I’m in my early twenties and I watch you because of how authentic and elegant you are. There is beauty and grace in the way you speak and present yourself. Thank you, you are helping me learn a lot with your wisdom about life.❤️ I need to believe in my self more and hone my skills.
As a retired 30 year long career psychotherapist, I find this video can help everyone on some level. You managed to offer a ton of useful information about emotional health in a short 20 minute time span. Succinct yet valuable. Bravo! :-)
Thank you Sandra. I listen to you every chance I get. I appreciate and thank you for your time. I feel stronger in my mind, happier in my heart and more confidence. We are so lucky to have you on this earth.🙏
I agree with Sue, really enjoyed another insightful topic from Ms. Hart, Sandra is the best and her children are very blessed to have her as an awesome Mom!
I take a guess to say that I am about in the middle when it comes to scoring points on this topic. The hardest thing that I have found is to let go, especially of past mistakes, I have been for over 40yrs angry at myself for making certain mistakes back then so many years ago. But those mistakes have had a ripple effect all my life they come back to haunt you. It is only now at this stage of life that I feel I am starting to grasp the fact of self forgiveness as a very crucial and important topic.
Sandra, I’m so happy I found you. I’m 78 and still learning things I probably should of know before now. I’m a widow for over five years. I have no health problems. I could loose ten pounds and that would be good. I want to live the rest of my life happy with a partner or just have one male friend that I’m crazy over and he’s crazy over me and just date and go places and enjoy the beauty God created. Thank you for wisdom and sweet way of telling us your stories of life experiences, I love listening to you. ❤️
Wow Sandra - another video worthy of multiple views. I think I did pretty well on some points and probably need to work on others. But this discussion is so very valuable. Emotional intelligence! I love the way you've outlined key points to make it easier to understand. What a concept. I love your tips on beauty but you are also an excellent life coach. Your children are very lucky to have such a mother.
So lovely to listen to you tonight, it's like having a dear friend in the room. Your words of wisdom Sandra are a guiding light. I still get stuck with the saying no at times but I am working on it. Good night from England. Shari
Re: Getting over your mistakes... Love this quote by Emerson: “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
Hi Sandra , we will never give you a thump down nor would we do to other. You have the best group of women behind you ! But the video like this , that make you apart from other . You are a full package ! Beauty in and out. Keep it coming the community need you ! Take care , xoxo
What an absolutely amazing video, Sandra! I already knew a bit about EQ, but you give it so much valuable extra sense, with all the examples you give. You are a wonderful person! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. With love from Belgium ❤
Awesome knowledge and information gained Thank you very much . I am a big supporter of your work n videos. With Love and respect from Guwahati Assam INDIA
Wow! I got here from a youtube recommendation , and I can say I am very happy to start listening you Sandra! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us! God bless you forever!🙏❤️ Loved you from 🇧🇷
Thank you, Sandra, I really needed to hear this today. I’m 67 and feeling depressed about my lack of doing anything now, but I see that I do have a lot of emotional intelligence!!! Thanks, this talk means a lot to me!! Thanks for you being you!
Bonnie, They say high emotional intelligence will serve you better life than high I Q! Consider yourself a lucky woman. You are worthy and you deserve the best in life! ❤️. Sandra
Thank you Sandra ❤️ 😊❤️ for this list of emotional intelligence. I have always had a lot of these. Most people speak of a high IQ. But not of emotional . I might not get high marks on an exam. But I know people, and myself. 😁♥️😍
Neutralising toxic people can really benefit the toxic person, if they are willing to see themselves as they really are, and learn from you. Not enabling them to continue on their self-destructive path is the best thing you can do for them. Thank you, Sandra... you have great horse sense !
Thoroughly enjoyed this video. I scored pretty high but at 74 it took me awhile to get there. Better late than ever! I am an observer not an obsorber. You ARE the best!
Sandra I found your channel per chance and thank you for the meet! I so love your inspiration and confidence you pass onto me through your videos. I scored 15 out of 16 and feel good about it! At almost 64 I have never felt better about myself, thinner, healthier and more aware than ever before. I am in such a good space and am grateful for all I have in my life! Thank you Sandra with much love!
Thank You 💜 Everything you say is so Authentic 🙏🙏I Relate so much to you ☺️I'm a People Pleaser. I'm 55 and just started to say No! It's Freeing. You are Appreciated and a Godsend for me🙏 I lost the Love of my life this year. And you, have been there, too. You Survived and so will I 💜I Couldn't move off my couch for 3 months. Grieving. Thank You 👍👍👍👍👍 And I agree, no Thumbs Down, just move on🙏
Sandra!! I have learned to say "No" a longtime ago.It was liberating.I also give without any expectations but from my Heart.I believe this comes with age and experience.We No longer surround herself with toxic people and their drama.We live in Peace and gratitude.❤ur videos.You are a classy Lady aging gracefuly. .
