Iliza Shlesinger: Hurts to Be Awesome 

She’s funny, intelligent, and I absolutely adore her!! I mean... I did stalk her??? And it worked! Cause here we are. (Kidding... well, kinda) 😛 Iliza Shlesinger joins Jonathan and I on a new episode of #BialikBreakdown to talk about everyone’s least favorite thing in the world - stress, and how it can cause physical impact. Or in other words, mind-body syndrome. We discuss more of that in the episode! If I wasn’t laughing then I was probably trying NOT to laugh while recording this podcast. Seriously!! ILIZA IS HILARIOUS. 😂🤣 Such a fun and important conversation. Listen on Spotify: spoti.fi/2KbC1PC Listen on Apple Podcasts: bit.ly/38O09Qp For more, visit www.bialikbreakdown.com

"How could she make a joke about someone dying?" I've offended a few that way. I'm a widow. Our twin sons wanted to dress up as their deceased dad for Halloween as a joint costume. One wore his work clothes, the other was a ghost. Their idea...because they knew their dad would find it hilarious looking down from heaven. We know his sense of humor. (and their grief therapist approved, and laughed)

RU-vid is getting scary good at finding the right videos for me. I'm a single mom neuroscientist from Texas that had to leave my career because of severe chronic pain that's watch Iliza for awhile as a pick me up and adored her.

“why are we killing ourselves trying to force our bodies to be something that you physically can’t?” I felt that

"People choosing to spend time on you is the most valuable currency" is completely true. I think the world would be a better place if everyone had friends like Mayim and Iliza.

I love that 'nucleus pulposus' and 'slay' are both in Mayim's vocabulary😊

I now need a coffee mug or a shirt that says "Eat the Stars! Be Your Own Sun!"

i loved when she said "you cant do it in real time because you need perspective but you can't really do that until you're fully removed from it." I needed to hear that in this moment

I cannot express my gratitude enough, Mayim! Your podcast has been incredibly helpful to me and we’re only on episode 3? I cannot wait for more. Thank you, Mayim and Jonathan!

i feel like this episode is so important. understanding the physical consequences of mental tensions/anxiety is life changing

Mayim, I love the way you introduce your guests. You really give them so much love & credit and make us listeners feel really connected and excited! That's amazing!

I sooooo love her. I’m not a “sunshine up your ass” kinda person and I adore that she calls that kind of BS out.

Seriously, I feel like my knowledge and awareness of the stress/pain correlation just “blossomed”.

Mayim: "Are people upset with me? Iliza: "they are" Mayim: "why are you ok with that and I am not?" Me: Genes and upbringing, some people just have a natural sensitivity to negative emotion and negative feedback and their brain registers it as more threatening than others. Plus how we are raised to think about ourselves and others can contribute.

This is a very empowering episode, coming from empowered women! I can listen to them talk the whole day! I can’t even describe how uplifting this episode is. Thank you so much Mayim, Jonathan and Iliza!

this is a very intelligent conversation, i particularly liked the part where they explain why grey subjects are worthy of comedy and contemplation

"As an adult you don't cry from pain" Me: laughs nervously

I grew up being very petite but as I reached the age of 19, I gained a lot and i wasn’t happy about it. I loathed myself because I wasn’t used to feeling kinda heavy, i got irate. I deprived myself from eating just to achieve again my “petite” body but it did not. the people around me was shocked and i remember them saying mean things to me. it did hurt me, physically, emotionally and mentally. but now, as I learn the science behind these changes in our bodies, I accept it. and I said to myself that my body doesn’t define who I am. thank you for this podcast missmayim and mr. jonathan and ofcourse, iliza❤️ I SUPER LOVE THIS EPISODE.

Literally the longest podcast I've ever made it through in one sitting... it was an intellectual roller-coaster that I didn't expect. I had no idea the conversation was going to go where it went. Let's just say I'm laying here awake, not able to sleep due to chronic pain. I'm coming up on 10 years of this pain and gotten very little relief from countless doctors. I've learned more from this podcast than I have from those doctors over a decade. I now have new ideas about how to approach my pain for the first time in years. Thank you so much! 💓

As a therapist that specializes in chronic pain, I thank you for this conversation! Well done

I'm always worried or anxiety ridden when I think someone is mad at me and I have gotten better over the years, but it's still there.

