How FUNNY!!! I was Nodding away just a second before you stated... "you must be nodding..." how TRUE... this is very good. worth listening to again and again... female INTJ here
I think that's partially because the way you present yourself appeals to these type, the 'hacker' image, you seem like you're going to include lots of data and graphs haha. (fellow ENFP)
The things that I read online seeem like a lot of people are fascinated by this type. It also seems that a lot of people know an INTJ and are experts concerning them. All I know is that I have felt alienated my whole life. It has never felt like to me like anyone wants to be an INTJ, they are too busy disregarding half the things I say.
that's not good, I am a INTJ and I push people away at times but the ones I push are the ones I know will be the most mentally draining on me. Maybe try and give people a chance and let them get to know you, you might be surprised.
"Done is better than perfect". That's what i needed! Sometimes i end up thinking and planning too much, exhausting myself before i even start the work.
Right now, I'm letting my introverted feeling get the best of me and I've been a shut-in only leaving the house when absolutely necessary. It's been so long since I've been effective at something , which makes matters worse but watching this has given me great insight. Good job personality hacker.
+BeaulaOla This is exactly what it has been like for me over the past five years. Good luck and I hope we get to see some of your ideas become reality as they get tested in the real world.
lol. I don't go out near as much either. I've become accustomed to passive aggressive behavior from people. Its even more frustrating when people say you should get out more. I'm going to wait for people to mature. As much as I love to be in hostile areas where I'm the one who gets in trouble when I simple defend myself. I'll pass. That's paranoia and speculation, but hey. I continue to be direct. Well. That was more in past. I'm getting out more. I'm just tired of dealing with passive aggressive people. Life works out for the best. ^.^ Just need more real people around me.
This issue on love is this, INTJ’s will tell you about how they’re wired, yet others still refuse to accept this difference and instead act as if we are the ones always required to change to the “norm”.
same...They are not even serious bout their life & goals...they seem so stupid to me..what irritates me most is that they don't know anything bout this world but still do arguements with us...
As an INTJ, try to see it as an exercise. I like to challenge myself and I learned to fake to have shallow conversations and fake to be an extrovert even though I can't relate or I find it useless. INTJ are very good at hiding emotions too.
Well, start reading about psychology and you will see that they behave not irrational but exactly how science thinks that human behavior is normal. As an INTJ reading about scientific matters shouldn't bother you, so go ahead. The only thing is, they very often are not as reflected as some think have INTJ...with all the inherent benefits and disadvantages. In conclusion I would say you only can disgrace someones way of living as "irrational" if you really understand why they act as they do. Then I promise you, public interaction will maybe not be your favorite activity but way more bearable :)
I am an INTJ-T and I've started telling others that I am the Avocado of people. I am rough and hard on the outside, but soft and vulnerable inside. I am an acquired taste that not everyone will enjoy but the ones who do will love and keep coming back for. I am complex and full of flavor, a little bitter and no doubt I can be salty. I don't pair well with everyone, however when I do pair well it is better then good... it's magical.
I’ve been looping around for years trying to figure out what I’m supposed to be doing with my life and not finding anything that seems perfect or that I feel like I’m “meant” to do. Consequently, I’ve been locked in an introspective spiral of doubt and inaction. The description of the intrusive Authenticity function really hit home.
I've been a shut-in for almost 1 year and this video made me realize that my introverted feeling is in control most of the time. I've been on a streak of inaction and indulging in addictions, it's like a loop. I now understand what I need to do to fix this
OMG, this is me, my 10 year old process has stopped me even going outside with anxiety disorder and I prefer to prevent getting hurt by not doing anything and concentrating on trying to feel good !
Same here. And feeling good for me refers to feeling good with my senses 'over-eating, binge-watching anime/k or jdrama to escape reality/reading manga/etc.'
Seriously I'm mind blown, I've read hundreads of articles and many other videos But this perspective of view is quite original and very explicit / easy to grasp
@@rubenmedina9156clearly, you are not an INTJ. It would be wise not to say to an INTJ that there is a ‘purpose’ externally assigned to them by any gods, humans, stars, or fates. The INTJ will give you the death stare and more or less politely show you the door or they will forever ignore you (if you are lucky).
