If You're Feeling Lost...It's Actually GOOD! 

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"if you are feeling lost, it's okay it means you are moving it means you have been moving it means you are looking for more it means you are a seeker! You have goals, ambitions, and aspirations!" This comforted me to another level. Thank you!

I’m 36, still living with my parents. Lost my job due to vaccine mandates last year. I’m now going to Uni to finish my Bachelor of Accounting at Swinburne University in Melbourne, Australia which I’ve meaning to do for years. 14 units to go! Correction 12 units to complete, wish me luck!

Feeling lost is always a sign of a new beginning✨️

I have a good job, a good apartment, in a “good” city…. And I am miserable. All I want is to quit, sell everything and move to Hawaii for a year. I want adventures, I want excitement, I want joy. I am drowning in my monotony. I never thought this is how my life would turn out. I thought I would be so happy.

I swear once you start to get used to the feeling of being lost and not having any ground beneath u, you start to understand you are your own home

Society makes it seem like we have to go so fast and know what we are doing all the time. Anything less, we're told we're failures.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

i am crying while watching your podcast because i feel like there's someone out there who also understands what i am feeling.

Lately Ive been waking up and feeling like nothing is right in my life, it doesn't feel the same anymore.

You have described it perfectly....that feeling like there's nothing to hold onto or ground you, you literally feel like you're floating and trying to reach out for something to stabilize you, but there's nothing substantial.

People really make you feel guilty for stopping and taking break for yourself. ...neglect them and take your time.

Quit my job, broke up a relationship. Nothing left but me on my own, no idea what's next BUT I really really really enjoy this emptiness. I have a strong sense that something greater is coming to me and this breaktime is a chance for me to rest well and recharge before exploding with the coming changes. Feel so faithful and excited. Life is interesting guys. No matter it is up and down, go with the ride. U got ur destint set !

Thank you, this is very comforting. I feel so lost in life right now.

When i read the comments, I noticed that i am not alone 😢. Everyone has different story but same struggle. I am 24 years, can speak English,Japanese and Turkish yet I don’t know what to do with my life. I graduated one year ago and got into job right after graduation. Afterward i noticed that I don’t want to do that job and quit, now i am trying to change my direction and learning new thing such as trading, nft etc . But unfortunately sometimes i compare myself with my friends. They still work and look happy. On the other hand i started to learn new things, i feel like i waste my most productive time by doing things. But everyone we are not alone, we all feel same.

I am only 21, I'm expected to go to college or getting a job, and everything is just overwhelming. Not to mention not having funds to do anything with my life😭

I lost my job and feel lost now and anxious… watching your video change my attitude. It mean that i’m moving something new and seeker! Thank you for this :)

Found this by accident?? Such a comforting and wise message! I am between jobs and don't really know what to do, where to turn. What do I want? Who can I be? What now? Listening to you makes a big difference, being reminded that it is not a bad thing to be lost. It is also a time of opportunity! Thanks.

We are never Lost..we are doing the Best we can 😊

Dont mistake movement for progress and the key to life is moderation.. Also dont ever be scared of change... Its good for you and whenever change happens its when the most growth comes from within.

I once read 'if you're lost it means you're changing'. Changing to grow and be able to overcome the uncertainty of the situation we find ourselves in. But everything is temporary, even emotions. And in this case, time is our best friend, it's the eagle that will take us up to see everything we've done and what our next step is. ❤

I feel so lost, I’ve been thinking for the past months “am i a failure?” because i don’t feel like doing anything or even socialising, i even prayed to God for answers and today I’ve experienced good things and Yt recommend me this video, thanks for the good words

When you feel lost that means that you going somewhere ❤

Who is listening to this April 2024? 👇

Im 47, after an unexpected divorce out of the blue i had to sell my house and move back with my emotionally challneging parents to single parent my child. Please pray for me! 🙏

Love the analogy of planting a seed and letting the laws of nature do the rest :)

1 minute in and you’ve already perfectly described my every thought in daily existence.

Funny how life works, this found me exactly when I needed it

This is actually how I’m feeling right now LOST

It's as if a door has opened for me. My husband passed away 4 years ago. Been married for 35 years.....I lost so so much. So I will take these precious words from this and find some comfort.

