He wrote "The author sounds like someone that would snoop through her husbands stuff and probably thinks he will never achieve success" and she was like "THAT'S ME"
Well, that technically isn't the smoking gun that it's the husband...a random commenter saying that she sounds like that type of person, when she literally did, is an unusually accurate perception, possible too much to be without actually knowing she did...but still isn't 100%. 😅 She IS, so she actually might just sound like that enough for a random person to say that? The smoking gun would be if the person saying that was proved to be her husband.
@@FFKonoko I don't think she meant smoking gun as in "that's the husband" I think she means smoking gun as in "the wife's behavior and wife calling herself out" or the wife thinking that's the smoking gun
This line honestly made me think the response is intentionally unhinged and supposed to be entirely sarcastic because I refuse to believe someone wrote that in full seriousness
I think the aspect of the husband’s jealousy towards his more successful writer wife was definitely inspired by Anatomy of a Fall, which has also been getting a lot more traction after the recent Oscars season.
“Luckily I’ve grown up a little since then and I’m more able to control my own impulses” they says after IMMEDIATELY telling the author to “snoop away” and assume the husband will kill their dog and to move money into a separate account cause “the divorce is fucked” ☠️ Peak maturity right there 👍🏼
All this goodreads drama over the years makes me kinda afraid for when authors eventually find out about storygraph 😅 not looking forward to that especially since I’ve left some harsh reviews of books I’ve hated
Alternative theory: this is all some kind of book promotion. We are just reading the plot of a book thatll be announced soon, though i dunno why tf the cut would get involved in it
If this is some elaborate plot, I think the cut might have gotten in on it for promotion purposes. Like, 1st article, you want something interesting that people will come back too. Five months from now, they're going to be announcing their book and linking back to the advice.
I'm CONVINCED the author of the article *is* the book author - she has a new book out and has previously written about feeling jealous of her husband who is also a writer. Whether it's legitimate or an elaborate way to get clicks or promote something idk
Honestly, I think the goodreads problem with authors would be solved if authors understood reviews are for readers and they need to stay out of the reviewing space.
@@withcindytbf I think people don't really trust goodreads that much :( between review bombing and people leaving one-star reviews for very subjective reasons (like them finding a character annoying, or personally disliking the writing style) instead of genuine faults of the book... Yeah, some reviews are worth checking out, but damn is the platform itself awful!
@@tomrojigualdo I hate goodreads so much. The rating system should be changed or something. I see soo many 1 star reviews purely based on the fact that someone didn't like the TOPIC of the book. Like wtf. The rating system is bullshit. They can leave the reviews up, that's enough for readers to make up their minds. But the stars should go tbh.
@@trying2write69 Literally. I saw someone one star a book once for one singular chapter in the entire book because "the main character annoyed me then." Like... you didn't like the MC in ONE chapter so you decided to one star? I find one star reviews to be valid when constructive and pointing out true flaws of the book, but man people have truly lost it.
@@trying2write69 I wouldn’t say that’s a good reads specific problem, it’s a people problem. Lots of people are just dumb and give bad rating for stupid reasons.
The amount of times she said she was achieving things her husband could never dream of like damn that's how you really feel about him lmao 👀👀 Also agree this sounds fake especially once we got to the advice
If she thinks it’s him already she sent it in a state of anger, and also we don’t have to never have a mean thought about loved ones. She didn’t air his full government name out
@@Nothereforit174 Idk that feels a bit much for someone who is only 85% sure her husband is the culprit lol. I get being upset but it sounds like a thought she'd already had prior to this whole situation. Assuming this is real. Which it is probably not
@@Nothereforit174idk i can have a mean thought of like "he's such an asshole" but i could never have a thought of "he'll never have success" that's insane to think
@@takimi_nada It's not so much thinking it that's bad: we can all think things we don't mean sometimes and we can't always control our thoughts, especially kneejerk reactions. It's that she chose to make the thought permanent by publishing it in a public advice column.
I could swear I read a similar story on Reddit a few months ago... Probably because both the letter and the advice sound like they were AI generated ragebait texts that plague the AITA and similar subreddits.
