In Love With My Same-Sex Friend Who Is Attached And ‘Straight’? (Queer Struggles) | ZULA Answers 

Feel free to share similar struggles and how you’ve overcome them in the comments below! Let’s keep it a safe space for everyone~

I like Jes quote - Not everything needs closure.. I agree sometimes it can avoid and solve the issue by not inviting more probs

Oh my! To be honest, I prefer Jess and Brenda. They are vibing so well and the vibe is not too intense. Please get Jess back for another round.

I love Jes so much! She is such a kind soul and she genuinely wants to help and give advice to those who are lost in whatever phase they are going through. And to see that these people are deserving of so much better than their current situation!

Jess is so cute hahaha.. Her face turned red when brenda was narrating the part about being caught red-handed. Love jess, love this ep ❤️ btw, for ang's case, regardless whether he 'deserves more' or 'don't deserve to be called a 小三', he is feeling the guilt because he initially agreed to the arrangement to have an underground relationship because there is a advantage for him, which is to try out whether he's straight.

i feel like this series can be a podcast on Spotify

We want more too! Please make this an hour long segment🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

alsooo i love brenda as a host!! she’s a great listener and has such gooood vibes

I need more of this PLEASE , such juicy confessions and I’m so into their stories 😂

This is my fav zula segment. Yehey! It's back.🥰

I heard this phrase somewhere about coming out to your family members especially to those not sure about how their family will react and i think it's kinda wise? "You've had your whole life to come to terms with your sexuality, give your family a second to come to terms with it too."

I had a similar experience when I developed a crush for a friend cause he was a really sweet and flirty person. As a hopeless romantic and overthinker, plus being confused about my sexuality, it was really bad to keep it all in my head, because all the what-ifs snowballs until you can't function. Despite all the flirty things he does, I believed he is just a straight guy, in his own ways being loving neutrally. So I confessed to him, as a means to get rejected and a reality check and also to give my emotions some form of validation and closure. But besides that I wanted to say, if there's anything I learn is, you don't have to account to anyone, sexuality is like understanding yourself, and you are but a growing human. We are all discovering new things about ourselves every day, so don't let people tell you who you are, don't feel pressured to have to give an answer :> and as you start to explore, communicating, to friends, etc, is really helpful and esp with the other party helps sorts things out rather than you not knowing how to manage these thoughts and emotions. Thanks for all the tea in this video though O_O

Can we have more of this pairing, let... PLEASE 🥺

Always glad to see 女神 in videos!! But hi Jes!!! Loving this pairing, light hearted but serious messages!! Edit: YES TO MORE JES

1:16 Jes: “sexual orientation?” Brenda: “straight” Jes: “ahh..okay.. boring” HAHAHHA got me rofl

Such a good episode!

hell yes to more queer content 🥰🙌🏻

good video!

For the second confession- I disagree slightly cuz when A has known shes a lesbian for so long and only started to doubt after being gaslighted by her grandmother, its quite obvious what the problem is. Those sort of invalidations really start playing on your mind and make you doubt what is a part of your soul. I do agree that A could go and experiment if she's unsure but i personally feel like she's simply being gaslighted and needs more validation about her identity as a lesbian.

More Brenda and Jess please!🙏🙏🙏🙏

More of Jess please!!!

Anything queer on TSL, im here 🙌😍

I like jes shoe analogy

Video passed 1k views, looks like we will be seeing part 2 with Jes 😂

05:22 like what HIStory4 蕭立程 says, 我不是喜歡男的，我只是喜歡你. Though it's a drama, but that can be real

It just sounds like Bunz is a toxic friend. Even when Hanz confessed, Bunz should have stop giving those signals to Hanz. But what Hanz described just sounds like Bunz is one of those people who uses the toxic “hot and cold” method to keep the friendship/make people love or crave for her attention.

I prefer Brenda to be on Zulu more than Leah cause think Brendan is doing an excellent job

5:30 known as Pansexual: not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity

I'm Eastern European and my husband of 30 years is a Hainanese Singaporean, originally. He's a Buddhist cultivator and has many times stressed that we are all human beings and thus should never frown upon anyones gender or sexual orientation or religious believes. To put it simply, we are all energies, trapped in our physical bodies. If all of us can follow this 2 very "Simple path"..ie Do not harm yourself and Do not harm others, there will peace and harmony worldwide. We think the Thais are most tolerant...they even have a third sex- Kathoey. Have great year.

1:17 HAHAHAHAHAHHA JES HAHAHAHHA

Jess is my 女神!!!

Love like share comment engagement watch time retention rate 👍❤️

Queer, jes is so comfortable in her own skin , I would not be able to do that, people want to fit to the social norm, if both parties of the same sex like each other, is no mean of others to poke on their life, nv been to relationship, maybe have feeling for same sex but don’t have the courage and have guys confessed but nv stay for long, so single as f, can include Bolin too, wat he say make sense too

Im a simple man I see Brenda so I click

Missed the perfect opportunity to say “forced out of the water closet”🤣🤣

Jes so cool i like

Quite sad to hear this struggle~

"Straight or Gay?" Jes and Brenda, what about bisexuality, and other sexualities? Kidnsey spectrum, right?

Forced out of the water closet… hur hur

Sometimes we confuse being nice as being flirty. It doesn't help that the guy in the first letter is in an emotionally vulnerable state. I think the guy is still naive when it comes to love. There are only two things that can come out of this if he gets the courage to profess his love--either the friend is cool with it, but makes it clear that he's not into him and still be good friends with him, or it will, well, end his friendship. But either outcome really doesn't bode well for the guy. It's good if he does end up being friends with him despite confessing his feelings, but I reckon there will be a time where he'll be in denial and will be hurting, until then he might need to stay away from the friend.

please dun wear same colour top as the background.. I tot there's a magician beside jes.. 😂

Is the bros

Lmao I literally cross finger hold hand with my bestie...(I am a girl and my bestie is a girl)