INFJ Functions | Use Extraverted Sensing (SE) to your advantage | INFJ Development 

The determination of believing in my own ideas, my own vision, is the single thread that runs through my life for the past 40 + years. Through horrible times. My single worst fear in life is failure, the fear of not actualising my vision, dreams and goals. My determination is the only thing keeping me from failure. Thanks Wenze

I once decided to be in Se entirely for three days for an experiment, try it as a hero function. I remember back then on the day 1 I went to help around my local church along with other fellow church-goers. I was here-and-now when I was helping, and when I didn't work I would immediately go talk to other people and have fun with them. I prohibited any Ni in me (that was really hard). Feedback was a mix. Some said I was cool, mostly types with higher Se or Si (Fe-recognition onto my heart:))). Some said I was aggressive, even though I never shouted at anyone and didn't mean to be aggressive at all. One person who said I was aggressive was ISTJ. And my best friend, who is ENFJ, said I was toxic. No idea why. I remember that my body would force me to go to bed after 8 pm. On the fourth day my mind started projecting images of how I can end up a bad person and get in trouble for being what I was for the last three days, that I can loose sight of my vision. Another interesting observation was that I couldn't immediately remember what vision I had prior to the experiment. It seems like Se suppresses Ni, and the other way around.

Two things stood out about this. One was when you mentioned that we INFJs will not turn into ESTPs. In the days of the " extrovert ideal," my family in general and my mother (bless her ESFJ heart) in particular especially valued ESFP, ENFP and of course ESFJ. Which is fine except that nine of them was me! 😕 My mom loved us all dearly but I don't think she ever forgave me for not being "bubbly." (I look ridiculous when I try to be bubbly) 😁 The other was when you emphasized how we must follow our own path, regardless. Everyone has to do it, but we INFJs have our own distinct way in which we must do it. Your system of self discipline was another just-like-it-only-different way I go about it. Good video, as always.

When i was much younger, I wanted to incorporate se into my personality, even before I knew anything about cognitive functions - so much so - that I took up various se activities while in highscool- and i wanted very much to exercise that one particular function ! Now, at this point, i am more focused on honing my lead, auxiliary and tiertary parts that ive all but forgotten about inferior se and I've noticed that as i have matured, that it dangerous to ignore se because of our penchant for overindulging in sensory stimulation which , in my opinion concributes to those pesky Se grips that we can find ourselves entangled in.

My mum told me off when I used my Se in full force with someone. She didn't understand that I was so assertive with that person because they kept refusing to understand that I wasn't going to back down from my vision. My mum wanted to keep the harmony but I knew that this person was an Se Dom so it was fine.

Seriously you're like an AK-47 shooting bullets of INFJ wisdom. I'm amazed.

@Wenzes - As an INFJ, one startling take away from your presentation was comment on your reaction to watching films. The reality vs non-reality experienced by the INFJ. I’ve always loved films, but I have always had same reaction to them as you described. I’m always in the film or the film is in me. Can be rather odd and disturbing for an INFJ. First time I’ve ever heard anyone put it into words. ThankU!

I'm still learning more about myself as an INFJ EMPATH.

Photo beauty gets attention. If you're not photo beautiful, you won't get the positive feedback that creates the sense of self we all crave, unless you have natural confidance, natural grace, which again is a gift for the most part. Do you agree?

Omg the description of binge watching series was so incredibly true

Thank you Wenzes, so practical and so helpful!!! Appreciate the practical examples and analogies!

Wenzes, i LOVE your work. And i want to wholeheartedly thank you for inspiring me to get my butt back on track to follow my own dream, and create my own destiny. From a fellow INFJ, keep on doin what your doin cause your doin excellent! lol.

I really liked the your videos; but this one is my favorite. As you said, there is not so many videos which explains SE from INFJ perspective so well!!! Keep going please

Thank you for your videos. They help me organize my feelings

So good. Thank you!

Great video as always, love. :) For me, it appears as though I have so many Ni visions that I feel stuck not knowing which to start taking charge with. Do you have any advice for a young college student who works, and still lives with their family? What ways can I incorperate Se into my life? On the topic of Se, I'm curious if its common for INFJ's/INTJ's to have OCD. Its commonly said that each type has a general yearn to take cotrol of their 4th function. I use to have OCD pretty bad (wouldn't eat because I was scared of germs, counting in sets of 8/16, washing hands excessively, repetitive noises would set me into panic attacks, triple check if I parked my car, etc. This happened when I was 16 and 17.) I realized recently I was either trying to control, or was anxious about not being able to control, my external environment. Se. I'm very interested in this. Anybody have any personal or emperical information on this??

can u do a video on extraverted thinking in INFJs. I feel like I understand aspects of TE but I don't fully understand how it is logical because it is an expression of FI. I also don't understand how infjs have it as an ignoring function but INTJS have it as their second function. I guess I just find SI and TE so odd and have great difficulty gaining in depth understanding of what they are and how we ignore, or role play them

My best friend is an estp and I still don't know how she does it.

wow I have so many thoughts on this subject!!! yes I feel this involves the fe upward spiral because when I give an fe-se reaction allows me to keep my ni in check because I was probably absorbing unhealthy thoughts, and fe-se keeps me out of this. I think of it in my head as 40% ni, 30% fe, 20% ti, and 10% se is healthy, and I think the unhealthy comes from infjs having 60% ni and 30% ti and no room for extroverted functions hahaha. also in romantic relationships I craved se from the other person, and this combined with my manic love to ultimately glorify relationships to an unhealthy place. now that I integrate my own se I know that I don't truly need anyone else (although i fall back into these habits ay times, and it would be very nice to be in a relationship :) ) and I feel complete, and now I can go at relationships from a much healthier point of view. also compared to old videos you are clearly more fe and se in these videos and u have a much stronger energy, while in the old videos it is much more a stereotypically wistful and disconnected infj (which is so common for infjs which I am completely oftentimes) XD haha just noticed that.

It’s too hard.. I want to give up. My thoughts are constantly deceiving me I lack control.

I find that I fall pre to my Se a lot...sensory stimulation through with ASMR videos, overindulgence of drink, sex...do you have strategies for defending against overindulgence in the negative aspects of Se that we INFJs are susceptible to?

Perfect video. As always. :)

hey could you do a video on infj's and how they read people because i often read that infjs have uncanny insight into people,like how does fe and ni work together when reading someone?

Thank you.

You're so awesome😍

Wenzes, can you make a video about INFJ's and mentors? Who would be a good mentor to have for an INFJ?

Please answer me, it's something very important. Thank you.

Would an INFJ be happy,satisfied being a lawyer?

please give examples when u explain things