Interview with a Narcissist - Grandiose yet fragile:Virtual conference about Pathological narcissism

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Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. And here I discuss my own personal experience living with narcissistic personality disorder. Including the symptoms and behaviors associated with this disorder, as well as how it has affected my life. I also share some of my coping strategies and how I have been able to manage the disorder, along with helping you understanding your loved ones and their behaviors that may seem almost incomprehensible and potentially hurtful. Hopefully, my channel will provide insight into what it's like to live with narcissistic personality disorder, as well as what it's like for your loved ones. Thank you for watching!
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@ibg5322 9 месяцев назад

This is gold. I can see the pure self-hatred every time he finishes his sentence. Look at his eye movements and how he waits for affirmation in awe every time he finishes

@Thenamelessnarcissist 9 месяцев назад

I hate that you noticed those things LOL

@greicidejesus8422 8 месяцев назад

I kew someone and at hat time I didn't know he was NPD. Once I inocently said to him: "Oh, that's so gorgeos! You were nervous about to talk to me or see me, when you are nervous you blink repetidly." He didn't answer, but after that all the time he talked with me he was using sunglass. I that time I didn't associeted but know I know why he was using sunglass all the time even in the supermarket.

@ibg5322 8 месяцев назад

@@greicidejesus8422 It also proves the fact that they consciously lie, expecting the other person to believe it.

@DevinBird2753 6 месяцев назад

Do you think it pisses him if when he doesn’t get a big “ahhh that’s impressive” type of reaction ?

@brandonmcalpin9228 6 месяцев назад

@@ibg5322 What kind of malicious comment is that? Cold, apathetic and bitter. People like you are far more toxic than the abusers you describe. Really makes you wonder.. You’re probably the type to say that kind of thing to your partner and when they call you out on it, you cry and play the victim. I’m just sick of the pure hatred that comes from these types of people. It’s EVERYWHERE. Zero empathy, zero compassion. Just cold hearted, sadistic pleasure from imagining someone else suffering. I was watching a video on Narcissism and Suicide, and some of the comments were just psychopathic.

@user-bt4ji2bb6v Год назад

I am proud of you, Jacob

@Thenamelessnarcissist Год назад

Awww thank you so much E

@Quantumsupercomputer Год назад

I wish more people with NPD did what you are doing. It’s alchemical, in a sense. Using what one has to transmute something dark into something enlightening. And it’s much appreciated.

@veebliss1266 Год назад

I wish my ex would I asked him to do this years ago

@IndigoAngel1448 3 месяца назад

@veebliss1266 why would it matter when he is not around anymore? Don't let the past get in the way of your happiness in the present. ❤

@Quantumsupercomputer 3 месяца назад

@@IndigoAngel1448 that sounds well intentioned but that’s not how the human mind and emotional body works. If there’s pain to be processed, then it’s going to happen one way or another or it’ll be repressed into an aberration of expression. Like a damned up and overflowing river. Psychology is biology and there is no free lunch.

@Quantumsupercomputer 3 месяца назад

@@IndigoAngel1448 Just because a person is no longer physically present, doesn’t mean the impact and or mess they’ve created disappears along with them. As usual in dealing with people with NPD/BPD who are not seeking treatment and are not self aware (or more accurately aware of other people), the psychological/emotional/physical aftermath of their… antics is left with someone else to clean up. Psychology is biology, we are a psychosocial species, and there is no free lunch with any of this stuff. People without NPD or BPD have to honor and process their emotions and feelings or else they will become psychobiological ailments.

@stevendaye 9 месяцев назад

We all have fears. We all have purpose and it's up to us to learn how to all co-inhabit. I'm on the opposite end and way to empathetic. I was co-dependant and had to isolate for over 2 years to now hopefully be in a healthy relationship. Thanks for the knowledge. My ex wife didn't like herself and left me thinking I was broken for loving her. Self reflection is needed in everyone's life.

@margaritagomez3490 Месяц назад

Yes they loose respect for you every time they disrespect/ degrade you and you stay…because there is no way they would stay if you treated them that way. So they see you as weak. Not that you stayed because you loved them. They can’t love so they really can’t see this aspect of it. To them everything is about control, and the next better person, maybe they are just scared to get too close to someone/ anyone……

@MsAimeeS1 Год назад

True, I can love someone regardless of how much value they think they have , the part I can't do is when I'm treated like s*"" and pushed away

@isobelle.London Год назад

No longer nameless 😂 I love the video ❤.