Laughs, tears. I have chronic pain (including fibromyalgia, arthritis and more) and deal with things that my doctors don't understand. So hearing someone else's story of trying to find that answer to what is causing this pain... it felt so familiar. I have dealt with sciatica to the point not being able to stand up straight. I was right there with Iliza, knowing how that feels to be in tears because of intense pain, and not able to sleep. And the toll that takes on you. (My depression and anxiety are greatly effected by my chronic. And some of my darkest mental/emotional times have been from physical pain that felt so out of my control) I normally don't watch videos this long on RU-vid, because I'm in a different mindset than when I'm listening to podcasts on Overcast. But this one, I have watched all the way through. Because I've been there. (I'm also moving more towards holistic/hippy ways of managing my health, not just popping pills to knock the rough edges off a couple symptoms. So hearing about some of these new to me ideas has been enlightening... Though at times my overly analytical mind cuts me off, wondering how it all works) Thank you for sharing this! 💜

Suffered a back injury in the 80s and learned more about pain causation in this podcast thank you

Dr Mayim, you’re a great human!

let me just emphasize how warm and fuzzy my heart feels after watching Mayim giggle after every word Iliza speaks THE CUTENESS I CANNOT HANDLE

Two amazing women came together and gifted the world with their awesomeness. I could listen and watch you two talk for the rest of my life and I will be contented 💕 Love you both

It would be awesome if you broke down fibromyalgia. It seems like a lot of research has been released lately and it would be cool to have it explained in laymen’s terms. Great show!

I genuinely believe these past 3 episodes have taught me a lot about myself and truly helped me. Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️

Enjoyed every single second of this. Wow.

As a massage therapist who loves stand-up, I found this amazing. Hard to listen to, in places, but I wish more people spoke about it.

I'll admit Iliza's beautiful looks are what first caught my eye - for at least the first minute or so. Immediately after, I unexpectedly and delightfully found myself entangled within her stories, presentation, attitude and mind. I was irrecoverably addicted. Iliza's humility, humanity and observational brilliance continually amazes me. Iliza is a profoundly astute student of the human condition in every sense, which explains her humor and why you two relate so well. You simply can't get bored with Iliza - and that's a refreshing compliment to give someone in a world that's lost its sense of shame. Your show made my day a nicer place to be. Mayim, is there nothing you cannot do well?

I’ve had Fibromyalgia for 20 years, they still don’t t know how to help me, Can you find someone that has managed their Fibro, My biggest issue is I can’t be happy or feel joy. Of course I have other problems, Hypothyroidism, Depression, anxiety..... Mayim your a great friend, you soul is so kind I love your podcast 🥰😊🥰

Yes! 2 amazing women in 1 great episode. My wife and I originally found Iliza on Netflix and watched EVERY special immediately! Loved each one start to finish, then booked tickets to her upcoming gig in London. We and I have had the pleasure of meeting her backstage after the show to take photos and get autographs. As expected, Iliza is so down to Earth and friendly. She really does appreciate the love and time her fans offer. I come under that boring group of straight, white males so rarely voice an opinion on anything. So even as a man, Iliza got me into female stand-up comedians and we've watched so many since watching her. The ribbing joke at men when it comes to dating, sex, etc are hilarious - because they're true. It's brilliant! As you say, she's (of course) funny and beautiful, but tough, confident and ballsy. I love it! I think I can relate to her more as I am also a 37 year old "Elder Millennial" or Xennial if I may (that's a whole other debate!) with no kids. I've always felt that worrying about what others think of me is my worst personality trait and I really struggle with it. As a guy watching this, it was full of truths (that don't necessarily affect me) and extremely educational. On behalf of (most) men I'd like women to know that Iliza isn't wrong. We don't have hugely high, unrealistic expectations when it comes to looks. I am by no means a dictionary definition 'handsome man" so why should I expect my wife to look the same? Also, we met when she was 19 and I was 26. My wife was incredibly thin, some might say too think. She has, of course, filled out a little bit since and I feel she looks better for it. What sort of a**hole would I be to expect her to look the way she did at 19 when she's about to turn 30? I don't look the same either. I mean, she's 8 years my junior and 6' tall and I''m...well I'm not 6", haha! I'm damn lucky to have her in my life and be happy enough to want to stay with me. Soulmate's do exist and you both feel lucky to have the other, I promise. We also have tickets to see Iliza in London again that have been re-scheduled twice already due to COVID, so that's something to look forward to. One thing that sucks about being in the UK is we don't seem to have access to any of Iliza's other shows such as Truth & Iliza

I found your u tube channel and couldn’t stop watching. Being 66 years old woman that has suffered with mental illness all my life. Especially after I lost my son. Thank you!