It's an odd situation. I am happily married, I have a home even if it requires a lot of maintenance, I have 2 cats and my parents are still alive. I have steady work even if the pay is mediocre at best. But for some reason I always feel isolated, and I never feel safe. Like a disaster awaits any moment. Social circle has shrunk to like 5 ppl since covid and work from home. I love working from home but I do not love the new antisocial ways out here. I don't know, man, I don't know what I'm doing.

Really needed to hear this. I’m 37, married, still living with my parents, work part time on weekends, and have severe depression. I don’t know what to do to move forward in life. Glad to know I’m not alone. Thank you.

Hey, I am 20 years old. I have failed three times consecutively to get into med school and honestly this podcast was all that I needed. The constant feeling of sadness and failure and depression was making me hard to breathe. I was sick of living a life without passion and purpose. I was feeling lost. I felt like a failure bc I spend 2 years fully dedicated to my studies but still failed. I was feeling very guilty, after my results were declared I completely broke. I had no energy to do anything. Small things used to give me so much anxiety and I wanted my life to end. I feel so much lighter and better after listening this podcast. You have no idea how many people you must have helped through this podcast bc I know there must be more people like me who are feeling lost and they need someone who can comfort them. Thankyou for creating this podcast. I hope you reach new levels of success. May god bless you and stay happy ❤️

I love how his advice and insights come from a place of geniune care for others and not forcing others to act with urgency.

Ground yourself. Take your time. Make a decision. Life is about moving and tweaking. We all get lost and it’s okay. Life is unpredictable. Curveballs are good. Take rest when you need. Set up camp ⛺️ Be your own friend. Put your feet where the ground is. Be present. Check out the map” Let it really sink in. Let go of what if” Sit, there’s no rush. Take rest again. Embrace your adventurer side. Chill on your launchpad, you’ll know when to make the next move” Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼 really needed to hear this tonight.

"Let the lostness warm you. You are an adventurer and you are making your way, and you deserve this rest." Beautiful reminder! Thank you Scott.

I feel a sense of comfort that I’m not alone in this “lostness”, have many negative emotions. Thank you for speaking about this.

Sometimes I think to my self “I feel different, I feel like I’m changing and then I question wether that’s right or not” well of course it is, you want to change right? If you feel different for the better and lost then it 100% means your going somewhere. I’m glad you clarified this!

I took some VERY wrong turns in life and now I’m lost without a compass, a phone, or even a map 😭 I can’t seem to get back to where I knew I was supposed to be or wanted to be.

One of the hardest life lessons I’m still working on is progress isn’t linear and that’s ok. Life isn’t a race; the only finish line is death. Enjoy the ride ❤

Turn 30 this year and have had multiple career changes. I feel lost at times, thanks for the uplifting message. I hope everyone here in the comments reach their goals and excel 🙏

That monologue in the beginning felt like he took it right from my brain

Thank you for this. I am a ball of anxiety. I am exhausted. I needed to hear that the Darkness is okay.

This video had me realize that I have been resisting the fact that I am lost. My consciousness unknowingly labelled it as bad, something that I should get out of as soon as possible and in the best way I could, and I was floundering in the fact that I am lost at the age of 35, 10 years in my career, not knowing where to go and not having anything to follow after. But now I know that I have come far enough to realize that I am lost, become clear enough to see where I truly am at, and that I have a picture that I can start from. The power of perspective, the power of reframing. Thank you for borrowing your lense, it both comforted me and let me see things more clearly and with power.

You are so gifted! Not only are you saying the right words, but how you’re saying them in a calm manner 🙏🏾

This resonated with me Scott! As someone who went to school to become a psychologist, as someone who loves asking questions and diving deep, I feel very lost at this moment in my life. A new country (US), new culture, changing careers, marriage, missing home, never ending job search while in not so good financial situation all in the last year and a half... I feel burnt out but I can't catch a break because of the reality of life. We all have bills to pay. All that definitely make me question my decisions but I also do know that when we get through this, it's all going to be worth it. I wake up everyday, go to my day job that I hate, come back home tired feeling guilty for another unproductive day because I didn't do any thing to make my life get any better resulting in feeling down and not wanting to engage. I'm not here just to survive, I'm here to grow and succeed. I've always set high expectations for myself and I guess seeing myself in this situation has been one of the hardest things that I have had to go through. What doesn't kill me, will make me stronger.

