назад

Get a teaching job. It will break your shyness

@chikaikwumere2782 2 месяца назад

I was once so shy, still working on it

@Itzzzzafra 2 месяца назад

Don’t worry no one is better than you Remember that❤️❤️

@GoodyJones 2 месяца назад

You are not alone they are millions of people like you understand this fact and it will ease your mind.

@ingridpaul7 2 месяца назад

I recommend you say affirmations. For example, "I am so happy and grateful that I am bold and express myself very well"

@ijeomaibelaka5422 Месяц назад

I grew up a very shy, timid and unexpressive lady due to some of the reasons you stated. It affected me badly and made me loose series of opportunities. In addition to the reasons you mentioned, I was also not comfortable with my body as a female compared to others my age.. I have a very small stature which affected my body development in the right areas I always feel shy and unsafe around other females most especially in a gathering. The feeling of not been good enough and maybe ugly clouded me so much I always feel like the odd one in the midst of others I am still going through this but probably not as bad as it was while growing up In all sincerity I was crying while listening to you and still crying because you're absolutely right about all you said

@chemmybee Месяц назад

Listening to Winnie in this video, it felt like she was describing me 100%….. I need to add that your comment describes my experience 101%. My struggle with timidity started in secondary when I became conscious that I had a very small stature and a disproportionate body. Now that I am in my 30s, I still can’t say I am over it😢. I agree that the struggle with shyness and timidity is a lot different when it bothers around one’s body. I can’t even count the number of opportunities I have passed on because of the feeling of inadequacy ( a ripple effect of timidity). I pray that God gives you complete victory over the feeling of not being good enough 🤗🙏

@nwezeonyekachukwu489 28 дней назад

I was a shy type as a result of my poor family background, the type of clothes I wore made me feel inferior and shy. I also have a small stature which made me hate my appearance, I would always wish to be like my friends because they look older than their age unlike me, I look far too younger than my age. The day that poor mindset changed and I stopped wishing to be like my friends was the day I lost one of my friends😞 I so much adored and admired this girl to an extent that I wished I will be her. A few years after our secondary school education she died. That fateful day I cried and asked God to forgive me for not being proud of whom he created me to be. If God had exchanged us like I wished by now i won't be tying this because I would probably be six feet below 👇 Thank God he's God, I thank God for his mercy because I would have been dead and forgotten by now I'm super grateful and I appreciate this life that I have, small or big stature, tall or short I no send.... I Thank God For The Gift Of Life, it's a precious gift that a lot are wishing to have but they are no more.

@nwezeonyekachukwu489 28 дней назад

That was how I started appreciating this beautiful statue of mine, I no longer see it as small honestly....I now see it as the best... because no other person has it, it's unique to me and From the depth of my heart, I Thank God For it

@oladunjoyepraise8871 2 месяца назад

Confidence is everything, I realized this and I am actively trying to bring myself out of it. I can say for free that Shyness has 0 benefit, no single gain of being shy. I have wasted so many years in this, it is well.

@user-hn5xk7kh3l Месяц назад

My friend, shyness is very disturbing but it has some good benefits, about 80 percent of shy people are intelligent and do well early in life

@katekate7622 2 месяца назад

Not all introverts are shy. People think I'm shy and timid until we have a conversation and they are shocked. I won't go out of my way to talk to you or give welcoming smiles but you'll definitely have a memorable conversation with me and meet a very interesting, chatty and well informed person beneath the quietness. If you have a lot to offer and you're a deep thinker you'll be okay with being quiet, it doesn't mean you're shy and if you give a lot of value when you speak you won't be eager to talk a lot.

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

You make a valid point but this video is strictly about shyness not introverts…there’s a clear difference.

@busayoomisanya3798 2 месяца назад

You are absolutely right. Being shy is not totally bad in itself. Some personalities described above have low self esteem issues not particularly ‘shy’

@SinglesandMarried001 2 месяца назад

@@busayoomisanya3798 inferiority complex

@beatriceogidi176 2 месяца назад

Is there any difference between being shy and having low self esteem? People that are shy have low self esteem

@katekate7622 2 месяца назад

@@beatriceogidi176 That's not true. Some people don't just like the spotlight, we can't all be extroverts and it does not mean there's something wrong with you. If the spotlight comes 🤷🏻‍♀️ fine, learn how to handle it (that's my advice for introverts) you have to train yourself to be comfortable when such comes, it won't make sense running away when recognition for your good deeds come. And if does not you're totally fine too. If you're called to speak or lead don't run away either, that's where the training comes in. I'm also an introvert, if you call me to speak I'm fine, if you don't I'm fine too. And I don't like people are desperate to have the spotlight on them and talk too much (some will lie in the process of talking and just have many tricks up their sleeves) sometimes you just want to tell them to rest, not because you hate them but because you're tired of them being in your face and you want to see something different and fresh.