"I just love to create things. You have to, because nobody's gonna do that for you" Another awesome episode!! Thank you for this!! ❤

As someone that suffers from chronic back pain I cannot thank you enough for all the information. I love the podcast!!

My husband and I also like to argue both sides. He does it better because he has facts, I get in trouble when I’m trying asking questions about both sides. I value the work of comedians saying the things we all think and take the heat.

Wow, Mayim, GREAT job, on your new platforms! Your Personality is incredibly, relatable. You are stronger than you might know. Love your humble charm. I obviously don't know you, seems like you are opening up, more lately. Kudos! Much Success! Thank You! Iliza is Hilarious. Glad you two connected, as friends.

When I can walk into a room full of people and not worry about my size but instead think about all I have to offer, I will have arrived.

The truth she is speaking more people need to hear. The lack of self control for the sake of being mean is crazy.

I went to better health immediately after you mentioned it. Truly, just the thought of trying to find a therapist is so daunting and so overwhelming. Finding someone that your insurance accepts, finding one that's accepting new patients, finding one that has the right speciality, finding one that's local to you, and (most importantly) finding someone that you connect with. It's enough to make most people avoid the process entirely.

I found this topic fascinating - the mind body connection and pain. I hope you’ll touch on this subject again! Thank you!

Lliza: Talks in her normal ways Mayim: almost pisses herself laughing (me too by the way :D)

Sometimes the universe gives you what you need. I’m sitting on a heating pad and icing my neck and this popped into my suggested. I’m a RU-vid junkie because I keep the iPad in my face so I’m not focused on my pain levels. For the past 11 years, I’ve been “managing” my chronic illness which I’ve come to call “lupus and friends”. All the rheumatological things. Went from 35, thriving working full time, extremely involved single parent, full social life to in bed in uncontrolled pain, “what is happening to me, someone fix this”. I went to the ER expecting at minimum an answer but seriously hoping they had a resident Dr. House-like team at best. Yeah, they don’t do that. “Get a referral” is the answer I got. So here I am, crying listening to this interview of two women I admire and adore and just knowing someone gets what living in this pain is like is amazing. I’m yelling “me too,” about the Lady Gaga documentary. Honestly, I paused the video and sent my husband to Vromans for the book. I can’t tell you how awesome this friendship existing is. It’s also a great show that’s helping people.

Mayim is so fucking smart, funny, strong and beautiful and her energy is so soothing to be around and it makes me sad that society can make even amazing women like this feel insecure about their looks. I look up to her so much.

I’m a 42 year old social worker and I’ve dated the “Elle” girls before and I want you to know that I love the way you look on Call me Kat. I think you are super attractive the way you are and I don’t think it would be the same if you tried to make yourself look like the “Elle” girls. Just wanted you to know that

This is my introduction to Iliza Schlesinger. 100% need to watch more of her material. Loved her on this.

Thank you. thank you so much.. I've been in excruciating pain due to 2 herniated discs for 10 months now, and I can't tell you how relieved I feel knowing that I'm not the only one crying from physical pain in the middle of the night, after too much sleep deprivation and painkillers. It's lonely, it's scary, and it's dark. I'm a 43 year old strong woman, with no previous serious health problems, and this hit me after 4 years of codependency with a narcissist husband. The minute I ran away, my body broke down. Literally: the day after getting myself to safety, I couldn't walk anymore. The holistic approach is no hippy fairy dust: it shines a light on the powerful connection between our minds and our bodies, a connection that needs to be respected and treated. There is only so much that we can put ourselves through, and our bodies will make sure to let us know if we refuse to listen to reason. Thank you for making me feel seen.

I saw a tee once that said, 'Look, I'm a nice person. If I'm not nice to you, ask yourself why'... Did Eliza write that? 😁

The last 5 minutes!!! The pain clinic (government health system) I did a program with for 3 months last year was mostly about this! We did a lot of stretching, relaxation, understanding of the mind-body connection psychological/emotional-physical connection, self awareness, mindfulness, plus learning other ways to human. Scientifically/medically it all is recognised now as not just hocus pocus! The “it’s all in your head” is now no longer an insult because a lot of it is in our head and causes our physical pain and vice versa!