I've ended up in some of the worst possible positions in life by letting my procrastinating nature to take hold. And my inability to act or live in the moment. I made a relationship my ultimate project, and exhibited pretty much the full INTJ spectrum as I picked it apart. Locked on to this singular goal, everything else fell away. As the other areas of life caught fire, I ignored them until they pulled the rest of the joy out of my life. As you would expect, being the object in the INTJ microscope takes its toll. I can tell you how deep the self indulgent rabbit hole goes. Violating all my own personal boundaries in the process. Much to my own detriment. Initiative is my new anti-me mechanism. I ask myself does this improve my quality of life? Is it positive? Can this hurt me? No? Then do it. Today. I still struggle with the loss of my ultimate project, and the love that came with it. It's still the problem I'll never be able to solve now. And the future that would have brought. But I understand me better now. And I don't feel crazy any more. Which, I have a feeling a lot of INTJ's that go against their internal makeup do. Good luck out there fellow ponderers. I know at times you'll need it. Learn to live in the moment at times. Even if it feels impossible. The person you love may need you too.
I often thought that. After watching this I finally understand how great of a personality type I am. I always found myself feeling most attracted to or relating to (fictional characters) who are like INTJ's especially when I was in 'the grip' and not totally myself (as in depressed, unmotivated and uninspired and afraid to do anything). I'd like to think it's because those are the people I wanted to be like and now I understand I can be like that, I just need to get out of this grip and start acting on my ideas and putting them out there.
Very true. Sometimes I want to talk to people for long periods of time. Just to break out from my mind palace. But just thinking about it exhausts me already.
There was a time at work I became so pissed, I decided to show my real self and was ready to quit anytime. My 10 year old passenger was not in the picture anymore. I was not afraid what my boss or everyone would say, I questioned them and had my plans implemented whatever it took. I showed them that they are wrong and how my ideas were right. I did it because I was angry. I was rude and arrogant. This continued for 6 months. But in the end, my boss praised me and said I was smart. He liked me a lot, he gave me a promotion. I lost all my friends though. No one wants to talk to me.
Personally the most helpful part of this video was as I understand - don't make the project perfect before releasing it (because it may never be ready), release it as soon as possible and then try make it perfect. And seeing you project work in real life will be the best feeling you ever had :)
Best thing i've heard about an INTJ. I usually struggle with implementation, always working to perfect my ideas and it never ends. Great insight here. Now i know what to do.
I also like my children. I just don't let them drive my car. My 4 year old daughter would drive me off a bridge if she could. I'm even scared to let her drive at 16. :-)
I am INTJ Artist. I am known to be authentic in my work which is my pride and joy.. I am very comfortable in my skin even when I have to bare my soul for all to see.
I am enjoying what I do that is for sure. It was hard indeed at first. Like going on the nude beach for the first time and having the guts to drop off the clothes. It was awkward to say the least. However, as you know us INTJs are paradoxical and standing up to a challenge is what we do best. I kept on producing my chess art till the people around me got over the shock of the new. What helped me succeed as an artist (speaking of recognition) and form my tribe was the compelling story behind each and every piece of my work.
This just made everything clear! I finally understand why I keep on reminiscing, why I constantly introspect, why I think of people who wrong me in the past. It is my wrongly used introverted feeling! Also, I an see now how I grew, how and when I learned to just get things done and accomplish. I am really impressed with this video!
This is.what i feel every moment. And i'm in the shell too. But friend Don't you wanna see more beautiful world? I realized that if i want to see that, i have to broke my cycle(protective) and let my self to get some environments, fills up my imagination and new things to think And supportive people to let me do my idea become real. Hugs from other INTJ female.
@@GROTETHQUE indeed, new things to observe and new perspectives to ponder about is a must in our lives. These views help as we can be more optimistic at times, especially when things get rough and miserable. Thank you, I appreciate it. Although I'm less of a shut in as I was before, our global pandemic issue has lead me towards 'quarantine' yet again. Thank you, you're a nice person Rui.