@Thenamelessnarcissist Год назад

I gotta be famous eventually LOL

@AkiWasHere 11 месяцев назад

Hi. Nice to see another one openly talk about their diagnosis, Good video and I am NPD-aspd spectrum. You inspire me.

@Peruvian_Sky 10 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for sharing your life with us! This was some amazing content. Your early experience reminds me of my sister's. My mom is a covert narc and was enmeshed with my sister so she developed narcissistic tendencies. She has high confidence and is basically a steam roller now, crushing anyone in her path who dares to cross her, but it wasnt always that way. My mom used to say she was so sweet and sensitive, and that she worried the world would gobble her up because she had "no backbone". Im 2 years younger and we were best friends up until she turned 8, thats when she started being mean to me.

@Ciara-ASMR 9 месяцев назад

That's such a sad story. I was struck by that part in this video too. That someone who is so sweet and sensitive could have to so consistently turn away from that sensitivity and become the opposite.

@DivineLogos 2 месяца назад

I was a sensitive boy. But now have developed narcissistic traits too after narcissistic abuse by my narc stepdad.

@_femme_fatale Год назад

I experienced a terrible sense of my own mortality as it struck me that during my life I would only remove and replace my glasses a specific number of times. The thought filled me with sombreness to the extent that I began to weep, removing my glasses so that I could wipe my eyes, thus adding one more to whatever the final number would have been; the realisation of which cheered me. hem they always look unfocused, vulnerable. Out in the open. A layer removed

@DrJT-ly3vr 9 месяцев назад

That's a pretty intense moment... What my research with NPD is brought about is an understanding that all perception is viewed from the outside inward which is the exact inverted way perception is normally perceived. You just completely described a perfect example of how all future possible moments of taking your glasses on and off impended upon that moment. It's got to be like the ant trying to survive the sunburn when the magnifying glass of all the rays in this guys suddenly concentrating into one. On its back. It's absolutely no wonder when I look at my own condition and my whole family's condition patients I had and relationships and then finally research on the subject that there's not one person in the world no matter how altruistic or virtuous that could sustain that kind of inverted perception without developing strong coping strategies focused on self-preservation and also on not triggering disappointing behavior inn others who don't get it. Thank you for sharing this really unique example of just how powerful one switch from being the observer on the inside looking out to being the scattered infinite unknown possibility observer from the outside looking in... Thanks and keep up the strength...

@josiah9210 Год назад

It’s crazy listening to other people diagnosed because the way it developed for us it seems is almost identical in a way

@Thenamelessnarcissist Год назад

Everytime I meet another person with NPD I kinda lose my mind at how similar we are

@Krissylavi Год назад

The way jacob described the algorithm is perfect. When he and I broke up first I got vids that were purely about the abuse side of it. Like dr. Ramani then I got suggested mental healness then I found the nameless narcissist. Lol I’m so glad I found your channel at the end of my process of healing cause if I found it at the beginning I probably would have gone back into my old relationship way too quickly. Now I feel like I’m at a healthier place mentally. I still hold out hope that I’ll be able to talk to my ex in an empathetic way one day. but for now I’m taking the healing journey pretty seriously and I don’t want to put myself in a position where I break down my own boundaries again. I tend to loose myself too easily and that’s what I’m trying not to do next time, self love is super important to me now. (Sorry if that was long winded, it feels good to vent tho) 39:38

@laniakeas92 9 месяцев назад

I mean he still gets a narcissistic resource but in a good way where nobody is harmed. I wish every narcissist did that

@DivineLogos 2 месяца назад

Good we got Hollywood, media and politics huh.

@highparadise11 9 месяцев назад

The laughter isn’t genuine it’s a facade and I feel the pain. PTSD trauma has caused this.

@highparadise11 9 месяцев назад

It’s a hurt little boy, after each time he speaks it looks like he wants to flee the scene.

@highparadise11 9 месяцев назад

Very insecure

@highparadise11 9 месяцев назад

12 mins into the video, and afterwards I get everything confirmed

@highparadise11 9 месяцев назад

You don’t need to excuse yourself for existing…

@highparadise11 9 месяцев назад

At 16 mins he feels sad and wants to cry, but flees the emotions and start grooming his hair. You need to face the emotions and accept that you’re human and you don’t need anything or anyone to legitimize you or your existence

@pdquestions7673 Год назад

excellent interview

@margaritagomez3490 Год назад

We are not fixating on a narcissist. We are trying to figure out wth happened, trying to understand. Be cause narcissist don’t really give closure, they just move on…..ghosting

@EbonyHoopGyal 9 месяцев назад

I'm seeing now as one man stated in his video that it really is a narcissist pandemic. We who are not narcissistic, may not even survive if we do not fully understand the deep recesses of these peoples minds… They see anyone who isn't narcissistic as simply a weak target as prey, and that is it. We disagree. We believe that we are able to be kind and live and be healthy and thrive and be wealthy too… But we're gonna have to learn them because they're going to be in our way.

