It’s not all about being POSITIVE | Anita Moorjani - Speaker & Best Selling Author 

I would like to add something about saying "no". As a recovering people-pleaser I must say, that most of the time, perhaps even all the time, I was not really aware of the fact that I even wanted to say "no". I was totally focused on what others wanted and expected of me and felt just the immediate wish to help them, and totally unaware of ME. I did not know what I did or did not want, because I was so disconnected from myself. So in the past, I would totally agree with you: I would say, of course you should say "no" if you do not want to do what someone asks of you! I believed that's what I did! I was sure I was acting only from my own choice etc. However, only now do I realize that I simply did not recognize my own wishes, I did not see "me", I did not feel "me". I believed then, that my "yes" came from my heart, when in actuality I was so disconnected that I did not even know that my heart wanted to say "no" but I did not hear it. I could only hear the other person's heart and what they wanted. Now I'm learning. Learning to ask inside me: is this what I want? Is this good for me? Does this benefit me? I am learning to understand what it means to take care of me, to ask myself, to check with my energy, time etc. before I do anything for another person. I hope the point I'm trying to make is clear...

I love the fact that you don't think about death as losing the battle. In our western society death is something that should be avoided at all costs. Healing is not always about staying here. Many times healing means crossing to the other side. Not many people talk about this, so thank you Anita.

I'm starting my life over right now focusing on three essential things -------love, laugh and being myself. So glad I found you before it's too late.

You're so right. The tyranny of positivity can be very damaging.

Ppl pleaser are ppl who grew at with no appreciation nor confirmation -validation whatsoever. At least to say. And worst, they grew up in abusive environments, around some narc personality ppl. This is a difficult karma to bear. And this video exactly for the ppl with this difficult destiny. Very helpful 👍

I love how you all get so crazy and funny and just have such a fun time! It’s so down to earth.

I have loved Anita’s beautiful demeanor since the first time I became aware of her. This video has special resonance as I have just received a diagnosis (early thank God) and I’m laughing along with the gang! Saying “no” authentically is a natural and beautiful thing! I have become much better at it and healthy non-doormats 🙃 accept your “no” at face value.

Thank you for these life supporting messages, Anita 💚🧸💫😍

I had to say a huge NO to someone I love very dearly. The thought of yes in this particular situation literally made me feel like I was being choked just thinking about it. I told her no, expecting backlash; but she was actually pretty gracious about it. Thank you thank you thank you 🙏 I’m learning to be Unafraid of who I am!

Thank you so much! I’ve just figured out in the last six months or so what a people pleaser I am and how that takes away from my authenticity and really I tell so many lies because I want to make people love me, so slowly but surely I’ve been turning it around and telling the truth, it is not easy, But it is worthwhile, because what I lack in popularity I gain and self respect

I love today's message. God loves us just as we are. Some people will like you and some people will not, but always be yourself.

And danni has such a smooth voice! I like all the shiny happy people at the end 😊

"You want their approval because you don't have your own approval. " that is profound!

Thank you so very much. I have been taken for granted. So much of this video I love. Divine timing

Thank you Anita, it’s so lovely to see you again. And a belated Happy Birthday to you!

So happy to see and hear you, Anita!

I love your wisdoms and your messages . You are a very beautiful human . I am trying to learn loving myself and accepting myself 🌹🙏 thank you

Omg this is sooo true! Thank you so much Anita for this wonderful talk! 💛

Thank you Anita for giving such practical advice concerning recharging those batteries, and stopping the people-pleasing tendencies (which I am also guilty of!). You're a great example for us to learn to love ourselves by living authentically. I so enjoy your videos!

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I love you, Anita.

Another huge thank you Anita for this reminder 💗 I absolutely love this video also for the opportunity to see all those beautiful people you're surrounded by. What a loving environment. Thank you all for your great work 🌺🙏

So glad you are back, I missed your weekly videos.

Hi Anitha, beautiful message.Glad to have you back. Your energy is inspiring. 💖. You look fully charged. Thanking Universe for sending you.

So glad you're back and thank you for this beautiful message! I really need to remind myself to follow my calling. Wish you a wonderful weekend. 🌺🦋💖

Thank you! Happy belated birthday 🎂

Thank you for the joy and laughter! 😍🎉🌈

Hi Anita, NDE’s are one of my favorite subjects - how exciting. Love you, and Danny’s a character!

Thank you Anita for introducing us to your amazing staff.. Great video!

I simply loved this show, it’s so natural and sweet. I have forwarded this show to my daughter who is going through a lot of disappointments due to her childhood and feels so depressed so frequently. I sincerely hope this helps her to change her life and feel happy inside out. Love you.