As an INTJ, the most powerful change that I have made as I have started to mature is the adaptation of what I like to call the Nike philosophy; "Just Do It." I intuitively see a path toward making something happen, even though I don't know the details yet, but once I just take action and start the ball rolling, things miraculously fall into place and the outcome is nearly always better than I originally intended. For example my most recent obsession has become building a real estate portfolio. I just bought my first property, a duplex. Now I'm broke and can't afford the next property yet, but that doesn't have to stop me. I am working on buying my next property with no money of my own through syndication (using social skills to raise the capital and bring together all the necessary pieces to make the deal happen). This kind of progression is what the INTJ personality is meant for. This kind of progression is stressful as hell, but I found that when I lean into the stress rather than avoiding it, the reward more than compensates for the negative emotion.
I set with some girls at lunch and I always move over one seat when I lm not talking because I feel like Im annoying them. Someone else said to come set with them at lunch and I don't know what to do.
People borrowing tools and not bringing them back or when they do they just toss it in my toolbox... There are literally outlines of everything but they can't figure it out! Then they wonder why they can't find their tools when they need them... Drives me crazy
I hadn't realized that my 10-year old was holding me back until I became business partner with an ENTJ. Having retired from my previous career it seems I stopped using my copilot, so it's best I develop that (Effectiveness) in some other way. One of my biggest challenges is to lock into one or two specific interests, rather than taking a casual interest in a dozen or so. And then there's the tendency to be thinking ahead all the time, rather than being "in the moment".
+Peter McPherson In undergraduate days I got a lot of feedback about 'not being in the moment' - complaints from others. Luckily today I see this as my strength instead of as a defect. I'd love to find an ENTJ I could partner with to do some great work.
This was an excellent analysis. I feel more motivated to move my ideas into the real world as I have been spending too much time with 'Authenticity' closing myself off and protecting myself against emotional pain with a wall of doing that which feels good instead of doing the right thing. I'm really glad to be updated, thanks for the hard work and thanks for the survey.
I am an INTJ-A. Recently, I've realized people with insecurity can find this personality type be intimidating. Our analytical approach can drive these people back to their shells. So now I keep reminding myself to be "soft" when dealing with people with insecurity.
If anyone is wondering if the "introverted feelings" can really get that bad: 2 years, that's how long I'd stay indoors and just prepare for the worst. I ruined relationships out of the extreme desire to protect myself from emotional struggles, thankfully I was able to see that something was wrong with me; I attempted to search for a way out of that problem. You've gotta learn how to not be so defensive, and that putting yourself out there with people you can trust is a good thing and allows you to grow as a person. I'm an artist, and for those two years I didn't try anything new, I didn't allow for criticism, and from all of that I didn't get any better at what I was doing. The effectiveness of raising my skill level went to 0. That's not a joke, I didn't improve AT ALL. Don't let your "introverted feelings" get the better of you. After finding out what I was doing wrong, getting reacquainted with the formula for success, (which is a lot of failure and the attempt to find what causes that failure) and finally putting myself out there and getting some thick skin about things, a thousand times more stable as well as successful.
I recently took a test from a psychologist which showed me as INTJ. After listening to this video, it is 100% true for me. I have been avoiding going full bore into my personal business venture as I am afraid of the effect it will have on me if I fail at it. So I have been sticking with my safe and comfortable corporate job. This video has given me the insight to notice this flaw and how to correct it.
Always wondered why I was so different socially and how I think from the rest of the world. I've thought long and hard about so much and neglected figuring myself out. Glad I decided to now, knowing yourself better definitely helps with how information is processed and the world around you. Wish all of you best of luck in this crazy world
I normally don't comment on RU-vid, but you Sir have shook me to my core. As I gather from my past experiences , I now consciously realise how these factors were at play in my day-to-day dealings. This video will only help me in building a better version of myself. Thank you!
My authenticity led me to isolation, smoking too much weed do too much drugs and not wanting to share anything that’s going on inside of my head for the last 2/3 years!
I'm an INTJ....and yes I keep myself safe at times, but I also take chances. The INTJ expressions of love is definitely accurate lol! and I definitely live my life by my feels....I trust my feels in most cases. Example when I meet someone my first thought is, am I getting a good vibe from this person.
My authenticity has DEFINITELY held me back from my goals. I’ve always fallen short of all of my goals, because when I get stressed or it becomes difficult, I give up and end up beating myself up for not accomplishing anything. It’s a vicious cycle.
I was in a committed relationship with an ENFP man and over the course of time he helped me to put action behind my plans. It was the first time in my life I actually pursued one of my many entrepreneurial ideas.
