Introverts, What Irritates You the Most? 

Being forced into social situations,especially with large crowds.

I think some extroverts have trouble just being alone with themselves ...and the fact that introverts are happy with their own company just freaks them out. They can't understand it because they just aren't wired that way. Another thing I notice about introverts is that many are empaths, and find being around extroverts a literal drain on their energy....the term "energy vampire "is a real thing. These are my observations..YMMV.

definitely when more extroverted people treat me like a pet

LOUD PEOPLE. Anyone who speaks louder then a calm conversation on a daily basis... like you are at a 90 and I need you at a 40

I'll say one thing that irritates me as an introvert. People talking to me when my social battery is dead. Especially when I put headphones on. I dont wanna be rude so I put a smile on and respond yet I just DONT WANT TO TALK

When the people who you are close with know that you're an introvert and you tell them you need time alone. But they hang around for hours. Or when I put a do not disturb sign on my front door and they bother me anyways. They don't understand that I need a lot of time to recharge after being around people for few hours or days. I live alone so this shouldn't be a problem. I can go three or four days without talking to another human being and I'm perfectly content.

When they tell me to stop being antisocial like bruh leave me alone I don’t want human interaction rn

When you do actually want to contribute to a conversation and they ignore you... And then ask why you never say anything

I absolutely HATE it when I'm trying to read or listen to music and my roommate comes and tries to start a conversation. Closed door, headphones on super loud...dude...just let me be. The worse part is telling me to do real life stuff. I'm more than happy being in my own world.

Small talk, is a universally hated thing among introverts.

When your friend knows you're an introvert, but they insist on calling you instead of just texting

Social obligation is the largest annoyance to me. I can handle a lot of socialization and need only about 2 or 3 hours daily to recharge. I manage to handle this no problem. But the social obligations of society burn me. Things like if someone you know is having a wedding, you should go. If you go to family dinner, you have to socialize. If you're invited to a birthday party you must attend and bring a gift. I hate these things a lot. Stupid rules to me. Being forced out of obligation.

My friend always calls me a hermit because I never go out. The reason is I need at least a days warning of going somewhere so I can prepare. I cant just drop everything and leave unless it's something I will really enjoy.

I hate being nagged at by friends to go out. I lived with a "friend" who would try to make me feel horrible for locking myself in my room to play video games or read instead of hanging out with her 24/7. I'm not depressed. I'm not sad or antisocial. I just like being alone. I also hate calls from friends. I've always ignored them.A simple text will suffice.It's nothing personal.

George Carlin once said "I like people ... but I like them in short bursts." So applicable to me and social functions, IMO. Utterly hate the fuck out of the idea that somehow forcing social interactions will "fix" me, because I do like social interactions, but in short bursts - after which I need to recharge.

One of my bosses was shocked when I didn't respond to his small talk. He claimed it was rude to not engage in his mindless small talk about the weather. I'd like to point out that I was off the clock.

When I put on big headphones out in public and someone I don’t know tries to start a conversation with me, then gets mad when I’m not paying attention

Telling an introvert to be more social is like telling an extrovert to shut up.

Am I considered an introvert because I don’t like to talk to people? Like there’s literally nothing wrong with people I just don’t feel like talking

People automatically assume that I don’t like them or that I’m mean because I’m shy and don’t talk much. My coworkers all thought I didn’t like them because I didn’t want to talk very much on my very first day at work. I love them all but I’d known them for like two minutes! I’m actually very extroverted if I’m around people I know.

I'm not sure I'm an introvert, but my family think I'm grumpy if I don't talk much or don't want to spend all day with them. It's nothing personal, but I value having time alone in peace and quiet in a world that won't shut up. I don't think that's too hard to understand.

The guilt tripping after saying “no” to plans

Most thespians are introverts, but people automatically think we're extroverts because of what we do. They don't understand that by the time we get to performing the actual show the audience sort of disappears (especially behind the lights). The hardest part is getting to know your cast mates and developing chemistry (if you've never worked together before) and the meet and greet after each performance.