Dear Anita, thanks for your beautiful words, for the joy you are spreading to us! Thank you for encouragement to listen to the hogher self. Love!

I have enjoyed your books and videos. Thank you for that! I also wanted to let you know that not all people who don't love themselves take the "door mat" stance. Some of us figured out early on that there was no possibility of pleasing others so the only option seems to be the mode of "screw you, I don't need you anyway." It is a rebellious life and a very lonely life. It still results in a huge lack of self love (if no one else loves me, I must not be lovable). So even though us "lonely rebels" would not consider becoming a door mat, we still need to learn how to love ourselves. Anyway, thanks for all that you do and keep up the good work!

Anita, that is the first time in all my years of listening & reading on "Self-Love' / "People -Pleasers" of actually looking at the perspective from others possibly doing it to us /me. eg: self-deception / of others feelings, that of obligation. WOW. as a people pleaser we never want to obligate anyone. But I guess unawares, it does happen.

You are back ~!

Wow you look great. Whatever you did the last few weeks it clearly gave you a lot of positive energy. ❤

I realy love the laughter . Thank You so much. Lods off love to all off You 🙌🦋💜

Loved This Whole Thing! Thank You!

lovely to see you back!

Oh my!, I so needed this! Thank you so much!

What a fun and lovely group of people! ♥️ Good to have you back!

... I've discovered you two days ago and I'm so glad I did. Your messages are straight forward and simple in the very best way! I've listened to so many NDE's that my mind got very confused about who or what we are, what we're meant to be and supposed to do, what TIME(line) is etc that I again forgot about loving me and my life as it is in the here and now!

Thank you 🌼 Being positive feels like swimming against the current. If it doesn't feel right, doesn't feel true, then no amount of positivity will help. 🌺 You have to let it be, to go with the flow. Being kind to yourself, having compassion for yourself & others. Love yourself as you'd love others.

Wow Anita! Love from India!!! Aap kaise hain? Sometimes when I hear you talk, it feels like the messages are coming from my soul. Many of your messages are so right and undeniable that I'm astonished to the greatest extent. I've felt sad and negative many times in life. After the failure of a plastic surgery that we all expected would work, I decided to love myself no matter what! I used to feel slightly relaxed and calm, when I accept some negative emotions coming out of my life and welcome them. Although I had negative emotions, I could feel tranquility in me because I welcomed them. I've wondered how I could not be positive, but still be calm. Now after watching this video, this puzzle has been answered. I can totally relate to what you speak Anita! You're an angel!

I love listening to your excellent words and lovely voice. Here’s what I hear Anita: when people are asking, “why am I not healing when I’m being so positive”, what they really want to know is, how CAN I actually heal my body, as you did? Certainly loving yourself and accepting yourself does bring positivity, and feels wonderful, to yourself and to others. And we know that won’t always translate to a return to health. But, if I COULD heal the cancer in my body, what would I do? What did YOU do?

Thank you ever so much for your truly real topic and sharing all this story I admire you so much

Gracias Anita. Tu mensaje llega justo a tiempo. Yo también creía que el asunto es tener una actitud siempre positiva. Ahora trabajaré sobre ser yo mismo. Saludos desde Ecuador. un abrazo.

Another great message which warms my heart ❤️ and Danny has amazing voice!!!

Thank you so much for introducing your lovely team! I resonate with your view that death is not losing a battle. I feel sad when people say that a person lost the battle to whatever illness. Death is our victory over physical illness because our sprit is free fr the limitations of a physical body and will crossover to a spiritual realm. I went through a challenging surgery & having a perspective of following the light helped me go through it with love & acceptance. Again, thank you.

Hello Anita, it was so lovely to see you in Bristol and I loved having a hug and chat with Danny !

So clear about every subject.Thankyou very much.

Y love you!🙏😘

Stand guard at the gates of your mind. Positive thoughts towards yourself are so important. ‘I love myself’ ‘I am worthy’ ‘I am beautiful’. This is all self love. Dis-ease is due to misalignment of mind and body. Many people I know are ‘positive’ on the outside (the day and act positive) but you don’t know what’s happening inside their minds. The inner conversation as Neville Goddard talks about. Self love is the best to stay healthy. Love yourself. Eat well, drink lots of water (be grateful before drinking it) exercise, sleep well, focus on gratitude before bed. Stress and not forgiving and holding anger inside you is what causes a mis-alignment of energy in the body. Love is the highest vibration 🧡

True Dear. Its about Your heart and who you are that is very important.

You look amazing and well rested, it must have been a great trip!!

Very well explained! Great!

