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I think openness to experience also correlates with J/P. So NPs are the most open while SJs are the least. Maybe a similar thing for agreableness but to a lesser extent (ie. FPs slightly more agreeable than FJs)
Oh my goodness, now I know what is wrong with me AND there are others too! lol Most of any of my social media posts are edited a million times!? It's so exhausting.
I am an INFJ-T and everything they say about me is true. Even my family were shocked. But I wish I was another type, I took the test over 5 times in hope to be another type. being the rarest type is not always good people. I'm not happy, I feel alone even when there are people around me and I'm anxious about everything and nothing. It's tiring.
I took like 4 tests today trying to get different answers and read many many ppl saying they are an infj or infj-t but wondering who really is and who saying they are because it’s called rarest. Feeling and thinking this way isn’t so special.
Samee, but I feel happy for them and me cuz like we INFJs barely know about ourselves. It’s like when I figured out I am an INFJ, my whole life suddenly started making sense and how I work. Before that I didn’t know what I am like. I definitely am INFJ-A tho cuz I don’t regret anything even when overthinking, which I do everyday 😂
My first thought as the video started was “ umm Frank, your lava lamp doesn’t seem to working though it look like it’s on” lol glad I’m not the only one who noticed.
*Me: *minding my business** *Me: *randomly thinks of something I did or said 10 years ago.** *Me: *cringes in self-disgust** *My INFJ-T life in a nutshell.*
I just did it again. Damnit If you catch yourself doing that again dont fret, its like our pal Sayeed Mohd says, you are just preparing your emotions for future refrence, not just to feel them. Remember it's a beautiful thing, not an accident not a flaw.Even when it feels like eating sandy dessert.
Oh boy this is beyond accurate, even the smallest things, I remember wearing sunglasses at night because I didn't want to look into people's eyes and then my friend asked me why i was wearing them, makes me cringe hard every time xD this was 2 years ago comes up now and again. Took 5 edits for this comment
Random question, am I the only infj who likes to be in large groups yet doesn’t socialize unless I know someone? As draining as it can be I love being around people and just watching.
I don't purposely put myself into large group situations but when I am in one, I ALWAYS find myself either sitting by myself or standing against the wall unless I know someone. And I have to really know that person to engage in conversation w/ them.
Are you talking people watching? Cuz I love to watch others, but not be seen myself. If I could have someone walk around a fair or event with a camera and record people for me, that would be awesome!
Doris Alber if it was more socially acceptable to people-watch, then I totally would! (because I enjoy being around people, I just don’t enjoy being forced to engage). I taught myself how to make small talk and be more extraverted and usually end end up working the crowd rather than being a wallflower 😜
I love that FJ is so considerate to do that for us. It makes the ads fun, and I am more likely to sit though them. I have no idea HOW he does that. I've told other channels that it s possible and sent them here. Maybe FJ should do a tutorial on that. I really liked it when he first monetized and he made his own silly little commercials in addition to the other ones. Ads for made up products and services. Frank is too funny. Knowing there is an ad is so much better than an ad cutting someone off mid-sentence. Those ads get skipped.
@@CertifiedUser14 make sure you think deeply about the ramifications about speaking your mind... and then just go numb and say whatever the heck you want and people generally understand. And if you need to you can just apologize afterwards, usually makes the problem go away because the only people in your life will be close friends who will understand... unless you say something you KNOW will get you in some serious trouble, then use your planning mind to figure out how to ease into it or drop hints over time, ect.
Yooo that is the same website I found a few years ago and found to be the most legit one so far. I got the INFJ-T and felt like it was politely saying I was a mess. It was basically like...”You’re a good person but you need help.” 😂
Typeinmind is a really great website with the functions! Also keys2cognition if you have a bit of time on your hands. A fair amount of reading, but well worth it!
