Are you a narcissist? A narcissist explains how to tell 

true, they can be easy to spot, but somehow people will actually fall into their trap

Yeah and then what? You could still get lonely anyways, because of how society really is, and as a point, a narcisist is basically trying to fit as regularly as possible not for his or her hobbies or knowledge, but for being pointed out as weird enough to not get a couple, you know, born, grow, reproduce and die. Its like a male peacock situation, but a weak personality doesn't help, so would be good to endure situations that forcefully hardens it, witch ones could be? Idk, would like to, too.

A good way to spot collective narcissism is putting morality on a pedestal and insisting that everyone to "get it" instead of just following social conventions even if one does not want to do so. Emotional blackmail and liberal parenting are related.

This also describes a people pleaser though

Treatment for NPD is quite complicated. Not so much to do with facing fears.

Who or what you are is not based on anything. What you like, your morals, values and integrity are something you have, not who you are.

Happy for you.

Sometimes people with ASD also struggle with communicating emotions or responding with appropriate emotions as well in certain situations which can come off as lack of empathy which is one of the main symptoms of NPD as well so some symptoms are shared between NPD and ASD you are right.

Its worth noting that autistic children usually have one or both narcissistic parents. And you can have NPD comorbid with ASD. Autism isn't some angelic being and Narcissist isn't a demon.

Interesting how I can check the whole list (outside of the low empathy bit) but I still don’t view myself as a diagnosable NPD.

Yes quite the comedian 😂👍

that’s hot

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As someone who is comorbid BPD+NPD, they share a lot of similarities and they overlap a LOT, so this is totally normal. Both disorders are incredibly similar so I wouldn't think too much into it if it's just that one thing :)

Do not worry about this one...... as people are dumb as dog shit and realizing this is one of the hardest tricks a person can do.

It's possible, but rather rare sadly 😅 (Half my family is narcissistic)

@@kathaklysmus1861do you think it’s possibly hereditary? Learned behavior?

Most are in denial

@@Reneemfennlearned. From trauma. A coping device

@@Patricia_Stewart337 are they pre disposed? I see it runs in families 🌳 Those that have NPD struggle & suffer… Seems they will make us feel same craziness they walk around with in their head 24hrs day 🤨

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You sound like an empath, not a narcissist. Both suffer the same low self-worth, but both seek validation in different ways. The empath by giving and the narcissist by taking.

Literally going through this same though process "I’ve suspected I’m a narcissist for a while cause my ex said I was."

@@fingsandstuff Empath? That’s not a thing. People who say they’re empaths, as in “I’m an empath omg I feel so much from everyone,” are indicating they identify heavily with their empathy, which means its quite high and has an actual impact on their lives. Those people have Borderline Personality Disorder. Identifying yourself after an emotion, which is asinine to do, means it has a central place in your life because of its intensity and in this case, extreme empathy is a hallmark of BPD.

@AnonBot exactly, people that class themselves as "empaths" are probably people pleasers and do so due to low self worth. This is a trauma response and is done to feel safe... they too need to heal their inner childhood wounds.

My ex narcissist raged at the slightest constructive criticism. No one likes it, true, but overboard reactions like rage are indicative of a problem. Those aren’t normal.