Sending lots of love to you and your whole family members 🙏

Hello Anita .... appreciate and love all your videos ... would you mind making a n in depth video on FEAR .... fear to be alone , fear of old age , fear of long term income and retirement, etc ...it would be amazing if you do ... Thank you

Happy belated birthday Anita! Thank you for posting this. I have recently been getting sick with all sorts of things from a cold to migraines to an infection and have been trying to be positive all the time to see if it would help me heal. Whilst it makes me feel better to think positively, and to be praying for everyone, I don't know if it helped with my sicknesses that much. So I was getting a bit annoyed and was asking the Universe why? Why me when I am so positive all the time? So I think you are right, I was probably trying to force myself to be positive all the time instead of allowing myself to be myself. Your guide to how to love oneself is very useful, I can try to do that and wish I get better. Sending you and your team lots of love all the way from New Zealand. :-)

Happy belated Birthday Day Anita!!!!!!!

Love seeing Danny

Lovely Team 💗 and helpfully speech thank you Anita 🥰

Hi Anitaaaa!!! Great team... and hello Danny!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣

Great team, big hug hear from Portugal ❤️

I like your new make up!!!!!💕🥰💄Looks beautiful!

Anita, allowing the negative is so important. It reminds me of Rumi's poem "The Guest House"

Hi Anita and Danny, I am Balinese (Indonesian) but staying in France. I always watch you posts in RU-vid, not facebook. Thank you for all that. I can't participate in facebook life events because of the working time that I have to respect with... Love & Joy ( I Dewa Made Sukabali )

Thank you ❤️

Happy Belated b-day, much LOve!!!

Hello Anita ❤ I follow your shares for a while and I love videos and the energy and advices you give. And you are prettier from video to video you shine 😃 ... one thing came to my mind while watching your last video, hope it will inspire you to answer. How can I seamlessly learn my child to be/stay 6 sensory being, since almost everyone in our environment is programming her the opposite? How to make her aware/learn some life important things now when it could be much easier adopted? I am healing from a medical condition and going through a transformation. And I would like her to grow with me from where she is now, and not to forget everything and have to remind and learn when she grows up.. Thanks, xx

😘😘😘 thank you

yes more of Dani

Hello!:))) ) ))) It's great to have You back after a long break, Mrs. Moorjani:))) )))) However, I have noticed one contadiction, if I may point this out, in the frames, of course, of my "friendly polemics" idea:))) ) ))) Well, when idea of "always being positive" is somewhat denied to some degree, and idea of "loving Yourself" is advertised instead, then it seems that "loving Yourself" is NOT positive... I wolud say, that "loving Yourself" actually IS THE MOST POSITIVE thing, that one can do for himself/herself:))) ) ))) Therefore, if this "self-love" is always a "right way", it menas that "being positive" is also always "the right way":))) ) ))) So, what really is the problem here?:) The problem is this: people do not distinguish between "Being Positive" and "Pretending To Be Positive":) That is the problem:) Typically, people try to use idea of "positiveness" to fight against something (illness for instance) or they want to "attract" something (health for example) from outside of them - and by doing so, they only prove, that their minds truly are clinging to the problem (illness), instead of the solution (health):) Suprficially, they are positive, but in actuality, they are not - they are conditional, fear-based, and they try to force positive effects, that they are deprived of:) Therefore, ABSENCE of positive outcome (health for example), IS really what they are producing:) "Being Positive" IS always the answer, but this powerful state of mind is not a weapon that is supposed to enforce outcomes, and it is also not a currency that is supposed to buy desired results; such a conditional, fearful utilisation of "positiveness" is in fact, act of advertising what is negative - it reveals, that such an individual is really focused on the problem:) And that is the problem with "being positive":) It is supposed to be unconditional state created just for it's own sake, and NOT in order to force the effects:))) ) ))) That is why people get well, when they receive a placbeo - their minds are truly accepting idea of healing:) But when people try to force the effect, they are dishonest - they merely pretend, that they are positive, whereas in fact, they are focusing more and more, on the problem:) Similar issue happens to people who are ill although they were "positive" - the fact, that someone appears to be positive, does not prove, that he/she really is, deep within:) Superficially happy person can carry tons of negative believes, and destructive definitions, that are very active:))) ) ))) Positive person, can also have many unhealthy habits, like bad nutrition, smoking, being susceptible to stress or anger or sense of guilt or lack of fulfillment or belief according to which "life is cruel and unfair" etc. :) Seemingly positive individual can drag around all kinds of negative attitudes, that may be buried deep in the mind, yet still are very active nonetheless:) It is not always that easy to determine, what is the truth about someone else's mind, or even OUR OWN... :) Besides, some people may be seemingly happy around others, but when they are alone, they may be dealing with all kind of negative representatives of destructive mind-set... Simple example - officially happy person, is actually tragically, patologiacally afraid of lack of money (lack of material safety in life), and here we have a source of a powerful stess, that is very conducive to sickness... Sometimes also, an illness can represent a challenge, that is desired by the "Soul", that wishes to use it in a constructive way: for example, someone, who went through a sickness, can later - exactly due to personal expierence - become a great healer for others, that is classical one) :))) ) ))) Being Positive can NEVER drain anyone, it is simply not possible - only PRETENDING positiveness, mimicing it, can really drain:)))) ) ))) Besides - let me go back, to the very beginning of this post - how one can love himself/herself without being positive?:))) ) ))) And how, true act of constructive self-acceptance can NOT be positive?:))) ) ))) REAL positiveness is ALWAYS "the answer", unlike "artificial positiveness", that is just hidden negativeness:))) ) ))) The other thing is, that "being positive" may take a form of being honest about something negative - but STILL it is - if executed properly - POSITIVE:)))) ) ))) A dose of unhappiness may be actually positive, providing that it advertises fertile, constructive self-recognition, combined with a constructive intent of constructive transformation:))) ) ))) Problem is this - people may assume, that "being positive" must be about not feeling bad, ever; however, sometimes, being positive may be as well, about accepting "negativeness" in order to honestly use it, as a friendly means that activates process of true, intentional transfromation:))) ) ))) In such a case, positiveness is NOT absent, at all - on the contrary, it is very present, even if some pain is involved:))) ) ))) Best Wishes and Namaste!:))) ) ))) AneLLetio:))) ) )))