I think they should get rid of the thumbs down too or make it so you have to list a reason so we know how to improve LOL...Oh wait...you mean I'm not perfect? ShyGuy said I was...what a liar LOL I don't know how you do these and keep coming up with these ideas for videos :D Another home run Sandra! Love you! xoxo Mary
Thanks, Mary! I don’t know how you do so many videos per week. I admire you girl. I would burn out at that pace. I think RU-vid should be a positive place we can come to. The thumbs down puts such a negative vibe out there. Love you. ❤️. Sandra
I thought a thumbs down just meant you just disliked that particular video. Then maybe you’d love the next one. Not a vendetta - just an opinion. That’s what I thought.
You always have so many great videos. We sure do need to share love with others. You are looking fabulous as always, I will definitely do something nice for myself today and of course for others as well.....blessings your way...continue staying beautiful...............ILY...............MINDY
I agree that the "thumbs down" on RU-vid should go. It is not necessary to say everything you think, so if you've chosen to watch a program and it turns out not to be your cup of tea then simply change the channel and search for something else--but adding a possibly hurtful comment is just selfish
Hi sandra you did mention sixteen emotional i nteligente Will some of the things that mentioned l know because my best friend talk about her husband without k know him l can disgrace her husband perfectly l only meat him one another thing is l can field right away something good or bad from some one l think all what you talk about we all some where we have this inelegant and l think now they lm getting older l appreciate everything better and l know how to handle myself better l do like this topic they've very interesting and l do learner thankyou for discus this nice topics l did like this video very much thankyou .
Thanks for this Sandra. You are the sunshine in my life!!! I scored pretty well in the emotional intelligence stakes but there is room for improvement. I'm always "under construction" I guess. ❤❤
Thank you Sandra, these were great things to think about and use. I scored pretty well but I also think it’s a very conscious effort to make some of those changes. I’m really enjoying your videos and your sweet spirit. Blessings to you! 💕
This message i woke up listening to I love it!! I love your videos makes me feel better I'm 50 now and I grew up around negative parents and people and wow as a human I am worthy cause I have always tried my best and I'm a single mom of two teenagers and feeling hopeless sometimes cause I am getting older but life don't stop your messages are very uplifting thanks
Dear Sandra you truly are a ray of light and you helped me, even from the other side of the world, thank you so much. I am having a really hard time now and you keep me going. Really, thank you. 🌺
Wonderful teacher and friend to all of us, I wonder what causes someone to have little emotional intelligence? Having little makes life painful and difficult to navigate. Genetics are mostly responsible for high IQ, so are environmental factors more at work with EIQ? Im thinking of the delicate and naive Marilyn Monroe, who as Elton John said lived “like a candle in the wind.” For all of you gals who didn’t score very high, but whose eyes are opening late in life, my heart goes out to all of you!
Janet, Interesting thoughts to consider. Scientists say that 10% empathetic is inherited, so 90%, who knows?! Maybe us cultivated through time and experience? ❤️. Sandra
I struggle with judging character, but I'm finally starting listen to my intuition more... it's hard because I always want to give people the benefit of the doubt, and sometimes should be more discerning. AND KNOWING WHEN TO SAY NO. 🤣
Really enjoyed this Sandra quite a few applied to me? but it’s definitely been a learning curve as I am a highly sensitive person! it’s taken me a few years to work that one out but being aware of our emotional state is the way forward thanks for the advice ❤️
Mesmerizing tape, I love to start my day with one of your videos. It makes me, simply, a better person. More patient, intuitive and caring. Have you ever thought making these fantastic videos into set of tapes? When I went to nursing school I had tapes that I could listen anywhere anytime, even doing housework. And more importantly they were mine, and did not depend on WiFi, cellphones or I pads. Just thought, lots of us would buying them and treasure your wonderful wisdom. Thank you.
It was a post/ad promoting your channel. You had both hands raised in the air with the forefinger and little finger raised up. That represents devil horns.
Sandra, some women need to grow up. Your advice are through your life experiences.Great advises are hard to find and yours are free for us to learn or open our heart and mind to accept.