Everyone has some narcissism, because narcissism is a spectrum. There is healthy or balanced narcissism and there is unhealthy, unbalanced narcissism. When we talk about narcissists, we are talking about people who are pathologically narcissistic. Pathological narcissism is a long-term pattern of toxic narcissism that shows up in various ways, most of which affect a person's life and relationships significantly. People often ask, "Is this narcissistic behavior, or is that narcissistic behavior," but the truth is that pathological narcissism is about more than behavior. When we are trying to distinguish narcissism from other reasons for behavior, we have to look at patterns and motivations in someone's life. Psychologically speaking, narcissism in and of itself is not a "bad" thing. The word has a negative connotation, but it's when it's taken to extremes that it becomes damaging and dangerous. These are the people we call narcissists. For example, if you are being legitimately treated unfairly and you speak out about it, there's nothing wrong with that. You should do that. However, if you are so self-focused that you perceive it as unfair when you do not get more than your fair share, there is a problem. The biggest problem is that truly narcissistic people are unable to recognize that they are not in fact being treated unfairly. They believe they deserve whatever they want, regardless of how it affects others and if they do not get it, this is a huge problem for them and an injustice. They don't just say "What about me??" when it's appropriate or when they need to. They say it all the time, in every situation. And they expect others to consider them above all else as well. For example, if you lose your job and your brother Johnny is a narcissist, he's only going to wonder who he will borrow money off now. He may even call you selfish for not considering that. The fact that you and your family are now facing a huge problem does not even occur to him. All he cares about is how it will affect him. You might say, "Johnny, what am I going to do? I might lose my house! My kids won't have health insurance!" and Johnny might say, "You? What am I going to do?? I can't pay my credit card bill! I was going to borrow the money off of you! My credit rating is going to go down!" Then you just sit there stunned, wondering what is wrong with this person. That is pathological narcissism. Narcissism becomes problematic when the needs of the self are considered more important than anything else. In healthy relationships, things shift and move around. Sometimes one person needs more support and their needs take a front seat for a while, and then sometimes the other person or people need more support. Maybe someone has an illness, or they lost their job, or they just had a baby. With pathologically narcissistic people, this does not happen. Their needs matter most -- always. Any attempt to shift the focus to others is taken as a threat and an attack. Pathologically narcissistic people don't understand that others deserve the same consideration that they themselves get and they don't care. In most family or relationship situations, this leads to other people's needs being ignored and neglected in favor of the narcissist. This is not healthy or fair. This is often when the normal narcissism in other people kicks in. They - very rightfully so - start saying, "Hey! What about me?? I matter too!" The answer from the narcissist - and often their enablers - is usually very clearly, "No. You don't." People get upset about this. They feel hurt. They get angry. They feel the need to assert themselves, to defend themselves, to get justice. And since narcissistic behavior is mostly defensive, you often see some of these same behaviors come out in people who really aren't narcissists. That's one of the reasons we say narcissism is contagious. It isn't really, but because the behaviors are defensive, people who are being mistreated by narcissists may begin to act the same way. It's the way the ego reacts to a threat, and it's pretty much the same in every human being on the planet. The problem is that this "threat sensor" in pathologically narcissistic people is broken; it's way too sensitive. They see threats everywhere because they are so self-focused that they interpret everything that happens around them as being related to them somehow; either for or about or to or because of them. They are not just the brightest star in the solar system, but the only star. People who are in situations that are legitimately unfair or that legitimately threaten their ego can behave in a narcissistic manner at times. One of the differences though is that these people can learn to control their behavior, and many do because they recognize that this isn't who they want to be. Many people might also realize that their behavior was inappropriate, regardless of the provocation. Narcissists do not seem capable of these insights. Narcissistic types of behaviors can also come out in situations of high emotion, such as when someone has been very hurt. If a marriage ends or if someone loses a loved one, for example, that person may behave very self-destructively for a little while. Or someone may become so angry that they do really terrible things. That's why we only say someone is a narcissist if the behavior is a pattern that has continued for an extended period of time - usually we would see it throughout their lives. Someone who goes through one bad breakup and smears their ex, for example, is probably not a narcissist. However, if this is something they've done repeatedly and there are other red flags, we would look much more carefully at that. It's about a pattern of behavior and the mindset behind it. We often hear that smear campaigns are narcissistic behavior. . But behavior needs context. You can't just look at behavior in a vacum and say someone is or is not a narcissist if they do it. A person who goes through a really bad break up and runs around telling others how awful their ex is does not have to be a narcissist to do that. Narcissistic behavior is ego defensive and can show up in anybody if they feel attacked, defensive or hurt enough. It's still toxic behavior for sure, but not everyone who displays narcissistic behavior is a narcissist. Ghosting is another thing we often hear is a narcissistic behavior. Ghosting is when someone disappears out of your life, never to be heard from again. Maybe they stop returning phone calls, or block you on social media or maybe they move away and never tell you where they went. Once again, though, a person does not need to be a narcissist to do this. For example, someone may be really uncomfortable with confrontation and because of that, they never confront someone about a problem they have with that person. They just stop talking to them. This is not necessarily healthy and many consider it unfair, but someone doesn't have to be a narcissist to behave this way. This is why it can be hard to say if someone is a narcissist just based on things they do. Behavior needs context. Because pathological narcissism affects a person's entire personality, the whole picture has to be examined. We can't just say, "This person ghosted someone else, or this person talked bad about their ex or this person cheated. That means they are a narcissist." We can - and should - think twice about whether we want to engage in a relationship of any kind with a person who does things like that, but we can't just assume they are disordered because of a behavior. That's one of the reasons you can't say if someone is a narcissist just based on something they've done. There is a lot more to consider than just that. What else was happening? Why did they do it? What kind of mindset does this person seem to have? Is this a pattern of behavior? If so, how long has it gone on? What other things have they done? All of these kinds of things are important. Pathological narcissism is about patterns, motives, mindsets and thought processes, not just behavior. Using our earlier example, if someone goes through a bad breakup and says negative things about their ex, they are not necessarily a narcissist. They are obviously hurting and it's probably not a good idea to get involved with them at this moment, but doing this kind of thing in one situation does not a pattern make. However, if they do this every time a relationship ends, then it's time to look at it a little more seriously. That suggests a pattern, and not a very nice one.