I masterminded something extraordinary (legal) and it was all in my husband’s name. It took years of my devotion, work and sacrifice. ‘We’ were set for life financially. Then he divorced me and left me homeless and turned my own family against me. That was two years ago and I’m still licking my wounds. And, yes... I’ve been living as a shut-in except to go to work... which I need to do now as he is retired in the home that ‘we’ were suppose to retire in and with everything in it. Time to get up and do it again... this time for myself. Thanks.
I'm 42 years old I'm just leaving an unhealthy and abusive relationship of 12 years I'm scared but ready...its time for me to give whatever insight understanding of what I have been through to at least one person who needs to hear it .....if what does not kill us makes us stronger our strength is useless if we lend it to those who need it...our happiness depends on it .... thank for validating what I already knew it is just the nudge I needed to close my eyes jump and grow wings on the down
funny cause as an intj you just set a goal and when we do a ticking clock dissipate our feeling emotion and when you reach an almost exhausted state we go no look back we just go
Interesting. My motto is similar, yet opposite (because INTJ/contradiction ;-). For me, if what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, then what 'good' is that strength if we *can't* lend some to those who need it? I do my best to use my decades of ups and downs in life and with people, to 'help' others who struggle with such things. I hope you landed softly, and that you're thriving. Toxic relationships are the worst. I'm glad you're on the other side.
I sometimes fear success as much as failure...failure brings me back into a comfort zone. I need to learn that it's OK to be successful and be prepared to deal with the change
When I was younger I took the risks. Got others involved. Etc. In pretty much every instance the others involved let me down. Most people aren't driven the way we are. Because they haven't invested the thought. It gets lost in the effort. I have worked towards HUGE deals. Only to see a "partner" crumble under pressure. Or a individual refuse to pay what they owe. Its really hard as you age with fewer years to waste on such disappointment.
Typically I score INTP or a few INFJ results on personality tests - I'm pretty sure most people assume I'm an INFJ or if they only know me superficially; an ESFP because most people confuse personality types with what we've studied, what we do for a living and what hobbies we share/let others know about. I just took your personality hacker test on your website and I'm so excited to have a different result than usual, my first INTJ score - I have a son who scored INTJ on some test and it fits him perfectly, we understand each other pretty well but there are differences in thoughts; he's very self confident and it's very important for him to always be right or factual, not so much the case for me. He's the perfectionist, though he appears cluttered even careless at times to people who don't know him well. It's like he pretends to not care when things are difficult for him. I don't care if I "look bad". I'm happy to keep thoughts within, I don't identify with a need to test things in the real World. In fact, this is a side of me that frustrates a lot of people! I guess the verdict is still out on my real type, and that's more interesting to me than actually knowing which type I might really be and I'll be happy with whatever type, no matter the result. I've had a lot of thoughts about how society and familial expectations might've shaped my default thinking process as a mature adult, differently than if I'd grown up with different circumstances. If I'm honest with myself, I probbably rely more on introverted feelings than I'm comfortable with.
Thanks for the feedback +Ly Phan. Here's an article +PH Antonia Dodge wrote that a lot of INTJs have found helpful: www.personalityhacker.com/intj-personality-type Lots of great stuff in there to mine out.
+Speed Pasadena lmao yes fear/death are basicly illusions death is something that only gets "meaning" in life so i create death by living...So life is the act of death and death is the act of life...fear is a result of lack of understanding.
@@rusurveillancetaskforce Lol yes. The first thing that an INTJ would have (and be jovial about, not afraid) is the epiphany that'd follow any Ni realizations, followed by visions about using the said Ni epiphanies to advance oneself. The OP is probably someone with lead or secondary Fi.
By far the single most useful video I've found on my personality type. I am intj-t. It was very soothing for me to watch, comforting in a way that makes me feel understood. Which I never feel in real life. My friends that I do have I've had since jr. High cause making new ones is impossible. The new people who take to me usually have an agendA.
For the first time in my life, someone totally gets me! This is almost 100% me including the seduction of the Tertiary Introverted Feeling part especially when I am in an area that's totally new to me. I recently entered a Sales role (which they say is an area weakest for an INTJ) and this Introverted Feeling has held me back by letting my mind plan continuously to the point of inactivity.