Last week my classmate asked me “I don’t think I’ve ever heard your voice. Do you ever talk?” Me other introverted friend said “he just doesn’t like human interaction”

Came here just to say this, as a weird type of introvert (kind of social but the smallest social batteries ever): Planning to do stuff with family and they’re suddenly not available, then I take time off in my room to recharge and suddenly it’s family game night. More bad timing than introvert problems, but I still find it annoying.

People who don’t understand the difference between being introverted and being antisocial… especially the antisocial people who claim they are just introverted.

We're loners! We like being alone & don't mind socializing in small doses. Accept us for who we are.

When my extroverted friends try to get me to be extroverted,but then say they couldnt stand being an introvert

When classmates just so happen to see you sitting alone while studying/completing homework and invite themselves over without asking because they automatically assume working as a group will be "productive." I thankfully never dealt with situations like that ever again after switching majors, and it's been way better for my mental health when the pandemic occurred because I'm in the comfort of my own home while attending my online classes.

I love the idea of a concert but man that's a lot of people. I'm happy to rock out in the comfort of my own home

When you’re forced to go with your parents to their friends house and everyone forces you to interact with people, that usually being drunk adults double my age, I hate having to fake my emotions I’ve even had one of my parents friends have the fucking audacity to say “I’m fucked up” for getting mad after they popped A FUCKING MINI FIRECRACKER on my goddamn leg, like I’m quiet, calm, and in a decent mood for someone dragged somewhere I don’t wanna be. Leave me alone and don’t bother me I swear it’s an easy concept but nobody there seems to understand it

When I just ok ( not happy, not sad, not angry just ok) then everyone asks "whats wrong?" Or "why are you mad?". I'm not mad I'm just not wanting to talk. Honestly its those constant questions that piss me off.

One thing that pisses me off is how people don't know the difference between being introverted and being socially anxious.

Oh my gosh, that thing about thwarted expectations for alone time. I get extremely distressed when, for example, I have to make mandatory visits to see family, spend an enjoyable amount of time with everyone, and then realize I'm going to be stuck there for another 2 hours while my spouse catches up on all of the gossip from someone we just talked to 3 days ago. Also, why are old people so needy about their young relatives coming to visit them? If you want to see me, why don't you stop by my place every once in awhile for a change? Is it because you perceive inviting yourself over for a short stay is more rude than guilting me into taking time out of my non-retired-person schedule to make the hourlong trek to whatever godforsaken outer-fringe suburb you've decided has few enough black people for your taste? Why not propose a neutral meetup location, then? And then they get too old to drive but refuse to actually move in with whichever relatives that are taking care of them...

The inability to smash people in the face for constantly demanding more of my time than I get of my own time.

Chit chat, run of the mill small talk. I cant believe how shockingly drab people are, its like being in a zombie movie, most ppl are insanely fucking bland.

When my mom doesn't leave me alone and says I should go out more and I'm gonna be so lonely and depressed cause all I do is sleep and use my laptop no mom it called recharging I love going outside and just sit in the grass and talking to some friends that came over and I want to do is read my favorite book and just swing outside on the hammock

when people try to force you into being an extrovert hate that

Mandatory group work that can easily be done solo if you actually care about the work. I don't know if it was my looks or my weight but i would always be the last or one of the last to get picked and people would laugh at me when a group had to get stuck with me. The irony is a lot of my instructors were fond of punishing the group if someone slacked off, so I had to do work most of the time for the person slacking off. Don't even get me started on how every one acts like you're a celebrity when it's exam or quiz day.

