If you're struggling to make a big decision, WATCH THIS.

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I believe that you should always use your heart and soul as the basis of your decisions because that’s how you align what you’re doing with your values.
Use your brain to look at the fine print and to weigh the options but when it comes to the actual “feel” of the decision, you always want to turn inward and check it against the feeling in your gut.
Wondering how to do that? Watch this video to find out ❤️
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@nathc540 Год назад

I made the decisions, have started the process, and now am feeling the fear. still going ahead though. A New Beginning.

@AntiWarTexan 21 день назад

How are you now - a year out?

@clarielisk 6 дней назад

Yes update us !!! ❤

@briannabanks3029 3 года назад

Great Clip, As someone with chronic anxiety, I often get decision paralysis, and in particular - any decisions that involve people pleasing or have an emotional component. When every option feels terrible, and it seems like a much, much bigger deal than it really is or that it does to anyone else it's debilitating and NOT making decisions like that causes a lot of problems. I'm looking for better tools for managing these situations ad this is helpful.

@princepeterwolf Месяц назад

Your comment changed the perspective I have of myself, I have always felt that way but had no words to call it out - thank you!

@trevoraugustus2249 24 дня назад

Check out Naval Ravikant and Tim Ferris. They have some good quick help on exactly this. Usually if you are truly unsure about a decision the answer is no and you are probably scared to not please the person involved and it will be best for you to flex that no muscle.

@DamyanLP Год назад

I spent an entire week absolutely shredding my brain thinking about the decision I had to make and you have the nerve to swoop in here and give me, not the answer, but a way to decide, in only 2 minutes??? Wow. Thank you so so much. I know what to do now! :)

@the_boss2194 Год назад

How did it work out

@jaylianneescobedo6803 Год назад

I absolutely love this. "Live in what's true for you, not what's safe in the moment"

@rjs2595 4 месяца назад

Forget the 20minute Ted Talks on decision making. THIS is it! thank you

@movizdar8818 3 года назад

I've gone through so much physical, verbal abuse my whole life which led to hatred of my own existence. But after 2 years of not deciding, I have put up the courage to pursue what I wanna do with my life. The decision is about my expansion and my life.

@axon_01 11 месяцев назад

U can tell what decision u made

@user-hc3zg2om9l 3 месяца назад

What does it mean by expansion?

@SableEllen 3 года назад

Ugh, this spoke to me.. For the past year and a half a family member has been asking me and my other family members to move out. I found a place and was super excited as this will be my first time out on my own - I was hoping they'd be happy for me but made they situation all about them when in reality they chose the outcome. I love this person with all my heart and have often sacrificed my happiness for theirs and it's still not enough. While this change may alter our relationship I think this will be the best for my well being and growth. Thank you for this!

@mathews749 Год назад

Thank you for this.. I seldom seek advice but am going through a really hard time in a relationship with children involved. I’ve been putting everyone else’s needs before my happiness for long time and I know I need a change. I’ve been making the mistake of looking outward and it’s made me focus on everyone else’s judgment rather that following my heart. My brain has convinced me the world is watching but it’s really not.. nobody cares. That false fear & self deception is enough to make the strongest person lock up in anxiety. So yes, thank you for your guidance. I refuse to look back in 30 years with regrets and sadness. It’s time to live!

@SY-sp8uo 3 года назад

It is like Mell reads my mind. Whenever i am struggling with something and she pops out with a solution! Thanka Mel!

@LaDeeDah 3 года назад

I knoww

@serenityflo_sound 3 года назад

The heart always. Silence the mind & our soul will speak to us. It’s knows before we do. Great video!! 😍

@harleejones6078 3 года назад

I absolutely love you Mel. You're such a beautiful and intelligent person.

@Mindyhartwick 3 года назад

I so needed this video today. I just quit a job that was toxic and it made me realize that I don’t want to spend the rest of my working years putting up with bullshit for a paycheck. I’m trying to decide whether I should sell my house (which has significant equity) and downsize my life so I can work less and enjoy life more. I know it’s what my heart and soul wants, but my head keeps bringing up doubt about whether it’s a smart decision.