Oh, there are a TON of book/author related AITA stories. I know one was where this OP got angry that their friend who wrote romance had sold a bunch of books? Like, she said it wasn't "real" writing. There was this case of this teenage boy writing a book and self publishing it, I think. His father or uncle or something gave it a low rating because the book wasn't a genre he liked. There was the guy who wanted to know his girlfriend's fake name that she wrote her erotic stories under. He wanted an apology from her and for her to send him her name so he could find her books. Those are just some examples. I think people write them specifically to get people angry enough to where they fight each other in the comments section. lol.
Omg I didn’t even think about people using AI to generate AITA stories 💀god I bet there’s 1000’s…i haaaaate AITA content on RU-vid. I won’t watch it even if it’s a RU-vidr I like, hearing people take the stories at face value is frustrating. There’s truly nothing cringier to me these days than people falling for rage bait
now that i’ve finished the video - def agree with being team no one and this being fake, but if it WAS real… i think both people have some issues to talk abt with their marriage because the trust is not there 😭
Could she be projecting her feeling of superiority towards him by going into a paranoid loop of assuming that he is resentful and jealous because that is how she would feel in his shoes? My vote is on fake too though, and the advice is seriously actionable lmao.
See this is my issue. Women are regularly killed and abused by men to the point in the US we have an internationally noted problem with femicide but if you don’t want to be seen as paranoid, you can’t say anything when you start seeing signs something is off. Then once it’s too late somebody says why didn’t you see all the red flags and run. It’s not new that men abuse, cheat on, stalk, psychologically abuse, harass, and even kill women. So I don’t know that this is true but I know we live under patriarchy and I’d like some balanced acknowledgment of we just don’t know enough before she’s a paranoid woman with a superiority complex. She’s obviously angry so yes she dissed him. I might diss someone too if I thought they were taking out some personal failures on me and my career launch. Men have superiority complex built in and it’s all over the book community but it’s not called out as much as it’s agreed with even by women. I would even venture to wonder what he has done and said to make her this nervous about him and what about those reviews put her in the mind of his writing, as a writer, I imagine she knows how to tell when something is at least likely written by the same person even if they use multiple accounts. If men can kill women with HIV on purpose, this isn’t the oddest thing I can conceive of. And if it is just someone worrying too much, I still think it’s a sign something is off in that relationship that trust and security aren’t a norm. They might need counseling. Who knows
How can someone stay married with someone they distrust so much? Like, whether the letter is real or not and if the husband did or didn't write the reviews, if you're really that suspicious of him, just divorce already, cause something aint right with your relationship 😭
oh I commented before reading this lmao. I thought it's the same person, too. The style of writing is the same and the response is just TOO specific and in depth.@@withcindy
There’s so much drama/gossip that’s been happening on Good Reads to the point that someone could probably write a book series just from all of the drama that happens there and never run out of material to write about lol.
I don't know if it's real or fake but as someone with experience in having an emotionally abusive relationship the LAST people to know were people that knew both me and my ex because in a weird way that makes it "Real" and then there's no taking it back either you have to leave or feel judged for staying which logically isn't what happens but in situations like that it feels like it. So that's why someone would likely tell strangers on the internet because it's a void. No one cares past a click.
Yeah, i have the same experience. Coming into this video and seeing the shame heaped on the writer of the letter for being “unhinged” even tho it’s admitted that no one knows if it’s true, when i’m aware that this is exactly the sort of thing my ex would have done, makes it so much more obvious why women keep quiet about our abuse. Because even other women will call us unhinged and lay the blame at our feet, even if they believe the story is true.
If you're in an abusive relationship and you expect sympathy from the Internet then you're doomed because the trolls alone will depress you. Expecting faceless people to be on your side is not advisable. @@that_sWRite
Yeah. Though this is like 99% chance fake, going to an anonymous source on the internet is probably the safer, more realistic move. if you're already to the point of thinking your husband is conspiring against you to take down your literary career, your also probably to the point of not trusting all the other people around you, especially anyone who has a relationship to your husband, cause, y'know, they might be in cahoots with him... or whatever. still really dumb story but that part makes sense.
