I can almost always tell when I'm with a sensor because they can't seem to relate to me and act like I'm dense. Intuitives, however, can get at least a partial feel for who I am.
@@MsDoryLinda I'm a writer but I support myself as a legal assistant at a small law firm. Everyone is nice but I constantly feel like an alien. I have to send out invoices and I tend to miss little details that others catch. Extremely difficult for me to focus my mind on numbers and spreadsheets! My mind is always elsewhere. Learning more about intuition v. sensing has been the key for me to understanding why I'm so different from them. Thanks for the excellent video! Your voice is perfectly calming too. :)
Goodness, yes I can imagine! It's so freeing, isn't it, once we understand and become more aware of our disposition. I'm glad the content added to that clarity for you. Excited you're here, and thank you for sharing your story. And thank you for the compliment too 😊
@@MsDoryLinda I remember in high school they had everyone take the Myers Briggs test so I've known for a long time that I'm an INFP (I've also subsequently taken the test several times and my research has removed any doubt that that's my correct type) but only more recently have I looked into exactly what that entails. It's so freeing! Knowing why I am the way I am allows for acceptance. Now I'm more motivated than ever to eventually free myself from jobs like the one I have. It's not the right place for me at all and now I know why. I just want to stay home and play guitar all day. I'll definitely be checking out your other videos. Are you an INFP too?
Self acceptance is HUGE! I'm an INFP and a highly sensitive person too. So I've always had what felt like a double challenge 😅 So my position with what I share comes from both a professional point of view, being an Occupational Psychologist, but also from a personal one, which to me filters most of what I share.
I'm isfp and for more than a year i thought that I'm infp, but then i realized that my Si really sucks so there's no way xD and I'm more future focused with my Ni than past analising with Si, especially with relationships etc. Almost all my friends are intuitives and sometimes i was the one feeling like I'm not understood 😅 but to the point - my go to mode is Se, I'm very physical and pushy when i like sb, my friends tell me that I'm like a little cat trying to get attention, i always was good at sports, dancing, I'm very aware of my body and it's needs (which most of the time sucks tbh) and love adrenaline, but not too much, i can impulsively decide to move to another city, change everything and don't feel almost any worry about it, until it's somewhat people related, i get really stressed out days before some kind of test, performance or gathering. But a lot of times it doesn't even involve thinking about the future, it just... Stresses me out, unconsciously a lot of times. So because of the fact that majority of my friends are N i have very well developed Ni and kinda Ne although i tend to struggle with accessing Ne when I'm feeling pressure and it's really annoying. When I'm all relaxed my mind can go everythere, but when I really need it, it seems to just shut down. I love my Se, although i neglected it for years, while being trapped in this Fi-Ni loop and it's pretty weak honestly, i tend to function like an intuitive, once there, once everything's blurry and "I'm sorry, can you repeat? I really tried to listen but i just shut down, sorry". And a lot of times i prefere abstract over tangible, esexially with my art (songs, paintings, photos), but I'm also very interested in philosophy, mythologies, religions etc, but my way of communicating things is very direct and concrete i hate beating around a bush and leave others to guess what i meant. But i love metaphores, im always looking at what's behind sb else's actions and trying to understand, justify maybe. Although i tend to have trouble spotting other's intentions towards me, I'm incredibly naive and believe that if I'm always straightforward and honest, then majority is like that too... Eh Actually what've made me realize that I'm not infp was my infp friend. I'm just not like her in so many ways... I'm more here and now, while she can come up with things someone said or did many years ago, that really wasn't any significant, she has a great memory for details, while my memory sucks, but i have a great attention to details in this moment. And she draws a lot and always asks me for advise, because i can see if something's wrong and how to fix it right away and for her it can take even hours if she'll be invested in something particular in this drawing. So yeah, hope anyone will find something about this anywhere interesting XD but i wrote it mainly for me, because I'm still trying to figure out what i actually am, even tho I'm pretty sure I'm isfp, there's a lot of intuitive traits that suits me
Thanks, yeah, I am definitely intuitive, I struggle with the details around me, because I am always in my own mind and intuition, looking at the future and forgetting that I have this one day right now that needs my attention...
