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Apparently am having hard time raising my 3yrs old girl.she does not like to drink or eat without me shouting and holding a cane for her.yet when iam not around she can eat so dat perturbs me .kindly advise
I watched this quite late but that won't stop me from giving my opinion, So there's this thing of temperaments, different people have different ways they approach the world and this starts way from childhood,a child may not actually be disobedient but when it's her temperament, or maybe a parent's, I think if one takes time to identify oneself and then appreciate how different he or she is from another (even with ur offspring) it's easy to deal with each other talk of discipline Thanks for the show lovelies ❤❤❤
My hard willed son recently wanted me to give him my fingers n I said no n guess what he told me "but mummy y is it that u want us to listen to u but u dnt listen to us" My gdnessssssssssss it was such a big blow the boy z just 5yrs! kids r not just a simple walk in the park
So I shared that when this episode airs, I will tell you how it is going. I have both good and bad news. Not so great news Bianca was promoted to another class (this happens alot with the ACE curriculum incase you are wondering how a child gets promoted after one term 😂😂) so she wouldn't be with her new teacher. I was sad. Great news God has been asking me to do something and I was being disobedient (like Jonah 😂), I didn't think that I was being disobedient though. Long story short, I asked him for a sign that I was disobedient 😅😅. The sign was an obedient Bianca; she changed OVERNIGHT. I fell to my knees and I am doing what God asked me to do.
I was an obedient child but the challenge is that whenever I tried to exercise my voice and have my opinion, no one was used to it. Meaning that obedience put me in a tiny box that was hard to get out of
Angie, thank you soo much. I 100% agree with you. The point is not spanking to injur but spanking to discipline. Which means do it privately not to bring shame to the child, do it only when necessary, do it with the reason clearly stated to the child, mention the number of spanks so that you as a parent remains in control of yourself while spanking the child and come out with your child happily, ready to move onto the next chapter. Lastly me as a Christian, I always show my boys the scripture that tells the children to obey their parents alongside the spare the rod and spoil the child verse. We do a study and it has helped alot.
Can we take a moment to talk about how the ladies are looking gorgeous and glowing. You ladies are hot mama's, your husbands are truly blessed. Anyway love, love, love the show❤all the way from South Africa
Yes I do. God laid in on my heart that we are raising a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God's special possession made for signs and wonders........
When you see Angie shaking her leg, just wait on, its going to be fire😂 in a good way. I just like the tension Angie creates when she starts speaking cause her voice brings in Netflix to the convo
Thanks for the show. Quick feedback for the production team - the sound quality for the show needs some fine tuning (takes a while to draw in the audio from one person to another). Would be nice to have seamless audio experience. (This applies to all the episodes by the way) Otherwise great show. Thank you!
Hahahah oh yes Rosette your are so right, my son most times, he asks me to listen to him first before I comment and when I listen to him, he actually speaks sense to me
My daughter is four and six months she listens but hates being interrupted very organized than even me😂😂😂 like she knows her time table and she follows. She knows from school to bathing having something to eat as she watches as her cartoons immediately i reach home she will be ready with her bag to help her with homework.after that she will be ready for anything that comes
I think Claire from the unpopular Opinion Uganda said she suffers from the same. She is a teacher, so she might know how to advise you on how to go about it.
The best way to make children understand why it’s important to “listen to you”, is by creating a relationship at eye level( & NO, you will not lose their respect because they know that you are the adult). Communicate clearly, make the children understand why they should do what you require of them, how it affects them, you, and everyone around them. Plus, always offer them the possibility to air their sentiments and that there is always room for their opinions ( believe me, you will learn a thing or two from your kids ). Do not be a BOSS, be a parent, and parenting will get easier. NB:It breaks my heart to see that young intelligent mothers are even comfortable with SPANKING!!😢😢 Child abuse should stop with us ! I will gladly offer a free consultation to any mums here that need guidance on intentional parenting. Let’s protect, love, be the safe space and raise undamaged humans. This video has made me really sad 😢
I was following your advice until the child abuse statement. Spanking a child with love to help grow into good citizens is different from coporal punishments like the ones teachers used to use back in the 90's. Unless a parent is injuring a child, there's no problem with sparing the rod. It's not for everyone, every parent should parent the way they see fit without being judged.