@AwesomeGod1450 2 месяца назад

I broke down watching this. Everything you spoke about speaks to me. You are lucky to have figured this out earlier on in your life. I'm in my ealy 30's and I still have this shyness fully, it chokes me every second. I'm in a phase where I'm constantly working on unlocking myself but it is the hardest thing to do. I literary have no major friend, can't initiate friendship nor sustain them and I feel so socially awkward. I also realise that I attract men who are like me, currently dating one whose shyness is on a higher level than mine but I'm still holding on because it is even more difficult to get a 'hello' from anyone. This is hard and it's worst than a sickness. I don't wish this kind of upbringing on anyone. I'm so happy I came across your video today. Feels like therapy but undoing everything at this stage is tough.

@olojooluwatobi2012 2 месяца назад

I wish I can give you a hug right now 🫂🫂🫂

@encyclopaedia641 2 месяца назад

Yes. I’m so glad she made this video because this is what I’m currently battling with and somehow it helps me understand what is wrong I couldn’t understand I didn’t know what it’s called until this video it really enlightened me. My trauma has a great deal to do with it. Not childhood but still during my formative years, during adolescence 17-20yrs. I can’t get a friend or friends a that I really would like or be in a supportive circle, can’t get myself to speak or act quickly enough and just watch things or people pass me by I’m incredibly sad and depressed and just shut off completely I don’t even expect a hello from anyone I just keep it moving.

@Crypto_dimma 2 месяца назад

This is me completely 😢😢😢. I'm 30 and very shy

@thegreenerland9618 2 месяца назад

It amazes me many people are actually dealing with shyness a.k.a timidity. I used to be exactly as you have described yourself. Though I still battle with shyness bur most people don't know . I grew up with an abusive stepmother and she always rang it in my ears that I wasn't good enough so I grew up with thr notion that I wasn't worthy to be anyone's friend, worthy to have the best of things e.t c. How did I deconstruct? I will tell you. In 2012, someone gave a book called the rhapsody of realities and I learnt about the holyspirit. Guess what, I don't have confidence in myself till date 😅. I have confidence in the holyspirit that lives in me and that has led me to do amazing things that even my family members are in awe of. First I went from being average in class to being top 3 without even trying. First masters degree holder in my family(acquired abroad), most travelled. I can't name all. If you want to improve sis, you can learn to have intimate relationship with the holyspirit. You will amaze yourself like I did.

@julietanaetoh385 2 месяца назад

Really, it took me back to the days. I'm breaking free already. Thanks Winnie.

@bridgitkatele 2 месяца назад

Hi Winnie❤ I can't express enough how much your School of Elegance has transformed my life. Your wisdom, guidance, and encouragement have not only boosted my confidence but have also inspired me to start my own RU-vid channel. Your content is a constant source of inspiration, and I find myself returning to your videos and emails daily for motivation and new ideas. Your elegance and poise are truly remarkable, and I aspire to reach your level of excellence. To take my channel to the next level and produce high-quality content, I would be incredibly grateful for any advice or support you could offer, particularly in terms of equipment like a good camera. I am eager to create videos that reflect the same level of sophistication and professionalism that you exemplify. Thank you for being such an amazing mentor and role model. Your impact on my life is immeasurable, and I look forward to continuing this journey with your invaluable guidance. With deepest gratitude and admiration, Bridgit.

@julietanaetoh385 2 месяца назад

@@bridgitkatele nice

@patiencebakare Месяц назад

For me. I am shy because I dont feel intelligent enough to contribute to whatever is been communicated so i just withdraw and allow every other person do the talking. Truth is i was a talkative while growing up.

@huseinaiddrisu2974 15 дней назад

😢

@StylewithKemi 14 дней назад

Wonder what changed

@cynthiamubanga7441 4 дня назад

😢

@IdeeIsang 2 месяца назад

My mum used to tell me ‘behave yourself you don’t know who’s watching and would start talking’ that really made me to be so self conscious especially in public like I should be at my best behavior at all times

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

I totally can relate with this…but you can break free if you think this is doing you more harm than good. It’s great to be well mannered but it’s also very okay to express yourself at your most authentic self.

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

@AbimbadeEsther2504 2 месяца назад

Winnie this is me you are talking about, I know you are talking about yourself but I see myself in the picture but am working Soo hard to be better person. Thank you so much it. Much love

@KunlemiaBelinda 2 месяца назад

This is all me miss Winnie 😢😢😢. Please check my email .. will truly appreciate to hear from you

@nalwangadorcus544 2 месяца назад

OMG JESUS!