@katec9893 Год назад

What decision did you end up making? I hope it all worked out, I agree about not working in jobs we hate, it's important to find a balance so we can support ourselves whilst feeling at peace with our work.

@Mindyhartwick Год назад

@@katec9893 I found a new job that I like. My co-workers are great! I’m staying in my house for now because it’s just not the right time to sell.

@katec9893 Год назад

@@Mindyhartwick That's great about your new job, congrats and thanks for the update, it's always interesting to hear what people decided to do in the end.

@stylestory1000 3 года назад

I can't thank you enough Mel. I have been through some hard times and have come to point zero again. I am so confused to make any decision right now. Feel very helpless. This video is a great guidance for me.♡

@ilovegoddoyou7003 3 года назад

WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TOMORROW WILL BRING. SO DON'T STAY ANGRY FOR TOO LONG LEARN TO FORGIVE AND LOVE WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART.DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO DONT LIKE YOU. ENJOY THE ONES WHO LOVE YOU. 💕❤🌻

@TheHallway7 3 года назад

Thanks,Mel.I really needed to hear this. Ive been contemplating a career change forever.It’s in my heart.I simply need to push forward with it.

@leilebantino4403 3 года назад

Mel, you are giving me a sign in this video. I am already in a dilemma on making a big decision that could possibly change my career. Thank you.

@rebekah518 3 года назад

Mel! Thank you! I’m in the middle of that decision making moment and I was already trying to rationalize why NOT to do something I know in my Heart and Soul I MUST do. I love your way of comparing whether this will grow or shrink me and even though it might be uncomfortable in this moment I already know the rewards will last a lifetime. Thank you❤️

@lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад

Rebekah Cox, you look stunning

@rebekah518 3 года назад

Made my day ! Thank you :)

@lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад

@@rebekah518 you are welcome my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?

@kozugyekrolerthetoen 3 года назад

A brandnew approach to decision-making! A new dimension! Instead of listing pros and cons, putting the best question: does it expand/improve me? I stumbled upon your video the very best time, just while hesitating. And you give the perfect answer! Thanks a lot for your great work!

@lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад

IIdiko T. Molnar,your pretty smile can make the news

@finnbarrcorr Год назад

This video feels like a life saver for me 🙏🏻❤Everything that was said in this video was exactly what I needed to hear and I couldn’t be more thankful for it

@LondonBridge99 Год назад

I’ve been thinking about a huge decision the past few days and my mind was spiraling with possibilities and a huge list of pros and cons. But this single short video helped me clarify what decision was right for me immediately. This is such beautiful and amazing advice. Even if the “safe” way may seem more logical, if it ‘shrinks’ you then it’s not worth it. I may have to write down some notes on this and hang it up so I remember ❤ thank you so much!

@the_boss2194 Год назад

But what she mean by all of that? That it “shrinks” me or “silences” me? Give me some examples please?

@LondonBridge99 Год назад

@@the_boss2194 hmm I guess like when you’re in a big room of people and you feel alone, or when you feel like something is holding you back from your potential. That feeling of smallness and lack of control. Something that makes you feel not so great about yourself, and maybe kinda lonely. For me, the decision that would have “shrunk me” would be living with my parents. Because I know that being there would make me feel like my autonomy as an adult would be taken away and I would be “shrunk down” to feel like a child again. My potential for growth for be hindered, so even though that’s a safe choice, it’s not one that I want.

@andrajohnson1882 Год назад

More impactful insight in 2 minutes than some can manage from an hour Just saying 🙏 Thank you ❤🙏

@sarahy5540 3 года назад

I don’t know how but this video showed up at just the right time. I’ve been on furlough since May 4 and have appreciated this time “off” because it’s the sabbatical I’ve been wanting for a long while. It’s allowed me the time to spend with mom and has relaxed the deeply entrenched attachment to my job that I’ve had for nearly 30 years. I love my job, but within the last two years, I’ve changed and it no longer reflects my views, plus our “new-ish” boss is taking us in a direction that I don’t agree with. An email exchange with a colleague today reminded me about my frustration at work, then I saw this video. Everything in my heart says to leave, but financial concerns are holding me back. I hope I can find the strength and confidence to make the cut. Thank you for this timely video! 🙏

@amandasoberano548 3 года назад

Hi Sarah, if it's any help, I was in a very similar situation a year and a half ago. I loved my job and had a tight knit group of girls I worked with. However, I was so stressed that I finally made the decision to quit. It has been terrifying, especially financially. But I have seen the miracles (some small, some large) that keep happening for me and my family everyday. Just take it one step at a time, and remember the things you want are not always the things you need.

