Is "HIT IT AND QUIT IT" Culture Ruining Relationships? - Out Loud With Claudia Jordan 

What has happened to my people, very out of order and degenerate behavior. People prioritize sex to much instead of self improvement, and self respect.

People are treating people like disposable products and these types of conversations shows it. Give it a few years and people will be very bitter, regretful and lonely.

I have 3 boys and I’m teaching them to respect their bodies. Every woman shouldn’t have access to their body.

Claudia is doing so well on this show... I really like it.

Did she just say this new generation is empowered because they listen to City Girls, Hot Girl Summer et al? I think that’s actually one of the reasons they are disempowered.

Claudia is such a great host. She asked all the right questions, but I don't feel like she had the best panel of ppl to discuss this topic with.

Stop with the every man line. Please get a more mature man on the show.

Women need to learn to use their discernment, guys are usually pretty clear in the beginning of how they see you. And 9/10 you cant change their mind. Men are also sex driven so if he’s telling you he’s not interested in a relationship dont give him relationship benefits. Ladies remember we are the gatekeepers of sex. Just gotta pick the right targets

May we do better raising our sons and daughters going forward. Such trash behavior.

the small guy who wears the red top is trying too hard to be cool. such a bad attitude

Red shirt guy...just stop. This guy is pretending to be cool.

This is absolutely tragic!!!! We've become so broken as a people that these individuals actually believe that whoring around is a culture. This is absolutely disgusting behavior and if we don't reverse this nonsense, we are going to pay a very heavy price for this. We come from such a rich culture and I'm so taken aback as to how we have arrived at this place. Our ancestors are truly rolling over in their graves!!!!!

I hate it when they have sort of simple-minded dudes to try to have these meaningful conversations. Also the generational gap will make these conversations less relevant to each other

Female Logic : We go to the club to "Meet our man " Male Logic : Now, Wheres that drunk insecure girl.....

Thank you to that light skinned woman to putting a stop to Claudia's narrative about women not going out looking for sex. Just stop. Y'all ain't fooling no one.

There are gonna be a lotta LONLEY women in their 40's....Cause women wanna question why men don't want to sponsor women who behave like men...🤔

Dude in the dark red is so lame, terrible representation of black men for this topic lol

these days you really have to watch people's actions if you want something real. People are doing whatever jus to be in your space and to have a piece of you. they are really doing the most jus to have sex with you. I'm honestly tired of this overly sexual society these days. Alotta people dont even know their number. I cant do the causal. some people will have their spouse and still have a sexual relationship for years with another person🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️..where are the people who still value sex and love

So basically you will go through life not developing self-control. It’s only self-serving. My question is how does that attitude help your community 🤔?

This is despicable behavior.

This discussion needs diversity from men and women with various perspectives, age range and backgrounds. Bring this topic up again with a diverse panel. Part 2, maybe?

WHO IS THIS GUY IN THE BURGUNDY SHIRT!!! HE SO LAME!!!😂🤣😅😝

Omg dude in the burgundy sweater on the right is so boring and lame. Trying to make himself more interesting by giving evasive answers like "maybe". Also he does not seem to be very bright.

This is destructive to a strong culture and community. Anyone engaged in this behavior should be shunned. It's not going to stop it of course, but maybe it will minimize the promotion and hopefully the behavior.

Test drives are short illusions. I hate that " test drive " metaphor. Car dealerships rarely let people try out cars for a significant period of time. Most learn nothing from a test drive.

the saddest thing is when women resort to mirroring men in some of their shocking behaviour you can't try to beat them at their game or try to get even to feel liberated we not wired like that we have a lower shame threshold

I had a conversation with a female friend and she asked me how come a guy will disappear for weeks or months and then call a woman again and thinks he can have sex. I asked her did she have sex with the fuy when he called her again? She said yes and tried to add a but to her response and I told her that's why, because she had sex with him. A guy knows what he wants from a woman whether it's sex, a relationship or marriage. A guy can tell a woman what he wants or a woman will know a guys track record and or history and still try to change that man to what "they" want him to be and then get upset when he does what he told them he would or what they knew he would do.

I don’t understand men who punish women for sleeping with them quickly. Why would I look down on you for doing something I want you to do. Doesn’t make any sense.

City girls is women's empowerment huh....🤔🤔🤔🤔

The messed up thing about this topic is the women accept anything the man comes to her with. No standards at all.

That guy in the red shirt and low sorta bald haircut, is very childish and immature. Trying way too hard to come across as all of that, with swag...we can see straight thru you!!!!

People act like it's so hard to believe men and women are different lol

Claudia. This job is for you girl!!!!! Keep up the good work!

Ladies, please keep your legs closed. End of story.

That guy sound a narrastic person no joke

He can’t lose respect because he doesn’t have any

Social media and the conformity that comes with it has ruined relationships. It will only get worse.

