Therapy was such a game changer in my life. Always thought i didn’t need it until i made a huge mistake and ruined a relationship because i was too selfish and stubborn to deal with my childhood trauma and my ego. 2 years in and i still look forward to my sessions. Especially now that im down to once every 6 weeks. You get to tell someone your crap without judgement and with no expectations or fears of hurting someone else’s feeling. You get feedback from someone who isn’t emotionally invested in you and isn’t going to just tell you what you want to hear. And i got lucky and found someone on my second try that just fit well. I used thriveworks to find a therapist.
Heavy d said it an hit home massively with the whole talk around not opening up an that is extremely the exact same way I have felt about beeing a man an not peaking ip an asking for help an that as a man!!!! It is okay not to be okay men!!!!!!! Then the muscle hit it even more, these podcast have fallen in my life a perfect time... Thank you been waiting for these new ones to come out for so long
I listen to plenty of podcasts like this one. Not a single one can convince me that hard work pays off and being a good person will bring happiness. I like the message you are trying to send. Just does not work in the real world as most people will take advantage of you when your down. Its really cool you guys have people around who care.
Thank you for talking about the stigma of men seeing a therapist. I have been struggling with the thought of not seeing a “CHEESEDICK” best way I have heard it explained. I am open to getting help and you guys have solidified the fact I will go talk to someone! I very much look up to you and to hear your outlook on it made me feel I need to find the right person to talk too. Thank you!
Thanks for pointing out that anyone can manifest what they want. You just need to have the understanding that YOU are responsible for YOU! No one else can defeat you. It’s all about self awareness and the understanding that you are in control - don’t give up power to anyone!
I've listened to every episode of The Checklist. It has helped me a better person husband and father. Thank you. I look forward to more episodes. Thanks Heavy D and crew! I've been following Marcus and Heidi's recovery. It's nothing short of amazing.
The thought of wanting to be a millionaire but not wanting to sacrifice the current life is interesting. To me it’s not about the fact, it’s about actively changing your mental in order to accomplish both. I think someone, including myself, who is currently limiting themselves due to current life is missing the fact that they don’t know the future
ASK YOURSELF , WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO GIVE UP TO HAVE WHAT YOU WANT. YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP SOMETHING TO HAVE SOMETHING ELSE..THINK ABOUT IT. MOST PEOPLE WANT WANT BUT ARE NOT WILLING TO GIVE UP SOMETHING
New studio and audio is a nice upgrade from past episodes. Suggestion. Move mic mount off the table, when you guys hit the table it comes through audio and is disruptive. Just a thought
First timer on the this podcast. What a great show. 🙏 for Markus to step outside his comfort zone and go talk to Keatons mom! Hopefully you guys will make week two, three etc. Time will tell! Great podcast guys! 🇺🇸
Dave, I’ve watched your RU-vid channel for awhile and didn’t think I could admire you more than I already did but this podcast elevates my admiration to a new level! You are an amazing man and the three of you are doing big things with these kinds of conversations! I look forward to being your #1 fan!
Wow, what a powerful episode! The most important part of therapy, for me, was to get close enough to a therapist to be completely, to the point of it being painfully HONEST when discussing what has happened in your past or your current troubles. The hardest part is finding a therapist that you can be that open, it sometimes takes going through a number of different people, 5 for me. I am grateful to have one guy that I still call my "lighthouse" because of the guidance that has helped me to this day, miles and years away from where he is, and in the same kind of way from where I was. Learning the things that you can take with you after therapy to sustain you when life comes up and kicks you in the fucking balls, is the most important thing. Marcus has to realize that he is only as strong as his greatest weakness! My admiration for you Dave, has reached a new level for exposing your followers with such a positive outlet and option. Kudos man, the testosterone driven, macho image that comes across in some of your RU-vid videos is a miniscule amount of your personality! The ridiculous title of "influencer" that some of these YT clowns latch onto and use as a label pales when you and some others who keep real life as a priority share these types of contents. If I ever lose sight that I can't keep improving all the time, then I need a slap!
I can honestly say I feel the way “most” men do. I’m against going to the doctor, taking meds, talking to a therapist, etc. when I was a kid I had to go through therapy but refused to talk and open up. I still certainly feel that I just need to hold it in and “deal” with it. I tell my kids and others to talk to people or someone because it’s healthy but refuse to do it myself. Ive always given good advice but horrible about following my own advice.
Marcus said, (1.08) hey let's just keep with what is going on now; (1:03) Damn dude, just throw me under the bus" I really felt deeply for Marcus; the chirstian army is the only army that buries it's wounded. I could finally see how we do this. Muscle and Dave - the fuel was really too rich going to your carburetor. Marcus I am praying for you and Heidi, rejoicing with your victories and encouraging with your trials and saying you both are special.
Seeing that video of Heidi is probably one of the coolest and most inspiring things I’ve seen in a very long time! Heidi I hope you see this keep up that bad ass success girl!