@RUZHOFFS, I think you are being melodramatic. As a highly learned and educated mother, I am a strong believer that every parent is an expert on what works for their child(ren). It's beneficial for parents to be informed on substantial science, but it's hammy you claiming, "it breaks my heart to see young intelligent mothers are comfortable with spanking. Child abuse should stop with us". Stop the RIDICULOUSNESS!! I don't see anything triggering your sadness. Manuela, Rachel, Angie and Rossette aren't abusing their children. If my child after several clear conversations and warnings continues to be willfully defiant of authority, I'll sapiently spank them. If that's what you term abuse, then be it. Our children need our love, wisdom, authoritative guidance, and correction. Prudent spanking isn't abuse as you claim, but excessive corporal punishment is. If you're a Christian Please read Hebrews 12.
Well, I respect all your views, but child abuse is child abuse( whether it’s mild, or “spare the rod”, ), it still doesn’t make it right. And all your reactions are because of exactly what I said( spanked children grow into SPANKING ADULTS)!! A very unfortunate, never ending cycle 🤷♂️🥲
Obedience is a good topic; I think I understand Angie on mental health ''speaking negative things into a child because they are defiant, I remember adults that would verbally abuse their children like they are stupid, you will never amount to anything if you can not follow simple instructions, etc.'' Those are adults now with very low self-esteem mostly. Character checks and development are crucial. Personally, I go for heart-to-heart talks and treat them like they understand. I teach, give guidance and also explain consequences so the choice is theirs.
Ladies, i love your wisdom. I was trying indeed to create perfect kids until i realized that my kids would grow to hate me because of the authoritative way, i dropped it. Now we are getting better. I listen, suggest, unless u go beyond all warnings, then God helps
Angie, my 11year old daughter is struggling with dyslexia. It's an encouragement hearing that your son is graduating with an honours. I would be glad to hear the detailed story of how you handled
Google and educate yourself dear. All this information is on the internet. Things like getting them books that have yellow paper instead of white. Getting a coloured piece of plastic transparent paper to go over the printed work for better reading. There are apps that can read text for them. So many resources out there
My nephew too,but he's the smartest child ever and he does well in sciences because it doesn't require too much writing and reading but when it comes to social studies and English he's given more time to read out loud even when he's classmates are hearing him in an exam but he's fine yours will be fine too.
@@Mercellina-si3zp actually my girl struggles with English and SST. Yet she knows the things perfectly verbally. Misses words while writing/copying, confuses 9 and p, b and d...I used to be tough on her but when I realized the problem, I look at effort vs performance. Unfortunately, I am the only one who understands this thing. This condition really affects the self esteem of the child. Teachers make it worse with their comments
Beating should be a small reminder of the words shared and repeated before❤. I wasn't an obedient child but I still hear the words that changed me into my ears. Now am above 25yrs.
God knows am not obedient 🤦♀️, i even struggle in my marriage sometimes because sometimes you have to listen to what your man tells you, but the Vicky in me wants to do things my way, apparently even at work , i sometimes think things should me done on my own pace which is not right.. hmm now when it comes to my Firstborn he is just like me , tebamupapya .. I actually took him to boarding school because i felt i couldn’t tame him and he would get spoilt because he does things his way.. but at school at least they give kibooko so he can listen 😂.. but after this topic, now i know , i think i just have change the method, try to understand him and listen to him better… thank you bumploveug 🙏🙏🙏 you make my fridayz 💃💃💃💃💃
Me n sis, our duty was to do laundry. I wash with soap, she rinses. One day i was busy on tv, she went and rinsed them dirty cloths😂😂 and said, me I have done my part😂😂 my mum changed how she parented us😂😂 children are very different 🙌🏿
I have a three year old who doesn't obey that easily. She will do what she wants, and she will fight for it. But it has recently become tricky, she disturbs the girl who helps wanting to destroy everything and also touching very dangerous things like lighting a matchbox wanting to light the gas, plugging things chargers in electricity, this is a point where iam really spanking and very very hard, what puzzles me is that she knows exactly she is doing wrong things and apologises when you ignore her promises to not do it again but does again 😞. This show has been helpful, when I read the topic I was like aahaaa, work aside, let me listen. Thanks alot
Totally loved the show. I like that character has alot that it does on a child's way of obedience. Each child has a genre. Some children are managed and others are guided. Thanks ladies.