You will usually find themes in a pathologically narcissistic person's life. They often have the same kinds of problems over and over again, and they attempt to resolve them the same way over and over again. Every ex is crazy, or abusive, or a cheater; every coworker is jealous, or every boss is a tyrant. They were always the victim, or the hero, or the smartest or the most creative. Always. The scenery changes, but the storyline rarely does. Their motives are always the same, the motives they pin on others are always the same and the pattern is always the same. The behavior can be different, though, even when the motivation or goal is the same. This is another reason it's important to look at patterns and motives in conjunction with behavior. For example, someone who pulls out your spark plugs or physically attacks you to keep you from leaving the house has very different behavior than someone who threatens suicide or suddenly has a crisis in order to keep you there but their motivation is the same: both people are trying to control you and stop you from leaving. Another example is a hero narcissist and an overt, bullying narcissist. Their behavior usually seems pretty different most of the time but their motives are not different at all. The same person can even engage in what seem like different behaviors during different situations or with different people. This apparent change in behavior doesn't really mean anything, though, because the motivation is still the same. Someone could be very passive-aggressive at work, but very overtly aggressive at home. The motivation behind the seemingly different behavior is still the same: to punish others. The reality is, a lot of people don't like to be wrong. A lot of people are jealous or envious. A lot of people get angry and say hurtful things. A lot of people deny things or react badly to challenges to their ego. A lot of people lie. A lot of people cheat. A lot of people steal. These people are not all narcissists. The level of disorder in pathologically narcissistic people is so blatant and so obvious that it can in no way be considered "normal" behavior by anyone. That is the difference. When someone is truly pathologically narcissistic, it is obvious that something is very wrong with the way this person thinks, with the way they perceive things. You may not know what the problem is, but you can clearly tell that something is wrong. Narcissists are people who can come across very selfishly in the general sense of the word. They can seem self-absorbed, vain and arrogant. They can seem mean, rude and callous. They can be very needy, helpless and clingy. They may be all of these things at different times, or more one than the other. They are often very immature. The one thing they all have in common is that they are totally focused on themselves. Whether they are raging at you, ignoring you, crying desperately on your shoulder, proclaiming their undying love or insisting they can "help" you solve all of your problems, you eventually notice that they are very controlling of you, your time and the situation in general. You eventually notice everything is about them - always. You notice that you don't feel heard, or that what you want and how you feel don't really seem to matter - even though they may insist that it does. You notice this person's behavior does not match their words, and that they don't really seem to be who they claim they are. You notice they don't really seem to have a stable sense of identity, as if who they are changes based on what's going on or who is around. You notice their thinking seems to make no sense and that they often believe things that aren't true. You notice that communication is very difficult with this person and there may be many misunderstandings, things taken out of context or illogical arguments involved, to where things cannot ever be discussed or resolved. You see that they seem to be having a large amount of emotional difficulty, either because they are too emotional or not emotional enough. They may be unable to understand other people's emotions or their own. They may get offended or hurt really easily, and/or their reactions to things may seem extreme - either because they wildly overreact or because they wildly underreact. You notice many double standards in their thought processes and an inability to understand that they are ever doing anything wrong or that consequences apply to them. Or, you notice that this person immediately takes the blame for everything and uses that to manipulate others. You notice this person seems to have a role that they are always playing out, such as the victim or the hero, and most of their narrative revolves around creating situations where they can do so. You notice this person has odd beliefs or thinks things that make no sense, such as that they can do things they have no training for or that they won't be harmed by dangerous behavior. You notice that facts or proof don't seem to matter to this person, and that they will continue to believe things even when they are blatantly proven false. You notice that you are having the same discussions or arguments with this person over and over again. You notice they seem to have a terrible memory, or that they often insist things occured differently than they did. They may use a lot of colorful, emotional language but really give no details when speaking, even if they are asked repeatedly. You notice that this person seems to assume they know what others are thinking, how they are feeling or what their motives are and then reacts to these assumptions as if they are facts - often without ever even asking. You notice that all of their beliefs about other people seem to center around themselves and how others feel about them, either positively or negatively. You notice they believe themselves to be the reason others do things or don't do them, as if they are the only thing that matters to anyone. You notice that in all situations, the only thing that matters to this person is how they will be affected. They seem to feel entitled to behave however they like, or that they are somehow special and deserve more than others or what is fair. You notice this person cannot take no for an answer and that when you cannot do something for them, they react very badly. You notice that any empathy they do have is superficial and does not extend to the times when they feel they are being slighted or short-changed. You notice that they seem to believe people are against them, or that people have feelings about them that they don't have. You notice they accuse you of saying and doing things you did not say or do. You notice they blame other people for everything and take no accountability for their actions at all. You notice they seem to feel picked on, attacked and targeted very easily, and that they get upset over very minor things. You notice that they seem to be projecting their feelings or behaviors onto you, accusing you of things that make no sense. You notice that one day something is OK and the next day it is not OK. You notice their feelings for you (and for everything) are unstable, and that they can change in a second.. You see that they do not understand the difference between "want" and "need," and that the importance they place on their role in things is overblown. You see that this person seems unable to grasp basic concepts like manners, respect, consideration and basic decency. They seem unable to understand that others are human beings with feelings, who make mistakes, that get tired, who have flaws. You notice they cannot win unless someone else loses (or vice-versa), and that they seem to have no identity or emotional life of their own. You notice they don't seem to see differences in types of relationships; such as that a spouse should be more important emotionally than a stranger. They don't seem to understand what's appropriate and may attempt to get very close with people very quickly, even if they don't know them very well at all. You notice they don't seem to understand boundaries or what is inappropriate to say or do in different situations. You notice they drain you, and seem to cause problems for no reason. Their emotions can swing wildly and be way out of proportion to the situation, especially their anger. Their behavior can be reckless, impulsive, emotional and dangerous, as if they don't understand the consequences of what they are doing. Or as if they don't care. You notice that no matter how many times you explain things to this person, they never seem to understand.