@sarahy5540 3 года назад

@@amandasoberano548 Hi Amanda, I truly appreciate your words and sharing your experience. Didn't mention it in my initial comment, but this break has allowed time for me to separate myself from my work and workplace such that I can objectively (instead of emotionally) think about things. I do believe the Universe hears people, and when we make the decision that's right for us, things fall in to place. But it's still scary to break the tie. Thank you for your support. Stay well.

@axon_01 11 месяцев назад

@@sarahy5540hey sarah did u quit the job,,plss replyyyy

@rousselpalanna4810 3 года назад

Thanks a million, for uploading this video at the right time. This is a God sent message at this time of depression for me, strengthening me more for my decesion taken in life. God bless you !!

@lindamartel-in4oi 6 месяцев назад

I so needed this. Thanks, Mel. I will not silence me or my creativity despite the anxiety and fear trying to keep me small and safe. Courage to everyone here.❤

@mariehaverty8209 6 месяцев назад

Agree 100% thinking safe/small not good for growth, so true. Love it❤

@tinadey4587 3 года назад

Wow you are like a ray of hope, thank you for the clarity, love what you do ❤️ love and light to you and your family as well😇🙏

@debraj205 3 года назад

OMG Mel, thanks for giving me permission to move forward instead of being stalled with indecision!!

@lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад

Debra J,hope you are in a good relationship cause you are too beautiful!

@smarchessault 2 года назад

Ok I'm blown away. Most important 2 minutes I've ever heard in my life!

@mohanphilip1898 2 года назад

I was actually in a confusion for my current decision.. not only now but everytime I feel the same . But now I’ve got a clear idea 💡. Thanks for your words 👍😊

@brandondelgado7731 3 года назад

I’m in the middle of one myself. A job that is unfulfilling and being stressed every day. Being stressed to start my work day. Good pay but it is with me every day and waking hour.

@cearmalevis3354 3 года назад

I decided a few months ago to retire early from my job. Good pay etc, but “my life “ is more important. It will be financially tight for a couple of years but I’m so excited for whatever is ahead. I know it’s the best decision for me !

@stylestory1000 3 года назад

Have a backup plan

@brandondelgado7731 3 года назад

@@stylestory1000 Sometimes its not possible. I have already put out feelers with previous coworkers and may be able to go back to a previous position which was less pay but much less stressful. Meanwhile I brush up my design skills again and try to learn more on UX design and see if that is a career path. I am thankful to have a job where my housing is secured so only need to worry for money for expenses but my wife works so we will be tight but not in financial trouble. Who knows, maybe this is the turning point I need to make a different career path.

@stylestory1000 3 года назад

@@brandondelgado7731 that is the plan. Wish you the very best.

@Candide1776 3 года назад

Have had a few of those moments. I usually get clarity when I remove money from the equation.

@somyasingh5659 3 года назад

Thank you soo much Mel. I need this badly😭😭😭

@kdjm1446 7 месяцев назад

I feel that I am hitting rock bottom today coz I made a major life decision yesterday. I woke up doubting my decision and planning to retract it. I feel so low like the world ended, but this video, you, are a saviour. Thank you for people like you. I feel better about my decision now.

@ScottishLeo 3 года назад

Follow your heart but take your brain with you 🙂 Thanks Mel!

@jaszi33 3 года назад

Perfect timing for this empowering message, thank you Mel 🧡🙏

@GodOfFools 3 года назад

The future is a fantasy. The past is memory. The present is now.

@adtc 3 года назад

Brilliant! It's like training your brain to read what your heart wants!

@Lori10721 2 месяца назад

Good decesion making and when it's going to affect your long term health and happiness your heart is the way to go. If you are not happy what you are doing it will not benefit you in the long haul. This is helpful Mel!