@user-gk8te8es2j 2 месяца назад

Me too oo thank God am getting better now

@roseeffiong3606 2 месяца назад

Same here. I'm so happy that I'm part of the family

@MakuVikesh 2 месяца назад

Same as me

@grow_with_gifty 3 дня назад

Im still in the process of overcoming shyness, but i can say as i grow older, i got knowledge, i started loving myself and abilities, i got closer to God and its working for me😊

@NanaAmaD. 2 месяца назад

This is me. I teared up upon hearing…” watch opportunities pass me by” only God knows how many I missed.

@ChidinmaDaniel-db2jl 2 месяца назад

😢

@kaliisakaita5831 2 месяца назад

You not alone dear.

@jeffdarkwah2676 Месяц назад

That's why we need the spirit of God to embolden us

@manzikentertainment 19 дней назад

The moment you said"I watched opportunities pass by me", I realized that I'm the one you are talking to

@kilohgwendoline315 10 дней назад

Same here

@duakibbaariyan1042 2 месяца назад

Watching this video is like my own life played right in my face. This video made me cry tears. It feels like my own life's documentary. Yeah, I am a man and introvert. Many people find me "awkward" and do things to me and get away with it and I won't say or do anything. My work life has become a burden on my life. Having to go to work everyday has become a a serious burden and draining my life. But I am working on rebuilding myself and break away from this social trap. It is possible

@BlessingUdah Месяц назад

Yes, dear it is very possible. Just keep working on yourself ❤

@gloryceeyeditingacademy1 Месяц назад

Yes, it is certainly possible

@nelo_xo 2 месяца назад

This is so relatable. From being raised by overly strict dad, to having hormonal acne and all, I think I went from an extremely bold little girl to an easily intimidated adult.

@CynthiaAmoah-larbi Месяц назад

I am over 50 years now and still timid and shy person I want to come out of it. Very happy to watch this vidoe today. I wnt to be able to talk to people due to my work now.

@Vibes-u2e 2 месяца назад

Shyness is real bad I'm dealing with it and I'll surely overcome it

@bonwieesther8777 2 месяца назад

This lady spoke a lot about me saying it was her.... I pray I overcome it

@nancylakot8139 2 месяца назад

Parents need to encourage their children who are shy. I do that with my daughter. She is shy too & now trying out school activities & keeps getting beta. Thanks for this. ❤❤

@aliyahlawal-rq6lc 2 месяца назад

Very good

@majesticcreations3222 2 месяца назад

You re correct. I’m making my children not become me and it’s paying off. Mine is also mixed with a high dose of low self esteem 😢

@user-sv3bc6ve4z 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much Ms Winnie this video is my entire life am a 16 yr old and very shy and timid cant wait to here the tips to break free crom it permanently i have been struggling with this since i knew myself ❤❤❤

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

It’s time to break free Dear. You can and you will do it. Dont miss next week’s episode okay. I love you and I am rooting for you!❤️

@user-sv3bc6ve4z 2 месяца назад

@@winniesschoolofelegance thank you so much this means a lot to me ❤️☺️

@roshelleroberts2996 2 месяца назад

This is so me. At my age I'm still shy and very much introverted. Always keep to my self and like my own space but because I'm into business I'm feeling the negative side of being shy because I'm not able to put myself out there and mingle. It could be a disadvantage at it's best. I really need to break free and be social. Waiting for part 2. I really enjoy your videos. Very inspiring and educational. Thanks once again Winnie

@SueChef100 2 месяца назад

Awareness is the start of a new era

@mugishasolomon6969 Месяц назад

Even beyond 35yrs

@VictorJunior-bd3pi 7 дней назад

@@SueChef100 Shut up dawg

@Kof_Believer 20 дней назад

Most of the African countries do not have classroom presentations in the primary schools. This is one of the ways to kill shyness in its infancy.

@UCEE_BLESSED 2 месяца назад

Sometimes, it can get frustrating when your parents always shuns your ideas and don't even make efforts to give you their own ideas

@nwokejifaith9359 2 месяца назад

I was scolded for talking a lot. As the last child, my elder siblings will always scold me for engaging in their conversations whenever they’re talking. They’ll tell me that my mates are not there so I shouldn’t get involved. This has really dealt with my communication and social life.

@ogundiranmartha4405 2 месяца назад

Yeah this is so me,I am so shy about everything.I was being scolded by my mum and Aty was always scolding for invovoling in conservation.

@idaraephraimjames6266 2 месяца назад

Yeah, exactly what happened to me, people will be telling my Mom this chat girl is too lousy and all. At the end, I was bottled up. Up till now I'm still struggling. Always alone, can't express myself, and it hurts a lot.