I’ve been reading most of us are in a state of idleness because we think nothing works for us so we are delaying things. “You need to focus on what needs to get done and how you do it rather than avoiding bad feelings” this spoke to me the most.
I could never focus in schools etc, I was always stuck in my own head and ended up failing exams because I couldn't focus on the topics in class. I found one of my old English books from when I was around 6 or 7 and inside I had drawings that illustrated how car engines worked... Why the hell was I researching mechanical engineering as a kid? Why the hell couldn't I be a normal kid... Back on topic... I failed a lot as a kid and got really, really, used to failing. I like to believe that it has gotten me to think that failing is more important than winning. When you win you win... But when you fail you are given the perfect opportunity to develop and learn new ideas or learn to tackle the problem in new ways. I hate being right, because I don't learn anything from being correct.
the authenticity part is right, i self indulge on that side too much for my own good, and one of the problems is that the modern culture rewards it, its been years dealing with this side of me, and i have been moving on, could not pin point or define what was stoping me, and the way you explain it is spot on, one thing i would add about this side, is that the down side is that it stops you, but it also presents a challenge, to where if you accept it and strive and work to overcome and use it as a filter but don´t let it stop you, you will get amazing results.
I have let my 10yr old fi take control but not being a shut in. I just can't stand being at home and being forced to focus my sensing in the real world by my family. So i normally go out alone put my headphones on and explore my mind. I never notice where i'm at nor do i notice the song playing. I just go to places alone like in the library or mall or parks or even college just so that i can think. People close to me think i've gone crazy ( sometimes i do too). But i just don't wan't to feel bad or drained. I want to indulge in interesting thoughts and work on projects by my self.
There's nothing crazy about wanting to be alone. I trust my parents and siblings enough that I don't feel drained or tired when I am around them. Also there's no one in my family who craves to talk all day or anything, we are perfectly fine all doing our own things in silence. But I do like to go off alone with my mind by shutting myself off with headphones and going on my laptop. The people I tend to shield myself from is from my friends. I don't like meeting up every day or even talking via text all day. I'll ignore them for a few days straight, before finally responding. I need the recharge.
That's awesome I've actually been doing that as well but going to different spots to read and its super relaxing, really enjoy just being alone with nature. You think you've gone crazy cause your just so unique you haven't met anyone like you yet so you think your weird, your just awesome.
I love this. Please make one on ENTJs. I have been studying all kinds of Jungian Typology testing and can't be more in love with the theory and all sorts of testing. Your videos helped me a lot when it came to getting the theory to reality. Again, congratulations! PLEASE may the next one be about ENTJs.
It's been 6 years, I go out only when absolutely necessary, I watch movies, series, I over-eat, I never exercise, I never study, I keep thinking about how I failed so I try to do things differently but then I think about how I might fail further and how it's just waste of efforts because everything is going to lead to failure eventually. I don't even know if I'm actually an INTJ, I'm just trying to figure things out and this video makes some sense, so thank you!
Perspectives is so spot on for me. Questions like what are the long lasting implications of emerging technologies are what drove my current academic pursuit
Really great stuff. One of the things I like about Personality Hacker is how you guys package and explain the personality types in such an easy to understand model where even the terminology for the types you use is descriptive. If I were to be critical one small thing that I would like to see improve would be better explanations of the varied blends of each function. I feel that you guys almost do that when you start talking about the "age level" of the functions, or their maturity level (3 yr old etc.). But it's almost like you are treating it as if the functions behave the same way as their more mature representation of themselves. For instance, If I'm an INTJ and my Fi is my tertiary it is not just an immature and defensive little Fi with a different role compared to an Infp's Fi. It looks quite different too. I love how you demonstrate warnings and advice concerning how they will influence our behavior but what about their actual description according to the type they are a part of? The function actually looks different because of how it is blended with the other two dominant functions. As an illustration, water is still water whether its in Canada or California, but people swim in it in California and ski on it in Canada. Hope that makes since, and I would love to see that maybe on a more advanced video. Anyway thanks for the video and great job guys, keep it up!
Do any other INTJs out there get absolutely brilliant ideas flowing into their head when they’re sleep deprived? Know any non-INTJs that happens to as well? I don’t. Everyone in my life can’t understand how I just kind of happen upon ideas seemingly hanging from a tree in my mind, waiting to be picked when ripe.
