INFJ: 6 Ways to be a Healthier INFJ 

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Heyy thank you for the vedio it was really helpful and the haicut suits you a lot i hope you're having a good day too and you're well

I procrastinated grocery shopping for two weeks because I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to get...

Frank James Yes I agree that it will take time to figure out who you are. Stick to it though cuz it will happen!

Hi I think you should do infjs neighbor the infp and how they can make themselves better aswell. I know it's off topic😊 Just a rando thought

Reading us to filth !🤣🤷🏾‍♀️

Same

Yea same 😐

Anh Thư Phạm I feel expose to

Was totally hoping someone listed the points in a neat comment ❤️

Boston Terrier 😂

Omg that's hard I would be rattling in spontaneous doing. Good luck

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LOL! Witty

Resonating so hard with this 🤣

See my comment.

I've done all of this and i operate a lot better as a human..

I learnt to do 2 like this week. 3 and 6 are my only problems. Well 6 kinda, i stay myself. But I give up a lot to save others

Thank you so much for this!

Needed this a lot. I hope I become healthier and become a better person for myself and for others. This goes to everyone out there as well :) You can do it :>

Daym trueeee....

I was thinking, okay, how do I prepare to be spontaneous?

Not plan at all is like scraps things

it is kinda hard tho , what do you think!?

No planning huh, seems like somebody’s going jack sparrow these upcoming days lol

It seems like the problem with going with the flow, is that I already have a plan and then someone interrupts it.

I just want to go with MY flow, not someone else's !,lol

you will eventually

Coz they can read your mind and what will you say.

Lollllllllllllll

Imma wear black and hide in a corner Pfffff express yourself

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i was like that, i found i loyal spontanios good friend that was rolling hes own way and just needed some INFJ power at hes side haha. but my point is he made me do things, he dragged me out of my wormhole. so maybe if you see a person thats very true to them self and others you can teach eachother to become better at what you lack. im sure i would be very different to day if it wasnt for our friendship.

@Jaco van der Merwe the worst is when you have an iportant conversation, then you began to mmble and forget what you was going to say, or when some one tells you something and you just like, yeah yeah, wait can you say that again? haha

This is SO me. I feel like the world I‘ve built in my head seems exponentially better than what the real world has to offer.

I have the same habit and it keeps me from doing my schoolwork on time 😥😥😥 I'd sit at the desk and 3 hours later realize that I have done NOTHING 😭

I'm the same way. I still havent found a way to not do that.

Haha! I flat out hissed when his first point was to be spontaneous! 😂 I'm so bad at that!

I'm so sorry he did that, I could literally feel your hurt as I read that.

omg reading your comment makes me so happy because you were able to overcome the uncomfortable situations you were in and it also gives me hope that I'll be able to do the same! I'm at the stage where anything out of my comfort zone makes me really anxious and confrontation is something I really lack at. I hope everything is well for you!! and I hope that you continue to push yourself out there and become the best you can be! :P also i like ur profile picture ;)

@@angelakm4286 omg you're such a sweetheart 💜 I hope everything goes well for you too!!

Number 6 is the hardest for me because I struggle with my identity I don't seem to fit in anywhere and that's probably why I don't bother to be social I feel like if I am my true self in front of others they will reject me and I don't like to be noticed I would rather blend in thanks Frankie your a gem!

Anxiety has been a challenge to do what your doing. Your story has inspired me thank you!

@@samwinchester61 omg you're so welcome! I'm glad my story helped❤️ hope you'll get through whatever that is challenging you

I absolutely agree. I do not know why I have such a hard time revealing what I really want out of fear of hurting other people. However, it is possible to train your bravery to be yourself! I'm currently on that way

Avoid that group of people!

Definitely relate. I mostly stay alone these days after work. Not the healthiest. But it feels healthier than being around people where i can't speak and be my truth. We're a weird species to the majority so it's challenging.

Britta Buchanan agreed 😊

I’m a special education teacher too and I totally agree. This is my 8th year I believe and I’ve learned so much. I learn more every year..it’s awesome.