Your kindness and concern for other peoples well being is a beacon of light. Brilliant, shining like a lighthouse.

We spend the majority of our time trying to fix ourselves or someone else….if not, then we find ourselves trying to find healthy ways to cope with reality without succumbing to self- destruct behaviors.

i am 29 and its been an year since i am wandering in this feeling. its pure darkness and feeling of being lost.

This is great..i dont have anyone else telling me things like this so its easy for me to get caught up in my own thoughts and cycles..sometimes we all need to remember to take a breath and to recalibrate

Thank you so much for this. I just graduated college (undergrad) and feel like I have no plan and don’t know what I want to do. But you made me feel like it’s okay, I can rest here in this space for a while and take my time. I know and trust that the right things are coming for me :). Thank you 🙏

You're like a warm blanket on a cold, dark night. Thank you for all you do 😊

I m 41 lost job, no marriage thought of changing career, tried but failing and failing, losing my savings seating dumb doesn't know what to do. Just praying 🙏

Thank you. Being creative & lost sucks. Everything feels so tough! That sounds amazing right now. I need a compass.

I finally hear something positive about my negative feelings. I hope you are right and better days will come because I feel so so lost.

Thank you very much. I am currently in the army, the only constant in my life is the constant change every day. Nothing is safe, a lot of hostility around me, so many things that are out of my control, I don't know what to choose from the things that are in my control, the feeling of loneliness and misunderstanding is huge and there is no time to rest or just be with myself. I just want to sit on the beach and watch the sun go down, but your warm and comforting words also bring out that feeling in me. Thank you very much❤

Everywhere i go, i got lost. No friend to talk, now im sick and making me lost my job. My parents push me to find job soon, but i dont even know that i can work like before. My life’s suck and i dont know where to go. Everyone have a perfect life but me.

Coming off the Prescription Adderrall, I was Sad Lost and didn’t know where to go- Broke up with my Ex again after going back. Dumped a few Fake friends, and yeah. Im pretty Much Starting over again. Depression. Anxiety. Feeling Stuck.. is where I am.

I don't think it's a coincidence this came up in my RU-vid 💯❤️❤️❤️❤️

Listening to this in June 2024. Thank you 🙏🏻

I’m glad I stumbled upon this video after graduating college feeling lost. I feel rushed and feel like my goals are out of reach.

I think I know my next step is working but I don't find any place I want to work at, my parents say to just pick anything but that's not for me. I need to work somewhere that I chose and deem special to me. Whatever that means, I want to choose my experience but I feel like I'm waiting to find it. That perfect place

I’m 22, i feel lost since i was 20, It affected my art because it lost direction, my peers are doing great things, this podcast made me feel like myself again a bit❤️

I'm listening to this at a park working out a bit while I have a small break from a job I hate which gives me no free time. The imagery about camping and setting up in an Airbnb or hotel and staying a bit is beautiful and I brought tears to my eyes. I'm planning to move forward with my life but I don't want to be impulsive about it.

Thank you for this!

so soothing bro, will be comforting to someone in need in the incessant chaos going on in life.

I'm lost at this point of my life.. 8 months now I left my home and never look back now I am starting to ask myself where to go... I can't deny I am happy but there is still a small piece Missing 😢.. . I am the same feeling right now omg.. this is crazy... thank you so much!

I am almost 22 years of age but I feel like I have achieved nothing ever since covid, my goals since middle school was to just finish school and then go to university and become something, sadly after high school, I was going through the roughest time of my life already. Financially struggles were upon us, so I had to fixate myself on working wage jobs for at least 4 years. I am thankful to God that these times have passed but now I feel really lost. I still have university in the back of my mind but at the same time I feel like It has gotten too late, since most people on social media finish it with 23 years of age and create one of the best edit the world has ever seen (maybe I'm jealous idk💀). My ramblings aside, I thank everybody in this comment section and you for this amazing video. Helped me calm down a lot ❤️

i highly enjoy validating feelings also! It irritates me no end when I hear therapists tell people how they are suppose to feel. It's so grating, so abrasive, they don't realize how abusive it is. ps. I still need paper maps

this probably has helped me more than all the years going through different therapies.. being OK with not being ok. "Let the lostness warm you". I really want to join the zoom groups admittedly knowing a huge part of this is having no one to relate to.

