NUSWhispers: I’m In Love With My Guy Best Friend But He Friendzoned Me | ZULA Answers | EP 3 

Shoot your shot, down in the friendzone? Share with us your friendzone stories below down in the comments!

When Bolin speaks so gently, he actually doesn't seem so insane xD

I like Brenda and Bolin’s chemistry. Very natural and I like their comments and advice. Bolin is awesome. This is a good series. Keep up the good work guys!

I think ZULA has found perm hosts for ZULA Answers. Really like the topics and their thoughts! Keep it up!

I experienced the same story with the girl in the 1st confession 😂 We had been so close with each other, met each other’s family, but in the end he rejected my confession lol. One year later he went study abroad, and came back to me coming out with his boyfriend =)))

Love that bolin and brenda are so real w us

“WHY?” “Oh wait that was aggressive.” “Why~?” 😂😂😂

I like Bolin's intense and instant reactions when he detects a guy's BS. 🤣

I feel like Bolin will make a great boyfriend leh hahaha his responses all quite mature leh. #BOLINDA

just a suggestion! can y’all open up your own form or something for people to submit :’) i would love to submit something but i’m not comfortable with posting on nuswhispers….

Really agree with Bolin’s points! Enjoying this Brenda + Bolin combo!

the real secret.. never ever ever chase. Experience and live your life to the fullest like.. literally living in every present moment. The universe offers far beyond this realm of just 'wanting/getting' that person. Still can't get over with it? It is what it is. Move forward and live.

seems like only brenda can bring out this more mature, calm side of bolin

Bolin is killing it with the tips man 😭 I love how his answers are always so mature and sensitive yet funny, and omfg Brenda in this episode made me cry of laughter pls 😭😭💓 Please continue putting them in segments like this!!

I like how the video's 21 minutes long but it's not boring at all. Keep it up Zula!

this series of Zula Answers MUST stay forever and ever!! love it sm

helps im so addicted to this series 🥵🥵 can’t wait for the next ep!!

Brenda's answers soooo real and relatable! Love her as a host!!! 🥰🥰🥰

insightful! so glad zula answers series were made

Damn I love the advice, keep this series going with Brenda and Bolin please!

Love this combination! Brenda and Bolin really has such good chemistry and I really want to see them more!

I hope to join ZULA Answers one day as a guest HAHA the segment seems so fun!!

Love this series really nice Brenda and bolin doing this video!

I think it would be good to address same sex LGBT relationship issues as well. But I was pleasantly surprised with this series

Thank you for making dis ep, i found comfort with the advices yall gave!

It's good to see you again here, Bolin!

Woah love this series!

This is a fun segment :)

Don't guess, don't assume, just be an adult and ask, getting any direct answer is better than a guessing game and take their answers word for word, don't think if there is any hidden meaning. Getting into a relationship requires more than just affection and feelings between 2 people, communication and understanding have to be there as well. Keeping options while single isn't entirely a bad thing, the person may just be looking to see who may suit him/her more, better than getting all serious and finding out it doesn't work. If one decided to keep options while attached, advice for them is to end the current relationship so they can sort themselves out.

i like all the candid replies from the hosts :D

I don’t think that’s the definition of “nice guy”(NG). While Brenda is right in that NGs have motive, NGs usually get mad and overreact because a girl wouldn’t want to have sex with him just because he treats her well(which is their main motive). I’m not saying that what the guy in the 2nd story did is justified, I’m just saying he doesn’t really fall into NGs. NGs are more akin to what Bolin said in the 3rd story how much you give is not equivalent to how much you’ll receive. Just my 2 cents. Also, genuine question, isn’t keeping options open normal? Girls tends to do it all the time. Guys have been told not to be obsessed with one girl so that if it doesn’t work out, you can still move on with your life. But of course, if a guy treats a girl well yet talks about other girls then he definitely gives off a, to quote Bolin, Cibai vibe.

sheesh. number 4 got me crying so badly

How to get out of friend zone - work on yourself, upgrade your social skills. Don’t put all your eggs in 1 basket. Eventually she’ll be attracted to you, or not, doesn’t matter. What’s more important is to have a bountiful attitude on life. Girls hate desperate guys and they can smell from a mile away.

Nice editing!

Bolin!!!!!!! damn mature leh!

Yes I have this experience where I do have a guy best friend which treats me like a younger sister and I’m also having mixed feelings so thank u for this video , it will help me a lot

Girl #1, it's time to tell your friend that you're not comfortable being his younger sister and then cut contact. You've more feelings for him and you've already let him know. He has also clearly stated this is not romance. To do yourself and your mental health a favour, walk out of the grey-friendship and stop the calls and conversations. If the guy misses you, he'll think twice before calling you as this might mean he needs to face his true emotions. On the other end, you should not harbour any hope for this relationship to be anything more and even if he calls you during your isolation period, do not pick the call up. (It's not rude, he already knows why you need space). Tell yourself (but don't tell him) that during the first 90 days you shall not be in contact with him nor search him on social media etc. This is a step-by-step way of getting yourself out of the rut and self-disciplining your desires. Do not contact him out of your own will even after 90 days are up. You would appreciate the days of clear headspace to ponder on your own life and not have your judgement clouded as what Bolin mentioned. Cry if you need to while isolating yourself. If you don't act wisely now, your future self will cry for the time spent foolishly and wasted on this guy. Imagine other guys wanting to get closer to you but they can't because you have this guy blocking your way to finding true love.