Love this Doreca! Self-awareness is so key - going through this world especially in a lot of institutions that we are told we must attend (higher learning, corporate roles, and education, etc.) in order to be successful - we often find ourselves misaligned and confused as you said - there's a lot of value here ✨
Thanks Steph, hopefully we get to explore possibilities when we are younger so we can weed out what doesn't aligns early on. Thank you for watching and commenting 🙂
I also 100% thought women would be more intuitive rather then men, very interesting. I’m also an INFP and I really resonate with you! Very insightful video, and I’m glad I found your channel :)
Janessaaa welcome 🙂 That was a revelation to me too. But then again, I do see quite a few RU-vidrs in our community who are men 🤷🏾♀️ so there must be some validity in those findings! I'm glad you are here too and for contributing to the community with this comment 😀
I've never even thought about these two differences! we are definitely here to find out who we are and who we want to be. thanks so much for the reminders as well.
This is blowing my mind right now.. I’m an INFP. I seriously thought I was the most undisciplined person on earth. How can I feel so much burning ambition and lack so much discipline? I must be broken. I have been living with this guy most of my life who I guess you could say has been like a father figure who is an ESTJ and has been trying to hammer me into something I’m not for as long as I can remember. This guy has inhuman amounts of discipline, the only things this guy does is crap he doesn’t want to do. Dory you are a blessing
I'm glad this is helping you see you aren't broken. I envy those types of people sometimes, if I'm being honest. I feel they probably have less of that internal battle we tend to have. But then I remind myself that I too have something they don't have. So I take myself out of that comparison mode and back to focusing on my own strengths. Our "discipline" definitely relies more in our emotional regulation. The more we can develop that skill the better off we'll be.
You have the loveliest, most soothing voice! I could listen to you talk about anything, but I'm grateful for this information. I'm an intuitive through and through. Thank you for deepening my understanding. Bless you! ♥
The older I get the more I realize importance of money ( to be a sensor is a great part of adulting) idk.. actions have consequences. Disregarding the finances can definitely come back to haunt you…. I like the videos in which people get asked what’s an advice you would give to your younger self. I like seeing the variety of pizza toppings in the answers. I guess… lessons have to be learned sometimes. Wonder if this is tertiary function in action….
I love this! You explain things so well but you have this cute little quirky naughtiness that I detect, like a little fairy or pixie! Maybe it's your wry grin! How did I not find this channel before!
I definitely think I am more of an intuitive! :) I love your point on needing both intuitive and sensory personas. There is a balance to everything :) Great video as always
Yes, there's balance in everything, even within ourselves. We do well when we can access and be comfortable with our own internal duality!! I appreciate you being here 😊
I hear you, a lot of us intuitives feel that way. It can make it a real challenge to show up and offer our best. What do you do for work if you wouldn't mind me asking?
55 yo INFJ male...introverted intuitive in an extroverted sensor world...no wonder it's sooooooooo lonely sometimes! Married to an extroverted sensor (ESFJ). At least we both have Fe in common! Thank goodness! Great video MsDory. ) Thanks!
I think I'm sure that I'm an IXXP, but i find it harder to figure out if I'm a sensor or intuitive. I keep doubting myself if i am one than another, last week I was almost 99% sure than I'm an intp. Then i started doubting myself again thinking maybe I'm projecting some unconscious bias because i fit into the criteria so well. All the tests i try give me an intp result but sometimes I feel like maybe it's not 100% accurate or there's a lot about myself that i still don't know. This week i started to think i might be an Infp. And now i don't even know if I'm an intuitive or Sensor. But after watching this video i feel like i really relate more to intuitives but again, it's me and i can't be 100% certain about something without doubting myself. I tend to always live inside my mind and lose focus of the environment, many teachers even tell me that i have problem focusing. I use music to access the unconscious mind when drafting, I “see” completed visions of projects in my mind but always jump from project to project, and struggle to finish what I start.
Im an intuitive (ENFJ) and I am doing research on what can intuitives learn from sensors? Since I am NJ , I am quite practical and good in domestic life matters where a lot of Ns struggle with. As you say Sensors are about facts and what is tangible, and I do see that as well, so what to learn from them? It is just that facts on their own are not really interesting, the next step is making connections between them and drawing meanings. So I think seeing the facts is just a number 1 step which i can fully take as well , it is just that it doesnt end there, and then i go to step 2 - draw connections, interpret, make meanings, derive some value from those connections and even come up with practical application of my findings. So what is there for me to learn from a sensor? I am honestly very interested in this topic because I am in a relationship with a sensor and I am curious how we both can enrich our lifes learning from each other? Any thoughts would be very appreciated! Anyone else managing communication with sensors? :)
I find the best way to learn from others who are different from us is to hold space and value that we'll never fully understand what really goes on but we can still appreciate it. None of us are complete that's why we have parts that we are strong at and parts that we aren't. The problem I see is that each type wishes others can think and look at the world the way they do!! It's our human nature, I get it!! Because then we don't have to endure the painstaking process of patience of just holding space without judgement.
