Dude, I’m super glad to finally see some new stuff. I’ve been wondering what happened since it’s been a while. Great video. However, we should be preaching and teaching more about courting, which is more biblical, than dating. Dating is practice for divorce. It’s to easy to swipe left or right and to leave when simple things annoy us or when things get tough.
Dating apps exploit users by trying to keep you on the line as long as possible. If it had my best in mind it would just show me all the people closest to me that fit my criteria upfront, but instead it drip-feeds me about 5 people a day usually at the limits of my location range.
I definitely think both are true! Women have so many choices physically that we can miss the incredible men in front of us but also are faced with if we have higher standards like you mentioned in the video (not physically), that there is a shortage of actual men who are those things regardless of physical appearance.
I don't do online dating and I no longer try to date anyone at church bc woman are looking for a unicorn, her community group will bring up red flags and convince her not to date you. The manipulation that happens during this process is crazy. Everyone is looking for easy and doesn't want to struggle together. There will always be baggage. No one is ever ready(.)
I've dated online but not necessarily on a dating app. It's a long story but I think both of what you said in the video is true. Women have a really high standard on physical appearance and men aren't taking the initiative. Men and women have a unique role that God created for them and I think we really should strive to follow those roles. My bf often says that women have a lot of choices and so they get to be choosy but men have to take what they can get and that men should work on themselves. You see it in Proverbs 31 of how a woman should be and the contrast of how a woman shouldn't be. You see it in Ephesians 5:21-33 of how a husband and wife should be. A lot of the men in my Bible study group always talks about how women should submit but the women in my group won't tell the men to be loving. It's a huge responsibility for the men being the head of the household and to be loving. I think both are created equal and should see that the lead and the support go together.
As a woman, it seems difficult to find a man that meets my standards in the church. I find that many are not driven to provide for a family and that’s a dealbreaker for me. I think society as a whole has made masculinity seem like a bad thing and it has lowered the expectations of men.
*”I want a man with money.”* Well that’s a surprise 🙄 Women today have no interest in helping a man become something great. They just wanna step into a completely whole and successful guy and reap all the benefits of the hard work he did (and statistically divorce him a few years later and take half his stuff along with decades of alimony payments).
What about a Muslim? I’m not being funny but us practicing Christians and Muslims share the same values and have more in common than we do different and intermarriage is allowed between Jews, Christians, and Muslims because we have a belief in God where an atheist or something else would be a no because we don’t have that same foundation.
You want a man to prove for you but the real question is what do you bring to the table to make it worth while for the man to actually proved for you?. Seems like all women want nowadays is a man to work for them and be their emotional support buddy and put up with all their other BS.. It just ain't worth it to most us guy's.
I think sociologically it changes so much in different cities/countries. You have a super wide following so you'll probably get a lot of diverse thoughts. I was born and raised in Turkey in a Christian family. There's only a couple thousand Christians in Turkey, when you break that down by age it really drops people's chances on finding a good match. My experience is that spiritual maturity and character were the biggest filters at that point. However now living in the UK, it's so much more diverse where physical appearance, denomination and age being what most people filter by.
I don't think online dating is really as much of a problem like this video suggests. In the consolidation of a market there becomes less opportunities for new businesses to start, but with dating people still can meet in person at school, job, etc that will never change. For those who have those unrealistic standards, what some would say as being shallow, that leads to their dating pool being so small. They will have this issue online or in person. However, for those who see past that and are looking for more open individuals, some online dating platforms allow them to filter for and find those people which they might not have the opportunity in person due to various reasons. I just got married about a week ago and I met my wife online and I don't think we would have been able to find each other if it wasn't for online dating.
I’m just here to say I think all of this is true, I’m not on apps, and that I am very concerned about how this phenomena is leading to severe hate, resentment and bitterness in particular from the male side. Some comments on some channels make me feel like men hate me just for being a woman.
As a woman on dating apps, the picking still isn’t great on dating apps. Men think all women get 5 matches per week, but that has not been the case for me at all
I've never tried online dating but I think that what you said is correct. I'm wondering if all those dating apps induce the same problem ? Like what about christian dating app, are they the same than non-christian like tinder etc... ?