Guy in the red long sleeved sounded like such a faker. Fighting for the men so he can be accepted but not necessarily believing and sharing those values. He probably doesn't even have a lot of experience.

Oneday these dudes are going to have daughters and let's just see how cocky their attitudes are when their daughters are being taken down. Lol

He’s a damn lie 🤦🏽‍♀️ he’s not even attractive and he has no game

My goodness straight insanity. Modernity is an experiment, traditional roles will always win.

"Hit and quit it" happens to women who have nothing else to offer other than sex. The same way men get friendzoned because they have nothing else to offer other than being nice

YALL CAN KEEP TODAY'S DATING...AIN'T INTERESTED! #DifferentMorals

Something I've never heard anyone admit publicly. A lot of times during the pursuit of a woman, you learn reasons that this woman doesn't qualify as relationship material. There could be many reasons, from personality to having nothing in common. And many men feel like, "shit I'm still attracted to her, so I still want it" but he's already disqualified the woman as relationship material. So after you bust that ... there's nothing to keep our interest, that's just the way it works with men (this is also how some men end up with women they have no business being with because they got sprung on the pssy but knew she wasn't right). I mean to be real, sometimes it could even be bad hygiene discoveries during sex that turn us off... Then there are men who just want sex. But there are men who had well intentions at first. Real talk, I made myself wait a month before having sex with my current woman, she wanted to do it, but I didn't want to lose interest, I wanted to know there was something else to keep my interest, I knew the sex was gonna be good so I was good on waiting, but I discovered she was a great woman during dating, we've been together for years and we're now engaged.

Claudia is a Dime Piece 🔥❤️🔥

Interesting topic, but the panel was a little weak.

I know I'm not the only one when i hear a great topic....and WISH i was on the panel due to one person making no sense and emotionally answering the questions (the chick with the ponytail) and the PAINFULLY OBVIOUS "im trying to be cool but ima cornball" so ima generically answer the question type person (guy thats slouched n the chair)

I can guarantee you that the guy in the burgundy sweater isn’t getting that much hits. He’s probably in a fantasy world. Just the vide I got from him speaking in the topic. A wannabe with no swags

Where are they finding people for this show, like an open call? The most random people. Love Claudia though!

Claudia is killing it as a host. Love her show. Much love 💯💯💯

It never changes women will never fess up to the real truth about themselves.The men always more truthful then they were.Claudia looked like she wanted bro.Williams for herself.The other little girl just up their performing;she has no idea whats going on cause everything is about her;she still young no life lessons.The sister in the blue we new she was fibbing.

It’s called being self accountable and self aware. Just be transparent and stop playing kind games. Like dude said women hurt men’s feelings everyday. The difference is men not complaining the way women are complaining when they get their feelings hurt. Men are suppose to take it on the chin and walk away if he invest his time, body and resources while a woman is supposed to be cherished if she invest the same🤷🏽‍♂️

Women can have standards but men cant. That's what I got from this conversation. Women absolutely hate to have to earn a mans love and affection. Mostly because they dont have the skillset.

Man, men and women nowadays don’t turn nuthin down but a collar....

The language is different. See how the men on the panel refer to women as females(referencing their sexual organs) but the women on the panel refer to the men as men(referencing someone they can build a foundation of offspring with). THAT IS THE DISCONNECT. We see each other from two different perspectives. Holla at me if you need me to come on this panel and drop some game. layupsmusic@gmail.com

Oh lord Isaiah is fine 😩

The burgundy is hilarious. I can see why people don’t like him in the comments 😭

You can clearly see why there's this double standard about body count. When a guy says he's only been with 4 women it's like women get turned off and doesn't really want that guy. But when a woman says she's only been with 4 men guys will feel like they found a secret pot of gold. The fact is that women want the man that other women want. And the fact that he's slept with a lot of women means a lot of women want him. While men don't really care if every guy doesn't want the girl we like as long as WE like her. So in a way it's women's fault that men feel they need to sleep with a lot of women. We know it makes us more attractive.

Maroon sweater on the end is a problem🚮

Great awareness. I appreciate how you brought light to this subject. Thanks Claudia

I'm just to damn country I guess I'm 46 yrs old and only been in 2 relationships and I'm considered by most women as a high value man and very Handsome.

I only want several men for experience. I'm 3 years single from a 16 year relationship. I need to find out what i like and what i want. If i want a relationship or not. I do not think meeting someone for the first time and then going home with them is a good idea. I think we should date and get to know a guy, if we are indeed going to be sexual. I mean STD's are still a thing. Right. Smh, just take ya time and get to know him, i feel.

"The value of it has gone down"

Women are not cars. We are not inanimate object. I hate that analogy. It’s a reductionist way of viewing women and the world

The beautiful sister with the shorthair is the realist woman on that stage I wouldn’t be surprised if she isn’t in a happy marriage because she is target material the type of woman men want good looking real and logical

The young man was not completely off base. A woman's body is meant for one man. Situations occur where the woman will have more than one sexual partner in her lifetime, but this should not be the socially accepted standard norm

Women are giving it away more than Men these days so We Men really don't have to work hard for it

This guy is cold blooded. He's just spouting away darnnnnn. He's not trying to be PC about it

You people need to seek and find God!