Wish i could say the same but my friend told me It could change maybe my hole personality will change cause im 15 and my real personality will show when im 18 so ...ig we’ll see in 3 years
How did you change your thoughts? I'm an INFJ-T and still struggling, though I've tried my best to get away from it as I want to be a positive person :(
@@cantid8509 well in my experience, the our inferior cognitive function, extroverted sensing, is a big factor. It's responseble for getting out of your head, seeing the world for what it is and accepting it instead of trying to find patterns and making sense of it ( search Ni-Ti loop to understand more) What help me is to develop the extroverted sensing function by being a bit more materialistic and superficial in the way you dress and how you veiw your attraction to people.( BTW we're naturally intuitive and we like to feel people emotional state. By being more materialistic and superficial, you will see overtime that you won't be over thinking as much as you won't be overstimulated all the time during non introverted events. Essentially you will find a balance overtime.
I got INFJ-A and I've never felt so much at home in my life. It fits perfectly and makes absolute sense. I am so happy and relieved to finally know why I function the way I do and there is nothing wrong with me, I'm not crazy, I'm just rare 🙏😍
I think that an INFJ can become any of both types A or T; depending on the environment and how life is embracing to an INFJ. As the INFJ evolves in his or her life things can go from an assertive to turbulent or vise versa
From my experience that is somewhat true. When my life went uphill and the worries i once had mattered less, i've gotten way more assertive. I just did what the fuck i wanted to develope myself. I felt like the chains that once held me down were gone. Now that life has hit back, i start to worry a lot more again and do less of the stuff i am supposed to do. Maybe the sub-categories are bound to mental health, but this observation i can only make with myself in mind. Back then i had a goal and nothing could stop me, now im stumbling through life and wondering where i'll end up.
I'm an INFJ and I think that I'm capable of being very weird but I'm so self aware that I have total control of it. I think there are weird people who don't realize they're weird, and then there's me, who isn't actually weird because I'm totally self aware of it. Anyone else relate?
being aware that your crazy makes you crazier right ? im not not sure if i should consider myself crazy and maybe think about going to a mental hospital or if being aware of my crazy thoughts ( and sometimes hating myself for having them, wishing i never had them ) makes me be realistic and not crazy
yes...a very contented Hermit, i have Zero desire to control Anybody else...but i am a Self control freak..Self Responsibility is my Lifeblood...even as a small child, i could feel the blood coursing thru my veins, raise & lower blood pressure, body temp, & heart rate...etc...so..yeh...i can control my degrees of weirdness...& few ppl ever guess. on the other hand i can reach level 100 of crazy if someone is threatening someone else, esp children or animals.....but f0r myself...notsomuch..i have been struck by cars, trucks, & steel baseball bats...eeehh
I was a fan of MBTI a couple of years ago and I was really into it. I was INFJ-T back then, but I wanted to do the test again today and I was sure I wasn’t going to get INFJ because my mental health has been 300% better. I got INFJ-A. 🎉
You want to know the secret? Glad you asked! I could share you my whole story but I think a list of key items would be preferable. Here goes: - A good mental health starts with good habits. Keep this mindset in mind. - First thing in the morning I do my bed - that’s one thing I never did before and doing it gives you that first success of the day. - Of course, a good night of sleep is necessary. I’m sure you already know that. - I then do my whole morning routine - nothing out of the ordinary (I can share it with you if you ask) - Here, I’m sure going about your day is the hardest part - or I don’t know; I don’t know you - but one thing that really helped me is having a “Third Place”. It’s a sociological concept - it’s about having a third place where you hangout with friends or basically anybody. The first place being your home, the second your workplace/school. I don’t know your age, but for me my third place is the board game club at my college. I really enjoy it there and just yesterday we all went out together, it was lots of fun. - One thing that reeeeaaaaally helped me was meditating. I don’t know if you heard this advice a lot - it may also sound goofy at first because meditation is for Buddhist monks am I right? Well, turns out it’s helpful for everyone. One of my biggest struggles was anxiety and meditation really helps you with that. I recommend you the free app called Medito if you want to start. - Next, I haaave to recommend you this book called “Lost Connections” by Johann Hari. I read it in my sociology classes and I wish I had read it before! Just read it bro, trust me 😝 - it’s also an easy read, written in an easy to understand tone; not formal at all -. - Ok, next thing that really helped me is finding what you’re passionate about an pursuing it. For exemple, learning guitar, practicing a new language, watching movies from a cinephile perspective and actually trying to explain the movies is a heck of a fun thing to do too. Also listening to new artists (I discovered The Beatles back then, that was one heck of a ride I loved it!) - Also, reading before bed is super fun too, I’m reading Don Quixote right now and I love talking about it. - Next tip is one of the most important. I don’t know if you struggle right now because all this seems like a lot. The thing that helped me the most was doing this journey with my friend who was also struggling a lot back then too. We would write to each other when we completed our morning routine, for example. That’s one small thing but knowing you are not alone in this changes everything. I think that’s all I have to say. I will keep thinking about it, maybe I will find other advice. Do not hesitate to ask me questions. I’m happy to help :).