@Amyspianofingers 2 месяца назад

This is me oooo… last child of 8kids…and i know for sure it has affected me negatively in my life. I was naturally born a “gbaza queen” … however i hv grown into a shadow of someone else. I look at my second daughter… how active, bright and very sociable she is. I look at her and can tell this is a mirror of me. However, i hv become something else

@evbuuwaye-omijie7377 2 месяца назад

As a child, It is rude to engage when adults are having a conversation.. Children ought to be trained and corrected by their elders to ensure proper upbringing.. but the elders should correct tactfully.. When I was a child my elder siblings and cousins talked a lot around me, I listened and learned without adding my voice to the conversation because they weren't talking to me.. While it is good to encourage children to be expressive it is also more important to equip them with good morals.. Children these days are morally bankrupt and engage in all sorts of vices because their parents, in ignorance and laziness, have failed to give them proper upbringing

@Ike-IbehEsther-jg1uk 2 месяца назад

For real strict parenting actually affects a child's confidence you begin to lack abilities to socialize and creat bonds with your mates and become so conscious of yourself

@user-vu3ir5yf6l Месяц назад

Yeah I can relate

@uwayezuphionah9895 Месяц назад

Things am facing right now

@uwayezuphionah9895 Месяц назад

It's very hard for me to make friends

@RinahAviellah Месяц назад

Perfectly said

@diamakaa 2 месяца назад

It's my university period that hurt me the most, shy , timid but you cant intimidate me always because I'm sturbon, the difference is how i react without composure. My last academic activity in school my project defense, i practiced and prayed a million time and after i succeeded, even lecturers were surprised cos they said they dont know i cant talk, i got A in my project defence. They said that because of the way i was in class, they didn't atleast that i know something at all.

@laryorgfxda Месяц назад

Same here same story ...all my presentations in school and even during Nysc were great.. that was how realized myself

@jolayemiidowu7082 Месяц назад

I thought I was the only one who thought at a point in time that my parents weren't my real parents, the way they chastise in public eh and also several times you have to apologize to your elder ones just because they're older even though you're right with what you said.....to the point you will literally felt like your opinion is not needed on any matter just because you're the last born and the rest are way older.

@user-rn6pu6mc2y Месяц назад

This is me

@janiceantwi2731 Месяц назад

There is something funny about people with these traits, they perform excellently when they want to. They don’t rush for the mic and they don’t rush to be noticed but when they decide to shine, they shine brightly. Choose your battles right.

@beaconmike4900 Месяц назад

Yu were not shy you were just scared to take the step people mistake fear for shyness their not same

@kaliisakaita5831 2 месяца назад

My children will never suffer , with shyness .I will fight for their wellness.Our guardians could embarrass us back then

@sarahtutu4800 24 дня назад

Hmm😢

@MaryCatherineMathew 2 дня назад

God bless you ma'am for this .I cried because this video triggered a trauma I never knew was within me . growing up with my Aunt contributed to my shyness and lack of self confidence because when ever I go out to play in the compound I get punished for that when I try to play alone I was accuse of something else 😢thank you for helping me release this trauma.

@lumnwishu1871 2 месяца назад

I used to be a very shy person, to an extend that I was afraid of people, I am fighting it greatly

@invertedbeautiful 2 месяца назад

You have to take it to God in prayer and repent for allowing the spirit of fear to consume you. War with words!!!! Use the word of God and fast if you need to. Shyness is a spirit an evil one and definitely not from God❤

@okemercy7795 2 месяца назад

I resonate with this, I can't look at people in the eyes. I still battle that till date

@thegreenerland9618 2 месяца назад

Me too..can't believe I can be scared of people

@preciouschukwuka7175 2 месяца назад

They will really take advantage of u

@preciouschukwuka7175 2 месяца назад

@@okemercy7795I am really fighting it

@AlimatTemitope-vn8hu Месяц назад

Have been calling myself gentle girl not knowing it's shyness ,still struggling with it 😢

@Bangbros247massagetheraphy Месяц назад

I am not shy Am just really selective and intentional about the kind of people i welcome into my life...

@sibuyilendlovu6946 4 дня назад

You were just talking about me 💯 💯 Exactly my life I used be like that...being so comfortable around family being the talkative..even around my family sometimes when I get sick I couldn't say it even to my mom I'll just be quiet till sees that something is wrong😢....same as in public you won't do or say anything always quite😢...even at school never had friends...always underestimated some always think I'm fool for not socializing...now 21 years a lot can't believe it ...I'm free and I'm not that one to intimidate ❤❤

@yummyfoodies474 2 месяца назад

Infact, you are talking to me here. Thanks so much for sharing this fact .