Ol dude trying to hard to appear suave.

I feel like men and women are relating different, and men are settling down, but really at an older age (past 40) whereas women have a biological clock that makes it feel that settling down after 40 is late in their life cycle. When women don't want children it changes the realities of their life cycle and they can settle down at an older age.

Another good show. I enjoy hearing from the fellas point of view as well as the from the ladies. If we really want to improve our relationships, we need to listen to one another and learn to respect and understand each other. So we men need to listen to our queens and understand how our actions affect them. And the ladies need to listen to the men and understand that we are wired differently. Good communication can prevent a lot of the pain and anger that we both experience.

I feel like its more women up in the comments so if you searching for answers, this is for you from a mature guy. Focus on your female energy and being a female and only date guys who know what they want. "City girl, hot girl" is code for a woman who moves like a man. Boys are raised to act like women now and they move with so much feminine energy that its forcing women to act like men which is throwing the whole balance off. The roles have reversed. I know u have been hurt so many times and u put the walls up to protect your heart but those same walls are keeping you boxed in from love. Instead of getting a bag and casual dating, Work on your standard of what a real man is to you and hold every guy u meet up to it. Nobody is perfect but if he isnt open to growth and self improvement and cant hear you, he might not be ready for a relationship as he cant take his place as the king to your queen. Love is still possible if youre smart about it. Good luck ladies.

Men deep down love the thrill of the hunt. You take that away from us, it then is easier for us not to be interested.

Keep up the excellent work Claudia

Claudia is doing a great job

4:55 its not a double standard because men and women are different. they can not be held to the same standard.

We need more Talks like this. If a guy have a lot of bodies I will side eye him as well and those are the same guys who have the audacity to say a woman can't have too many bodies. I like seeing different types of men meaning with different mindsets because it allows me to be realistic that there are guys like the one in the burgundy sweater that we all as women dealt with before at least once in our lives. Having him on the show is perfect because now I know what runs through the mind of a guy like that. All my questions to my past experiences have been answered.

How can “hit it and quit it” be the reason these females go after Tyrone and ray rays. Lol. Leave the excuses at the door

Woman gotta start taking accountable for their actions. Stop with this double standard stuff make no sense. We don't accept promiscuous women that will never change

All I heard was how emotionally immature the young lady and male was. 🤦 both are competing against each other but they're in two different races. That's how foolish they sound.

I know a guy who was like the guy in dark red. What made him change was when he gained weight, got older and realized the number of women coming for him decreased.

The mature lady guest seems like she hasn't learned very much in her years. Her commentary is that of a much younger person.

Women unite. Practice abstinence, until the right one comes along and proves himself. These men have no respect for women.

Women : Gate Keepers of Sex. Men : Gate Keepers of Relationships , Resources , Protection, Logic , Team-Work , Physical Strength , Navigation

The problem is that this conversation is just not true. Studies have shown that millennials are having less sexual partners and frequency than previous generations. The "hookup culture" doesn't exist as prevalent as thought. These people on stage are not representative of the vast majority of millennials and younger.

This is sad AF

I’ll say the same thing I told a friend of mine. It’s on you to make sure the requirement is met before you engage in that action. Don’t use that action as an investment. Men and women do this all the time.

A woman shouldn't wait 90 days to have sex. A woman should only have sex when she is ready. A real man wouldn't judge a woman based on when she decides to take it to the next level. A woman's worth isn't between her legs it's about what she provides and brings to the table.

Good job Claudia at asking the questions!

What you bring to the table you may feast on as well

There's a double standard, I am willing to be a male prostitute but no women want to pay.

The girl with the slick braid doesn't understand anything about men. And her animosity is childish. The guy was saying that city girl is different than hot girl. Guess who defines it?! Guys. Same thing, a girl will define who is the cool guy and the hot guy, ecc. But she is too busy picking at the guy on her left, and can't even look at the guy on her right, because she already define who the Alfa is

Claudia is an AMAZING host

CLAUDIA, I THINK YOU AND THE GUY IN TNE RED SHIRT, SHOULD GO OUT!!!😉😉😉

Men and women will never really understand each other. But to accept that is to understand it.

ladies, yall are the problem. If you're giving it up that quick it's your fault. Like the lady with the short hair said, you played yourself. If you feel like you have to give it up that quick to keep the guy around then that's not the guy for you!

Who's paying full price for a used car? Given divorce and cheating rates, how can anyone biochemically 'pair-bond' with their spouse after years of casual sex? Now that serial monogamy and hookup/ho culture are the norm, many would rather remain single.

Who spends months chasing a woman

This segment should've been way longer and covered from many more different angles!