@@maxime1776OMG!!! ARE YOU ME?? I think this is one of the best things I have read in months just because of how validating it is to me and how Rarely I meet people who relate. I was INFP-T with horrible anxiety and mental health and i consistently PUSHED myself with good habits, reading and meditation and most of these you mentioned and I am INFJ A now!!! My mental health hit 180 And i feel like it's a whole ass accomplishment!! I have barely met people who found it relatable but this one felt so validating. And thanks a lot for the extra tips I learnt! I will give that book a read!
@@maxime1776 wow. I did not get this notification on my phone when you initially sent it, and I remember wondering if I would hear back from you. Thank you so much for sharing all these examples. You are on an incredible journey, and have so much to to offer. I appreciate these tips and will spend time taking them in 🙏🏽 Im so happy to hear of your successes 🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽 thank you!
INFJ-A+ with near 0% turbulence. I'm grateful I get to experience life this way. I jump up and down with joy whenever my visions and plans happen in real life.
You made me realise that I can never be fully certain of my INFJ-ness, so it is better to not be a self-proclaimed one (not that I would scream it from the rooftops). I think there is also the danger of establishing one's identity too much on the 'INFJ' result - because we like the results we may try to live up to its stereotypes (and accordingly exhaust ourselves if we are in fact mistyped).
INFJ-T here. I think it is important to know your personality type, especially for the INFJ type, because the feeling of not fitting in with the rest and this world causes a lot of difficulties and pain. for me, discovering who I was brought great relief and peace of mind. everything is going smoothly now because I finally understand my surroundings and myself. Have a nice day 🙏❤
I really love staying and scrolling in this channel’s comment sections..where I can be myself and where I can feel that I’m human (my co-INFJs if you know what I mean😌🤣). Btw where’s my co-INFJ-Ts at??
me and my partner are both INFJ! But Im turbulent and he's assertive XD It honestly shows on situations that are upsetting! He can easily move and close a chapter, but for me i keep thinking and thinking if things turned out differently if i did this or i did that >.
Holy shit! Thank you so much for this comment! I just realised that i m moving towards Assertive. I think just a couple of years back I was finding it extremely difficult to close a chapter and I kept going back to these people knowing that they're bad influence on me. Now I just don't give a fuck! It feels so good to say it! I'm proud of myself 😭
@Vinay Tyagi I studied psychology so we can say that mbti is definitely not your 'personality' but more of the way you do things! Technically 'personality' can never change but i think ppl's way of seeing the world can definitely change throughout our life.🙂
INFJ with ADHD here lol. I always have people ask "Did you remember to do ____?", and the answer is usually "No, I got distracted reading ___ and forgot. Sorry." I also get caught deep in thought constantly to the point where I don't notice basic details that seem mundane to me, but are important to others (like following specific regulations or unwritten/unspoken work rules) and get yelled at. Being "twice exceptional" (aka "cognitively gifted" but with a learning disability) is complicated. Due to a high IQ, I was able to do great in school even as I lost or forgot homework constantly and got distracted, and even though my official IQ test results showed what should have been a mega red flag for a learning disability, I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until age 18. Being so absent-minded and so obsessed with abstract concepts and theories and data analyses, I am insanely unorganized and messy, although I'm not dirty. Also, people are always confused by how I know and can understand and explain so many theories and facts and figures, yet fail so miserably at basic things that regular people find totally easy like remembering to close the refrigerator at work. INFJ's already suck at noticing basic details about our surroundings due to our interior Se function, but add ADHD to that and life becomes a clusterfuck of tardiness, disorganization, distraction, and procrastination. Hence why I graduated from a phenomenal and prestigious college and yet work as a barista as a 27 year old. Anyone else relate?