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

My absolute pleasure Dear!❤

@BabilaMelody-b1t 4 дня назад

Thanks everyone much I now realised the reason why I am a shy person Thanks

@olanikeolaide 2 месяца назад

I have phobia for crowd and I have been praying to God to help me fight it because that is one thing I hate about me can’t talk smoothly in public can’t express my self ,Winnie thank you for this video and I am patiently waiting for the next one on how u were able to fight it

@VictorJunior-bd3pi 2 месяца назад

You're basically an introvert

@olanikeolaide 7 дней назад

@@VictorJunior-bd3pi naaah am not

@olanikeolaide 7 дней назад

But if u can explain why u said I am introvert I might be wrong all this while thinking I am an extrovert

@olanikeolaide 7 дней назад

@@VictorJunior-bd3pi certainly not an introvert

@olanikeolaide 7 дней назад

@@VictorJunior-bd3pi but if u can give me reason why u said so I might be wrong all this while to think I am an extrovert

@gailbrumigin1623 2 месяца назад

I was very shy as a child teenager and even in my young adulthood, I had to change that when I realise how much I was missing out on .

@balmercherono3142 2 месяца назад

How did you do it? I am really struggling

@MugabiJB 2 месяца назад

"not all introverts are shy,it's their nature...

@invertedbeautiful 2 месяца назад

That nature is not of God, it’s of the devil!!!! The lord has not given us a timid spirit but that of Power, Love and Joy❤

@IsiomasSpace 2 месяца назад

Exactly 💯 Winnie may just be an introvert, not actually shy

@IsiomasSpace 2 месяца назад

@@invertedbeautifultimid there means fear/shy, not being an introvert. Except you're referring to someone who's both an introvert and exhibits shyness

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

@@IsiomasSpacenope, what I experienced wasn’t anything related to being an introvert… it was full blown shyness! Cos I am naturally a very expressive and open person and I am also very big on interacting with people.

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

I wasn’t talking about introverts in this video… What I experienced wasn’t anything related to being an introvert… it was full blown shyness! Cos I am naturally a very expressive, open person and I am also very big on interacting with people.

@akinolafavour3906 2 месяца назад

You know while I was listening...you said something that struck me. You said shyness can even deprive one of every opportunities that comes one's way... and also judging from your own experience, I have come to realize that is a matter of time, moreover it's just a phase of life...To be honest, I am a shy person , but I believe am gradually coming out from that shackles. Thank you ma'am for this great impacts You are such a wonderful and amazing person.

@couplecrush8849 Месяц назад

You only see the negative aspects of your overly protective parent. Don't forget that this can help protect you from s3x predators.

@user-wp9xd5gi7p 2 месяца назад

Everything you said is absolutely true, I've really suffered so much for being an introvert, even finding it so difficult to socialize with people. But thank I'm breaking free already from this shackles of self-doubt, inferiority complex and lots more that comes with shyness. Thanks Miss Winnie for sharing your story to inspire others ❤

@jeffdarkwah2676 Месяц назад

Yes yes we thank God

@maryannaudu7012 2 месяца назад

OMG I see so much of myself in you especially when you talked about how expressive you were when you were a child but grew up to be timid same here with me

@nwamakaezekwe2931 2 месяца назад

I had zero social exposure as a child. This has affected me badly

@jennycosmax Месяц назад

Same here

@bluesklose4019 Месяц назад

Same here and I'm really trying so hard to break free. I need more guidelines

@GlawRee-kr7ok 2 месяца назад

Exactly Ma'am! This is me. I'm still working on it. My parents especially dad so strict. It made me dislike him till he passed on when i was a teenager. 🤦

@thelegaldoyen Месяц назад

Wow! Watching this must be so divinely orchestrated. I was just meditating on what I've become a few days ago and I can relate to everything you said here. Some of our parents subconsciously allowed us develop this traits because that was what they knew best at the time. I am now in a developed country and I can see the difference in how children are been raised here. Thank you Winnie. I'm so glad I watched this.

@jaqueKN 2 месяца назад

Our parents were never available mentally yet controlled us so much😢 we were beaten regularly and neighbors thought she was a step mom😢

@virgeanngeorge9966 Месяц назад

I had the very same experience with my dad

@eveebere1065 Месяц назад

Sorry you had to go through that. I trust you are healed from the trauma now. All the best.

@PhindileDlamini-hp4vc Месяц назад

I can relate to what u saying i hated my mother

@FunmilayoOladimeji-df1zw 21 день назад

Exactly what happened to me also since I was a kid and I'm still struggling with it till now

@FunmilayoOladimeji-df1zw 21 день назад

Whenever my mates are playing I'll be locked inside by my mom and if I find a way to go out without her knowledge I will be beaten so bad in front of the crowd 😭 I wish that I didn't exist at all 😭

@gbengamatelewawon2650 2 месяца назад

I'm even too shy to make a comment. to the point I can't really express myself and this has affected me in my career and my skill. people always commend me of how talented I am but I feel its not enough to be showcased to the public. but then I know the source of all this shyness( which is my elder brother; in as much as he's supportive, he always puts PRESSURE on me and all of that makes me really overwhelmed, being afraid of living with people. but I believe its just for a time and I'm working towards networking and socializing with humans. thank you Winnie for sharing your experience. it was a relief.