This happens at work: a process that I have worked out in my head over years of practice, can be done today, that is wanted at the end of the week? Sure. Rely on me. Head down, crack on, efficient, reliable, fast. Does this work in a place that changes all priorities many times a day? No. Had to tell new boss that I'd do only what he told me, when he tells me, and until he tells me do something else, are we agreed? He agreed. Two weeks later he introduced / showed me a procedure of how the job should be done, but doesn't work (many years obsolete and he'd just pencilled in some changes that conformed with the last change he'd made) and he wants to blame me for not doing it the way that works (which I wasn't since the agreement), AND the procedure is one I've never seen, never needed, causes the problems he wants to stop, and it's all my fault. Tell him exactly where each unfinished job is in the process, leave him the diary of the many changes he made, and left the job.

I learned to be short with people, stop being so nice when someone wants to talk and just keeps going, give 1 word answers while not really looking at them, its like I told people at work " I'm not here to be liked, I'm here to be paid"

When people want to talk with me. I typically don't like conversations with others. I only prefer a friend or family. Except my grandma she still sometimes can't get it through her head that I don't want to talk much.

If someone tries to talk with me while I’m taking a nap I’ll say “recharging. Leave for 3 hours u til interacting” Or “hu Tao is on cool down”

Being a manager of a large group kills as an introvert. Managing 100 plus people, then having to come home to a gf whining about me needing 2 hours to decompress just kills the soul.

the need to budget and build up my energy is so true. I'm very social at work but when work is over I'm going home to be with my husband and dogs. My social energy is spent and I have no desire to go out with any of you people. Also my lunch time is for me, I eat with my headphones in so no I don't want to have lunch discussions with any of you. I need my me time

It annoys me people think being introverted means having social anxiety. I can be in a social setting just fine, I just only connect well with very few people.

It irritates that my friends are actually mad at me for not wanting to talk with them lmao I just need to recharge

i am a very talkative person once you get to know me, like i can talk for hours and don't hate group projects. But once my battery's drained i just need to be alone for a bit.

Why did I click on this just to relive nightmares when I’m perfectly happy home alone rn

When i keep putting my headphones on cause i think someones done talking and people keep talking to me as soon as i put them on (this is a cycle that usually repeats itself)

Finally, something I can relate to

People thinking you don’t know how to have fun. Yes I am an introvert, yes I like my alone time. That doesn’t mean I don’t know how to have fun. If you want to do something fun or go to an amusement park, etc. tell me in advance. I just need to plan in advance.

if my friend invited me to some events and I don't know anyone i just mimic him now its an official skill that i acquired i mimic people in some situations

Today on “is it my autism or my introversion?”

Going through self-checkout so I don’t have to talk to a cashier, but the person watching self-checkout tries to talk to me anyways. Even more frustrating, I worked as a cashier who watched self-checkout often, and I was pressured by some managers to do just that. On principle, I only tried to talk to the self-checkout customers when the particularly pushy managers were watching.

When people state, "Oh, I'm a loner too" and never leave you alone.

Being in groups can stress me out, especially when some people in larger groups aren't respectful. When I get really stressed, my depression acts up. Well, I had to leave my last friend group, because apparently needing time to myself to recharge is making my depression worse. The only thing that can help me is apparently going to therapy. They've tried setting up interventions to get me to see a therapist when all I need is time to cope with life. This past year (2020) was absolutely terrible, and more bad things (both personal and on a global level) happened before I had time to cope and handle it, so of course I was in a bad place. I needed a lot of time to myself. One person in my old friend group had been getting more and more toxic, acting like my opinions and interests were factually wrong (I apparently should only play new games, and enjoying retro games means I don't appreciate anything new. I need to move on from the past). I couldn't handle the stress from that, and needed a lot of time alone. I don't have it in me to outright tell someone that they're a toxic b**ch. I don't like being in arguments. So I left. And next thing I know, I was being told that isolating myself is terrible and that I'm only digging myself into a pit I'll never get out of. I've actually been noticably happier since then, and for the most part, my depression is back to the manageable level it was in 2019.

I’m an introvert and I hate when a client bothers me on my break by attempting to engage me in a one-sided conversation about their fucking dog. Bro. I came outside to stare at nothing and try to ignore the voice in my subconscious telling me over and over that I’m a hopeless piece of shit and I should just end it already. …um…I may be two things, actually.