@clarkme8952 9 месяцев назад

Maybe you're not. This dude loves attention (as he said) and I'm sure this wasn't a way to get some.👍

@pauladuncanadams1750 Год назад

I like the taking off/putting on glasses idea. It fits very well. Like you're having an intimate personal conversation with someone-- not as nasty as Red Table Talks, but conversation over coffee or beer. And, actually, reminiscent of Mr Rogers when I think of it.

@emmavaira Год назад

you may not take this the right way, but i am so sorry. remember where you came from and who that was. back to stuffed animal jacob. its not your fault, but it’s up to you to deal sadly. wishing the best. you are very brave for this n i wish more people were doing what you were.

@emmavaira Год назад

i would like to add that real love, is an unconditional thing. the abused become the abuser, the abusers do not know real love, do not teach real love. you were shown the wrong thing and sadly the result of your environment. i promise it’s not like that everywhere. and i am sorry your life led up to an “unasked for” disorder. it is really unfair. every kiddo deserves better. i look at you as a person, a person with a different mind no. we all have different minds. we all have fucked up pros and cons and good and bad, morals, thoughts, tactics, etc. the eyes and opinion of the person before us any given moment can decide how THEY feel. but i wish everyone was more understanding of everyone. every personality disorder comes from trauma. go back and give that little guy a hug, he sees and knows everything you are today. of course its hard to be empathetic towards people who refuse to admit their npd or do not have the level of awareness or pride to go on and work with it. because not everyone with npd is an abuser. not everyone with bpd is a narccacist, though it’s common and i read that something like 3/4ths of people are. however i’m not sure if that’s true. i struggle with the quiet side of the spectrum, but i am the most loving and caring and if anything empathetic. for some reason seeing others hurt i jump to and feel them, it’s so uncomfortable for me to see another child or human being cry. but i guess it’s because seeing someone be where we have been subconsciously ignites that nurturing instinct in a lot of humans. for some reason all my life i’ve emotionally neglected well, my emotions almost. and being abused, bullied, suicidal, absent parents, emotionally and physically, anorexic, it led to where i am now. but honestly i’ve never felt more 100% down for myself and taking care of me. i really do love me. and as for the sweet young girl i was i love her. i think of our inner child’s as different people completely. it’s not fair to her to keep living life a certain way. so i’m doing everything i can and feel on my own two independent feet for the first time really in forever. always know you can beat the monsters, you never have to be the outcome or let them win. i guess it’s easier sharing all this on a random video with random people who i’ll never see or meet, but it was nice to be venerable somewhere. i know you make take it as a logical understanding, and that’s okay. but try n let your heart feel some too. all the love.

@alexxxO_O Год назад

@@emmavaira thank you so much for writing this all

@user-kp6ud7ht4z 9 месяцев назад

Jacob, you’re the fucking goat, love to see you!

@meistlazer7188 3 месяца назад

Your videos make me want to reconnect with my ex narcissist. Not in a romantic way at all, but to check up on him, I've seen how lonely you feel and that's something I relate to so much, and I'd like to let him know I'm there for him if he wants me to, but just as in friends/family sort of way. I'm not sure if me connecting with him will make him think my intention is to get back with him as a couple. Granted, we were friends for 10 years before he started courting me, and then our relationship only lasted a bit over a year. I do believe I am more self-aware of my own traumas and insecurities, and I think I have collected the necessary tools to protect myself if he wants again to start either love bombing me or belittling me. I promised him that no matter what, he would be like part of my family forever. So that's another thing am I doing it more for myself (being self-righteous), or am I actually doing it, thinking it would be beneficial for him to know someone actually didn't abandon him.

@JoeMcKenzie888 Месяц назад

It's kinda weird, when you believe their facade you wanna fuck them, but when you actually see them, you just wanna hug them 😂

@The-Finisher Год назад

#1 cool excited for this. 3 min in this is raw dude.