There can be double standards in the dating world. I was never a fan of online dating websites/apps. I don't like an algorithm to match me with people. Humans are social creatures and i never liked this invisible barrier. I would rather meet someone in person whether thats at work, at an event or other social setting. People hold the internet and television to a higher standard than real life. It's almost like an idol to a certain extent. Theres also the issue of people who use outdated photos which isnt fair. No physical attraction shouldnt be the only factor either. Its like social media. You have your online life and then there's your real life. Its like a resume. You can get the entire resume via online dating rather than in person. Idk...i think you're better off meeting someone initially in real life than via dating apps/internet.
What is different about that small sliver of men all the women are chasing after? They are most often very attractive physically. It’s all about whatever genetic roll of the dice you get. If you’re lucky enough to be an attractive male, you’ll have a good time in the online dating world. If not, it’s going to be tough. Might sound harsh, but I really don’t know how else to put it. Also - note that any “relationship guru” people online are always physically attractive individuals. That’s what gets you the dates.
I think the burden is on both and it "takes a village" to help a woman find a man and vice versa. That is why I encourage young kids to date, make friends and even fall in love and marry young. It's why less complicated! #dating #OnlineDating
Your video has a few blind spots. The data doesn’t should fair or true. I am 45 single never married, no kids professional woman living in Atlanta I have spent close to 20 years dating online. Dating online used to be a added tool in the large dating pool. It’s now morphed into a waste land. Married men looking for poloy partners, men who aren’t ready to date(definitely not ready to get married) dating in today’s times sucks on both sides. Expectations are unrealistic..and hookup culture is ridiculous! However I do have several family members and friends who have met a guy online and they got married. It works for some. I think the culture hasn’t gotten away from relationships. They just want occasional companionship and sex.
I think online dating is a mess and very dangerous. It allows both women and men to be able and hide their flaws , anger, red flags way easier. It’s so easy to text and delete then text again for something to sound good VS talking in real life.
Why Venezuela and not America? The top 1% of Americans make 84 times what the rest make. And the idea that those men are via for four women is silly. The fact is men have to expand and adjust their expectations where as in the past they did not. So now men can not all get the slimmest most beautiful woman in the room because her choices were limited to whom was in her immediate location does not imply men are hurt by online dating. It means men have to step up their game due to increased competition for a mate. Women have lived in a world in which their looks were of the upmost importance and now that men are forced to live with the same expectations it is a unpleasant thing? The fact men must now diet, work out and look their best when seeking a mate is a bad thing? It is expected of women not only to look attractive but to be interesting and interested. Now that expectation is place on men to be attractive, interesting and interested is wrong? As women become more financially independent and do not need a husband to cover her expenses, she seeks a man who brings to the table what she brings and because that requires work on the part of men this is a bad concept that should stop? Study after study show that Black women and Asian men suffer most by online dating. They are least likely to be picked and least like to get a response to the emails, yet you are here bemoaning the fact men who bring very little to the table are rejected? Interesting. As usual, rather than request men grow up and accept the changes. In fact meet the changes head on you suggest it is the changes fault? As a woman who has online dated for a long time, I can tell you men make very little effort to be attractive in their profiles. They put up pictures in which they look as if they rolled out of bed and snapped a picture. They include dead animals in their pictures and speak disparagingly about women in general in their profiles. They make no effort to share the interests of the women they are attempting to pursue, only contacting people whom they find physically attractive. Grow up. You are no longer in high school these are adult women with many options. Your job is to be the best option. If you were seeking a job, you would make an effort to ensure you were the best candidate for the position. Why would online dating be any different?
I don't think online dating is good because it sets up false expectations. Even unknowningly both men and women have preconceived notions based on the profile they read and they when they meet more times than not the reality is different from what they envisioned. I think meeting organically is better as you start out without any notions of the other person and you have to discover that naturally as you go along. That's just my thinking. Just a thought but also the very act of "swiping" in a dating app on a profile picture of a person sets you up for almost seeing the person as a "object" instead of a real human being. There's something sinister about it. I understand some Christians meet together but I believe Satan is definitely using this tool to undermine God's Kingdom.
