Is Islamic Marriage Unfair to Women? | Dr. Shabir Ally 

In the Arab world too! Please!

Well said!

@@laylaa5445 true.

@@laylaa5445 it's not Bible it's Gospal

الحمد لله. I believe the same even though I am Christian

He's just so reasonable , I think community lacks people who think like him , check out sheikh omar he's a very well spoken man too

His name is omar suleiman

these are not "voices", he is just saying how God intended it to be...

Marriage is so overrated I know people who've been together 30 years and they get along better than any Muslim marriage or Christian or Jewish marriage if you're not with your soulmate you're not with the right person besides not everybody is meant to be married the true blessing is not fighting a husband or wife the true blessing is finding your soulmate soulmates are gifts from God and not even Muslim people always find their soulmates soulmates Are for certain people not necessarily Muslims you need more than religion to know what and who is your soulmate thank you

Thats not an Islamic problem thats a culture problem. Same thing happens with gypsies and Indians and Christians used to do it.

@@zain6008 there are Muslims that use some hadiths to justify it, which is the problem. That is why I insist that hadiths shouldn't be treated at the same level as revelation of the Quran rather as useful supplementary sources that aren't 100% reliable but to be evaluated in a modern context through fiqh under scholars.

@@HeyIntegrity yessssss

Samy El Sayed you should use scholars as guidance but always use your rationality because on judgment day you will be the one to answer no scholar or whoever will come to your rescue

Abdu Safari but rationality is amoral

@@mxtii_green you abide by the God's law? Or by racionality?

i honestly beleive in what the dr said but i have the exact same Q as you i hope he gives us an answer cus this Q left me holding to what other scholers have said cuz i found no answer anywhere for this i realllly hope he adresses it i loved the way he speaks very analatic i don't feel manipulated by my faith at all

The thing that you have to understand is this: if someone steals from you, it is not YOUR right to cut that persons hand. It is only YOUR right to contact your local authorities, and your local authorities and your local government would determine what kind of punishment the thief should receive. The Quran is a judicial attempt to prevent individuals from seeking vengence and their own form of punishment for a wrong that was done to them- this Quran is a call to establish a governing system that will attempt to create a better life for the collective. In other words- a lot of what is written in the Quran are rules and laws for governments to implement within their society. Not for individuals to implement. That is why we have things like courts of law and judicial systems and trials- all of those things are Quranic. Now we can put a thief in prison or charge them a fine or both... so there are other means to punish an individual without cutting their hand. If a government throws a thief in jail and charge them a fine, then technically you did cut of their hand ✋

Name me a few.

Astaghfirullah you cannot men’s the word of Allah what kind of question is this

The process you are talking about is fiqh. It has existed and some early scholars weren't afraid of it, but some scholars are too afraid to critically think about it in modern context. They shouldn't because fiqh is falliable and can change based on context and culture.

@@HeyIntegrityI appreciate sharing that knowledge I hope Muslim world would muster enough courage and come together take precedence of yester years scholars and leaders who had showed way to fit teachings to their times and culture that's only way any religion or belief can sustain or it will decline like jainism,zoroastrian..

Well im not dr.Ali but i practice islam so im gonna answer it. You can divorce your husband while you are pregnant but you cant remarry until you gave birth, also you don't have to give up all your dowry it depends on your husbands actions if he is abusing you or do horrible things to you, you don't have to gave up all of your dowry. Also your husband OBLIGATED to look after you and your child while you are in breastfeeding period and obiously he must pay the child support until child became stable.

Plus if you are afraid that maybe you cant afford the expenses all by yourself don't worry he have to pay all your needs until the end of breastfeeding periot where there divorce or not. ( When your finish bereastfeeding he only have to pay child support) Lastly, you have full custody of your child, but if you decide to marry a man who does not want your child, you will lose custody.

You don't have to give up any of your dowry. That is for cases where there is no valid reason for divorce but just a woman's wish. In Sahih hadith, a woman said she just didn't want to live with a person for no fault of his own and anyone has the right to end a marriage they don't want to be in even without any reason which is better than being unhappy or eg seeking ulawful relations within that marriage. The Quran says about this do NOT take back what you have given them except when you fear you cannot keep within the limits of Allah

obvious fake hadith

@Ganga Din show me the verse

Still waiting for the verse... if anyone knows it 💁‍♀️

@@samiraj.192 there is no verse haha

@Ganga Din where's the verse, yo

Female . Yes they are different.