What I appreciate about your way of explaining information, as an INFJ myself, is how in-depth you go and how you show that everything isn't simple and clearcut and can be digested down to "stereotypes" and these stereotypes taken as the only truth and fact and that you can make decisions based on these incomplete facts alone. You show that everything is multidimensional, has layers, is sophisticated! And that's what I, as an Ni user, always saw things to be like - sophisticated. It's not simple, although it seems like simple things to me because I'm wired to view things in this way, which other people just don't do, which has always prompted some challenge when talking about topics to other people (like needing to go into very lengthy explanations that might have varying success, or simplify and compromise this sophistication, which might or might not amount to better understanding from the other person based on how skilled you are to pick the right things to focus on / present this consise version of the information to them), and why I always appreciate when information is presented multi-dimensionally, because it more easily furthers my understanding of the things being talked about (because I just love understanding how things operate) This all just boils down to me saying, thank you for creating and formatting your content exactly as you do! It's helpful exactly like this. I appreciate your content.
I've shifted from INFJ-A to INFP-T on 16personalities in the space of a few years. I think I'm back to a slightly more turbulent personality thanks to PTSD.
When I first took the 16 Personalities Test I came out as ENFJ. Then, after a lot of research on cognitive functions and talking with others, I realized I'm actually an ISFJ. Very different, but it feels like it really fits! You really have to take these tests with a grain of salt.
Angela M I took the 16 personalities test and then I decided to retake it and I got the same answer. But I wasn’t quite sure if what I got was legit, so, I decided to take another test on a different but reliable website and I got the same and I started to understand that I’m really am an INFJ and I’m still young, I’m only 16 and it can change but I can’t ever see me actually changing. I do agree 16 personalities could be wrong but it wasn’t wrong about me.
Its probably more accurate to go straight from the letter to the description like they do and skip the whole function stack thing. I get 100% introvert and there is no way in hell my 2nd function is an extroverted one.
NPR says "And while personality traits are relatively stable over time, they can and often do gradually change across the life span. What's more, those changes are usually for the better. Many studies, including some of my own, show that most adults become more agreeable, conscientious and emotionally resilient as they age. But these changes tend to unfold across years or decades, rather than days or weeks. Sudden, dramatic changes in personality are rare."
I think so. I'm 28 now and I believe I've moved to become much more in the middle between T and A than I used to be in my early twenties. I think the change has come especially with a growth in confidence spurred on by having people around me that believe in me and encourage me to be confident.
Ofcourse you can, confidence can always be changed and that's what turbulent and assertive boils down to. A really confident person isn't gonna ruminate around every little detail.
@@xkenny-personalitydatabase5604 Makes sense. It's a work in progress. I do believe though I have changed for the better over a 2-3 year span of just consistently working on my anxiety, confidence and boundaries (boundaries being a big one). I still need to improve in areas of course. I'd have to say though what I have learnt about myself (turning a somewhat negative into a positive) as a turbulent INFJ I always want to do better/find a better way and I never settle for mediocre. A lot of people envy that even though it can SUCK at times.
I’ve been taking this test every year for a while now and I’ve been getting consistently INFJ-T for the longest time. I’m glad that people like you are here to help me understand how I think. I’m definitely an INFJ-T. I’m always getting stuck on my past actions. I have things that I still regret deeply and am ashamed of that I did when I was five. Like actually. I also have some pretty intense anxiety issues relating to my longing to excel in every aspect of my life.
I was at my infj-t peak during the covid lockdown. But I think I'm now slowly changing into the assertive side...it's just.... sometimes circumstances make you change yourself and come out of your shell
In an ENFP-A. This was a great video FJ. I especially enjoyed your thoughts on how one may think that their weaknesses are their strengths because the strengths are just so natural and automatic. Very thought provoking. I’d love to have someone like you to chat with about all this. Very cool. I’ll definitely check out your other channel right now!