When people say that I'm doing "nothing" and I should go join them. I always say "No but thank you" just to be polite until they start the insisting and guilt tripping. My "nothing" may seem like nothing to you, but my "nothing is something to me. I can do some thinking, reflecting, imagining and assess whether I wanna try those ideas out whenever I feel like it. I am already occupied by being by myself and enjoying that recharge time alone to myself.

Introverts rise!!

See my boss at work is great. He knows that I have to get away from people sometimes and doesn't bat an eye when he finds me sat in some random room by myself. He just turns around and leaves.

My partner works in a pub. We get very little time together so I like to go and sit in the corner with a drink and read or play a game on my phone till he finishes. People approach me constantly thinking I'm sad or I've been stood up or that I've got no friends. I find it very hard to be polite to anyone that wants to ambush me under the impression I need company. I don't.

Honestly I have a pretty high social battery but when we're good friends and I see you for like 3 days or weeks straight with no end... it gets boring... my social battery for YOU is dead

I love talking to people if people can get me to stop acting afraid of them so I don't think I'm introverted but when I tell people I'm shy they think that I'm saying I don't like talking to people when I'm saying I'm irrationally scared of them there's a huge difference. There have been situations where I will talk to someone for so long that they want to leave and I'm going boo they're leaving. The worst was a girl who was too scared to say anything so I had no idea when she was annoyed and she didn't like talking about being shy to the point where she'd act offended if I tried helping her. Just recently I was in class and we were discussing privilege and other things that you can't control. Some people were talking about how other people would instantly notice how they are super extroverted and I mentioned that I was shy. Before I could say anything the teacher said oh so you wouldn't want to socialize with those people pointing to the extroverts. Because I'm shy I was too scared to correct her :(

When people just don’t leave when you want them to

"It's exhausting to pretend to like you all." I stopped pretending a few years ago. I like who I like, and everyone else can piss off.

I've always loved the analogy that introverts recharge their batteries from being social by being alone while extroverts recharge their battery from being alone with social interactions

When people tell me to be more social and outgoing.

Thinking that me being an introvert means that I am a doormat and must be controlled by them. Get mad when I have boundaries and love myself. I watched a couple people literally lose their minds by not being able to narcissist me. Lol, NO, now go away...

Wholeheartedly agree with the fad that is open plan offices. I absolutely hate them and I get nervous whenever someone walks up behind me. Give me an office where I can have my back to a wall!

Not necessarily an introvert, but have introvert tendencies. People don't understand that I truly like to take vacations by myself, read or go places like museums. I also need alone time to recharge. It sucks in relationships because it's assumed I don't like them or I'm cheating.

when I'm treated as if there's something wrong with me and need to "loosen up" and "fix me", because not wanting to go out means there's something wrong with me and/or I get accused of thinking I'm better than them because I don't feel like going out 😑

Ps If somebody you don't really care for keeps trying to be your friend, just agree to meet up with them and then stand them up. When they get mad you didn't show, do not apologize. Rinse and repeat until said person stops calling / texting.

People who think introvert means also socially anxious, shy or socially awkward. I am NOT any of those, only an introvert. Also people who then go and insist that I must be an extrovert because _they think_ I dont seem like an introvert...

I watched a video that said you don't need to like people to get something out of social interaction, and that explains so much.

Its so annoying i am generally very good at my studies but still failed an year bcz "you have to talk to teachers to not get detained"..i literally ignored my teachers and got detained they didnt contact me and i didn't from my side until i got notice that i am failed .

People think you have depression, no I just don’t want to talk to you because you always yell as your talking voice

when other people persist you to do stuff that you aren’t comfortable doing. this ticks me off to no end

I'm an introvert I hate when ppl tell me I'm quiet, that I should talk more or ask why I don't

I spend most of my time alone, so I'm usually fine when I have to do a group project or something. I sometimes find being at parties a bit bothersome and tend to go off to some place quiet. I'm fine when it's a small group with me doing something for an hour or two, but it stops being fun if there's too many people.