I liked your comment that's why I am commenting. I have great respect for the sheikh but i am afraid he is giving biased conclusions. Let's look at the whole picture and consider the wisdom and purpose to most of the rulings. Let us not be naive and apologetic to the west and so called modernisation.

yes but by the time women want to deivorce she might have spent her dowry sence that's the only money she has to buy things she like ( a husband is only required to give her food cothing and a home) so she might use it to buy a car or jewlary or idk decorations for her home other wise she would live VERY MODESTLY so where does she get the money ? let's assume someone is willing to lendher that money for her dowry she isn't allowed to leave the hose without the husbend allowing it so he asks her why and she sais why to him you think he would be willing to let her go ? do you have any idea how much men think that a women leaving them is insulting their msculanity ?? even to go to the djuge she will need him to let her ?? how is that fair ofcourse this is asuming a woman doesn't work if she woks this wouldn't be a problem but yet her husbend has the wright to allow or not allow her to work

@@imenehadim3097 A hut is also home, but that is not sufficient husband is obliged to build a house that is normal in your culture with all decoration which is customary, and he have to provide jewellery that is customary which includes in clothing and if women in your locality have their cars and if it is considered normal in your culture that is your right from husband as well, if not you are spending your money on luxury Secondly both car and jewellery can be resaled, so you still have money Thirdly you don't need the permission of husband to go to a judge or to do your necessary things Finally you can stipulate a condition to work in your marriage contract, then your husband wouldn't have the right to prevent you from work

@@muhammedshanushan3931 yes i can but a condition in my marrige to work but what i'm saying is that sense most me don't like working women most parents don't encourege their daughters to work or even study i am lucky to have parents who encourage me to be financelly independant but most girls are realllllly not that'sm one secod okey let's imagine you are right and she did all that and hey she devorced him she has no money ? where will she live at her parents ? they will tell her that she has no place with them any longer most pl a poor or not rich enough to have her and her children living with them it's sad but yes most parents tell their daughters not to devorce cuz they can't take care of her and her children and fgive them a roof and those who do always live in anusif homes remiding her and her children of how much they have done for her you just gotte admit i's so unfair to women maybe in acient times it was better for them but today it's sooooo sad also let's see she used the dowry on something she can't sell ? like something that she used she what will she do to be claer ( i don;t aproove of this and won't do it ) but it's a tradition for women to spend their dowry on their wedding day so yeah it's all spent also the way you put it as if it's her fault to try and have a bit of luxury in life what? why does she always need to keep that money in the bank as if she isn't even realy giving he mariage a chance

@@imenehadim3097 Bit of luxury? I have already said that she can live a life normal according to custom just like every other women live in your locality, that is not considered as extravagant And yes there are wrong traditions that make things terrible In an ideal society women could marry second time but i agree today it is difficult because of divorce and widow stigma, therefore being financially independent is important

uh no. at this point ur trying to change and start innovation. also most scholars agree that today, muslim men shouldn’t marry christian jewish women, especially after the altercations and the different culture that’s changed around those religions. in Christianity women used to wear the hijab, for example. The Quran says both men and women should marry believers, but that verse ab marrying Jews and Christians to men came after the diaspora of them after war and women looking for protection, all scholars say it’s much better to marry a pe acting muslim, especially since most Jews and Christians don’t practice their religion correctly, and the prophet said it’s haram and unlawful for a man to marry a women who believes Jesus is God

@@momay2670 You’re making things up as you go. You follow scholars’ opinions or the commands in the Quran? At some point, you have to become more consistent. What’s the verse that says that about Christians that believe Jesus is God? It’s interesting to see how people maneuver their way into serving men while convincing themselves they’re serving God. So now things in the Quran don’t mean what they meant before? Why would the reduction in number of Christians and Jews not truly practicing their faith change the statement in the Quran? Many Muslims aren’t practicing Muslims either. The reality is that there are many inconsistencies in the practice of the religion. It’s hard to figure out who you actually serve-God or men? It’s also peculiar that you’d complain about Christians believing Jesus is God while being totally ok that your salvation depends on a mere man who has sinned and is dead more than a thousand years ago. Religious dogmas truly require that people put aside their ability to think rationally in order to accept them. I personally do not believe Jesus to be the God. But that’s irrelevant to the matter at hand. The Quranic verse is clear. If anyone can be accused of inventions it’s the scholars and those that follow them over the very book they’re claiming to be directly from God- what a contradiction!

