The loop is something that makes me think I really am an INFJ. I found a concept that I obsess over and as I'm trying to find more information I am starting to have more and more questions. Then I'm connecting every thing I see or hear in real life to my obsession and it makes me really tired and detached from reality. I also relate to the need of being alone to process it. Once I have something I need to think about, I will sit alone and trying to figure it out until I'm burnt out and need some help from other person, but I'm also questioning their answers and so on and so forth..
Hi Eric, thank you for making this video, despite it being so hard. It was definitely helpful! As an INFJ, one of the worst loops I got stuck in was during my college years. I was going through a lot of family complications, and I just kept drawing myself more and more inward. Until one day I realized how detrimental that was to me. You are so right that INFJs definitely need their time of solace , but there needs to be discernment as to when it is time to (like you said) intentionally allow people that we can trust into our space. I have to attribute this much to my relationship with God, as that really gave me the motivation at the time to continue to pursue connections with other people. For some time, I had to actively discipline myself: every time I just wanted to fall off the grid, I instead forced myself to call a trusted friend. I think for INFJs, it also helps us to “think out loud”. It becomes very valuable, because many ideas that sound perfect in your head can suddenly sound “different” when said out loud. One of the biggest concerns I had to get over was not being able to formulate my thoughts quick/precise enough to my own standards when phoning on the spot (instead of comfortably taking large amounts of time to craft what I have to say through writing). It will require us to trust and be vulnerable with the other person (and perhaps even get over our own fears and pride of not appearing to be weak or the fear of being misunderstood). Our thoughts may come out like a jumbled mess at first, and we need someone who can be patient with us and intuitive enough to follow our trains of thought. Anyways, I am glad to say that pushing myself in that way was one of the best decisions I made for myself. I still have a lot to learn, but now phoning people (even video calling with my closest friends) has become a habit. At this point I can really start to sense when I’m going into a loop or spiral, and I know that’s what I need to do!
hi, i was about to ask "so the loop is a problem for the entourage of the infj, not for the infj?" then i read this comment and i see the loop is a problem for the infj if i understand correctly, the "loop" means getting more and more used to be alone, knowing that the infj already is the type of person to enjoy alone time in the first place so i can understand how it can be unpleasant for the entourage (logically the entourage will leave the infj alone at some point), but what i don't understand is why the loop is unpleasant for the infj is it because the infj feels that the people around are not ok with the loop that they stop enjoying the loop themselves?
This one resonated with me so much. Burnout from school, breakup with bff, burnout pleasing others, cancer diagnosis from stepdad, moving back to home country for college, pressure to be top achievers in class, and one day, you just run out of steam... sometimes, the silence is louder if you know how to look for them. it took a while, took the biggest storm this side of the planet to get that 100% crystal clarity, but there should be people around for that 1% to get to 100%. oh, and of course, God. He was/is the constant. He gave me the people-around to surround me and catch me from spiraling further. Sometimes, it's also that 40-day desert walk with the Holy Spirit.
Dude you have to be ENFP you give ENFP vibes INTP don't give ENFP vibes they give negative INTJ vibes kinda type of ghost who lost where paper boat ? Sorry INTP smash the fricken truth into people faces like Thanos throwing moons