@@MsDoryLinda Thank you for the response, I do try to hold space and be patient while communicating with a sensor being intuitive myself. However, my question was more about WHAT and not HOW to learn from sensors for an intuitive? How is clear - being patient and holding space :) As I said in my original question , I struggle here:"'As you say Sensors are about facts and what is tangible, and I do see that as well, so what to learn from them? It is just that facts on their own are not really interesting, the next step is making connections between them and drawing meanings. So I think seeing the facts is just a number 1 step which i can fully take as well , it is just that it doesnt end there, and then i go to step 2 - draw connections, interpret, make meanings, derive some value from those connections and even come up with practical application of my findings. So what is there for me to learn from a sensor? "" Any ideas on this? :)
@@MsDoryLinda I am in a relationship with ISTP and I would like to enrich my way of being by learning from him. I feel like he learns from me a lot and I would like to do the same. I almost sense that probably you think intuitives cannot learn much from sensors, just accept them but not actually learn? It is an assumption based on your resistance to answer the question, please correct me if I am wrong :)
@Aina, that's not my take as I pointed out in the first response. I suppose my curiosity was in why the distillation? My resistance is in trying to narrow down what we think we can learn from someone based on a type or how we think they see the world or process information. And Instead be open to just being with someone and learning what unfolds. I guess I wasn't understanding the purpose of narrowing down step 1 then step 2 as you were pointing them out, but perhaps you were trying to work oit something specific without saying what it was? Either way, there's so much to learn from sensors and I value each and every type because collectively we make a whole.
I'm definitely an INFP. At this point of the match I understand much, much better why I always had a sense of being weird (compared to others around me) and not fitting in...
Awesome video. I also thought they were more men sensors that women. But I've learned something new. Last year I challenged myself and deleted all my social media accounts and replaced the habit by reading more books. I Only kept Instagram to grow my photography business. Wishing you all the best in your new journey.
@@MsDoryLinda I ended up getting a new Instagram page purely to build my photography portfolio. But I permanently deleted all my personal fb, snapchat, Instagram accounts etc...
I loved your video and first was exposed to personality types when I started doing hiring and interviewing. Ever time I take the test it says I am an Enfj. I sometimes get confused on whether I am a sensor or am intuitive at work everyone tells me I am detailed oriented. In my personal life I am told I am more intuitive and not detailed. I have a learning disability and wonder if that is why I need step by step instructions at work only when working on computers I hate them. But in my second job helping as a drug and alcohol counselor I am very good at seeing and reading understanding others.
Donna, have you looked into cognitive functions? That can help you nail down what your type may be a little more clearly. Try looking up Personality Hacker Podcast here on RU-vid, they have great videos on cognitive functions.
Love the video! Ive been trying to determine my N vs S, as I test as either an INTP or ISTP depending on the day, and it just seems I'm a mix. I love facts but am just as interested with the info that wasnt given or any connotations in the message. Ive always been sensitive to patterns and have a knack for knowing answers without knowing why but usually being able to infer it. Ive always wanted to know everything but also realize that's not even a theoretical possibility. I love theoreticals, scientific methods and processes, but I also know too much abstraction is useless and while the devil is always in the details, logically, it's usually not what you know, it's what you can prove. if I don't see the big picture or have a framework from which to operate, my efforts will probably be fruitless. My hobbies are motorcycles, hunting, shooting, hiking, and video games as well as listening to science podcasts and shows on physics whether astro or quantum, psychology, anthropology, archeology, paleontology and history. I know I'm not alone and it's always fun and helpful to see others trying to figure it out for themselves on message boards, too! Thanks 😊
I get bored very quickly, because I tend to see the big picture so quickly that I just lose interest in whatever the subject was, once I see the big picture of it... Any advice on this perhaps?
@@MsDoryLinda Sometimes it does negatively impact me, because sometimes it is stuff that I need to stay focused on, like work stuff, and once I get bored with it, then I can't focus on it anymore...