Lol I started listening to music these last hours. I was finally convinced that I was ready to sleep now. Then FJ decides to post up his video. Cant win tonight :/ 😂

You were not alone in sleeplessness. 💜

Same here but its now 4:14.

Just realized his initials are FJ and he has all these videos on INFJs so I'm assuming that's what he is. Funny coincidence.

Why do I relate to this so much? Mom, m scared XD

I know of only 2 ways in which a person can learn who they are. 1. Hardship 2. Solitude & meditation Hardship molds us and meditation reveals to us. No one can tell you who you are, not even for infj's.

i can’t really think of any good advice right know but i feel you so much. i’m only recently starting to realize the effects of too much people pleasing. even thinking of this makes me... well, mortified. but it’s a start. remember that you are valid and good no matter how lost you feel.

Hey it's not Monday if you're not having an identity crisis and you're an infj. 😁

@The Prospectors yes! This is so true. I'm having a hard time choosing a career path because people normally decide based on what they're good at or passionate about. I can be good at anything if I'm dedicated enough and I'm not particularly passionate about any one thing

Going thru the same thing. INFJ here.

Yes, I end up unconsciously taking on others' mannerisms, accent, etc within a few minutes of talking to them.

Tell me about it. I felt so confused until I knew it was thing 😕

Sade Metsävirta I get that! I use to say I wish I had a friend like me,for a friend!

@@stacybalo8677 Same!

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Sade Metsävirta Agree!!! I’ve cut out quite a few these past 5 years.

When I read yours words i felt like it came from my mind

Your lucky you know about your abilities now while you’re young ,you have some time to sort things out, I’m 54 just found out about this personality trait I have, it’s a bit overwhelming , I am wondering how My life would have turned out if I would have known this information 20 years ago 💡

The military will teach you to deal with fear very effectively

And the part of the lesson here is to be yourself with out feeling the need to explain yourself...because everyone is too into themselves to care!

Gerald Cecka me too 54 - I do wonder if I had known about mbti in my teens

You are enough just as you are 😊 if people say you're too much when you show your true colors, it could be you fooled them for a long time, or that they just don't appreciate you. But the sooner you trust a little-just enough to let them see your character-the sooner you can gauge if the friendship is worth it

Stop it mate hah u get me right

tika rohayati i prefer it long!

Lol, are you guys INFJ?

He’s hella cute with that hair

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Přesně....

I started being concerned about my health in 2009, so I began changing my diet towards super-healthy, and it's made me look (a lot) younger, feel younger, and it's basically made a world of difference. There's barely anything I can't do at 46, that I could in my 20's. My metabolism has even come back to what it was back then (super-high). I feel like I'm going to live to 160. If anyone wants to know about it, I'll be happy to tell you.

I don't get enough hours of sleep and don't eat enough :|

@@silvergreylion Sure I'd like to learn more :)

@@amara560 All right, first step is dropping meat. Second step; dropping dairy products and getting all the essential nutrients you need, mostly from natural sources. I start off my day with a wok-mix lightly heated in a pan. It has green beans, cut carrots, bean sprouts, parsnips root slices, yellow and red pepper pieces, peas in edible pods and judas-ear mushroom. I add paprika and turmeric, mostly for taste, and a big pinch of seaweed powder. I replaced butter with coconut oil maybe 12 years ago, and for bread I mostly eat some I've baked myself, or savory buns with cut wheat seeds. At noon, when I'm at work, I eat a mix of cooked broccoli, half a jar of Uncle Ben's medium curry sauce, about 50-60g of ground flax seeds, and some of the water the broccoli was cooked in, to get a leaner consistency. I rarely eat anything resembling an evening meal. On occasion, I thaw some cooked white beans or chick peas, heat them in a pot, add lemon juice, ground black pepper, sea salt, and soy cream. A couple years ago, I found I was getting fat from potatoes and rice, so I cut that out, and since then, my weight has been fairly stable. I gain a few kilo during winter, and lose them again in the spring and summer. Oranges help a lot with losing belly fat. It's like they tell the fat cells to just die. Raw, unheated honey helps with fasting, which is also something I do a few times per year. Dissolve a spoonful of honey in half a litre of varm (not boiling, 60C at most) water or tea, and drink it. Starting with that should make it easy to fast for 2-3 days. For essential nutrients, I get iodine from the seaweed powder, zinc from Tahini and a supplement pill, Selenium from Brazil nuts (one per day), Boron from a supplement pill, most B-vitamins from Marmite, magnesium oxide powder (for horses, I'm a cheapskate), calcium from dandelion leaves and a supplement pill every morning. Also, Vitamin K2 from sauerkraut, this is quite important, as it helps calcium end up where it's supposed to, instead of calcifying various organs. Lastly, flax seed oil is very important, as it's the biggest source of Omega-3 oil from plants. No other seed has a higher ratio of Omega-3 oil. It needs an oil found in coconut oil to be converted to the final form in the body, but if you're using that instead of butter, you're getting it anyway. I always sleep with a door or window open, as I found out I often wake up with a headache if I didn't.