Not constructive criticism and narcs are so thin skinned it's unbelievable

@@tonyconnor5691 Yes. People oftew wonder if theres ways to avoid upsetting narcissists, but you can't avois upsetting a narcissist because they are already upset. It's also not difficult to hurt narcissisits. In fact, it's often far too easy, resulting in them feeling they are being attacked constantly and need to defend themselves. simple things like disagreeing, achieving something, having things, being a person, telling the truth in general, refusing to take responsibilty for them, not buying into their fantasy of themselves, existing can hurt narcissists they are that fragile. You every action, question, accomplishment, independent thought is tantamount to making a declaration of war with them. Another person asking for respect and decency they take as trying to control them. Your purpose in the relationship is to be used to regulate their emotions. This doesn't just mean fixing their problems and propping them up when they need it. It also mean you will be the target of the constant negative emotion and stress they continually purge since they can't process or hold it. Narcissists perceive their feelings as facts. However, simply saying that does not really convey the depth of this problem. It is a very serious dysfunction in perception and usually ends up coloring most of how they see things. Feelings are not facts. They can be-and often are-illogical and unreasonable. That's why it's not a good idea to make big decisions when we are really emotional because we may not be thinking clearly or be able to appreciate the big picture of something until we calm down. The majority of us know this and are able to control our emotions and ourselves. We are able to separate reason and emotion and prevent feelings from clouding our reason, perception, and judgment. Most of us, meaning those of us who are not narcissists, fit our feelings to the facts. That means we react appropriately and reasonably to what has actually happened. The event influences our feelings. We are able to view the event clearly and understand it on its own merits. We then process the facts of the event and decide how we feel. Narcissists don't do that. They essentially do the opposite of that. They fit the facts to their feelings. This means they interpret events in a way that agrees with how they already feel. The narcissist's already-existing emotions influence their processing of the event rather than the other way around. This usually results in very skewed perception. Emotional meaning is attached to things that have none. Malice and bad intentions are read into things that are innocent. It's usually all negative. This happens because the narcissist's feelings are clouding their judgment and the narcissist already feels bad. Their perceptions are colored by feelings they've had for years, feelings that are actually often completely unrelated to the person or event they are perceiving.This creates a convoluted internal landscape, especially for those that are in denial of their emotions in general. in a way, narcissists have stronger feelings than most other people. Because what's called the narcissistic wound-the trauma or series of traumas that caused them to be a narcissist in the first place-usually occurred at a very early stage in the narcissist's development, they have never learned to control or understand their own emotions.Many narcissists don't consciously acknowledge their emotions at all, yet these emotions exist, and they control every aspect of the narcissist's life and color their perception of everything. They can feel these emotions, but because they deny and refuse to acknowledge them, they often experience them as happening externally, meaning coming from somewhere outside of themselves. The invalidating environment most of them grew up in further compounded this problem, making it impossible for the narcissist to ever learn to trust or believe in their own feelings or be able to validate themselves. This means they now exist in a world of swirling, overwhelming, out of control emotions. Regardless of what you see or how well they hide it, unless they are an end-stage narcissist, which we often call a psychopath, they are filled with these raging emotions all the time. Narcissists are guided solely by emotion. Emotion dictates their reality. They are almost never rational or unemotional. That is how strong their feelings are. So yes, narcissists definitely have feelings. Even the calm, cold narcissist has