Hi Manuela for me growing up my brother was the most obedient later on I asked him why he’d do everything and he said he doesn’t want our mom to nag him. He said that he had chosen peace and didn’t want to hear her voice all the time and truly my mom never a word to him this was from like 7 years when he decided to choose peace😂 so even today he is 20 and still lives at home but he does his chores and keeps quiet like do not disturb him with your noise Maybe Blake has chosen peace and not necessarily that he is a pushover
Angie reminds of how my mum used to smack us then she gives you porridge to eat , while eating she will talk to you . Honestly those nurturing words ( always stayed with us , we knew our mistakes and we never repeated that mistake . Secondly ,yes words affect children especially when parents say so and so ‘s child is more disciplined gwe dnt you admire them .
I was that obedient and push over child. But I thank God that my child is the total opposite of me. Because I’m suffering in my adulthood and no body seems to listen to me. Everybody thinks I’m ok with everything yet I’m not. It’s too painful
Thanks bump love. Listening to children is good not losing the child as leave out the stick . We have to help them not be people pleasing they will regret it later
What my grandmother used to do was she would also explain why it's important to do something a certain way... For instance, why you need to wash the glasses and cups before the plates and why saucepans should come last, or why when mopping, you need to mop from corner to corner. For an adult, those things may sound obvious but to a child, they are not.
One thing we forget that we were in those stages so we pretend to be perfect now as we discipline our kids but remember they also have to go through what we used to do so it's a matter of understanding and asking God for Wisdom as we bring up our mini us
Hullo, Thank you for all your work, Now aim a mother of 1 daughter,7yrs and 6 month now and she is in primary two. Now my challenge with her is that, "She lacks concentration" both at home and at school, At school since primary one the teachers would tell me that if this girl of yours would concentrate she would be a very bright girl, though she performs but her poor concentration is making her not get the real marks that i expect and what the school expect from her she does not concentrate in whatever she is doing either home work, class work, she just i would say does things/tasks to finish so that she can go to the next task. so this is affecting me quietly because i have always prayed to God to give me intelligent child which i believe she is if only she could develop concentration in whatever she would be doing. so kindly guide me how i can handle this as a mother. Thank you.
There’s been research that has shown children/people have different learning styles whilst some kids are good at being still for long, others struggle in search environments. Most creatives for example can’t be still for long. Observe your children and look at what learning style would be best for her. Visual learning, Audio learning, kinaesthetic and logic. All the best.
This topic left me speechless because im struggling with my 3's in different ways but i have learnt not to raise my voice on them while talking especially when mad,they reply using the same tone thinking that its ok,but when i lower my tone look them into the eyes and talk they understand more and apologise we hug and everything ends their. I stop spanking at around 4years after that i believe they understand more than we think talking has helped but men the struggle is real i some times hate the fact that they are real mini me😂 they should do better though," in pumlas voice"
Great conversation ladies,thanks for sharing your experiences, my ka 6year old is obedient on his terms hehe when he was younger I really used to do physical alot till he asked me to stop it,and also stop shouting at him,it's been close to 3years now and our only mode is talk through so I have to always be conscious of my reactions towards his behavior so I keep the peace between us.
Parents need to remember that the frontal lobe responsible for helping us make decisions & regulating emotions as well as impulse control is not fully mature until 25. So be graceful & patient with your children. I also don't believe in spanking them to get your point across.
Can you believe in watching this show for tho second time and its as if I'm watching it for the first time.😂. I'm so glued to the screen of my phone like nothing else exists. Stop! Listen to your child think, am I right? Mmmm I'm learning. God abundantly bless you.