@@MsDoryLinda Hi sorry, only saw this message now. One good example is, I am trying to study web development, but once I see the big picture of how a programming language works, which I can do pretty fast, then I lose interest in the programming language, which is really bad, because there are a lot of minor details to programing languages that you have to remember... Then I struggle to focus enough on it to really capture the small details, so when I try to work and study it, I find my mind wondering away a lot.
So this is an interesting one. I wonder if your passion lies in discovery rather than programming itself? Meaning once you have discover enough you are ready to discover the next thing? I'd that's the case then you might need to shift that association so you can find ways to discover new things within what you already know.
I am an INFP and have also struggled with fitting in. When I first took the test, I wanted to take it a second time, and then a third. I tried to answer questions I thought I could answer differently on the Briggs-Meyers test to see if maybe I could be something other than an INFP, but every single time, I came back with the exact same result....INFP. I truly love the way you describe the differences and their value. As you spoke, I thought of how intuitive vs. sensing ways of perceiving the world might have served an important function in early human development/evolution. Early humanity's ability to adapt to a wide range of environments and endure immense environmental change was crucial to our survival as a species. I imagine that intuitive individuals who saw patterns in nature, used their imagination to see unknown possibilities over the horizon. I learned once how the First Peoples of the "New World" used terraforming to channel the flow of migrating herds to their communities; how indigenous farmers turned weeds and poisonous plants into genetically complex food sources, such as corn and tomatoes. It must have taken an intuitive imagination to envision the change that developed over generations. I wonder if 75/25 has always been the ratio, or if, perhaps, there were MORE intuitive minded people in the past. Maybe some human communities of the past or present actually value intuitiveness over sensing. But when I think of modern science, it is a conflict between the two types. Intuition is proofed in the fires of sensing skepticism; theoretical inquiry and the scientific method. I really love how you ended by appreciating the value of intuitiveness and sensing types. Thank you for sharing your thoughts so eloquently and creating a forum for others to express their own metacognitive journey.
This is so insightful, thank you for sharing. Those are really good questions. I do wonder if the ratios were always that way and part of me thinks that may be the case, simply because you need more implementers than we do thinkers, pioneering intuitives. I do think however that the existence of social media creates this cultural norm that amplifies certain types than it does the rest. But I would also highlight that, we wouldn't have these platforms in the first place if it wasn't for the pioneers, outliers, outside the box intuitives. Together we balance out. But the way the cultural norm is, can lead some to believe one is more needed and more important than the other.
I'm confident I'm a FP type. I've been trying to figure out if I'm an S or N type, and my I and E are always close to the centre. These are some things about me, maybe you can help me figure it out? :) I can be very aware of my surroundings at times, but if I get lost in my head I get startled easily if someone is suddenly beside me. If I'm at work I can end up in the lunch room when I meant to go the printer room. Lol. People walking by or sudden sounds often distract me from my work or conversations. I can be playing a game while it's still light outside, and suddenly my house is pitch black because it got dark outside and I don't have any lights on and I didn't even notice that the lighting changed. I can get super focused in on my hobbies. I try to be in the moment when I'm with my friends, but while I'm at work my head is usually somewhere else, lol. I often need some sort of stimulation, whether it be music, TV, a video game, RU-vid videos. However, I don't like to have several things going on at once. Like, I can have a podcast playing while I play a video game that isn't challenging, but music distracts me while I'm reading. I struggle to have conversations with a passenger while I'm driving because I struggle to focus on what they're saying and on what the cars around me are doing. I LOVE having conversations that flow naturally from topic to topic, rather than sticking on one for too long. I know this is very Ne, but I don't know if S users do or don't do this. I love talking about things that aren't based in reality (unless is it a common interest like a TV show or a game I'm into.) Once people start to talk about politics, news, sports, business, cars, etc, I get very drained and struggle to contribute to the conversation. However, I don't like to dig too deeply into theoretical stuff... Like, conspiracy theory are ridiculous IMHO. I can humour them for a short period of time, but when people actually believe them I kind of rolls my eyes. My body can be quite awkward at times and I'm very clutzy. I trip over nothing and bang my elbows into everything. Yet, if there is music or something my body can naturally get into the flow with the beat. I have also surprised people with great balance on a balance beam. I am quite underestimated by others, but when I get out of my head and focus on what's in front of me, I am quite underestimated by others. I've never been great at sports, but I'm also not the worst. I just literally have zero interest in them, so the only reason I try in sports is because I can get competitive. I'm not a handyman by any means. I have no interest in tools or mechanics and stuff. However, if someone can show me how to do something I can usually replicate it. I just don't have the desire to master it. I have no interest in any sort of physical work or going to the gym. I can notice details that others seem to miss. Subtle changes in someone's appearance are noticeable to me. A coworker lost her earring once and I saw it from across the room because there a slight reflection of light on it. I forget about practical things like checking my oil, paying my bills, locking my door, etc. I also avoid house chores like the plague. That list was WAY longer than I planned for it to be. I'm a bit of a mixed bag though. So many things I've found can fit into either S or N. I also grew up with S type parents, so practical needs were drilled into me. But since I've been on my own a lot of those practical skills are forgotten to me now.