@mythrmyi849 Год назад

@The Finisher : Jacob’s videos can definitely illicit that reaction💞😂🤘

@clicicc8913 Год назад

Dude I don’t think you are a narcissist you are so nice ❤

@UnacceptableTee 5 месяцев назад

Very interesting vid. Love this! I really get what he saying; he’s great at explaining. There were great points that I would never realized like when Jacob mentioned that even when diagnosed vulnerable; they still can be grandiose. Yes! I would LOVE to know what the difference between a vulnerable narcissist and someone that is diagnosed with a very very very strong Dismissive avoidant who leans FA is. Both have behaviors that are hurtful and even abusive. How can one really tell? I’ve heard it’s intent; and avoidant don’t mean to do it. I don’t know that there’s much difference in my experience anyway. Unless I’ve just been with Narcissists; and not someone who is truly only avoidant. 🤷🏼‍♀️

@justinmorris9519 6 месяцев назад

I had that exact same feeling with my stuffed animals as a kid! Never heard anyone else say that

@Taniapin43 8 месяцев назад

Attention Department of Health we need to do something to see around our communities about NPD. It’s alarming.

@RatedArggg Год назад

I'd like to know if you can easily spot another narcissist, or if you really have to get to know them to "diagnose" them.

@Thenamelessnarcissist Год назад

tbh I project so much that I have to spend a looong time

@margaritagomez3490 Год назад

Just throwing it out there. We love you”. For who you are, Even though they say that we fall in love with ourselves because narcissists actually mirror you back. It would be interesting to get your insight on this.but I think you have a hard time with this cause you know what you present is not the real you”. So you basically know the person don’t know what they are talking about when they say “ I love you” , Cause in your mind if we knew you , we wouldn’t like you…..so deep down inside you can’t trust anyone “ to let your Gard down. All about control

@angeloreyes707 2 месяца назад

Yeah but what is she diagnosed with? She never says I'm confused.

@allennmickk3705 Год назад

My lover's say I make them feel unimportant to unreplaceable

@christinemaillet2360 8 месяцев назад

Would you consider not allowing yourself to be emotionally vulnerable to others as a type of irrational way of thinking? Is it similar to someone with social anxiety being preoccupied/fixated on how others perceive them.

@dangelofernandez3850 8 месяцев назад

High functioning schizoid with some aspd even psychopathic traits.. a lot of the loneliness you grew up with describes the dysfunction of a schizoid during childhood also. Yet while the narcissist moves towards attention and adoration the schizoid goes for isolation and emotional coldness. I think schizoid and narcissist are opposites in needs and desires but the core problem seems similar. Loneliness adaptations.

@religiohominilupus5259 Год назад

I'm beginning to think that I've lost all sense of time, perhaps due to dissociation. But that's another story. Thank you both for this illuminating interview! 👍😁 Parts of the discussion elicited rather strong reactions and were definitely fucking with my mind. 🤯 Hope I'll be able to sleep. Lol

@jonstersmall2716 Год назад

Ketermine does terrible things to the mind.

@Thenamelessnarcissist Год назад

Haha I hope you're okay! but thank you!@

@religiohominilupus5259 Год назад

@@jonstersmall2716 I must admit I've never heard of ketermine. If it's ketamine you're talking about though, you must've dosed it too high. It obviously didn't potentiate neuroplasticity, if that was the desired effect to your brain.

@jonstersmall2716 Год назад

@@religiohominilupus5259 No I've never tried it, but shared a uni dorm with a guy who did it a lot. I appreciate your pedantry where spelling and grammar are concerned. It's very endearing.

@religiohominilupus5259 Год назад

@@jonstersmall2716 My pleasure. 😉

@Bar_Bar27 7 месяцев назад

Its the same way of talking as Jada Smith.. the laugh that feels fake too. It feels they're trying too much to impress

@jonstersmall2716 Год назад

Watching NN and his interviewer, rubbing my head that's smooth as a baby's bottom( like Colonel Kurtz in Apocalypse Now!.) Yes I'm bald and it feels like the world of the "follicly privileged", the "Hirsute Ones" ( these two) is a parallel universe which I can see and admire but never enter in to.

@mythrmyi849 Год назад

@Jonster Small : Bald is (also) beautiful🤘😉🤘

@dogtrainingmexico Год назад

Many women find bald men sexy... like Bruce Willis, Vin Diesel etc

@Thenamelessnarcissist Год назад

LOL I'm so sorry

@EbonyHoopGyal 9 месяцев назад

I'm trying to really learn how y'all operate. Empathic people are so sensitive to yalls ways... I'm tryna be numb to it.