I wasn't lol

Beautifully put. 💞

Vivian Madeline aww thank you 💞

Yea, they havent been adultized yet like we have. They don't know the rules we covertly live by.

Naivegedanke 😂

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yes literally blessed/cursed with being INFJ.

This is so me

Sounds like the kinda friend a friend needs, lol, whatever they are we are their mirror.

I’m strongly know your feelings, I usually feel the nostalgia

Do it now. The older you get, the harder it is to know who you are. At 45 I have no idea anymore. Married with children so dont really have the opportunity to find out. Figure it out before you trap yourself.

This me 100% it's something Im still working on as we speak.

So beatyful my friend u.u Yes, we need to flourish and enjoy all our inner richness. Thank you, you touch my heart this nigth.

I get it! I'm INFJ too. Don't Wait! I started seeking late and now at 74, finally comfortable in my skin. Yet could have had a fuller life had I known then. These videos help tremendously to understand the real me underneath the shape shifter. Too, I've found several spiritual people and their sites who validate this video's message and present ways to navigate this inner and outer world. I tried several until finding those who resonate,

I was thinking about this too! I have an INFJ friend(Japanese) and I hoped that learning his MBTI would help me better understand him. The deeper I go, though, the more I feel the need to just get better at the language and figure him out myself. MBTI is a nice framework to bounce off of, but it feels Western-based. ~your friendly neighborhood ENFP

Maybe try balancing out both of your needs.

Wow, I can relate to this🤦🏾‍♂️

pkh Same.

So true for myself as well!

pkh same and I’m pregnant right now so that’s going out the damn window for sure 😭😂

Alan Rooney entering the workforce & then noticing patterns of people using me as their doormat..it took me 10 years to put it all together. People will really sniff us out & try to manipulate us. It’s a good point to raise. I’ve often tried to take the high road & continue acting with pure intentions. It’s difficult when integrity means so much

@@fluffyclouds555 Completely agree about integrity, but personally I resolved that the greater good trumps my sense of integrity. By standing against the manipulation, or possibly returning the favor if it's deserved (I cannot emphasize enough how extreme the behavior must be) with the likelihood of changing the manipulator's behavior, you prevent others from suffering the same fate. At which point, integrity says to rebel, at least to me.

Same

You can regain a lot of youthfulness by changing your diet to something much healthier. It's made a world of difference for me, and I'll tell anyone who wants to know.

I went through the exact same scenario as an infj , and I wanna tell you to not burn your self , after you finish school you will find out that it really didnt matter , and you will propbably surpass all your peers , trust me ....

Lydia Duma Same lol it’s really hard to open up

Lydia Duma what’s weird about you?

LOL yeah, very few seem to be " ready" for the real I, also.

Yes, you owe it to yourself, and others to express and be in your "true state" more and more. Doing the same :)

I don't create "fake" appearances for different crowds, but I have found that different people bring out different parts of my personality. I am literally incapable of being fake, like I cannot do anything that isn't really me (which is ironic because I am an actor as well, but that's different!), so I am either being some version of myself, or just sitting silently and awkwardly in the corner refusing to interact whatsoever, more frequently the latter when I'm not around someone I'm already friends with and trust.