feelings. Under the right (or wrong!) circumstances, you will eventually see them. The thing is, the pathologically narcissistic person's feelings only revolve around themselves. They only have feelings for themselves. Consequently, any feelings they seem to have for others are revealed to actually be for themselves upon closer examination. Narcissists use other people as emotional pack mules. Because their feelings are so strong and so overwhelming to them, they cannot handle these feelings. They need other people to carry the burden for them. So they project them on to other people and say the other person is the host of the feeling: "I don't feel this way! You do!" But in reality, these are simply their own feelings that they are trying to deny. narcissists are usually filled with smothering self-hatred. This is a very hard emotion to deal with and impossible to deny. So they give it away. They don't hate themselves. You hate them. This makes it easier for them to defend against the horrible way this self-hatred makes them feel. They can deny this hatred and therefore defeat it. But as you can see, this feeling has nothing to do with you. It is not about you. It is not related to you. They are simply projecting it on to you because you're there. They can feel the hatred but because they are in such denial, they cannot acknowledge that it is self-hatred. This is too hurtful to acknowledge and too hard to defend against. So they assign the feeling to someone else. "I don't feel this way. You do!" In this way, they keep these hurtful feelings at bay and preserve the fragile fiction that their entire existence is predicated on. Their entire life revolves around maintaining that false self and the idea attached to it, that they are not the horrible pieces of garbage they secretly believe themselves to be. Those who do not end up narcissistic are able to accept, regulate and control their emotions. They do not need to resort to projection, blame-shifting and gaslighting because they are in such deep denial of their own feelings. They know what a good person is - and what it isn't. They know that it's OK to be human. Sadly, for the narcissist, this is not something they will ever know or be able to accept. People who love narcissists find themselves in this position all the time. They are virtually human baggage carts, carrying around all of the narcissist's pathological self-hatred, rage and shame because the narcissist cannot carry it themselves.It works the same way for positive feelings, too. A narcissist who says they love someone is usually referring to loving how somebody makes them feel, or what someone does for them. These, again, are feelings that revolve around and relate to the narcissist only, not the other person. This is one of the reasons narcissists lack empathy. It isn't that they don't understand emotion, exactly, but that even if they did it wouldn't matter because they can't see anything but their own emotions. Every single they do, see, think and say is colored by their feelings. The narcissist's perception and their feelings are inseparable. Emotion is the barrier between them and every other person-every other thing they are trying to do. It's why many of them can't hold jobs, can't sustain relationships, can't get along with people-it's the single driving force behind their entire being. Some of them realize this and some of them don't, but it is the same problem for virtually all of them. Narcissists, in general, do have very strong, very dominant emotions. Even those that appear to never get ruffled have them and if you are around this person long enough, you will undoubtedly see them. However, if the suspected narcissist in your life seems to have zero emotion whatsoever, even for themselves, you might be dealing with a psychopath. The core of narcissism is a brutal, sadistic superego that assaults the narcissist with abuse 24 hours a day. So they are under internal attack all the time, regardless of what is going on outside of themselves in the real world. This makes them hypersensitive, paranoid and irritable, and they overreact to things because of it. Actually, "misreact" would probably be a better characterization of their behavior. To say someone overreacted implies that there was a provocation to react at all in the first place, and many times, narcissists appear to be reacting to nothing. This is probably why narcissists are sometimes misdiagnosed with psychotic disorders: they often appear delusional to other people because of this type of behavior.