@@MsDoryLinda Hey Ms Dory! Well, that's a good question. To be honest, part of the truth is that I've been really interested in MBTI (and now Enneagram) for a while and it's really helped me understand others more and while I've talked to friends and family about it I have struggled to figure out if I'm S or N, and I don't like wavering. I don't want to be inauthentic and tell people something I'm not. The other part of the truth is that I have always felt like I was going against the world when it came to trying to figure out my place in it and why I don't function the same as others. Why some things don't come naturally to me and why some things that the world tells me I should value or make a priority just don't seem to mean anything to me. I've been at the same job for 12 years now and it's not the most fulfilling but I can't figure out what other choices I have. I don't want to use the MBTI to excuse unhealthy habits or to place an artificial label on myself, but rather to have more of a self understanding of my potential strengths. If I truly am an Intuitive, it would make more sense to me as to why working in a Sensing field (finance/accounting) is draining and why my Intuitive skills are not being utilized the way they could be. I guess your question is not a simple one to ask, or one I could put into a few words. Mostly, it's for more self discovery, I suppose.
I have so much trouble anchoring myself in the here and now as an intuitive. I've come along way in appreciating who I am and I love learning about Sensors because I feel like I can learn from them to create balance and ground myself.
Hey Valentine! I am an ENFJ myself and I am trying to understand and doing research on what intuitives can learn from sensors and I am really having a hard time with that. I think it is very obvious how intuitives can enrich the thinking of sensors but somehow not the other way around. Sensors are about tangible infromation, facts, seeing things for what they are, while intuitives see patterns using those facts, interpreting them. So for me it seems like what sensors are doing, seeing facts, is just a first step, that I am fully capable of doing myself, but facts alone dont do anything, the next step goes about interpreting them, seeing patterns, drawing valuable insights from them. And to me it seems that Sensors are capable of step 1 but not step 2, while intuitives can do both. So what is there to intuitives to learn from sensors? How intuitives can enrich their lifes while having relationship with sensors? Another thing is interesting that you mentioned is about feeling grounded, is that about being here and now and kinda being mindful of your surroundings? I guess intuitives are in their head a lot, and maybe it can be healthy for them to be more perceptive for their environment? I would love to hear your thoughts!:)
Thank you for being here, I'm glad you gained something from it. Wow, ambidextrous is pretty rare. Interesting that you can so also switch between intuitive and sensor abilities. Maybe there's a correlation somewhere🤷🏾♀️ Thank you for that insight 🙂
Beautiful message. My friend has always said I'm a flaming P but now I see I'm also a flaming N! Thanks for helping me be even more proud of that. I was not aware that we're only 25% of the population
Personality types are not boxes you're confined in forever. They're your baseline, a starting point. What you built on top of that is within your power and up to you.
@@MsDoryLinda I am told I NFJ are intuitive. And, INFP’s/ENFP are also intuitive. I am a divorce INFJ’s, thinking of my next partner. There is much said about the partnership between and INFJ, and INFP.
Handedness is just where the dominant part of your brain is. If you are right handed then the left side of your brain is dominant. I dont think it has a bearing on the personality trait.
She's using handedness as an analogy - in other words, she's saying that your dominant personality-type is LIKE your dominant hand: you prefer to use it, but you can develop skill with the other hand as well. (I know Ms. Dory is well able to explain herself - but she didn't seem to feel up to it this time!).
@nozecone you are very observant 😊 I felt @Angelica wasn't looking for clarification but was rather making a statement. When people do that I allow them space to remain with their own understanding/perspective. If they're inviting me to expand or clarify then I'm willing to spend the time to be of further benefit.
😅 so many people have said my voice is really soft and soothing so much that it makes them sleepy 😴 Maybe I should consider doing videos that helps people fall asleep 🤷🏿♀️ Might be an untapped talent right there 😁