@dazaimatsouka7095 2 года назад

先輩、ありがとうございます! This is genuinely just what I needed. I can’t express my gratitude enough.

@blessingsbest6838 3 года назад

Fair well said!!! I am on that journey or expansion and it’s terrifying 😟 but the possibilities are endless! All I keep telling myself... I have to try!!!

@JadeTrading 3 года назад

Mel: Trust your heart and soul💛

@jamesshaw3850 3 года назад

You have posted this topic before mel. Still good topic to ask and I have used this to make a decision to leave the military and it was the absolute best decision I ever made. Thank you mel for posting

@elizsanz3972 3 года назад

definitely came at the RIGHT TIME!!! thank you for putting it in those words "expansion"

@merinac4394 3 года назад

Thanks Mel Love Ya Hang in there we are Brave Sisters

@dancemonkeydance2813 3 года назад

Thank you. This is exactly the video I needed to share with a friend

@slr-d Год назад

Absolutely love this one.. i recently realize that theres literally ENDLESS choices to make everyday, and the best answer is the highest one. Cheers.

@cindylopez9080 3 года назад

Girl! Now you got me watching your videos, I love it !

@bhargavmehta97 2 года назад

This is something which I was looking for. Thank you for guiding us!!

@chrisbanisch 3 года назад

You can also always change course.

@knsnsy 3 года назад

How this notification showed up on my screen at the rightest time! Love you so much Mel

@Lotuslaful 3 года назад

Needed this! Thank you

@Lakunai Год назад

I so needed to hear this message. Thank you

@fc4660 3 года назад

Agree wholeheartedly but my heart based option is terrifying to me. Yikes!

@StatchanaReborn 3 года назад

Kinda same here :

@witch8794 3 года назад

Fear is the enemy! Love and healing light to all!

@foxywhitetip7387 3 года назад

Both my options are slightly terrifying !!!

@staceythurston7370 3 года назад

Go for ot. Yall got this!🤩

@rebekah518 3 года назад

Everything you wanted is on the other side of fear. You have to “push” yourself to feel the fear and do it anyway

@BreatheThrivewithDevi 2 года назад

I truely agree Mel.

@datsmeyall 3 года назад

How can it possibly be so precisely perfect for my problem? Thank you so much

@nichellehedemark4639 3 года назад

Thank you! You helped me to know for sure that I made the right decision. 🌸

@BERESTARA Год назад

My heart in both places and expanding in both , just different parts of expanding !!

@dawnjohnson8739 7 месяцев назад

Wow, this is THE BEST decision-making process ever! Took me a minute to decide. Very grateful! Thank you!

@missrelaxed3872 3 года назад

I feel like crying! I have been struggling to make a super big decision! Your point is excellent! Does this decision expand you?

@the_boss2194 Год назад

What does she mean by “expand you”?

@axon_01 11 месяцев назад

@@the_boss2194make progress in your life,,,

@axon_01 11 месяцев назад

Hey missrelaxed u can tell which decision your are stucked for,,

@Lisa-pe6dl 3 года назад

Thank you Mel 😊

@momcquinn 3 года назад

Thank you!! I hope you had a fantastic birthday 🎂

@amethystthescientist7716 3 года назад

Wonderful and Helpful. Like an answered prayer for me. I will check in with this criteria to make my decision. : )

@lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад

Amethyst TheScientist,Hope you are with a good man cause you are pretty!

@LightSpeaker2k 3 года назад

All within 2 whole (hearted) minutes. A consultation with Mel is a good look.

@myhottea 3 года назад

Wise words... thank you!

@noorbilal7250 3 года назад

Thank you so much I needed to hear that

@makeyourownpath7460 3 года назад

Thank you Mel

@fozzarelli Год назад

Thank you for this. Gonna make the call now

@123gozane 3 года назад

Thank you Mel. I love you..

@thinkandbewell7782 3 года назад

You had me at "forcefields". Good stuff and exactly what I needed to hear. The path to this message is.......a fascinating one for sure.