I can predict human behavior in any environment. Now I m focusing on becoming data scientist. Perfection really eats up time, get it done, learn from errors and move on to next project.
I've been applying this for a little under a week. This video explained things to me in a way that other ones have not and got me hopeful and excited enough to jump on it right away. I've been confused for a long time why my introspective processing and ideas were unable to move anything in the real world. Generally they result in blank stares or frustrating conversations that are not in sync and fall short of full expression. This video helped me realize that if introspective processing is my language, then effectiveness is the translation of my language to the world. I don't really have specific "ideas" that I'm trying to move into "effective space." I more have an understanding and set of ideals that I've developed with years of introspective, intuitive processing that I now have to translate (and adapt) to the real world. This week whenever I would leave my house I would "turn on." ie get out of my head, observe the world around me, ask myself what do I have to offer (in a non self indulgent/heady way) to the 10 foot radius around me based on everything I've learned and built up intuitively. Conversations have become less about me trying to express complex idea. I rest and relax in the room or with the individual and don't try to figure out new things or deeply process what someone is saying. I feel the release to do this now because I trust that my perspectives are deeply rooted in me and will come out automatically (without me predetermining to do it) and I know now that being in that "effective" (and not "perspectives") space is the best presentation of myself in the real time, real world anyway. "Perspectives" helps fill the gas tank, "Effectiveness" hits the gas pedal and turns that fuel into kinetic energy. I used to feel threatened by getting out there so to speak. But now I know (from this video) that it IS a good use of my energy. (In fact using this energy is enjoyable and brings more rest at the end of the day). It will help grow me AND make the world better. A win, win. So far the response has been good. I feel better and I have something to look forward to when I get up in the morning. Others seem more responsive and comfortable. Being an INTJ makes you naturally very hard to read and confusing for others to understand (and therefore trust)... the decision to NOT be that way for the benefit of others is a good one to make.
@jaelynstanley7808 Thank you for reading and commenting, kind stranger! I honestly forgot I wrote this and just re-read it with fresh eyes...7 years later. How crazy!
Thanks for this. When learning about MBTI in the beginning, it’s easy to just “justify” many of our behavior, but in the end you cannot escape the matter of the fact why these even exist in the first place... How to be a more balanced person, how to use this information to live a more balanced life, to be more content and how to be an effective contributor to society as a whole.
I honestly don't know where to start, words cannot describe how thankful I am. Thank you just doesn't seem like a big enough word to truly describe how thankful I am. You fueled me. I felt so alone, and I did feel like I was an outsider, really throughout my entire life. I was aware when I was younger that I needed more discipline and a challenge, and that led me to join the Marine Corps. I did great in the 8 years that I was in. I loved it, the most memorable part of my life. In the military and outside of the military, I was always cast off as being weird and crazy, and yet they still consider me a leader...frustrating to hear. Because of you I'm fired with passion again. I started a RU-vid channel as an outlet. Although, I was supposed to post every week, I started losing passion. It felt like people only wanted to look at me from the outside and not the inside. I started out doing this is a hobby. If it wasn't for you telling me to embrace it and don't be ashamed of it (my personality I mean), I probably would have been down and out for a long time. By the way this is not my comfortable way of living. I like to be creative, outgoing, active, and an explorer. I'm going to continue doing what I was doing when I was younger, starting with my ideas and bringing it to reality. I've noticed that people are easy to tell me things, but are quick to take advantage of me in the long run. I use to struggle with the fact that "I can't help that I want to help people". People automatically believe that I have a hidden agenda. And by that I mean that they assumed that I wanted something to gain for helping them, again frustrating. When I say frustrating I'm referring to becoming tired of the same scenarios rather. I truly want to help people. I hate evil things done to people and children especially. I do want to do something about it. Honestly that's why I can't afford sitting out and I do want to learn more that's going to get me to where I'm stable to handle such evil Acts. There's never a time when I'm not thankful for the words of another. Organization...It's such a great feeling to make something and know it came from your heart. I'm willing to take any materials that help me add to my skills or require new skills, so that I can reach that goal and prepare myself for something that could possibly be fatal, and in return I will gain good habits to add to my character. Again thank you so very much. Excuse me for the run-on sentences, lack in grammar and punctuations.