I am undoubtedly an INFJ-A. I do meditation when I am under stressful circumstances. And I can handle breakups well. I don’t worry for anything and I am self-assure for my own decisions.
Being INFJ-T sucks, I try my hardest to communicate with people it's just hard I have many different thoughts and I'm always just in a different world I really just wanna be alone and never get bothered by anyone it's hard. I don't wanna listen to anyone's thoughts and I don't wanna be with anyone, I only have my girlfriend and she gets me sometimes it's hard to communicate but I try my hardest so she could understand. In school I couldn't go with the "friends" I had I couldn't do anything with me all I wanted to do is just to stay in the class and listen to music, I didn't wanna be asked too many questions and I never wanted to have friends cause I always felt uncomfortable being around them or around anyone else. If you ever think it's cool being or having this kind of personality you are wrong it sucks.
I feel like i can be both INFJ-T and INFJ-A. I'm kind of like mix, so it's very confusing. But on the otherhand, i'm slowly turning more into an INFJ-A, bc im very stubborn and strict when it comes to things going after my plan and decisions i really want. I can be very sensitive and full of anxiety, but very cold at the same time. Can anyone relate?.....or is it just me?
INFJ-T over here...but I wasn’t sure and didn’t want to give inaccurate info so I took the test 5 more times just to be sure. 😅👍 Oh no... I forgot that self-reporting is flawed (I’m in social sciences)...::cue overthinking that is over 9000::
I’ve never had an original experience. Also in social sciences and know how flawed self reporting can be. Taken the test over 4 times over the past few years and recruited my friends and family to take it so I can compare what they get. 😅 gathering my own data over here.
I got INFJ-T because I can be anxious when making my decisions but I’ve never been afraid to take my opportunity or make one for myself. I got 49% A and 51% T
There is really no type. All INFJs are all the types at certain times and situations. INFJs are INFJs, we just able to be anything we want. Adaptability..m
I am INFJ-T according to 16 personalities. It fits pretty well as I worry about basically everything and everyone, except myself most of the time. Luckily I have finally managed to just focus on myself and it has helped me be less negative as I do things I want to do rather than do what my friends would have done. All and all you can't control what others will think or feel you can only control what you think or feel yourself and control how you present yourself to others. Wow that sounds like something you would read on the back of some cereal, but it is true in a way. hahah
Infj A is a healthy individual who grew up in healthy loving family, while infj T is a traumatized individual , who suffered severe childhood abuse, another word for infj T is BPD borderline personality disorder
Thank you for outwardly illustrating how my mind works. Every time I started asking a question in my mind during the video, you'd address it. So cool to see how 16p structures their results and to hear my thoughts outside myself.
Am I the only one that both A and T applies to? I feel like at different times in my life, with different situations, I have been very much one way and very much the other.
I’m INFJ-T to a T. Hell, it took me forever just to work up courage to post a comment. 😅 I’m so glad I stumbled onto your channel! I swear I learn something new, even about myself, every time I watch your videos! Thank you for braving this judgmental world to share that beautifully brilliant brain of yours!
I had to start laughing when you kept saying "you don't know yourself", because a thought popped in my mind then..." Hey, maybe that's why I take so many screenshots of my comments everyday!". I'm in a healing & discovery phase in retirement from nursing. I was in a fog for most of my life & never really saw how strong & beautiful I am. Thanks for helping me piece it all together in our journey to be our fullest selves while we are here on Earth.🤗❣️
When you talked about the different personnality tests (especially MBTI ones or 16personnalities), it really made me think about how many people have false results (and I'm not saying they are doing it on purpose). That's why I feel that it's important to read more about the personnality types, and really understand what they stand for, to know if what you got from one test is accurate or not :)
These tests are bullshit IMO. There is no/very limited scientific backing for them and some kinds of people (mainly Autistic people such as myself) don't fit into the mold of these tests as they are designed by NTs for NTs. What's even worse is employers are using these tests for hiring now and thanks to them Autistic people have a 80% unemployment rate...