@dollyy_92 3 года назад

the first few seconds in the vid..and i already got my answer, not that i didn't know it..but there are always self doubts..but i am certain, thank you

@gunaseelanselvam2374 3 года назад

Thank you MEL

@Strongernurse Месяц назад

I needed this. Thank you so much!

@renatadecanini3653 Год назад

This advice was surprisingly helpful. Thank you!

@k9feces 3 года назад

This is how I feel when I pull up to the drive through at McDonald’s

@adelacreative 3 года назад

I love this, and really needed to hear this advice, thank you!

@bunsatron3617 6 месяцев назад

Wow, thank you so much for this❤

@Self-Love-e9p 4 месяца назад

Mel...I just made a decision yesterday. It was difficult to understand but now I feel much better. (I made it!..)..and so I can be my Better Version... Thank you soo much!...🙌💐

@Ivypool-draws 3 месяца назад

This helped so much I’m trying to make a decision on what school I’m gonna go two and have been losing my sanity over the decision. But now I know what to do and feel happy about my decision and excited for my future ❤❤❤

@lisafaireymusic 5 месяцев назад

That was amazing advice and really what I needed to hear in such a short few minutes. Thank you so much!

@xooq_ 5 месяцев назад

thank you. I needed this.

@raykibria5538 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for this Mel gave me alot of perspective

@chocolaaaaaaaate5126 Год назад

I needed this message for my career pivot!

@Amy-hs1qe 7 месяцев назад

As I face leaving my spouse and moving away, thank you - I needed this.

@catherineabe6476 3 месяца назад

Love this!

@sohilson5283 3 года назад

Needed this video weeks ago 🙈 💜💜♥️

@Balancedtrader007 6 месяцев назад

This was one of the best vdos i saw on decision making.msny of us think short term and not long term..but it did help me in making a decision wjich i was very confused about if i shud do it or not....thanks Mel

@leyendopiedras 3 года назад

Thanks. That is very useful!🤗

@wisdom1224 3 месяца назад

Thank you 🦋

@TheBlfan 3 года назад

Love you in MN, Mel! :)

@ronniesal7436 10 месяцев назад

I've watched this twice in one hour. And I don't know about using my heart but actually the questions you propose are very logical, big risk vs staying silenced and shrunken. The risk of big time fail and difficulty is always preferable to me than shrinking and ever be silenced again. I spent 27 years of my life being agreeable and understanding and shrinkin and despite it all one day a freaking psycho played a smear campaign on me and everybody turned against me. Ever since then, after I decided not to kill myself I also decided that no one would ever silence me or corner me if people were to hate me, it would for things I did and said and not for things I didn't do or say.Thanks Mel, thanks so much!

@rcoop2177 3 года назад

Thank you!

@reelabdalla1289 3 месяца назад

thank you for this

@vishnutej3526 2 месяца назад

This is amazing, thankyou

@paulalaye6428 3 года назад

Oh Mel cannot believe I've seen this video today, mine is a new home from a beautiful flat where I've been for over five years. The new flat is senior living because I'm over 65 and will be a lot cheaper per month to rent!! The flat I'm in now has a troublesome male elderly neighbour who is a problem to me, and non existent heating, but is in a lovely position, very quiet and lots of other things I'm happy with but due to my deteriorating eyesight and mental health problems this other flat is being shown to me on Friday this week, decision very very big for me. It's truly is my future!!!! What's your feeling please, I would appreciate it soooo much Paula in sussex

@dhawals502 3 года назад

Thank you 🙏🙏

@meganelting8988 2 года назад

oh man thank you so much

@divinelyintertwined7463 16 дней назад

This was so helpful

@YanyanLun 7 месяцев назад

so true. love you.

@Dontae.Hawkins 4 месяца назад

Thank you that was very helpful!

@anowaday 9 месяцев назад

ok, going to that boxing class I wasn't sure about. I cbb but it will expand me and my future. Thanks!

@qasimmehrban1050 2 года назад

Thank you 😊

@lisanewcombe168 3 года назад

What if the decision we are making is for the betterment of someone we love but requires a sacrifice on our time or puts a restriction on us in some way? Shouldn’t you make the decision based on what your values are even if it isn’t directly beneficial to yourself?