Wooooh this is exciting and mind blowing. I love love love this topic,mine is 8months but she can shoe me that she isn't okay with some characters 😂. God guide me as I raise your woman of God
Me and Rosette are in the same boat I have 5children under my care and each one of them have their own ways. I juggle between talking and kiboko😂 My niece is so problematic though it's really hard work
Hello bump love thanks for the show today I really appreciate but I would like us to touch more about people's personalities thus temperaments in detail, mob love bump love🙏
Micah reminiscing abt Tom and Jerry and bursting out laughing reminded me of oneday at campus year 2 when I was in class and all of a sudden I also remembered sth and laughed only to be singled out by the lecturer who told me she would throw me out of her class and never to return to it again.I was seriously shaken and since then I know wat this reminiscing thing can do to a person 😂😂
Growing up, my mum was a tough kinda mum, with both spanking and verbal punishment, i never liked it at all. So i have tried to be a different parent to my son. I pray that God helps me out with it. The spanking is there here and there but we talk and am proud to say that he does some things that a typical 3yr old can't do.
This has been so educative. i do not have a child of my own but i have raised my nephew from 3 years and he is making 8 in september but eeeehhhh Amani is a rollercoaster!!!!!! i love him but i spank him for bad behavior after several warnings. Boys are something else eeeeh
Ladies you all look beautiful, Bice outfits and nice topic .Obedience wasn't such an issue for me growing up but..yes I got some kiboko and ear pulling..
Amazing topic ladies, sometimes when I repeat my self several times it feels like am failing as a mum as in why can't they do wat I tell them? Thank you Rachel I will not tire from repeating bse man just when I thought Manuela was good she still has challenges despite her very organised life hweeee. BREATH
@@manuelap.mulondo am in that bracket too of 9,7,2 and a few months but ofcs now the one of two is doing copy and paste and some of them are not good habits we are pasting
My daughter is 8yrs old now still having a tongue thrust but me wanting her to stop it think have done everything and when itcomes to discipling her have done everything also,like talking sometimes endup using words that are not good and me myself get hurt after i don't know what to do cause the words might be staying in her brains please help me bumplovers
Obedience is a tricky topic in today's era. Whom, what, when, and how to obey. There is so much grey area that we have to be careful what we teach our children and whom they should obey. Like Manuela, I have previously encouraged my miss goody two shoes daughter to be defiant because I fear she may be taken for granted. The bottom line is, we need to pray and breathe like Angie😂.
Advice when the teachers tell you that your boy has bad manners but at home he's ook ,and when you ask him how is school...he tells you he's quiet the teachers just don't want him to talk
Teachers spend the longest time with our children, so many times they see and know much more than we do for our children. Listen and try to internalize teacher's feedback about your child, and act accordingly....
For me 😊life is spiritual to an extent. I sometimes use the spiritual aspect I learned in phaneroo service I think the topic was parenthood (I remember practocing it with my son as young as three days...and it would work)
For me what i know we parents wen we tok wz our children we hv to do it indirectly and not using parental/bossing tongue bt in a friendly way with respectful so the child can be obedient
Sometimes you run out of options 🤣🤣🤣🤣mine didn't do homework yesterday but I reminded her live six times 🤔 just in the morning i realized she didn't do her homework
I think raising pushovers should actually be thought about more. I work with a lady who said she never deviated from anything the mother said. I know that sounds like exaggeration but known her long enough to believe. Up to this day she just does everything she is told, to the dot. You can say it’s a character flaw but I believe parenting does shape parts of our character
Hii ladies i also fear people pleasing will be a challenge for my daughter who is so obidient and so nice but i've noticed that might turn out to be a problem for her
My boys ladies are a mixture but I always talk and I punish but all in they are a balance. Always get time and talk with your children and listen to them as well
Really enjoyed this one.. But I've been meaning to ask, what do you guys think about feminism and do you think it is relevant in this day and age, and something to teach children? Please do an episode on feminism.. Thank you 🎉🎉