Peace be with you, this beauty-full day of feeling lost.,

Thank you. I needed to hear this and cried while listening to you. I graduated college last year after studying abroad for 7 years (7 years cuz English is not my first language). I got a job but I don't feel fulfilled with it. It doesn't relate to my major at all. I have abandoned my hobbies, seeing friends, going out. When I plan to go and look for jobs I just feel frozen. I just listen to everyone saying how bad the job market is and that I should be grateful for what I currently have. I think I'll give myself some time to find a new job :). Thank you again, and I hope for everyone dealing with this same issue to feel better.

I’m 62,and very grateful for your video. I really liked what you said about being lost and that it means I’m a seeker!I’ve been on a path for my whole life. I’ve never been a conventional person. It hasn’t always been fun, but I’ve kept striving to go where most people are so afraid to go, inside themselves!! Your very good at this! Thanks again

I feel lost, heartbroken and an utter failure compared to everyone else. I have no support and just really don’t see any light anymore. I just want to disappear. I hate my life.

Brother thank you so much for your time I found comfort in your words, they shook my head off a bit. May Allah bless you. I will be 30 in 4-5 years and sometimes we feel that way. I think some of the root causes for this, most of the time, not using our imagination and giving too much value to the life here you have than it really deserves. I mean if I use my imagination to figure out where to go and how I may feel if I take one particular road, I can then predict whether I will be happy or not. Now. Close your eyes, think about the right turn and the left turn, and the straight, and just imagine what may happen if you take any of these roads to go, and act on this instinct, I think we first think with our logic and decide with our heart as to what is the next step. Second cause would be living on the past, and it has something to do with the third cause I will share below. We cannot change the past, and that is great because it allow us to be better human being than we have ever been in the past, we have the future to shape as much as we are allowed to. The third cause is, usually we are always comparing ourselves with other people, we may not have had the same opportunities that other people had, or just we may have wasted our precious time, but it is okay, it is what it is, again the second and third cause is very interconnected with each other. It is way more comforting to realize the true moment you are in, and being true to yourself, rather than being delusional or ignoring the reality. To cope with this feeling, I tend to remind to myself, we are here only for a limited time and the Almighty knows how long it may last. So regardless of your income, social status, you can always be happy without comparing yourself to other people, if you want to be happy you can touch on different souls, share the moment, share the happiness and just smile, and most importantly do not forget to touch on your own soul. It is not about money at all, trust me you can have all the money in the world, all the comfort, food, cars, yacht etc. but feel deep lost in a way you could never imagine. So being aware of why you are here, and the passage of time, you can let it all go. Rule is simple: do what you love, think with your logic, decide with your heart, and never prioritize money first. 10 min shadow boxing in the morning? Go for it. 20 min reading? Sounds good. Having a little walk outside hearing the chatters of birds? Sweet. There is always something to be happy, it all comes down to the perspective. I wish you a life with full of happiness and wisdom, love you all guys.

Thank you for this. I've had a really difficult string of events that I've had to deal with within the span of four months - losing my job, a job I was really passionate about but feel like I don't care about anymore because of the way I was treated at my place of work, finding a job that pays much less and that I have to move across the country for, finding out some really difficult things about a parent, and now getting surgery two weeks before I leave. I feel so lost, I don't know who I am, what I want to do, who I want to be, how and when to process everything, I recently deleted social media in the hopes that I can be bored more often which might lead to me finding out hobbies and activities I like. I'm terrified to move because I don't know anyone in the city. I feel incredibly unmoored, but at the same time, I feel like I am becoming, that I am in the process and that the adventure is seeing where all this leads me, WHO all of this leads me to. It's so scary.

❤ we are sensitive to the world Thank you Scott, keep it going 😊

I was happy before covid

Thank you for this. i feel so lost because i feel like everyone is getting whatever they want in life while i feel like i'm stuck. 😢 but your video comforted me thanks.❤

Lost my job 2020,lost my dad 2023 lost my aunt and my beloved cat know, difficulties know in husbands life, but still praying and waiting, know something good will happens, thank you for info, keep on walking, running catch up beauty sleep, always try my best in everything I am doing, keep on smiling. 😊There is a purpose with everything

I am feeling lost since I can think. I am a seeker since I can think. And I come to the point that this chronic depression since decades is not going away but I know it can get so much worse heavy depression is the darkest place with no hope. Unfortunately as a seeker I am an explorer but since the stress tolerance is so low that I am overwhelmed by making trips ans so on.