Dear Mayim, hearing you talk about your anxiety (when performing, and when approaching Iliza that first time) is so reassuring to hear for a lot of us. I mean, I am just an average lady, from South Africa, a mom, and to hear that a celebrity like you has all the same feelings that we all do...well...it makes me feel ok, kind of. I get nervous in a lot of situations too. Thank you for sharing this podcast with the world. I'd be your friend if you were nearby, you are such an amazing woman.

I was watching Iliza Shlesinger comedy and RU-vid brought Mayims RU-vid show up. This is some awesome smart stuff!

I always appreciated how insightful Iliza Shlesinger was. She is one of my favorite comedians. Great talk.

You're really an inspiration to many people, Mayim ❤️ thank you for this. We love you forever!

I was only half aware of Iliza from youtube etc. and then I ran into this interview. WHAT AN INTELLIGENT WOMAN she is! I became an instant fan. I look forward to seeing you in person, Iliza!

I’m not going to lie; I watched for Iliza, but I subscribed because I got so much from everything you both had to say. I laughed and cried and learned. In one episode. Thank you so much!

Adore both of you. So great to see you together and know you’re friends. So funny, and informative. Thank you.

Mayim, I've loved you since The Big Bang Theory! You're awesome! I love listening to your advice as a doctor. I had no idea you did a podcast but so excited that I found you! Keep up the good work!

I had actually never heard of Iliza Shlesinger ... I'm now a fan based on pretty much everything she said in this interview. 💟

"they're just pumped that you're there".. amen sister, amen

Some of us don't have a choice but to stop everything. My body does not give me a choice. Myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome. It sucks. Love everything about this show. This is the first time I've seen it and I don't know why I haven't before. I have been a big fan for years, and now I think I'm a fan of Iliza.

I feel this, literally. I've been doing inner work for years.

I learned the pause and slowing things down before jumping into the situation, the hard ways. This is an eye-opener and inspiration that we are not alone with those experiences. Hope this podcast reaches more people! Keep sharing!

There are so many super legit levels to this that can't even be stressed or expressed enough. 2 über amazing people. Thanks to you both for making the world a better place.

Mayim, I have also been struggling (since I was 9 and I am almost 75! Many things have helped me, and I am constantly increasing in wisdom (and then IMMEDIATELY losing it on account of the next anxiety!) However, some wisdom sticks. What helps me is: CONSCIOUSLY bending my inner self-criticisms into :THIS is THE challenge for now. I can really feel the difference in anxiety levels. I could go on forever, but I would rather watch your next episode!

Mayim, I love how you make medical stuff relatable and understandable. Thank you for podcasting.

Thank you so much for sharing this! It's so reassuring hearing things I already know from two amazing women who I deeply admire. I struggle with holding onto my stress and anxiety (thanks PTSD!), and it's such a life changer to know how some of my physical symptoms are related to holding onto that stress. I love how connected our bodies and mind are to each other, even though it's frustrating sometimes!

I cannot express how much I love this. My mind and soul have been fed.

Have always loooved Iliza! She rocks! (As does Mayim!) 😍

You were amazing! Both of you so alive, so real and human! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with people, girls. So many of us needed to revaluate our life as a human and as a woman generally! Again lots of love to you, Mayim, to bring up such important and not so trendy topics. You content is so appreciated. ❤️

I love hearing you two talking about energy work and the importance of the mind in healing. That’s my jam. I am a massage therapist and energy healer.

My favorite cue to say to myself is "remove your tongue from the roof of your mouth" - it's amazing how much awareness that thought brings to the tension I hold around my jaw and my voice and the back of my neck

Happy to see this pop up this morning

This is the first podcast from you I've watched and the way you're filming the remote guests is perfect! I love everything about this! Thank you!

Listening to this now, I'm only at 9:25 and the speaker's openness is really helping me feel so much less alone and isolated in my own struggles. I recently went through a breakup with someone who I love dearly. Thank you for being so transparent and open, y'all! I'm enjoying this video much.

This is one of those to bookmark and listen to/watch over and over. Thank you so much for having Iliza on your show; this was my first introduction to her. I also went and subscribed to her podcast.