@PatraChinedum 2 месяца назад

I just realized I acquired mine in boarding school...God helping me, no child of mine will be a boarding student until SS3.

@preyeoghaleonyoh 2 месяца назад

Your child can go to boarding from Jss one Pat. All you do is to build self confidence in that child from home. I used to think like that before until I joined a parenting academy. It is what you build in your child that the child will go out to display.

@mbiwechijioke4204 22 дня назад

You're so right on how playing with friends, enemies and neighbors help to develop social skills as a child.

@Ayishetu567 Месяц назад

U have to do this on television it will help more parents

@user-lt1sf7iu7x 2 месяца назад

I'm really waiting for how you broke free from shyness. One thing about I've noticed about been shy is that it literally make me belief every other person is better than me and even when i want to intentionally develop myself this thought that i will still stammer when i come to the public kills the vibe. Please, we are waiting for the next video.

@helenorhonise7818 2 месяца назад

My dad beat me a lot because I was really stubborn now I have my own child I beat him over any small tin but I really wan d best for my son , more of d time I dt like way my mom shut my son up anytime he talks 😢 , Tanx for dis video I pray I change so quickly

@pelumiadeosun1286 2 месяца назад

You have to do everything within your power to break the cycle. You can try to gradually reduce being harsh. When he annoys you, try to address the particular thing he did wrong through COMMUNICATION. You may fall back to your previous attitude but determine to stop. Think of what's at stake (you're destroying someone you love). Ask yourself if what your son just did wrong is more powerful than your love for him. I wish you the best.

@chinyerechukwu8901 Месяц назад

I am typing in tears coz u just described me. I am in my mid 30's shy and timid, i can't express myself i have always been a loner no body to talk to, my social life zero. I don't know how i passed through the university and how i defended my project GOD did it, i avoid scenes don't to be involved in anything i have alot to say but let me stop here. Thank you for this video Winnie i will definitely break free.

@jemilamusa3797 Месяц назад

Same here dear,age and level of academic dsame .may God c us 2ru

@OpioGabriel-vm4gc Месяц назад

I agree with you 100% for me when I was a growing kid I never played with my fellow young children my dad keeps us at home for a very long time with Jesus Christ everything is possible thanks

@BlessingAmeh-du2kl Месяц назад

I am a very shy person but I promise my self today to work on my self

@gracemark5005 Месяц назад

Same

@OyiboCosmas 19 дней назад

That is the spirit. You can achieve anything

@BlessingAmeh-du2kl 17 дней назад

@@OyiboCosmas Thank you

@olufunmiakinfe8446 Месяц назад

Thank you winie am almost 47 still shy, timid, and afraid. I dnt bilive it when a promise made meby people, even By God.,,,,,,

@Shesrachael4 2 месяца назад

I grew up being so shy because i was so scared of mum who was constantly criticizing me, making me feel every other child out their was better than i was. I couldn't express myself properly and even uptill today i don't tell her things i should, i feel like she's a stranger to me. This thing has affected every part of my life and i feel like i grew up with a narcissist. But I know I'm not alone ❤ Thank you winnie❤❤

@pamelaezekiel1322 2 месяца назад

You're not alone dear. Hugs

@enowdelis8335 2 месяца назад

Sending you hugs🤗

@ukevictor3222 2 месяца назад

you are not alone on this 😞

@UcheOnuigbo Месяц назад

I literally have no friend and cannot initiate any friendship nor even sustain them and I am always socially withdrawn 😔

@scribemanjustice2028 Месяц назад

You are a chosen person. Chosen people don't mingle much

@victoriansuccess Месяц назад

Yeah that's a challenge but nevertheless you can create the friend you need regardless of the time you found them okay, just go and get a friend let him/her know that you want to be friends... Learn more on how to keep friends too

@beaconmike4900 Месяц назад

Become successful and you will see that you don't need friends rather it's friends that needs you 😂 you are not shy you just introvert or the alpha male

@sadraolaedo4733 18 дней назад

@@scribemanjustice2028 Shut up , you are sound stupid

@hopeinaju8172 2 месяца назад

Being extroverted is good but somehow somehow i really admire introverted people I somuch ❤ nd have respect for composed people who don't talk much but are bold, kind nd respectful, those are the kind of people i make friends with

@winniesschoolofelegance Месяц назад

Being shy and introverted are 2 very different things though.