You know I have a friend who is an ENTJ and I find that we work very well off of each other and now I think I know why. He explained to me that INTJs are good at creating systems while ENTJs are good at activating them. They have the same functions but in a different order.
This is a fantastic video. INTJ beeing dragged down by 'Autheniticy'. Hearing your solution has set my mind on fire. Thank you so much - really needed to hear this.
The most efficient way to learn that I've found... Is to talk to senior citizens! I'm 27 and I don't do this enough anymore. I've learned so much from the experiences of others.. But the problem is talking to them..I don't understand how someone can just strike up conversation with a random person.. Normally something has to happen to force people into my life, but when it does I usually take a lot from it. Also conversation with myself helps me process things and think extremely efficiently.. does anyone else do this? I found it helps to hear a voice talking even if it's your own. I think it's because hearing a voice say the words out loud makes it sound like it's coming from somewhere instead of in your own head.. because my head is pretty jumbled up inside constantly thinking of stuff.... it's a mess in there.
Nice to hear you are open to learn from senior citizens! I am a retired academic psychologist female INTJ who has been with a male INTJ happily for 37 yrs! WE have accomplished huge personal goals together...long long range goals over the years and as a result have had a very happy very satisfying non-traditional life together...early retirement on our own dime, bought and renovated a large sailboat and lived aboard and sailed the Caribbean for 10 yrs., now living abroad in a home I designed the artistic features of (arches, murals, mosaics etc)and he served as my contractor making all my lifelong dreams re a perfect home for us in a tropical climate come true. You likely don't share THESE goals but whatever goals you DO have, I wish you the best with them and a partner who shares all your dreams and helps make them a reality for the two of you.
One example of where I let the 10-year old win and I played it safe.... Three years ago I was in the midst of planned career overhaul from military officer to Chartered Professional Accountant. I had grown completely dissatisfied with the military, I wanted to be get my CPA and start my own firm. I had put my release in and was searching for a job at an accounting firm so I could start the CPA program. The pay-cut was fairly big, and there was a chance I wouldn't even find a job right away. The military offered to let me switch into finance and they would pay for my CPA... "great," I thought, "I'll continue getting paid well, and get the CPA." Well here I am, three years later, I'm still unhappy with the military but my CPA is done, and I don't have an ounce of public practice experience. So now I've landed a job at a public firm, which is still a fairly big pay-cut, and I still need 2-3 years of experience before I'll be ready to move out and start my own firm. I should have just bit the bullet 3 years ago, taken the hard road, and I'd be starting my firm right now. That was an opportunity to let the co-pilot drive, but I deferred to the 10 year old, if anything out of fear of failure.
I realized I'm an intj everytime I go to job I find the fastest most efficient way to do a job. Then I store my experience and others input and make the best way to do the job.
On 'communicating love,' your list is perfection. On effectiveness, you have sound advice. I have learned on my own that at some point I have to get the plan out in the real world. This is the ultimate measure of how good my planning is (or is not). When getting the project off the ground, I look at it as building a prototype. I can re-build the perfected plan later once I have worked out the details. I find that in the real world there are variables that I was not aware of that impact the perfected plan in my head. I accept that there is a possibility that it will not work out and I will have to start over again and a good chance that there will be adjustments once I see things taking shape. Sometimes I have to put things on hold a bit to re-think my approach when things aren't going right. In the end I usually have good results. It is satisfying to get it off my list of to-dos and sometimes I even impress myself with how well things turn out. There are also times where the imperfect end result can nag at me. Either I get over it or I fix it. Either way I'm moving forward. I've also found that perfection is a lot of work. Getting something to 95-97% perfect is generally acceptable. The amount of effort required to get another percentage point grows exponentially and I reach a point where the 'Return of investment' is no longer worth it.
I just implemented an idea into prototype and now into production... and now it's selling like hotcakes! It was scary but I realized that I make things that are unique and people like that. I don't need to sell myself much, just make a good product and let it sell its self!
the phrase in this, "done is better than perfect" is just what i needed to help me keep working on a project of mine concerning religious theology. its been in my brain for about 4 years now, and theres been fears of people not wanting to read my stuff once it gets published, having personal implications if or when people find out that it's actually me writing these things (authenticity), or people saying my theories or analysis is incorrect. I have to get over these feelings of insecurity, and do what is effective, which is to actually do the work and stop getting trapped in my feelings of fear.
at 61 years perhaps I came lately but my name is not Johny. a bit late for worrying about personal growth, the plan is perfect and in motion so now let my inner-child take over and do the driving
Thank u for slapping me with this video. I just realize that I focused on my fear heavily instead implementing ideas. I think that was the reason I felt empty and useless since last month.