Marcus, I'm the same way. I have never had a good experience with a therapist working with my daughter in rehab, and my ex husband. I grew up with a total messed up childhood, and never had any support or help. I had to do myself on my own. It started with drinking at 8yrs old, getting clean at 28yrs old, and figuring out myself. But the process takes so long. I'm going through some shit right now, and I'm in a full blown rage that scares me. Called a work provided crisis line, and it just made me even more enraged. I'm a nurse, I don't have time to be in crisis, and feel like I got no outlet at all. My bestie is great, she gets me, I can call her and just go off, she's not afraid to tell me I'm full of shit, and I feel a little better, until I don't. I don't want to go back to the hell of my childhood either, and I know that's where the rage comes from, but hell I'm 51 yrs old, I should be over it by now. Thanks guys, I'm not a man, but a type A personality, it was refreshing to hear someone else's vulnerability, but I just don't get the concept of therapy I guess. Prayers to all, and your wife.
I’ll be graduating with my degree in psychology in August, wanting to be a bilingual psychologist. I’m sad that some people don’t see the value in simply talking to somebody and releasing your inner demons and how helpful it can be.
One of the best so far. I really like how markus made the point that yes he could make a million dollars but right now in his life that not what matters. His wife and family come first. And creating those memories. And just letting it happen if it does. He will keep doing what he needs to do to support his family so they can enjoy time together. Buy it not worth giving up his family time. Keep it up. And may god bless hiedi
Great listen. You guys rock. Set looks great. Definitely need to get pads under the mic stands to keep the table noise down. Hope you keep making these.
People in therapy always think everyone not in therapy should be. Here's the deal, some people need guidance, some people need clarity, and some people need someone to reassure them that they are "Okay." And some people don't. This podcast is great. And all of you guys are inspiring. But leave Marcus alone, he clearly knows what needs to be done.
No direction makes for great discussion, thanks guys for the enlightening entertainment. Items discussed definitely worth a second thought for some of us.
Your an amazing husband to be there for your wife like that and I was happy to donate to your family wish I could have done more but mad love and respect to you for being there for her😁🙏💪
Fantastic show Lads . However don’t forget going to a therapist works both ways people have to put all the walls down and be truthful to yourself and be honest.. only when you get to this point the therapy works ,, great show .💯👍🇺🇸⚡️🇦🇺💯
Markus at 1st was definately like most men and it is just how we are raised to internalize and move on and to talk about it ,is weakness and that is definately not true! Not downing him at all but I know personally the difference of talking to someone does for you. And can not wait to see what therapy will do for him positively if he goes for atleast 3 times and gives it a chance. It is not weakness but strength to do it and society needs to change its veiws and attitude on it!
Another big thing why I believe im so against getting any help. I’ve never had money or enough other than just getting by. Everything takes money and no matter how little I have always loved on, I never have extra money. Living paycheck to paycheck and been budgeting my entire life I just learned to just live with my issues. Can’t spend money on going to the doctor or taking meds or therapy or anything if I don’t have it. So I just tuck everything away and deal with it and just “be strong”. I know it’s wrong and unhealthy but it’s the way I’ve been. One day money issues won’t be an issue.
What about when something happened but you locked it out of your mind . I know it happened but don't remember any of the details about it . Still affects me now into my 40's from 4th grade or I'm still angry about it . Can a good therapist help bring that out ?
Heavy D you are definitely the guy who leaves first because at keatons vip party when you flew the Blackhawk in you left before I could come introduce myself and shake your hand… you are literally one of the last people on my bucket list of people to meet lol
Love the message love the idea behind the podcast. Great job to all three of you. I’ve got to poke a little fun though. Muscle I’m glad you are doing so well BUT sometimes you do come off a little like a Christian D. Bilzerian. I’m not saying that like a hater because clearly you are crushing it. I say that like a friend poking you in the ribs, and only because I know you will find the humor in it and laugh with me. I look forward to listening to you guys every week!!!
By accepting to get therapy, you are actually doing something HARD. thinking of a therapist as a “cheesedick” is exactly a real reason to want to talk to someone. As men, we’ve been told that we’re too macho or we’re “soyboys”. There’s a balance. Acceptance and open mindedness is key to a happy fulfilling life and the truth is that the majority of men see those two things as a weakness, when in reality, those are two things that are incredibly hard to do. Quit listening to people telling you what a man is. That comes naturally. Talking to a professional about your mental health is going to help you find your path as a man and make you a better person, both to yourself and others around you. You’ll find that the world is easier to swallow once you practice acceptance.
Didn't know about you guys doing a podcast. So it's themed into introspective selfimprovment of sorts? Ohh my.. 2 Episodes a week? Thats a lot, at least if you plan doing indepth research on subjects and guests. I could of course be wrong. Best of wishes from Sweden -Erik
A million dollars would buy a house and a boat with college funds for both kids and a truck with 300k to put into another house or 2 for renting out👊😁🙏🇺🇸😎
Here's something you can add to your checklist Dave - Try getting to know your neighbors at the airpark. We're not all mean, crazy or annoying. Cleetus was kind enough to let me take a picture with him. I'm lucky if you wave when you drive by.
Not a popular comment, but I really disliked this video (and I'm a huge fan of HeadyD). Hated seeing Marcus being pressured continuously and pushed into a corner demanding he gets therapy. He is doing the exact thing that he needs to at the moment (taking care of his wife and kids). In this he is being a true man and putting others needs above his. Not saying he shouldn't in the future, but now is not the time. Being someone that was bullied in the past and in his shoes, it got me so heated that I couldn't even finish the pod.
You all keep saying therapy is getting help and I think that is wrong. You are helping yourself because you have to do the work and be open, the therapist is just the tool!!!!!!