@damarischepkorir9636 2 месяца назад

That's me for sure, my mum didn't allow me go anywhere, and now I'm so shy Infront of the people, but I'm learning how to be free from it😂😂I love you and your work🇰🇪🇰🇪

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

Well done Dear!❤

@EmekeOshiele Месяц назад

Introvert Shouldn't Be Mistaken For Shyness❤❤❤. But Your Point On Shyness Is Great

@danisasharon 2 месяца назад

I love you so much, ma'am!! You teach me so much, even as a student that I am. I sometimes slip up the elegance rules, but I believe watching you continually no matter what will build me to a confident and elegant lady as well. I've always been a shy person. Watching this video brings me to tears. I feel like you're talking to me directly. I usually thought to wait for the shyness to go away by itself. Now that I've watched this, I have decided to 'take the bull by the horn' as you've said ma'am. Goodbye shyness!! I love you so much, Ms Winne❤❤❤

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

Oh my! I love you too Darln! It’s time to kick shyness to the curb. I will share the practical tips that helped me deal with mine in the video we are uploading next week. So look out for it okay.❤️

@user-uq2bx8tp7y 28 дней назад

I am an introvert, people hardly talk to me and felt excluded and withdrawn from their presence. One thing that kept me going is saying positive things to myself and not being concerned about what other people say about me. I had a really strict over protective parent who doesn't like me visiting friends, going out ,staying indoors etc like that. Glory be to God for praying and asking him for boldness to speak infront of crowd without fridgeting at all ,i am actually happy staying out of my comfort zone and moving to a place i will be known and recognised.

@mercywanjiru5824 2 месяца назад

I really relate to this; my parents used to rebuke me or give the 'look' or even pinch me at the moment for every little thing i did that didn't align to them so i became very conscious of everything i did from the time i was young, same thing when i was younger my mum told me i was very talkative.

@encyclopaedia641 2 месяца назад

Same. For me, it was a so called friend. During my adolescence to young adult give me the look pinch me for any little thing that she doesn’t agree with and trust me it was ridiculous

@eloakam8290 2 месяца назад

You're right winnie all those factors you mention are what am going through. Thank God am overcoming this monster little by little now❤❤

@Muntakjunaidu 2 месяца назад

May God bless your efforts of putting this video's altogether. Always waiting for the Sunday upload. Much love from Sokoto ❤

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

Amen! 🙏🏽 I love you!❤❤

@justqueenlaney 2 месяца назад

I call you my role model cos that’s what you are to me. Learnt a lot from you than I did in school or any other platform. I love you. Thank you for all you do❤❤

@Mayschops 2 месяца назад

This is so me..38yr old Lawyer, yet so shy and timid. I dont know when i became like this but i wasnt always like this. Started about 6yrs ago

@Tana_57 2 месяца назад

I can relate, please can you share more? I'm also in my 30's and still struggling with it...I was even considering taking a course in law/advocacy, I'm really surprised you're still struggling with it.

@OyiboCosmas 19 дней назад

Really. So how do you represent your clients in court?

@winnieboateng5334 2 месяца назад

You are really talking to me namesake. I can be shy and anxious especially if I am in a big public social place. Giving points from a child hood I grew up really strict by parents, it get me Anxiety since childhood. Now I am trying to overcome from Shyness. Thank you so much namesake.❤❤

@assumptaonyinyechi4839 2 месяца назад

My shyness started when as a child, nobody motivated me, nor my ideas I am struggling my way out it now that I am a teacher. Thank you for this teaching

@Starr_lit Месяц назад

Oh wow

@spectrumbeautyandmore 2 месяца назад

Am still the same at 32. Been trying to fight it in vain. Thanks for the tips Winnie😊

@brightsofo3465 2 месяца назад

I hope I change after watching this video 😭This everything about me😭😭

@AdaomaJudith 17 дней назад

Same here😢

@nafisatsalihu2608 Месяц назад

Oooo my God I feel like you are just describing everything about me that is what exactly I'm suffering from

@elizabethjohnson4127 2 месяца назад

You are my mentor. I am still a shy person trying to break free from it and all these traits you've mentioned is exactly my experiences as a child. Looking forward to the next video on how you broke free from shyness

@bisoyeoni Месяц назад

Winnie thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your story. Great video. Well said, I learnt alot.

@user-ce2jw9ul4z 2 месяца назад

This is all about me ma'am I have tried to work on myself but still battling with it

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

You will overcome this in Jesus name. Dont miss next week’s episode okay. It will give you some insight on how to tackle it. In the meantime, start affirming to yourself “I am a very confident and bold woman, and I have the ability to express myself confidently and boldly.”