@@delpthepath127 I honestly have no idea if you hate Islam or want to change and modernize it, I’m a women myself, but men and women do have different responsibilities islamically, the men has to provide and protect the women, the women has to be cared as a mother, and the Quran didn’t all just pop up at once, many verses were revealed due to certain stories happening at the time of the Prophet. Also we only worship God and God alone, Prophet Muhammad is our messenger

@@momay2670 So you think the meaning of the verse actually changed because of some speculated circumstances? Gender roles are social constructs and have evolved over time. I do understand what you mean, but that’s also true in Christianity and Judaism. But I don’t understand how men being providers and women being caregivers change the meaning of the verse. It’s also very strange that the moment someone starts to question religions, it makes the dogmatic people uncomfortable to the point where they resort to wild accusations. I reserve the right to question everything until it makes sense. You don’t want me to question things?

@@delpthepath127 no I’m just confused whether ur muslim or not lol. There’s many verses in the Quran that say muslim men and women should marry other Muslim men and women, I’m no scholar, also the meaning of verses don’t change, however society does

What do you mean?

Angela Merekel leads Germany, Switzerland is ruled by a woman! ..... The list of successful countries lead by women is very long.

@@noor1991hb yes sis And since women population is growing as compared to men Its likely we will see more such women

@@mazdekkhan8957 any proof of that?

Good question.

I'm sorry but will you explain why she should give back the Mahr for her to be able to divorce? if no explanation will you please research what mahr is?

Yes I want to know why she should give back the mahr is it in quran or hadith,it doesn’t make sense

@@nurarich4945 in the hadith.. I didnt find it in holy quran as long as I know.. In make in simple way.. She buy herself to be free by giving back the mahr ( khula )

Abdul haiy muhammad but I had been read news that the court/ judge make it difficult when women ask khula. . In my country also difficult when its come to wife to ask divorce ( even the husband never give her money to eat etc. Even husband neglecting her in many ways).. I'm serious here.. Its difficult ( or they make it not easy or maybe not care) ..they force her to reconciliation even her husband treating her bad... As moslems we should tell the truth.. Is it islam ways? If its not. But why as long as I heard directly from a suffering wife and I know from reading news sound similiar treatment? Allah know the best

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Nope he is right in islam concept this concept exist

SubhanAllah. He understands Islam correctly which is all that is required. To understand it the way Allah and His Messengers since Adam AS meant His Religion to be understood.

So give a non-economically profitable dowry (e.g. teach her the religion) and don't manipulate her human rights off of her.

That makes sense.

Nikki Kiki if they don’t education it’s their problem

Me Me If women is ready to give up her dowry Divorce is simple for her (even though she have to go to court or qadhi she doesn’t need to prove anything) She will get divorce unconditionally

Me Me giving non economic dowry is an advantage for man ,not for women

@Cyrus The great A 9 year old young lady.🤦🏿‍♂️

then why did we remove slavery ? or do you beleive that we should still be abel to have slaves through jihad ?

@Habib Urrehman, yes, I think he is trying to be lenient to the modern western viewpoint that has shaped his understanding. Dr. Shabir is a great scholar but seems not to be cognisant of the innate biological differences between females and males that inherently influence their very different responses to social situations. Allah swa knows best.

I am not sure you have any clue what you are writing about.

@@mystyjakanyango4079 Blind and arrogant I see.

@@TheGSMartin not really, my sister/ brother. Let's learn from each other.

@@mystyjakanyango4079 Well let me ask you something then. Do you believe a man or woman can be sinfree in this life while he serves God?

@@TheGSMartin no. Including Jesus, pbuh.

wildcat16543 *Why are you ashamed?*

wildcat16543 what about you....your must be a real true most wisest wise bitchy scholar right?

No thanks. We'll keep Dr. Ally. He is pretty good.

A scholars is ashamed You know now in Islam Everyone is a scholars including yourself Nothing special Cox all of them are human and all of them are portraying what the understand by what the quran and hadiths mean Only the Arabs understand words of all sort Cox the know the meaning One thing is during interpretation and understanding alot of words could be different Cox the can't be exactly some time is hard to find a word to replace some of the arabic words I think the Arab should be in place to do that🤫