This is the first time I've ever heard my personality described so accurately. My passion is turning my visions/dreams/thingsthat do not exist into reality. My handicap is finding the will to do it because these visions can feel impossible to achieve. Sometimes once it's achieved it turns out to be a failure, like a startup that I launched a couple of years ago. I now have another vision of a new future. I just wonder if I will ever have the resources to implement it?
The defensiveness thing is so true I'm so ashamed -_- I got ahead of myself way too quickly after sorting out something and quite honestly easily self indulgent with the slightest of narcissm ish source(how people react to me, how things get by smoothly when I did it compare to others, even by a billboard showing a celeb who sort of looks like me). Or being melancholic and sad and self destructive quite easily if I'm being too Fi and want to be unique so much...(I'm also a 4w5)
Wow ...deep ..I pretty much was aware of my perspectives and effectiveness. the one that just got me is the authenticity. I'm always having "visions" of what needs to be done in the future . My 10 year old often gets in the way ....i have become very shuttered as of recent . Basically everything that was described is accurate.
Thank you!! So insightful! Gave me lots of 'aha!' moments. Now I shall go swiftly forth and implement my awesome ideas that have danced in my head far too long.
What i found to be most effective for gathering information, learning expanding my world and become able to see more. Was not to focus on 1 skill. But on many different ones. Since each skill "some examples"->> Programming, 2d&3d design craftsmanship, music, sport/fitness. All have different subjective & objective views that holds the logic for that particulair skill. But at the same time developing/experimenting in 1 skill, while contemplating on others. Adding to that becoming better at 1 can also make u become better at other skills without contemplation since the thought pattern only adds to making a domino effect of information. U hold the spark, start the fire.
I’m a successful novelist. My biggest pitfall is getting hung up on negative reviews. I can have a hundred glowing reviews on a new book release, but every word of the one negative review gets seared into my brain and played on repeat. I’m getting a bit better at compartmentalizing them and focusing on work, but sometimes it’s tough.
This is so right and true- I have been waaay too in my head over a particular project I wish to embark on- although it’s not rocket science, and I basically know I need to gather information but have been “afraid “ to start, but fully aware of my capability and competence. 3/4 of the way through this video I turned it off, got on the phone and started calling the people I need to talk to to get the ball rolling and start the necessary research. Thank you SO MUCH for giving me the nudge I needed to get out of that feeling/defending mode and into the action phase! Ty ty ty ty ☺️👌✊💪❤️😃
Done so many personality tests i always get a different result, accordingly to my mood at that time, if i feel happier when doing the test i tend to answer more social, if i feel sick or bored i tend to answer colder. so i really dont know what my personality is
"Done is better than perfect" -- OMG I needed this!! My boyfriend told me that yesterday as I was flipping out and crying about not knowing how to tackle my thesis. My professor is asking for a 30-page PROPOSAL & so working my regular full time job plus trying to pass this professor's masters class by doing this monster proposal has drrrrrraained me. But -- done is better than perfect will snap me out of inertia. Yay, life again!
At the age of 30, I am finally coming into my abilities as an INTJ. For the first time I am comfortable in my own skin and confident in my abilities. I have even dived right into my emotions to better myself, i now feel things just as deeply as some feeling types, I see and understand so much now, also just discovered if any of you INTJ's are like me you have the issue of thinking to fast for your mouth to keep up, i have so many thoughts during a conversation i lose half of them trying to keep up with the stream of new thoughts. I found that weed slows my brain down so my mind and mouth can work in unison, my speech and conversation is so much better, my thoughts are so much for fulfilling and reflective. If youre like me the best thing you could do for yourself is to smoke some weed, reach enlightenment over and over, then understand your emotions and those of the emotions around you, everything is so different now, so much more peaceful in my head.
God damn 10 year old me smoking weed *inhales The deeper i go into this topic, the more i am learning how I tick. The more i know how i tick, the more i know how to exploit it for my conscious use