I just uploaded my first video right now about my anxiety and depression journey, then youtube suggested this video. I'll rewatch this vid a lot. It comforts me today and motivates me. Thank you so much 🙏

I’m literally so lost, and so hard on myself, thank you for these words and the repetitiveness I needed it! 🙏🏻

The fact that your video reached me when I needed it most is a message for me. I thank you deeply and from the bottom of my heart ♡. It comforted me. Much love from Saudi Arabia ❤️❤️

Thank you💗I'm 21, packed my bag, moved to a foreign country and am on my own for the first time in life. The days where I'm on a bliss of recognizing my own growth and how far I've come feels amazing, exciting and filled with hope. But before and after experiencing that bliss, the inner turmoil of feeling lost, doubting my purpose, what I'm supposed to do, who I'm supposed to meet will never fail to greet me, live inside my head and wreck my soul. I've been struggling with this for years now, since having graduated from high school, and I always thought that once I get 'there', everything will be fine and I wouldn't have to deal with feeling lost ever again. But now that I'm here, I've come so far from where I've started, and the feeling of anxiety, lost is still a real part of my everyday life. I guess what I'm trying to say is- Thank you for making this video and giving me hope that there's a possibility of finding peace in the storm. Instead of making it my enemy, I might just befriend it.

You always been my best medicine during tough times Scott, Thank you❤️❤️

I’m listening to this one year after posted, and I would like to leave my deep gratitude comment here! I sincerely thank you very, very much!

This is so helpful for my life right now. It is so comforting to know that we share these lost times. Thank you.

You have changed so much since the last time i watched you… im so happy for you

I'm in a job that I both like and dislike at times, so it's a big part of the reason why I'm lost. I also don't know if I want to live life and see if I meet someone through activities I like, or if I want to put myself out there through online or speed dating. I feel very conflicted. However, "being soft" has really grounded me through hobbies like yoga, Pilates, meditation, painting, journalling, writing and reading. These make me slow down and be intentional with my time while also appreciating where I'm currently at in my life. I'm trying new things like Zumba and having a lot of fun, despite feeling lost.

Absolutely me right now, I have no idea what direction to go in literally. 31, still living with my mom, back at university but not sure about the course im on, left a 7 year relationship, healing, growing ... It's just alot. I hope one day I'm finally grounded, hoping that for everyone in the comments aswell. X

Thank you, Scott. I found this video after having a mental breakdown. It really helps.

I honestly feel this video came to me and a sign that it's fate for me to hear this. this came in my youtube home when i have zero videos of the same topic and every single word resonates with my rough patch right now. thank you for your help

The world needs this man👏🏻

I'm in my career break and feel lost and found your video right now,. honestly, I cried when your words really comfort me. Thank you from the deepest of my soul. Thank you.

I needed this. And thank you for the gentle delivery of it.❤

Thank you very much for this video. In a way, it's true that most of the times we all struggle to make our lifes fit a societal script instead of acknowledging that everyone's life is unique and has its own challenges and rewards.

Like so many others the timing of this video is unbelievable. Lost has always scared me.. made me feel like I don’t have life together like I ‘should’. It has made me feel embarrassed and ashamed. You just took the shame out of this part of my journey. You’re right, the reason I’m lost is that I sought change and a better life. There is nothing to be ashamed of.. I should be proud I was brave enough to go on this journey as it’s not for the faint of heart. Proud, brave, adventurer.. my new descriptive words of myself when I am lost. Thanks :)

I needed to hear your perspective on being lost, you described in such a beautiful way that now I feel even more okay to sit in it and set up camp. Thankyou ❤️

Thank goodness you brought this up! Truly, investing has changed my perspective on how one can succeed in life; working multiple jobs isn't the optimal way to attain financial freedom and unfortunately, we discover this later in life. Currently earn as much as 10 grand weekly and this has improved my financial life. Great piece!