I’m so sick and tired from my dad telling me I need to be more social at work and shit

i went to work a few days ago and it has taken me 3 days to recover from it. It was a busy day and i dealt with a lot of customers,granted they were all nice. I just felt drained afterwards. I also have a friend who claims introversion but she’s very extroverted.

When people feel they can walk all over you and try to control you it’s like uh no I do have my own life

Dont mind me just answering that question- Calls at home and being ignored by a friend who isnt really counted as a friend

I got marked down for not going to a team dinner. I closed that night and had to open. Frick you boss

Fun fact it too me until I was 22 (im currently 26) to be able to talk to random people but only if I know we have something in common like being at work or something like that I still can't just go up to any body and start blathering away

I hate it when people point out that I'm being antisocial. Or ask why I'm so quiet but when I try to talk in a group, I literally cannot get a word in. And the fact that I need to mentally prep before a social event and feel physically and mentally drained when it's over and need to recharge. Then I spend the next several days analyzing my social encounters and beat myself up for being such an awkward weirdo. Life's tough, man.

Some advice for younger introverts, learn how to speak up when you're uncomfortable! Just because you're a loner doesn't mean you have to be a push over or accept "shy" label. Don't worry about confrontation, extroverts sure don't give a damn about how you feel when they overstep your boundaries. When you speak up, they learn when to play and when NOT to play with you. Sincerely, a 29 year old introvert with quite a bit of experience lol ❤

Yessss damn my moments of extroversion when I make plans

I got asked if I had any friends in school, because they saw me eating alone in the lunch room. Yeah, I have friends, but I don't like eating at a small table where everyone is talkin with their mouth full and there are always the extrovert people pointing out my eating habits, so thanks, but I'll be eating alone

People think I'm lying when I have to explain that anything more than an hour of social interaction exhausts me, and that I don't hate you and I want to hang out, it's just that I physically can't. And then when they keep me around for like 5 hours and then have a go at me for being tired and quiet. Then they think I'm upset, or sick, etc. No, I need to recharge, I like you, please let me go home and I'll see you tomorrow!

When anyone asks me to go to a person (that I don’t know)’s house. Then they say it’ll be ok….. P.S. this is mainly my mom

Everything, absolutely everything, didn’t used to, but the years have not been kind

I'm in a family full of introverts and it's hell when you're forced to interact with cousins and in a School where you have to be with other people so grownups don't come over and ask if your ok

When you are clearly doing something like reading a book, listening to music, etc and people you’ve never even met before try to start a conversation with you.

I thought i was an introvert but guess not cause i cant relate to 95% of these

When ppl guilt trip me for not answering their calls/texts. I'm sorry but I don't want to talk to ppl right now. And you guilt tripping me gives me more of a reason to not answer. I don't do well with guilt tripping.

Don’t come into my room 5 minutes after I wake up! I am NOT awake enough for social interaction by then. Don’t talk to me until at least 15-20 minutes after.

I'm both an introvert and an extrovert. I don't like being expected to be the life of the party. I decide when to tell jokes. For the most part I'm just going to let others talk until the energy dies down, then I'll wind it up again and go back to being quiet.

Patent: Go talk to your cousin / aunt /other relative. You are being rude just sitting here. Me: That person is litarally talking to someone else right now and have not signaled for me to get involved. That would be rude and I would be feeling like a third weal with nothing to say. And you forsed me to be here! Parent: But it is their birthday / annyversarry / other cellebration. You needed to be here. Me: I am like 16 and she didn't invite me. Their mom invited you and you draged me here. I could be home alone right now and I would be fine. That was me everytime. Just let me stay home while you talk and habe fun with the person who invited you. The birthday kid couldn't care less about my attendance. And I can tottaly understand the fakes " I am glad you came today " from the people who didn't adress you ONCE during the event - just be honest so my parent won't drag me here next time.