When Brenda said 'It's SOOOO LONG. It's 4 paragraphs okay...". That moment, i knew that my dreams of having her in my bookworm zone were over. I'll have to go out of the zone to deal with this 'crush'.

Hi, @Zula, can you guys do one on the different types of friends zones? Tia!

Finally! some uncensored Bolin swearing

tbh girl 1: if u confess to ur best friend again, if u guys are really close, u dont need to worry about friendship ending. if u are gg to really stop having feelings for him, u need to talk directly to him and tell him u are not uncomfortable and set boundaries. if he doesnt have feelings for u, then he shld treat u like other friends, ofc different closeness got difference ah, but before getting there, i think u shld tell him u need some time apart to think, set a time, and then do a raincheck after. personally i faced this situation before, but i took time to think and then told him and then now we are friends again. not as close as before, bc i also have become more introverted but otherwise we are still close and dont have feelings for each other. even though there are still some questionable things that i still dont understand about, it doesnt matter since we are good as bros :) for those guys that treat u really nicely, sometimes just think about where u place this guy on the closeness spectrum and then think about the things he does for u, if it is uncomfortable or people think or suspect, then set those boundaries and be direct with it. if they still keep being the same then just block and bye bye

This is the reason why guys should never go all out to try to be too close of a best friend over a girl they want, because too much comfortable closeness with each other and the girl will eventually treat you as simply a close friend or a sibling kind of thing.

Yes 1st

Woah bolin is the best for this show

why do i get "nevertheless" vibes from confession 2 HAHAHAHA

I love Brenda in anything haha!

How can I submit questions for zula to answer? Anyone know?

The friend zone is not always a bad place to be in. Often times a girl will Friendzone a guy in order to get to know him and see what he’s really about. It is not common for women to fall in love at first sight, or after a few dates. They want to be friends first. So she might bro-zone a guy until she can figure out her own feelings for him.

Email confessions!

Bolin is right, the kinda of guy is a JIBAI!

2:23 that actually happen to me but she didn't realize i be nice to people who treats me well its just a respect and now we aren't friends anymore :( I can't help but be nice to you only and not others. But most girls do get jealous when guys like me do that to them and think they feel more special.

I need a Bolin in my life

Girl #2, just get yourself a boyfriend and see whether this guy still drives you around across Singapore? If he doesn't want to make things official after years of knowing you, it's clear you are not his priority. Stop putting yourself in dilemma as your youth waits for no one. Get a proper boyfriend who loves you, meanwhile nobody hates free rides, do they? ;)

At the 36 sec, i heard brenda calling bolin B???

Although we separated peacefully due to the frequency between each other is different and the goals in life is different. My feelings for her is still strong and thought of chasing her the second time, but I'm afraid that this might be the wrong choice because marriage is a lifetime thing. She wanted us to be friends instead as she felt that I'm someone worth to be friends. Any advice if this relationship should be continued?

I wish theres English subtitle🥺

For the 2nd one, I feel like the guy is hinting the girl that he likes her but doesn't want to confess, so he tries to make the girl jealous by talking about all the other girl friends.

i lov their chemistry hehehehe ship~~

fell into the trap of the "nice guy"..... hahaha sigh

Love/RS is like an investment, just because you put in your entire life savings doesn't mean it'll give you ROI.

Well I mean it’s not exactly wrong to be nice to all girls and then later on choose the girl who happens to like him. Firstly, going out with the idea in mind to find someone is actually very tiring especially for guys… even more so when u empty your whole clip but still miss every shot. So sometimes just being nice to everyone and being passive is easier and less tiring…

“Bro”. My husbands also calls me bro

Can I girl-friendzone Brenda? 🙂

Want to try Brenda and John for one episode? John always gives very wise opinion. Nonetheless Bolin also gives good opinion too. But John imo, gives the wise old man vibe more

but both of them single?

Brenda and bolin should be together 😂

This is why males should have some few female friends cause at least one of them will be datable and some will give you advice cause we all know our mothers won't do it or if you have a sister. i do feel like girls can't take rejection seriously then guys do cause guys as to practice to ask girls out i think if girls actually ask out the guys they actually like or knows the guys is good even if they don't look perfect i don't think their will be at least a few issues here and there plus its much safer for a girl to say hi to guys then guys to say hi to girls.

the first one, maybe the guy enjoy the companionship with the girl, but maybe not sexually interested. And the guy already made a label "younger sister", maybe she cannot accept it because she likes him

bolin very different with brenda than when bobocharchar

since when bolin became so mature?

Ask the girl to call you "step-bro" instead of "bro"

99% of the time, the answer is yes.

maybe the guy and her best bro ma XD

First guy adhering to the bro code. F F F F

Thank fuck I'm forever single

As a girl, you should never tell the guy you like him… It’s a totally wrong thing to do…

The guy being nice to you situation -- the girl is just a budget escort to him. He doesn't want a rship and doesn't like her but he just wants female company. Real escorts are expensive.

Girl gets friendzone by guy = the guy cheebye Guy gets friendzone by girl = she just found comfort in you Standards hEhE

7:34 "It means that this guy is a jibai." hahaha nice one Bolin