By definition, they absolutely are “bad” Can’t define bad, but a NPD means hurting those they encounter. They lie 🫤 Manipulate Blah blah

I feel the same way as you do. I was shocked when he said all those questions he answered. We're in this together and hopefully we can heal from this monstrous disorder.

​@@RobertoGutierrez-ih2pmwho CARES? accept yourself. Don't let the internet diagnose you

That's a spectrum. We all have narcissistic traits and that's ok. Especially if you aware of it. What type of narcissists are really disgusting to me are those who are posting a lot of thirst-traps everyday on social media with hidden message "look how beautiful I am"(even when they are not). Those who do this not just sometimes but like all time, you know. That's cringe.

I'll be honest, you sound a little more borderline to me. Maybe go to reddit.com/r/borderlinepdisorder and see if you relate?

@@Thenamelessnarcissist Oh totally unexpected. I will check it! Thanks!

I can relate to this feeling of feeling and being afraid of faking. I always teeter from "oh I must be narcassitic" "oh i must be autistic" "oh I must be bipolar" or whatever. I can simultaneously relate to all of them, but then sometimes I dont. I never really stay in one camp, im always bouncing between. I know which ones, if I had to be one, id rather be, but i wouldnt want to accept being diagnosed as any of them, them being personality disorders, or have any mental illnesses. I know somethings not right, I just dont know what

@@illkickyourchips6298 Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Last sentence is extremely relatable to me too: I know something is not right, I just don't know what..