Dang it, Cindy! I'm supposed to be reading about my government's public education strategy...how dare you upload some delicious goodreads gossip 30 mins before my shift is over? Also, thank you goodreads for keeping us fed?
You know how sometimes people send themselves an anonymous question so they can give the answer the want to hear? That’s what listening to the reply from the cut sounded like? No idea if that’s easily disprovable, but at least if I saw that exchange on tumblr, that’s what I’d think it was. Justifying the unhinged reply in my mind, because I don’t want to believe that’s honestly given advice
The person giving the advice here is a lot like the people on Reddit who immediately jump to telling someone to divorce their spouse at the smallest problem instead of exploring other avenues. And the couple, if they really exist, both seem so terrible that they deserve each other.
The most unhinged part of the Cut's response to me is the two(!) times they compare the situation to finding out your husband slept/tongue kissed with your sister AND killed your dog?? Gotta admit though, that sounds like it could be a more interesting fake story/myster thriller.
No I don’t think this is real, I swear I’ve seen a reddit post that was very similar to this, just instead of writers, her husband had been harassing her with emails and what not, it was a long time ago
I like what the advice giver to this fictional story compares the bad reviews from the maybe husband to. I mean, I'd be more upset if someone I loved and trusted hurt by dog than I would be at getting sh*tty reviews, but that's just me.
I mean if my dream career finally launched and my partner was on a mission to take me down via stirring up a targeted hate campaign that actually got my reviews tanked after it was doing well....that’s hitting at my purpose in life and trying to destroy me on some level, You have to actually hate me to do that and be so hellbent you don’t let up and use multiple accounts to make it a whole thing. The dog is important but I’d assume they resent me at that point and how can I trust them again?
that comparison was like... wild. I'd be hurt if my partner didn't support my dream for sure-- but that's a hurt I can get over through time and probably leaving said partner. But hurting my DOG?! A living, breathing, creature that did *literally nothing* to deserve pain? I'd go insane. Like genuinely I would get the police involved for animal cruelty because nobody touches my dog.
@@ohhmangos No, but exactly. I'd be hurt if my partner didn't support my dream, like you said. But I have two dogs that I love. They're family. If someone purposefully hurt my dogs, I'd be devastated and would probably feel guilty that I trusted this person. I'd be making sure the police knew of their crimes and they were punished.
I was with you on the weird wording like "my beloved", but then I remembered a woman I briefly interacted with online unironically called her boyfriend "paramour" and the kids at the local school started to say "mirth" instead of fun 💀
this is all assuming the initial letter is real, because its very possible that it isn't: WHY does she suspect her husband? as you mentioned, i expected the letter to expand at least a little bit on what he's done to cast suspicion on him, things he's said or ways his behavior has change, because "my husband is a constant figure of support in my writing career" to "i think my husband is leaving hordes of negative reviews on burner accounts" is a huge leap to make. but there's no explanation of her suspicions. when the letter-writer brought up that she's snooped in his computer before and that obviously made him upset, i then expected her to expand on why she was doing so in the first place and what that resulted in; does he actually have a history of duplicitous behavior or was your earlier invasion of privacy completely unfounded? because if your earlier invasion of privacy was ultimately for nothing and your current suspicions have no basis, it kinda sounds like you have major trust issues and you need to actually TALK to your husband and probably also a therapist about what's causing this seemingly unfounded but also seemingly constant belief that your husband is out to get you, like... assuming the letter isn't real: the cut should take these things into account next time they want to concoct a fake story like this :-/ more details might make it more realistic
Cindy is the definition of balanced thinking. I swear no matter the topic i feel like i could agree with her on at least one aspect of the topic. Its so refreshing and its always what makes me come back to watch another video.
always so pumped to see a juicy new book drama video from you!! also just want to say i agree with the other comments about lovingggg your hair these days! i feel like you'd look sick with a full on wolf cut
1. I think it might be worthwhile to revisit The Cut periodically and give us your take because they've really been doing SOMETHING over there with the articles they've been putting out (but then some of their IG captions are brilliant so the range appears to be quite wide). I just read the one about the pregnant woman who divorced at 20 weeks. 2. You look fantastic Cindy so I hope you're feeling it these days. Your ending was too on point so im excited to get back into actual books soon and im excited to add more to my list.