@veebliss1266 Год назад

❤❤❤❤❤

@DiBrown2024 3 месяца назад

So sorry Jacob. I do not see a monster at all.

@OrdinaryJoe12 8 месяцев назад

A true narcissist would not care that they had no genuine feelings for someone else's bereavement. Its normal to feel guilt and shame for not caring about someone else's misfortune. You may think they deserve it if you secretly don't like them, but then you feel guilt and shame for having these bad thoughts. Narcissists dont feel the remorse part.

@twillsJKZ 8 месяцев назад

Not true. You have more to learn about NPD in the nicest way possible

@Sarit473 Год назад

Somehow NPD sounds like C-PTSD. Anyway it seems like you have also BPD traits, and malignant narcissist are very different for example, they are very similar to psychopaths. I also do something similar with my love interests. I idealize them, then I start to see things I don't like, so I discard them, but they don't know I actually disappear. I'm aware that's not that "normal", but I also don't believe that much into therapy because most of the time I think I know better (so grandiose) IoI

@Thenamelessnarcissist Год назад

Oh yeah I have BPD and ASPD traits, tbh I think all Pd's are just coping mechanisms to deal with childhood CPTSD

@Spicynoodle2.0 Год назад

But it isn’t. Cptsd is something that only hurts the patient and has nothing to do with other diagnosis’s….. Please do your research before trying to say things like NPD is the same as CPTSD. CPTSD Is the result of a narcissist abusing someone. NPD is a serious thing but don’t go making victims feel bad just to make narcs feel better. BPD is more likely to be involved with other personality disorders…Even histrionic personality counts… but to categorize a serious life threatening condition such as ptsd and acting like NPD is the same is not okay. People kill themselves over this stuff. Yes a psychopath or narcissist can have PTSD but it has nothing to do with the disorder because if it were I would have an excuse to act just like him before the help or like Ted bundy. If CPTSD were NPD I would be locked in prison by now!

@Sarit473 Год назад

@@Spicynoodle2.0 I know what I'm talking about, I was raised by a Narcs/sociopath and borderline father. I didn't say the are the same, what I wanted to say is that they have some similarities.

@Spicynoodle2.0 Год назад

@@Sarit473 Okay I got you. But they are not at all the same. One is a personality disorder and one is a severe problem where someone gets flashbacks and physical symptoms.

@Sarit473 Год назад

@@Spicynoodle2.0 I know dear.

@christelhall9379 Год назад

Great interview! Hey i always wanted to ask you Could you made a video narcissists self awareness and memory? I know from good sources you are utterly self aware (contrary to a myth that they are not). Any narc can admit all things he does, all their tricks. But on the other hand, since narcissists have false self, that means that they are divorced from reality, which they run away from big time. They get angry when confronted So im confused. How is it actually? Are they actually divorced from reality literally, kind of like crazy people? Or are they consciously choosing contra-factual narrative which they make up on a go? Kind of like children who pretend they have imaginary friends. Or that they have swords instead of tree sticks. They imagine that, but they understand its not real But! Despite that, their memory is usually bad (as they claim). For example-when you confront a narcissist, his reaction is often surprise. Because in his mind he is a good friend/lover/partner/parent or whatever. So from this standpoint they actually literally live in imagined reality, completely divorced from the actual facts. But they can also switch to reality easily. When you confront them, they can at first deny all or say it was a joke/they don’t remember. But then after providing undeniable proof-their face expression changes and becomes smirky/evil and they say “heh, so what?” I just fail to understand it. Could you make a video about that please. As a diagnosed NPD.

@dogtrainingmexico Год назад

Agree with this video suggestion

@Thenamelessnarcissist Год назад

I'll think about this one! Writing it down now!

@christelhall9379 Год назад

@@Thenamelessnarcissist yess! Thank you!

@fabioortiz7050 10 месяцев назад

Ele parece uma inteligência artificial. Parece um ator de filme dos anos 80.

@wallsart1696 11 месяцев назад

That is too many ads come on😫

@margaritagomez3490 Год назад

I’m curious cause you don’t think your worthy , we’ll always trying to be better ( false self ) but still looking for the perfect woman

@mmellese 11 месяцев назад

I think because of the fantasy of ideal love, in a bid to take away the feeling of unworthiness. But alas a. the perfect woman doesn’t exist and b. another person cannot make you whole, self love comes from self.

@JoeMcKenzie888 Месяц назад

In the end I was supposedly everything he ever wanted but not beautiful enough 😂 just wasted my time this dude. I hope he doesn't hurt too many women now.