If you are interested in internal family systems watch this video next: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-fzevlBt5HUA.html Best wishes, Teresa.
Legacy burden, sounds like what some religions call a generational curse,it is fascinating how a religious statement like "generational curses "..can be dismissed as the ravings of some demonic obsessed religious fanatic ,because it sounds so spiritual and mystical ,but" legacy burden" ,,,well it just sounds reasonable ..but it is virtually the same idea.if you look at it from a non hysterical point of view that is ..thank you for posting this it is important ,my father was in a German labor camp and then was a Danish national who fought as a marksman in the English army ,he saw much death and caused much as a marksman my mother suffered a lot as a young smart woman in her life so her story as well as my father's were suppressed to me by both of them ,I ended up frozen in position ,when I was young waiting for the next explosion or implosion as it were ..I have coped either I was ,right or wrong,In how I coped ,but I am here and I have learned something important,and at my age that ,is wonderful ..
I ma studying a masters degree in psychotherapy, and find your videos extremely interesting and informative. I was very against family systems therapy due to childhood experiences through a traumatic series of FST. (I was cast as The Problem Child). This is the best positive read of FST I have encountered, especially as an inheritor of generational trauma from the forced removal of Aboriginal children from their mothers in Australia. The exercise has helped me empathise with my damaged parents and grandparents, even if I don’t approve of their actions. Thanks.
I’m so pleased to hear the video has been helpful. Internal family systems therapy and family systems therapy are different therapies but there are many similarities. Best wishes, Teresa.
Hello, Lewis! I just recently found you youtube channel and I am very happy to come across you! I work with clients who need help with their nutrition and exercise and we all know that advice: just eat less and move more is pretty unhelpful. I just started reading more about compassion and ACT but I do not know where should I start to get better at applying this for my clients. Could you please recommend books or other resources that could guide me to better at motivating my clients in a more self-compassionate and mindful way? Thank you a lot! regards from Lithuania
Hello Milo. Thank you for your question. I would recommend the following CFT and mindfulness books: * The Compassionate Mind By Paul Gilbert. amzn.to/406R5Ad * The Compassionate Mind Workbook by Chris Irons and Elaine Beaumont. amzn.to/3RiZ6ha * Compassion Focused Therapy for Dummies by Mary Welford. amzn.to/3HjHsoZ * Mindful Compassion by Paul Gilbert and Choden. amzn.to/3wChWqa * Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Finding Peace in a Frantic World by Mark Williams and Danny Penman. amzn.to/3Dm6cvW I hope the above helps and I wish you all the best with your client work. Best wishes, Teresa.
Powerful exercise. I notice some patterns in myself that are very, very physical, which fit the diagnosis of trauma-PTSD with a sense of entrapment (working on it with a professional). I also have put muself in sittuations of being trapped and helpess in my life. Doing this exercise, I just realized this might well be a vulnerability in my family, with a very, very clear pattern, and I can see that the entrapment feeling would make absolute sense to some of my ancestors. I am hoping to let go of this, but I think it will still take some time. I find that yoga, meditation and psychoeducation really help with the physical symptoms.
I'd love to do this exercise, but only have my parents left, both of which suffer from memory loss. This would have been fascinating, though! I wonder if legacy burden can be related to instincts found in lower animals. Has human instinct devolved due to higher intelligence and advanced social problem solving skills learned over thousands of generations until the immediacy of instinct is no longer required?
I have had ancestral memories revealed to me while brainspotting. I’m guessing it is my great great grandmother. They are like visions and first hand experiences - very clear emotionally and physically. I was very confused at first but came to recognize what they were. One vision was centered around her major traumatic event when she was 9 but she also shared her pride and joy of being pregnant and an act of love making and what that meant to her.
This is interesting to me, as someone who was adopted as a toddler. I’ve suffered with some level of depression for years; I started therapy three years ago and moved out last year, and much of it appears to have been situational depression as I’m starting to feel better. (adoptive parents weren’t really attuned to me, negative feelings weren’t really tolerated, a-dad was a bipolar alcoholic, and covertly or sometimes overtly abusive in several ways, and there’s a lot more I could mention but I don’t want this comment to turn into a short novel!). In the last few years I’ve learned enough about my birth family to see that I may also carry some trauma (epigenetically) from at least the maternal line (maternal grandmother and great grandmother both died in freak accidents). Birth dad also lost his dad at a young age.
Thank you, this is so timely to help my own understanding of this burden that lays so hidden. My family traits go back to the Huguenots and the fears they carried from being pursued and persecuted, the result today showing up as being vulnerable and inferior in my own life. I'm now over 80 but the anxieties broke through when I was 37 and hospitalized. There were few relative answers available then but the years have caused more specific feelings to emerge and this helps explain it.
Thank you Lewis for your generous sharing ... Learning more about me and others around me through such informative videos... They help me understand why people are the way they are... and behave the way they do
I have witnessed my stepmother constantly berate my father over an extramarital affair while he stood mute. I seemed to have this burden of not fighting back when under attack. How can this be resolved?