You are loved by God.. That's all you need ❤️

ASPD and NPD are more similar than they are different

We all have a bit of narcissistic characteristics (Quitting drugs isn’t a walk in the park! Takes a few yrs for the brain to recover from drug abuse, so notice if you become aware of changes to your ability to feel more emotions such as empathy as the yrs fly by? 🤔)

All sociopaths are narcissistic, but not necessarily a true narcissist.

Yeah, you need patience with instruments. Starts slow, make sure you're not making mistakes etc. If you already want to perform you'll start playing fast and sloppy and it will render you incapable of learning anything. I have this too where I play a piece because I wanna be impressive and then it backfires because I don't have the patience. I think once you know how you actually learn you could turn your pride to an adventage as it gives you way more drive than anyone else.

Good question.. from what I heard, if a narcissist has a very strong defence of grandiosity and false self, they may be genuinely out of touch with their negative feelings and will be like you described. I suspect those types cannot be self-aware or change, can’t see it happening

Same for me! In my opinion you are a no pathological narcissist. Everyone has traits some more some less some but pathological narcissist is something else. If you have empathy are you don't want to hurt people you are not a pathological narcissist.

@@Sarit473 Yeah i have a lot of empathy, although I have my own moral code and I don’t feel guilt if I break some social norms or moral norms I do feel guilt if I do something against MY moral code. And I don’t like to hurt people also, for me there’s nothing better than seeing people happier (and also knowing that I made them happy). Also I like I said: I never wear a mask. I say what I’m feeling in the moment, both good and bad. I even got into trouble for speaking what’s in my mind disregarding what’s socially correct, so yeah. I think my case it’s more of “See who I am” because of the bullying and invalidation I suffered as a child, but I never got into the “pretend to be someone else to be like” era of the narcissist. It’s more to proof them I’m better than them (but by being myself, no something they have to like). Like any other human being I like being accepted and liked but for who I am, I have my own concept of what is “cool” and I make the environment adapt to what I consider cool, I don’t adapt to the environment. In fact never in my life I’ve felt fake, all the opposite; I feel things too much and I am too emotional (both in a good and a bad way).

@@edmondvalmont1546 yeah some for me. I think it's more C-PTSD that brings out the narcissistic fleas.

@@edmondvalmont1546 You are definitely not a narc. They are all about faking / lies / deception, and cruelty(lack of empathy). They are also shallow and tend to stay away from deep conversation, especially if it might lead to true intimacy with another which requires being vulnerable. They see vulnerability as weakness or something to exploit. They tend to prefer a simplistic view on a lot of things, or just buy into whatever is popular, without much thinking or reflection. Their 'moral code' tends to be simple too: ".. just don't get caught!". They tend to polarize and see people/things as either good or bad, strong or weak, friend or enemy, etc.

Supply comes from literally anything that can increase self esteem, I’m a narcissist who was usually single to focus on other sources

I think Ramini is very helpful in identifying narc symptoms. I don't think she helps us understand why people are narcs... but she does a very good job in helping us identify the issue. In the end, just identifying a problem is only part of the solution... The more complete solution is to also be able to understand why people are they way they are, if possible.

@@pdquestions7673. Heal NPD is another up and coming channel by a professional. His explanations are wonderful IMO. Highly recommend.

Ramani is an obnoxious covert narc imo lol

Then he's not a narcissist

Sounds like you’re a narcissist projecting onto your ex.

NPD & BPD tend to have explosive, unhealthy relationships. The best relationship for someone with BPD to go into remission is someone stable who will be there for them.

Exactly. It's just shall not be on pathological level.

wouldnt a narcissist think: they act different theyre leaving theyre bullshit

like thinking youve done something wrong to upset them isnt that selfreflection