I was once an INFJ - T, but I kinda break out the cycle of overplaning and getting anxious and depressed all the time it was slow but worth it I'm now a proud infj - a
I completely agree that people don’t know themselves. We will always answer by who we want to be and how we want to be perceived. But going through past experiences and remembering how you react to situations helps :)
Thanks for such an interesting video! I didn’t know what the A or T meant...I am definitely a T. I first took an official MBTI test when I was 18 during a university psychology class and was an ISFJ. Almost two decades later, I was working in Human Resources and we loved MBTI! Our team took an official MBTI test and I also received an ISFJ result. The great thing about this second test was it showed where you were on the spectrum of each letter. I feel that I have less introversion now than when I was 18 but am definitely still an “I”. I remember two of my colleagues had the same four letters and we were dumbfounded because they were so different. When we looked at their spectrums, it all made sense. For instance, one was super introversion and the other was almost to the boarder of introversion/extroversion. It was so really neat to see.
I agree that when taking a test that involves evaluating yourself, the result can end up not being accurate. But I would say that it improves when you get to know yourself better and educate yourself about the details (e. g. functions). The same goes for others' judgement of yourself. Apart from that, great video!
I’m an Infj- t which makes perfect sense because when I did the big 5 I was high in neuroticism. Also I am actually disagreeable according to the big 5. Which is true, I will admit I can be pretty disagreeable. Working on that XD
This last part is so freaking true. You are self blind and more likely to pay attention to your weaknesses and the times you overcame them because those are points where you feel extreme pride in yourself. I thought I was mistyped for a very long time. I didn't believe that I was an INFJ. In my mind, I am a very logical person. I am organized and I am capable of immediate response in stressful situations. I see myself as forceful, pushing constantly for efficiency. In reality, those are bullshit lies I told myself. When I think of those descriptors I can recall certain instances where I reacted in ways that I felt really good about. They were times where I performed outside of my norm, almost super human... for me, anyway. In order to type myself accurately, I felt that it required not just self reporting.. but also the input of friends and family. In the end, I paid someone to type me as well. Despite my self reporting giving me INTJ, consistently those around me were identifying me as INFJ. I haaaated it. There is nothing I hate more than being told I am a big feeler baby. I have never met another INFJ that I feel/felt "gets me" and the stereotypes of INFJ are ridiculous. Not only that, but in the groups that I participate in... INFJ are wildly unpopular at the moment. I hate that I might be dissuaded from the truth by group mind, but that probably had a lot to do with my rejection of the truth. I would literally rather be any other type. Probably ENFP, they seem fun. Or maybe an ENTJ because who wouldnt want that? But I think also, thats how I knew it was true... because I didn't like it. I think a lot of us spend a lot of time lying to ourselves or trying to pretend we are something we are not. It is probably a defense mechanism of the ego. Self preservation. Idk. These days, I recommend strongly that people ask those around them for their opinions about their type if they want accuracy. "But nobody can see me like I can see me," is what they typically say... which is what I also said in those situations. And I just tell them the same thing... that is called denial and self-delusion. Your brain lies to you.
I’m the INFJ-A … I’m pretty amazed at this test how it reveals so much about a person. In my job I had to have the confidence to make changes when conditions were arose so I needed to be level headed and able to think outside the box…I wrote contracts and sometimes while managing them big decisions needed to be made usually as a result of acts of God or other type changes/ conditions. In my line of work I needed to be extremely organized so my personality type fit perfectly for this type work and it was an ISTJ who said I’d be good at that type work and he was right…but I can’t be micromanaged and I recently retired because of a micro manager who would not let me do my job and after 20+ years of doing what I did, for an income, I didn’t need a baby sitter.
I just love the way you are trying your best to dig and dig to figure out these things! I am right there with you. - INFP-T according to the 16 personalities test.
Ah, don’t you just love it when you get stuck in a loop of overthinking what you’re really like, to the point where you feel like you don’t even know who you are anymore?