Thank you

AAAAAANNNNNNIIIIIIIIIIIIITTTTTTTTTTAAAAAAAAAA hi !!! Hello,hello,hello welcome back :-)

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small but very beautiful team & you have the energy to tie them together .. you should make an informal organization of sorts (meaning lot of ppl of innocent/caring types) there are many such organizations.. but society needs as many rivers as possible to touch more & more people with joyful energy in some tiny ways maybe sometimes do large free gatherings in park:-) without any lecture, just to have so many compassionate beings at one place.. sharing smiles/love/discussions.. may be a huge potluck lunch in park:-).. self managed by small teams.. ahh.. idea may be absurd.. but who cares

So cutee that elephant...

2:00-4:19 3 things to be done for yourself 7:24-14:27 : Say no to things that are not you Learn to receive gifts And make time to do things that increase your life force energy like watching comic videos, meditation etc

Muppet show energy 💞😂👍👋 greetings from Croatia 💞

I'd like to hear your definition of positivity.

Nice Elephant!!!!

Hi Anita, I thought this was a very good topic. Thanks for all of your comments.

Hey thank you.. I will charge my battery..

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HI, DEAR ANITA, I HAVE A QUESTION FOR U FOR THESE TIMES WE ARE LIVING IN, MANY PEOPLE ARE SAYING WE NEED TO BE POSITIVE SO WE CAN GO TO 5D BECAUSE THE EARTH IS LEAVING 3D, I WOULD LOVE TO NOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS SUBJECT, ME PERSONALLY I FEEL THE EARTH IS CHANGING FOR SURE, BUT RESPECT U SO VERY MUCH AND WOULD LOVE TO HEAR YOUR IDEAS ABOUT THIS I DONT JUDGE ANYBODY, BECAUSE I BELIEVE WE ALL ARE GODS ON DIFFERENT JOURNEYS THANKS FOR YOUR REPLY AL THE BEST TO U DEAR ANITA BLESSINGS FAN DENNIS

Hi everyone...especially Danny's head!!

I love you guys. I mean this in the nicest possible way but there's a Sesame Street or Muppets vibe to this episode that is really making me laugh! It might be the Disappearing Danny... lol :-)

Anita. I'm very "Fond" of you. Now. Let me ask. If what you're saying is that I should love myself despite the fact that everyone else I see and know of is a jerk-off. Will this advice you're giving then suffice and help me to overcome all adversaries in my "Self- Love" campaign? Or, will it alter the outcome in some way? Please explain. -Bill "Toying With You" Howes.

Danny!

You are all so gorgeous and funny I wish i could hang out with you!

Isn’t it strange how people stop to charge their phones and put their phones first but don’t practise the same for their bodies 😐

«They are crawling like pets» jajajajajaja

1:06 2:30

Just an observation Danny did not want to be on camera so when you insist is that he does is that over riding his wishes?

it is strange, ........that you would talk about this now. (..........i still don't understand....)

It's funny how men are different than women. It's "Cute" when Anita shows that stuffed animal. If a man showed it you'd think, "What an asshole". This is one more "Case In Point" in how men differ from women. -Bill Howes.

Anita. If I gave you $100,000.00 would you be my friend? No. You're too "Good" to be bought. -Bill "$" Howes.