INFJ: How to improve your interaction with TE types ENTJ & ESTJ 

I’m an INFJ married to a ENTJ for the last 25 years. I love him with all my heart! ❤️

There's something you said that I really liked, about Te wanting to know if a person is self sufficient, respect worthy, do they know what's going on and do they take action. Because that is a big part of how you win over an ESTJ: 1. Have a presentable appearance to pass the inspection of their critical Se role. They can be a bit conservative but have good taste. 2. Satisfying their Te judgement (above statement) will make a strong impression on them. 3. You need that strong impression to appeal to the Si auxiliary function. 4. If they offer to do anything with you, take them up on it with no hesitation, Ne loves to share experiences. 5. They are now ready to relate to you directly via Fi, if you overcame any struggles or sacrifice to get where you are and can share that with them, you have won them over. ESTJs are remarkable and loyal friends to only a small number of selected people, so if you are one those consider yourself special. Everybody else can suck it for all ESTJ cares.

I'm ESTJ. Most of my friends are intuitives type. I agreed what you say though, sometimes my type are so assertive and insensitive, that makes us the enemies of the Feeler. We are building a strong image to other people. Watching your expression on this video, I'm not so surprised because I knew that my friends has the same thought like you. And of course, I know that, I'm consciously know what I'm doing and how does it affect others. I'm toxicating the atmosphere of people peaceful conversation who playing with their imagination, and I broke it all. I think I'm a different ESTJ type that you mentioned. I never forced others to be Traditional, Discipline, etc, but I just give them advice without any offensive stance. I understand you very well, stay away from unhealthy SJ's type. I feel related to this video as well, as antagonist perspective lol. By the way, you're beautiful (not trying to flirt). What a deep Feelers eyes that you have there. I see a vast room with a memory inside it.

OMG You made an ESTJ cry?! YOU ARE MY HERO!!!! Lol, just kidding.

I'm an ENTJ, and i love the interactions i have with Ni - dominants. For me, if we see something, or something happens. we don't need to communicate it to understand eachother. that something speaks for itself. all the implications are mutually understood. This might be to subjective or spesific, but it's what i can say. The humor between us are usually not understood by others. if it's an INTJ, it's usually very far out, politically uncorrect, brutal or sick. But it's not because we have a cruel taste. It's the absurdity of it. a farmer stabbed a cow 15 times. we imagine a state of mind of a person doing something insane and speculating on to why. it's so alien, it's funny. we are not laughing at the tradegy, but the absurdity. also we are laughing at the fact that we are laughing, which escalates and totaly makes us seem insane. With the INFJ who are very opposite of that. It's something much warmer. Like a guy or girl doing/saying something not realising how human that sounded. straight up wise not even realising it. we laugh at people in a big brotherly way. I think i am the catalyst for it. like it's ok to laugh because i do. but im not sure. again, this is just two of many examples and it's very subjective. but just came to think of it. As for you talking about confronting Extj's with "unmoral" actions (like not showing up on a birthday). i like that. very much. i hate to know something is wrong but have no idea of what. also it's good for me to know.

This video was so so helpful. I'm an infj dating an entj and I am constantly battling with creating harmony instead of pointing out what I really think. The part where you said we notice their unawareness of other people's feelings was spot on.

INFJ with an ENTJ sister and an ESTJ father. I get along alright with my sister, but we have our moments of misunderstanding every now and then. My father on the other hand... well, I have set some pretty strict boundaries.

Omg how I needed this so badly. I promess I will put my moral first and do things and not looking more SE in others. I will do things for myself. Thank you so so much

Thanks, there are some excellent points and examples here. My wife is Infj and I am Entj. Your example with the family member really rings true.

OMG I DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU WENZES!! YOU CHANGED SO MUCH DURING ALL THE YEARS!

ENTJs are fine....ESTJs however.

YES! I always felt if I accidentally said something rude people wouldn't open up to me or trust me. But as you said, if I am being fake and dishonest people will not trust to open up to be because they can sense I am not being genuine so why should they.

Thank you!!!!!

I'm an ENTJ female and my man is an INFP. It's really hard because I have to always work hard to step down and speak and behave much more gently than what is natural for me. In return I think he tolerates my extroverted and quick and tougher opinions fairly well too. Although his reaction to it is usually silence or sometimes a smirk.

Hi, I think you are very easy to listen to and I can relate very much to what you saying as an infp( even if we dont share functions). In many of your videos. I have always made myself a bit invisible and have adjusted to others so I wont scare them away. Hide when im bored and still engage in topics and ways of interacting that doesnt suit me. I have also drained my close friends with my fi at times because i have to "let it out "after a while. So you talk about creating an outlet for your primary function by expressing it in healthy ways, and show it. How can I do that with fi? Keep them coming Much love, Elin

I'm an ENTP and sometimes struggle in communication with ESTJs. I'm pretty good at making them steam up in frustration, lol. I like working with ENTJs however

I thought INFJ would perceive first before judging someone, as Ni dominant is a perceiving function.