I understand this is most difficult task for us

INFJs can be chronic "I can fix them" types. Especially if we see someone in pain. We'd do anything to help someone else find happiness again. However, sometimes, we are too willing to hurt ourselves to achieve that end.

@@lobalee1873 So true. And I can tell how these bad experiences get us to close our hearts, isolete, fear trusting again. It is a daily battle, but worthy. I feel like reading people gets easier, and you can walk away from trouble faster.

Been doing whats best for others my whole life. I Stopped doing that for the past year or more. Now I have no friends. (:

Lol I felt like he was reading my mind, and like I had just been exposed, very different feeling for me, usually that’s me 🤣, I like wanted to click off but the advice was too good

Cut out all distractions & meditate daily 💞

Lots of soul searching and reflecting. Try to seperate the buttons that are being pushed from your personality. It takes a long time, probably a life time.

Try journaling. But be true to yourself when you write it down. After a while, maybe after you finish the book, you can read it again. You can see some pattern there, about how you feel, how you act, etc.

i am looking for the answer too 😂😂😂

The real me is a brutally honest mean person

Nadilionlocks I get it! I think (oops) the idea is to actually think less and just let yourself feel more and take things in, but I’m not great at this either so I might be wrong ^^; I try to just listen to the sounds of the birds, or feel the sun on my skin and do that kind of thing to start :)

If you're into any sport, you know if you aren't in the present and at least 10% in the future It's going to hurt. Even ping pong, when the ball hits your face because you were thinking about a FrankJames video, you will be aware of the present quite suddenly.

This mediation helped me with knowing whether I'm present: "Sitting quietly, be aware of your breath. Notice the sensations in your body Listen to the sounds around you. Now, gently turn your attention back on itself. The power of attention that can be aware of sensations and thoughts can also be aware of itself. So just for a moment, turn backward your capacity for being aware and feel that you are becoming aware of your own capacity for being aware. You might experience your awareness as the container for your experience in this moment or as the part of your mind that knows you are thinking. For a moment, let yourself recognize your own awareness. Even if you can be aware of your awareness for only a moment, in that moment you will touch the primal awareness/bliss at the core of yourself." From Awakening Shakti by Sally Kempton It's impossible to stay in that state for more than a few seconds, but it's good way to start to be aware in the present moment. I think FJ's advice sounds like using more of your Se. Experience the world with your senses, without analysing it. Just let it be and let yourself be in it.

Thank you guys, i practice grounding myself up to be aware of the present. Though, i often see myself and everyone from a 3rd perspective- like you’re watching a television. It’s really hard for me to explain

@@eljaykayaye1186 when I tell you that I suck at sports because of my lack of being in the present , Im not lying n

Headspace app. Check it out.

Make it fun,and your bit of Me Time.

lol, i also experienced this a lot of time

I know this comment was written 3 years prior, but i did this exact same thing. I was allergic to walnuts, but I still ate the nut covered chocolate my grand-aunt gave me, because I didn't want to worry her or make her sad. Luckily my allergies aren't life-threatening, but it was still insanely uncomfortable.

Aaaaa, California. Heya, there!

😂😂

@@ChentheInfj just trying to shoot my shot 🏀 lmao

Nope. Least compatible type

@@maplenook lol it's okay 😂 I don't talk to people based on their types. I'm very open minded, but I'm also not afraid of rejection. I'm a young girl living in a world full of options and opportunities. 🤘🏼

yeah i'm stunned

Might be a intj

yeah same to me. Once i spend 20 hours without eating, because i "forgot"

I had this problem too. Of course, it is not a problem to want meaningful conversations but in most cases, it is difficult to find friends another way. When I studied at university I was the type of person that goes from one person to another person to talk to, as INFJ it was weird for me that I had many acquaintances. And I did this because I start a conversation and it gets pretty boring sometimes and I was always looking for a more interesting discussion. You could ask someone about the homework, maybe someone could help you with something, it's the best way to begin a conversation even though you don't need any help. And imagining that all those people are already your friends helps too