Excellent video, my beautiful friend. I scored pretty high. When I was about 35 years old, I learned to practice many of the things you spoke of. I used to be a perfectionist, thankfully it is in the past. From time to time, I do become critical of mistakes I make, but am soooo much better than I use to me. Blessings, and much love, Sandra...MaryEllen
MaryEllen, I think at times we can be our worst critic, don’t you think. We can be too hard on ourselves. I think my past days in the ‘valley’ has made me a more compassionate human and raised my emotional intelligence. Love you my kind and beautiful friend. ❤️. Sandra
Wow!!! I'm completely hooked in this video mentally and emotionally. The one I love the most is about good judge of other people that instinct that telling you something that not seems but it's there. It will help you to avoid troubles
I can think of something else. Don't worry about what others think. Whether it be what you wear or what you enjoy doing. We're all different. No better or no worse. New subscriber here. Really enjoying your videos. I'm over 60 so its difficult to relate to other youtubers. P.S. I have to admit. I really hate change. 😕
My dear Sandra, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience with us. ❤️🙏🌹You are very smart, talented and kind dear friend with a very beautiful smile😘🤗
Nice to meet you Sandra, I am very inspierd about your videos. I've turned 50ti this year and I leave in Switzerland. There are really times when I fell old and demotivated. I am not complainig, I have a beautiful Life, Family and Friends and most importantly I'm healthy. It feels good to hear ypur channel thxs , send you ove from Switzerland ❤
The timing on this video, the truth in the words you speak, mean the world to me as I prepare for an important interview this week. Emotional Intelligence is a gift and a precious and powerful tool to help live your best life! Thank you for your generosity, Sandra, that will help us all “finish the race” with Grace and contentment.♥️
I also find your voice also to be very calming Sandra. I mainly watch your videos whilst doing jobs around the house and garden. The length of your videos are just right to commit to a time frame and always uplifting❤️😘
My children want me to have a psychiatric analysis before they even talk to me. I told them I can’t afford it. What do I do. I have a college degree but only worked before children as a secretary to put my ex through his PhD. He is married to someone 25 years younger than him. I had a sort of nervous breakdown after 33 years of marriage. Kids blame me for everything and I am blocked by them
1000s of 👍👍👍. Just discovered your channel and it’s love from the first sight and word. I feel like my soul is smiling while listening to you. Such a bright person. ❤️❤️❤️
Oh my word , this is me,I want to know how everyone’s house looks like.I am curious about other cultures..I am a good judge of character.I am most of these.Thank you
Avoiding toxic people is preferable to having to deal with them but sometimes they are relatives or coworkers. Shutting down your own emotions to toxic people isn't always healthy. In one case it became vital for my personal well being to point out how a particularly toxic person made me feel. We now are good friends! So if a toxic person is someone easily avoided, then just ignore them. But if it's a person you've got to or want to deal with it is best to gently draw your line in the sand. Yes, they may be toxic because they are unhappy but you shouldn't let their unhappiness make you unhappy. Tell them how they make you feel.
I'm so glad to find your channel recently. You are such an amazing lady with a beautiful soul. A real beauty inside and outside! I'm in my early fifties. Your words and your voice are so soothing. It's really a great pleasure to listen to you. My thoughts resonate with yours. Thanks for your selfishless share of your wisdom! All the best to you!
I recently learned about our “amygdala” they are two (left and right side) almond shaped clusters of nuclei located deep and medically within the temporal lobes of our brains. The amygdala are part of our ability to control and manage our emotions in a healthy way. Sometimes our amygdala gets damaged by head trauma, alcohol abuse, or drug abuse that results in mental illness. For example: If one is smaller than the other the result is often “bi-polar”.
I've always told my daughter, people respond to you from who they are. Thumbs down reflect a small and unhappy mind, in my opinion. I'm so glad I don't live in their mind!
Sandra, a Thumbs Down is not always an indication that someone is making a personal attack on you. It’s just as important for us to learn how to say no as it is for us to accept no without adding a dialogue that it’s come from an emotionally toxic person. Sometimes it’s just “no”. Not personal, not attacking, just no. Thumbs Down= “no” I didn’t like this video. Not an insult or an attack, just “no”. It’s okay..Sometimes the answer is “no”!
Freda. I hear you. But, personally, if I don’t like something, I just move on. I think RU-vid should be a positive experience. There is so much negativity elsewhere. I recently watched the CEO of RU-vid say that they are thinking about eliminating the thumbs down because an overwhelming amount of comments about how negative it is are constant. As I said in my video, I think a most people just move on. Thanks for sharing your opinion. ❤️. Sandra
You’re right, possibility MOST people may just move on. However, those who may not choose to do so should not be judged because their responses are not like ours or are not to our comfort or our liking. In this sense a thumbs down is not negative, it’s just “no” I did not like this video. Touché!