3 episodes in, and I am hooked! I love spending time with you!

INVISIBLE CHRONIC PAIN: I would love for more channels with large platforms to discuss Endometriosis, the stigma around female reproduction conditions, and the lack of research and funding to help.

I love and admire this series so much, thank you Mayim for sharing your gifts with us ❤️ we are so desperate for factual information & the last 4 years has felt like an abusive relationship ... we are all sort of emerging seeking truth, thank you for providing that!

Mayim!!! you and Iliza have been heroes of mine for a couple years! finding your podcast itself made me cry. And to see Iliza on here is a seriously amazing duo!

For me the big star is Mayim, she is complementing Iliza about her confidence. But I always think the person who still does the things which makes the person scared or anxious that shows his/her strength and I call that confidence

Mayim you're amazing. You don't know how much I needed this. I can't thank you enough 💜

Thank you for talking about the mind body connection. As a manual therapist who does craniosacral, visceral manipulation and applied kinesiology and also work with the emotional part of all of these it is great to hear it being talked about and explained.

this episode was so great! I have fibromyalgia and was diagnosed at 20. hearing from another young woman that she's had a similar experience with pain, diagnosis, and the medical system was really uplifting for me!

This was a riveting interview/show. I normally have the attention span for podcasts of a gnat. But I got really involved in this as it was fascinating, intelligent, funny, and so meaningful. Thanks!

The notion of holding two opinions is so rare these days thank you !

Everything about this project is amazing ! The context first of all , the intro , the people , the whole idea and it inspires me so much. Honestly Dr. Bialik, you are my role model ! Thank you deeply for your work !🙏

Mayim, thank you. I have non epileptic seizures caused by clenching which was triggered by a whiplash injury when I fell off a horse. After 4 years of multiple varying specialist doctors....the only person to get me out of a wheelchair was a chiropractor who focuses on this level of healing. This episode episode has given me such a relief xx thank you for these videos xx

This breakdown show gets better and better each time 🤩 🤍✨ I’m 34 and I too read that book for my back pain and I’m doing stretching that has helped me get my life back, but also I identified my stress source, which was key to my recovery. (No magic cure but a lifestyle to maintain the results/progress)

Already streamed on Apple podcast but I enjoyed it so much I gotta see your facial reactions 🙈❤️

I have been living under a ROCK!! I've always said, there's something about the way you speak, that just makes me want to listen... well, I have some catching up to do! Love, LOVE your energy Mayim :) you're a true inspiration

A conversation between two funny, intelligent women I look up to just made my day. Thank you all!!

Been waiting for this video! I love this episode. I already listened to it on Spotify. Love love everything about this interview. Love you three!

Hearing Mayim laugh so hard during this podcast made my day!

This is an amazing experience and I thank you for sharing it with the world. Two amazing women being so real is a moment of clarity in these crazy times. I can't express the level of respect for the intelligence displayed here. Mayim and Iliza are absolutely two of the brightest stars and minds. :)

I love the way she answered every question, very respectful, honest and funny, one of my new favorite comedians

These two give me Leslie Knope and Ann Perkins vibes, in how aggressively supportive of and genuinely loving they are to each other :) Also- my experience with extreme pain on painkillers was exactly the same as Iliza describes it here. You’re still in pain, you just don’t care about it as much. It’s an awful feeling. So glad she’s found some relief!

First of all, how did I not know you started a podcast?! Secondly, I love your new show! And thirdly, to me you exude confidence! I wish I was more like you! I’m so happy to have more content from you! 💕🤗 Thank you!

I loved this episode so much. To see someone who is so no BS straight up says it like it is come around to the mind body connection in this way...and slow down and become aware of herself this way was beautiful. Loved that your interest and care as a friend gave her actual comfort-she expressed it so well. Holding space in thought and caring from the heart IS part of healing. She felt it. Dr. Bruce Lipton, Gregg Braden, Dr. Joe Dispenza all talk about this stuff on a scientific level but it’s not until you experience it or witness it in real life that it truly sinks in. So thanks for sharing this Miyam!! Your podcast has brought me so much just in the last few days since finding it. Bingeing. Love your spirit, depth, intelligence, and wit!! 💓🔥

This is great I also had great amount of pain from herniated discs. Thanks to physical therapy and core strength exercise, and yoga I am pain free.