Wow. That advice really is unhinged... it sounds like the responder needs 5 times as much therapy as the writer... 💀 (Side note! If you get time, I think you might like The Invisible Library series by Genevieve Cogman. It follows Irene, a very capable book thief who steals unique books from multiple worlds, aided by her *ahem* very attractive *ahem* understudy, Kai. If you enjoy badass women who are witty, adventurous and genre-savvy, please consider giving the first book a go!)
this is unrelated to the video (which is always fun and i havent heard of this one yet lol...) but just wanted to say congratulations for getting an agent for your book!!! as a long time follower its awesome to see, wishing you much luck on the rest of your writing journey :]
the way my jaw dropped at this advice holy shit. dear prudie would NEVER. is this a huge betrayal if true? yes? should you encourage paranoia without also telling this person to chat with a therapist and other people she loves. damn the cut hire a better editor for your advice column or something bc this is NOT it
Concerning the "My Mixed Feelings About Negative Reviews" section, I think Cindy pretty much nailed the human nature aspect of saboting other people's work due to the popularity/success of the work. Some people have to be contrarians for the sake of being a contratrian and the hope of being perceived as more intelligent than the general populace. (When in reality, it's just embarrassing half the time.) For example, while not a book, I always think of Arcane. Critics and viewers agree that show is perfect or near perfect (100% on Rotten Tomatoes, 96% on Google Reviews, etc.) And yet it still has negative reviews, not many, but they exist. So, if it helps any writers or future writers out there, don't worry about the bad reviews - sometimes you can learn from them, sometime you can't. You can't please everyone.
I absolutely LOVE your videos, but this time 'round, the 1st thing my eyes landed on was the Kuromi plushie behind you 🥹 I'm practically OBSESSED with Kuromi, and it sucks that I can't find anything themed after it here in India, but I went completely 😍 when I saw that plushie. I know it's totally random, but eh, I love what I love 😂✌🏼
3:21 -> 4:03 will never stop being thankful for cindy's ability to make us cackle! 😂 respectfully asking Pair Eyewear to pls give cindy the bread she deserves for giving this product such dramatic gay asian auntie flair!! can't imagine a more iconic chaotic bookworm to help a glasses brand get their bag 😎💅
As someone who has pretty much every issue that Cait has been using as excuses, shockingly enough none of my side effects have ever been racism😭 An honestly WILD attempt at a defense
Cindy your content got me through some tough times coming out of the pandemic my thank you may mean little to nothing but it is str8 from the heart THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DO
I do think, as an author, it IS important to have an eye on your negative reviews. I do it myself because I can handle it - and I never engage - but I do think when you see trends about things readers don't like, it can help inform your craft moving forward. If you can't handle doing it yourself, definitely have someone you trust who can sift through to find recurring trends that readers aren't liking (poor editing, story construction, characters likeability, etc). They are a tool for authors in that way, especially indie authors, but they are *not* for engaging with, ever! (The only time I've ever engaged was when someone said they were upset my books were Christian books with cursing when they've never ever been marketed as religious AT ALL - and I wanted to inquire further to see if there was something going on with the listing, etc)
Team no one is accurate. I feel like you could even say, team no one and especially not the columnist. That is some spectacularly bad advices, even if the story is made up for shock value.
Also, I do not know whether in the US it is also illegal, but at least in my country, spying on your partner's computer without their permission is illegal. It is an abusing and controlling behaviour. If you can no longer trust your partner, just leave/divorce them. Trust is the most fundamental block of a healthy relationship. If you are a point in which you "need" to check your partner's devices without their permission, just leave: If you were right, you are going to leave anyway, and if you are wrong, you aren't deserving of the trust that you have just betrayed.