@user-ce2jw9ul4z 2 месяца назад

Thanks so ma'am love you

@Dandydiddy Месяц назад

This is the first time someone is talking about it like this. I thought I’ve broken free but it’s still there

@maryAmoduu 2 месяца назад

Thank you the most elegant queen...... I'm here for another stage ❤ thank you so much for the educative topic 😊😊

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

It’s my absolute pleasure!❤

@ElevateDiaries 2 месяца назад

Winnie, you have been my role model since i came across this channel early this year. I admire everything about you. Listening to you talk about all the things I have been feeling for the last almost 5 Years is so relieving. I am in an era of taking inner work and developing myself and if you know this feeling, then its a sign its possible to get better. Thank you so much Winnie ❤

@agyeiwaahrita6089 2 месяца назад

I really love singing that i joined the praises and worship team at church. I sing greatly at home but sing awkwardly at rehearsals and church service because of shyness 😢.

@PatienceAndera Месяц назад

😢 you are not alone now I have developed some weird pain in the chest trying to sing straight

@joycemaduako1269 2 месяца назад

My experience in my childhood contributed greatly to my shyness, even now that am married, as a mum and as a student . I can’t even stand in front of people without tearing and it’s really affecting me

@Presh_jumz 2 месяца назад

Thanks so much for sharing this, it’s as though u can read me through & through, very conversational and bold around my own people but will rather be by myself outside my comfort zone & avoid social functions

@0hhwhoisshe 2 месяца назад

Waw,, ❤

@user-sh1wg6ho1x 14 дней назад

I didn't grow up with my parents, had less or no social experience at all, everything to me came in strict manner I felt like my freedom was taken away from me, was living a life where you are forced to act and do acts of adults at a very young age, any slight mistake you would know heavy punishments awaits you! There was no room for doing and learning from your mistakes as a child and grow up with a timid living lifestyle with less self-esteem 😢 Thank you, may God bless you❤

@NellyAnyanwu 2 месяца назад

First to comment Thank you so much for the enlightenment

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

It’s my absolute pleasure!❤

@NtiayungClodiankenneh 2 месяца назад

Sister Winnie, you talking to me in a way, i for one grew up shy even around my family members, their strickness, the constant taunting me about my weight and high, it make me shy away from people, it affected me so bad even during my school years. Its now that i grew into adulthood i got tired of being inferior,shy and letting people walk on me and im glad im getting to know me more ,love me more and be more expressive and outgoing. Thanks for this share ✨🙏

@creativityenthusiast 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for this insightful video Winnie... I look forward to a video from you on your journey as a content creator ❤

@favy0670 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much 😢❤ You literally practice what you're preaching “ elegance ” Your hair looks good, you talk with so much confidence and am learning.

@danisasharon 2 месяца назад

I love all your outfits also, Ms. Winnie!❤️✨️🌹

@winniesschoolofelegance 2 месяца назад

Thank you!❤

@sanemshazi7000 2 месяца назад

You are helping us. Some of us are lacking because of the insecurities and low self esteem. Confident people dare to try new things, always willing to learn therefore are successful. I pray for everyone everyone including myself that's dealing with this. God heal us. ❤

@julianamensah6943 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much, My elegant queen

@ruthezefili2789 Месяц назад

Among other things that cancels shyness is having high self esteem and self confidence. Believing in one's self makes one confident and able to communicate with people .

@nancylakot8139 2 месяца назад

Not every shy person fails in life, it depends on who keeps putting them down. Joel Osteen is shy but preaches. Joseph Prince was extremely a shy teenager & youth but overcame it by trying.

@rehobothajayii 2 месяца назад

That's because they're no longer shy

@nancylakot8139 2 месяца назад

@@rehobothajayii Joel is still shy. He says it too. He just tries to be brave. Watch him begin a message

@rehobothajayii 2 месяца назад

@@nancylakot8139 Alright, I don't notice that tho.

@ajewumifaith4463 2 месяца назад

Get the point, no matter how rich, famous or 'successful' a shy person is, they could be more if they weren't shy.

@user-jh8xq7gh8l 2 месяца назад

We should be able to differentiate being shy from being an introvert - they are two different attributes. They have almost the same expression but different mindsets / control.

@nwezeonyekachukwu489 28 дней назад

Thank you so much ma'am... I'm happy you broke the shackles of shyness and became who you are today... Ma I still do not know how to fully express what I'm feeling in the inside of me right now ..... Ma you're God sent and a blessing to me. GOD used this video to transform my life. More Grace Ma and God Will Keep Rewarding You For Me

@francesblackman 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for sharing ❤ I feel you

@HealthyfamilywithNma 2 месяца назад

Everything you mentioned here was my experience and even more. I was a left handed person so everyone ganged against me to stop me from using it any time I try to. I am healing gradually. Thank you for sharing this ❤❤