Estj agreeing with what infj says during conversation, but the next day says or does the opposite. What is this about?

This helped me out in understanding ENTJs a lot better since my father is one. I find myself "parenting" the parent since his divorce, at least that's what my therapist told me. This explained so much about my past relationships as well, so thank you so much! :)

I'm an INFJ and my mother is also ESFJ, I'm not sure if you notice this, even though we like them a lot, they don't like us equally as much, due to the communication divide.

how do you know other people's types? did they take the test or do you just recognise the type in others?

You dress really nice :) Do you know your subtype for socionics?

I agree mostly, but the part about the "morality" of ENTJ and ESTJ is completely off, especially since many ESTJs are Enneagram 1s. Also, Fe is not at all about morality, it's about ethics.

There is a distinction to be made that LOTS of people who make MBTI videos or videos on "type" seem completely unaware of. Its this: Yes, I'm generalizing but still...everybody-and-their-dog is harping/instructing about FUNCTIONS, and they call it MBTI but it isnt. Pick YOUR personal FIVE favorite online RU-vid MBTI "content-creators" and I'll bet there isnt one who doesnt talk about FUNCTIONS. But--- Take yer TOP 5 favorite Type people online. Have ANY of them read "Gifts Differing" by Isabel Myers-Briggs? Im betting not one of them has. I'd be quite surprised. Functions are mentioned in that book, but its short, and brief, almost in passing. Noooowhere near the relentless harping and emphasis we see online today. So where did all this function-stuff come from? You also wont find it in the book TYPE TALK by Kroeger and Theussen. You wont find it in LIFE TYPES by Hirsch & Kummerow (another researched and leading MYERS-BRIGGS book. We now have THREE authoritative books on type and very very little on functions....again where did all this function-mania come from?Think of the last TWENTY ttype videos you've listened to. Yes, that many. Has even ONE of them listed/mentioned/Named even one of the three books I've mentioned? I'm betting not any of them have. Go back to 2010 on RU-vid and an ENTJ video by Mike Adams. Here's the link: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zZhIrbqADh8.html Do you hear him going on and on and on about "introverted sensing, extroverted intuition, etc? Nope. He talks about "the 4 letters" of type. So how did we get to all the stuff we CALL MBTI today, but is really just...Functions. People today talk waaayyy more about functions than Isabel myers-briggs ever did? My own belief is....probably a little after Mike Adams's videos, some guy came along who went by the name of Dave Superpowers. AT THE TIME, there was farrrrr less "competition" on the web, alot of people never read or heard of the 3 books i mentioned and many folks had not discovered Mike Adams's videos, either. So-o...many folks simply weren't more aware...and along comes this Dave Superpowers with a large flurry of videos--POW---and, he also spoke a bit too fast. He was kinda hard to follow, seemed like he had info, but no one really challenged him (hardly anyone was doing mbti videos then, compared to now), so folks just bought into it cuz: A) they didnt know any better B) they hadnt read the books C) "dave" had very little competition and made alot of videos so he sorta dominated --and people didnt know otherwise. His videos likely were seen by many (not a whole lot else out there on youtube at the time), so people believed it, and from (approximately) 2014 to today, people likely came across his videos, didnt read the books and THEY started making videos about Functions, then some of their followers made youtube videos and repeated what they were taught and so on...and sure enough--- everybody-and-his-dog is talking about functions these days. But it isnt really MBTI. Its just....Functions. Myers-Briggs was the 4 letters (I refer you back to the ENTJ Mike Adams video which was in 2010. We weren't all strung-out on "Function-itis" then. I haven't heard Frank James mention even one of the three books on Type. Who taught him? Function-mania likely "lasted" til now, because people can always be politically-correct, hold their head up high and say with functions they are "going deeper". It sounds more "beyond beginner level" doesn't it? But they didnt get it from the books. The are "parroting" a guy who got lucky in the beginning and didnt have alot of competition. My opinion. Anyone is welcome to prove me wrong. I can take it. I just wish people would call it what it is and be honest. And bother to look. And trace some history. ---"Rock ON!"

Getting along with an ESTJ is going to be THE HARDEST for an INxx. They just do not understand our intuitive function.

Psychopaths. The lot of them. Avoid or destroy.

I think what irritates me is when people make people cry they're are better ways to handle this situation if you want to be an good example to others since people think your stately and innocent you were very tactless Ef obviously you did not used that function terrible example for INFJ'S .

Not all ENTPs are boundary violators.