I'm with you. I think it's fake. But if it were an actual letter, the advice to go snooping in his personal stuff isn't cool at all. If you don't trust your partner, ask yourself why. If you suspect they are capable of doing something like this out of jealousy, ask yourself why. If you believe they would do something like this, pack your stuff and leave.
Conspiracy theories: 1. The advice columnist knows the author and was somehow involved with deciding that the husband was responsible. The vibes from both are post-wine, post-internet sleuthing hype session where the facts don't matter. Saying that her husband could never dream of her success sounds like something a friend would say who wants to be supportive and doesn't like the husband. Only excuse for this crazy advice. 2. The advice columnist is also the author and is hyping her own self. 3. The quoted author is the advice columnist. 4. Everyone involved is just Kat Corrain trying to make leaving fake reviews normalized and draw attention away from herself.
Yeah the story didn’t sound real to me either and I was hoping that the advice columnists reply would provide something other than “if I hadn’t check to see if it was true…” The advice was also so bad. It seemed to be in the opposite order it should have been in and I thought the writing style was too casual. Like I get it’s meant to be personable but there was no air of authority there - it just read like an internet comment. I guess that’s The Cut’s thing now since their financial advice columnist also seems ill-equipped lmao.
I genuinely love that the position of the artwork on your wall changes every time. I'm always like, ooooh what do I get to see today in the book drama gallery
Seems fake just because the person responding is just acting so fucking dumb like they came up with the finger snappy cool girlie responce to the idea of this question and after writing that realised it sounds insane to motivate someone to invade another's privacy especially after said person said they had a history of that to justify them not looking and going to the writer. Irs just so.... "If I was their I'd say the coolest comeback ever!!!"
Saw a reddit post a few years ago where the father (who was also an author) was leaving bad reviews on his 14 year old son's book to "keep his ego in check" That advice was a hell of a lot. Insert obligatory 'well that escalated quickly' Ron Burgundy meme
@withcindy Oh yes I remember that one. It was pretty bad. I would think it was fake, but it was so self righteously written that I can’t help but fear it was real.
I'm just high enough to think about the fact that the literary community, while having developed and changed drastically with technology, has not changed from the 1800s drama shit storms with pamphlets about high society stupidity that the literary community is known for. TLDR: lord byron would be proud of what we've built.
thank you Cindy. you are a hero. I was woozy and silly and needed to eat soup and now I'm watching you and eating soup. you are so funny and good. now I have the strength to sabotage my spouse
I don't think author's reading reviews is a bad thing. We learn through feedback, author's are no different. The problem is, in today's age, society is full of berry snorting karen's who both write and read reviews. Gone are the good ole days where adults could give and take constructive criticism. Now they all throw toddler tantrums, trying to get that viral video, the most likes, or be part of the 'crowd.' Pathetic really.
Not going to lie, I kinda want a book series based on goodreads drama now lol 😂 and yeah this story does seem fake. I wouldn’t be surprised if it turned out to be for publicity.
Reading this felt like reading the premise of a story on Hooked. Like, it felt like low quality fiction in bad adverts or like a writing exercise that a fanfiction author on Tumblr would use to practice.
That advice columnist was so over the top with her "advice" like- How is it professional to tell someone to *not* hire a PI because destroying the trust your relationship is built on is easier and cheaper?? Anyway i was suspending my disbelief through the letter but the response was actually what made me think it was fake- obviously they were playing it up and overexxagerating Also *oof* imagine casually saying that your husband will never be as successful as you, thats gotta hurt, what happened to mutual support?? I have more faith in my writer bestie's *future* yet to be written book than this lady has in her husband
The Cut response is insane. I get the writing style is meant to be entertaining but I'm so over this internet style of relationship advice that boils down to "burn every relationship to the ground, its self care ❤️". Even if you're in a situation where ending the relationship is warrented, don't tell people to go into the situation panic first. "Yes, the room is on fire! Scream, run, hide!"
i got a goodreads because of this channel and i get vaguely worried every time i write a bad review for something. and then i remember that all the books i'm reviewing badly were written 15+ years ago and are mostly by writers who should know better and i decide i'm fine.
